Zina Temptation

Kamal El-Mekki


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salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Bismillah Han Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala rasulillah.

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He was shocked to hear him I am about to begin by thanking all of you for taking the time out and for remaining for the lecture is luck. Hello. Hi Ron. inshallah, in this lecture, we're going to look at Zina the sin of Xena will lie below, which is fornication, which is illegal or illicit sexual relations between a man and a woman with no marriage between them, or anything like that. inshallah, in the course of the lecture, we're going to look at why it is such a strong temptation and the effects it has on society, because people will argue that it's between two people, what, what is, what is it and anyone else's business. So we'll look at what happened and what happens to

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the society when this sin is rampant in it. And we'll conclude with the solutions that Islam has put forth to deal or to combat this problem.

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One of the interesting comments that scholars make about the sin of Xena which we said is fornication whenever the villa is that it they say that Zina takes away at me yet at me, and it takes away the human side of the human being when you commit the sin, it takes away the the human side of you, meaning you become like an animal when you commit this sin. Why? Because the animals, animals don't have self restraint. They don't have self control whatsoever. You know, when the animal is hungry, they go and look for food and they eat immediately. When they're thirsty, they drink immediately, when they're going to procreate. They don't try to hide from people's view. They

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just follow that desire like that same thing, when they want to relieve themselves, perhaps you've gone to the zoo with your children, and the animal wants to relieve itself. It'll immediately just turn around and do it right in front of you. They don't hide it and they don't. So when a human being committed Zina, it takes away this human side and he becomes like an animal in that sense in not having any type of restraint.

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Play the issue of of Xena being a strong temptation. First of all, this was part of the plan of Allah subhanaw taala, that there will be temptations in this dunya there will be temptations in this life. Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran, this is in surah and nazjatar. Allah Google says, Well, I'm in half. I'm abama Robbie, when a Hanif son in Hawa for inogen netta e L, ma. And as for the one who fears standing before his Lord, and He restrained himself, hold yourself back, restrained himself from following lusts and following desires, then verily agenda Paradise is the final abode for that person. So we see the concept of holding back, restraining stopping yourself from something

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that you desire, stopping yourself from your lust, and that's the difference between humans and animals. We don't just follow our desire we don't follow our lust. We can restrain ourselves Ramadan, we need to eat and drink to survive, but we can restrain ourselves we can hold ourselves back and animals they don't do that. They don't do that for the most part.

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So we see already the concept of holding back and restraining our desires restraining our last caller Nabi sallallahu Sallam in Sahih Muslim and in the book of Buhari, he says matter of two Body Fitness and other other regime in aneesa. I have not left any fitness behind me more harmful to men than women. So now we know this is the most harmful test and trial for a man it's a woman. So when a Navy SEAL a large alum gives you this description, what is the attitude you take from this is the attitude that we can be relaxed with each other men and women, or is the attitude that we should be extra precautious and extra careful, since this is the most harmful test harmful fitna for men. You

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no doubt it's the second one isn't it? That you'd be extra careful, which is the opposite of what's happening today. Today, people come up with 1001 different excuses behind why it's okay. We're working together. The hearts are pure. Nothing is wrong. She's like my sister. I'm her brother. Not a fish my uncle has enough. Yeah, excuses excuses for something that is. If you look at the Hadith, it's severe now we should stay far away from it. And if the companions will have the best hearts stayed away from it. Who are we to say well, why the hearts are pure and everything is good. And the weather is nice.

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Unbelievable. kasasa lamp photofunia with japonesa be wherever dunya

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Beware of women, meaning the women, the desire following their people's lust, filling their lust in women. That's what it means. So, we see that it's a strong, natural urge. And hence this punishment is severe as well to be a deterrent from people falling into this sin. The punishment is to do in Islam. Likewise, those who don't do it, the reward is great as well those who stop themselves from doing it. And we know that a man or a young man who a beautiful woman, a woman of stature, and position and beauty, cause them to this sin if they refuse and if they say no, based on what condition

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in half a lot of Balala mean, they will be from the seven types of people who are under the shade of the throne of Allah azza wa jal on a day when there is no shade except for that provided by Allah 50,000 years with the sun one mile away from people's heads. That's a day when shade is valuable. A young man or a man whom a woman of beauty and stature and status, asked them to Xena to fornication and they refused because they fear Allah, not because of any other reason. That's the stipulation. Also for the reward, any young man who wants to leave home, say wants to commit Zina. So he gets in the car, the car won't start. I can't do it today. Does he get reward?

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Does he get reward for not doing it? No, don't hesitate. It's not getting reward. He wants to do it. Just the car won't start. Yeah. So what if he gets in his car, the car starts and he's about to move and instead of stuff alone, I'm gonna commit the sin while Allah azzawajal is looking at me. While Allah provides for me and all this all this good for me. He turns off the car, he goes inside, does he get reward? Absolutely. So now what stopped him is the fear of Allah azzawajal. A guy went out looking for Xena driving around two hours, couldn't find anybody. He comes home, Shall I get the reward? Now Hubby, you don't get the reward. You just couldn't find anybody. That's the that's the

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difference here.

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Okay, so why is Xena such a big deal? Allahu Akbar. It is such a big deal. When you look at what Xena does to commute to the society, it is severely at a severe big deal. Very big deal. And why does Islam have such severe warnings and a punishment for those who committed because one of the things that the Sharia came to protect, it came to protect people's lineage came to protect people's lineage. And we're going to look at that in a little bit more detail in Charlotte's Georgia. But some people argue What's the problem? Come on, you guys must follow 100 law you guys live in Qatar hamdulillah. Things are very different. So we're from America and America, it's very, very different

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there. People will tell you all kinds of arguments that perhaps some of you have never heard before, someone will come up to you and say, What's the problem? It's, it's a consultant consenting adult, it's a man. And she's okay with it. And the woman she's okay with it, I need the man or woman or both. Okay. What's the problem? And why is it your business, if they do something like this law, it is everyone's business, because now it becomes an issue that affects the society if this becomes rampid, it affects the entire society. So we're going to look at just some of the things that Xena does the effects of Zin on society, and on individuals, on women, on children and on men. Let's

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start with the effects of Zina on society as a whole. One of the big problems we have is that people don't know their lineage, a person will not know who his father is. And this is even even the West, they've realized the danger of this. And they tried to set up ways to determine the lineage of people. That's why they'll have all these paternity tests, DNA test, they have these shows and shallow I hope you guys don't have these horrible shows where people who come in to dinner they come they do a paternity test. And then they show the the audience and the world who if he was the father, or if he was not the father, and so on and so forth. They have shows like this in the UK,

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they have in America, they are trying to combat this problem of people not knowing their lineage not knowing who the father is. So that's one of the problems caused by Xena. The other is that all these venereal diseases are the sexually transmitted diseases from age two, to herpes to all other kinds of illnesses. Now, and is this the reason why a Muslim doesn't commit Zina is that you will get a disease. Once I'm in a Muslim country. I saw this big billboard sign, and it was the silhouette of a woman standing in the street and a car stopping for her. And then it said oral aids be aware of AIDS. Again, Is this why a Muslim young man will not commit Zina because the possibility of AIDS and

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what if the girl says I'm clean? Her lasagna?

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is haram Of course. So it's a big deal. So we've got diseases we've got messing up people's lineage. And we see that Xena and society when it becomes rampant, it actually leads to more

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In it, which is really amazing Zenit leads to more Zina. This is a study that was done in the United States. They found that 82% Look how high this number is. 82% of teenage mothers are themselves the daughters of teenage mothers. Yeah. 82% How high is that? So Xena gets rapid into society it leads to more Zina occurring as well. We see also these are other studies from the United States that a male, a male or a boy born to a young woman in her teens and a teenage mother, he's three times more likely to end up in prison, three times more likely to end up in prison, a boy born to a teenage young woman and 14 1516 he has three times more of a chance of ending in jail than someone born to a

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normal family. Why is that? Maybe we'll look at that in a little bit.

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You know, something we want to blame worsens like rape. rape is a very bad sin. Yeah. And it's one of the most one of the worst ways a man could violate a woman. One of the things one of the reasons why there's so much rape is that there is so much Zinner how,

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first of all, the majority of rape cases, let's just pick on the United States, the majority of rape cases, they are what is known as date rape, where the man already knows the woman, the rape cases where a man attacks a strange woman, these are very rare, but more than most of the time, it's a man or a woman that he knows and she knows him. And she trusts him to some point. Yeah. So when someone is accused of rape, first of all, few rape cases, actually, when a woman claims rape 25% of the time the male is arrested. And then if it gets to court, that's another story. But the the excuse for raping someone now is what?

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Xena, which they make it as if it's okay, so now, if a man rapes a woman, they take him to court the first argument he has no, no, it was consensual. It wasn't rape. It was in a Yeah. Oh, it was in a column smallest and everyone go home. Yeah. Now imagine in Islamic court, a young man says no, it wasn't great. It was only Xena. The judge will say Nam, da,

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da let's talk. It's only Xena by so we see rape increasing because of Xena increasing and the results on society. All these unwanted babies and children that will be left in the trash left in the bushes left in cardboard boxes and society has to come up with ways to deal and to combat these kinds of problems. So that's in general, some of the effects of Zina on the society. Some of the effects have been on individuals and society. First of all, when it's rampant, it leads to such sexual deviance so people are not satisfied quickly. And then they start to get crazier and crazier and it with their imagination or not going to go into details in that one. Also, what it does is it

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devalues intimacy later on with the spouse. Yeah, and a man will live in a place and he'll go through a woman like he goes through shoes. Many many many did. Finally he gets married. And now he feels stuck with one stuck with one because he's used to having multiple partners. So it devalues intimacy, there's nothing special about it anymore. There's nothing special about it anymore. And what it does is that it trains the men especially to only look at the opposite sex for nothing but sex. The male's look for women only for that they don't look at women in any other way. And that's why the in the West women are primarily looked at as sexual objects and you know, one sees a woman

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and thinks First of all, you know, Mashallah very intelligent very first thing they think of her as a sexual object. And this is apparent from movies, from magazines, from internet and so on and so forth.

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Like we said, also, it makes it difficult for the person to be satisfied with one spouse, they can't be with one spouse now because they've been with so many. And now they just have to be with one. It's very difficult for them. Or as we said, it devalues intimacy, and there's nothing special. You know, when a man gets married with his wife, there's nothing special about it anymore. That first night Colossus like for him. It's the 1000 night. It's not anything special about it.

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The uneven acclaim, Rahim Allah, He says Xena. It encompasses all the characteristics of the evil. He says lack of religious commitment and a lack of religiosity. That's enginer loss of taqwa piety, you don't care Allah sees you when you're doing this. So loss of taqwa lack of protective jealousy. rira youngish, Jani, a man who will not feel zira if that happens with his sister, or something or even his mother and you see these things, and hamdulillah Allah has protected the majority of the Muslim lands from these kinds of things. Like a man will tell you this is a co workers will tell us well, that's my mother's boyfriend.

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mother's boyfriend. Why is he still walking? You should have broken broken something on top of his head as my mother's boyfriend. Yeah, he comes over. He has no real because he's doing this with people with other people as well. That's why when the young Sahabi came to an episode send them he said do Rasul Allah is and leaf is Xena give me permission to commit Zina. The process settled down. He said to him, he said, Would you thought about Who? The homemaker Would you accept this for your mother? He said, No. He said, Would you accept this for your sister? He said, No. He said the same way other people don't accept it for their mothers and fathers sisters.

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Once I'm in America, young Muslim, he tried this technique with a non Muslim. So the man said there's nothing wrong with people committing sin if they agreed to call us. The man said, Would you accept this for your mother? The guy said, Yes, she accepts.

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He said, He's still trying to skin the Muslim skin. He said, Would you accept this for his sister? He said, Yeah, she accepts. So he said, this was a technique of the prophets, Allah sanlam. Why didn't it work with this guy? Simple. Because nav Salah seldom used it with a Muslim,

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and Muslim who already understood the agenda or not. He knew this was Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, he knew rira protective jealousy, you're trying it with someone who doesn't have any of the above. So that's why it's like, yeah, if she accepts a mosquito, that's my mom's boyfriend.

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So we said lack of productive jealousy, we're going to what even though time said about Xena and it gets someone to earn someone The Wrath of Allah subhanaw taala. The Wrath of Allah is wicked and hardens the heart and just so much damage to an individual, what his inner being rampid in a society do to women.

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First of all, a number of problems occur, especially when young women start to be engaged in zinna. young age, one of the problems is that they are physically mature and able to engage in that but they're not mentally mature, they're not mentally mature. So if it results in a child, that will be a very, very big problem, as we're going to see in a little bit. teenage mothers themselves, and even in a Western society that sees Jenner as Okay, and sexual activity for young children as Okay, even there, they face problems. So studies have shown that teenage mothers, they face isolation, and if people stay away from them, yeah, they have low levels of education, because she gets pregnant

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during high school. Now she has to drop out of high school all these problems.

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They suffer from more stress than average more depression than other people. And they have a great risk of leaving school and attaining a lower level of education. This study in particular was done in Canada.

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For the woman, what it does is that they take the the learn that

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that sex is all they're valued for. That's their only value, and so therefore to be valued. They embrace this image and they develop it further. We understand. Yeah, and maybe some of you will wonder why these women dressed like that. Why did they dress so badly, because they were taught and trained from an early age that your value is equal to your sexuality. So in order to value themselves more or to be valued in society, what do they do, they dress worse and worse, they embrace that image as well. And they enhance it and develop it further.

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And of course, for the woman, she a lot of times is the one stuck with the sin, or the abortion of killing this child that's growing in her womb, she kills the child, because she doesn't want to deal with all the consequences. So these are just some of the things that happen to women in a sexually loose society.

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When it comes to the child, what is the result on on the child First of all, when a teenage woman when a young woman who's not matured here on she has a child. One of the things in the beginning she thinks, okay, it's cute, the child is cute. Within this cute child is waking up every five minutes at night, and then filling the diaper every I don't know how long and needing this and needing that and crying all the time. So after a while she starts to lose interest. And when she starts to lose interest, she gives little attention to the child who in a way destroyed her life. Because now she can't go to school. She can't be with her friends and all kinds of things. And she's not free to go

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out for hours with her friends. So she starts to be to be distant from this child, which develops something very serious called attachment disorders. Those of you who studied psychology are aware of this, which is something very, very serious. We'll get to it in a little bit.

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So the children born out of wedlock and born to young mothers and born to teenagers, and they're the children of Xena. They have a number of problems that they deal with. First of all, they typically have a life an early childhood filled with

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turmoil a young mother has to work leaves him at the babysitter all kinds of issues that happen. So as a result of that, they they learned that the world is a dangerous place. And they start to have problems connecting with other people. They can't connect with people, you don't feel empathy very quickly. And they start to also basically have difficulty managing their emotions. And they don't, they cannot trust people quickly. And they feel their self worth, they have not very high self esteem or self worth. And they also become afraid of getting close to people, they learned to mistrust human beings, anger issues, as well have been seen and known in children of Xena. And they

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also sometimes feel the need this is something called control freaks, someone feels the need to be in control of everything, because there were many problems growing up. So now they want as they're after they're adults, they want to control everything to make sure everything is nice and organized. So they become control freaks. Yeah.

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And they have poor academic performance. And they're more likely than average to fail, graduating from secondary school. And they get held back a grade level, all kinds of problems that happen to them educationally, and so on and so forth. One of the things that happened to them as well are developmental disabilities. And this is something known as attachment disorder, like we said, where a baby is born to a young girl, she's 13, she's 14, and she doesn't give much attention to this child. So they develop something known as attachment disorder, which can go very extreme. And I actually believe it or not, the psychologist, they, they have a chart, they tell you, if you have

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good bonding with your parents, one or both of them, you come up to be someone who's a humanitarian, someone who likes to give someone who's very caring to others, then the chart goes to car salesman. No offense to any car sales people here, but what they mean by that is someone who will sell you a bad car, and he doesn't care that it's gonna cause you a lot of problems and cost you a lot of money, but they'll sell it to you because they don't care what happens to you after that. And then it goes on to politicians, the list actually says, okay, and we're not insulting anybody, I hope. And beyond that, the real end extreme end, serial killers, serial killers. One of the one of the

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famous serial killers in America, his name was Ted Bundy. Ted Bundy, he killed about 100, young women, you know it, kill them do strange things and bury them and all that. And he was lucky, he appeared to be a very nice guy. But he had these problems. He was born to a teenage mother. And actually a lot of serial killers. Were born to teenage mothers who did not bond with them so many, many problems going back to the argument, oh, it's a it's a consent between adult man and adult woman. What's the problem? These are the problems right here. And there's still more and more and more. So with the males, what happens is that a lot of times the male is not involved very deeply.

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And even if he wants to be involved, the family of the girl doesn't want anything to do with him. This is even in America forget in the Muslim country. Even in America, they don't want to deal with the boy, it's his fault, right? So if he wants to be involved, he's pushed away. So the child now is missing the father figure. And even studies show even when they allow the young man to be involved within two years, he escapes is out of there isn't anything to do with that.

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Then some psychologists even link homosexuality to having a loose society, because they identify homosexuality as alienation from males during infancy and from male peers, peers during other stages in life. So during infancy, this boy doesn't see his father, that he doesn't grow up and see a father figure around, he sees that his mother, his aunts, and the grandmother and he's around woman all the time. So he starts to act on the feminine. This is one of the theories. And actually what some of the psychologists are saying is one of the reasons behind homosexuality. So you linking it to all to all kinds of problems with the family. The younger sisters, if the older sister commits

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Zina, the younger sister was more likely to think less of the importance of education, and to accept human sexual behavior at an early age and to accept parenting at a younger age. We're seeing everyone being affected. This is the sister of the one who commits Zina, her brother, though they find them to be more tolerant of non marital and early birth. And he, his older sister had a child and she was not married. What's the problem with it, there's nothing wrong with it becomes normal. So what we're trying to do, even though these problems don't exist, 100 and a lot of them must have lands and to some degree, some of them exist. We're trying to put the argument that it's a very

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harmful thing and you can't make the argument that if a man and woman agree, what's the problem? If a man and a woman want that? What is your business in this issue? It is my

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business, it's the society's business. And that's why the scholars say, you win if people commit Zina, there is the right of Allah, and the right of the community, because this is damaging to us, is the right of Allah and the right of the community. And,

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you know, a lot of times, it severs the relationship between the father and his daughter especially. And in some lines, even though this is not Islamic, but it leads to murders and killings, or within within the spouses that leads to one spouse killing the other for infinite duality, and so on and so forth.

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So after all this, someone will say,

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the punishment for the Zani is just too much in Islam. And why are you? What's your deal? Exactly? And why are you so sympathetic here, and this is a crime, it's a bad thing. And a lot of times Muslims are sympathetic to it. And they'll feel that, you know, call us leave them alone. And if it happens, it happens. It's a very serious thing, and it has effects on our children and on our society and so on and so forth. For the punishment of Xena in the after our Arab in LA. Casa de la Selim, Selim said in the Hadith, that

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movement will hum young Kala hodza gel can be the weapon, the one who is addicted, I want you to see how we're going to do this evidence now. The one who is an alcoholic, the one who's addicted to alcohol, he meets a lot on the Day of Judgment, like someone who is an idol worshiper. Yeah, you see shark is the worst sin in Islam. As someone is addicted to alcohol on the Day of Judgment. They come at the level of an idol worship or how serious is that? But in the Quran, Allah azza wa jal says, When Levine Allah their own Amala Hey, what are you up to Luna Neff? seletti, harmala 11.

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When is known? So Allah is really saying in this verse, those who do not invoke on any other Illa God besides Allah or with Allah, this is the worst sin, calling someone besides Allah azza wa jal. They don't take a life that Allah has made forbidden. Yeah, and they don't kill. So we have schicke we have murder. And then he says subhanaw taala when it is known, and they don't commit, Zina shirk, murder, Xena

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doesn't mention alcohol. So Zina is worse than consuming alcohol worse than consuming alcohol. Yeah. schicke murder, Xena, the Hadith of the alcoholic he meets a lot like a mushrik. And this sinner is worse than that. So how bad is the sin what had been done?

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And of course not all Zina is created equal. And there's certain types of Zinnia that are worse than others who can tell us Xena that's worse than any other type of Xena. Someone put your hand up until this Yes sir.

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He wasn't very good. Xena with the neighbor neighbors What? The Hadith says hi, Lila Elijah yeah Annie whoever is the jar is the neighbor whoever is the madam to this neighbor yeah I need your neighbor's wife your neighbor sister your neighbor's daughter your neighbor's mother whatever in any woman that's he's a madam for this type of Zina is more haram and more severe than any other type like what other kind? So we have the neighbor nom

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nom. I was an old man committing Zina. Like why Why is it such a big deal an old man committing Zina?

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Why? I think it's clear, right? Because he's an old man. There's no need philosophy. You're this close to your grave. What are you running around for? Trying to commit Zina? helaas a bit old man dying? You have heart problems? What's in there? Yeah, blood pressure. And we're having Let's leave that one alone. Excellent. What else?

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a hot plate. We'll get to that dinner with the eyes. And what does that mean? Exactly? We'll get to that. Excellent. Like what other kinds of actual dinner is more harm than others? Or how about this is a clue. time and place? time and place?

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numb? Yeah, absolutely. Xena with a close relative and the closer the relative? The more Tom incest with a brother with a sister like that. And then as it moves further, and it gets but the closer it is the more haraam. It is. How about the timing? You said something about time and place? None.

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Ramadan? Absolutely. Yeah. So Brogan Barak said in Ramadan, the Mahara would need Wouldn't you agree? committed in Ramadan is more harm than any other time? Absolutely. How about place?

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num? Where

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00 in public? started shukran.

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Okay, tell us exactly where we were actually looking for the sanctity of the place. Horomia harder maybe even a bit far ahead. Even the masjid and I don't know who's this idiot who is going to fly to Mecca for Xena but and how long it's been for sure.

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The harm will be more harm but even in the masjid, committing Zina in the message, of course more harm than some guy in, in public, right? More of more harm than that.

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So okay, so now we learned that old Xena is not created equal, very good.

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Okay, so then how, how does Islam prevent Xena? How does Islam prevent Xena a number of things first of all which is interesting which Allah Subhana Allah in the Quran he doesn't tell us don't commit Zina. I think we all know this a logic it says what a cup kerabu Xena Don't come near Xena. So he's not telling us don't commit the sin. He's telling us don't get close to the things that get you to zap the things themselves by what are just logically now what are some steps that will lead someone to Xena Okay, nobody wakes up in the middle of Xena right? There are steps that lead to it. What are some of the steps? None. How to pray? not praying. But now what are the steps? Yeah, you're correct.

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But when someone is that it was going to commit it? What are the steps between him and the woman?

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Well, it starts with looking Sahaja Allah it starts with looking. I don't know if in the history of the world, someone without looking just found somebody.

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Blind Man. Okay. But so that means looking. What else?

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talking, talking? What else?

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I'm okay dating or being alone with the woman or things like that. What else?

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I will Ghana dating Nam, chatting and chatting, texting. Hello, Donna technology now. Everything texting,

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and shaking, touching. Absolutely touching. So very good. So now we have all the things that could possibly lead to being alone with the woman talking, looking, touching, chatting, texting, all these things that could lead to it. By the way, since we mentioned chatting and instant messenger and all this stuff. A lot of times people think this is not very I'm here she's in China, what's the problem? What will happen? A lot will happen. It's actually worse. You know why? Because when you don't see the person in front of you, it lowers the inhibitions, the higher even decreases. And people start to say things that they wouldn't say one of the brothers told me, I used to speak to

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believing woman. And the things we would say unbelievable. He said, unbelievable. You think if he is alone with her, they're sitting like this in a public place. He would tell her sister and start saying these things. For sure. He wouldn't let because she's miles away. My fingers can

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either let me type it in.

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But it's more serious. It's more serious. Okay, so we said then this is how Islam is wonderful. This is how Islam is great. It stops you from things that lead you to the Haram. It doesn't just say hey, don't go to someone puts you on in a car with no brakes at the top of a hill. Okay, and they push it and they totally roll down the hill. But just don't go to the the end there. The smarter don't hit it, but don't have brakes. How am I going to stop? I'm just gonna keep rolling down the hill. What Islam does, it doesn't even allow you to go down the hill. Yeah. Now I'll give you an example.

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In Islam, you're not allowed to get drunk. In Christianity, you're not allowed to get drunk. I know. They're not allowed to get drunk in Christianity. You can drink but you can't get drunk. In Islam, you can't get drunk. So it prevents said that there are closing the avenues that will lead to it. So because you can't get drunk in Islam, you can't sit at the same table with people who are drinking, you can't manufacture it. You can't physically move it from one place to another. You can't buy it. You can't sell it. Will that prevent you from getting drunk?

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For sure? Isn't it wonderful? Like in Christianity? You can drink but don't get drunk. Okay. So how does this work? This is how it works. You're supposed to keep drinking. And then at some point, you should make a decision and a judgement that I've had enough to drink. Here's the problem. Alcohol is a substance that alters and affects your judgment. So how am I supposed to drink something that affects my judgment and then make a good judgment that I should stop right now? You see the problem? That doesn't work. And that's why most people they don't stop, they don't stop and they drive like that also, and they always argue I'm okay for them. See you in June.

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Okay, so we're saying then is a lot as realtors wanna top thrombogenic Do not come near Xena. So every stage that leads to Xena you will find that it is prohibited and blocked and haram or any prohibited in Islam. So we start with with the gays right the gays Jani g A z Yeah, not those gays.

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Just some

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There's no confusion in sha Allah.

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Allah subhanaw taala tells us in the Quran in sort of a no by the way Yes. Okay. A lot tells us in sort of an order in the Koran mean a booming absorb him way for the Fujifilm the Lika aska de la jolla saying tell the believing men to lower their gaze. Look down now to lower their gaze. come on we're going to explain what it means exactly what will mean absorb to him while john is the scholar say Allah mentioned guarding the privates right after lowering the gaze Why? Because that is something that leads to this. So right after it Allah saying lower the gaze when he says autobahn we translate as lower the gaze will explain what it means. But right after it he's mentioning guarding

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the private because this leads to that when it comes to when it comes to lowering the gaze. We have a number of issues that we'd like to discuss. First of all, Allah Subhana Allah says yo do min absorb him What does it mean min from the gays tell the believing men to have robbed his son and without the need to decrease Yeah, so tell the believing men to decrease from their gaze from looking around so hopefully not so many men could be looked at and about so they decrease from from some of what they're looking at. What do you think would be you decrease from or use restraint from looking at when you look at things it's a combination of halal and haram right but this is what I've

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settled on look at three different diversity and explanations of this min absorbing him

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when you look around you see halal and haram so which one are you supposed to decrease and stop looking at the Haram so that's what one group of scholars said min upside of Hindustani the decrease from looking at the Haram or stop looking at the Haram and they can look at the hella that's what Allah said min he didn't say lower all the gazes admin up sorry. That's one explanation. The second explanation is that some scholars believe that min here Allah is referring to the second look. The second look, what do we what is the second look under the saucer lamp?

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In the Hadith in utter Medina Buddhahood he says yeah, I really love to be in Nevada, Nevada for in local oola when he said like Ethan and Jani Yeah, I really do not follow a glance with another glance, because the first one is for you, meaning what? It's free Allah and the second one is not for you. So he's telling a little below on Whoa, first glance, it's free second glance, it's recorded against you. What does it mean? The first glance is free. Yeah. And there are also other explanations and other Hadith like this.

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Muslim, the process Alam II Annie Abdullah had to jelly he says I asked the prophet SAW said lamb about an another, another attend Pooja Yani. If I just suddenly look and there's a woman I didn't know there was a woman there. So the process tells him to lower his gaze or decrease from his gaze. This isn't a Muslim. So the first glance, I didn't know there was a woman there, I'm sitting and then I see my peripheral vision. There's a human being here. When I turn it's a woman. So I turned away. Now I didn't know there was a woman there. That's why the first one is free. But you know, some people they do a double take on a woman.

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Now this second one is recorded against you. And we always have to say this because some brothers think they're smart. And they say if the second one is recorded against you, the first one is free. Then I'll take a long first one.

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The Habibi the first one so that you're aware there's a woman there. If you take a long one molars, you know there's a woman there, turn around. So if you keep a long one, it'll be recorded against you. So some scholars said men absolve him from their gaze. Yeah, Annie, the second one because the first one's free. The second one now is what you're supposed to not look out. That's another explanation. The third explanation, some scholars said min here shows that it means even the lowest degree, the lowest degree, and they make a linguistic argument. Even the slightest amount of harm even the slightest amount of looking. Don't do it.

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Because they said someone could say in Arabic, ma n d. Modern indeed modern I don't have money. Basically I don't have money. But if you say ma n demon Merlin, it means I don't have any amount of money when you say min max and the min Merlin. Now the min shows that I don't have the slightest amount. What do you call the smallest coin here?

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Hmm. Durham that's the smallest thing.

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Yeah. So when you say Matt and demon man and that means this guy doesn't even have one Durham, which is my auntie Marlon, I don't have money. Maybe he's got a few Durham's in his pocket, you know, it's not real, any worth anything this money, not worthwhile, not a significant amount. But when I say not in the mean money, that means I don't have anything. So some scholars said men here for even the slightest amount, don't look, don't look, as long as it's something that's Haram.

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we lower the gaze from women. The man lowers his gaze for a woman and the woman also will lower the gates for men, especially when there is there is an fitna or temptation involved. Yeah. But for the man, it's not just lowering the gaze from the woman, the scholars of Islam say Eve, anything that will arouse the man, he is required to lower his gaze from it. Yeah, whatever it is, okay.

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I don't know if any details will allow him. It could be Mathurin. Some people could be method and some scholars mentioned these examples like a young boy who doesn't have much hair on the body, maybe sometimes look a little feminine vibe. Some some young boys are getting scared now. So

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Young goes like this.

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So don't worry.

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Okay, so we're going to stop there. Anything that arouses them, or it can even be a cartoon. I know what you're thinking, what cartoon? Maybe the mannequin? Yeah, the guy goes to the mall, the mannequin woman standing. And he's not married. So he says,

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What's your name? He wants conversation now.

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So So Pamela, the scholars mentioned this, and it may be funny to some of us, but some people, they will need to get married. This is a problem for them. They have to now lower the gaze from the mannequin. You know, the mannequin, the one that stands like this in the store? They're working over the last law. Yeah, because for them, it's an issue. And for him, the Scott has mentioned these things and it applies to some people. It doesn't apply to others. So anything that will arouse the man, the man is supposed to lower their gaze, the gaze from famous Hadith in Sahih Bukhari and Muslim and navy sauce lm is giving us the solution. One way to combat this problem, this is the sad

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thing. The process of Salam will give us a solution. We don't take the solution when we come and argue we want another solution. True story. This young man came to me in Canada. He said, Listen, you guys, come on at you guys. He means you any speakers who people who speak a lot. He said, You guys have to find a solution for this. He said is summer. Women are not dressed very well. We're not able to get married. We have school, we don't have money. This is a big problem. He says, Don't tell me fast. Don't tell me Be patient. Don't tell me lower the gauge plug what you want me to tell you.

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eat bananas. Now. What do I need to tell you? You? You just killed all my answers. What else can I tell you?

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And my mom and maybe saw Selim gave you the solution? You ignore it and he said give me another one. He gave me the best one. Carlos de la salam, this hadith in Sahih Bukhari and Muslim Yama*a Shabaab. And now look who he's talking to. He's talking to the Shabaab to the young men. And of course, that includes the young woman as well, Minister, I mean, come on, by utter failure to watch whoever is able to provide the what is

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what is in

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the bathtub, and now the scholars defined it in the early days, but a few bites to sustain you a few bytes to keep you alive. And something to cover your head. Now, is this acceptable now?

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This is the finish of this description that I just gave is acceptable at the time of the process. And then true, because people ate little anyways. So if someone here is this much, and I say this much, I don't feel much less than them. Right. And if he lives in a tent, and he lives in a mud house, and I just have you know, some kind of, you know, you know, some kind of shelter. I don't feel so much less, but to man, it's not acceptable today, right?

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Or What's your job? What do you think? Go if you don't believe me go knock on an uncle's door. Salam Alaikum. Uncle, I came to ask for your daughter's hand in marriage. And because of Mashallah, what do you have? So I have a BA, I have, I know a restaurant, they throw good food at the end of the day, we will go eat from that. And I found the place under the bridge, and we will sit there it will stop the sun the Renaissance. What do you think that uncle would sometimes come inside? And ask is what bring the stick please? Yeah, we have guests.

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It's not acceptable, right? It's not acceptable. But whoever can provide the bare minimum now to open a home then fun yet so watch, let him get married. For in an awkward moment. Let me stop there and whoever is not able then

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to ban individual sentences for innovador and bizarre for the inference that marriage is better for the

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For the gaze for the glance, and this is for married people and non married, when we talk about lowering the gaze, we're not just talking to young men who are single married men as well, because the married man all day, he's looking at images that are Haram. These images are airbrushed, photoshopped, digitally mastered and altered. and older. He is looking at this is looking at that he's looking at this. He's looking at that. Then he comes on, he opens and he sees his wife. And then his he doesn't look like that one on the television. Suddenly, he's sad, you know, feels very bad about this, you know? Yeah.

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We don't know more details. Yeah. So it's for everybody, then woman lemmya stop it and who is not able to provide that for it he was so for in who know who which. So then if you're not able to then fast and that will be a protection for you. So the Shabaab we're not married, how many of them fast? We're lucky we knew Shabaab in our days. We used to fast every other day. Fast today, breakfast tomorrow, faster day after breakfast The day after like this for 10 years, 12 years, 15 years. And they didn't have a problem. And typically when you fast you lower the gauge, nobody's fasting looking at haram all day. So you restrain yourself and you don't want to look anyways, you're

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hungry. You're tired, no energy. So they would fast every other day for 12 years for 15 years. Then you get a guy all day. He's eating Golub, German rasmalai. Meat, lamb, you know, Curry Chicken nihari. Chicken, curry chicken. And then he comes Hola. Hi. This difficult Yes, a fast a fast, it's not so difficult, fast. And lower. The gates are low heat for the brothers who are single and for the brothers who are mad. If you can teach yourself to lower the gaze, you'll have no problems whatsoever, you will go 20 years without marriage. What's the problem? I don't feel any pressure. just lower the gaze. Why? Because a logical created demand. He is aroused by looking. Yeah. So all

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day, the man's looking at images, images, images, images, images all day. And at the end of the day, He's surprised why I'm very uncomfortable. Because you're looking all the time. If you can restrain your gaze, you will see a very, very, very big difference to Sharla.

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so we said restraining the gaze, one of the solutions that Islam has put, you know, there was a study, I'm just going to mention it for what it's worth. There was a study done in America that estimated that with a male within his lifetime, he will spend a whole year looking at other women.

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And when the average male dies, this is an American study. So we'll make a discount for Muslims, Muslim countries, okay. So he says that, the study says that if a male and he dies at an average age in America, they would have spent a whole year looking at harm looking at other women, whole year, they break it down. It's 45 minutes a day and then lifetime it turns out a whole year. This year, you have to answer to Allah. So you're on the Day of Judgment for this year. Yeah. And we were told in Nevada, like this, and now this for one year, you're like this?

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One year, when you're asked about this year, what will you tell a lot so what will I

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what is no excuse? Yeah, the same study showed that women spent six months looking at men. Again, we'll make this count for the Muslim woman. But this is you know, America's big problem. Six months just staring at men like this. Six months are of your life. Non Stop. horrendous. So lowering the gaze, if you can do that you will not have any problem. If you can do that. Your wife is very, very beautiful to you. Yeah.

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There are some brothers who are living in America then they moved overseas to a country where they don't see any woman.

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All of them were so satisfied everyone would say well, I my wife is very beautiful. I didn't know that. I had to and had to be in this place. And this desert with a no other woman to realize she's beautiful. But if you were lowering your gaze even in the West, you would have noticed that she's beautiful. Yeah. Okay, so now we've got lowering the gays we've got a nice talking intermingling contact with the the woman and this is the thing that today make people make excuses for Allah Hamas, the hearts are pure. What's the problem? What will happen? I knew the sun is out who commits in an hour, you know, in public and all that stuff. People make all these arguments for this. But

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the companions the President did not allow them to mix and mingle even though they had the most taqwa and they would not mingle. Even in the masjid proscenium said the best of the men's lines are the front line and the worst is the last line, which is the best of the woman's lines, the rows in Salah. The last one. Why is it the last one because it's further away from the men type. We're talking about a mystery. The Navy

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Who will want to fool around and mess up the novel from the companions? And from the Sahaba none of these people have done one Emma. Still the precaution is there. The problem came one day, we saw the men and woman leaving the masjid walking home. A man was walking here and a few steps or some steps behind a woman is walking in the middle of the road. So even though they're not talking to each other, the problem said the men walk in the middle of the woman walked to the sides. The woman had so much higher on top what they would walk to the side so much that their dress their clothing would get snagged on the walls. That's how they used to walk. None of them were missing anyways, but

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personally, I'm separated between them, between the men and the woman one day and Debbie SAW said lamb. This is narrated by nafa now was Mola Mola, and he freed slaves. This was the freed slave of Abdullah Omar, and he was a scholar, and he one of the great scholars of Islam, but in this day he was with he says, the prophet SAW Selim pointed to a door in the mystery. He said, we will leave this door for women. Nothing that says abnormal, never, ever again, entered or came in from that mystery or left until he died. Not two in the morning one, maybe one time three in the morning, there's no womanism quickly I'll go from here until he died. He never entered or left that door

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because it's for women, the porcelain said it's for a woman Carlos. And this is the great thing about the companions of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam when he said don't do it. They never said don't do it yourself. Allah don't do it. yonny haram haram Allah don't do it haram which is what we do today. So it's not allowed or not allowed. The Anima crew are not allowed haram haram

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isn't enough. Freedom is not allowed. Allah doesn't allow it in his religion. President said don't do it in but don't do it serious. Don't do it. What serious? Don't do it? How is it? How else is it? Yeah, people don't want to question everything. And we want to find a way out. Even macro sometimes young man will come to you. And just holler. Macro. Macro. So it's not Haram. Yeah, it's not horrible. mcru macros, yes. But it's not Haram. That's what I want

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to go away with it. Yeah, people don't react anymore. The story of this show, he said, I was there was a ghost word, this big gold ring in the mustard blue shame. Big Gold ring. You know, and you know, when people have a ring, yeah, they find a way to make you see the ring. Al Hamdulillah Kevin Kapha. Okay, back into

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the ring is in your face all the time. He said today I'll make this man take off this ring. Oh, shame him out of it. He stood in the begin after the Salah, and the Britain the front of the masjid. And he started to tell people and the processor made gold Hara. If the processor Lim came to you today and told you take off the gold, would you take off the gold? And all the people are saying yes, we will take off the gold. Would you take off the gold a problem today came to you and said Take off your gold ring? would you do it? brothers and sisters? Everyone's saying yes. He said the whole time this brother is just sitting like this.

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Nothing is I'm right in front of him.

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Feel it, man. Just take it out, at least at least for this. Just put your hand in your pocket. And that's the least case. You know, hide it law. It's still out there.

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So the President said don't do something. They took it seriously. Now, is it possible? I'm said don't do yes. But the Times have changed. Now we have computers, what's computers have to do with this? What's wrong with you? All kinds of excuses now, and it was different time. Different time people got better now. They got worse. So we should be 10 times more careful. So we said so the so this contact between men woman has guidelines and has limitations. It's not like how we want to make it today and being alone with a woman because that's one of the things who definitely will lead to Xena being alone with a woman. And today people tell me what's wrong. It's not your one guy tells

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me. I stood with a woman we studied together nothing happened. So hamdulillah nothing happened. And it doesn't make it a rule. And so now everyone should just go and nothing will happen. Yeah.

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What happens is that

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it's not a natural thing. So it's normal. It's normal. We're roommates we were classmates we studied together we have an exam we don't no one has time for how long we're studying. You know chemistry physics is normal. We're classmates normal but let me show you normal. And explain that anytime a man is alone with a woman who is the third one

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some kind of shape or know the Lisa Hama the shaitaan will be the third one man one woman number three is the shape on imagine now I go to a room. I opened the door and I can see imagine I have glasses. I can see the shape on now. Okay, so open the first door I see a man sitting with another man there chatting. Does it look normal? Yes, it looks normal. Then I see next door Open the two women talking to each other

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Normal, very normal. Then with my shirt on vision glasses, I opened the third door I see a man talking to a woman. And I see the shaitaan sitting amongst them.

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However he looks up.

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How do you think I'll close the door? And that's also normal because the door, you think that would happen? Like if you could see the shape on? Do you think it will be normal? This is normal. I sit with a brother we're talking I don't see an issue. I see with the sister this shirt on right here, standing behind me telling me things. That's not normal. But where do people come up with these kinds of arguments? That's normal. If you knew if you could see that shape on, you would run, you'd run out of that room. I would not argue that it's normal. This HERO MAN he would run live the woman now if he saw if you could see the shape, I'm sitting with them. So sitting alone with a woman

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touching a woman in any

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sort of Villa and I said, Mr. Theodore Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam he had written in laboratorium liqua Jani the handle apostle have never touched the hand of a woman except a woman that Emily kohana She is married to or you know, right hand position, something like that, but never touched a woman because touching it's also one of these things that can eventually lead to that. So Islam has successfully put the guidelines and the barriers to what might lead someone to committing Zina. Have we gone over the time? Or what where's my time keeper?

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By carry on, I'm going to end the lecture is that all right? None.

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But Jimmy.

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I wanted to end with with the thought that Allah subhanaw taala inserted and nor

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he because oh by the way, one of the one of the solutions that Islam also put forward Come on. We mentioned the Salah, one of the brothers mentioned the Salah, and that's very accurate Salah because Allah subhanaw taala says what optimise Allah in salata don't have an infection or Moncure establish the salah, very litigious, Allah prevents from an fascia, the great sins and even unfair shot when you see it mentioned in the Quran. More likely, or most of the time, it's referring to Xena or sexual relations between a man and a woman. That's not Halla. So in the sort of 10 100 fat Shaolin monks, that Salah prevents these reprehensible acts and prevents prevents Zina. And we see also the

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great reward This is motivation for a man to not fall into that the great reward for refusing that being under the shade of the throne of Allah azza wa jal and of course, one of the one of the solutions is polygamy, right? No.

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Mashallah, you must be single,

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since you're with confidence, and yes, must be single for sure. Notice how all the other married brothers have polygamy. They're like,

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my wife is in this lecture. And I have polygamy say it with confidence. brothers, my wife is not here. I can say this with no fear whatsoever. polygamy.

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And zapomniani. Sometimes a man needs another woman, right? And these men, people come and bother them. And they harass them. Yeah. Hey,

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be loyal. Yeah. Hey, why are you getting in? It's not your business. I don't have to explain to you. There's one man. This is in America. You needed to get a second wife. Because of some very personal intimate reasons between him and his wife. They were issues. She had issues. So he wants to get a second wife. Oh, the woman in the masjid came to him. Why do you need a second one? Why do you need a second one? He said that.

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It's nobody's job. No one's supposed to ask me. I don't have to give an excuse to anybody. But he said imagine I give them an excuse now. Like, you see, sister, my wife and I

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imagine he has to explain how embarrassing would that be? But why are you putting yourself in this embarrassing place? When it comes to polygamy? What we say is this. Yeah. If someone, a couple decides they want to do it, let them do it and leave them alone. And if you don't want to do it, leave them alone. It's like that. So if let's say a man has three wives, and his neighbor has one wife, so it's not his job to go knock on his neighbor's door and say why do you have one wife? Hmm. You're not a man. Yes, he could be a man. You know, eat a lot of I don't know. Sweet Love gentlemen. Getting married another one. No, it's not your job. And it's not the guy's job. The guy who has one

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wife to come and knock on his door and say, Listen. Yeah, why are you like this? stay loyal to one woman. You know, buy her roses. Hello, this romantic stuff that's killing us now. Right? You heard the joke about the Muslim man who goes into the flower shop. Right? It says the man at the flower shop. He says, Get me a dozen roses. And I want the card to say to the one and only true love in my life. The guy at the flower shop said that is one of the most beautiful things I've ever heard. Muslim guy said yes. He says give me four of those please.

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For her, we have to stop because this is my favorite subject for joking. So we have to stop

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Sharla the sisters Don't get upset What about the person who doesn't have all of this doesn't have it doesn't have the shelter the food by the way, yeah and then when it comes to marriage

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the people who are afraid of falling into Xena these people are scholars say Hurry up and get married and live in any condition but hurry up and get married. It's better for you than to volunteer center the people who are okay they're normal they can fast they can lower their gaze you know they can keep themselves busy with activities with gurus with sports with memorization all these things that some of the scholars This is a memorable hanifa Rahim Allah He gives what I believe is very very good advice. He still told his students finish your education and work and save money and then get married. Why? Because the woman in her father's home she's the princess right? In

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the woman in her father's home her whole life she never had to worry about rent paying electricity bill gas bill father took care of everything and she was a princess whatever she wanted he got for her. Then comes you inshallah, we will suffer and will struggle together. And it will be difficult in the beginning, but Allah has with us. Why are you happy when you make this woman suffer? She should now from princess become a queen. But now from princess she becomes what?

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a janitor or something like that. All right. So the advice of the Imam was if you can be patient, and it's not a problem for you, then finish your studies work and then marry and take care of this woman. And if anyone is afraid of falling into sin and scholar sin Quickly, quickly, go get married. And don't worry about it in case like that. But what about people who can't afford anything and just don't have any ability to get married at this point. And a large budget tells us and it gives what these people they tell them what to do this is in Surah unknown. Allah, Allah says What do you start with in Edina? You're doing Nika. So those who cannot get married,

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and have only a home alone and follow it until a large region gives them wealth from his grace. So the people who can afford it, yes, start people and refer to God to protect themselves to remain chaste. So those who can afford it, Allah tells them to remain chaste. Just to keep the guard their private parts to not do anything just to be patient. There is no other choice. Some of the scholars say or the scholars say that in this you see proof that North America is corrupt because no matter marriage, how many people know what that is.

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But Mota marriage is a type of marriage that people need. They Some people think that it's okay, where the man gets married at night in the morning, he divorces her next night, he marries someone else in the morning, he divorces her. This is not acceptable. And it's gonna say if it were acceptable, wouldn't it be the option here?

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Those who can afford it the man Some people think if you can't afford it, what our marriage You don't have to spend on her. But if that was acceptable, Allah wouldn't say your stuff if that you guard and protect yourself. If it was acceptable, Allah would have made it an option. And it's not so if you can't get married, you keep your guard your privates that means there's nothing in between clear evidence, isn't it? And we'd like to end

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with with two issues two reminders number one, and this is advice to all the brothers and all the sisters and everyone listening in sha Allah. Do not joke about Xena and don't share and tell each other jokes about Xena don't, okay, they're not funny. And it's not befitting for a bleeding man or woman to share jokes about Xena Why? Because what happens now is the least case we all know the Hadith whoever sees my Rahman C'mon Quran, Fallujah, you yo B for lm neostrata fabrisonic lm Yes, Dr. phobia can be whether dika above when a man Casasola that when one of you sees a reprehensible act something nuker something haram Yeah, change it with your hand. If you can't change it with your

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tongue if you can't change it with your heart, just so we understand that it doesn't mean this is the order. Understand that this is not saying this is the order that first hit, then speak then just in here hate it. Yeah, a lot of people think that one time I was in the masjid in a Muslim country. We don't want to say the name Sudha.

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and there are these two uncles in their 40s or 50s. One of them hit the other. So they want to complain to the mom. He tells him a mom. We said something he hit me. My mom looks at him he said the adage said first with the hand.

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So he understood the Howdy.

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If I can hit you a hitch, if I can't hit you then I speak to ya he bothered

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by the lowest level in this hadith is to hate something here. At least at least you hate it here. I'm in this position where I can't speak I can't change and I'm in weak oppressed, but at least I can hate it here and if all the believers hated here will resist

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It growing and becoming rampant in our community. But when everyone's okay with it, this is a problem. And I'll tell you, a lot of Muslims in the West they have a problem with certain sins they have you can't hate them. And they come to you and say, Well what about this and these people are just young they hate the sin, hate the sin at least I didn't say change it with your hand, or write articles or go on the TV and with your tongue. Just hate it. So at least the least case is we hate Xena, Juan and the hot the least cases we hate it. But what happens now someone comes and tells you a joke about Xena or adultery even woman committed Zina and in the end something funny happened.

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So instead of being angered for the sake of Allah, this is a sin that comes after ship and murder, ship and murder. And worse than alcoholism being an alcoholic being addicted. And here I am laughing about it. And was in a Muslim country. I'm not gonna say the name this time. I was at a Muslim country and in the newspaper in a Muslim country 90% Muslim, the newspaper there's a joke about a woman committing Zina and saying something funny to her husband and people reading it laughing sharing with each other. So you lost the least. Which is hating it. So let's make a deal in Sharla that will never tell a joke about Xena. Yes, this is a simple thing. You make jokes about anything

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else bananas, apples, orange watermelons, leaves in a cloth. There are many subjects we can joke about. Let's live Xena never joke about Jenna we make this deal in sha Allah and inshallah for the listeners as well never ever joke about Xena. The second thing and we spoke about a dangerous topic and sometimes, even though knee in we speak about an issue there may be someone in the audience who has fallen into that sin. So to that person we say the gates of tober are always open and no one comes between you and Allah azza wa jal don't allow the shaitaan to trick you with the oldest trick or you committed this big sin. Why are you praying? Why are you worshiping you're not worth it.

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Allah doesn't want anything from you go away Run away from Allah lock the doors of tober Oh is open and a lot of it says no Quran in Allah who would have been will have been Matata hearing Yanni. Allah loves those who always repent often repenting, but in order to always repent you have to

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in order to always repent you have to always say it sin How you going to repent if you don't sin. Although repent from nothing. You repent from what? Why are you guys hesitating? You're one What do you have to repent from? A sin? So we are telling me Wait a minute you telling me Allah can love someone who always sins? If they always repent? Sincerely? Yes is the answer. Yes is the answer. So the doors have tober open if anyone has committed any kind of sin or any of the things that lead to that type of sin, make the October no so which means you in your heart you sincerely don't want to go back to doing it again. You stop doing it and you feel bad for what you've done and nothing and

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no one could come between you and Allah subhanaw taala. With that, I would like to thank all of you for being responsive and reactive audience and for your attentive listening some of the more Baraka Mohammed Ali was a big man was Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.