Mirza Yawar Baig – Akhlaaq of the Ummati #52

Mirza Yawar Baig
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of support and understanding the surrounding world in order to avoid violence. They also touch on the diverse and diverse culture of the United States, including the], [In this segment, a woman describes her brother's "interrupted relationship" and how she believes she should forgive him. They also discuss the history of Islam, including its implementation and use as a means of forgiveness, and the importance of respect and appreciation for others, particularly those who have done the wrong things. The segment ends with a discussion of the use of language in media and the potential for it to be used in media.
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hamdulillah alameen wa Salatu was Salam O Allah Shafi Gambia, mousseline mohammadu Rasul, Allah is Allah Allah Holly he Valley he was, he was just leave and cathedra and kathira for mavado. My dear brothers and sisters,

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if there is one thing that can be described,

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and I'm saying this from my study of the Syrah of Rasulo Salah, if there is one thing that can be described, as perhaps the greatest achievement of Russell realized or seldom, it is the creation of the Muslim oma.

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Now, having said that, anytime I make a statement like that, I'm extremely aware of the fact that this can be said that this is the greatest achievement, the statement can be made about practically everything in the life of an Amazon seller. But I am looking at the formation of the oma the formation of the Brotherhood, based on faith

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from a very specific angle, and that is the angle of today's context of the world as we know it.

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Now, I don't need to do an elaborate explanation of the world as we know it, the world as we are seeing it,

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the world as we find it today, because we are living it, we are living this reality. And we are suffering from this reality.

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And that reality is the opposite of what our solar system created.

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Now, what was the scene at the time of Rasulullah saw the salams

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especially coming to Medina,

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if you look at it,

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the scene and this is something which I have said all the time, which is that the

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time and life, the life and times of Rasulullah, Salah in the seventh century,

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were like a crucible

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in which an experiment was performed.

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And this experiment was proof of concept of the message of Islam, which was and is a message of mercy, a message of forgiveness, and a message of togetherness

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in a global context, with all human beings, with all creatures on the face of this earth, as well as in a very specific concept context, which is the

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context of other people who share our faith, which is our other Muslim brothers and sisters. Now, why is this important because when we understand the sphere of resources, I mean, this way, that this Syrah this life,

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of the best of creation, the life of the Rasul of Allah, the life of the Messenger of Allah subhanho, wa Taala, the last and final one after whom there is no Nabhi, and there is no rasuu

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if we understand his life, not simply as an event, no matter how magnificent and how important that event was, but as something which was a proof of concept to be applied in the world until the end of time. Now there's a very different perspective. Right? For example, I can quote for you, the life and times of many history is my is my favorite subject. I graduated in history. And I read history all the time.

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So I can name for you, the so called great leaders of the world, and I can you know, Mandela, these things run, but we none of them can I say that you can take that leaders life as it is and apply it in your life today, and it will work.

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It won't work. Whereas the life of Rasulullah Salaam is not like that his life is such that you can take his life and apply it in today's context as it is and it works. And the reason is because of the similarity between the life and times of navasana Solomon our lives and times today.

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Now, there are many lectures of mine on that aspect. So I'm not going to take your time talking about that now. So do listen to my lectures, my lectures on sera. do listen to the series of lectures that I've done, based on my book, which is called leadership lessons.

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From the life of our soldiers Our solemn this is this is also a diploma course in Islamic online university. So, you can take the course it is free and you can you can also get a diploma as a result of that course. Plus you can just read the book you can listen to the lectures, so I'm not going to go I will not go into that just take my word for it there is

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a huge Emirati now. Therefore, let us look at what was the maloo What was the

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the cyst, the situation that Rosaura Sonam faced when he was when he started this work of building a brotherhood of cohesive brotherhood based on faith, the situation at that time was the predominant thing in that word was mutual enmity. Right? If there was one thing with distinguished if I can use the term, the Arab culture of the time it was mutual enmity, it was vendettas, which transcended generations, generation after generation, were enemies one to the other enemies to the American mirror talking here about enemies as in saying something bad if you're talking here about separating the head from the body, the people who killed one another, based on something which allegedly

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happened sometimes in the previous generations, sometimes two generations ago, sometimes longer than that, in many cases, they had even forgotten what the original incident was. All they knew was that these group and this tribe and this sub tribe are our enemies, and if you find one kill him.

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Now, this was the kind of culture of hatred or mutual enmity of of vendettas, of, you know, out of hand murder, that our soldiers are seldom found, and inherited in a way. Now, that was one second thing was it was a culture. And this was not not only peculiar to the Arab world, it was that was the thing in those times. It was a culture based on tribalism,

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loyalty to the tribe. Now, the famous court in among the famous problem among the Arabs all the time, and that was their support your brother, whether he is right or not, right, my brother, they mean the tribal brother, support your tribesmen, whether he is the oppressor or the oppressed. I mean, this was the actual court sub support your brother, whether he's the oppressor or the oppressed, and there is a beautiful, had these of our soldiers, took this exact proverb. And he taught a very important lesson with respect to that. He took this proverb, and he said, support your brother, whether he is the oppressor or the oppressed. So the Sahaba is combining, they asked him,

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you, Allah,

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because by then they had they had training, they had tarbiyah, they had learning of Islam, and they knew that this can't be right, because, you know, support your brother, whether he is an oppressor or the oppressed. So if the progressivism is seeing this, then there is a reason why he's saying there's something behind it. So they asked him,

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you said support, support your brother, whether he is the oppressor or the oppressed, we understand that we can support and we should support our brother if he's being oppressed. But how do we support our brother if he is the oppressor? Meaning that obviously, this is wrong, the man is oppressing the movement is oppressing, then how do you support him or her to operate more, as soon as Adam said, support him by stopping his operation support him by holding his hand, do not allow him to do it, because if he does it, then Allah will punish him. And by stopping him, you will be saving him from Allah's punishment, and that is real support. So now see how beautifully as soon as I said, I'm took

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one of their very famous quartz, which everybody knew, and used it to teach a very valuable lesson. The reason I'm saying that is because this lesson also sinks and dovetails with what with what I'm going to say to you. So now here was this situation, this tribal situation.

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So one was, the society is distinguished by mutual enmity. Number two, the society is distinguished by tribal loyalty, which has nothing to do with right and wrong. I support my tribes man, whether he is right or not, doesn't matter. I support my tribes when I am against my rival tribe. No

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matter what, that this was the orientation.

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So this was the second third thing was that if anyone is under any impression that because we generally use the term Arabs, that it was a uniform,

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homogeneous society, then you are grossly mistaken. It was one of the most diverse societies that you can imagine, because it's not a question of Adam. It's a quest is like, for example, going to Africans in Africa. There are there are white Africans, there are black Africans. Among the black Africans. There are tribes in numerable

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who consider the other tribe to be as alien if not more than somebody from a totally different country. Right, those who are shamanistic in their approach. Take for example the in Nigeria you have the hausa and Fulani conflicts now The tragedy is both our Muslim house our Muslim Fulani are also Muslim houses are more settled the Fulani herdsmen

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and there are when I say conflict we are not talking here about say about calling them names even talking about killing. hausa Fulani, very very murderous burning of villages killing of people you know * their women who is * who are Muslims * a Muslim,

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both will understand when they meet Allah subhanho wa Taala what is happening not that to * a non Muslim is permitted. A Muslim is not allowed. Read my lips a Muslim is not allowed to do harm to anybody or anything on the face of the planet.

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Whether Muslim, whether non Muslim, whether Hindu whether Sikh, whether it whether a Christian, whether Jew, whether atheist, whether an animist, whether it's a tree, whether it's a cow, whether it's a buffalo, whether it's a cat, whether it's a dog, whether it's a pig, and anything or everything,

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to the air to the water, a Muslim is not permitted to do harm. A Muslim is not permitted to cause any harm, any pain, any suffering of any kind to anybody.

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So now you've got two big Muslim tribes, the house and the Fulani

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killing each other.

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Both are African, both in Nigeria. So being African being a Nigerian

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makes no difference.

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For people who want to hit,

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they will hit. And this is what Islam came against. This is what Islam came to cure. So

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this is what he found. You had you are different tribes. Everybody's outdoors, we got to be but

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short at each other's necks.

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So then also you have the diversity in a very different way, which is, even though they are within port, so called saying they're very diverse. Then there was diversity of another kind, which was that because of the nature of Makkah, which was like a center of trade, in that part of the world in the head. Yes. There were people from other places. You had Yemenis, you had today what we call serious but they were the people from sham. You had people from from today what is called Iran but there was Porsche. So you had Persians, you had, you know all kinds of people who came to trade and and and so on so forth. And many of them they worshiped in the Kaaba, there the Kaaba was full of

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the Kaaba was built by Emily salam, as a Masjid as a house of Allah are over the years it had been filled with idols. So they are able 360 idols in the Kaaba. So there are people who are worshipping as well. So a lot of diversity of of chi of every guy, and therefore lots of reasons for people to be apart.

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Now also came with this message of togetherness, with this message of cohesiveness, with his message of love, with his message of compassion, with his message or mercy with his message of forgiveness, called Islam.

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And that is the message that he preached in this completely diverse society. Now take this take what I'm saying and apply it to our world today. Do we have diversity of course we have diversity, all kinds of diversity.

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So now we have an example

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of a society which was very diverse, and very divided because of the diversity,

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full of enmity full of hatred, and one man sallallahu sallam, he came, and he preached a message. And he created a system whereby that society became

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didn't be homogeneous. It became a society based on love and compassion.

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A society based on mercy

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were a Muslim was the brother of another Muslim

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where hearts came together and it didn't matter whether the other person was from my tribe or from some other tribe.

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There is a very beautiful story to illustrate this restaurant as a wrestler, many form Duma, as you know, in Medina,

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he made every Maharaja

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the brother of a and Saudis or had somebody from outside Madeira. He made him a brother of somebody from Medina.

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So Salman al Farsi of Elano who was a Persian, he was a Persian by race. He spoke Persian, he did not speak Arabic, Arabic was a foreign language to him, he learned.

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On top of that, he was a slave.

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In Detroit, he was freed, but he was a slave and in the, in the Arab Society of that time, the difference between a slave and a free man was like the difference between the heaven and the earth.

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Allah made him the brother of a Buddha Allen sorry are the alarm.

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Now Buddha was a Ansari was he was he was a person from Medina.

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He was a free man.

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So status wise, way higher.

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Resident Arab,

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the brother of somebody who status wise way lower status meaning worldly status,

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foreign a foreign language. And you know, the chauvinism that the Arabs had about their language.

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They said that they used to feel that Arabic is superior to every other language. And anybody who does not speak Arabic is like a dumb animal. So they call them as yummy.

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So outsiders outside of Arab.

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One who does not speak Arabic, was called a dumb person.

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So this was the brother now.

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See what happened.

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One day,

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he came home from his work.

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Our data was not wrong. But

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his wife, Elena was there. And she was a British scholar herself.

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She used to give lots of hobbies, in mud in marches. And actually,

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she would sit on the memberwise was overthrown as asylum and the men would sit in front of her, and the women would sit behind it was a novel way.

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And sometimes when

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the malignant marijuana was a halifa. If he was present, he would be sitting in the doors, listening to listening to others of omega mobiola horna. And at the time of Salah, he would lead Salah he would give lots of Quran but she did not lead Sara, please understand this.

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There are boundaries for everything in Islam.

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In terms of teaching Islam, there is no problem men, women, anybody can teach, but a mammoth Allah subhanaw taala decreed only for the men.

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Why how that's a different

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discussion. But the point being, that even though she was a great scholar, even though they were listening to her as a, as a teacher, she did not lead Salah This is not a sign of discrimination against women. Because if there was discrimination against women, they would not be sitting here listening to what in the first place.

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So anyhow, so survivors, you know, he came home,

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no matter.

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And when someone was he looked at her, he found that she was in a disheveled condition and she didn't look happy. And she looked like she was stressed out. So he asked Susan, what happened do Why are you looking like this? Now imagine this is close friendship. They are all the living in the same house like brother and sister.

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So he said to her, why are you looking What's wrong with you? Why are you like this? She said because your brother meaning her husband.

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She said Your brother is not interested in me anymore.

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job is

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to somehow advising other learners. So how do you say that? What What am

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Jesus he fasts all day. And he stands in Salah all night.

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Right? So he is so biased that every day his buttons are not all throughout here. He's fasting every day. And he's praying throughout the night. So where is the time for me?

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Santa Maria della wrote in jail. He remained silent.

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That afternoon or evening, when I was alone again.

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In the afternoon or evening, in the afternoon, lunchtime.

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I came home.

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And he went inside, he brought food for salmonella. And he put it on the sofa.

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Someone said to him, come sit with me and eat.

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I'm fasting.

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So as a matter of fact, he said, Why was he? He said, Well, first he said, okay, bring the most

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out of what?

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I'm fasting for the sake of what are you asking me? He said, Yes. He said

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it when

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he said I can't do it.

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If you will not break your fast he was me that I will not.

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I would argue that it is permissible for somebody to break a fast if it isn't, I will fast there is no sin involved.

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So anyway, but obviously he was you know, he felt like this is too much. But anyway, he broke his fast he ate with him.

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Then in the night

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when they lay down to sleep,

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I was made sure someone got his bed, everything was fine.

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And then he got up. Some of us he said to me, where are you going?

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He said, I'm going to pray.

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There's not there's not time, but we just finished Russia.

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What are you praying? He said, I'm praying.

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Later sleep

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You know, zoological question, what is this? I mean, you are forcing us? Yes. Right.

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So I was

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laid down for a while and pretended to sleep. He thought someone thought he was sleeping. And

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so he quietly got up

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and said, Where are you going?

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So I said, what, I'm going to praise it no sleep.

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Now this happened a couple of times.

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Then towards the last 1/3 of the nights amavasya. Delano also got up there and also got up they made Willow they prayed hard. But by then I

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was like up to here with this

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with this, you know

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So when they went first another Pfizer after Sarah

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used to turn around and he would do you know he would he would give some darts or he would ask people did you have a dream? If somebody had a dream, they inherited the dream and I wish them would interpret the dream. In some cases, he would ask people do you have any questions which he would then answer and so on. So when that day when as soon as I turned around, and he said Does anyone have anything? I will tell you. I have a complaint against my brother.

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he said yada yada, I'm fasting and the man forces me to eat he bread makes me break my fast. I want to pray in the night. He does not let me break it helped me sleep

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until the last part of the night. And then of course we prayed but before that he will not let me do that he is making me forcing me to sleep. I mean, how can I live like this? I mean, he's, you know, my brother is in my house. But if he's going to force me in this way, then it is very tough for me.

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So so let's see the beauty and the way in which we corrected people. He said what now he's not someone purchases that he's not asking him. He's asking.

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He said Did your brother give you a reason why he did this?

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I would have said yes. He said What did he say? He said my brother said to me,

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Allah has a right on you. Your body has a right on you and your family has a right on you give to each his right.

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Mate don't take from one and give to Allah has a right on you. Your body has a right on you and your family has your wife, your family has a right on you give to each one is right.

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Give them the rights. And also as Adam said your brothers spoke the truth that is what you should do.

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What am I showing you Why am I narrating the story because it shows the kind of love there was between this hub I didn't come out of nothing.

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It came because of certain qualities even when they were offended even if they were irritated with somebody. They did not cut off relationship and they didn't go off to somewhere else.

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Wondering as far as asylum was

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coming along, and he found

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that somebody was beating a slave, Nasir, as a result and said, beware, beware,

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you are also a slave. And your owner has more power than you. Meaning we are the slaves of Allah subhanaw taala.

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So here is your slave and you're beating the slave because you have power over him. He said, beware.

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You are a slave. And your owner is Allah, who has more power than you have

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the man immediately make his medicine fit immediately apologize. He says, You have freed the slave.

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He's not my slave anymore. I'm freeing him, and you are the witness.

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And then the man asked him,

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right. In other words, this is somebody else asked him Allah Allah. He said, Yes, Willa, Maya is live by servern makes mistakes.

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How many times should I forgive him?

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He said 70 times every day.

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Just 70 would be enough. No.

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Who is there who makes more than 70 mistakes even in the whole lifetime in our in our entire association with somebody? But they're not satisfied with that? He says 70 times. How many times should I forgive 70 times every day?

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70 times every day. That's why whenever I do something wrong and any of my friends protest, I tell them okay, that's one I got 69 for today.

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And tomorrow, the new day,

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My brother sisters, why all this

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because this is the secret of building a cohesive

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team building a cohesive community.

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And that is just one word. forgiveness.

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Forgiveness is the result of compassion. Forgiveness is the result of mercy.

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Forgiveness is a result of remembering Allah subhanho wa Taala

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people sometimes say, you know you want me to forgive the guy but he did this.

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My question is, that is why you need to forgive.

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If he had not done anything, what are you forgiving?

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What are you forgiving?

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You need to forgive those who have done something wrong.

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If they did not do anything wrong, whatever forgiving.

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People also say well, you know, he never asked me to forgive him. Alright, so forgive him anyway.

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Forgive him anyway.

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He didn't ask you so he didn't ask you. But you forgive any in any case.

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Right now.

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Breaking relationships

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with our brothers and sisters. How many times have you seen this?

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on brother own sister same mother same Ramu came out of the same woman.

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Same father.

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I want to talk to you.

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In the vast majority of cases, your ego

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your ego.

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This one did not greet me that one that happened is happened what happened just pure ego. Which is based on what it is based on my opinion about myself.

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So on so did not show respect for me.

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You know, I want to repeat for you what my share has to say. Allah bless him and Phil is our is No.

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He used to say

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they'll tell you in order what he has to say then I'll translate for you.

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He used to say get to toe a Monica

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jehadi Guatemala bap Armani don't.

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He said you are a drop of seminal fluid You are a sperm.

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And when your father rejected it, both he and your mother took a vessel

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they took a shower of purification. That is your reality.

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That is how much respect is due to

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so what are you talking about?

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Did not respect me respect what

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respect a sperm respect something that you go and may also because of

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impurity, it is unclean. So I go to wash myself.

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You want people respect that

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if you are getting respect see what he Malmo Imam Shafi

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now Java Abdullah said that if you are being respected if you are being praised remember that people are praising and respecting the half the covering that Allah has placed over you. They don't see you they see the covering that Allah has placed over you they are looking and they are respecting and they are praising the board they are seeing and they're not seeing you they are seeing this covering that Allah has bestowed if not removed that cover

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then see how much respect you get

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over other sisters we have to be very very careful with ourselves

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the biggest lie that is inside here is not English inside here that's why in Ramadan the Shabbat dinner all change so how can people still do all the stuff that they that they normally do

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we always like to blame shut and overdue you do some you know rubbish you will do some something which is obviously wrong which is obviously how I'm you know this is always had I made me do it yeah. Okay.

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Chad that made you do that I'm caught you by the neck and made you do it

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you know perfectly well Japanese can only whisper

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but we like to blame. So okay. So, what happens in

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Japanese, that is the intelligence.

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So, what built the community was this realization

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and this forgiveness? Yes, I forgive because somebody did wrong

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in the Hadees narrated by Buddha,

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which is in sooner without

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and in general without and these are these is a according to the standard of care.

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So as an asylum is reported to have said, it is unlawful. It is not lawful meaning what meaning it is unlawful.

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It is not lawful means it is not halal meaning it is haram.

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For a Muslim, to forsake, to reject, not to speak to him

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to cut his relationship with him. It is haram. unlawful not permissible, prohibited for a Muslim to forsake his Muslim brother or sister beyond three days.

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Islam is reasonable, Allah subhanaw taala is reasonably reasonable. They are saying Okay, so something happened. You have a right to feel bad about it. You want to sit and moan and groan about it. You want to brood about it do that three days,

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not more than three days. And whosoever does so far more than three days, Whosoever forsakes and rejects his brother or sister for more than three days and then dies in that state will certainly enter jahannam

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He dies and that's it.

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For man Hydra follow cancer last format, the holla now, outcome aka lolly salatu salam. He rejects his brother or sister for more than three days and he dies he's in the Hellfire

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sisters. Just think about this. Think about how

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important this is.

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As soon as Salim said In addition,

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he said Oh Allah, you are forgiving and generous. You will love to forgive. So forgive me This is the ad is related to

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sales I just asked Let me see if I find that other watcher asked he said as this makes his dog allow my Naga one to have a laugh. Oh Bhavani Allah, you are

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the forgiving one.

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You love to forgive. So forgive me.

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Now 39 other hobbies. In motional Mamet narrated by Abdullah

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he said be merciful to others, and you will receive mercy, forgive others, and Allah will forgive you.

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Many times there's this question Why should I forgive? Because you want Allah subhanaw taala to forgive

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You know, learner Allah.

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And Allah said, Don't you want Allah to forgive? Think about that. The

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Bible knows all of that is that there was this man who was related to

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to his mother who was related to our workers.

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They were very poor. So our worker said this was alarming was to support him material used to give him money.

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Now this man, despite the fact that he was related to obesity, despite the fact that he was receiving money for all because

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he took part in the slander against ISIS.

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Nobody had any evidence This was slander people who are just talking

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and say that I just

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was the one being slandered.

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Obviously, when I

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heard about this, imagine how bad he must have felt how angry he must have felt

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that not only this man spreading lies and slander, but he is doing it the one who is receiving benefit from me is doing this against my own daughter. And his daughter is not any ordinary daughter. This daughter is the wife of the nlb Lab on whom this man believes. This man is a Muslim. He said lai lai La Jolla, but he has no shame. And he is slandering the wife of Rasul Allah Islam, about whom Allah subhanho wa Taala said his wives are your mother's tomahto

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as well as you who Omaha or miss wives or your mothers, so he slandering his own mother.

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What kind of shameless preachers that I imagine? So obviously, I was upset and he said, I will not help this man anymore.

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point I want to establish here for you is, was there a grievance? was their reason for being offended? Or was it just simply simply what like happens to most Oh, he did not respect me enough.

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No, this was actual harm done.

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And I will catch YOU on beaches, natural reaction is what it is, okay, fine. You do this. Sorry, from me. Now, you're not going to get anything? What happens? What does Allah do?

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Allah subhanho wa Taala reveals Koran. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says,

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Don't you want Allah to forgive you?

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Those who are less favored

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with wealth and so on.

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So they should continue to help.

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And he should forgive?

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Don't you want a lot to forgive you?

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Oh, gosh.

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Obviously, this I had came for him. When I said those he has favored his means.

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And Allah is asking this question, don't you want to forgive our sins, he said, I want Allah subhanaw taala to forgive me. So I forgive this person. And I will help him and I will help him even more.

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Think about this,

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and say that,

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how important it is to forget the last one and the many, many hobbies and I think I've made my point enough. The last one is I had these witches in Mustafa Muhammad from Abdullah Ahmad in the US

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or the lotto, who said that Rosaura serum said when he was on the member in a hotbar he said show mercy and you will be shown mercy, forgive and Allah will forgive you show mercy and you will be shown mercy show mercy to people and you will be shown mercy by Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive people and Allah will forgive you. Now think about this. Do we want Allah subhanaw taala to forgive us or not? Right? dumb question.

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dumb question. Of course we want a lot of forgiveness. If we want Allah subhanaw taala to forgive us, then what is it that we need to do? We need to take stock of what we are doing. And we need to take stock of that. And we need to say that I forgive this person, whoever this person is, no matter what, because this person is

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somebody that Allah subhanaw taala has told me to forgive because Allah subhanaw taala said, forgive the person because if you want Allah to forgive you, then forgive this person.

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Right now brother sister really seriously. Let us ask ourselves this question and

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The answer is yes, I want Allah to forgive me. And as I told you, the Hadees we generated for you that if you are not talking to a Muslim brother or sister if you have several relationships, remember, if you if that period has been more than three days, then you are treading on a very on very thin ice, you are literally standing facing the fire. If you don't make the attempt to

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re establish that relationship, then you are in serious danger of incurring the anger of Allah subhanaw taala. Don't do that to yourself, as soon as Sallam said, Be the first to give Salah. And if they don't give Shahram then you are better than them. Don't worry about whether if I go and say, you know, I'm sorry, or I have forgiven you or just say Salaam you don't have to worry, I have forgiven you just say Salaam Alaikum call. If you say if I do that I will be rejected no problem or hamdulillah that rejection is proof and evidence in your favor.

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This will stand in your stead in your favor. On the day of judgment. You can see I heard Hadees of your rasulillah salam and I took the trouble and I took the initiative and I was the first person to go that person rejected me You are the witness. No problem.

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But do it. And especially especially especially if you are this person is your own brother or sister. Please fear Allah subhanaw taala because let me just Adam said on the Day of Judgment, Dara ham, the womb will ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to punish those who cut the relationships of the womb and that and the the the DA of the womb will be accepted.

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Believe me on the Day of Judgment, we want to create excuses for ourselves in our favor for forgiveness. We don't want things which will cut the ground round our feet and throw us into the Hellfire we don't want that. So do it right now. Do it right now. As soon as you finish listening, which is going to be in another two seconds. Pick up the phone call the person that you have misspoken speaking to go meet them. Write a letter, email, whatever, take the initiative, do it right now. Right? Don't wait. Do not wait because we don't know when molecule will come. And if you have severed relationships, and you have not been talking to them, and you don't take this step you

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don't make the initiative and you die, believe me you are an alpha.

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So make the NEA right now and say well, you Allah, I make this Nia that I'm going to seek forgiveness of this person, I am going to forgive this person, I'm going to do my best to join this relationship. Do it right now make the near and make dwad Allah subhanaw taala make is the far so that if you die, at least you die in that state where you have initiated the action. And then immediately I mean, I'm saying immediately because if you are living in some other country and that's the middle of the night, don't follow them in the middle of the night, wait till the morning, but form them. Go and meet the person if they are accessible to you, or phone them or whatever. And

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make sure that you rebuild that relationship. At least you make the effort you make the effort to take the initiative, whether they respond or not respond that is on them.

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I hope I made myself clear. This is the fundamental Boneyard this absolute

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absolute platform absolute fundamental on foundation of the UCLA of Islam which is forgiveness, compassion and mercy. asking us to fill our hearts with compassion and mercy and remove all hatred and all irritation from art was Allah Allah Allah Allah will carry while he was a member of the camera me, wa salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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