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Women Inspired By The Beloved 05
Channel: Hesham Al-Awadi
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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim o salat wa salam ala COVID mursaleen Sina, Mohammed Ali or Savio, Salim.
So sisters and brothers, this is session number five with a simple theme made men.
And you can see now that the choice of words, not just with made men, but with Excel with impact, with love with success. These are the sorts of themes that I'll be discussing. I am trying
to defy this theory stereotypes that people have about women. You think women are weak, they have impact. You think women are stopping you? Have you turn?
Do you think women might this is a man speaking now, you think women are useless energy
they have, they don't think about much things of use aspiration.
They are not ambitious or Excel. They are not usually that religious Connect.
And to a man that he thinks
he is the master of the world, made men. So this is the fifth theme made men. So what am I going to discuss in this theme? Three paradigms, three lenses.
And based upon these three paradigms, I'm selecting my stories. So I am not going to exhaust the list. Don't tell me why haven't you spoke about x and y and Zed.
I've chose a paradigm and whoever fits that paradigm in a dramatic, fascinating, interesting, exciting, she has a story to tell, I take
if she is nice, good. But she's boring, I say to her excellent, but you are not appropriate. So let us see who we have chosen. But first, let me introduce to you my three paradigms.
Number one, most of the famous Muslim men that we know and respect are the make of their mothers, sisters, or a female member in the family.
Look, look, I'm telling you I'm very specific, are the make of their mothers, I could have said full stop No, and sisters, or a female member in the family there has to be a female member, for example, mother
or sister or an art.
Okay. But there has to be a female in the narrative. There has to there has to uncertain.
Now, a male historian comes and disguises that female member, that's his problem. I am here to actually reveal that female member.
So that's number one. Number two, with this reality in mind, some argue women are not, as is commonly mentioned, just half of the society, but in essence, I would say are all of it.
So we have females, half of the society,
not 5050. But half more or less,
and they are responsible for the making of the other.
Then do you think it's a waste of time doing a course about women? inspired by the beloved? Do you think it's a waste of time
for men to know about their stories? If he is knowing the stories of those who made him.
So this is paradigm number two,
women will always continue to produce great men, and in the process will not care much if her name is recognized or not. This is the most fascinating thing about great women is that they don't want to be recognized.
Unlike many men, yes, I am the mother of Buhari excuse me Mother of Buhari, what's your name? You don't have to know. Suffice it to No, my son. Hence I'm the mother of Bukhari. I'm the mother of Shafiq. Excuse me, what's your name? You don't have to know. But suffice it to know. Because mothers are happy. When you see the offspring and you recognize them. They don't want to come into the picture. Let's then begin with our narrative. And I have a few narratives in relation to mothers. But I wanted to go beyond the stereotype and talk to you
About a sister that had an impact on her brother.
With regards to mothers now, I have noticed
that all these mothers,
the mother of Imam Bukhari,
the mother of Imam Shafi, the mother of Imam, Ahmed bin Hanbal,
the mother of Arabia, were all single mothers.
It's amazing. You know what single mother means?
Not just living in a council flat and drunk and No, No. single mother means responsible mother
being able to care about her children and produce good men. Okay.
Let's begin with the mother of Imam Bukhari. And I'm not going to talk much about each character
because I think I did this in other places when I talked about the life of Imam Bukhari and the for great amount so I'm not going to repeat myself here. And if anything, I'm going to zoom the camera now on the female player in the narrative. I'm not going to market Buhari and Shafi I've done this already, and I'm not going to replicate that. Okay, what do we know about the mother of Imam Bukhari or Imam Shafi? Notice something.
When we talk about the mother of Buhari or Shafi or humble or Maliki, when you would realize or you would notice that every mother had a contribution to make in the character of her son.
might not have two children of a great son much of knowledge, but lots of morals.
Another mother cared about knowledge. What I'm trying to say is that all of the mothers gave their sons a tool, and that tool later was developed by the son, but at least she gave him something. Okay, Mr. Bahari, what did his mother give him?
Immediately, and to dramatize what she gave him, she gave him the ability to see.
Imagine blind Imam Bukhari imagine a blind Imam. I know that he had a Xerox photographic memory. I know that. But still imagine we have a blind Buhari, because he had great memory, but all his notes were kept in writing. Imagine he was blind.
Why do you have to imagine he was blind?
Remember how he was blind? Do you know this?
Well, no, he wasn't. Well, actually, he was blind. During his childhood, and because of his mother's daughter, he could see again,
this is an immediate physical impact and contribution that the mother had on her child.
Mr. Bahari was born an orphan. And his mother never got married now. Getting married after the husband passes away, nothing is wrong with that. And there were many, many, many
men that passed away and their wives
got married. Nothing is wrong with that. But in our case, most if not all of the mothers never remarried.
So we have a mother that makes sure that her son sees again. And we have a mother that sacrifices her desires for the sake of her son. Number two, because then imagine when the mother gets married, and the husband says, look, you have Buhari, he's I mean, he's not my son. You know, I want a new baby. So Buhari shouldn't come and visit us all the time. You should rent him or rumo. I don't know where. And Buhari is an orphan and he's blind and no one takes care of him. We have Eman Buhari, as we haven't today. If we did not have a mother that committed her entire life for him, think about that. So these are two important things, I think.
Okay, let me dramatize the death of the mother of a mom Buhari. Why did Allah accept the mother's da?
Because the mother was a woman of kurama.
A woman of karma and karma means that she is so close to Allah, so Connect, she's connecting to Allah so much so that whenever she asks for something, Allah gives it to her. So imagine these scenarios between a mother and between a blind child various scenarios.
Imagine a mother that is not religious, a mother that is not a good worshipper, a mother that is not over keramat
whatever do as she will make Allah will never answer and Buhari will remain blind.
Okay, imagine a mother with kurama imagine a mother that is religious, but a mother that never thought about making dua for her son never occurred to her mind. Then we have a good mother but yet a blind, Emma. Okay, imagine a mother that is off kurama that thought about da
but, and Buhari can see Alhamdulillah but after he could see, that was it, that was the entire relationship between him and her.
So what are we talking about? I'm trying to dramatize her role. We are talking about a good mother. We are talking about a mother that was close to Allah. We are talking about a mother that made law. We are talking about a mother that after Allah opened his eyes, she supported him financially, physically and emotionally until he became the scholar that we know today. That is the mother of Imam Bukhari for contributions and impacts that she had on her son. It's not enough to say he had a good mother. We all have good mothers, but good in terms of what feeding me chicken and meat and but for a mother to make dua every night and cry for me and say, oh, allow me can see again, this is a
Shafi, one of the Alon
Shafi is a Hashemite
but he was born in Hazzard, in Palestine.
His father passed away so again, like Buhari, we're talking about single mother we are talking about often, his father passed away while Shafi was in the womb of his mother.
So actually, Chafee never saw his father. The concept of fatherhood does not come in the minds of Imam Shafi. his entire life is his mother.
In the books of history, we are told by people like even hotjar
that his mother was a great worshipper. Again, we have a unique mother. You know why? why I'm focusing on this I know that every mother by nature loves her daughter loves her son, once the Hassan to be. But here I'm talking about natural mothers, yes. But they went beyond being natural mother, into someone who has a vision, or someone who has ideas, who has aspirations about what they want their children to be. Not that he has to do PhD and get a job in the city. No, that he has to be unique in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala. You see, that's why I feel they are different, those of others. So Mr. Mavin, Hydra says, What can it mean Abby, that she was a great worshiper. So what
did she decide, the mother of human Shafiq? She decided, first of all, she will never get married.
She was young, beautiful, but no to marriage. Don't try this at home. But she decided not to get married. She decided that my project is to make something out of this person. Incidentally, bear in mind that at that time, she never thought that she will be bringing someone who was a mujaddid in the fifth, and someone who has followers in millions all over the world. She didn't have this in mind. And to be honest, she didn't care. She thought this is Shafi. This is a mortality. This is a Hashemite, I have to take care of him as a mother. So number one, I'm not going to get married. Number two, why should we remain in Gaza? Why should we remain in Palestine? He's the Hashemite. He
belongs to Mecca. So I'm going to take him to Mecca. So now we zoom the camera into the mother watching her packing her stuff, going from Gaza, through checkpoints, you know, going from Gaza, etc, taking the sea traveling all the hardship, reaching Mecca.
Why tourism? No, because she wants her son to get the best education. Or she could have went to Oxford. No, no, no. The best education indeed. And Mecca was the Oxford of Islam, if you want so, she took him to Mecca and shaffir. He says Imam Shafi says My mother was extremely poor, she did not have money to give to the chef by way of a salary. And the chef agreed and accepted that I to learn for free only because I'm a Punjabi only because I'm a Hashemite, so out of respect, and also out of a particular service, that when the ship leaves the students shaffir will take care of them until he comes. So he said, okay, you do that and I'm not going to take money from you. But the point was,
that despite the fact that the money
I was poor. She had this ambition that I'm going to travel to Macau. Okay, do you have money, it doesn't matter. You have the fees, it doesn't matter. What matters is with my commitment with my discipline with my brother. I'm going to make something out of this baby. And she succeeded. And she did it. And that's why you know, Shafi is so grateful to his mother. And that's maybe why Imam Shafi has no problems asking the FISA a woman to make art for him.
Because in his life, he knows nothing, or no one other than a female other than mother.
So I have no gender complexities.
Okay, this is shuffle let's talk about am I even handle
the model I haven't handled it not inculcate much knowledge in admin Hanban, but she inculcated Adam, or o'clock or morals are good attitude.
Mm hmm. They've been humbled sisters and sisters and brothers. Mm hmm. And humble was famous, even when he was a young boy,
but not as a hockey or a scholar of jurisprudence. But I have a nice, cute,
lovely boy, who was well mannered,
who would say thank you, and No, thank you. And yes, please. And table manners and all the rest of he was dumb, well mannered boy. So much so that one man made the fascinating comment on admin Hanban, one man said to his friend, he said, I get the best teachers, Debian, back then there was discussed them to employ a Debian not teachers to teach one plus one equals two, no to teach the children manners. They call them Debian coming from the word adult. So especially people who come from wealthy backgrounds, they used to employ him or demean them, or they would say to the boy teaches him manners as a compliment to the role of the father and the mother. So this man tells his
friend, he says, I spend a lot of money
trying to make my son's will manner. But no way. Are their manners matching with this often, Boy, that's what he says, and who is he talking about? 100.
You know what I said here? I said, the mother
made her son already famous, so much so that society has already begun to talk about him. But society at that time, was not speaking about his knowledge, because he was too young. But speaking about his morals, it was the mother that was the reason for the source of fame of Armand hammer.
Without the mother, who would have been would have been, I don't know doing what.
So what does this tell you? It tells you that
comes after Adam. And that knowledge comes after. The problem with us today in the West, is that we are eager to learn Arabic and that we are eager to learn and that we are eager to say this is method this should I follow a method. This is that this is that, but we don't have luck. We don't have any. My mother didn't teach me and that she teach me how to cook. My father didn't teach me he teach me how to do the mathematics so that in the corner shop, I would sell the cigarettes or the the top shelf magazines for one pound I don't know not for. That's what they taught me. I mean, this is an extreme example. What I'm saying is that we never a lot of us have not been
internalizing o'clock o'clock is so superficial. We learn it through books and through lectures. What I'm telling you now here is that I'm humble before he became a puppy. He was
so much so that he was an impressive case, to men around
Maliki bananas, I'm shifting now shifting to another scholar. Of course, I chose these mothers, you know why? Because, unfortunately, they are the mothers of famous men. So I had to introduce them through I met through Moloch.
One day, we need to introduce Ahmed and Malik through them, rather than the opposite. Of course, I'm not by No, no means I did the full gradient. But what I'm saying is that we should also see the other side of the coin.
Mannequin ns is a great *y. As you know, his mother was not single mother, he had his father with him, but it was the mother that actually played the active role in bringing Malik ebin ns into society as a great man of o'clock. In fact, the mother of Imam Malik said to him, go to Abuja
And Robbie, I was a scholar. in Medina. She said to him, I want you to go to Abuja, and I want you to learn from his manners before you learn from his knowledge. What is fascinating here in this story is that the mother is aware of the scholars in Medina. So this is an RBI This is Hamza, this is Ali. Not only that, she is able to scrutinize them, and who is good at knowledge and who is good at adapt and who is good at work and who is good at Hadith. Not only that, but she is able to even to direct her son as to begin with what first?
She didn't say go to X and learn from his end because now it's you know, is fashionable and conferences. Everyone wants to be a school. No, no, no. As a mother, I know that you have to have a dip first. So O'Malley go to a br and learn from his Adam before his end. And when he learned from Robbie Adam, he said to her now or Mother, I am ready to learn.
Shall I go now to learn? She said Come come now. I will give you the clothes of knowledge, the lfl bus theatreland there isn't certain clause for knowledge, like martial arts or whatever. But at that time when people wanted to go to sit with a scholar, they would wear a turban, nice clothes, white clothes, with perfumes, etc. You know what's fascinating here, the mother is directing him to go to adapt before him once he attains adapt graduates with a BA and then she says to him, okay, now you are fit with me. Look what I've done to you. I've been seeing this turban now come and she actually does the turban for him. And she says to him, go go. Now you are ready to learn. Dial.
Now imagine where will Malik be without discrete model. He will be confused. studying medicine and then discovering I know I'm not a medic, I want to do economics. And then going into economics and then dropping and going and studying Sharia in Mauritania for four years. And then from Mauritania. He goes to Kosovo for I don't know, four years and then
he doesn't know what he's doing. He's trial and error, trial and error, trial and error. How old are you, brother? 45 years old? No, here, you have a mother. Now you're five years. Okay, look at that. Now you're seven years come? I'll do the turban for you. Now you are eight years, okay? robbia is enough now go to Hamza. Hamza. Now, is is good for those who are aged seven.
That is the mother.
She has a vision. She knows what she's doing. Okay. robbia. And this is the final story with mother's robbia you don't know much perhaps about RBI. And RBI is the person the scholar that the mother of Mr. Malik said to us and go to RBI learn from his Adam before his eyes when I was a scholar in Adam Allen, but he was more known for his edit and for his luck, and it's amazing. And sometimes you need scholarly people. But you say, you know, okay, he's knowledgeable, but or vice versa. And it's hardly that you see people combining knowledge and edit. Robbie, I was that combination. Okay. Robbie, I himself was the product of his mother. And his story is fascinating,
and is unbelievable. And I'm going to narrate to you his story.
Robbie, as father left him when he was a baby in the womb of his mother
and left with his mother 30,000 dinar, I'm not sure how many in dollars, but quite a lot of money during that time. Or sterlin.
He left her
to fight somewhere. Do you know for how many years he left a
couple of years, three years? 610 1527 years?
when a wife
loses her husband, whether he's dead or alive, for over I don't know how many years you have the right to get married.
But you don't understand this is the mother of Robbie is not about marriage. It's about this baby. I don't want to lose this baby.
I don't want to do abortion. I don't want to throw him to the social security and they will take care of him. No, I will live for that baby.
Even for 27 years, even if it took me 27 years.
Okay, what are you going to do? There is no
A male Guardian, there is no one to work well. He left me 30,000 dinar, I'm going to spend it on that baby.
Will it last for 27 years? Well, I'll try to do my best. After 27 years, the father comes
and opens the door of his house. If I was him, I would say at least, you know, 27 years, what is my house? Maybe it has changed. Maybe my wife is dead. At least let me knock the door. He didn't. to him. 27 years is like 27 minutes, he opened the door.
And so a 27 years old man in front of him.
And he said to him, what are you doing this house, you stranger?
And the 27 years old man said, What the hell are you doing? I mean, I didn't say what the hell. But what are you doing here? That's my house. He said, What? What's my house the father was saying. And they began to fight and fight and fight.
And the neighbors came.
And you know, who came with the neighbors Malik bin Ennis, who was at that time beginning to be famous.
So when Maliki bin unece came, he doesn't know this man. He doesn't know the Father. He knows. This is his shift. You are beating up my shed
from the Father, of course, doesn't know that he's beating up his son. So Monica banana says, he or she is speaking to the Father. Yeah, she'll go and live somewhere else. He's not getting the point. It's not it's not a hotel that he has booked in? No, this is his house. Or at least that's what he thinks. said yeah, she'll go and live somewhere else. He said, Listen, that's my house. I am for Ruth. That's his name.
And the wife is inside the room. And she heard the name. And she heard the voice. She came out and said,
you're still alive?
He said, Yes. Who the hell is he?
your son. And they started crying and weeping, hugging each other after breaking the face with each other. They were hugging each other, kissing each other.
And there will be I had to leave a lot because he had a Sunday Saturday night party with his gigs. And no, he had to leave because he is a great scholar. Very teacher.
So he had to leave. So when he left, the father spoke to the mother said, What did you do with the 30,000?
Come on, you still have hope that you have still 30,000 anyway, hey, this was the question. What did you do with the 30? Sir? And this is creativity. She didn't answer she said.
I will tell you what I did with the 30,000 tomorrow 30,000. dinar tomorrow. He said, Okay. So in the following day came
and the time for prayer came? She said to the husband, aren't you going to pray? He said yes. And he made ablution. And he went to the mosque. This was the central mosque, not the one in Baker Street bigger, bigger, bigger, 1000s and 1000s and 1000s. And when you go Incidentally, to the mosque of Baghdad, it's not like a single circle. In English. Many circles. If you don't like it, there is a circle number 20. Circle number 30. How do you think?
Okay, on your right circle, um, Tafseer.
So he entered, and he saw a massive circle.
And he saw
someone who was sitting at the center of the circle. And that was Robbie. But he was wearing a turban.
And when he saw his father coming
he was embarrassed because this is a no they had a fight yesterday and they hugged each other but my father never saw me in that context. So he covered his face with the turban.
So the father saw the circle, very big, very massive. So he sat down and started hearing, hearing. Oh, very, very good scholar, Mashallah very good scholar who is a very good scholar, again, boozy. Anyway. So very good scholar. Very good. And then he said to the person sitting next to him, who is the scholar? He said, Don't you know him? He's an obeah. And he was shocked. And this was even a bigger shock than knowing yesterday that this was his son.
Because when he left there were no much circles and he wasn't aware even that his wife is pregnant after 27 years. This household
That has the great Malik Evan Ennis has a mother saying to him go to Arabia. That's how famous Your son is. So he goes to his wife. He said, I saw a fascinating thing. She said, What did you see? She knows, of course, I saw massive circle. Robbie, I was in the middle of it. She said, Are you happy with that?
He said, of course, no father will be unhappy with that. She said.
This is where I spend the 30,000 dinars.
This was the product.
He said, this is a fascinating news to me. You know, what is fascinating also, is that she invested the money in human development. She didn't buy a mansion. She didn't buy a house. She didn't buy a car. She didn't buy a donkey.
She didn't even look okay. Forget, forget about she, she could have invested in him. But he is a spoiled lad. He goes to Oxford and Cambridge to drink and to mingle with girls. And he comes to her and says, I have ended up with an A levels.
So we have a great mother, investing 30,000. We have a great son, recipient of the 30,000. And we have a father coming out after 27 years appreciating the investment.
All are sharing the same value of human development and investing in human development. I am done. Except with one final story. This is a final story, not of a mother but of a sister.
I told you that even had her married two
months when he was 25. And she was 18. And he educated her and who taught her Okay, who taught even harder. I know who you are. But the household who told him.
It'd been hard your father died
when Eben hotjar was only four years old.
His elder sister sitter rock. This is the name sitter rock.
She was only seven.
There was a male Guardian that took care of the rock. But sector rock was already a respectable guy.
You know why? Because her father, the father of avian hydro. When she was four or five, he used to take her with him to the mosque. And he used to make her sit
with him in the study circles. She's four. She has a lollipop, she's crying. She doesn't understand that. But she is sitting tomorrow she will understand tomorrow she will appreciate. And indeed she did.
That when the father died, she was only seven. But she was mature. And she was respectable.
What did she do?
The first thing she did was that she retained
the library of her father, her father had a massive library.
And it is that library that even hotjar relied upon to accumulate knowledge in Islam. Imagine if the daughter went to Waterstones and sold all these books secondhand. Or imagine if she used them in the winter to light some fire to keep herself warm. Or imagine if she just donated them to a charity shop or to the mosque. Imagine she just got rid of the books because they are not cookery books. Imagine imagine imagine she retained the entire library. Now there is something unique by the way in that this is not normal. Because back then, books used to be written by hand. So books were expensive. And when you sell books, you become wealthy. So if you had 10,000 books, and you sold
them, you can pick up the I'm not talking about a pamphlet paperback, bad penguin book for 299. I'm talking about proper volumes of ideas and fantasies. So don't underestimate and don't take lightly the fact that she decided not to sell the book. Also, I am aware of a great scholar called Ebony Josie not ignore Kamal Josie, another scholar who was called yBnL Josie, Josie was a fascinating speaker,
his audience a lot in 80 or 90, his audience or in 1000s on a daily basis. And of course at that time, there were no microphones. And when Josie speaks someone after 1000 he will repeat the lecture and after 1011 he will repeat the lecture so that at the end someone will listen to the lecture not by the voice of Admiral Josie but by the
Voice of the third and fourth speaker,
a fascinating scholar, prolific writer. He wrote books on everything. In fact, he wrote a book called body Nisa, stories of woman, or news about women and all sorts of jokes. And, you know, you laugh at many of this mad stories that you hear about women and stuff like this, but this is not our topic, because a lot of you will be offended. so prolific writer, but the point I'm trying to make was that his son was corrupt. So he can give lectures and make you cry, but his son was corrupt. When he died when Josie died, he son, you know what he did? He went and sold all the books that he wrote, all the books that his father wrote, he went and sold them. Edna, Josie had a massive
library. at home. He went and sold it all. All. His father had not when he died, he was taken to prison, the father. So the father came after three years, went into his house, like the father of robbia, entered into the house. I thought I thought there was a library here, and there was no library. Okay. And he went to he said, What did you do? He said, I sold all your books.
I want you to appreciate what the what the daughter
of this great father of Eben haggard did. She retained the book. She didn't sell the books.
Okay, this is with regards to the books. But their daughter wasn't only a book collector. She didn't have just the hobby for collection. No, she was a serious reader. A well read. She doesn't read pamphlets.
She reads books.
And she traveled and met the greatest scholars of her time she traveled to Mecca. She traveled to Medina, she traveled to Damascus. She traveled to Tunisia, she traveled to Egypt, all that when she was a teenager, all that when she was in her 20s.
She got married when she was young. She had five daughters. All of them died. various illnesses. Her husband died. She died at the age of 28. She died very young. When she died, the society cried the elites, the scholars, the students, she had students. Okay, but what's the point? The point is that even hotjar makes this fascinating confession. He says, He own me by the army. She was my mother to me. She was my second mother.
He didn't say she was my eldest sister. She was my second mother. In fact, literally in Arabic, he are on me, by the way. She was my mother after my mother.
And then he says Kerner, Rafi cabbie. She used to be soft and tender. Of course, he's talking about how when she's dead now. So he's remember, he says, kind of trophy cabbie. She used to love me, kiss me hug me.
in Qatar to be a Dobby hammer figure recently, I learned a lot from her, despite the fact that she was extremely young.
Now, I'm not saying this. I am not the one who's saying this. You're not the one who's saying this. The one who's saying this is a great scholar. So he knows what he's talking about. And he knows when to say and give credit for those who taught him because he knows whether it's worth it to give credit to them or not.
I am done with made men and tomorrow we will continue with success. Our final our first brand perfume designer Brando theme. I'll see you tomorrow. Take care, Sleep well. And kolyada Christopher