Valentine’s Day – An Islamic Perspective

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ala Deena Amano de la haka to party he was tamo tuna Illa and Muslim moon.

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y yo la coup, the coup

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de la Rasulullah, who for the third 1000 navina.

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Brothers and sisters in Islam.

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The divorce rate in the world is at its highest.

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Every 26 seconds in the United States of America, there is a divorce, one divorce

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in America.

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Muslims are also affected by that every two minutes and 55 seconds in Egypt. There is a divorce

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a case.

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There are children who are born into this world

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don't know their parents don't know their fathers.

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I have somebody who runs a daycare in Virginia. He tells me as 25 kids in that daycare 13 of them don't know their fathers.

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Now

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rape,

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domestic violence.

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So I'm sorry, I can't hear you haven't seen me in a long time. But today happens to be February 14.

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Valentine. So Valentine is not really working.

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That concept of a relationship between a man and a woman. Now it can actually be taken beyond that

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is not that

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the concept of love

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in Islam is totally different.

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Love is an emotional inclination towards somebody.

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Now, this can be triggered or motivated by their character.

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their appearance, or their sexual revealing. Like he's muscular she is wearing this.

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That's one type of love.

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But let me begin with this.

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When Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked

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by us,

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who do you love most our messenger of Allah. He said, I love your love. And

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so love is there. There is love in our lives. This could happen.

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Now, imagine this brothers and sisters in Islam. I Isha. She married the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam. Three years after the death of her deja

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hajiya deja vu LaWanda

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was the only one wife during her life. I she says bye

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Allah, I have never felt jealousy towards another woman, the prophet was married to other women at the time, my jealousy from Khadija.

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So where is her region?

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Where is her deja deja is dead three years ago. But yet

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she is jealous of a dead woman. Just to show you

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that the age difference and you can imagine what the age difference when we evolve age wise, our appearance changes our finger changes, we will not the same anymore. Imagine the age difference between the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And Khadija was significant that 15 years we don't have an evidence, but we know it was a significant age difference between the two.

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Yet the Prophet sallallahu wasallam still had the love for her, even after her death.

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Now, this particular conversation between Asia and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will introduce to you the concept of love in Islam, how does it work? One day, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on artificial and Evita would one day the Prophet was sitting with Arash

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Khadija used to have a sister, whose name is Helen.

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That's her name.

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And she used to have a voice at denticle to the voice of Khadija.

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So one day the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is sitting with Ayesha inside and he heard the voice of Halla outside the room. Look what he said for Talia salty Ha.

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You know what that means?

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Call her employees. The sister of her region.

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See that reaction? Tell you don't control?

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No.

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You know what, what I should know.

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What's wrong with you?

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Hamra should carry me she was older than you her key falling down. Of course, we need to understand the position of Ayesha here. So don't go against Asia. No, no. She's a wife. That's the test. She found out that her husband, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who assume that he is in love with her still thinking about a dead woman that you need to understand her position here.

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She is dead. Abdullah Kala Hiram minha. Allah subhana wa Taala has replaced you better than her. Why are you talking about her? Here it is. This is the line that I want you to go home with brothers and sisters in Islam from this football. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to Asia, East Asia, la cada Rosie to obey her. Her love

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was placed in my heart

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and hopefully Islam.

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This is loving Islam.

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That when you love somebody, because there is no brothers and sisters in Islam and your buddies,

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you have no control over.

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You don't control

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the heart. And I'm talking about the spiritual heart. Not the medical heart, the spiritual. You don't control the thought. Kala sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in Kaluga Benny Adam, Bina aasbo Amy Min asabe era man eukanuba Keisha indeed the hearts of the children of Adam are pleased to have Allah His fingers and don't visualize the lies fingers just say Subhana Allah and if the shaitaan plays with your head, get you to visualize fingers of Allah Subhana Allah because Allah is above that cool lumada vivatic follow the philosophy that

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this is something that Allah does. The love. So it this pie which Valentine,

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bollywood, Hollywood, bro mood. This type is called lust for love.

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Love, it's a love, but last fall it has to do with the last delusional

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It ends in bed

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if I am cold, it is

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Ah, and that's a very dangerous thing if it gets to you. We read some biographies of people who used to be like Antonio and Cleopatra, he's willing to give up being a king, just to go for a woman because of that loss for love. This is the time they want brothers and sisters in Islam. And this is the type

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which use of Allah Salatu was Salam found himself facing one day, the first lady in Egypt. In surah. Yousuf Yousuf was extremely good looking, beautiful man. Kala sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, Look at

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our route here, you sufu one

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shot, Roger, Noctiluca imagine use of was given half of the beauty of the creation.

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But this lady supposed to be his foster mother,

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when when her husband brought us home from the slave market

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will call a lady Stata whom Mr. Oliveira at a creamy mouth wha hoo. As a foreigner.

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He defined the relationship between his wife and use of a mother son relationship, but again,

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oh, last for love came in. Imagine when the word got out. We'll call a nice word to him. Phil Medina, TIMA, Aquila, zz Torah.

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Goddess Chava ha ha hopper. Imagine the first lady is said using her sleeve, and her sleeve turned her down.

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She's willing to do that, because of that last follow up. And that's the tie. You don't want brothers and sisters in Islam. And this subject is in a way in our Muslim communities is a taboo like they call you have children who are teen aging, and you're supposed to talk to them about this stuff, but nobody does. Because it's there. It's something that is we're born with brothers and sisters in Islam. A relationship between a man and a woman is to be defined in marriage. There is no such a thing called love your Valentine case you go to bed together and then we get married. We don't have this in Islam, brothers and sisters in Islam. When the scholars listed v five holistic

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aims objectives of this religion

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be Samudra Hama Casa de Sharia. Imagine every do and do not do in Islam is to serve five aims five thing is to pour into the protection. Number one of the religion

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your religion,

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don't dare compromise your religion.

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Don't because this is why Allah created you.

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This is the purpose of your creation, call it Allah Allah says wanna holla to Jean our insert al le Abu imagine you living in this world

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are not worshipping Allah.

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You're a man without a purpose, to the protection of the human life killing, taking the life of another human being and just leave without adjust calls. Number three, which is relevant to Valentine, which is relevant to my subject, I look how they call it.

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Three names, the protection of the progeny.

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The protection of the lineage

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and the protection of the honor.

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Have Vanessa have oneness? hefele the only aim which has three names, because these three names are men. What do you mean lineage? What do you mean? progeny? What does it mean progeny.

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You see, and this is why a lot of people don't understand why Islam and religions in general, stand

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firm.

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Even if the whole world changing, stand firm in the face of LBGT. Why MZL?

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Why? Because May Allah forbid. But imagine if this is the scenario here. This is the most awful scenario. Imagine if every one of us becomes this the same gender

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thing, what is going to happen to the race of Aram?

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What is going to happen?

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I was looking at the news the other day.

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And, you know, the Prime Minister of Italy was complaining to his citizens saying, guys, you're not having enough babies. I just watched this yesterday, he was talking to the people who don't have enough babies, what's going on with you? They want to have children because a lot of responsibility. Imagine the Italian Prime Minister complaining about not having enough children. That means our race is gonna Imagine if we're gonna go saying gender now. What is Adam? It's gonna take 4050 years for us

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to vanish, that's why we're there. So have a look at this, that approach and he also look at Islam.

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A child, an infant is in title to be born into a house where there is a man and a woman called the husband and a wife. That's the right of the child. Why do you take the right of the child away? And and you go and you sleep somewhere with somebody on Valentine getting drunk, and you sleep with somebody in Valentine? Oh, I'm

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pregnant. I'm pregnant. I'm having a baby. I don't know you.

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Why you're infringing the right. You're you're you're transgressing against the progeny that pro honor. Honor. That's why it is one of the conditions for the validity of a marriage contract is the consent of

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our lead. Imagine this

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a human law to Nebuchadnezzar, the newly falaka who has kochava Bothell Burton, any woman who goes and he gives herself in marriage without the consent of her father. Her marriage is invalid is adultery. The contract is invalid. Why? Because it's the honor of the husband. How would you like to find out? Oh, Daddy, I got married last week. Oh, really? Oh, wonderful.

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What is the honor of this man? The brothers and sisters in Islam

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any other want to take over my time here I'm looking at the clock. Any civilization?

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Any?

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What is the word here?

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Any Renaissance?

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any nation

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for you to advance to move forward and keep going.

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You must have two fronts

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to sustain to keep going. Number one, the knowledge

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the technology the iPhone 1112 1314 the Mac Yeah, you need that. Look at the story where I lay my MLS akula look at the first story, a laptop Adam the names of things. But there is another front which can bring that civilization down, which is the moral front.

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We see in our world in America. As we go up with technology, what is going down

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and read history

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or even have Vitaly has a beautiful statement is steady. Dima lamea Khun Bhima can for in the Moorish development. History repeats itself. That's the English version of that. Look at the Roman Empire. What brought them down. Look at the Greek, not the iPhone, not that acknowledges the morality. That's why me a new we come to the United States of America. And I can tell a lot of you are immigrants like myself, to benefit from this community. We are to give them the salvation and the salvation is in Islam. If you want to help America, in Islam is being a Muslim, a devout Muslim marriage, the way of Islam Love the Way of Islam, not the Valentine. If you go and do the Valentine,

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you're contributing

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and you're being a hypocrite I'm sorry

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because you have something better to offer them.

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen

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wa will humble hussen what Sunnah Jamil

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what Shadwell ilaha illallah wa ala sharika yaku haka bajo de surreal

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y shadow Anna Mohammedan Abu Rasulullah

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sallallahu alayhi. Wa early he was hired he was well

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while Amanita homea son in Isla de

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when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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migrated from Mecca to Medina to establish the first Muslim community ever known in the face of this earth.

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He did two things.

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He did two things.

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Number one, he built the machine.

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Why?

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Because the most important relationship you have is with a law

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to connect you with Allah.

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The Masjid

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and the second thing that he did

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he made people

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become brothers.

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Love one another.

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Ever heard that? I'm still connecting this to Valentine. I haven't changed the subject.

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But have you ever heard I love you for the sake of Allah.

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I love you. I love you because you're a Muslim.

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I love you because you're a Muslim. He did that.

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Imagine it's the first type of hegira that you can think of people now when people migrate from their countries to their place, they are afraid they're going to take away their bread. They're going to take away their earnings. Oh, the refugees are coming they're going to take away my jobs emerging. Imagine when you go to Medina, as an immigrant, you get half half

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of the roadmap now took Saudi Arabia said take half and here is my wife I have more than one wife and be careful here when you explain that to non Muslim you should say that

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I'm willing to divorce one of them and if she chooses,

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like we said our father has to be consented also the girl has to be consented or the wife has to be consented. If she chooses to marry you, she's yours.

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That imagine that machines

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what happened to us brothers and sisters in Islam? What happened to our time?

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You know,

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I'm coming

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you know to help out.

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But I'm telling you, you can reduce the most fascinating by loose in the whole world.

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But if you don't have the hearts

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the love one another for the sake of Allah

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serving the cause of Allah

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anything can be manipulated the Koran is can be manipulated.

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Did you know that? When when olive oil if sent Abdullah hobnob bass, viola Juan Houma to debate with our rich

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you know what he said to him? Jay dill homebase be sooner the bay use the sun for in the Quran.

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The Quran can be manipulated,

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can be taken out of context. Even Fox News say kill the infidels. What do you find them? That's what you call manipulation of the text. But the first doesn't say that. It doesn't mean that at all. It's confined to a certain criteria a certain time for the point here. If that love for the sake of a law is not there in our lives as a Muslim woman. No set of bylaws will solve your problems. So for you brothers and sisters in Islam, to make a change. Let's go back to the deen. Let's go back to understanding our religion and love one another for the sake of Allah. Imagine the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam and I want to close with this My time is almost up here. And hadith of Raja Halima

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Muslim Hadith vihara Allah Viola when he says, By the one in whose hand my soul is, well let enough CBN lend that the whole agenda you will not enter Jannah

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unless you believe Hata to look at the next

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Welcome to mineral hot

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boo.

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And you will not be able to have a man in your hearts unless or until you love one another for the sake of Allah.

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Allah,

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Allah Shea in either file to move the head up to, can I help you with one thing? If you do, you will love one another for the sake of Allah, a shoe seller Marina come spread peace. And a lot of the people they make peace here in that context of the Hadith exclusive to saying Salaam Alaikum la peace Meaning what? Men salema Muslim una melissani that I am protected from your tongue. Back bye backbiting, gossiping, slandering. And I'm protecting protected from your hand. That's peace. When I look at my brother, I don't expect harm to come from this brother. That's peace brothers and sisters in Islam. We ask Allah subhanaw taala I'll be here this weekend, I will be holding a couple of

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meetings. And I'm here brothers and sisters in Islam. I've been in this community before, and I have what keeps me busy in Colorado, but you know, I feel

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obliged to come and help in any capacity I can in any capacity I can. But again, this is your community. We have children here. You know, we want to prepare a better place for them, a better environment for them. And you're living in a place where you're fitness. If we have fitness in Colorado, maybe 50% European maybe 75 or 80%.

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So your work, your amount of work should be what way up because of these establishments that you have around you where you're living. So we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, to guide us all and to guide me and everybody to better the condition of this community so that we can move forward in sha Allah. Allah who McPhee Luna Luna, what is the law of anarchy and Marina was a bit of them and Ensenada como Catherine Allahumma en el haka ha Kawasaki nativa. Were in Alberta balaclava. Tina, Allahu manana who became in and fifth and Navajo Rahman one baton. I mean, Allah ma fitna Ilana to Hippo toda la has been our scene lol diva taqwa. Allah maganda de Allahu Medina. Divina.

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Eliminate

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a Hola Hola.