An Ideal Muslim Family
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Allahumma salli ala Muhammad, Allah Allah Muhammad cannot isolate Allah Ibrahim
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My dear respected brothers and sisters in Islam, Salaam Alaikum, warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
My name is Carrie mabuchi them from Colorado.
I'm charged with community center there for the community.
Now my father,
I migrated also, like a lot of you here from Egypt. I've been in this country for almost 25 years,
I do have a family and children.
And, you know, it is one of the most the most challenging things to live here is the children.
It's very unfortunate that
a lot of Muslims, they come from Muslim land, and
America does offer a lot more than at least what we could have back home.
And, in the midst of this, we we lose our children, we
and there is a statement out there which I always repeat, it's a little bit aggressive, maybe or offensive to some of you, but I think a lot of Muslims they offer their children as a Kobani to stay here in America.
They give them up there and I mean by by giving them up
giving up their religion, their Muslim identity.
Because it is the responsibility of the family
to protect the religion of of the Muslim child
when the scholars of Serbia
define the term Serbia
basically Serbia is to upbringing a child you know to to raise
there is a big difference between the definition of non Muslims and Muslims to the concept of therapy. So what does it mean to raise up a child and the non Muslim
society, community environment culture,
they say to raise up a child who will have harmony with the surroundings with the environment
regardless of how this harmony is
provided through whatever it is,
but the scholars they tell you the the concept of Serbia and Islam is around one verse.
Yeah, you're Latina, Malou co amphoe Sacco alikum na
O ye believe protect your family, yourself first and your ash meaning your children
from the Hellfire
because we believe in the hereafter.
And now your job as a parent
is to actually protect the children and protect their D
if you're staying in America and the religion of your children is compromised or your wife your yourself
then why are you staying here?
Why are you staying in San Diego you know you could move somewhere else where you know it doesn't have to be out of America but can be to another state where you know you can actually protect your children.
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These verses few sarathi Lisa, verse 97.
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The scene is a scene of death. certain individuals are living in a in a land where they are a minority, they are weak. They could not practice the religion.
They could not protect their religion. They compromise their Deen. So the Angel of Death is asking them why in the world, you guys allow yourself to die like that.
So they will say, couldn't mustafina fell out? We couldn't do any better. Because we, you know, we couldn't control the you know, the the society we're in and then the angel will say they haven't been the earth of Allah expansive enough for you to travel. Why? Why didn't you Why did you stay there?
Why did you stay there? So to protect your DNA, I mean, you should you should protect your d.
o, f, or sometimes we, we only
think about the immediate offspring.
That story happened to me personally, I went to one of the restaurants with you know, when I travel around, and the brothers would take me out to the restaurant and
and I remember this very well, this waiter became very interested in me, you know, that's, you know, that's how I'm, I'm dressed and always hungry laughs at travel like that to I don't care.
What's wrong with this guy? He's looking at me all the time.
So I thought maybe I could utilize this as a moment of doubt, you know?
So he was passing by me. So I called him and I said, Hey, how you doing? You know, trying to maybe share Islam with him.
So what is your name? He said, my name is Mario.
And immediately I asked him, What kind of religion are you? What religion do you have? He said, I'm Catholic. But by the way, the reason I'm staring at you, because my grandfather looks exactly like you.
Yeah, it's like,
you cannot assemble these pieces together, there is discrepancies there, you know.
So your name is Mario, and you're Catholic, and your grandfather looks like me, looks like a Muslim.
So who is your grandfather? Is it Oh, there he was living in Spain. And then he came to Mexico.
And I'm the third generation Mario is the third generation.
Have you ever wondered how your third generation is going to look like what are you talking about your children living here?
If you compromise,
you know, 70% of their Islam, guess what their children will compromise another 20, another 30.
And their children, that's the danger by the way of living here. At least if you're back in a Muslim land, that society the community at large, still somehow can restore some of the deficit.
You know, close that at the hands of the patterns.
Or the vertical ilium America
has a very interesting opinion, which is against all the other jurists regarding marrying a non Muslim woman
you know, marrying a non Muslim woman, you know what he said?
You could marry a non Muslim and I'm even I mean by a non Muslim, I mean, Italian, Christian or
You could marry her in a Muslim land.
If that's the opinion phlegmatic.
But you shouldn't marry a non Muslim, Christian or Jew in a non Muslim land or the Muslims are a minority.
Why? Because there is a divorce. This what the child has gotten
what is the purpose of the institution of marriage in Islam? What is the purpose of it?
What is the aim
of marriage? Is the children
I mean, if you guys think there is any other aid beside this mean, hmm, I'm sure there are other aids, you know, fulfilling your desires and, you know, having some, you know, problems with your spouse which sweeten the life you know, makes it fun, you know,
you know, it's it's fun, life is fun, you know, sometimes with these things and, but really, the whole thing is about you
is about the children
the schoolers when they came up with the five holistic aims of the Sharia.
The first one is heavily Deen protecting your religion to have good laughs You protect the human life.
Three, Heaven, Nestle one l v.
There is a third word for it.
forgot it must have
the protection of the brijuni.
That is one
the protection of the honor of the Father that the relationship between a man and a woman should be in an marriage. But one of the names of the that holistic aim is to protect the future generation. And that's what's meant by the broodiness. The next. The child is entitled to be born into a house where there is a believing mother and I believe in Father Father to get married, not boyfriend, not girlfriend together.
That's the objective of marriage in Islam.
your loved one who
he made that statement every dunia mentioned that. Well, I said not. So here.
He said this will law he by Allah. In nee lucre who Neff seoladh nica had a huge number in a semitone to sub the Hola.
By Allah I force myself to get married and to have a relationship with my spouse. So that I will have offspring who will come out into this world who will say la ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasul Allah.
That's the project. You know, that's, that's what marriage is all about And for your information if you're a businessman, this is the best investment that you can make for your future and your future is the hereafter.
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He will say that Mr. Fairey while adekola this is your son, your daughter will want to know the meaning of walnut Hill does not mean the mean.
Well, it means what both
This is your child that does for you.
a child when we talk about the you know, the ideal Muslim family, this is the you know, you got to have a gay you gotta have a game plan here, you know, when you marry, you gotta have a game plan. And, and the game plan is why are we getting married? Why is for that reason I want to protect my religion as a husband. You want to protect your religion as a wife, and me and you would like to have children
who will be Muslims inshallah, and committed to Islam.
And very unfortunately, I fought and I tell you this with a heavy heart that 75% of the marriages at least that's really the last maybe 20 3040 years did not take place on that basis.
You know, we we came up with this culture of, you know, I call it lust for love, you know that it's baby baby that stuff you know, you green eyes you blue,
I mean, this is beautiful.
But, you know, this is not the foundation for a successful marriage.
And I mean by a successful marriage here a marriage that is intended to do that.
What is that like? The the Sharia, the religion interferes with your choice.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam address the demand because they are the initiators you know the one who initiate the marriage proposal.
He said in an authentic hadith a woman is seeked in marriage
because of four incentives
number one, her physical beauty and this is why the physical beauty is important and I mean don't don't mistake me here.
Rasul Allah wa sallam told her Maria at one time who proposed to a woman go and look at her because, you know, make sure that you like her. So it's important that you have someone who attracted to.
But that's not everything. That's not what I you know, that's what I'm trying to say. Her beauty to her money, her education, she's gonna help out with the, you know, with the family income and her lineage.
And very unfortunate with the lineage now comes her green card, she's going to give you a green card, especially if you're, you know, she's American. She's gonna give you she has a citizenship, she will give you a green card and her religion
for you which one?
Don't compromise the religion.
For be that it? Dini. 30? Better? Listen, you're actually supposed to go for the for.
Some of you may misunderstand this, if you're supposed to go for the four.
But don't compromise the religion. Don't sell out the religion for any of the three. Don't do that. You may compromise the three, but not the one. That's the message here.
Why? Why? Because simply, before you're choosing a life for yourself,
technically, you're choosing a mother for your children.
That's going to be the mother who will take care of your children
asked what to do. And he was the one who designed the grammars, the Arabic grammars when the Arab started messing up with the Fatah, the kasan. So I didn't have you thought about the law and giving him that responsibility of you know, designing the grammars in Falmouth for all animals who would
rule that kind of thing.
One day he called upon his children, and he said to them, the urbania My children,
son Tula come public. problema de de la Mola, diku.
I was good to you before your marriage, before your birth, I'm sorry. And after your birth.
So they looked at the father and they said, Father, we know how you were good to us after we were born. We experienced that but what do you mean by your good to us before we were born into this world, he said to them, external to law Come on man led to IR Olivia.
I chose for you a mother you're proud of. When I went to marry, I thought of you
had our little ninja.
We mentioned armor. A lot of us read this, read this offer. And you'll hear the people saying it all the time. But
we don't we don't go into the depths of it. When Omar was walking around Medina and he, he heard this conversation between the mother and the daughter. You're familiar with the author, right? about mixing the milk and cheating.
Oh, by the way, did not know who this girl is, by the way, he just it was dark. He just mark the house.
He didn't know how beautiful she is. Who was she? any of that he just marked the house. He just wanted to be able to come back, trace it back. And and he went and he woke up his children and he said one of you has to marry this girl. This is a good mother.
This is a good project. You know, that's how you look at it.
This is a good project and I want to tell you something well like a lot of the brothers
out there in especially the brothers who care about this. They they spend two to three years just to find a girl like that.
You know and and so Pamela you know a lot of our
girls, they are getting it wrong, you know, they they go out there and they take off the hijab and they were all type of flaws in order to be attractive so that they could get marriage proposals and well we're looking for that type. Men are looking for that type. A lot of brothers are looking for the type.
What about the sisters? The Sharia address the guardians are Allah to deserve witness.
The woman is not to give herself in marriage, nor she cannot be forced either. So it has to be a balanced approach here.
Hadith recently tirmidhi accom mantova donoho Luca Hua Deena hufa, would you? If someone comes to you and you tested two areas in this person, his character and his religion, then you better give your daughters in marriage to that person.
All right. Why, because if you choose others, it will be a fitness inlet a follow up on fitness and fill out your facade and cubbies. you're exposing your daughters to fitness.
When light breaks your heart, it was sometimes
you may go on, you may receive that phone call from a sister as a chef. Can you talk to my father because he wanted me to marry this man? Who doesn't pray? You know, sometimes these girls they will say he drinks we learned that he drinks so I call the brothers what's what happened? I mean, why are you doing this to your daughter? Oh, he's a doctor shape.
You know the doctor Okay, he's a doctor, but he drinks alcohol inshallah He will make Toba inshallah
why this is the guy who's gonna be the role model for your children.
You know, and, and, again, I go back to the, to the issue of the of divorce and
why there is a lot of family, you know, the divorce rate in some Muslim countries has reached 60% 60%. So every 100 marriages, we have 60 divorces
because of this, because their marriage did not take place on that foundation on that common ground.
And one of the most, you know, interesting situations that we face. I mean, it's not very common, but it comes every month maybe once or twice it
is you know, a brother and a sister they got married they their religion never been a valuable and their marriage in the relationship. They never discussed it. never discussed it. You know, they they they married on the basis of
you know, the Hollywood business I call it she's beautiful, he's beautiful, he's handsome, He's good looking. He's wealthy he's rich, whatever it is. So by all the sudden that sister goes to the masjid and she listen to this, you know, what have you she you know about you know about the religion she becomes interested about the religion you know, she's gradually now man, we're actually gonna die and this is temporarily life.
Whatever it is, she's waking up the lion Allah wakes up. Freeman Zilla kita Phil Phil
Thompson Mohammed Zilla, Talia Kava
Jani, you're in a state of heedlessness, and then by also Oh, man, what I'm doing here. What's going on with my life? So she wakes up.
So now she goes back home now she wants all the family to wake up. So
then guess what the husband will say to her man Allah had we never agreed to this.
Actually, sometimes the sister calls my husband doesn't want me to wear hijab
while I get this phone call every now and then he doesn't want his wife to wear hijab.
You know what what do you call this in the Sharia what they call this in Syria? It's a very offensive words they use what is the use that somebody shows up his family. Look at my guy. My wife is beautiful. See, guys, my wife is beautiful.
That's the type.
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The thing is, and here's the interesting piece. The sister wants to take the kids now because not only the husband, she want to reform the husband, she want to fix the children. So she went to take the children up to a full time Islamic school
to a weekend school. And here is the word they want my kids to be terrorists
to to learn who's Allah and Islam.
Big Issue and Alhamdulillah I see a lot of youth here. You know, we had a bad start. Maybe you can have your
Good start in the light odd
why why the start is is important is having that common ground because it also has to be that you are the most probably the ends will be good when the beginning is good is fixed the the end. But when you try to fix things halfway through, it becomes extremely difficult. There are a lot of obstacles, a lot of variables that that sometimes you may not be in position to change them to control them.
You know, here I am, and I'm canceling out that that that concept of, of love or attraction and all of this
How does Islam see these things? You know,
I always like to tell this example and it's a very profound example. You know, the most
fascinating love story I ever came across in my life was not Romeo and Juliet, you know,
that it's actually it's about adultery and suicide Romeo and Juliet. It's actually Rasulullah and Khadija look at this story out of this world.
Imagine a shot of the loved one.
She says that I have never been jealous of any of the wife of the prophet SAW Salah my jealousy from
the Buddhist, religious dead. We know that the prophet SAW said I'm never married until she died.
He did not have the multiple marriages, he had them for a particular reason.
But later on, she says she is dead, but I'm jealous of her.
Why? Because of the way he speaks about her.
To the extent that at one time, at one time
hadiza had a sister, whose name is Hannah.
And she had a very similar voice to her. When she speaks she would sound like a DJ.
For the Prophet Solomon sitting inside the room of Ayesha
and Halla is standing and talking to somebody outside. Imagine the Prophet sallallahu Sallam when he heard her voice. heard her call her Aloma sister.
Ashley, what's wrong with you?
That's Emma halakhah dairy farmer ship cleaning halachot Fedora with an old she was old older than you.
So that means anything for 15 years that there is no evidence for it. But we know that Khadija was older but there is no evidence for the 15 years.
halachot Allah has given you much better than her. Look what the prophet said. And that's really the definition of loving Islam.
That statement right here? Yeah, Asia, Asia lohagad Oh, zip to fuba How do you translate this into English? Her love was placed in my heart. I have no control over it.
And that's the thing brothers and sisters in Islam. I think we're getting that love thing wrong. As youth
you know, that type that the Hollywood and the Bollywood and I'm focusing on this because they also are not married yet. I really would like you to have a good start. Because we're
pulling our hair out in the drop. You know, the sand that the Prophet spoke about? The birth father forbid that Dini 30 but the other
this type is called the lash
lower they call it the last last something that finishes with your last when you fulfill your desire
but the love that they that that that Allah talks about that something that you find in your heart towards another person.
and I'm going to be you know silly here with what limb do you love? I mean, what is love is what is the limb where you have love towards others?
What is the name of them?
You love people with what
you love with the hat you love with the feet you love With what?
The heart? Okay, I'm gonna be really foolish or silly, whatever you want to call me. My heart. Love millette Can you do that?
Can you do that? Come on, answer me. Can you do that?
So who's gonna make my
have loved me Let
my heart is in the hands of who
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You will not find someone who truly believes in Allah and His Messenger has affection for someone who
doesn't love a lion, his messengers it's impossible because Allah will never direct that thought at least the heart is corrupt. That's another issue. But how Allah will direct the heart to love somebody who doesn't love Allah.
has a very interesting statement regarding showing up you know, we show off sometimes to impress people and, and make them like us. Showing off to Hi, Sam. So Hi Sam like me, in order to claim said, Carl Bowman to Torah II via de Manasa.
The heart of Haytham you're showing off for and you're disobeying me, you're supposed to be sincere is in my hand.
Be sincere to me, and I'll get heightened to like you.
That's the whole concept is is when when when you you have a relationship with a man or with a woman, spouse, relationship between husband and wife relationship on that basis, a lot will boost that affection between you.
Allah will Buddhists love between the husband and the man.
Even the non Muslims, they, they they, they say that, I mean, this is a very common statement, you will find non Muslim saying that a family that prays together
When you pray together, when you have that connection, and your life was so many times
I would get a counseling, you know, husband and wife at the verge of divorce, call us.
And I tell them, can you do me a favor of just one last resort?
Can you take your wife to ombre just go together? Just the two of you
will lie sometimes they come back most of the time they come back You don't even hear from them.
Because what would you obey Allah Subhana Allah.
that story I, you know, is one of the stories I
which happened and I told that it's it's available on YouTube, if you look at it, this is a very famous story out there.
And surreal story is not like
a fairy tale here.
It happened in the 70s. In Egypt, Iron Man went to the United Arab Emirates, you know, to work
and to make money.
So he worked for some 12 years or something. So, at one stage, he sent a letter to his father saying, Father, you know, I made enough money and hamdulillah I think it's time for me to come back and, and, you know, get married and have a family and his father used to be the chief, you know, the Imam of the village of the town.
You know, the little community here.
So Father, I trust you, you choose a wife for me. And you know, at the time that the only way to communicate was like, you know, letters and 70s you know, the early, late 60s and so forth.
I trust your judgment, choose a wife for me and you know what, I'll send you a power of attorney that would the marriage contract. And I'll let you know next later when I'm arriving so that we can have the wedding.
So they actually arrange everything that
you know that that this man would arrive by airplane, and he would have his wedding that night.
Catherine Subhanallah the airplane was delayed for one reason so he arrived after midnight the night of the wedding is already over soon arrives home Salam Alaikum Welcome back. Good to see you. You know your wife is still
I did what you asked me.
By the way, he didn't see her at all.
He trusted who trusted the shape.
The shape was too much into the you know into the text.
And he read the Hadith that the dean he didn't really pay very much attention.
So he entered inside the room.
I don't have
Have you ever bought a watermelon?
And you go home with it and you're excited, you're so excited, you know, you're gonna offer a watermelon and you open it and, you know,
you feel like you want to take it back and just smash it in the face of that guy who saw the tape. You know, that feeling? I mean, he had that feeling when he arrived.
He really felt this way, you know, like, and
you know, what's going on Father, I mean, you know, and one of the most relieving things by the way when you're feeling down is if you get to sleep, you know.
Even Allah subhanaw taala talked about the people of people have offered to Manzella la muchacha de la MI, MN mn attend wise.
If you're feeling down a little bit, if you're having that downside, just try to get an apple asleep or something, you will see that your mood will change. So he went to sleep
is very disappointed that the whole thing and he went to sleep. So look at this now by all the sudden and this is a true story, by the way, is not something that I'm making up here. I mean, the guy would tell told us the story multiple times.
The Mannion the husband, so by all the sudden is waking up with water being sprinkled on him, you know?
So he wake up and he sees her What's going on? He said, she said, Listen, I know that I'm not beautiful.
And I have never expected to get married in my life.
I only wanted to get married because of one thing. If you fulfill it for me in the morning, you divorce me and you take back your dowry, whatever it is, but just fulfill the thing for me. What is it? She said I like that sooner. Which you know, he fears to in that Hadith. Rahim Allahu La Jolla and calm I mean a lady for Salah Allah who will have mercy on a man who will pray at night who will wake up at night to pray to her good.
And then he will wake up his wife. So my papa for lm test a film navaja la Hellman.
And if she doesn't wake up, then he would sprinkle water on her.
Water him Allahumma attend farm at mineral Lady for solid and Allah will have mercy on a wife who woke up at night to break the head
to my heart Xhosa then she would wake up her husband for a Lamia staple. And if he doesn't wake up nahata Lee Hillman he would sprinkle sprinkle not poor if you're planning to do this sprinkle. Yeah.
So I sprinkled the water in you just wake up and leave me in the head you tonight and in the morning divorce me. I'm fine with that.
The man this man takes an oath that after they said Salam aleikum wa salam. I'm looking at her I'm looking at the most beautiful women I've ever seen. Everything changed. Whole thing changed. starting to like her. She's
the head of necrophilia howdy
Yana just to show you that if shaitan can do this, you don't think Allah can do that?
either. Harada tomorrow at two min at her
when a woman leaves her house wearing all type of
you know she she want to become an object of attraction
is the Surefire shaitaan shaitaan looks at her and he says well, how can I make a good use of you
and he will get the eyes to be attracted to her. So this is the work of shaitan. Nanny This is so Allah can change. But the point I'm trying to make here is do not compromise the religion of your spouse for anything else for money. Because money comes and goes for lineage.
No, the religion is a key because of of the children.
And also, I don't know if you're familiar with this hadith or not. Imagine every single day this happens you know the institution of marriage faces a lot of challenges.
Feehery few sila Muslim Hadith, Jabir ibn Abdullah of your loved ones.
in nasze, Aparna yabo Arusha who is equally a woman every single day in the morning shaitan places his throne on water
and the shayateen the gin has helpers would come to report to the to Him and He will give him will give them the incentive by saying what men our leiomyoma Muslim and Albus to hotel.
Whosoever Miss does the best job in misguiding our Muslim today I will crown you with my own hands tonight.
You know that the shayateen they change shifts when the shift in change shifts anybody knows when
sunrise sunset that's why the Prophet told us about when when when Muslim sunset is here you're an eco force will be take the children inside because the shayateen are under way to do their work. Who wouldn't do the angels change shifts
fudger and us feather on us
for imagine shaitan everyday he does this and at sunset he places his throne back in water in order to receive the report from those who work throughout the day and give incentive again to those who are to work at night. Look at this now. It's time to report their achievements or accomplishments for the day.
Hadith says that the genie will stand up I did not leave this Muslim until I got him to commit adultery Good job he did great I did not leave this Muslim until he got him to kill another mosque Good job.
You name it major sin none of them get the crown you know who will get the crown this Genie who will stand up I did not leave this husband and wife until I separated them
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and you are my man. Come
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euforia una vida yy, then shaitan is very strategic, by the way. Shaytan is he's shaitan lives, you know, we cycle we die, and I'm talking about the police. The gym, they do die by the way the gym has raised they do die too well, genuine injury or whatever.
But at least the big guy, the guy who refused to bow down to Adam he lives so he's looking for a long term strategic plan.
Children who are not brought up
in a loving
house between a father and a mother who see the father's fighting all the time with their mothers. Imagine divorce now how divorce happens
because who pays the price when there is a divorce? Who
the cake? Whoa,
I got a divorce. My wife is the brother. You know?
Do you have children?
He will say yes. Come on, work it out.
Work it out.
Because they will pay the price.
But if there is no kids and I'm not saying it's it's good. It should always work your relationship even if there is no kids. But what is gonna happen she's gonna go marry and he's gonna go Mary's find someone else. But who pays the price when there is a divorce when there is a discord, the children again.
That's why Shay Todd is his strategic strategic is looking for weaker generations that he can lead astray and so forth. Again, only a believing husband and I believe in wife will face that scheming of shaitan that loving of shape and they know that shaitan is after the marriage.
They have that knowledge and shaytan is gonna try to come and bring the school and conflicts in between them and the relationship they know that everyday their marriage survives is is they are successful and so forth.
I think I have until 830 so I have 15 minutes.
This is a research which we have done. I'm heavily involved with American Open University, I don't know if you're familiar with the Brother Blood Phillips.
And we've been working on this for the last five, seven years.
It's a research that that we done.
They tell you,
offspring who will keep the identity
in a non Muslim land in the West, because there is a lot of immigration, a lot of migration I'm sorry, a lot of heat a lot from the Muslim land to the non Muslim land
you must have three functioning institutions functioning
and underline the word functioning because we do have these institutions in place by the way,
but they are not functioning.
The first one I think I addressed
the foundation, the house and by the way, this one cannot be compromised. If you know a lot of the parents they produce these kids and they are not committed themselves. And they think they bring their parents to the shape in the masjid or the weekend school. Okay, take this for two hours I did my part you're dreaming.
If your daughter doesn't see you wearing the hijab, don't even ask her to wear the hijab don't come on.
If your son doesn't see you playing Don't even try it don't it's not gonna work
is the house is is the key.
And sometimes by the way, the other two institutions may work even though there is a defect in the
functionality if this is English,
but because of the house, it will they will recover
to be either happy
What is the first thing which always the people will challenge the messengers and the prophets was messengers and prophets they come to rectify to reform the societies
they take people from a better lifestyle to the pattern of the heat of Islam
what the first thing that they faced the messengers with is something that they call soon that will ever
in Argentina another oma we're in our 30s
we found our parents doing this we love our parents and want to do like what our parents imagine
for Imagine if you can utilize that you know if you can get your children to love you. And then you show them the beauty of Islam
they will love it.
But you know what we're not our relationship with our children is not on the basis of love. You know, there is
always that that that variable out there that you know we come to America and you know, we're used to being beating up our children and we because we were beaten up before and and it worked for us so but over here in America, it doesn't work, you know, it doesn't work. And so there is that you know, harshness in the relationship and at the same time the the husband is not practicing the wife is not practicing
and that's a big issue. So the first
institution that you must have in place is the Muslim family.
And how you do this is by choosing the right spouse for the job
imagine you know look into marriage as a project and you need a partner
you just have to look at it this sometimes you're gonna help me raise up my family my children Yeah, all that other stuff inshallah will come you know love and live. This is the common goal. You can you will overcome a lot of things. Yeah.
Well, I have high regard and respect for a brother who would be or a sister sometimes would be
Living in a in one state and they would be making six figures six figures you know what six figures right
yeah that term is good here yeah and and they would move because there is no Muslim community there for the children there is no Muslim environment for the children they want to protect the children some people actually go back to this
I know a lot of brothers will go back there and then they figure out it's as difficult there as as here actually here is you could do it better
at least you know you know when you take your child around and your child sees something haram or they are not Muslims my son you know that that but over there they are Muslims and they are doing the Haram they asked the same question. How to answer for shade is the Muslim family. What is the second institution?
I was talking with brother yesterday coming here because I'm not really sure he's the one who convinced me I should drink Starbucks was my idea. was his idea.
Even I told him Starbucks, they do this and that and
he still convinced me. I said okay, you know,
I told him McDonald's, right? Yeah. with you on the spot here. Yes, sir.
the masjid cannot just be a masala anymore.
It has to be a community centers. So if you gotta go big now.
let me ask you this question.
Who came up with the concept of YMCA in America?
Christian What? churches why because they were missing the youth.
The youth are no longer there. And that's what's happening in our massages, by the way, look at the massage.
We don't have the youth that segment is missing in the kitchen and the massage and it's very dangerous.
So now we got to be creative. I understand that the incentive coming through the master should be you know, every Alhamdulillah these are Hadith and it's beautiful By the way, every step that you take, but that generation needs and attraction you know they can be coming to the message just healing to listening to the shift wheels although other
kids are not gonna like that. I mean, some kids are not gonna be attracted to that.
So you bring them to the machine. Okay, you can have a basketball game you can have a soccer game you can have a swimming you know so we have the lovely daughter here we have it in Colorado we have you know, we started this project four or five years ago and we have this we actually bought a recreational center and we converted some of our recreation center for a non Muslim
and we converted some of it into a machine into a religious use but we left the rest of the you still can come and play
you know that the idea of inactivity mind and body for blood and nobody
clubs they call it Yeah. Social Club yes illegal
social club there is you're enforcing the Islamic color. The separation of the gender the the dress code, no foul language, it's your place now it's your little state you can apply your Sharia you know, nobody's gonna tell you enough to do it. When it's time to pray you know, I noticed in my in my place that some kids they they will be playing when the dad is called Get out of here let's go let's go play
and they will they like that kids like that well, like they love that you know they feel like you care that when it's time to pray that you call them and give them a couple of words you know after they don't have to listen to a lecture now, they can maybe take a word or two after the the Salah you know a little reminder. So, and and and the bonding with another Muslim young man and other mosquito the bonding is important to that is you need to understand that were raised that that that survives and bonding on the sense of belonging these young ones they need
they need to bond with their age. Now what environment are you bringing them into you know and and getting them to bond with the with non Muslims are going to learn from them things that you don't want them to pick up.
Again, the masjid and and very unfortunately,
where we come from, especially we have our elders.
Somehow they don't tolerate the idea of children, the mercy
You know, some people really get disturbed when they hear a child, you know making noise and
I have seen this with my own eyes. I was visiting one of the massages.
And one of the kids was running around the masjid so a lot of Madrid beer was running around the machine and I can tell that the kid is very hyperactive yet the only too much. But look what the brothers Did you know The brother, one of the elder brothers. I'm telling you, as my witness, he grabbed him and he hugged him in the coat hanger.
And he said you stay there until we finished playing
the bill Alec this kid will come back to the masjid
whenever one of the things I've been reading in the social media later lately, I don't remember the line Exactly. But somebody sent it to me this child you're not accepting in the machine today. You will beg him in the future to come back. You see that?
So So here you are. You cannot tolerate his noise his his hyperactive character.
So you kick him out or you mistreat him or you make him resent the masjid. And after he becomes a young man now please come to demonstrate I'll do this for you and
that should have been done what?
But I mean let's look at into the subject from you know, we're talking religion here or Misha if we're not social service here.
Can children be in the masjid
Okay, what is the evidence
Rasul Salah one time he was leaving the salon.
And he heard a child crying in the salon. So that means the child can be in the machine and he can make noise cry. What did he do with his Salah?
He haste in the Salah, he rushed he, he shot in this car. Because of the mother, the mother is gonna, you know.
We know that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had his granddaughter, whomever
he was giving the hook one two at one time, and it hasn't one person walked into the machine and one of them is stumbled. He picked them up. So it's they can be deep. But again, let's balance this you shouldn't be bringing your children into the machine to break the machine.
You know, I mean, there is a balance there is there is you know, middle way in between two extremes here.
They cannot be in the machine. That's extreme. They are in the machine but they are breaking everything in the machine. Are they making noise? Or are they disturbing? What about you as a mother, you as a father having your child next to you and educating them about the etiquettes of the masjid and giving them incentive
give you a lollipop when we go home if you behave I'll take you to a holiday McDonald's you know whatever you whatever works for your child you know whatever works you know
this is the second institution and and and what this also comes the message
the message in the message the amount of damage
you know, I always when I walk and and I'm very happy that I'm seeing this here.
A sign of a successful message that when you enter this message, you don't see one race. One color, especially in America. I'm talking about America. Back home. Yes. Hey, when are you gonna get other people? But I'm talking about America here. You don't see one race, one color. One ethnic group are one math heavy group.
That's very dangerous.
You see America as panelized as one will always talk about America in a negative way, which is not nice. But America does really the greatest service to Islam. Why?
We come here. Some of us come from Pakistan.
some of us come from Sham brochet some of us come from the Arabia. Broken belly. Some of us come from West Africa. Bro Maliki
and we bring our culture also within the religion you know the religion you don't see that back home because everybody's doing it but you come here into the masjid the same place. Which one are we going to follow?
go back to the evidence. The only way for you for us to you
To be together, regardless, in spite of our differences, is we follow the evidence. We go back, what did the Prophet say? What did the Sahaba say?
That's the bottom line for him. So the message broadcasted in the masjid also the Imam, the hate, talking to the people about the heat to protecting the religion and so forth.
I said the man, my time is about the third institution is not done. They want me to say it. And can I say it in five minutes? Just five minutes. This is okay.
The Islamic school.
And I know a lot of you are not gonna like me. That's why I'm giving you the option. You don't ask me to speak about it.
I was gonna stop, give you a break.
You know, I'm telling you brothers and sisters in Islam, if you're sending your children to public school,
you're 100% compromising even your own work.
You're throwing them against the wave against the current. There's a huge culture there that you don't know what they go through. He's smiling out there.
I think you know, I, I know what I'm saying. Who you
and, you know, and sometimes when when we go into different
I remember I was in,
in Canada, and somewhere and I brought up the subject, Scarborough, something like that in Canada.
And, you know, one of the brothers really attacked me almost, because because I spoke about this issue. And here is his argument. I mean, listen, you know, we could disagree on this. We don't have to agree on this. But
his argument was, why would I go and pay
500 $600 to enroll my child during Islamic school?
When I have a free education
in a country in a land
the public schools do not teach religion
because we know that in America there is that separation between the church and
the state. Yeah, they do not promote a religion but I'm telling you you're wrong. Because they teach religion school
they do teach religion school do you know what religion they teach?
they teach no religion isn't no religion is a religion now. What do we call it?
that's why we get our children are no longer interested in Islam.
No longer interest why By the way, but why
is the one thing that is really amazes you when you read the Quran
syntax language versus
a lot of verses in the Quran about the fact that a lot is that creative.
You really be amazed because when the Quran was revealed initially the people the Arabs at the time they never denied that
they never denied that Allah is the Creator never denied it
was insane ultra human Holocaust quality will overlay upon whether in CELTA human halaqa home lapu Luna, Allah they never denied that the only denied his worship they said listen, we can go straight to God. We have to go through these idols like the people who go and worship the graves now in the Muslim world.
For me to ask Allah for something I have to go to refer to this guy who's buried here. Likewise, they said Listen, you know, we don't worship these gods but they are the intermediary between us and Allah.
Man Abu ileocolic una de la la ilahi Zulu.
That's all that's that's that's all delusion they had about Allah. That's why they didn't single him out with the worship. They denied the worship but they never denied his lordship.
Subhana Allah this Quran about Allah being the Creator is really for our time.
Because we're sending our children to public school system. Guess what they learn every day.
There are multiple forces in this world.
This guy created energy created Mother Nature, Mother Nature
have ever heard that Mother Nature thing.
Energy creates itself. By the way, you are a chimpanzee and by all the sudden you became a human made your kids go through this every day
they build up this character. So why do I have this volition?
The hidden rubia is the foundation for Louie
for you to single out Allah with the worship, you must believe that Allah is what
he made me if I believe that there is another force in earth, why in the world when you go to a fortune teller, you have this belief?
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r Rahim Allah Allah Muhammad Allah Al Azhar Islamic and Mr. idea Why? Because if this guy is no no the unseen I'm no longer gonna rely on Allah. Hey, Mila, what is gonna happen to me tomorrow? Tell me?
Well, that's the thing when when you when you start believing that there are multiple forces in earth,
your tokoto heed your reliance is not going to be alone.
I'm just talking about the subject of the heat here, the subject of al Qaeda.
I'm not talking about the culture. I'm sorry, this might be very offensive to you in a public school culture. And I'm not talking about high school I'm talking about the middle school. If If you have not smoked a joint yet, you're not a man.
You're not a man. That's the culture.
I'm sorry, sister. This may be offensive if you still if the goal still a virgin, she's not beautiful.
No man is interested in her. That's the culture
that you're sending your children to.
And for what? For what? Listen, there are some cases I don't want to deny them their their work. There are cases that Mashallah The house is like I said, the foundation is the house.
If the house is perfect,
you may be able to do this. But just to drive my point across to you. I'm going to ask you a question who introduced homeschooling in America? Who
Yes, you know what, you know about homeschooling here right? who introduces additional Christians because they don't trust the public school system.
Their children are not going to believe Jesus is this and Jesus in that they want
likewise, well, Muslims will go
and then 1213 years old by Sun is announcing in his Facebook media he's an atheist. My daughter ran away with a Christian boy Yeah, baby tomato soup. What did you do to them?
Well, that's what you did to the child.
Or the child is Amanda
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Allah giving you a Muslim child a Muslim baby
who does the diversion that a virgin the
these are the three institutions I'm sorry, I
I know the majority of you send your children to public schools and that's why I thought I should end with that. So we have stomach ache the rest of the night.
Hello, Joanne stop. Here is my case. I just love him hate him for inviting me brother. Yes, sir. Melody will do and there's a coffee for the coffee enjoy the full value are you shala salam aleikum wa rahmatullah