Mirza Yawar Baig – Lessons for life #04 Thank people

Mirza Yawar Baig
AI: Summary © The importance of gratitude is discussed, with speakers emphasizing the need for a new person to live in and the importance of expressing gratitude. A culture where men and women spend a lot of time together is discussed, and the speakers remind people to never repay bills and use their time for small things. The speakers also mention a culture where gratitude is not just for their own actions, but also for small acts.
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Villa Romana Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen

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wa salatu salam ala Shara Villa me when will Celie Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa Odie He will save you send them to Steven cathedral Casita, Juan Pablo,

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my brothers and sisters

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point number 4/4 principle of success for leadership lessons

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to express gratitude.

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express gratitude.

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and nobody in the world.

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And this is, without exception, nobody in the world can succeed alone.

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Everyone needs the help of somebody else to succeed.

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And this is, biologically it's from birth.

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There's nothing more helpless than a newborn human baby.

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A new one will be released within minutes, can run at the speed of its mother

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and keeps up with the speed of the migrating herd.

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Because if it falls back,

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it becomes food for the leopards and lions and Jack hauls and everything else that follows the migrating herd.

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But a new one human being, cannot even walk

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until it is at least one year old. And for most people more than that.

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So if it wasn't for the constant attention, constant and my constant, I truly mean constant. If it wasn't for the constant attention of the mother and the father,

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no new one human child would survive none at all.

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Every single one of them will be dead.

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If the mothers and the verdicts and the fathers, but of course the mothers primarily, they were not with those children concerned about those children.

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There, therefore the children are doing everything in their power to make sure that those children

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stay alive, that they are fed in time that they're clean, and they're kept comfortable and warm and

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so on. Every child will be dead.

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That's where it starts from our birth.

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And then we all our growth and our development

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to our relatives, to our friends, to the people who work in our homes, to the community, to the schools to the teachers

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to all those formal and informal.

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Who are there with us who are there for us. We owe all of them a debt of gratitude.

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That is why it was awesome said Mel them yes good in us. Lamb Yes Good. Illa

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Mala Mia scaliness la mia escuela

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the person who did not

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make sugar of the people has not made sugar to Allah, the person was not thanked the people has not thanked Allah.

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Now, many times people say when I I usually say this in, in many places, I mentioned this importance of being grateful in all kinds of situations.

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when I say that,

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sometimes he will say

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Yeah, but you know, I mean, don't they know why must I keep saying thank you?

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People know, my, my children, my

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my workers, my servants, my

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friends or whoever? They know I'm, I'm grateful to them.

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My answer is very simple. My answer is a lot smarter doesn't lie in Chicago last year,

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while in kufr tominaga Villa Sha.

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Allah says, The one who was grateful to Me, who expresses his gratitude in Chicago.

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Show Chaka Chaka is a verb. It is

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it's not sufficient simply to

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feel thankful

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You have to say you have to express. Now if you are expressing thankfulness and Allah is saying, If you do not express thankfully Allah say if you express thankfulness, then I will increase my blessing. And if you do not express thank thankfulness and beware of my anger, and my displeasure now and my punishment of IB law says, My punishment of severe

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so for to those who say, but why do I need to say it?

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Don't they know it? Or they know it, people know it. My question is, doesn't

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like, who is there that knows better than Allah? Whether you are thankful or not simple. Yet, Allah is saying, show that thanks, express that thanks to me, even though I know because expression of thanks is not about you.

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I mean, it's not about them.

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It's about you. It's about an attitude of gratitude,

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an attitude of gratitude.

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The one who has an attitude of gratitude is blessed.

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And that person will remain bless that person will feel the

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value and virtue of that blessing.

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And vice versa. The one who does not express gratitude, will see the

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evil of not expressing gratitude.

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I remember once

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I was teaching a course, I've said this story many times and

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many of you probably have heard it. The key is not what you know, the key is what you do with what you know.

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So if you heard the story, ask yourself, I may have heard the story 10 times, but am I doing what I'm supposed to be doing? So I was teaching a course a leadership course for GE in Chennai

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to a group of

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engineers and

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sales people from GE medical systems.

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So towards the end of the day, to the two day course. So, towards the end of the first day, I asked them, these are all

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dem grams, W and brabbins.

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And I'm seeing that too.

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So that you can identify what what I'm saying when to say now, which is that you know the Tamil Tamil people, Brahmins, especially the Madras people judge any of you, they have a particular lifestyle.

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And that begins with

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a cup of freshly made freshly brewed

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coffee, ground coffee filter coffee, first thing in the morning. So almost invariably in every Tamil Brahmin home, the routine is that the lady of the house might be the mother might be the wife might be a daughter.

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She wakes up before the men wake up.

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she has a bath. And she goes into the kitchen. She does her puja, she goes into the kitchen. And then she makes this coffee by then the men wake up. And they sit with this cup of coffee on the veranda or in the house and read the Hindu newspaper. There's a English newspaper in

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India called the Hindu which is I think, at least from the South Indian perspective, the best newspaper there is for once they speak the truth and like others.

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So then they read the Hindu newspaper, so they drink this filter coffee, and they read in the newspaper.

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So I had this whole audience of these

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Tambora men.

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So I said to them, what 25 of them. So I said to the I described the scene I said, Does this happen in your house? Of course. So I said to them, What if one day, one day

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this lady who makes this coffee for you, your wife, or your mother or your sister or whatever, and it's always a woman, it's never a man.

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So as if that lady does not make

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that coffee one day and you do not get their coffee, what will happen? Is a whole

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meaning or what a terrible tragedy, you know, how can that happen?

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So I said fantastic. So we are on the same plane, we are on the same page.

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There's this fantastic

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ritual that you have. I like to call it ritual with us what it is, and one day if it is not there, you

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who are saying that you will definitely feel the pain of that? They said, Of course, I said, excellent. So tell me,

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which of you thanked that lady, for giving you that coffee? Every single day. Without fail?

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there was dead silence.

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So I said, Good, I'm happy that you're honest people, you're not really nice, because I know you don't do it. I mean, you know, we know the culture, but enough.

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One man who was hitting the front view, the more older person

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may have been in the 50s. He had this. It looked like he was trying to suppress a laugh.

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So I asked him, I said, I'm happy that you're happy. But you know, What's the joke? He's another I'm not joking. I mean, I'm not being disrespectful to you, but

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my wife will die if I thank her. So as you let her die happy, go and thank her, you know, so everyone had a big love.

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They ended next morning, is my practice. When I'm teaching I go half an hour early. So the class began begins at nine I was there 30 hours.

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You know, sitting on my computer, I did that I was having a cup of coffee. When one young fella walks in, and he says, Sir, my mother said to thank you. So I said, Well, please thank her very much, but who's your mother? I don't know your mother. And what is she thanking me for? What did I do?

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So he looked very sheepish. And he said, Sir, you know, yesterday after I finished this class, and I went home, and I said to my mother, a ma Rahman and during earning

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Delia coffee,

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retrieving a

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noun will give them the knowledge.

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Or they're not naked on the beach. Alright. So in Tamil is my mother, I'm very grateful to you. Thank you. You give me coffee every day. And I have no thank you. I'm thanking you.

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He said, My mother's instant reaction was Who told you to say this?

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When I saw the Arizona, Amma Who told you to say this. So this guy said, When I tried to pretend that it was only by sort of waking up of my conscience, he's my mother said, Look, I know you better than yourself. Right? I know you better than you know yourself, who told you this? So this boy said, an hour, there's one Nithi says our teacher told us, she said, Go and thank your teacher.

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From me say that my mother, thank you.

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So it was a kind of funny incident. But the point I'm saying is that

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thankfulness are important and thankfulness is important that I said, not because the other person needs it or wants it or asking for it. Because it is an expression of your integrity, it's an expression of your prestige, it's an expression of your humanity. It's an expression that you don't take things for granted. It's an expression that you don't use people. It's an expression that you value, what you get, and you're willing to pray for that value. So we thank Allah subhanaw taala and we thank the people. And if there's nothing else you do, after you listen to this, thank the people in your life, who have done things for you, to make you and for you to be where you are. It is true,

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you may have risen to great heights, but remember that that road was on the shoulders of other people.

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So lesson number four, always always always expressed thanks to the people who did anything for you, no matter how small or big

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and remember one final thing

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I believe that you can never repay anybody. You can never repay anywhere so never have the opinion that Oh, he did something and I thanked him I reply you know I did something I gave him a gift and that's it. I'm I'm clear I'm clear. You're not clear. You will never be clear for your whole life. You will never be clear. That person that you thanked did you a favor without being asked

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whereas you are doing it because he did it for you. So you can never repay a favor more of that in the next

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fuzzy reminder but for now just just a link to the next one. Masala will carry while he was I remember how to get a holiday

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