Lessons from the Anbiya #32

Mirza Yawar Baig


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The speakers discuss the importance of the "we" in Islam, with the "we" of the individual being the "we" of the individual, not the "we" of the group. They also touch on the use of sugar in actions and cultural differences between the ant and the Malika. The importance of forgiveness and learning from interactions is emphasized, along with advice on forgiveness and avoiding harms. They also mention the importance of verifying assumptions and documenting transactions to avoid mistakes and emotions.

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Allah Allah human hamdulillah Mino salatu salam O Allah, saline. Muhammad Rasul Allah is Allah Allah who it was seldom the Steven Syrah from Nevada my divas and sisters, we are on the lessons from the MBR the class on the lesson from the MBA and we are on the life of so they finally he said, may Allah

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guide us and enable us to do that which is pleasing to Him and help us to learn

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from the beautiful stories.

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Help them on an we I remind myself, I knew that these stories are not allegorical stories. This is not my theology. This is actual historical fact recorded by the one who could not possibly be mistaken, in what he recorded, because he's the cause of it is the witness of it when it happened, and he is the best narrator of that story. I remind myself and you also that the purpose of the stories of the Qur'an is not entertainment, it is not even history. It is for us to take lessons from it for a birth, for us to understand and then to interpret those stories in the context of our lives today. Now, that is the the the whole

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purpose of the stories of the four hour and that is the reason why we are looking at the stories of the invaluable Sarah, we have been doing the story of Salima alayhis salam, as I mentioned to you, one of the two prophets of Allah subhanho wa Taala, one of the two and we have less of us, Panthera who were also kings. Similarly Salaam and his father doubt that he said it would be great kings, and they were the the two people who brought the bunnies right into their golden age into the golden period of the history. And they were at the same time the MBR of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And they were also they were also prophets. And as a consequence of that are hungry. We have a beautiful

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For anyone who is in any position of authority, as I mentioned to you the issue is not of

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of saying that, well, you know, I'm not a king. So how does it How does this benefit me? It's not King being a king or having a kingdom, but having the essence of so called kingship, which is the exercise of authority over those who have been placed in your command under your command or will be placed in your care.

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That is the absolute essence of this that is the meaning and value of these stories. Now we mentioned the father of savonnerie cillum all the

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great benefits that Allah subhanaw taala granted him and Allah subhanaw taala said that they were people of sugar and Allah mentioned and said, Yeah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Shakira, Emmylou, other Allah Tao, the chakra, Allah said that behave with sugar have

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not just say

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that you are grateful, but also behave in a way where this gratitude to Allah subhanho wa Taala is expressed in our actions. As I mentioned to you before, the way of expressing gratitude by action is to ensure that that action is always always always in keeping with the glory and majesty and orders of Allah subhanho data and in keeping with the blessed Suna of Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So this is the

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the meaning of acting with sugar.

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Not just talking sugar, but acting wishes are this is the meaning of that. Now in the case of

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in the case of silvani salaam, we also I think I if I'm not mistaken, I mentioned that sort of Isilon rebuilt and extended almost Alexa, Yahoo belly Sam built must be the AXA. And so finally Sarah

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extended it and he

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and he rebuilt it because it had been

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terribly dilapidated, it was in a dilapidated condition.

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And as soon as I said him, said that Sullivan, then asked Allah subhanaw taala for three things, unless rantala granted him to and we hope he will give him the third. Now the first thing was that

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he said, Allah make me give a judgment, which is the same as your judgment, meaning that when I'm judging a case, please decree and ensure that whatever judgment

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I give is pleasing to you Jelena. It's a very beautiful drive which we can ask a lot of pantalla for ourselves also, that every action of mine, all our decree that it is always in pleasing, it is always pleasing to you that every judgment of mine every word of mine, we can extend this and say everything I do all that please ensure that it is in keeping with your pleasure with what you like to have. And that is why we've chosen a mate is de la Mata mata gardo ferrata, Killa Ella and Posada di,

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he said Ola

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include me and include us and and cheered us in your Rama in your, in your, in your, in your mercy and Taurus in your mercy, and do not leave us to

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our will, to our heart to our desires, even for the period of the blinking of an eye, third eye, including, even if the you know the time that takes to blink, which is which is a fraction of a second even for that fraction of a second, do not leave me and do not leave us to the mercies of our own desires. So meaning that everything we do, must be in keeping with and we ask Allah subhanaw taala to give it to grant that we never do anything which is displeasing to him.

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So, he said judgment that is the same as your judgment Second thing, a kingdom that nobody ever had. And this is a door which is specific to cinema and the Salah

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is a beautiful story in the head, these verses are seldom shatta and tried to distract him in salah and levetiracetam captured him. But he released him and he said I do not want to take what Allah has given only to sort of an elite set up so 100 plus branta given the visa sell him anything he wished, but this was from the

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from the

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US laugh of the Nabi sallallahu Sallam it was from his kurama it was from his, his own generosity, that he said, I will not take what Allah has given to my brother sort of analisa lab which is control over the gene meaning he do not capture them and whatever whatever to force them to do whatever he want. He said I will not do that I will not take part and we shall listen we used to speak to them used to give the he gave out to the jet and so on and we have the car in sort of the jinn and others other places. Allah has mentioned those incidents. So we're not talking about there we're talking about the subtle on them, of making them do things even if it is unwillingly even

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though they're not willing to do that.

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So kingdom that nobody ever had. Third thing that somebody said I may die is that if a man leaves or Alexa with no intention other than to pray there, then make him free from all sin. When he has prayed there as he's free from sin the day he was born. And we sort of said we hope Allah will give grants or divine service inshallah. So anybody who goes to my alma says Alexa with the intention of praying there and he prays to recap of Salah insha Allah We ask Allah subhanaw taala what is the opposite of it, Sarah, this person is free from sin as he was on the day that he was born in China.

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That is a root of the ruling about the Salah in much of the Luxor that to record frees you from all sin as if you had been born on that day itself.

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Then we come to the very famous story of sorority salon there are two major famous stories of my salon one is with regard to the ant and the other one is is with regard to the Malika saga.

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inshallah we'll come to the second story after this one.

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About the story about with regard to the ant after with the surah itself is names who have never

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run out we live in a shaitana regime, but who surely surely manage you know the Oh Mina Geneva lincy what ad for home use our own Hata Otto Allah wa dinapoli car Carla number two iya you and number two follow Masak Unicom Leia demon coombsville, a man who would you know do who are homeless rule for double sobre la hichem melancholia bacala Robbie o z Ashkelon. yamantaka Leterrier Antalya, Walla Walla de, what an armada saw Li Han tava who were at the field Navy Rama Tikka Mini, I bet because on the head, it is very beautiful to

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in both these cases is the story of Malika Saba as well as the story of the end. What is very beautiful also is to see not just the story, but

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Also subliminally salams response or reaction to what he is experiencing in life. So rather than I said, and there were gathered before so a man his hosts his armies of jinn and men and birds, and they all were set in battle order, Hoshi a lot harsher, which is gathering and then so honestly I was taking them on a march It was not going to war or anything, this was probably some like we have military exercises or something

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like we have training drills, so it was something like this till when they came to the value of the ads. Now the issue here of translations

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in the English translation, translation, it says one of the ads now this is wrong translation because also it it

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takes away the the miracle of the Quran which is mentioned in the grammar of the Quran.

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Because here allows rather a zip car luck num Latin pilot is female and right and whatnot Allah doesn't have to mention specifically if Allah would have said one of the ads Allah did not say one of the acts right?

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Allah said that either a doe Allah wa did namely that

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the female and said Carla number two yeah even number Lu Masako, they had de mundo como la mano, but you know the who were homeless role.

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So I want to draw your attention to this. So when you read this, don't read it. The English translation I don't know if the translation has this specific differentiation of the gender of the ant and I'll tell you in a minute I'm sure all of you know why I'm saying that but it's a very important

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point of this ayah in the game to the value and and here it says one of the ends and that is the wrong translation. You should have said the female and the female and now what did the answer is Oh, and enter your dwellings less when a man and his hosts crush you while they perceive not. Now the answer is not saying here is you are these people they are bad people they will kill you the interview No, is saying that you are small, they don't see you. And it's very likely that you are just going to get crushed while they march. So get back into your into the anthill get back into your into your homes. Now, why is this female gender important? I'm sure all of you know this

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already. But for those who don't know, the only and in an ant colony, which can give instructions is the queen ant. And that is a female,

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right? No other and gives instructions, they all

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are the only one that gives instruction is the queen and so it is very important. This is part of the one of the miracles of the Quran, because at the time of the revelation of the Quran, it is not we don't know this, but most likely the Sahaba and the people the Arabs and so on, they did not know this differentiation between the female and the male and so on and so forth. And definitely they didn't know that the queen and is the only one who gives instructions. And so like robots, I mean, they they they just do what they have been instructed to do, though, for example, the worker and the only work they don't do anything else, the others, the soldier and the only fight they don't do,

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they don't do work, for example, they don't go and get food and so on and so forth. So and our it's a many times we talk about, you know, the how beautiful the ant colony is, it's actually not it's a it's a totalitarian, totalitarian state with a female dictator i mean it's it's a it's quite literally like that. It's a it's a very frightening example of how a community is run.

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This is I'm talking you know, now I'm not talking the translation of the Quran, I'm talking about ants if you think about ants and so on so bees for example, they are usually efficient because the individual has no has no identity that that the individual can come and go has no identity there is zero freedom absolutely zero freedom. You can only amin if you are an adult, you can only do that which you have been commanded you can only do that which you have been created for nothing else is no ad which can opt to say, well today I'm on holiday, no way, no way you'll be dead, they'll kill you. The the soldier ads will actually destroy that particular ad which stands out and wants to do

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something else. It's very totalitarian. It's a it's the epidemic of the of the hugely efficient, but completely totalitarian state. In both cases, the dictator is a female. So it's the queen bee and the Queen and these are the the the dictators for want of a better word, who run the colony, but in this

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particular case here I lost rattle I mentioned this and in the way where the female and and therefore as I said this is a miracle of the Quran we must understand that 1400 years ago, the Quran is talking about something which people discovered only centuries later about the difference in the gender of the ants and what the ads do and so on so forth. So here is the V mayor and instructing the colony get back into your holes to save yourself. Now a couple of lessons one of school lesson also is that Allah subhanaw taala like this action of an individual, in this case, the female the queen, and but whoever it was, an individual being concerned for the safety of others. So, Allah

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subhanaw taala mentioned in the Quran is a sort of reminder that our beloved taqwa well at least you are what Allah said help each other in good things, in Albion in impiety, in taqwa in being concerned about the pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala and do not help one another.

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Because may is malvar, in sin and in anything rebellious to Allah subhanaw taala mentioned is very clearly and said, Do do good and help each other in good but do not help each other. If you are if somebody is trying to do something evil, do not support them do not help each other. So in this particular case, allies also may Allah mentioned that even with an insect, when that insect is acting with a sense of responsibility of being concerned about it's about its its companions, then Allah subhanaw taala has appreciated that and mentioned that. And then so Mr. Ali Salaam, and this is the thing which I said that this is the beauty of the buyer of the Quran, where Allah vantara

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mentions things which are so important for us to learn lessons from. So what is whatever is Sam's response to that so he is when a man smiled, amused at her speech and said, My rub, inspire and bestow upon me the power and ability that I may be grateful for your favors, which you have bestowed on me, and on my parents, that I may do righteous deeds that will please you and admit me by your mercy among your righteous slaves. Now imagine here is this person. So Mrs. Sarah, the most powerful, the wealthiest king who existed on the face of the planet at that time and of course, Allah Allah for all time, because I don't see that there's God the key word, the kind of resources

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he had the kind of wealth he had the kind of powers that he had. So the the biggest the most powerful ruler that ever existed, or can exist on the planet was so liberally salami Charla, what is his dhwani when he hears First of all, he years this the speech of the end, so another Mandela caused him to hear the the speech of the insect, and Allah subhanaw taala caused him to understand that. So his reaction is not the action of radicals is Oh, wow, fantastic. Look at my powers. No, his reaction is Allah. two very important things. First of all, he

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made his da, and he said, Oh, Allah, inspire in me the ability to thank you, I see this beauty of the DA, he is not is not simply saying Alhamdulillah is saying that, but he's saying that all I even to thank you, I am dependent on Mataji and I, I'm in need of your topic. I'm in need of your,

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of guidance from you. I'm in need of you, to guide me to be thankful I think about this, that harmony things that Allah subhanaw taala bestow upon us and how many things we really want to be thankful for. But if I asked myself this question and say, did I fall in Zulu, asking a thanking Allah subhanaw taala for the fact that I am able to see clearly my eyesight? Did I do that it is I am not saying everyday, you must do it. If you do it hamdulillah Good for you.

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And we should do it depends on how valuable we think eyesight is. There are someone who loses it. A friend of mine just lost it. He just he woke up one morning and he couldn't see that he just couldn't see. And they now they're trying to treat him and so on and so forth. And the doctors are saying that you know is recognized, is damaged and you know, it's very unlikely that he will be able to see please make dua for shalom Allah grant him his his site and give him perfect sight and cure because the cures are all in the hands of Allah smarter but I'm just saying that this can happen anybody you know, one day you wake up in the morning, you open your eyes and you find everything

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that is nothing to the switch and the light is because you can't see anymore. Now that is something which is so so drastic, and so graphic

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So do we think Allah subhanaw taala hamdulillah I woke up I byes and I can see,

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we don't because we take it for granted. This is human nature, that anything that is good. We take for granted as if you know, this is my birthright. I mean, I, I was born like this, I should all learn all the good that's coming to me. That's how to be and this is how things should be the hava hotel Hello, my brother sister that does not play games. There is nothing that should be everything that we have, is because Allah subhanho wa Taala decided to do good for us.

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librettists tested us, right, I love you, Allah does not do anything bad to anybody, but Allah could have tested us, Allah subhanaw taala could have given us and so Allah when I, when I listen to people, when I look at what's happening in other people's lives, when I, when I, you know, read

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about what's going on in the world, God, they the kinds of tests, the kinds of difficulties, the kind of tragedies, the kinds of calamities, the kind of disasters that people have to deal with. So not just reading about that is enough to send you off into a spin of depression. If you if you allow that to happen. It definitely drags your heart down. And Alhamdulillah Allah subhanaw taala did not allow any of that to happen was that should we not be thankful?

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Should we not be thankful?

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Right, there are people, it's not just a matter of dying, you know, death is inevitable, it has to come to everybody. But point is, the difficulty is while we are alive, the kinds of pain and suffering and tragedy and and enjoy that and bereavement and so on.

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At hamdulillah did not give it to me, Allah did not give it to you.

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And those who are, who have some just in your lives, I make dua that Allah subhanaw taala give you ease. May Allah subhanaw taala protect you may Allah subhanaw taala help you make those mantella cause that particular test to be to be removed from your life. And may Allah subhanaw taala as a consequence of that test, malice, wrath, Allah forgive all your sins,

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and Melis rantala be pleased with you.

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So here we are saying that seven Islam and making the DA and he's saying Allah give me the trophy, to be grateful for all that you have given you have bestowed so many favors on me and your best not favors, favors of my parents, enable me to thank you and to continue to be thankful and to enable me to do righteous deeds, that will please which is the physical expression of thankfulness. One is to thank Allah subhanaw taala Another one is to thank Allah subhanaw taala by doing the right things, I thank Allah because of the

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because of what he gave me, and I use what he gave me in pursuits which result in his pleasure in his being pleased with me. So, that is my way of expressing my thankfulness to our last panel. And then he said and admit me by your mercy among your righteous slaves, and hit me with Sally lamotta often are Muslim and while you may be Sol hit Allah and decree and grant that we die as Muslims and we are resurrected with the people who are Sally hold, who are people who are less pleased with who are the righteous people, my brothers and sisters,

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this is the

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very very important

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as I mentioned in this whole story, there is the question of

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one is concerned for each other. And I remember and remind myself and you about, there is always a seller who said that the

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the individual is responsible for the whole oma and the whole oma is responsible for the individual. And you can see this from the story of the of the and that the Queen hand is gives all the orders and instructions to the whole colony, but the reality is that is a colony dies the queen and also dies with and cannot survive without the colony and vice versa the queen and dies the colony is headless. So it is this also shows us the mutual dependence that we have on each other as Muslim brothers and sisters on each other as the citizens of the world whether we are Muslim or not on the world itself, our dependence on the earth our dependence on on whatever the earth contains, which is

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water and air and so on, so forth. So

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Therefore the importance that we pay attention to all that and that we only do things which are beneficial,

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that we do not do anything which is harmful to anybody. This is the definition of a Muslim Muslim is somebody from whom only goodness flows out from whom a man or woman who's a Muslim is, is one who is only beneficial to anyone and anything that they come into contact with, whether that is animate, whether that is inanimate, whether that is human, whether that is other than human, whether it's an animal or a plan, whether it's water or air, whatever, only goodness must come out of that. And this is a

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beautiful story, which also

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talks about. The second thing also in this, which I mentioned is, if you look at the ad, the ad is not blaming sort of an additional as a matter of fact, the act is finding an excuse for service.

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For a major matter like life and death for the amps, it's a matter of life and death. If they are trampled by the army of survivors, they will all die. But the act is not saying here is a bunch of people who are harmful and they are coming and they will kill you know, the Andy saying Go back, go into your holes, dive into your holes, dive into the into the anthill and protect yourself, because otherwise, they are unknowingly they might be they might be harmful to unknowingly they might damage you, at the end is not blaming Solomon, Alicia, or the army of cinema in Islam. You say even if the damage happens is not that deliberately they wanted to do that, it's unknowingly they might do that.

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But of course, we will be affected adversely. So dive into holes. Now think about this and say what it was also silom say, there is a resident told us about how to give 70 excuses for our brothers and sisters 70 excuses. And this is based on the headings where a man came to Jerusalem, this man had a had a servant or slave or whatever it was, was, you know, probably made a lot of mistakes and so on. So this man gave us a jasola How many times must I forgive this person? How many times must I make excuses for this person must have forgive this person. Now, these are observed seven tee times, every day.

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70 times every day? I think about that, you know, 70 times everyday, for somebody who's employed by you. What would you say for somebody who's your brother and sister? What do you say somebody who's your spouse, your children, your parents? I mean, imagine that even keep it to 70? I'm not saying you should increase it, but doesn't matter kibitzer. But even if you keep it to 7070 times every day.

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I tell me, how is it anybody who's got who somebody who's dealing with someone who offends them, or hurt them or whatever, more than 70 times every single day? I mean, I don't think that this kind of advisor versus alum completely wipes out any garage that we might bear against anybody else. Totally, there is no way you and I can bear a grudge against somebody, if we are forgiving them 70 times everyday. That is not going to happen. We will forgive them. And that's it. And that's the story. That's the story we would not have had we would not be able to bear a grudge against anyone at all. If we became so forgiving. Now, you might say

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I not fully myself. I mean, here is a person who's doing something which is harmful. And we are saying you should not bear a grudge against that person. Why not?

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Right? Why not get back at them? Why not? Take revenge? You know, get even all of that. Why? The point is that

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bearing grudges is like holding a live call. It's like holding a burning piece of charcoal in your hand. It's the who is the first one who is hurt by that. If I pick up a burning piece of coal from the fire, who does that damage for me? Right? it'll burn all by hand.

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It doesn't mean anything to the fire. So when I am feeling a grudge against somebody I don't want to forgive. Remember,

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I'm not asking you to forget the lesson. This is a thing which a lot of people talk about and say forgive and forget. Right? No, I say forgive, but do not forget. And I'm not saying Do not forget as in you know better graduate jobs. No. I'm saying Do not forget as it Do not forget the lesson. Because if you forget the lesson, then you will harm yourself because it means that you you learn nothing. And if you learn nothing, then you are going to suffer the same thing. Again and again. We need to learn so

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Therefore, if somebody does anything

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harmful to you, then what must you do? Number one is forgive the person

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in your heart and make dua ALLAH forgive this person for what they have done in your heart forgive the person. Second thing is, learn the lesson from that, why did this thing happened to me?

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Don't forget that if you forget the lesson, then you are harming yourself. So now forgive and forget, forgive, but learn the lesson. Now, sometimes we get confused. We say, Oh, I don't forgive, I don't forget meaning I carry a grudge. No, I'm not talking about carry grudges. I'm talking about learning the lesson from the interaction.

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Whatever the interaction was, Why did it end? with me being hurt?

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What is it that I did? Or what is it that I omitted? What is it I should have done? But I did not do? You will sit and analyze. So how to do the

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first one is, recall the experience. I'm not saying sit on Breuer on it. I'm not saying get depressed about it. I'm saying keep emotion out of it. Just work with the data and try to be as objective as possible. Otherwise, the ego principle garbage in garbage out.

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We are not at this stage of analyzing data. We are not evaluating the data, there is no emotion involved. There should not be any emotional void. I know it's difficult, but that's the that's the nature of the thing. You have to do that. So consciously look at the data. Why did this happen?

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Why did I get fooled? I got fooled, because I made a lot of assumptions about the other person I met, I thought to myself, Oh, this person looks so pious, got a big beard, the word, a big tuber on the head, and so on and so forth. So obviously, this person must be truthful, this person must be pious, and so on and so forth. I'm not saying suspect everyone with a beard and turban? No, I'm saying that if you are going to enter into a transaction with somebody then follow what Allah subhanaw taala told you in the forum last month, or is it document it?

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Right document. So did I document I didn't talk about why because I made all these items, or maybe the assumptions were not based on beards or double the assumptions are based on relationships or, but this is my cousin, this is by so and so this is the person from my city, this is a person from my community, this is a person dropped by from my nationality, whatever be the reason, I made a lot of assumptions about that individual. And so I trusted that individual, number one, number two, second mistake, which is that because I made those assumptions, and I trusted the individual, I did not document that transaction. So I assumed that in this transaction, this is what will happen that

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I have lent the person money. I did not I didn't document that there is no evidence that I lent the money I did whatever I did, there was there was an expectation in my heart to say that this person would return the favor, but there was no document about that. So now what happened now, what happened is that the favor was not returned, that person acts as if nothing happened, that person acts as if you never saw me in my life, whatever the case might be. So now I feel I feel very hurt. And I feel very upset that I did good for this person and this person, hurt me this person,

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you know, deceived me and so on. So what is the lesson we learn from this? What are we say we think first forgive the person. Because if your heart is full of this stuff, you are not going to be able to be objective about the incident itself. Then what you do

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look at the data, here is the data now to three, then you what you do is you say well, what is the lesson that I learned from this data?

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What is the lesson that I learned from this data? Number one lesson is, from now onwards, any transaction, I'm going to first and foremost verify whatever assumption that I make in that transaction. Whatever we the assumption, I'm going to verify that I am going to ensure that I have that data to prove that my assumption is correct.

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And if I cannot get the data, I will not get into that transaction number one. Number two is I am going to document that transaction. I don't care who it is. I do not care who it is can be my father can be my mother can be anybody. If it's a transaction, I am going to write it down with ultramarathoner said like, Allah did not say I did not accept in the case of so and so Allah didn't say that. So let me make sure that I document that transaction. If somebody else's life

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You do get offended by the documentation, when that's itself a warning sign to say this is not a person I want to have a transaction with you explain to that person as they're doing this because this is what is what is

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mandated in the Koran and Alhamdulillah there is clarity in that ambit document that transaction. Right. So two big lessons we learned from this, which inshallah will ensure that we don't get into a problem or the same kind of problem a second time as they say, a mistake is when it happens once if it happens twice. If it happens a second time, it is a decision, it is not a mistake.

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It is a decision, it is not a mistake. Because if you are doing the same dumb thing twice. What does it mean? It means one or two things. One, you are dumb. Number two, the evil.

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You deliberately do something wrong. That's a crime. To do something wrong accidentally, unknowingly is a mistake. But to do that thing knowingly is a crime. A crime is punishable.

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So we don't want to get into that situation. So what do we do? In this case, we say I am going to learn from the experience, but in that process, the person who whoever it was who deceived me or who hurt me, am I going to bear a grudge against that person? No.

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I have forgiven that I have forgiven that person, doesn't mean I will get into another transaction with a person no sorry. That would be very stupid. Now, if I did not do that, if I forgave and forgot, then it is very likely that the same person will be able to con me a second and the third or fourth time, and I would be a very big fool to be conned more than once. Once is excusable. Second time is a crime is punishable. So learn the lesson. But do not carry a grudge.

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Don't carry a grudge. Right? This is the lesson that we are learning from someone rissalah the story of the ad. So be concerned for others and more.

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Show that concern for other people. Number two is be thankful to Allah subhanho wa Taala and ask Allah subhana wa tada to give you and me the trophy to be thankful. So I'm thanking Allah, and I'm thanking Allah for allowing me to be thankful. And the third one is, make excuses for others. Give them forgive them. And the reason I do that 70 times every single day.

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So when you sleep, there's other good ones. There isn't as an incentive, you can sleep without having a garage and you argue that that is the best thing that can happen for you. And he made the offer. And he may and he gives advice to another magical villain who narrated it. Right. The famous story which again other had is beautiful. The Syrah is full of this. That's why I keep on saying all that stuff. He says a study Syrah study Sierra, because there's nothing that is better than studying that the zero.

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And the beautiful story is that a man came into the masjid. And as this man before he came over, I was sitting in the mudgeeraba sheriff, and he said a man is going to enter you're just now and he's from the people of Jenna and sad because of the law. He entered. The second day The same thing happened third day, the same thing happened. Abdullah Omar Alon Omar was in this majlis he decided that he would like to go and see the life observe the life of sat in Casa de lado up close to see what is it that he is doing, which got him this draw of sources, you know it, it shows us also how the Sahaba were so concerned, and so interested in learning something good from anybody. So he went

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to him and he said, I want to come and be your guest is most welcome. He came, he went to his house, he stayed there for three days. And the end of three days he mentioned to me because of this incident, he said, This is what I sort of said about you, but I observed you for three days. There's nothing. I didn't see anything exceptional. You know, I mean to handle. Your life is beautiful, but you do what all of us do, in terms of your prayer is that whatever I could observe Abdullah, everything was beautiful. Everything was good. But I didn't say anything special. I didn't do anything exceptional, for which this Bashara of genda may have come your way. Sadly, because what

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Delano said there's one thing I do which which you would not have been able to see.

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And that is that every night before I go to bed, I forgive everyone for anything that they may have done to me that every night he said I don't go to bed with grudges. I forgive everybody who has done anything or may have done anything to me that day. I'm saying may have done very clearly because may it as we imagine things right? We imagined you there's no evidence to show that somebody actually harmed yourself.

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You assume because of whatever your interaction, facial expression, some word which we, which we misunderstand and what not, we assume suddenly that something bad happened but that's something nothing bad may have happened. I think Batman or other person probably wasn't even aware that this that they have harmed you or they're you know not harmed by as in physical harm I'm saying that they that they offended you they might they might not even be aware

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you don't even go and check with them we use assume about oh this person like this, oh he's so arrogant. What did you do which which you interpreted as arrogant,

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so sad when America says, I go to bed I ensure that I forgive everybody. I don't carry any grudges in my heart.

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And as a result of that, which gave him this Bashara object,

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ask Allah Subhana danijela delanco to ensure and enable us to do that which is pleasing to Him and to save us from that he does not please him ask Allah Subhana Allah to help us to understand and to learn from the beautiful stories and bits and pieces of history that was granted I mentioned for us in the Koran, and to learn from the Syrah of Sosa salat, wa salam ala alihi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi

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me 100 alameen wa salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.