Majed Mahmoud – Islam Is All About Good Manners

Majed Mahmoud
AI: Summary © The importance of manners and values in Islam is discussed, including practice, avoiding shaming, and not giving personal information. The speakers emphasize the need to be true to oneself and practice manners to avoid embarrassment and sexual misunderstandings. The success of hedging campaigns and the importance of finding the best way to manage are also emphasized. The speakers stress the importance of being aware of one's manners and not wasting time while trying to convince others to do so.
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Bismillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah wa sahbihi wa sallam, Allah hamasaki Saudi Arabia Siri emri local militia many of

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you may have questions till the end is a cool

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so again,

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fast cast question Go ahead.

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Mashallah, who is it?

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Daniel, Danish of Panama. He said just fast comments basically he said I just made my friend Muslim hamdulillah How old are you?

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nine years old? Mashallah. And we have a new Muslim right here, right? You might have to mention your name. It's okay with you. Devin. Right. Devin handed I became a new Muslim and we have Tom. Right. And Tom is a new Muslim as well. hamdulillah how long minimus have for

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two weeks handler and you Devon? Two months

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since December, Mashallah, may Allah protect you guys. May Allah honor you. May Allah keep you steadfast and firm. Because one advice I give everybody around the brothers and the sisters practicing and the ones that are newly converting to Islam, had you chosen this path, the path of the truth and you will notice now more about it, then be ready to be tested.

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Be ready to be tested. Because Allah says in the Quran, do you think he will say I believe and you'll be left alone without any test? So be ready to be tested. Everybody here that's listening to me right now. Everyone that made the decision to come here. Be ready to be tested. And we talked about this when

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last week Dracula was last week,

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focus will start inshallah

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you have 30 seconds.

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If someone were to ask you, what is this Islam all about? 30 seconds. That's all what you have. And by the way, the one who's asking you this is the president of the country, and you're in front of him. He's not Muslim. All the media is around all the Muslims aren't hearing what's going on. The enemies are also aware of what's going on. Everybody's around. And you have 30 seconds to tell the President was what is Islam all about? Think and think and think what would you say with all that pressure? And by the way, whatever you say will not just be on YouTube will not just be on Facebook, but the whole world will know about it. What is Islam all about? Here? I think we'll leave that just

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make you guys think. Do you know that a similar situation happened during that time of hava

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Jaffer bin Ptolemy Allah be pleased with him when he emigrated from Mecca to as a senior.

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He met an Apache the king of the aborigines at that time, very highly noble person, people respect them and so on. When the few minority Muslims went to Abyssinia, the disbelievers that hated the Muslims in Mecca, they said we should not let them go, who should follow them. So they follow them all the way to Africa. And he told the king and he that's his name, that these people are amongst us and they left us and they're corrupting our society and our cities. And you would like to pass on to you some gifts. Just bring our people back to Mecca, and the Jesse know to be a just leader. He told the Muslims, the minority amongst them, and everybody's around media. Muslims are behind the enemies

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are there whatever will be said will be recorded for life. Until 1500 years later, I'm saying the story.

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Then, Jaffer. abitata stands in front of the President. You know, he doesn't have an hour. You know, he has only a few seconds. What will he say? When an agency asked him the following question. What is it that you believe in that is not similar to the ones in Mecca, nor is it similar to us Christians? What is Islam all about? Before Jafar answers he gives him a very brief and quick introduction. Before he answers. He said you had a medic talking with our respect. He said we were a bunch of ignorant people we used to worship idols and statues. And we used to commit sexual acts here and there without even thinking. We used to eat dead animals. We used to cut the ties of

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kinship. We have no trust around us. The strong in our community bullies, humiliates and beats the weak in our community until a law sent a messenger to our community in which we know his lineage. We know his truthfulness Who is it? hammertoe lies in them and then he said the following but slightly

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quick introduction wise, listen up. Look, what are the words which Jafar will choose in 30 seconds, if not less.

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He said, The Prophet ordered us to worship none but Allah and to avoid worshiping anything else, statues, anything else. And he ordered us to be truthful, and everything in which we say, and to connect our ties of kinship with our families, and to not take the money from the orphan and the weak amongst the community, and to make sure we have absolute respect, absolute respect to our neighbors, and to the ones around us. And he ordered us again, to worship none but Allah and to not associate anyone with ALLAH, and he ordered us to pray fast and pay the obligatory charity.

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That's what stem is all about.

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He has noticed a theme

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because no one amongst you would answer the correct answer, except the ones with knowledge and know Islam inside out even just a portion of it. Even just a shallow of Islam, you know, well, you will be able to have an answer. I'm sure if I asked you what would you say about Islam in 30? seconds? I'm almost sure if most of you, if not all of you, will give me a correct answer, but few will give me a complete answer. What was the theme who can help me out?

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You know, even though you're so far, I still have to give you Hi fi. Was this a very good one. So I'm giving back.

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That's excellent. The focus of Jaffa was about character.

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What he's saying Islam is all about character. That's it.

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The Prophet samsara in a beautiful nourish an authentic narration. He said the only reason

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I came here to tell you about Islam, and I became a prophet. The only reason in NEMA has to do with me, Mel saw the Hello, hello, I came to perfect good manners.

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So now when someone comes up to you, so brother, what's Islam all about? It's about good manners.

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Islam is all about good manners, let's

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The problem which we have. And let's be realistic, is that many of our community members have differentiated between manners. And between worship acts of worship, we say being nice is separate from praying. We said giving an obligatory charity is different than smiling. The Prophet tells you No. and due to this behavior, we have two kinds of people in this community. And there's a third and May Allah make us almost a third. The first ones are the ones that are very practicing and religious in terms of material looks, but manners horrible with our respective garbage.

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And there's another group

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that are so nice and kind and respectful. They open the door for you they smile in your face, they say hi, how are you doing today? Do you want any help go for that Delilah. Pray notes fast, no. Help. The

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nice verse was almost 10 times different. Islam teaches you that you will need have manners. It's with two

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nice manners, the profit kinky teeth to perfect manners, with Allah and with the public. Some people perfected are very good at with the public but very bad with pantalla. And when we say manage with Allah, it means you being sincere as you're sitting Why are you here is it for a lot of show. When you come into our last panel data, you make your sincere as much as possible. You feel a lot that's good management, Allah, you feel love towards Allah that's managed with Allah, you feel fear from our last contact. That's manners, you call people to Allah that's from manners akhlaq to Allah and also there are managed to the people you say Salaam when you see them, you smile at their face, you

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greet them, you have mercy upon them, they do something wrong against you what you do, you forgive so managers in to and no if you have one you're missing the other. So May Allah protect us and allow us to perfect our manage. Soon as society we said we have these two kind of people, that first group that are so practicing and so Pamela I noticed that in one of the communities around

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a guy wearing and for the new Muslims forgive us for such harsh incidents, but this is the reality. You never judge a religion according to the people.

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Never ever and I used to tell the people around me if I

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Wasn't a Muslim an hour I will judge Islam about the people won't lie I will never probably become a Muslim with all honesty if I judge Islam according to the people who claim to be Muslims jack to be honest look at this a liar Look at this guy. Look at this girl. Look, look

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when I went

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this What happened? A karate Institute. They teach people for

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a guy beside the door will let your story beside the door beard. You know goofy

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though. So like man, five star Muslim Five Star Wars

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then a guy but how is his manners? A lot. A guy comes with the Miami Heat jersey with LeBron James. You know probably has a Quran

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Institute. He's like, what do you think you're doing boy?

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Hello, crime Institute. Okay, now, basketball court. You take off this calf or jersey? Then you come and learn the Quran.

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You think his brother came back?

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Oh, heck no, he did. Not even in his dreams. He came back. And if he did in his dreams start to fight that guy to punch him. So panel law and then you have the other side. So nice and kind. But brother worship Allah. No. Brother a lot said do this. Do that respect your parents? No. I'm nice to the people I give I give rides I help them to homework. I'm nice to the sick. The Prophet teaches us that Islam combines both

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combines both. Just like how my head connects to my body. He takes it off what happens?

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I'll teach you a lesson. He tried to take it off. Now. What happens?

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Die you did literally you're dead. So there's no such thing as a practicing brother or sister that has no matters. And there's no such thing as long with manners and not practicing. So the Prophet tells you they're connected. And the Prophet I'll mention only three statements to prove that to you. Number one Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam seattleite salatu wa sallam. The Prophet said the stingy amongst us is the one who hears My name is Allah and does not say alayhi salaatu wa Salaam Peace and blessings of Allah be upon your prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi salatu wa sallam said

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look at the words which he chooses and which one is first in and hire him and modesty and shame and email. And look at the word which he chose first, higher modesty and shame and belief. Khurana

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come hand in hand together.

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If one goes up, the other goes up. If one goes down, the other goes down. So if you're that kind of person that has absolutely any no shame in school then to tell me you're practicing person.

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If you that person that in the hallway, like with all respect to this history, any laugh so loud. Everyone in high school knows that. Oh, that's her. Yeah, we know her. Yeah, that's her. Everybody knows there's no okay. Are you trying your best to lower the volume? I don't care. Okay, amen is messed up to be honest. realistic, the prompts that come hand in hand. The brothers How is your higher your shame and modesty? You use the bathroom with a girl What's up, buddy?

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He was the bathroom and quiet and don't use the one on the wall. She's the one who left and close yourself behind the thing you whatever. You don't give conversations online. Seriously. I don't shame. You don't talk the private tip. Do not let me tell you the story. One guy said

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the problem was using the bathroom. The Prophet said

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when the private finish he told them this. Next time you see Santa Monica, I wanna answer the deal. So teaching us have shame when you go to the bathroom to talk to people just do what you got to do in this balance. The amazing thing is a lot of girls make friends in the bathroom. Hey, and will it go for five minutes like 1015 and like Oh, she's my best friend. What do you guys meet?

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Come on. I've seen feel that's kind of the second thing also like some of them.

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suppilers is just beautiful. Just amazing. He sets a lot he was seldom the worst person. Wow.

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The worst person in the sight of Allah is the one room that people try to avoid him or her for the sake of being safe. One more time, but focus the worst person in the sight of Allah Subhana Allah on the Day of Judgment is the one whom people avoid

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Just to feel safe from that person

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if they clear who did not get it raise your hand is very important she all you guys got it

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so example

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when someone says Oh brother messages behind you

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this reaction they didn't feel safe right?

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Then probably amongst the worst person ever May Allah protect us divine endeavors has problems like every time we dump someone our mentioned examples here but you know I have like family members, even though I'm in the house, I call their names. I'm the guy moves in the house all day, like what have been hot mess, you know, what I'm trying to get to is if the one is fearing the other person and with all honesty.

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Do you know people like that? Is that if you mentioned their name, they're like, Oh, please, just if he's in the hallway, I want to go to a different hallway. Isn't that right? I went through this when I was in grade, seventh grade, sorry, grade seven. And another guy was a great nine in Saudi Arabia, high school and from grade 10 to 12. Okay, elementary is from seven to nine. So it's been seven years with nine and will lie whenever I see him I try to avoid them as much as possible. He makes fun of my skin color. When you're so why'd you like snowflake and all that stuff.

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And in theory, there's kind of darker skin. I'm not generalizing, but just one of them. And he made my life a nightmare or like just a nightmare or laser dream about this guy.

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Like, I don't want to see him No, there we go. Yeah.

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I'm serious. So these people are the worst people. So next time you think people behave like that towards you try to change is a clear Bismillah the third and last I would like to mention personal life sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and then went to him. So like I said,

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he said jasola there is a sister who is known to pray a lot Mashallah. And to fast a lot, Mashallah. And to donate right and left such a religious girl, right, except that there's one thing Yanni is that she harms her neighbors and the ones that are rounded with her tongue. In sometimes she curses, or she blasts the music in the house and the neighbor, you know, they hate that fact. The Prophet answered.

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That kind of situation in three words, one more time before I say the answer. She prays a lot too fast a lot. She donates right and left except that she harms her neighbors and the ones around her with what hurt on

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the profit here enough.

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That's it. She didn't help.

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She is in

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the prophets telling you it's not about how much you pray. It's not about your hijab. It's not about your beard. It's not about you coming here. It's about your attitude.

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clear cut example. And the Prophet didn't stop here another mentor them yet also. There's another sister. She barely prays just the five daily prayers just like federal law similar that's nothing extra. And she barely fasts only a month of Ramadan. That's.

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And she hardly ever donate. Except that she's kind of nice with the ones around her. And her neighbors. The Prophet said three words. He or she didn't have it.

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Wow. Wow, isn't it? Wow. Well, that's amazing.

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But don't go now and tell them you know what, it's not about the hijab or the tight jeans I'm wearing.

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Okay, you got to be realistic, get a balance, you got to have that clap, and everybody together.

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Do you know that the purpose of every act of worship is to improve your management

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that purpose of every act of worship is to improve your manage and I'm going to take only four of the five pillars of Islam on top of pillars like you know, pillars without a pillar, things will be destroyed. Without this wall, things will fall

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Pillars of Islam and are proven to not mean not magic. No, no, I'm just copying from the Quran from the Sunnah from dilemma and just saying it to you. So Allah, how is solid acupuncture praying helps you improve your manners? A loss

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prayers helps you avoid Seamus D than being unjust. You never knew that. So next time someone asks you why you guys pray five times a day? What's the answer? To improve our manners?

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To help us avoid shameless leads, cache removal and all kinds of things with the people with lots of panels. Another pillar so you get to grease the lights. What to improve your manners. What's the other pillar?

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Ramadan, nzqa and Hajj. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us what is fast

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In the car Dino Ramadan, you heard about it. But does it mean? It you just what should you do that day?

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Exactly. said don't eat or drink until the sun goes down. Excellent. You know what the prophet says? fasting is not stopping food and drink. So the opposite of what he said, Behold the product. He said, That's not only it, there's much more into it.

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Also law Oh my life. My parents and teachers said don't eat don't drink. That's it. The Prophet said, laser priamo.

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Metallica, palm, your Shara up? No, it's not about leaving food and drink. It's about leaving foolishness and sexual acts Subhana Allah and the Prophet said.

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And if someone were to come and curse you and you're fasting, and about swearing and cussing at you, would you say

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Allah how many Assam in yourself Allah I'm fasting and fasting, say twice on fasting and fasting once for you to remember that you're fasting and the other one for him to remember. I'm fasting, a tablet network.

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One of my friends is Muslim, he was fasting. So some of the team members any every once in a while, that's their culture, they have to curse F word every once in a while.

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And sometimes every sentence even something good, but man, you're such an awesome person. But why F word with their culture. So they said that to one of the brothers and use the curse back is like I'm fasting. I'm fasting.

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Like, okay, so

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when he told them when I'm fasting, I cannot curse.

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Okay, when she's like, Okay, well, she was smiling, laughing.

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I'm like, What a horrible brother.

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You know, he said, we shouldn't fast or curse. In fact, we were fasting right for the other days. So I went, I went to the lady and told her just want to clear up something for you. It's true. He said that we shouldn't curse and like swear and so on. And we were fasting specifically we were fasting. But even all through our life we shouldn't do so. But we any pressure more about this thing, this theme and a mother said Oh, okay, so now it makes sense. Is it clear? Apparently milk fits. So what some of that is all about. The Prophet said one more time in a different Heidi. He said whom does not stop lying and Ramadan. And when you're fasting, if you do not stop lying when you're fasting,

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then there's no need to stop food and drink.

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He's teaching you that fasting should help you be truthful. Fasting should help you not to be foolish. Fasting should help you and prevent yourself and be patient towards sexual acts around you. video clips and adult videos and all that stuff. Help yourself protect yourself even from the hotel stuff in Ramadan.

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So it's all about improving your marriage and my minors. And why I'm not talking about this topic in a way that I have perfected my manners. So I am at a stage where I can teach law or law I'm so far away from perfecting my manners, but we'll always seek oh we seek to improve our manners. We're never settled with the way we are. Is that clear? Never ever so I know many of us don't like to change but we always need to improve always to

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share this personal story.

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Marriage one

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Okay, one time I proposed to my sister and then until they know what inshallah we're gonna work together and improve and change you become always better. She's like, I hate change.

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I know Change is hard, but we have to get closer to Allah improve our manners together inshallah gonna do it together. Like I said, I hate change. Like I hate you too. Okay.

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So there is a change. I'm like, okay,

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best the desperation at that time, like doesn't matter but is proposed and she will change and hamdulillah kept up. I do sudo chucker thankfully so long.

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That she rejected me

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because I have a wave that is better than 1000 and a million of our time than the one that can help me improve my marriage inshallah and we help each other inshallah. So don't be sad even though I cried by the way.

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That's how desperate I was like why

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we won't change

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hamdulillah Well, I have picked them off mantle and a lot of us are so proud of Manila protectors.

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So cm Salah, let's talk about the cat The cat. The cat is the obligatory chair does a cat is the

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This third pillar of Islam

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is the obligatory check check is optional, and it's one that you have to it's roughly speaking 2.5% of your savings of the cash. It has to be over. Roughly speaking, all these numbers are rough. If you have saved

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Over 30 $500, which a whole year passed, and you have over 30 $500, then you get to pay 2.5% that can obligate to a charity to the ones it needs. So since perhaps most of us are broke, we're under that amount. You don't have to worry about that about that. Exactly. But what's the point of getting your money?

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So it can purify them? What will lie in this misconception that many of us had? I asked these questions to Muslims, and will lie they had no idea and you were shocked them. So when you donate, you're more merciful. When you donate, you avoid being arrogant. No, I'll keep no money to myself. I'm being selfish. Avoid that and you start being merciful. So panela it's all about manners. May Allah protect us. I was invited to give a talk at MSU, Michigan State University. And he told me there's a lot of non Muslims coming and we want the topic to be generalized. Like what's the topic? Is it charity in Islam? Because the Jovian

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church in this Lambo is such an easy topic is a topic but it's a hover did not know at one point but did not know once they're not really rich ones they went to the profits on a license to do so law

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they have to do to rebuild

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the ones with money they got all the reward with pray and we also pray we fast they also fast but they donate and we broke

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the Prophet said

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the charity that's the only charity which you know i don't know about other way of giving charity

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it's not just about money charity is to make you a better person and the profit made charities a line revealed to them that some charities to help you out he said particularly to be hatin for the sins of panela Glory be to You or Allah is charity and the tax receipt which you'll get

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it would you not from tax deductions but from Hellfire

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since apparently the waste engine so power law was equally to me that in for the country every time you say Alhamdulillah Thank you a lot that's charity The Prophet said look at this smiling certify UI is all know this right? You guys know this right? And why don't you do it?

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Why don't you do it? Some icon right How are you doing handle this smile thing? And will lie will lie. One of the most beautiful smiles I've seen my work in my life in the world are the ones the ones that handle and the ones watching this tend to be jealous. But so left handed, and I'm being dead honest and serious. Stop thinking you're ugly.

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Some people have this problem well actually my email system is ridiculous. You're beautiful You guys are awesome. Okay.

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Let me check I said that you guys all you guys look more beautiful than the moon. Why?

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incentive fee and we create the human being in the best fashion. Perfect, Mashallah. I know you might see a one someone who is crippled and someone's like that they're being tested and May Allah protect them. They could have been worse. Then also Lai sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us that he know if you're at school, and someone tells you know, with Mrs. Such and such Miss Osborne, or Mr. Smith or whatever you tell them? Yes. Just turn right right here. That's charity

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panela. He they are two boys that are

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just great.

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And he said, whenever you take off something off the ground, that's charity. And when you say respond to a lot of times someone says Salaam Alaikum. You see when it comes down to it, it is not ending to Panama. So it's about improving our manners. And now how in the world that matters. How is that about manners and improving our manners? Who knows the

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someone tells you what's this all about? What's the answer?

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What's your proof?

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A lot of Pantone says

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manners. You guys realize that. It's all about manners.

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So Pamela, one time I went to hedge I had this option when I was

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Maybe 19 years old.

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I had about $1,000 not too excited to make $1,000 Okay. So like marriage for heads, marriage, or hedge and thinking and thinking.

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I asked the man What should I do? Had a marriage? He said how desperate are you?

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Is that okay? Low? moderate, high

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not high time delay. I'm talking to you normally.

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Not low moderate.

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Who's going with you with my mom? is getting go with your mom. Like Okay, so when you go too hard, you have to

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watch your manners. For the Hajj to be accepted. No sexual acts. No fighting. No arguing. No yelling at your mom. No pushing people. It'll be crowded. There's over 4 million people you walk like this. I'm serious. I that executive you walk they push you no argument. You want to be accepted? That's how it is. So which are

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and for those who don't know, I had real long hair. I used to tie Daniel mazon Lane bother masala yellow protectors? which didn't look too good.

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So long here I went to hedge an office soon after ombre before heads is that you have a haircut? Right? So the guy said 10 reality for you? 10 real for you. Real is like a currency exchange in Saudi Arabia. Well, so let's say for now dollars, so for you $10 for you $10 I'm like, longer $20

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why $20 is like $20 Okay, you're here. You're like scissors. Same thing applies here is at $20.

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So I sat on the chair, put this around me on like $20 the guy beside me. He said while da da da da

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is like no argument it had

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$20 Bismillah Alhamdulillah we coming here?

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So what Allah is trying to tell us had you been able to control your manners and hedge with three or 4 million people wearing two pieces of towel. And there's another group of sisters ring there is an all squishiness happening. And you know that you cannot put perfume in Hydrae. You can't put perfume in hides some big guy from a different country and you're five feet tall. This is your job. And you're like all the sweat.

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What happens

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you have a patient

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so one time in a very severe crowded area in a power walk around the cabin circulating? I'm having my mother

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and my mother is right there. Right? So I'm trying to be as much as nice as polite stuff. But amazing. So you try your best and accidentally someone pushes me

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and I hit a huge monster Mashallah.

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Like a light like a big guy. I think something like this.

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Any Harry and

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beard and everything. I'm like, now I'm such a weak point for two reasons. I'll tell you why. I'm like, come on. Well, why this guy pushed the removing will lie he pushed me cuz you're not gonna stop for us. And like begging him. So I went up, kissed his forehead.

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Like I paid 70 $500 for this, I want it to be accepted. For two reasons. I tried to stress myself number one.

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I don't want him to lose his reward. Because he looked angry. Right? So if I'm like, like this to me, like

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if I were doing talk like this with me.

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Okay, so for him to protect his reward, because we're like, I love him for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala even though we spoke a different language,

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but I just want to maintain his reward. And had he get angry dinner, I might not control myself. So then I will lose the whole hedge and the whole money I didn't get had reward or getting me.

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Lie will lie. No exaggeration.

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Allah knows best means because my mother was pleased that I went to a third few months later What happened?

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Can 100

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Just be trying your best to please your mom and will lie. One lie will lie. Please your parents and you will see wonders. Please your parents and you will live life like no tomorrow like a king. This wisdom lets you see things happening.

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I know what there's no harm in this attack.

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This standard is probably more important because this is managed with your parents.

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It drives an Impala Chevrolet Impala 2003 My mom used to drive a neon 1999 for something she turned three and 1994 neon I really nothing it's not right to begin with I was not mentored proper I'm not well mannered person because I was driving this for some time. My monetary condition does not work.

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So I'm trying to learn about the deen and Islam and what is it all about? So what is it all about? management period

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something like your mom is first and last reason your mom if you please your mommy please Allah if you upset your pet your father you upset Allah. Wow.

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I'm like mom, here the keys. Chevy Impala. 434 you give me the neon.

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So I drive the neon sweating. Japan comes in whispers like what in the world did you do? You're working day and night to getting this money just to give your mom the car just like that. will lie. In just few months. I got a car better than both of them. Don't worry about the one outside. It's one outside just told me to relax. I know it doesn't look too good right now. But was amazing when I got the deal. Unbelievable. Let's say the car was worth 20. I got it for six. Beyond people's imaginations like how in the world they got it. Don't worry about

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what I mean. Don't please your parents.

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I'm serious. Well, like it's magic, magic. halaal magic, please your mom and enjoy the Halloween magic. That's it. I'm serious. We're like the ones that experienced it. They were like you read them.

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And I just hope this is not wasting our time right here. I see the importance of manners with your parents, because pleasing your parents has a lot to be pleased with you a question and I will see a raise of hands. Who thinks

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it's not possible for someone's managed to change as an example, someone is had you just touched them? Don't freak out. Do you believe these people will be very patient at one time of their life? The one who's so stingy with Do you think you'll ever donate $1,000 or 10% of their wealth? Do you think the one that would never help you with any question in your life? Math Science, I will never help you one day they will come to ask you if you need help. Who thinks amongst you that this is not possible?

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Come on. Who thinks is not possible?

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No one

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Are you sure? So next time someone tells you Be patient you don't see I can't.

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I didn't see any hands.

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The Prophet said enamel handled with the Hello. We're in a suburb

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he said patience comes when you put it on yourself that I will practice patience out the private that you'll be patient knowledge will come to you and you will get knowledge when you put on yourself that I will go and seek knowledge. I will go to this Halak I'll go to this gathering, I will go under this email I'll take this course I'll do this and that Allah will give it down to us upon that promise. One time a man came to us always a lesson. The Prophet told them you have two characteristics two traits which Allah loves.

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One of them he said at hand mobile will in

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which to put together like patience

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and Hamlet patience. So that's a hobby as the Prophet also Allah look at this question.

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I these manners came with me when I was born. Or did it come with me as I became Muslim? Because at the conference?

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He said no, it came with you when you were born. So the Sahaba give options right? So indicating it's possible to have a completely different personality. Actually, you become a better Muslim and will lie if it was not possible I will not waste my time doesn't make sense. It's not possible for you guys to change and why in the world man wasting my time and your time. So Pamela mentioned only five blessings. Only five, five fruits

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of having good manners five number one.

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And look at the words. The problem haematoma life and said the best man, the best woman, the best person in the world, who is the one with best character. Wow, underline the word best. So it's not about how many times you pray.

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It's never if you put your alarm at three in the morning praying and making dawn crying. That's amazing that we don't say that. That's manageable. That's fantastic, beautiful, but how are you managed with the people?

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Allah said, Allah said, thanking people

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is equal to thanking me a lot better when you think that people act as if you're thinking

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So there's no such thing as I have managed to work a lot and not towards the people. Because it's a direct relationship. If you have mentors to a lot that it's necessitates necessity as whatever the word is that you have managed the people.

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The prophets allies themselves.

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The most beloved person to me a lot, the most beloved person, brother or sister to me also like them. And the closest one to me, on a day of judgment, is the one with best of character.

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So panela

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and he said, and the furthest,

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and when all the way down, and

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he said, as far as our own.

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And then he explained another word, which means I will put a cap on the arrogant. They think they're better than anyone here. Do you think they're better than everyone here? I can play properly can't play properly. He can't shoot, he can't talk. He can't sit properly can dress I'm better. I'm better. I'm better. Look at my skin color. Look at yours. You're poor, I'm rich, arrogance, the furthest away from me. And third one is from the one that talks so much and did not talk Polish like foolishness after foolishness after foolishness. So parallel, look at the distance, the distance is determined according to your manners.

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So the best, the closest and the most beloved to me,

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then also lies a lot he was sending him says, a beautiful Hadith, a committed meaning in a manner that best of all believers, that one could perfected their belief, obviously jihad, for sure.

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Obviously, it's about Salah, no. acmella, Akbar and momina imana Sanam colocado. ones with best manners.

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How are you managed?

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When you teach her? What to be asked by your parents, I know you guys are old, and you call you How are my How are my sons or daughters managing the class? Do you think there's a there's an answer for it? I'm pretty sure you know, and what's the answer? Be realistic? How is the answer? Allah knows best? And know that the answer they will give a law judges and almost the only judge, but it's a beautiful,

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good sign for you to intergender one more time.

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If people start saying good people that such and such person, girl or guy has beautiful manners, that's a good sign you're going to have what's my proof? For one time amendment also vice versa, let me set some people get praised also a lot. And it happens in their heart that when they get praised. They like it. So the Prophet said tilka Shalom, and this is a hasty, good news for the believer. What good news agenda about manners. Pamela Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam said, and I love asking this question. I'm sure most of you know it. But I love asking it. But now since we know the topic, you guys know the answer. The heaviest thing on the scale on that day of judgment. The heaviest

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thing you know what people say what salleri Salah is the heaviest thing on the scale the adjustments. So there's a scale, the good deeds and the bad deeds. The heaviest thing to be put on the good deeds are your manners. So panela lightest them amazing. Next time you play basketball, you watch your attitude. And you know that what they said, for you to know the reality of your matter matters. You want to know how much matters you have, I guess ready for this?

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is when you go through difficulty. That true you appears when you go into a fight or he pushes you and swears that you the way you behave is the reality of your manners. When things become so tight, you get pressured. How do you behave? That's the question. That's how you determine your manners. polymyalgia protect us.

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Just helped me move the pages and we move to how can we help ourselves to have the best of manage? There's so many ways to do so, so many ways just beyond your imagination.

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And I would like to start with number one is do you seek a lot of talent, assistance and support sincerely from your heart? say Oh Allah, please help me. You know, the prophet the Prophet sallallahu ala used to meet the DA and so many different narrations and so many different words.

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Whenever he used to look at the mirror

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What do you say, man?

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Bro grows and go crazy in school. Look at this. Look at this beard. Look at his eyes A lot, a lot A lot. You know what the prophet says Allahumma can send the hulking fashion for looking online just like how you beautified my physical features, beautify my manners, full of lies and themselves.

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Well, they How could they dare to call me terrorist? How could they dare to say child molester How could they say that? Well my horrible How could they

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Dare to draw cartoons about, you know, another dog will cease to make Allahumma he Dini Allah, Allah guide me to the best of manners. You're the only one that guides them. And Allah moved me away from the worst of manners You're the only one that moves away people from the worst of manners. What did Allah say about the profit or loss and he said what a neck Allah Allah who Luca nauseam indeed you have the best manner.

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The Prophet Muhammad's Allah is the best mannered person ever created on Earth. We don't need to look at any other books or any other biographies. Learn the biography of those who lives in Los Angeles, and your image will improve and Shaoguan and something I forgot to mention. And that's one of the most beautiful ahaadeeth I heard.

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And then came through sunlights Los Angeles. And he asked him this question. You guys know the topics you know the answer, but haven't on your Facebook status and put a blank and check the answer. What would it be? He said, Who is the most beloved person to Allah? Men have onesie Allah, The Prophet said, I have Bula a bad Illinois Law Center home coloca the most beloved person on earth Allah is the one with the best of manners that the Prophet did not say the one that prays the most He did not say the one that sister that covers her herself the most no manners. It's a package. It's a package snuba went Hey, Jeff, and start talking trash, growing your beard and disrespecting

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people. No, you're not better than anyone here. You don't know who's better than here. You're always better. Who's the best person in this room? Well, like I can be the worst here will lie. No exaggeration. Yes, you can be the worst here. It's possible. One of the ways to help yourself out to have better manners is think low of yourself. accused yourself. Don't think Mashallah, I'm such a great person. That's it. I think the sentence shows that you're ill mannered because the Prophet is the one that complete manners and you want to seek his level. And we are nowhere from his level. But we always try our best to get closer.

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And I believe the following point, and I mentioned it every once in a while. And I say from the bottom of my heart, the strongest thing that shapes you, the strongest thing that makes who you are, is what?

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Parents No.

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No friends, the one that makes you who you are and who you will be and whether you will go to heaven or * are your friends are the ones you stay with the most. seek their friends, the good friends, and they will advise you.

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So panela when you have righteous friends, they will tell you you did something wrong brother imagine you did this wrong here. That was right. That was wrong. I was helping in the church. I just tried to help just a little bit I just bought future just a little bit. So that was grabbing the chairs.

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after we were done one of the brothers came to me and he told me no offense to this You seemed a little angry and like

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little rigid as you're playing the chairs and you just not thinking no smile.

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I'm like supine on law. Does that Allah May Allah reward you. And now every time I'm under pressure, I'm putting on the chairs. I think of a sentence of that brother. And every time I go into it and like sociopaths and stuff, they put a smile. Let me tell them thank you as he passed the chair, and I worked on and hamdulillah since that time, he told me I kept trying my best to improve myself. But if you have a horrible friend

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that when you cuss only twice in a sentence like how can only say the F word and D word only once increase? Come on, get up and will lie will lie as funny as it sounds sometimes when you are a good person and you had a bad friend and will light happens and you're in a gathering with people and they all swear and curse that your friend feels embarrassed that you're there because you're so quiet. Because you don't swear isn't that true? It happens and similarly it happened in the opposite is that when you swear in every round is a good person. So hang out with good people. There's Barca logical melodia Saira Malik Rahmatullah vaca

Islam is all about good manners. Having good manners doesn’t only mean towards the people but also with the Lord of all people. You will notice how the core purpose of every act of worship is to improve one’s manners.

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