Hussain Kamani – 40 Ahadith of Imam An-Nawawi 15 – Islamic Manners

Hussain Kamani
AI: Summary © The importance of being a complete believer and bringing human assets into one's life to achieve success in life is discussed in a series of narratives covering the idea of peace be upon them, the importance of learning from the tongue in teaching hate and respect, and the use of negative language in media. The importance of the tongue in protecting one's health and well-being is emphasized, along with the need to be mindful of one's words and practice speaking skills to improve one's chances of speaking out.
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Same narration comes with different words in some narrations, the purpose of a lot of money, who will send them instead of saying that whoever believes in a lot in the day of judgment for lucrative job, that he should honor his guests and honor his neighbor as this narration mentions, and another narration instead of saying the Euclidean Giada wood says it says fella use the job, that he shouldn't harm his neighbor. In another narration, deposit a loved one in your salon said for use in the lobbies he, in one narration, the postulate a lot of money was said and said, Men can be learned William is fairly similar akima that he should join bonds enjoy ties with those that he is narrated.

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And there are other narrations too. And we support that along while he was in tells us that whoever believes in a line that they've just met should not do X, Y, and Z or should do X, Y and Z. I compiled some of those narrations and I'll share them with you inshallah, at the end of the class, that'll be the last thing we'll do before we close off to this class. We'll share those innovations.

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I've quoted this before, but just for refreshing our memory. The great scholar of Mohammed Abdullah bin Abizaid, the Imam of the molokhia in the motherland. He said that the a Hadith of the prophets of Allah Allah He was Salaam can be summarized to four Hadith when it comes to the source of etiquettes. If you want to study etiquettes, from the prophets, teachings, there are four narrations you need to focus on. And out of these four narrations is the narration that we're studying here. He quotes this particular narration for the purpose of the lohani was seven, seven montcada. You're going to be laughable young after the failure Poseidon odious mode for lucrative Jara, who for you

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currently for who as we just translated, and the second How do you see quoted which we also have already covered in Hosni Islam and what he thought of to whom Allah Ronnie from the beauty of a person's faith is that he leaves that which does not concern him. And then the statement of the Proxima llamada, who was a pioneer in this narration we haven't covered yet, but we'll be covering it soon. Let's talk about do not become angry. And then the fourth narration, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said and we've already covered this narration is well now you know how to come see my holiness UPMC lever until you love for your brother, what you love for yourself.

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Now this we know that the X in our religion the deeds that we are told to engage in in our religion fall in one of two categories. Hopefully it will love and probably about this hadith focuses mainly on football play, but the focus of this hadith is production on the on the filling guide people. That's why if I were to title this narration, I would title it as mentors in Islam, social etiquette and Islam, how to take care of the people around you, that you have for people and very eloquently the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, he lists out three things and these three things that open up like a spiderweb and they bring so many other issues underneath them.

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The famous scholar of poofy he said that the reason why, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says when kinda you know Bilawal Yeoman acid, whoever believes in the law that they have gentlemen should do X, Y and Z. He said, when you read that statement, it's important that you understand that by not doing that thing, you don't literally lose your faith. If a person doesn't take care of their guests, does that mean they're no longer a Muslim? That they're disbelievers? Not at all. Rather, what this hadith is trying to say, rather than teaching us how to make people faster, how to push people out of the fold of Islam, that's not what our religion is teaching us.

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The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him is showing us that these are attributes of believers. These are things they should surely do. A complete a complete believer, someone who wishes to excel in his or her faith will do whatever it takes to include these acts into their life. Moncada Villa William will offer or the translation could be, whoever believes in the law and the adjustment. It doesn't suit that person that they do X, Y and Z that is not suitable for someone who believes in a law entity of judgment that they engage in these actions.

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That is a question. Why did the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him restrict himself to these two things? Man can be laughable young after the Prophet of Allah could have said manconi opennebula was solely he was America. He wanted to be here the hoarder believes in the law and His Messenger and what it believes in the book of Allah, whoever believes in angels, he could have said all of those things. But why does the Prophet of Allah specifically say, whoever believes in Allah and the day of judgment? Why these two things one or two others, so the scholars have engaged in a lengthy discussion on wire, and I'll share two three reasons with you.

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The first thing they say among candidates may be land the reason why the Prophet says whoever believes in Allah is because

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Believing in a law is the foundation of your faith. Without it, there is nothing

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from it, other beliefs the other tenants take birth,

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date and the assess for us it's the foundation.

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As for the adjustment that's mentioned is because we're This is the foundation

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that's built upon this foundation now, you will be accountable for it on one human asset under the adjustment. So if your foundation is strong, you will focus on delivering good deeds. So the last part of the of the statement wherever believes in a law and the Day of Judgment, and the Day of Judgment is reminding us that you have to meet a lot your return is to Allah subhana wa tada and if you're looking for a good way to prepare yourself, these are certain things you need to bring into your life. Another group of scholars they say Mankato Minn, available human asset, the reason why these two things are mentioned, is to remind us of the beginning and end of our journey. The

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beginning of your journey is with the loss economy without our create you and the end of your journey is he standing in front of a lost part of what's in your book of deeds being given in your right hand or left hand.

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Some scholars say that the statement monetary union will be laughable young will often believing in a law in the Day of Judgment, the prophet mentioning these two as a condition.

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It's a perfect balance between him and obey them Sophia one Raja, the perfect faith is a balance between loving fear of hope and fear. Because when the Prophet says Mankato when a beloved worker believes in a law, believing it a law entails Hope it entails mercy, because we know that our Creator, our master, our Lord, our Allah is merciful. He loves the creation more than I can ever be loving her child. Allah subhanho wa Taala as loving of you starts way before you even knew that you would come into existence, and it will last much beyond after you leave this world. And you will see its true manifestation in the hereafter. That's the love of God. Anyone that tells you that your

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Lord hates you or your Lord is angry at you doesn't understand how intimate your relationship is with the most amount of water. Obviously, if you do things that call on the anger of a law, then you are accountable for that. But if a person sincerely in their heart repents to a lot, no matter what the sin is, even if it is holding partners of a model, even if a person has a faulty belief, but they but then they repent from that faulty belief, will ALLAH forgive them? Most definitely. There is no doubt in it at all, to doubt the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala in itself is a form of disbelief in assuming rohilla a little formal curfew and because only those people are despondent,

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of the mercy of a mob who are who are not true believers in Informatica after doing the people who are not believers,

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and the day of judgment that takes us to a place of fear being held accountable, our deeds being brought forth. Imagine being forced to read through your Facebook feed over the last eight years, everything you wrote for eight years, starting with 2000. And you know, right at the end, 2009 you'd be ashamed of yourself. I can't believe I wrote this in 2009. I was such an idiot, I was a moron, or reading something that you wrote in 2007. I can't believe I wrote this 10 years ago, we would be ashamed of reading our tweets. And these are facts that we have constructed to be read by the public, not the

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product costs, and the day of just about, it's about what it's about being terrified of facing your own actions. So my mentality I'm going to be laughable you will ask that whoever has a balance between these two, understands the mercy of a law and also understand responsibility and accountability. On the day of judgment, he should do X, Y, and Z.

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Now the three things the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam list in this hadith are very powerful. The first thing he says is, finally Apollo Hyperion, LDS would speak

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or remain silent.

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There's a hadith that can be found in a Muslim from an assessment of your loved one. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, is the theme email abdon. What is the theme of Malibu? What is the makalu? What is the theme Elisa? A person's faith cannot be firm in their heart. Sorry, a person's faith cannot be firm until their heart is firm, until their heart is strong and straight. Your faith can be complete. That's why you will constantly be reminded that your faith is in your heart you need to work on your internal affairs you need to work on heart develop your spirituality, clean your heart, everyday make dua to Allah Allah give me a heart that's clean. Yeah, Allah give me a

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That's sincere because that's the whole. That's the station of faith. You cannot have complete faith until your heart is straight and it's clean and it's proper. What is the theme of

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the person's what is the theme makalu and his heart cannot be firmed straight. What is the theme Allison until his tongue becomes firm and straight? Mama Salida de la Holly, the great hijet will Islam.

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He talks about the diseases of the tongue in length, not in one of his books, but in many of it not just in one particular book, but in many of his books, starting with his famous Yeah, Luma Dean, if anyone wants to do a detailed plus or like a proper study on the diseases of the tongue, the best place I would recommend you to go to his mom's was obviously de masala divided that book into four parts, little boy Eva, that that's the first part. Then after that, he goes into the different quarters that are the things that will save a person, and then a quarter that relates to little modelica, the quarter that will destroy a person, that the quarter of the book that relates to

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things will destroy a person. So remember when it talks about things you need to be careful of. Now I'm in the robot Monica, within the fourth of the book that he monitors it talks about those things that will destroy your world, and in the end your success in it and that will destroy your hereafter.

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He has a chapter it's called bubble effect in

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the chapter on the harms or the diseases of the tongue.

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Many years ago, I had the honor of teaching this particular chapter, but unfortunately, I don't think it was recorded. Maybe someday I'd like to cover it again because it's so relevant. It's so real.

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And in that chapter, he covers 20 diseases of the tongue tos were to zero. That particular chapter has been published as a separate book as well translated in English.

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Then imaams was added on to La La in his be directed Hidayat, the beginning of guidelines just like an ultra summary of the illuma Diem in there rather than covering 20 he rings eight diseases of the tongue

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and the way he constructs his discussion is so beautiful. He says a lot of love without a yellow modesty model for him what to call the Mona ad him watershed origin remark on wood that on that day, Allah subhana wa tada will seal the mouth. Seal the mouth because the mouth has lived for too long spoken long for too long, Allah will seal it. The two lips will become like one skin just like the softness of your cheek. What to call him would it have been a lot more command the hands to speak? What's the artificial human back on their feet will testify against him. Remember was only referred to lucky early Africa quoting this ayah This is from Surah. Yaseen. Then after that he was only once

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Allahu Allah says father Jamie Abaddon, so be very careful to protect your body. Hello, Susan. Baraka Saba, in particular seven limbs of yours for in the Johanna Maha Sabha. liquidly Barbie men who just come soon, because the Hellfire has seven doors, and there are a set group of people who will enter through each door. He says that Hellfire has seven doors and there are seven major limbs that we use to disobey Allah subhanho wa Taala. So watch very carefully on how you interact with these limbs. What is typical of wabi Illa Manasa Maha vihara him Alba, only those people will enter into into those eight little seven doors who have disobeyed Allah with these seven limbs. Were here

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and those seven limbs are alive you know what to do when the sun was button will follow you What?

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What resume he says those seven limbs are aligner the eye one the ear when listen the tongue while bottle the stomach while followed you the private area while Yeah, do the hand what bridgeable and the foot and then after going through that he starts to listing each of those seven. And the way he constructs his discussion is so beautiful because it really is a tear jerking chapter to read, it makes you cry. Because he starts off by saying, as for the i a loss of kind of what that I gave it to you so you can reflect on his creation. Allah gave it to you so you can read the Quran. Allah gave you this eyes so you can see the beautiful smile of your kids and see the beautiful smile of

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your parents. But after Allah gave it to you for all these good things, what did you end up using it in? And then he kind of lays the hammer down. He does that a lot to lay the hammer down and say this is what you use it when it comes to the tongue he says for in the mouth fully falaka Lee took therapy from law. If you ask me why Allah gave me the tongue, Allah gave you the tongue so you can use it and honor yourself by engaging in the remembrance of Allah subhana wa Tada.

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What's the dielectric the fabric D so you may read the book of Allah. Wa tushita. He has the law. Elaborate here. So you may guide people towards right towards the right path. Mankind around you is misguided. People don't see what's right and what's wrong. You know, people when they look at Muslims, they look at Muslims with the eye of hate Muslims, when they look at Muslims, they look at each other with the eye of hate. We have to use our tongue to teach that hate is meaningless. It has no value. Allah subhana wa tada Once created the creation to love one another, regardless of your race, your religion, what your background is, you know, my kids, they, they fight in jujitsu, they

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go to jujitsu, I take them twice a week. Sometimes I'll take them sometimes my wife will take them.

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One of the days I was taking my kids to jujitsu and I met this,

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this man, this is Caucasian, white guy at the gym, and we were talking, having a good discussion back and forth. And then he was the I don't know, somehow it came up, he asked me what I did. And I said when I was a new mom, and he asked me if I had any lectures and I said, Hey, I give a lecture every Wednesday at the Carrollton mosque. And this we're meeting by the way in Capella, which is around the corner from here. So he said to me, okay, so before I knew it, one day, he comes to me in the gym, and he said to me, I listened to every one of your lectures.

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He's anonymous and Christian. He actually said to me, I listened to every one of your lectures this week, when I dropped my kids off. He said to me, Hey, I listened to your lecture on what Islam is ruling is on apostasy. And what Islam says about the death penalty, and I thought it was really awesome. Like, I thought his son's perspective was really mature. I love the

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honesty, training, your religious fantasy, I would love for your voice to reach the congregation, the people that I'm connected with. And I would like for you to have a discussion with our pastor in our community. And the truth is that this message that I'm sharing isn't restricted to a scholar. This is a responsibility upon every single Muslim, that we use this tongue that God gave us that Allah subhana wa tada gave us for good, not for evil.

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He then says,

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What's the Hera v. Murphy of America? I mean, hotjar t. Dini? Caledonia. AKA the reason why Allah gave you a tongue so you can express your worldly needs to people and to Allah and so that you may express your needs of the hereafter to Allah subhana wa Tada. He says, what you got to stay America? Who is that melter? Who lives at Mount Haleakala?

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Binya Mattila, and when you use your tongue for a purpose other than why it was created, you have been ungrateful to Allah subhanho wa Taala. Well, who have a level of iconic and your tongue will be the one limb of yours that will surely overcome you on a Saturday. And not only will not overcome you your tongue has the power to overcome all of creation. What are your cuckoo Nassif and Nadia luminosity him Illa ha saw it as unity him and people are throwing to the pits of the fire of * face down due to the harvesting of their tongues. This is he's making a reference to the hadith of modern gentlemen, your loved one.

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It says so protect your tongue from eight diseases.

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And I'll share them with you. But before I share them with you, I want I want you guys to just stop taking notes for a moment and just join me for a quick reflection. I'm going to list eight things right now. And I want you to ask yourself, do you find these eight things to be common diseases within your circle? within your friends on your social media? Do you see these things happening on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram? Do you see these diseases? When you interact with your friends when you're playing basketball with them? Maybe when you're going out to the movies or you see these diseases with your friends when you're at work? Do you see these diseases with your family members

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when everyone gathers together for a big dinner and everyone's sitting together? What are these diseases? Like? Do we see that today?

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false promises. It's everyone. backbiting there isn't even a funeral that people don't gather together.

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debating and argumentation Welcome to Facebook. Self praise. Welcome to Snapchat and Instagram, cursing the comments section of YouTube area, making the law against the creation of a law everywhere. Everyone's always saying you and them this and then that everyone's praying against one another. And excessive joking and mockery to the point where it's no longer desirable is bullying people through your words. These are things that we see all the time. The truth is that if you were to go on social media and categorize the posts on there that you see, it's very likely that every one of the posts that you interact with on your social media will fall into one of these eight

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categories. What's interesting is that images only listed these eight categories roughly 900 to 1000 years ago. These are problems

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He faced in his community. And 1000 years later, nine years later, we face the very same problems. The world doesn't move on. We have the very same root in us, the way we communicate these problems may change. So what are these eight diseases? The first thing he says, line?

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It always start as a joke. I was lying. I was joking. What are kids saying when you bust in line?

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With the mascara, I was joking, I didn't really mean it.

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And then they flip it on you some of the adults, they're smart, don't flip it on you. It's your fault. You took it seriously. I didn't mean I was gonna give you $1,000. But fool will give you $1,000

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if you want to know how bad lighting is, because it uses this reflection quite regularly. He says if you want to know how bad any spiritual disease is, the best thing is to ask yourself how bad it is when someone does it to you? How do you feel when someone lies to you? If your wife outright lied to you? If your husband outright lied to you? How would you feel if you would be offended, and if you wouldn't like it maybe once or twice, it might be cute Haha, laugh it off. But it can be if it became professional. And if it became a habit of communication, where people were constantly lying to you? How would you feel about it? Without any doubt, you would feel betrayed, you feel disgusted,

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that people can share their thoughts with you honestly, that's exactly how others feel when you lie to them to.

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Then the second thing Amanda bizarrely says false promises. Now this is when you make a promise. And right from the get go, you have no intention of fulfilling it. Someone says to you, hey, Chef, will you please come and speak at sunset? pika? And what do you say

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in your money, go into lockdown.

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Or someone says to you, hey, I want everyone to be at my party at seven o'clock sharp and your mind is set and you say to that person with your tongue, I'll be there. In your mind. What are you thinking

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is going to trade off, you said

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hold on a minute.

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from seven o'clock, I was thinking eight o'clock, the brother made a suggestion of 10 o'clock.

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After everything's over, so people, they're not sincere making their promises. Now one thing is that the other thing is that you told someone that I'll be there tomorrow slot 130 you're making every effort to conquer one third, and then what happens? You get caught on 35. Right? There's always traffic on the highway. So you're you get caught on you're in Chicago 194 you're in New York and get caught on one of bridges and everybody knows you're gonna get stuck. Now even though you were trying your best you got stuck, and therefore you had to break your promise, or there was a compromise in your promise. That's not what this is talking about. The Prophet peace be upon him when he says that

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it's a sign of a hypocrite, to make promise and go against it. That's when you make a promise. And right from that moment, you have no intention of fulfilling or keeping that promise.

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The third thing is backbiting. Now keep in mind backbiting is when you is what you are saying is true.

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If what you're saying

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is true, and you sing it, their absence, we call this backbiting but put on compares that to eating the flesh of a dead animal. A very nasty, horrible thing to do. You wouldn't do it in private wouldn't do it in public, you shouldn't do it at all. Okay.

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Now what if what you're saying about that person?

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isn't true? Is that still backbiting?

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Yes or no.

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That's backbiting, plus, slandering. It's a double. It's a double whammy right there. Not only is it a sin, but it's a double sin. You are a complex,

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exposing other people's faults. Ask yourself, how would you feel?

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Do you have flaws? Amanda's already asked this question actually. He says do you have flaws?

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Because it says If you say no, you've been deluded by shaper?

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What did he say? If you say you don't have any flaws, capon has this lie to you, the devil has lied to you. If you say yes, you have flaws. And the second question I have is would you like for anyone to expose them? Yes or no? Absolutely not. And if they did come to you first before exposing them, if they came to you, would you not provide 100 reasons why you made that mistake?

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Yes or no? provide 100 reasons. So why not do that person a favor, save yourself the drive and just provide 100 reasons for that person to

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don't back down at all. Just give that person reasoning. Maybe the reason why, you know, there was one shift, who somehow there was this website. I don't want to talk too much about it. There was a website. It's an interesting case, there was a website and it was like a

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extramarital dating website for people who were stepping out of their marriages would make a counselor and the profile

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Have those who had accounts on their website were leaked

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and empty that there was an Imam who had a profile.

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So when everyone heard that there wasn't a Muslim scholar who had a profile on that website, what happened to all of them? What did they start thinking?

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Oh, ba Wabi Sabi.

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naughty naughty. What's this guy up to?

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is doing a lot of musty must be in the busty something's going on here. People start saying stuff. Now what happened was no one cared to give that guy the benefit of the doubt. I would ask you guys one thing. Imagine your name popped out on that list?

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What would you say?

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Let's say you're guilty. Let's say you're guilty. Okay, absolutely guilty. What would you say if someone came to you? someone comes to you and says, Hey, your name was on that list. You know, in your heart, you were guilty. But what would you say to that person?

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None of your business. That's amazing. What else?

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Someone else needed? Someone else made it? You would use his arguments right? In your mind? Who would be thinking these are very acceptable arguments. No one has the heart to go and ask that person. What's the story behind this? Just online, there are blogs and Facebook posts. You guys remember this, there were battles and arguments going back and forth. This is one or two years ago, everyone was talking about it everywhere. Oh, this person's name was on Ashley Madison and blah, blah, blah. They kept talking about it. Until finally that

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he had a few lucky he had some good friends who gave the time, he asked him to look into how his name came up. So he had a few guys that were tech savvy, they went around, did a little digging. And they found out that that count was made. He lives in he lives in a cobbles made it a whole different continent.

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Not even made in the continent that he lives in. Where does that come? Where did it originate from?

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I don't know the next city over not the next bed over the floor above the bottom. It was made in a whole different continent. And this is how shavon made it and mosaic beautified it for the eyes of the people. And nobody cared to give this person the benefit of the doubt how

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that's that's also another thing. That's also another thing that you don't go around spying on other people going underneath and doing digging. But at the same time Amazon is reflection, let's come back to this. Okay. If you had a flaw, and someone knew it, would you want them to share it with other people? If they shared it? Most likely, you're the one who gave them that information, which means you must have given it in trust. Or maybe they received it through a pathway where you gave your trust. Ultimately, if someone in that chain betrayed your trust, how would you feel about that person? Possibly never speak to that person again, break the hearts of two people. If backbiting

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becomes common society breaks. It's like the break of the credit system, the organic credit system that human beings have custom woven, that's what God wants for every human being to have good fodder for another. It completely breaks down. Then the next thing that he's and also backbiting indirectly, Amanda bizarrely says entails self praise. You're praising yourself. That you know, I'm so Mashallah so hardcore. And that person is so hot on the stuff that a lot like, you know, that person is involved in all these bad things. Luckily, dada. So he said, it's a very hidden subtle self praise and love as well. And then debate and argumentation. People learn through sincerity.

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People learn through advice. Very few people learn anything when it comes to debate when debates are getting when people get involved in debates. You know, your emotions fly all over the place. Rage kicks in, and you're no longer interested in listening to another person has to see debate and argumentation has its place. But it's kind of like the last resort of dialogue. It's not the first place where you start there was this big thing back in the day, where people will put up tables on busy streets on the weekends. You guys remember that? and pass the flyers and start debating with everyone.

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That's not how you teach Islam to people. You don't debate and argue with people. Teach them through your actions, teach them softly. Number five, self praise.

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Someone as a wise man, what's a dirty truth? What's the truth, but at the same time?

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He said a man praising himself, even though what he's saying may be true, but the act is very dirty. It's very filthy. Because he shouldn't have to stand there and say, Hey, people, this is what I've accomplished in life. If you're introducing yourself where an introduction is needed, that's another thing. But it's going to every gathering and making it very clear guys, you're walking around you just specify your scope around your neck. Guys, this is me right here, Microsoft, check it out. That's me. Or you're walking around with a big patch on your shoulder saying shift will unfold

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that this is scholar so and so. And so the scholars of the past and even the masters of the past, no matter which science it was they hid themselves. Do you guys know that?

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They don't want anyone to know. They were young people sitting with young people teaching them Islam. It was their students that gave them exposure.

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Otherwise, if they if it was their choice, they would just live a low profile and dialogue profile because they'd want accountability with more exposure. That comes a lot of accountability.

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And regarding self praise again, let's go back to that good old Rosati reflection. How annoying is it when you have someone in your gathering who praises themself a lot. If you're driving for example, on a on a road trip, you're going from here to Florida, you have 15 hours together. And there's a guy in the car who's just really fooling himself is always wants to talk about him his accomplishments. What do you tell your buddy next to you halfway through the driver five minutes into the drive? Where's the next gas station with dropping this guy off? He can catch the Greyhound. He's not coming with us anymore. I can't handle this guy. It's glass on my

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glass. Like it. So if you don't like listening to people overly praising themselves, that how do you think the world feels when you keep saying on this arm that I'm this I'm that?

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Relax. Number six, cursing louder.

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cursing isn't something necessary? It's an option. It's something that's permissible if you are oppressed. If you never curse shape on entire life, even ones below it and ask you about it on the Day of Judgment. There's no obligation on even cursing shavon. And if the devil himself who's done so much wrong to all of mankind, if he isn't obligated to curse, then everyone else can be forgiven too. Right? And the sixth thing is seventh thing is making blog and secretion of Allah. A thing is excessive joking and mockery. Excessive joking, always laughing in joking, takes away from you the seriousness of life, kills your heart and makes it dead. And when you joke and engage in too much

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mockery, you end up preying on the weak in the gathering and you become an ultimate bully. That's what this common leads to. They might be a person who has decency, and they may not have the personality to respond. Every time some people don't respond, others will stay quiet. So what do these people do, they're like vultures. They search for the weak people in the gathering, they latch on to them and they keep eating their flesh. They keep mocking them, keep making fun of them. And that person maybe because he's beloved to Allah and has a soft nature won't say anything. And this person may be because he has a harsh, harsh nature harsh nature and is disliked by a law that he

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will lose all of his reward in the process.

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The seventh point was making the law against the creation of a law that was a 711 kind of without taala says on my elfie dohmen folin illa de hiraki bonacci that there is not a word that is uttered but it is noted down and they are waiting to note it down in the summer was bustling. kulula eco con, una the hearing the site and the heart, all of it will be will be questionable by Allah subhana wa Tada.

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So the scholar is different in opinion when discussing this ayah. Allah says all of our deeds are written down. There is a deed on the right. There's an angel on the right, who writes the good deeds and there's an angel on the left who writes the bad deeds that we do. The question is, which of our statements do they write? Which of our statements Do they not write? There are two opinions on the issue.

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Was that a sell off? Well, Allah

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helewka boo Jimmy or my Alfredo. Beloved, there's a difference of opinion amongst the scholars whether everything that is stated as written or not. You might remember we don't have too long Ali has a lengthy discussion in his shelf on a Muslim and this is an excerpt from that. He says,

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If what the person says

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has no sin reward attached to it, meaning its color.

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For example, someone just sneezes just the noise of sneezing itself the action of sneezing itself, or the action of chewing or the action of blinking, there's no reward or sin attached to it. So even our boss of your loved one and other scholars, they hold the opinion that these are things that are not written down.

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However, other scholars, they say everything is noted down, whether you sneeze whether you blink, and everything, it's all noted down.

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Now bustled the long one says is narrated by Monica Saladino de la Halle in his shadow Saudi.

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That Allah subhanho wa Taala has the angels write down every good and bad thing we do.

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And tomorrow on the Day of Judgment,

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you will see in your book of deeds, what food you had, what drink you had, where you went, where you came from, what you saw, and then every Thursday, those deeds are sent to Allah subhanho wa Taala they're set up. And Allah subhanho wa Taala then sees all the deeds even though Allah subhanaw taala is fully aware of those deeds, but as was described by the angels, it's set forth

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and that Allah subhanho wa Taala sees

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The good that this person did and the bad that this person did. And then he quotes him for love may have shot with with when the who Makita suta rock version 39 Hassan Wasilla la Holly, he recited the I mean the I mean he was she might have thought that there is someone sitting on the right and left noting down the deeds sort of off is number 17. And then he says

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also Adam even has a lot of he says, Oh son of Adam,

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you have an Adam.

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Your book of deeds will be presented in front of you.

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There are two angels today who are honorable. They have no desire to send their angels, their Kadima their honorable angels who are writing your deeds armeniaca will offer Archie Malik family the army military official has an attic as for the one on your right he records your good and the one on the left. He records are evil. So he says that these are angels that are right by your side and they are writing down they have no bias against you they have no ill intention against you. They are simply noting down what you're doing. And what they are noting down today. When you die It will be hunky damnit to yet Sahiba took well Jerry that for your own office, your papers your scribe your your

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deeds will be all wrapped up and wrapped around your neck and they will be with you in your grave until you exit your grave and come to a law that you have just been found that article your fool makuu inside and as another thought you know if you're lucky. And you will be reminded as Allah says in the Quran that every person will be carrying their their their doings are around their own neck. So somebody says these will be your good deeds. One of those digital who Yokoyama t kitabi Matura disrupted ah but a lot of them open up that book or on your deeds and see if got lucky fabric read your own book. go far enough sequel yomo Alec Siva because today you will suffice as an accounter

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against yourself. You will hold yourself accountable. There's no need for anyone else.

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So then he says, other syllabuses other law human jonica has he been sick? He says that, Indeed Allah was just because he is making you accountable over your own deeds. You can't even deny your own actions. If someone else was counting you. You would say the IRS was oppressive to me they had a bias against me. But here you are accountable to yourself, who are you going to lie to? And where are you going to turn? There are many narrations from the companions from the scholars of the past and approximate A lot of it was to them regarding the tongue itself. I'll share a few of you with you. I'll share a few with you. The first is from Mr. de de la Juan, he says there is nothing in the

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world that is more deserving to be imprisoned for long periods then the tongue

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you should imprison your tongue in your mouth and not let it out.

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Some scholars will say at least sadovaya tunnel mosquito thumb that the tongue is a snake and its hole is the mouth keep its hole shot otherwise known lights on one side of an Assad scenario from the Prophet that a long while he was sent a Mega mondly muy bien Allahu wa Vina the delay of Manmohan Jana whoever and Garrett whoever guarantees me safety and security of what lies between the jaws and what lies between the legs meaning the private area whoever can secure these two abstinence I promise that person paradise the Prophet Muhammad said

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I'm kidding we do not have to lasallian Eretz and aeration from the alarm one who narrates it from the Prophet of Allah one of my favorite narrations. The Prophet of Allah took few kilometers at victory lap for in Colombia at the clinic decrease your cost simple. Wayne, Nevada Masha Allah Allah, Allah, Allah,

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that don't speak abundantly other than the remembrance of Allah. Keep yourself engaged in the remembrance of Allah.

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For indeed abundance of speech without being faithful, grateful remembering the law hardens the heart

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of the person less proud of without under the adjustment will be the one who has a hard heart of look at a city for their loved one, the first successor of the Prophet of Allah, the first believer in the prophets of the long run even said, I'm the closest Companion of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, he would point out his tongue. Yes, we will be listening, he will hold his tongue we are fooling Heather out of any unmodded at this tongue of mine has gotten me in a lot of trouble, who sings By the way, a person who the Prophet called

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the Prophet himself said, This man is truthful. He is known as a service if I said, I said this. I know everyone in this gathering who was a Muslim would know I'm talking about who

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he is holding his tongue to saying, you've caused me a lot of pain and trouble in life. Allahu Akbar. What have you been wound up? It says, as Mattila Fukuyama Allah Allah Rasul, cook me a song. The wise people have unanimously agreed, that wisdom comes wisdom comes

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From silence

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Omar bin Abdulaziz was one day giving a lecture for us. During his lecture the people they became very soft meaning they started crying their hearts became soft. The nature of his speed was hard touching Fatah hot water who he didn't stop giving a photo. Everyone was in tears he was emotional himself. So someone came to him said someone named Amanda kilometer, Jonah and follow up. That why don't you finish off your lecture we have hope that Allah will bring benefit from your words, forgot about abdulazeez and said in the polar finetune while Fiala minamino he said speech is a test from Allah. If there's anything that will benefit you it'll be actions because actions have much more

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value to Allah subhanho wa Tada. Then statements.

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Mohammed bin agilon says Mr. Columbo bottom that if you wish to engage in speech, then be sure to give four things attention.

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And that's good Allah. remember Allah subhanho wa Taala every morning you wake up before you touch your phone promise yourself you will remember all offers have come to realize Ludhiana bada. Mamata Williams, every night before you go to sleep. Don't let your Facebook feed be the last thing you read. Right? Don't let it be some video of someone trolling a political figure, you know, in on some shorts, clip, don't let that be the last thing that you see. The last thing the first thing your whole day should be remembered for them or they remembered something. make a habit of saying Bismillah every time you unlock your phone, you make that habit. If you said that, trust me, you'd

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be thinking about a lot more than you think. You'll be doing thinking of a lot quite regularly because we unlock our phone so much.

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make a habit of that. The second thing is just

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make a habit of reading within our tongues in relation to the Quran are like barren deserts.

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By coincidence, we read and

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to be nervous.

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Morning law.

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Well, it depends.

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Otherwise, until then on Facebook, we were just renting away. Okay, I'll reward Snapchat for surplus. Otherwise on Instagram, we were just chatting away video after video picture after picture. There was no restriction of some of the law now our book of deeds is washed after every 24 hours on Snapchat. Otherwise before there was never washed. I'd be going through my Facebook sometimes and I click on the notifications and it will say someone liked your post. And I told myself I haven't posted anything in three weeks. And they've liked something a post that I posted in 2006.

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I don't know how you found that post. absolutely shocked. absolutely shocked. I have no idea how someone found a post that I

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did. Because

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that's the video that we'll do. Let's throw that within.

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Spend your time remembering a lot. If you want to avoid doing bad things. The best thing is to spend more time doing good things spend time in public

On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (r), that the Messenger of Allah (s) said:
Let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day speak good, or keep silent; and let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day be generous to his neighbour; and let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day be generous to his guest. [Al-Bukhari Muslim]

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