The Fragile Vessels Rights and Obligations Between Spouses in Islam – 65
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Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.
In sha Allah and to all the sisters, brother
we were stuck with the morning prayer
was Smilla Rahmanir Rahim
Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen
Allahumma Salli ala Muhammad
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we will continue to recite few of the Hadith of the Prophet that we have been reminding
all our student here especially in the month of Ramadan
I'm going to start slowly we hope everybody who's here try our best to follow
to show our love towards our profit some loss alone that we do not just love him by lip service
saying that we love the Prophet, but we don't even memorize his saying is like we love Allah. At least we memorize few ayat of the Quran
Philo Surah Al Fatiha guru who Allah in Tyne, even the shortest one
that is how we show our love towards Allah
in sha Allah, we try our best
so that in the deal with jasmine
the Prophet salasar will be very proud of us
and He will not
feel as and give us the intercession shafa
few of the important saying that we are shared to all our fellow Muslim brothers and sister
What are the raw
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what abogado Lilla
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puppet, this millennial Eema.
I hope all of us have tried the best to try to understand these bodies.
The first 100 days remind us the importance of how we should do or say anything that will not cause harm to ourselves
and will not cause harm to others. That is number one.
Number two, to be a good Muslim, male or female. It's very important to stay away from things that have no concern to ourselves.
Being that if we are not a politician, you don't have to talk about politics. Just example. If you're a business person there, how are you going to talk about business? If you're not a doctor, how we will talk about medicine example.
You should accept who you are, be humble and move on.
Because life is full
complement between one and that there are those who don't know, learn from those who know those who know is that duty to teach and guide those who don't know
that's how you move on.
And also the prophets some Muslim who love us so much.
to have a strong emotion,
not just feeling I believe.
No, you must make sure that you have the right emotion.
The emotion is inside.
No one's can see your iman
you can feel it.
Because a man got taste, Halawa to Lima
one, you have the right Iman,
you feel connected. You don't feel alone anymore.
You know you may have a lot of problems in life, but you know how to overcome and move forward.
have the feeling that you are not been left alone. Because Allah is always there
to guide you
and the saying of the Prophet is always there to help you to move on.
A lot of galantamine
remind us not only
through the Quran talking to us, by E also remind
All the messengers and the Prophet
when they will alone
All the prophets have to
spend their time alone how
to seek guidance. That's right, the kurwa is there.
They went to the cave, they went to the mountain, they isolate themselves,
they disconnect themselves with the world, not because they are running away, they want to be connected to the Creator
so that they are ready to help the people around them.
Not like us, we human me we may do that, but for our own self,
not for the community.
Use of Alayhis Salam, Yunus LA's.
If you look at their history, Musa alayhis, Salam
II asylees, Prophet Muhammad, some of us all have gone through
all the challenges.
you knows especially you so far separated from the whole family.
in the well alone,
a stranger will come and take him away
and sold him in the market
and become a slave,
a boy and a slave
and he was even been prison
and he chose
what regard to fitna I'll say is so great.
He preferred to be behind bars in the prison
to safeguard himself and to minimize the fitna.
sent all his family back to him, not he went to look for them anymore. They came to him.
Of course all this story that Allah mentioned the Quran
is always a good reminder for the believer.
But the love they have towards Allah is unbelievable.
And that's why the prophecy man Bhatinda or abogado de la what up finding that one man I love this Malala Eema
whoever love what Allah love,
for his sake,
Allah love or the good thing that we are doing.
we to only speak what is good, that benefit is and benefit others.
Allah love to eat what is halal and good. He didn't like us to eat what is how
to open his holla is not good hidden like that. But he allowed it to happen
on the love Earth to do a lot of activities he don't like us to be lazy
to be selfish.
Now that's why whenever we have extra
we should share with other
founders wages Zakat is the stuff that is
in front is there
and Allah also hid a lot of things. The first thing that Amma hate most is Sheriff
don't ever commit
che with Allah
and there are two type of sharing.
they call sherek. Czar here
the second shooting bonding.
Shooting czar here you can see somebody worshipping other than Allah
worshipping idols, worshiping symbol trees, mountain spirit.
You can see why they're doing this because there is what they believe.
There is sharing that you can see
but the sharing that you can
it should be near
where it should be near this way Allah is it
from uncanny era Jubilee Park or be fully ma Milan Sorry, what are you should be by the therapy
love to meet Allah hope to see oh
we all believe in nama sooner or later we are going back to him.
Of course we are going to see
and a Maori miners, per Yamaha, Milan saw they
be active in doing a righteous deeds of righteous
not just anything. Anything you do you do the best specially for law
is like in life.
If you want people to appreciate what you're doing, give them the best service give them the best.
Then people value you of course Allah will value to
what I used to be bad at therapy. Allah said don't ever permit sharing
with Allah when you are worshiping Him
while you are worshiping Allah don't call me sharing
the first group is eg you see they're not worshipping Allah.
They go to the grave the worship prostrate makes a joke.
At the grave that is your shipping the grave they call the kobori
they go to the sea, they offer a lot of food and they start to worship the spirit of the sea. Why not you worship the Creator of the sea
not just the sea of course everywhere there is a spirit
in our house that is spirit. We now have the chlorine and the angels you can see them
but Allah do not allow us to worship added in him
there is a saying you have boo nl naclo en su and then colic
people love the creation to the extent that they worship the creation of Allah they forget the Creator
so the Allah said what are you should be bad at your A B never never permit surely when you're worshiping Me
a lot of Muslim you're asking do you believe my Yes Yeah, but they do a lot of things
insight you it should be near
should it be near means even you are
worshiping Allah even you're reading the Quran example is good thing. But your intention is not
even your dress dooba example you wear a turban
but what do you do that?
For whom are you doing?
Are you showing of
the show that people see I'm a good recital of the Quran
look at how pious I am. Look at my dressing
let's read the profit cells.
Guy his own mouth when you want to pray anything sunnah optional.
Highly recommend you to pray at home.
Not in an open area. If possible.
Most of us of course you are praying of how to do prayer in the mosque or in the day one this
then you just continue with the Sunnah. That is okay. Because you're around
where the place is they're convenient for you.
But if your house is nearby
Our Prophet, the mistake of the Prophet is just beside his house.
So most of the time he will pray sunnah at home and then he come out and lead the people, the OMA the Sahaba in praying the solid carrot,
the obligatory prayer
the reason to save our sherek
a stay away from sharing, not safe sharing, stay away from sharing. So you are not just going to do a lot of prayer showing off to other people.
This honor sharing be near
some people may give sadaqa
they can give 1000 10,000 100,000
by issuing the show after the public, then the media will come and cover a lot of photos.
And they publicize it if you do that purely for a while.
you want to remind other people if I can give
why can I add again?
I'm a middle class person. If I can donate
How come the people who are the high end people who are more than me can't donate?
They just did 101,000
If that is your intention to encourage others to contribute that is good.
But if your intention is to understand the word see how time
and how rich I am
you are committing Sheree because you are showing off to the people
is a very fine line between sherek and Iman. Otto hate
call for a man sunnah be they
all are very close to one another.
That's why the prophets that you love what Allah love, hate what Allah hates.
You give for the sake of Allah
the time you don't give also is good
because if you're giving like people want you to support a concert
Are you going to be
giving some money to help people to do all this kind of activity or this is entertainment?
To make everybody happy, there's not a dancing singing.
By you know all this free mixing and all these things. Love we're is something that Allah don't like
the best thing you want to
help a person
people want to go to Omaha they don't have enough money people in the good. You help them. There's a better gathering.
The world come together everybody is there. And to praise Allah Allah bacon more Humala bank, love bacon and Sherry Kilakila bake that is better.
You use the money they help people
to go to Makkah for whom harsh Umrah.
The gathering there by millions and more than any concert in the world.
This is just an example. You give
anything for the sake of Allah. But whatever they do, is also pleasing Allah.
By the time you don't give an I can't support this kind of activities. Just an example.
So to all the sisters and brother
Firstly, I'd like to apologize because a bit late. I came in to the class today.
We just returned back from OSI last night
Even we have a lot of good thing to do and to move forward
to bring peace to the world.
We have to sit down
And our discussion
is not just a normal discussion
is eight hours per day 12 hours per day from 8am to 8pm.
But it's very, very
I will say that there's a lot of wisdom to train ourselves to be Rigby
and you can do for the sake of Allah We must always think how to give Allah the best
now let us just go back to the book or one
is the other one.
Excellence or other woman
in the history of Islam in the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet, you will come across then Allah will talk about certain people
and certain people's exhale and in their own way.
The excellent other woman among the woman, you have certain woman who excel in many many ways.
In this Hadees Aisha radiAllahu Excel did over the woman buy qualities that make the profit so much Sadie.
If not Aisha who said But the prophet is the one who is talking about his wife.
the excellence of Asia or the woman is like the essence of 30 of the types of food.
Today it is the kind of food that is very very
special among the people.
So the Prophet just come up with
this excellent must be based on a divine command which make the Prophet small love her more than his other wives.
One thing that we learn to this saying is that
people say you must be fair with everything.
What were your company human relationship?
Fairness is not based on
if I give you
one hour of my time I have to give the other party one hour.
If I gave you chicken today, you must also feed other with the same kind of chicken food No.
Fairness is you put the right thing at the right place.
If I don't like chicken you give me chicken is not fair.
I like Martin's give me Martin.
Some people don't like Martin he like fish give you a fishing example. I don't like orange. By her no is fair. I give everybody orange is other people enjoy orange they enjoy they are happy but I can I just don't need
the same go to love Love is a feeling you want to be love, you must do what you can.
All these things you must gain is not a gift that come free.
Like children also, when you have children you have friend why you are closer to this friend more than the other friend is because a how they react
how friendly they
know how caring they are. So when somebody want the best
and that person will give them the best do
you want people to smile at you learn how to smile.
One of the teaching of our prophets Allah Salaam
and what smiling
I said before you want to travel anywhere,
there's a door
for a traveler
and the door
the simple do you say Allahu Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar. So behind that ledges so Carolina has a warmer couldn't Allahu careening. We're in Isla Robina that one called evil example.
If you're traveling further than the normal one
then there's other
to continue with.
If not, like normal kind of traveling going to the office back home going out for shopping come home, this is a very short time of traveling.
you should after resetting the look at the sky
look up and give a smile.
Why because if you go out, you like to smile at all. One another. You look at people you have a smile A smile is
that mean you are going out showing something very positive? How do you feel you come out? When people look at your icon concern?
You're not happy
you're showing your ugly face you may have some problem but now the problem is between you
and maybe something else.
Keep it you must know how to present yourself
when you're moving outside
is very common. If you like to smile, people know you're friendly
and you're a person who have good feeling.
So a smile is
as will be seen in the next chapter, Aisha Radi Allahu Allah was the only one among the mother of the believer that gave her a came with the revelation to the Prophet while he was under the same blanket with her.
On a number of occasions, Prophets Allah would say to her, yeah, Aisha has a Gibreel you Karina Besana or Aisha jeeper is here. And he gives you Salam,
and even how excellent how good the wife of the Prophet, they are the family of the Prophet.
The role between we end the mother of the believer, the wife of the Prophet are very unique.
Number one, they are like a mother figure to us.
Number two, when is a mother
nobody can get married with the wives of the Prophet.
Even the prophet had divorced them in case all Prophet pass away in the life as a widow. Aisha was still young nobody can married her anymore and they cannot get married again.
Is a lifetime why?
Mother, how can you marry your mother? That's why they are almost meaning they're the Mother of the Believers.
So literally when you say a mother figure, that means if you cannot marry a person, they are your Muharram
There's a woman cannot marry with another woman. They are Mahara.
Men cannot marry with men with your Mahara
and the immediate family, sibling and peace uncle is
just an example.
One of the maharam that we may not be alert of your in laws.
When you are married to somebody and you have father and mother in law, you can even divorce your wife or your husband.
But you're in law stay as a maharam Forever
You cannot just ignore them and they cannot
marry with you. You cannot married maybe you have us. Beautiful Mother You know sometimes the mother in law
Are you more beautiful than the daughter
and they look young.
So you may fall in love with your mother in law but you cannot get married
when you have a relationship
with any woman
and you are married, if you are married but you're no good have any relationship yet
then it can happen when you're having intimacy for us.
marry Yama haram anymore.
Is a haram for life.
Even you are maharam, but you see the strict laws between the believer men with the wife of the Prophet,
when you want to talk to them, you should talk to them what are all hijab
behind the curtain?
To make sure that
there is no fitness
because fitness is very, very dangerous.
And look at what happened to the wife of our Prophet, the grid fitna.
Realizing the grid position of Aisha Radi Allahu anhu, in the prophets of Allah has the hypocrite try to attack him in his honor. To her you see some time when people can attack you.
They will attack through your close one, your loved one.
Because you are strong, you are good.
But then they will come from the other angle.
This way the family can be a great fitness your spouse's can be a fit. Your children can be great fit, you are good.
But now they can attack you that they look at their children
and if they can corrupt your children,
if your children become bad, then is also a fitna to you.
The fitnah that Allah have passed
best to know is one of his son
who have forsaken
somehow, by the
trees done, follow
the father, they went into the ship,
they are safe, one son and refuse
to the extent when he was calling his son come come into the shoe.
That sense it No. Can you imagine if your own son goldenseal? How about your followers?
Then people see his son to sort of believe in him. Why must we believe
and he was still having hope calling almost safe. My son's
father is the
Father always love their children. Children is different. Not all children have the same feeling. But normally a good father is a father who loves their children. A good mother, Mother will love the children.
They can sacrifice a lot for the children.
But the children love to the parent may not be the same.
If you want to be a good parent,
now we learn how to be a good children, to our parents.
Then Allah will help us
to be a good
father and mother.
So that we have good children in the near future. There's our life move forward. You went to bed you must try to give the best now
when he was asking Allah to save his son,
you see how Allah respond somewhere.
Don't call him your son anymore.
Those who refuse
and still go against you
a time that you have
Look at the offering enough stop calling him your son. Stop praying for him
the whole time.
The fitna is so great.
But Allah Subhana Allah of course.
He knows everything. beliefs come from inside.
That's right today you can see your father may be a very pious man but the sun
is just opposite.
Because every individual will be responsible to themselves.
What Elisa Lilly insulin Illa Massa, human will not be questioned and not be rewarded except what you yourself have engaged in. You are responsible to your own beats
in the fifth hijra, the Prophet was returning to Medina from enumeration battle
and Aisha was with him.
And was then to have us all near the end of the trip and armies top for us. The always top is that as you have if you're traveling you're there is RNR here and there you stop power.
Of course, that time you don't have RNR is an open ground open desert LBD just stop the ticker brands.
Just before the night departure, Aisha found her necklace missing. And when searching for it, she came back to find that the Army has departed God
can you imagine
she wrapped herself in her claws and separate waiting for some people to come back for her. After a while she fell asleep.
Soft one Safwan Bill Anwar
Ahmad was riding behind the army trying to catch up with the group.
He reaches iShares plays in the mornings show her show her dark figure and realize who she was.
He dismounted of his camera and waited for her to write on it. Then walk in front of her leading the camera until he caught up with the rest of the army
where it stopped again for rest known time.
This was the golden child for the hate of the hypocrites, Abdullah bin Abi saloon
and his supporter to slander the wife of the Prophet Aisha.
By sending her
then, the profit will have to face this Barbara
is they actually are not worth worrying about Asia, they just want to attack the profit. But they have no they don't have any
thing to attack the prophet.
Now is a good challenge
and his support to slender Asia, her husband and the whole Ummah by accusing her of committing Zina which Safwan.
This grifter Prophet a lot and the pro Muslim for a full month until Allah revealed Can I decline her innocence
and condemned MING All those who join in slandering her, Allahu Akbar.
And these are very important thing for us to learn.
The prophets Allah then told her indeed by Allah, Allah has declared innocent of course Aisha as a person. How can she defend herself
and this thing really happened
that's why one thing that we must learn from what happened when we travel together is important for us to stay together closely.
And double check
each then when you want to move, travel again, from one point to another point. Check.
We are here very important.
Today with all the handphone everything it helped us to stay connected. Where are you now?
The bosses leaving
the old is very important. That's why when we travel Islam don't like us to travel in the group but there is no leader.
There must be a group leader. And Amir
is not that oh the OH is my choice man.
No I pay for this trip.
So I want my freedom is not like that Islamically No.
You're traveling together then maybe you must appoint one among us to be the leader of the group.
And the leader must take self responsibility to check okay before we start, let us have a shot. Breathing.
Is that to our group No.
To a leader that is have a short briefing where we are going now.
And when we stop before we spread out, also, you must know the meeting point. I gave you two hours Remember check your time two hours
and we'll meet up at this point.
That LBD aware where is that point
the bus may not be there anymore. They stop you in a place but they have to park other areas.
This is a market full of stops
nobody may have their own
liking to pick up certain thing.
Maybe when you try this karate in coffee here. And now drink so many many different kinds of things.
No problem we give you two hours or three hours we are great okay check your timing. Now this is our meeting point look you must be very careful about what when you want to meet together again the time and the place
and the place is new to everybody is a new place. So there must be a
what we always look at
see when building or any color net look at this remember the sign this is the plate okay this building we meet at this area
because sometimes we travel together and you have your own liking and people have their own you cannot just follow the leader the leader may like to eat other thing that you don't like.
So you give you the freedom if you want
what what children you cannot
for adult maybe people are more careful those who can walk faster who can walk very fast. So all these things is a test when you are together so you must check
like if I will travel
anytime with my group of people I will have to appoint a few assistants to backup
there'll be one in front one the middle one behind or two behind the two behind we call them sweeper
anything that no we don't see it and then we're going to ask the stripper the super must make sure that LBD is in front of him
to save God time and you know sometimes when we are so busy
we may forget that time
and especially children don't ever leave your children
alone because children is June and they don't know every day is a playground for them.
So all these are very important thing for travelers in
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it's not easy when the fitness start is hurting
from nothing now we have to face this problem by talking now this also remind us don't think that everybody who are with you is like you
or who like you.
They may have someone who is your enemy victim.
And that's why the last camp we have for our US can record the battle we
that mean there are people among you who don't like you, but you are not aware, because you have obvious good feeling for everybody, but not everybody have the same feeling towards you.
That is reality of life, you will encounter this.
So you must be very alert.
I'm not saying that you should have doubts among the people,
you must have good thoughts good feeling with one another.
Then you can
move better. But at the same time
ask Allah to protect you and do your level best to protect everybody in the family
because your enemy is everywhere
because the jealousy is there,
sometimes the enemy started not because they hate you for anything in that jealousy.
Because you're so good.
And people don't like good people that they're
too good can be a problem too.
Because they have bad feelings. So they start to have doubt
hear in the other words, they use your your what the Malay used to use that term if you like to
be so good to somebody.
That's what the Malay used to use. Khaki ever
made me maybe
Tolkien Polka keyboard that llama Gemma Jomo.
So people are not happy even you're good because you must be very careful. When you want to be good, you'll be good to everybody.
But also you must be careful what you do and what you say.
Very, very important.
But just be alert that wherever you go in the group, not everybody is like you.
You are good Alhamdulillah but you may have the good and the bad among you. So just be alert.
You know the prophet is so good, so fair to his ummah.
And now, but still when people want to create fitna they create fitna
but Allah and the Prophet had shown us how to overcome fitna
if there's anybody talking bad about somebody together when we are all together, somebody will talk bet by the person behind their bank and come and talk to you how are you going to solve this problem
normally how do you solve the problem?
they have started
but how are you going to do this they come to you
it's your swing. So, so and so behind their back.
Whatever you heard
is important for you you do reflect
maybe there are some truths that you are not aware
somebody when you are talking to somebody,
somebody who is very sincere if you have good companion, we're very sincere
guy very alert with the noise for you know,
you treat everybody equal but somebody among the group, I'm unhappy with
the one more from you. They don't equal
they when you treat them more
maybe they want to come to get closer to you. They don't like other people who are close to you.
They want to be close but you cannot just entertain everybody. You try your best to give the best to everybody but somebody out of jealousy
they don't know but you have no time to look around. But somebody who is good some of them may observe and they
there's some gossiping here and then now
become an alert you what should you do?
You cannot just
ignore something is happening now.
But you cannot start to develop negative feeling and talk to other people yet
that's why Allah says Enjoy comfort Seacombe number in fact a per year no further be a no Albion
How to Buy earn,
if you have the wisdom to talk to the person
then you talk to them alone.
And of course people who have this feeling is not going to admit no, no, no who said it?
Is they want to know who said
they must be somebody who is telling things something, they cause us to us?
Or is it
so, a wise person, two way of doing it, you are and they say to you,
we remind each other, we hope no, we all must develop good feelings for one another.
And don't lie don't allow any of these negative feelings to come in between us that will cause division among others.
Of course, the feeling of jealousy you cannot escape is always there
is how you overcome that feeling.
but the another best way is
you bring the person who convey the message to you
and call the person that they are talking about.
the person that the person was saying that he or she is having this kind of feeling. Sit down.
And then we discussed.
But when you want to have that kind of the volume
is not easy.
People may say but when come to relate the confrontation people deny I didn't say
normally. That's why when a husband and wife have problem
they may go
for counseling, a counselor cannot just listen to one side or
or he saw better starting to say that the other party is bad you cannot.
You can listen.
And if you have the wisdom, you can ask more from a different angle just to get to know her better.
And write it down possible later on this way. Sometimes we write it out. Sometimes we don't
those who can
reword it, we may forget write it oh point 41230 This
is a mathematic kind of thing. Okay, can I
see your husband?
We're talking about the other party or sometimes she will give xCO my husband they don't like to come no counseling. He refused.
We don't even know. But now she's telling you. Now may You send my salam to him, you can give me his number if possible, I can call him
and some of them the woman may not like this. They want you to listen to their story and take sides
or your husband
or that might have been I had no no she got a supporter now.
Then you create another fit.
Then this he would share support me how if they share? No, no see what I see is right. I didn't say what you see is right. I'm just listening.
So I'm very it's very important to
You must have done the use of both ear.
Then only you can come up with a conclusion. If not
what should you do? This is a matter of counseling
You have to help this person who's having the problem now how to move on
meet her become more positive and don't entertain
if you cannot see the next the other party you must help this party because this party is having some problem to
now she is depressed now because she is having this problem. You must motivate her. Help her to move on.
PAL her life is full of challenges and fitna you can escape this is the beginning of your period is this a first time we encountered this problem years okay
my you may encounter more in the future but if you know how to move on you're strong you're guided you follow what Allah wants you to do what the Prophet when to do then you don't let this thing bother you.
upset you for nothing
this is a whisper of the Satanism
there are two ways if you already you confront the person
if the right spirit
and bring the person to see that party together if possible. If you can solve or no i I'm right actually you are the one who made a mistake. No I didn't make any mistake. Yes Yeah. Okay let's go to the third party now.
To check whether what I've done is right or wrong
to me I feel that is okay. But to the party he said no.
No, let us look what Allah Islam said not your feeling my feeling what Allah and the Prophet said about this
and that's how you all come from
that is the normally
not everybody have their own feeling
as to data
then of course you're feeling now is very different from the beginning.
Yeah. And you see somebody who is close to them again. Also you are not having a good feeling to that presenter or see
people who are close to them.
Now you must just be ready for the bears. Do your level best. You know what you're doing? If you know you're not doing anything wrong, there is good.
But Yamaha has also made sure that you don't develop bad feeling don't do anything. They are a victim now do you want to be the second victim? No.
If I can help you and help you if I can help you I just pray for you and move on.
I'm not going to let you control my life and destroy my happiness
that is how I live move on Brandon says
I shall also
having this feeling
if the wife of the Prophet have feeding how How about
despite the great love that the profits show to Ayesha rodeo Alon Hua. She was extremely jealous.
Why? Some incident demonstrating this as cited in the next chapter.
It is interesting to note as we saw earlier that her jealousy is extended to Khadija who died three years before her married
she even said you know
I was never jealous of any woman as much as I was jealous to Khadija
because of Allah's messengers frequent mention of her
I just want to end here this month.
Who is Aisha to comment about Katya
but being a woman being a woman
is not that she was the second the third. No, no.
When Aisha was still alive, the Prophet have only one wife
who supported him with everything she had?
Who is so? Yeah
I will say so faithful.
Never in the history, the prophet with Khadija that we ever heard Pettyjohn belittling him
show disrespect to him because he was hurt salesman. A worker
nobody is not businessman and Khadija businesswoman so happened to have a meeting they got to know one and he is poor man. Yeah team poor
and she'll have a He offered Himself to be a sales mentor Khadija Kathy Jackson,
prodigious and noble woman rich the most.
I will say the richest lady at that time.
And not only she have money she's a very beautiful lady too.
But unhandled now when she got married with a prophet caught everybody by surprise. Who is this man that we wouldn't get married? There's so many men who is better than Muhammad.
At the time Muhammad was not a prophet yet
but he's a poor man.
And he again different
but a humbler they got married and never one Khadija a you don't forget who you are. You are my sis man you know I'm your boss. So remember that I'm still your boss
you survived because of me because I am the one who provide for you the house and everything
even when he
first time that he experienced
in the cave
he just isolate himself or one the wife network have any bad feelings or thoughts towards his husband? He knows it why you go to the cave
we have the home here your houses
why you go and isolate yourself what happened to me?
You didn't give me any more none you don't have that kind of is this what you want? I prepare everything go
even it's easier for her to understand but she never stopped and when he had the experiment Gabriel came to him and command him to read
read here is not reading a book nor is resuscitation recite
it Cara Ray say
read you must have a book. There's no book at the time.
After the experiment, he just ran out from the cave and never returned color.
He was shivering or feel what is happening to him. And look at Katya when he came home.
It just saw him
and then his Zulu Nizami Loony, I will mean the whole body shivering.
Particular quickly take a blanket and cover her husband.
rest, relax, do it nothing bad is gonna happen to you. You are good man.
To get home, the wife respond.
Today if we are having that 10 husband just like to go out by himself and come back on a day or not well,
and then you will know what you're going to have.
By that number.
You deserve it. Why are you good? I told you not to go.
Then you have double pressure.
Bharatiya Allahu Akbar, never one, raise her voice, or belittle Muhammad.
He gave her all the support that he needs.
Why? Because she knows that she's doing good things. She's not doing all the bad thing.
She knows that he is a man who is very committed, trustworthy. Always speak the truth, nothing but the truth. You respect the elders love the young. He loved the neighbor. He loved the poor. He knows
and that is enough.
For us until we know who is our partner
we have our own feelings on that, and the feeling of will pick
or the good
that Allah has given us, we start to have doubt
and we are entertaining the doubts.
So when the Prophet talk about Khadija on and all, because the prophets experience that the year is very unique
Of course, the president wife, Ayesha, and now is not happy,
dead, just no more evil, why you keep on talking about her, you should talk about me, you know, example, being a human, you should talk about me more.
Of course, the prophet love Aisha Alon,
because among the wives of the Prophet, she is the most intelligent, gracious alone. They don't have children so that she can spend more time and learn from the Prophet, whatever the Prophet say. He memorized a lot. And the Prophet was shared with her too, because she's alone, no other responsibility, no children to take care and so on.
This is just example when people
talk about some person we should not be jealous.
Then people use the word the prophet is awkward, jealous
that this is not an example for you to follow. This is just a reminder for all the good woman
Ben Hillman there and even their Prophets wife but they are not prophets. So they also have their own witnesses mistakes for us to learn not to follow not for you to take that as an example to allow you to do the thing that is not right
Can we have jealousy
in something good years, not to bring down the other person. No.
You just want to be like her. I'm jealous that she's so good. I also want to be there is good. There's a good jealousy why she is so helpful to other I always want to be that kind of jealousy is Allah
but then if people don't appreciate you don't feel hurt. You just give the best there's nothing wrong.
Somebody can recite the Quran so be I also want to be like her. I want to reserve no problem.
But when they seriously why would they listen, when you reset? People don't listen. You don't let that thing
corrupt you don't let that thing go. You try your best. If people value hamdulillah people don't value the important thing. Allah value and that's where
the intention come in.
You want to please other people are you in the priests Allah?
I want to please Allah.
That is more important. If people are happy and when people are not happy with my research, I
am not going to stop reciting the Quran because of the people
that's why the Quran Allah Himself remind us if Kuramoto Yeah, so when the Quran just reset whatever you can do your level best.
Sometime the sound of certain person, the melody they use, you know,
you also feel good. When some recite in a different way.
You don't feel good, other people feel good.
Because different people have different way of the feeling. They don't have the same feeling as
you do your level best, but what I like to add is please remember
jealousy is always there.
But those who will know how to overcome their jealousy and hamdulillah not to the extent that you are going to create fitna and you are going to hate one another because of that. No.
There are two feeling that you can express
There is a noun for you to express.
If you love someone
for the sake of Allah you can I love you for the CFR nothing wrong that the person must always remember when the person says I love you for this you must respond hubback La Raza Tana they actually there's nothing wrong
me I live few
more because I was lived by Allah more after you just mentioned that that you love me for the sake of Allah
and also you can I'm jealous
you can use them but your jealousy is not something destructive.
I'm jealous, you're so good.
I can be like you there's nothing
then you work towards that. You don't get jealous and then you start to back back and bring the other party down. And that is not good.
No, I'm jealous or you're so smart is okay you can learn and be smarter. I cannot
I can't have patient that you know try
some people are very patient
some people are not
I'm jealous. No, no you are you you're so fast. No
I'm Garrison You're so beautiful. And then you can take care of yourself is a gift from Allah that beauty is not just how you look outside is how you look inside to how you communicate with people know
that everything you must know how to balance it important is we must overcome the problem that we encounter in a positive manner. Guided by the Quran and the Sunnah, not guided by your feeling, no, your feeling is there, but let the feeling be guided.
That's why the Prophet said none of you can be a true believer until he control his feeling
the Hawa who taba only magic to be and follow the way I have taught them what I want them to do they try to do then just follow the feeling then you have the right email
Why did the Prophet said is because you know we all have our own feeling
to Allah to all the other sisters and brother if there's any other question when you open for q&a for the Fidel if there's any question
matter where they come see Salam wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
One question for me.
I would like to know how important is financial planning, financial stability, before we get married, digging for example, there are two parts to people who are going to get married. But the men maybe he is not really stable financially yet. So do you have any advice? How important it is for them? Now
awkward this kind of thing gave her from time to time.
A good example about Katya and the Prophet, Prophet nothing yet team poor
but Khadija have extra Do you have evidence dunya Katya have done yet? Khadija may not have occurred at that time, but dunya
So, it depends how you
The minimum of the man is to provide
by but if they cannot provide a thing you can start life start with nothing. When we are born, we're born naked nothing. We are going back to Allah also nothing.
So it depends.
Many families start with zero
but they work together as a team.
Even if we ran a house you I don't have a house yet. You can run I cannot run a house I can run room. People start with that.
I believe some of us also started with that we don't have the money to even run us flat. Okay, read the room
as long as both party is ready
so it's really up to how you look into what you mean by financially I'm not ready
Do you think we can eat and drink sufficient for us you can spend on I think this the basic thing I think we can, but the only thing we're worried, but you know, I don't have money to rent a house and then all these expenses and so on.
If you ask me person is not really very, very important in life.
It's up to both parties, readiness, how you want to move on?
If we can start from very simple, then you agreed then you do
then we work together
is it live is
that is the reality of life, then you can appreciate each other sacrifice better.
I think the problem that we're facing today is
family members, sometimes the pressure may come from there.
Are you ready?
Do he have this do he have that? Of course sometimes the challenge is there.
So it's up to two individual
the best thing if we are still having some of this issue
if they know how to solve it by themselves good if not they can get a third party who can advise them let us sit down and
try to see whether whatever we feel is correct.
And that without this we cannot
just an example. Yeah.
So in sha Allah will not to our life experience, we know how to
Because happiness is not to have big house.
People may have big house but empty inside
is how both party work together
and then move forward.
Sometime we are tested with this fear, the fear of the fear of death, okay? I'm not ready. Why? Because this because that, okay, let's really sit down. You write it down point form 12345. What is the problem that you feel now?
The other side also, they feel I don't have this problem right now, if this is a this is my problem. From distracted, I don't feel there is a problem.
That's a good sign.
If the set also said this is also my problem. If you want to get married, you must have 12345 Now you don't have three you have too many
is a problem. So we are looking from this angle, the best thing is both party can sit down for looking into it if they can solve it within themselves good if they can then get a third party to come in.
That is my simple answer. Yeah, don't give up because life is full of challenge. Nobody can say I'm always ready.
Some people may be ready physically, mentally, they're not ready.
They're not ready to take up that responsibility. But financially Okay.
Some people may have physical problems that we are not aware of. They are not ready to say to us
that's why today for the young couple to get married. The requirement the extra requirement is what
is the goal for HIV test.
You don't have these before, but because the problem
arise sometime when people complain or I want to end this relationship because my husband is having the Oh
My wife is
so then they say okay if they think can be a reason
because you want to buy something you know you want to make sure that there's no defect when he's okay normal if there's some defect you let me know if the crack over then
okay I agree to buy even there's some crack there maybe some discount
so it's like this norm family method if you know that you have some problem it's good for you to sit down
and see the other party ready to accept it or not
when you were taught you'll always have sunglasses you know you had the see him with the two iron but with the sunglasses look handsome we know
suddenly he had one problem. One I have no problem after getting married only he opened the Sandra's
Of course, we don't feel good anymore is not good example.
If everybody have certain problem
if you're afraid to say down because you're worried, No, the other party
will look down upon you criticize you because
then we find another way how to solve the problem.
If that's a defect, then everybody is ready to accept and hummed in.
Now, next question.
of shalom Shalamov Matana. Yeah, okay. I think it's okay. Now.
I want to ask if,
if, when you see someone, right, and then sometimes, when you talk to them, if you don't really like the way they talk, they're really comfortable with the way they act? Is it fine to like, stay away from them and not be close to them?
Yeah, and if you know, like, someone don't like you, is it fine to like also, not being close to them? Just to avoid the things getting worse? And then the second one is, is it okay if women have for men to have more than one piercing?
More than one piercing earrings?
Number one, the decoration that Allah allows for the woman.
There's nothing wrong. But don't all these things. You're doing it just to make you feel good.
But always be careful. Don't do overdo things. And
to the extent that no, you try to compete with other people, and no, no and don't burden yourself with that.
Now talking about character, and somebody or friend,
they have a certain character you don't like certain what they use, they like to use you don't like the best thing for us to do as a good Muslim is a matter of naming.
Anything that you don't like if memang is wrong, you know is wrong, then you have a duty to remind them
as a friend.
Try your best to remind them, you cannot help them if you don't get close to them. So just stay away, then they don't know that what they do is wrong. What they say is wrong. They don't know. They thought this is normal. To them is normal to you use it. I don't think it's right.
So you only can advise help somebody when you approach to them.
You try your best, you don't run away if you keep on running away. They will keep on with that kind of character. That is not good for them.
But the thought is normal. Nobody see anything.
Because we don't see anything we just buy.
We may stay away from them, but we don't say anything to them. They see maybe there's nothing wrong
if something wrong, but the way you talk to them, of course is very important. Don't talk in front of other people call them to 1.9 smiling face. Right. Those are the sister and the sisters
hamdulillah know, I'm so happy that I get to know you and you're a good friend. You know, you're a good sister. You must also