The Higher Objectives Of Marriage In Islam
Channel: Karim Abuzaid
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In this Jumuah Khutbah/Talk Sheikh Karim discusses the higher objectives of marriage In Islam
Friday Khutbah delivered in Atlanta, Georgia
October 21, 2016
Brothers and sisters in Islam,
Yoku Foley Yun,
a dino Jarrah. Lisa datil, Basha.
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Allah subhana wa tada sent the messengers
revealed the books.
Allah subhanho wa Taala given us our religion, in order to create happiness in our individual lives and in our lives as a community.
The religion is a source of happiness.
One will find happiness in this world and success in the hereafter. If he implement sha Allah, the religion of Allah in His individual life and in a community sphere in general.
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whosoever amongst you, Allah subhana wa tada says in the Quran, whoever amongst you believes in Allah believes in the books in the messengers believes in that deed with certainty without any shadow of doubt. And he confirmed that believe with the action.
He will have a good life in this world fella no he Anna who hire Tom. Eva, this is in the dunya
in the Hereafter, while energy ziana whom Allah Jalla whom bx anemia can we are married and in the hereafter they will be rewarded for the best thing that is done.
The best act you're done, your reward will be in accordance to this best act.
Look, woman arada and decrease in Allahumma, Isha tanganga whoever turns his back to this Diem to the message to the messengers to the books, he will have outdone life, miserable life dunk.
This is in the dunion, one actual Julio malkia. Matthew flf era and in the Hereafter, he will be raised up blinded,
blinded, he's unable to see.
He will actually say, Well, how come I was able to see in the dunya. Yeah, you were able to see with your eyes, but your heart never was able to see the dean.
kohlrabi, Rima shorten Yama, contumacy, right, giving you the eyes so that you can find that in the religion.
Brothers and sisters in Islam,
one of the greatest subjects of our times now, because we do have a lot of people who cast doubts about the deen that religion misconceptions is understanding the higher goals behind the laws behind the commands in Islam. You see, when Allah subhanho wa Taala tells you pray five times a day. This is not just to give you a hard time. This is just not to stop you from work in law, there is a higher objective behind it. When Allah subhanho wa Taala tells you to lower your gaze, there is a higher goal behind it.
Even in our day to day life, when you tell somebody do this, you know what why are you asking me to do this? Why?
Imagine Allah commanding us to do this enough to do that.
So there must be a wisdom
behind these commands. And the greater wisdom is to make you happy in this world and to give you success in the hereafter that you will inherit gender and this is what the scholars call it. nakasu Deen
mocassin to Sharia.
I know the word shereena was like the recording now with the you know, it goes up and down. Now. Sheree is very scary. But the objectives of the Sharia law Sharia is a Solomon of the Sharia hora de de noir sherea
sherea hora de Moutinho Sharia. It's the same word that says it's it's equivalent to Deen
studying the objectives of the religion is
Very important, number one for you not to fall into these misconceptions. People know, your religion, Till's flooding, is Kalamata is not good, there is an objective behind it, there is a goal behind it.
Listen, it's not just for to give us a hard time there. So you're able to immune yourself from the misconceptions. It's a good field for that are two that you let a non Muslim know why this command is like this? What is the purpose? What is the objective behind this? For the sake of time?
The scholars of saloon from the past said every single do in the Quran and the sounds when every single and do do not do do do not do do this do not do this. They all poor in five areas
to protect five areas, number one to protect the dean the religion, because why would you create it?
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So what is the what is the objective behind your creation is to be
a worshipper of Allah. So if you do not achieve this, you lost your goal, you're really doing something else. That's not the purpose for what you're creating. So the protection of the religion,
to the protection of the human life, higher the sanctity of the human life, that you can just go and bomb people like this, kill people like this, go into place and just shoot people, huh, they accuse Islam of this Islam actually stands firm, this is against the dean against the religion.
The one I'm after today is the third one, the protection of the progeny. And I will leave it and I'll come back to it.
Number four, the protection of the intellect.
The human intellect, because without intellect, look, look how many people people die in America every year because of drunk driving. Number four in the list, by the way, causes of death in America. Why? Because you end up
losing your your intellect. Number five, the protection of the individual property, you're entitled to your wealth, no one can take it away from you. So all the commands in the Quran in the sun, do this do not do this. They are aimed at protecting these five areas.
The one that I'm after today, and I hope the time is going to be generous with me
is the protection
of the progeny.
And interesting enough that the scholars given that particular objective three names call they said hefele NASA and NASA I'm sorry, that's number one have been Nestle hiff danessa b Hubble l v.
So that particular objective was given three names.
Number one, the protection of the progeny, what is the progeny to make sure that the race of Adam is ongoing.
It doesn't stop
that we're producing the production.
And this is why homosexuality is always unlawful.
And we're gonna say, listen, we live in a country where sexual preferences are protected by the Constitution of the United States of America are not going to interfere with your sexual preference. But you know what? I'm going to tell you it's a lawful according to the religion. Why? Because it defeats the purpose. When a man and a man sleeps together are going to have babies, when a woman and a woman sleeps together are going to have babies.
Imagine if this is would spread while the rest of them is gonna vanish from the face of this earth. That is why it's unlawful.
Trump and Hillary were talking about abortion and they went head to head on it, you know, even though I disagree with Trump on the major issues, but I agree with him on the issue of abortion.
Of course, I have to be clear here because he did not emphasize that if there is danger on the life of the mother, it is known in the Sharia that if that baby will cause the mother danger, then it can be compromised. We understand this but it has
To be eminent and present, not assume not because she doesn't feel like having babies. Oh, well, I'm not ready for babies.
Oh, let's not blame the sisters. We love our sisters here. The brothers, brothers, you know, babies are very expensive. I'm going to have to have insurances, and I don't have money if I don't have a job, brother. So let me kill the baby, huh? Nah. Why? The protection of the brijuni the human
that protects look in China, what they do, they allow you and baby you can do this, when you actually want to live
In LA, don't kill your children, because of the fear of poverty, do not kill your children, because you're assuming that poverty will come to you.
The first meaning is the protection of the progeny.
Add to this, the protection of the lineage
that you want to make sure that the lineage is preserved, that you're having children, grandchildren, grandchildren, and the protection of the honor of the individual. This is why brothers and sisters in Islam, Allah subhanho wa Taala has legislated
as our marriage,
to protect those three.
Number one, it protects the progeny the children,
a man and woman who sleep together out of wedlock and out of wedlock, they don't normally have kids. And if they do have kids, they have it out of mistake. And that's where the abortion takes place. But when a man and a woman get married, together, they will be encouraged to have children.
Why because they have a stable will add to this to this is why adultery is unlawful in Islam. Guess what it is the right of the progeny of the babies of the children who are born into this world, to be born to a father and a mother committed to the cause, not to a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Not to some guy slept with some women and he got pregnant and he ran away. And she has to go and do a DNA in order to prove
that's why all these laws are there. This is why this religion came to institutionalize this to to make this law to make this rule to make these things rules, not just according and anytime you stray from these rules, you find yourself in total confusion.
So marriage protects the progeny, the production, and also the fact that the new generation comes into this world to a house where there is a father and a mother, husband and wife living together. While law one I have a brother who runs a daycare in Virginia.
Last time I talked to him, he told me
I have almost 20 kids in my daycare, one lie, he swears by Allah 17 of them do not know their fathers
do not they do not know their fathers. And this is why By the way, America is heading into a very interesting route. Because that creates a lot of psychological problems because the natural course a father and a mother living together, bonding together. So the protection of the progeny. Marriage protects the lineage
that this baby when he is born, who's his father, you don't have to go and DNA and then he could love his father is so and so that is a marriage contract. A year ago, two years ago, he said I accept her in marriage, he made a vow in front of everybody. And it was announced this baby is the son of so and so. That That is why if new Xena the son of adultery, the one who comes out of adultery, he is defeated psychologically in the society. Who's your father mirrabooka which are a
The protection of the honor that's the third word, the honor of the Father.
Yeah, it's one of those three has been an awful sin. Throughout history, in every religion, even in America here and I challenge you 100 years ago, a man and a woman sleeping together as a lawful
is bad Shame on you in America. Shame on you.
For law that the ideal way
The right way, the husband and we're gonna see this after Juma in sha Allah
Bismillah salat wa salam ala rasulillah is the heart Allah tala, I'm asking your daughter in marriage will you give her to me.
And it's a condition. The consent of the father is the condition for the marriage because that his honor,
that his dignity.
Sisters right now they go and marry without the consent of the Father. and thereafter we felt was weak that was
marriage is invalid without the consent of the Father. But be careful. Some fathers end up abusing that authority. They force their daughters into marrying certain people that you can do that. Also, the wife has to be asked the future wife, the woman has to be asked if she's okay with so it's a mutual decision between the father and the mother. And if the Imam, a Muslim, a Muslim and kaeleen sees that the Father is manipulating that authority, he can actually transfer that authority to someone else. Take it away from the Father. Just to show you that Sharia is perfect. There is no leaks. Allah Al Hakim, hobby Lrd brought it up. It's a curriculum for our lives. But the problem is
we compromise these laws, brothers and sisters in Islam.
is a beautiful institution
is is a bonding
institution in our lives. What is Vedic all the messengers and the prophets who were sent? They got married, one after the other cell now Rasulullah means public we love Him as well.
We have sent to you before you all Mohammed messengers before you and we made them have spouses and wives and children.
In America, viola one
Lima Muslim society.
three individuals came to the house of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
asking about his a bad
sir, and without going into the Hadith did Lindsay Lindsay and it could take us away from the subject. But at the end of the day, one of them said you know what?
I will not marry women.
These women and children who will distract me from worshipping Allah, be more devoted to Allah, which they call in Christianity, Rania, celibacy, he said, No, I will not marry woman I will give up this. By the way, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he heard this he got on the bobet and he said Naka Samia tumaco Lara, I heard what those three individuals said. One of them by the way, said I will fast every single day non stop. One of them said I will pray the head every single night non stop extreme extreme. Even in that area, good area extreme. The prophets Allah Sallam said by Allah, I'm the most knowledgeable amongst you who Allah is. And I'm the most fearful of Allah. I
listen, I fast and I break fast.
I break the head to that night and I sleep at night. And I marry a woman.
I marry a woman what will cashew nuts he This is my Dean from America and sweet nutty fella is 70 brothers and sisters in Islam.
is a very tough deal.
I remember these days quite well where I get what I came from. They used to show us the soap operas normally 30 episodes just to match Ramadan.
And you know the the story is very interesting a man and a woman are in love with one another and every day they as they try to get married and some guy odd guy comes in and his boys that deal that the interesting thing they get married in the 30th episode.
Now the series is all and they tell you they got married and they live happily ever after happy.
They lived happily ever afters. There is part two they never show to you.
Imagine this year. Howdy. This is a Muslim. Howdy Jen.
Abdullah Ravi Allahumma
Listen carefully, every single day in the morning
in the shade upon Allah Arusha who Allah, Allah, Satan, the big guy, the guy who never dies, jinn do die, except Satan. Like it that jet. He's living some weird exemption.
Every single day he places his throne on what
is he like he saw a lot having a throne up there.
He had a thrown down on wood. I like the throne of Allah on water grater that he wanted to have a throne also in woods and all his Genie helpers from the gin with come to him reporting in the morning.
He would say the following to them.
Men are leiomyoma Muslim and Al best to attach. Whoever does the greatest job today in misguiding Muslims. I will crown him with my own hands tonight.
I will place that Bryce is you're gonna receive a crown tonight.
The guy is dedicated to the job at sunset. They convene again.
And they come reporting
to him their accomplishments for the day. Watch this. And this is all by the way. I'm just giving you the meanings of the Hadith. I'm not making that stuff up. One of them will stand up and say Well, today I was able to get a Muslim to kill another Muslim and say Good job.
Good job Sit down.
Today I was able to get a Muslim to drink
to commit adultery, you name any major sin space, you name it, until this one stands and he says I did not leave a husband and a wife today until I separated them.
You know what He will say to him? Now the N
and the N You are my man come.
Just think about it, reflect about it, reflect upon it, reflect, reflect. Adultery is a major sin. Killing is a major sin in Islam. Drinking is a major sin, by the way, and I'm not encouraging you to divorce your wives.
Divorce is not Haram.
It's disliked in some cases, but it's not Haram. You can as long as you're going to divorce the woman give her rights back and respect her you can do this. But brothers I'm not encouraging you to do this.
But the question here why Satan was more excited
of someone who divorced than the others. You don't understand.
You see, like marriage brings us together.
Today you're going to see two families, maybe one from the east one from the west
are coming together. Because of the men and the women.
joining you join Mahatma Islam. Islam is keen on joining us together, whether through a lineage rather through the love for the sake of Allah, brotherhood sisterhood, but being together. togetherness is a key in Islam. And this is one of the ways to do it.
Like marriage does this you know what? Divorce does the opposite?
Imagine those two families uniting divorce is what?
add to this That guy is so strategic. Why? Because when there are children born to this marriage,
they are the one who paid a price for the divorce. Well, I echo a lot of the brothers who say Salaam Alaikum I would like to divorce my wife while he The first question I asked him, brother, Do you have kids? Yes, brother, you're stucked
because what will happen here
is that babies are going to be brought up by another man
or another mother.
Add to this Muslims right now they have no Taekwondo divorce when they divorce men.
Either one of the brothers and Egypt. I called him a sheikh inshallah I'm going to hide this year.
And I'm going my ex father in law.
He reverses dude, but he's still going to hide with him. Now you can divorce in Islam without what creating lava Muslims now I'm gonna bring her down to her knee. I'm gonna make her pay and he
goes to the
guess who hears all of this? So the baby with the Father he's gossiping about his mother, your mom, is this your mom? Is this your mom? Is this your mom? And when he goes to the Father, the mother, your father, is this your father?
It's total chaos brothers and sisters in Islam. total chaos. So marriage is an institution that is very challenging.
There is a verse from the Quran. They call it a a to say, the verge of sorcery. LMT verse, whatever omata to show up in Walla multifuel. Amen, amen. Amen. Well
look at this verse.
The gin or how Ruth and Ruth are teaching the people witchcraft, sorcery.
Look, fire to Allah moon amin Houma.
Una de bien el Moro.
Allah subhanho wa Taala emphasize the most devastating act of witchcraft of sorcery that you use it to separate husband and wife.
You could use it to do other things, but this is the most dangerous thing that you go. And sometimes we hear in our backyard that the guy that cannot have his wife because he's more bootable like he's locked or something is sorcery.
Because of this brothers and sisters in Islam,
their religion interfered with your choice of a spouse.
The religion interfered with your spouse your choice of a spouse.
Look at address the man
How do you say hi.
To him Kahala truly
a woman is asked in marriage because of four reasons for incentives. There are four things that drive a man towards a woman.
Look at this now gemelli her her physical beauty there is nothing wrong with that, by the way that you marry a beautiful woman there is nothing wrong with that.
Too gnarly her. Her money. She has good education college is going to
take care of some of the bills.
Nurse Abby, her or her shabbiha her lineage in America he'll idea she's gonna give him a green card. She's gonna get a green card lineage. She's American, she's gonna give a green card
for venia because of her Deen
which one your rasulillah which one look at this. For for be there, Dean 30 better.
You better choose the one with the dean. Otherwise, one of the ways to explain that 30 about the attack, you gotta put sand in your head.
If you just go marry a Barbie, beautiful. If you just go marry for the money, she's gonna enslave you. You lose your cover.
Aslan your karma your manhood over the hobbema I'm fakuma Molly comunale for the law, ba ba ba ba ba ba Ma Ma if you allow your wife to take on half of the response, you lose half of your column. And that's why I tell the brothers you know his wife works and pays half of the bills. And and he wants to dictate that this habibollah decisions now 5050 you lost half of your colon.
look at this, which one should I choose your Rasul Allah Dean?
Because in practicality, we go back to the protection of the progeny.
before you're choosing a wife for yourself, you're choosing a mother for your babies.
As well as what to do Ellie,
one of the predecessors alumni of the law and appointed him to
design the grammars for the Arabic language.
He called upon his children one day and he said to them, yeah, Benny, yeah. My children. I was good to you before marriage, and after before you were born and after you were born.
So they looked at him and said, Father, we know how good you are to us. After we were born. We saw that you really were. But what do you mean before we were born? You know what he said to them? If
I chose a mother for you that you can be proud of. can say this is my mother.
When I chose your wife, your mother, my wife, I was thinking of you.
The same thing? Yes.
What applies to the sisters? Either Jakku mentor Luna hula hula Deena
when someone comes proposes to you to your daughter's, again the Hadith is addressing addressing the garden because I go the same point a women cannot give herself in marriage without the consent of her father or guardian, whoever or guardian is. Now if someone come proposes to you, you look for two things character and Dean, religion.
You give this your daughter's in marriage to those people. Why? Because you're trying to bring up the new generation and the right environment. But above all, in order to face all these challenges, which are created by Satan, the head of disbelief in the face of this earth, rock solid poof is after your marriages.
He wants you to divorce your wives, and he's gonna do everything.
When you make the right choice. That's why the Sharia the religion told you, this is the wife that you should go for sister, this is the husband whom you should go for, number one, to protect your children to make sure that they are brought up in the right environment. And number two, to simply face the challenges of kuqali Head Start.
Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Hill humble Hassan
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shadow Allah ilaha illallah wa de la sharika yaku serene y shadow Mohammedan Abu Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam brothers and sisters in Islam in the light Allah after Juma we have a new calf
daughter inshallah, we will be talking a little bit more about Jani in brief in Sharla about the subject and the importance of the subject. But, you know, maybe my talk was more tuned towards brothers and sisters who did not get married yet
that you still have a chance
to make the right choice.
And don't compromise these instructions in the religion.
But I'm looking at the cloud here and I'm seeing almost 80% including myself already made the choice.
So hopefully I'm not inviting you to go and dissolve that marriage and start over. That's not my intention at all.
I think there is a better way to handle this is to reform yourselves.
You know sometimes you know if when you begin with yourself and straighten out your lives in accordance with the religion of Islam in accordance with the commands of Allah subhanaw taala in this in itself when your spouse sees this when she when he sees this that Masha Allah you're keeping up with the five daily prayers. You're not doing the Haram stuff, Masha Allah, my husband is this is the best way to give doubt your spouse
and you have to be patient. You have to be extremely patient. And one of the reasons for divorce in the Muslim world right now that a husband and wife married together on basis other than the religion on a premise other than the religion. My mother told me to marry him. She is a Barbie. She has the money. And the brother or the sister normally this happens with the sisters more she goes through that message and she hears that.
We're happy ma'am. I'm just kidding. Either that ma'am. And she just wouldn't become now Mrs. righteous. She just want to turn the house around.
And you want to change your husband in 24 hours. All the kids in basically extreme law. Listen, remember the contract was not on that basis. You guys when you married together, the religion was not even a valuable was not even an element. It was not so why are you bringing it in the middle of the game. So now let's start over you You're doing good. I will try to be a better person. What I'm trying to say is
Start with yourselves. Reform your lives and allow your wives allow your husbands allow your spouses to grow in that relationship with Allah subhana wa tada and hopefully this will take the whole family by Elijah Allah to a safe haven as they say, less Allah subhana wa tada Ania Fabiana Min kulu Allahumma
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