Channel: Hatem al-Haj
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Go over this will be a little bit different from the usual classes.
I'll tell you how it would be different.
Next three sessions that we have together, we'll go over as much of this book as we, as we can cover in this
book, patience and gratitude
is translation, like an abridged translation from the submarines with a theory staggering, or
it's an average translation from other submarine or, rather the submarine with a with a favorite of circling. So, the name of the book itself can be seven to two ways.
To submarine either means what? From what I do Warden, wha II, that's the promise. So either to savarin the promise of the patient. So I lost promise to the patient, rather to slavery in a lost promise to the patients to the patient was the theater to check it in and the fear is what
is the assets of a secretary in the Grateful or you could also say that the theater will be the two
armamentarium of the Shakhlin or the grateful. So, the fear or fear is basically the essence of the
Grateful and we will
see how patience and gratitude are linked together, patience and gratitude are linked together. So, if you say that to Sabrina, to me mean the promise of the patient, and if you say that to submarine, it will be the tools of the patient, the tools of the patient
with a fear of surgery. So, this is a book about patience and gratitude, patience and gratitude, because patience and gratitude, as we will see in this book
you know two different manifestations of faith together they comprise all the faith. So, faith is divided into two halves patience is one half gratitude is the other half and we will come to see now,
we are going to be a little different because we will want you to be active participants. And we will want to also we also want to cover the book read from the book so that we can benefit
from the author's writing.
Although you know this is an abridged
version of the book but we still could benefit from reading the book together. So ask one of you to read.
So we will begin inshallah from the author's promote, or introduction of the author, because
it is important that we start by content law. This allows
precisely to allow the patient to savour the thankful shampoo, the most high and the greatest and can be at the hearing a semia the all seeing and receive the all knowing that I mean, the all powerful body, whose power whose power controls every single creature and whose will dominates every single event this is called to people to prepare for the hereafter has been made so strongly that even that dead could hear it. I bear witness that there is no god except the line I bear witness that Mohammed somebody will send them as his sleeve and messenger, the best of his creation, who did not spare any effort advises oma the most patient in accepting decree of alone the most grateful for
his for his blessings.
Surely he conveyed the message of a lawn proclaim the truth and endured in the way of a law that which no human being had ever endured. He followed the loss commands patiently and gratefully until he gained the pleasure of alone attained the highest degree of patience, such as had never before been reached. Patients or patient perseverance is obligatory according to the consensus of the scholars and is half of faith. Amen. The other half of which is gratitude shook patience as mentioned in the Quran around 90 times. So you
says patience is mandatory. Patience is obligatory.
And you know, someone was asking why is it that we talked a lot about matters that pertain to the heart. Because there are a lot of rulings for the heart that we are
ignorant of that we overlook. The heart has many rulings like the body has rulings, you know the actions of the salon cm and heart and we pay a lot of attention to those rulings, we often overlook the rulings that pertain to the heart and there are a lot of rulings. So, he started here by saying that this is not
like a luxury to talk about patience and to talk about the heart softeners and to talk about purification of the soul. Some of these things are obligatory, some of these things are essential for one space. So, why the consensus of the scanner spacious is obligatory to exercise patience is obligatory, we will come to know that there are you know, there is the obligatory patience and there is the recommended patience.
There There is also
patience that is forbidden forgiven patients. That is the slight, but we will not be calling it like patients for
in terms of like perseverance, some of it is like some of them is forbidden. Patience is obligatory when you're being patient with the obligations of law, you're enduring, to perform the obligations it takes endures, right.
Or you're persevering in performing the obligations, such as the various obligations that come with some difficulty or some burden, some thick leaf, some technique. A lot of obligations Come with me for a burden, the word leaf itself means burden. Do you know all of us are quoting Pamela Frye. If you're if you're saying about Muslim, you're called camel camel. camel camel, is basically the one who is liable.
Legally and morally viable in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala. take leave. Leave means my ability, mocha McCann life means viable means responsible, that say about Muslim, if you're saying about Muslim, then you are more Canada liable, responsible, not only a viable and responsible but also authorized, authorized, because without being a Muslim, you are not authorized to pray here. Even though you're you're required to pray, but you're not authorized. So if you pray, it does not count for you because you're not authorized. Even though you are required. And if you don't pray, it will be into account in here escape of evil deeds. So you can left is the one who is legally and morally
authorized and liable, responsible technique comes with a burden.
Canada who means that the burden him with a task he gives him a task which has some burden, otherwise it will not be called the tech leaf. I will not if if I asked you to basically pass on the
phone to me, that is not tech leaf with tech leaf has a bit of difficulty or masaka, or a burden that comes with it. But the beauty of the word.
That's why some of the alerts we need to basically commit to memory in heretic have been to our vocabulary in Arabic because they they have no
accurate translation into English that they have no counterpart in the English language, tech leaf. The beauty of the word detect leaf is that it comes in from the same roof as love.
So Canada for Roger brown
means that the man loved his wife, California
means that the man loved his wife. So the 300 truth of the Word infers also love which which means what it's which means that you carry out this burden lovingly, that you're lovingly carrying out the burden with which you have been tasked by Allah subhanaw taala because you're doing it for a lot. So you're doing it lovingly. So in this case is who is burdened with
Leave and he lovingly performs or carries out the obligations of that burden. So,
here patience when you are patient with
the decrees of Allah subhanaw taala if those decrees are obligatory in this patience is obligatory. So sometimes, you know, technique comes as an obligation, like
to do is not obligatory, to be patient to yourself through the therapy, it is recommended that patients but wait for some
and resist sleep and wake up to 20,000 a month is obligatory, so this patience is obligatory and the other patients is almost half. So it varies without what you're trying to be patient with that what you're trying to show consistency or you're trying to persevere through if it is an obligation that this patient is obligatory, if it has to happen and
so on, but a big part of patience is obligatory as he said.
The root of patience is obligatory to exercise patience, perseverance and endurance for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala is obligatory suck
and inshallah we will talk about you know, how we translate slavery, but I want you, when we come to it and so on, we will address it in more detail, but I want you to remember that sub means not only patience, but it means perseverance, endurance, perseverance, endurance, plus trained,
consistency, but you just have to remember three translations is perseverance, endurance, and
patient or patient perseverance is obligatory according to consensus of scholars and it is half of faith, amen, the other half of which is gratitude show. Patience is mentioned in the Quran around during the time the relation of patience DNA is like the relation of the heart to the body. So just one second
after face, after the man, how can
we know that the man is six parts
and to rely on
to believe in angels, his books,
here after final day on cada predestination, so how could patience we have a phase one phase the six parts patience is not one of them.
Basically from the handgun, you know, he man he
has a conviction is the six pillars. Imagine as a conviction is those six pillars, but the man is not only about the conviction. So when Allah says
in the law Vanessa hoefflin Rahim, Allah lot of would have not wasted your caveman love would have not in you know, in them to banishment here he man what he man is a lot talking about here, your prayers towards Jerusalem, all that kind of lovely we already have not wasted your prayers towards Jerusalem. So he man is the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said to the man
the man is certainty son wrenches the highest the highest of witches.
And the lowest is to remove harm from the road to remove harm from the road. One of them is belief faith in action of the heart and the other one is an action of the body. So from the perspective from one angle, he managed two parts patience and gratitude which angle this is this.
This is the angle of your reaction to the decrease of Allah subhanaw taala and the commands of Allah Subhana
How are you responding to a more reliable child? the commands of a boss power dialer? Which are the obligations and prohibitions, and how are you responding to animal life
of Allah subhanaw taala the destiny, predestination allows decrees How are you responding to news about your failure in the exam, your disease, loss of loved ones? That is your response to a lot
to the loss of power? How are you responding to a loss command you to lower your gaze when you're walking in the street to lower your gaze, what you see
are not that you should not be looking at how he responded to this, this is not
this is demand from a loss of an emphatic demand, meaning that obligation
or enlist based and in fact that greater vision, meaning that you should not look so lower your gaze, how are they responding to this? So your response to the decrease of online commands of alarm? From this angle, the angle of your response loss, decrees and commands, faith is only two parts, patience and gratitude.
can choke because there are good times and hard times. During the good times. You have to exercise gratitude, and during the hard times you have to exercise patience. But keep in mind that the predominant, predominant,
can't leave during the hard times is that the thief of patience, but there is also gratitude. So it is not like during hard times there will be no gratitude whatsoever. And if not up during the good times there will be no patience. No you will need patience in both times and gratitude and both times with predominantly an impatience during times of hardship, meaning gratitude during times of ease and comfort, prosperity and luxury.
Yes, patience is mentioned in the plan around 90 times the relation of patience the event is like the relation of the head to the body. And the one who has no patience has no even Elias commanded patience with believers in the following 100 Amina
or you who believe seek help with patience, perseverance, and prayer.
Patience has also been made a condition for a person who is entering paradise and being saved from Hellfire on the Day of Judgment Allah will say I have rewarded them this day for their patience and constancy. Patience they are indeed the ones that have achieved bliss
and a lot commended
have any more than any desire to
repeat it in English. I have rewarded them this day for their patience and constancy. They are indeed the ones that have achieved bliss.
And a lot commanded the patient those who are patients when he said
his righteousness to be firm and patients in pain or suffering and adversity, and throughout all periods of panic Such are the people of truth the God fearing Mousavi
What would I
repeated means, it is righteousness to be firm and patient in pain or suffering and adversity and throughout all periods of panic. Such are the people of truth and God fearing and
Allah loves those who are firm and steadfast
a while still is that he is with those who have patience, this is a special companionship, Marissa which means
which means that he is protecting and supporting them which is over and above the ordinary companionship, which applies to believers and disbelievers alike whereby ally has knowledge of them and is watching over them. Alliance told us and be patient and preserved and persevering for Eliza with those who patiently persevered was still
Through in Hama, Hama, Sabrina. In fact,
what are the result of
surgery and the patient is suffering from lies with those who patiently persevere so there is the companionship of Allah subhanaw taala
ally as well with us all the time with his hearing and vision, watchfulness, Allah is watching over us. But when Allah says in a llama civilian the peace with a submarine is also a balanced library and he's watching them he hears, sees, watches, but may have lost sight. This is
Maria, Maria, Maria,
my harassment, law home protection, mercy. This is the idea or the companion checklist, mercy,
his compassion, his protection, that all of this will be one plus on
the private side told us that patience is all good and full of goodness, and said that there is no gift better than patients.
Africa no one was given anything aka any gift
that is better
who said the best days of our lives were ours by virtue of patience. This book has been written to highlight the urgent need for patience and to explain that our happiness in this life and our salvation in the hereafter depends on patience. This book is filled with benefits that readers will benefit from its advice and teachings what is good and correct and this book is by the help of a lot. And what is mistaken is from the shape on May Allah forgive the author and editor a lot is the greatest helper and we put our trust in Him.
Chapter one the definition of patients.
Suffering is an Arabic word which is comes from a root meaning to detain, refrain and stop. There is an expression in Arabic so and so was killed Southern, which means that he was captured and detained until he died. In the spiritual sense. Patience means to stop ourselves and despairing from despairing and panicking to stop our tongues from complaining to stop our hands from striking our faces and tear tearing are close at times of grief and stress. What scholars have said about patience. So he's talking about the linguistic origin of suffering and the linguistic origin of suffering. He said mama to stop to restrain and he mentioned that you know particular suffering that
he was killed sunburn, meaning that he was in prison and
also the prophet SAW Southern must Bora, the prophet for babe basically the consumption of the animal that was restrained and sharp, restraint restrained and shot. So, sub is to restrain to hold the back to withhold yumna so comes from a manner you know to
confine to restrain
but it also comes from other routes
or the route the three levels of subway
that block in fares in Manhattan, which is just training or confining or keeping back folding.
But it also comes from ship that
it also comes from hardness it also comes from difficulty that comes from difficulty because suffering is a strain with difficulty. So it comes in from both and when you say sabirah Sabina is a plant that is extremely sour.
So it is extremely difficult to eat the Sahara because it is extremely sour. So infer is this extreme? Or is this difficulty? You say? How silver
or a land that is Rocky? Robert Lee craggy basically uneven land
on silver, land that is hard, unpaved, Rocky, full of rocks and so on. That is out of them silver
All manner withholding and finding and ship the difficulty suffer means both. Soccer also means done which is togetherness. Because if you are if you have suffering you will stay together, you will keep yourself together. Basically you will keep yourself you'll stay composed, because you'll have sub sub the route also comes from them, which is gathering and collected. So, when you say
for instance superato
which is a bundle of or similar to a bundle of vegetables, the bundle of vegetables is called soba, which comes from bundling, gathering, keeping together. So, it has these three different meanings or inferences, the manner which is restrained
which is difficulty and also
the togetherness done motors together this because you restrain yourself
with difficulty because it is not easy, there is it it is hard. So, it was difficulty and you keep yourself together, you stay composed in the face of the decrees of Allah subhanaw taala that
may be unfavorable.
What scholars have said about patience some scholars have defined patience as a good human characteristics or good human characteristics or characteristic or a positive psychological attitude by virtue of which we refrain from doing that which is not good. Human beings cannot live a proper healthy life without patience about mindset. The one who has patience is the one who has trained himself to handle difficulties. I am a nurse man and medic he said patience means to keep close to a lot and to accept calmly the trials he sends without complaining or feeling sad and co was said patience means to us co was co was said patients needs to adhere to the rules of the Quran and
Sunnah. Another scholar said patient needs to refrain from complaining. And even that that'd be 40% of the alarm patients means to seek a lot of help.
Is it better to have patients at a time of difficulty or to be in a situation which does not require patience.
And clearly said patience means not seeing any difference between times of ease and times of hardship and being content at all times. I said see this is too difficult and we are not instructed to be like this. Ally's created us in such a way that we feel the difference between times of ease and times of hardship. And all that we can do is refrain from panicking at times of stress. Patience does not mean feeling the same Apple easy and difficult times that is beyond us. It is not part of our nature. Having an easy time is better for us than having a difficult time as the profit civil law body was inserted into this one loan, one loan. If you are not angry with me, then I do not care
what happens to me. But still I would rather have your blessings and favorite. This does not contradict daddy's wishes. No one has ever been given a gift better than patients a better gift than patients because that refers to a time that a test or trial has been calling the person but ease is still better. Jesus better this is a very good example of when we hear like a statement from one of our writers predecessors
those that are righteous are you know of our predecessors, that imams 18 and so on, we always have to treat them with great respect. But it does not mean that every statement will have to be taken at face value or have to be will not be basically counter check the word checked against the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu while maintaining all respect to the say enter the saying would have to be examined. And if it was not, you know in accordance with the way of your profits loss, or it sounds to be attainable or extreme, then we wouldn't we do not have to accept it. So whenever
the law says patience is to have no difference between times of ease and times of hardship. Is this human? No it's not human, that the prophet SAW someone life and that was he happy
climbs and climbs, as he was the last center in
the airport, we know that you are saddened by what they say. So he was saddened by that rejection and climbs the rejoice. It is it is not natural to think that the prophet SAW someone felt the same way after the victory of bed, and after the defeat of your heart and after the death of hunger of your loved one who he did not, he felt different is so patience is not to be indifferent
to the decrees of Allah subhanaw taala but patience is to restrain yourself from complaining it is a strain yourself from rejection, it is stress, Train yourself from resenting the decree of Allah subhanaw taala as the decree of Allah, even though you dislike it, you dislike, pain and suffering. And human beings naturally dislike pain, they naturally dislike the feet, they naturally dislike failure, the naturally disliked loss, you will dislike it, you will dislike the thing itself, but as the decree of a lot, you're accepting it without any resentment in your heart. It was complete surrender to Allah subhanaw taala, not to the decree. You're not surrendering to the defeat, you're
surrendering to a large victory. But then you will try to get to move beyond the defeat. You'll try to counter it which was which whatever means you can, but you're accepting the last victory without so of resentment to Allah subhanaw taala and with complete surrender to his decree, do you see the difference between not surrendering to the decree? Ahmad said no, not at all after that, but after that, we counter decrease by decrease.
Because you know that this was decreed whatever happened in the past is decree but don't surrender to it. Like if you got defeated at the beginning of the battle, that does not mean that you say, well, that looks like a lot of answers to get defeated, is to continue to strive, and you still continue to
succeed in your attempts here not surrendering to the victory. But you're surrendering to the main to the basically, that the
the commander of that decree, you're saying I accept what you decree, but then I don't know what you what you have Decatur, me in tomorrow, or the next hour or the next minute. So I'll try to resist that decree. I said, I got like cancer, I will fight as much as I can. I'll fight the cancer as much as I can. But I am accepting that you have given me cancer. I accepted. You're giving me cancer, I will never fight cancer as much as I can, without resentment of a last decree with acceptance and without resentment. But the acceptance of his decree that he gave you cancer does not mean that you will surrender to the cancer itself. Yes.
The Prophet sallallahu Sallam made
his way out of life, after he was rejected by the people.
in which he sent to Allah subhanaw taala if you have no anger,
when if you're laughing, angry with me, then I don't care
what I endured, or what I endured, but then the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Well, I can
sell it. But you're now you're awfully isolated means basically, safety from all hardships. Safety from psychological and physical financial hardship is to be given safety to be given security to be protected from all hardships. That is what the hi fi means are here is financial, psychological, physical. Geography of the physical health. Financial IQ is prosperity.
of the mind is the peace of mind. contentment.
Patients have shed one complaint that falls into two categories. The first type means the complaint to a law and this does not conflict patients. It is demonstrated by several of the profits for example, when the APU
said I only complain of my distraction and anguish to a lot in school, that it was me a lot earlier yaku already sent me
some Jimmy which means patience is most fitting for me. The core n also tells us about a you
remember a you job when he Christ is Lord truly distress has seized me
the autonomy of patients the prophets always send them praises Lord, or ally complained to you of my weakness and helplessness. Mousavi said and pray to Allah saying all along All praise is due to you. That complaint is made only to you. And you are the only one from whom we seek help and in whom we put our trust, and there is no power except by your help. The second type of complaint involves so the first type of complaint
patients there is beautiful patients.
When when they told them that
was eaten by the wolf, what did he say? He said for something jemimah moto Moto Z for
for me, Stan Moto, Moto Z phone
for southern Germany, then let it be beautiful patience. That's what jacoba Sallam said, For sovereigns. I mean, let my patience be beautiful patience sovereigns. I mean, is there is some is I mean and sovereign
or something to be sovereign to mean as the summer without complaining sub is Oh, people eventually will have to endure because you can change the decrease of a lot. So you will have to endure them. But a southern Jamil without complaining without resentment, he said for southern Germany. But then he said in the mash povesti was near LA I complain only to Allah, which means that complaining to Allah is not counter to beautiful patience. It is not that complaining that is counter to beautiful patience. It is complaining to the people that is counter to beautiful patience.
Because one of the poet said that is one night and I'd rather
not complain to the bed. For when you complain to the bat, you're complaining to
the one who's merciless, against the one who's most merciful. When you complain to the eyeball about the decrees of a law you're complaining to merciless, that a bad against the merciful a lot and no
one can complain to divert for a nama for when you do that. Just for rahima illa de la calm we are complaining against the most merciful to those who have no mercy.
that he will talk about how complaining to the people is counter to beautiful patients complaining to allies, not giving them a lot of food. And meanwhile I have been touched by hardship. I have been touched by harm, and you are the Most Merciful of all those who are merciful like dossevi know you
are in the universe that I learned to
love me and so you complain to Allah, but you don't complain to the people.
The second type of complaint foster training to people either directly through our words or directly through the way we look and behave. This is contradictory, contradictory to patients
opposing forces. Psychologically, if you complain to the people, it's contradictory to patients. But what about when the prophet SAW someone used sometimes to vent out to people didn't even talk to hamanako. But
if you vent out when you know that there is a that is someone trustworthy, that could relieve your distress by wise words or could provide you solutions are good
help you out
in the face of your hardship, because then that is not complaining to them, that is seeking that they're no in that which they have power over. So if I go in and say to my wife, what you know this and that happened to me at work today, seeking her, you know, basically consoling me or
to the Prophet Buddhists was only Salah when the Sahaba
refrain from shaving their heads after the ttfa in the profits or someone felt sad that this harbor are not obeying His commands to shave their heads, and he went in, you know, in finding to sell on them.
And then on Selma advised him to go out and shave yourself and everybody will follow suit, if he does, and he did.
And they shaved their heads. So this is not complaining, this is basically seeking the concept seeking the counsel, the good counsel, seeking the help of people in that which they could help, you can, you know, you probably can't go to like a lay person and tell them, I need your I don't have kids, I need your help, so that I could have kids, you know, that was beyond their capacity, and this would be shared, this would be shared.
But if you go to like a physician,
who specializes in fertility, and you tell them this is my condition, and so on and so forth, that is within their capacity. So that is permissible. So you see that kind of good counsel of the people who seek the help of the people in what it was within their power, within their power, if you seek help from the people in matters that are outside of their power, then that is, that could be even a form of
it, you don't go to someone and you tell them, I need to go to gender.
But you could ask them to help you out, you know, can you give me give me a cup of water, for instance.
Still, despite the fact that this is this is permissible to ask people for things within their capacity within the region within their power. Our Bible tells us that they are not as well as someone on a seminar
the Pledge of Allegiance that they used to give to the Prophet last summer, when they accepted this lamb according to some narrations will
say and to not ask anything of anyone, not ask people for anything. Let us
ask the people for anything that that Sahaba took this to heart to the extent that if they were on top of their horse, they have mounted the horse and their you know, some folks from from from the hand on the ground, they would not ask anyone to pick it up and hand it to them, they would come down, pick it up, and then mount to their horse one more time, because they took that advice of the prophet SAW Selim to heart who Atlanta San Jose, and to not ask anything
from the people. And that is like a sign of reliance on the loss of Tyler whenever possible. And if it will not cause you harm if it will not cause you harm. Certainly we do need the people. You know, we need to ask people for help whenever we need to. But if you couldn't do it yourself, do it yourself. That is the gist of the advice of the prophet SAW Salah whenever you could do it yourself, do it yourself. Don't ask people to do it for you. Do it yourself. If you need someone to help you out, then
there is no harm in asking the people to help you all. But anything that you could do yourself, do yourself it's a sign of reliance on Allah subhanaw taala sign of integrity of one's character.
opposing forces psychologically speaking, every person has two forces that work within him or her.
What is the driving force which pushes him towards some actions and the other is the restraining force. So cool down there.
The driving force is down, you know, and the restraining force is for the exam.
Basically, he will tell us here that people have, you know, the the best of people are the people who have the driving force and the restraining force, the driving force is the force that will help you that will push you that will propel you to do good. And to be active, to feed the poor, to help the needy to pray, the night prior to wake up and fast to go to work, and do everything that is that's a driving force, you're doing all of this stuff you have for them, you're doing the clocks.
All the party, whenever you're invited to something good, you rush to it, if they're if they're going out to feed the hungry, or you're with them. If there's a janazah, you're following the janazah. If there is, you know, time
you don't miss out on
you finish here as
the there is a hard time staying with for the knowledge that is for them. And for the academic strain from that which I love for limited is that to be able to lower your gaze when you're walking on the street. It is to be able to stay away from the heart remember life is to be able to stay away from you know how money, you know, that is just training restraining force
around money that is accessible to you, and you could take it, but you restrain yourself from people very some people have both those are the best of people. And some people have none. Neither. And those are the worst people. And some people have more of one than the other. They, you know, they have the ability to do a lot of good things. But they're weak in front of temptations in the face of temptations, they are weak, and the floor for the temptations.
And that there are those people that are strong in the face of temptation.
Or they have the ability to restrain themselves, but they are weak in their driving force. They don't do much. They don't do much that is good or bad. They're just not doing much.
And there are those people that do much good, but they still do bad because they have this driving force towards them, but they don't have much of the restraining force.
And the best person I've always the one who has both the driving force and restraining force.
Among the two, is there one that's better than the other.
debate between the scholars, what is more beloved to Allah, the performance of the thought or the refraining from them,
some of the people may say it is refraining from karma, because the prophets Allah wa sallam said not to compensate him for two men who must have had to come and say influence people. Whenever I commanded you to do something, do it as much as he could. And whenever I prohibit you from something abstain, he did not say abstain from as much as he could. He just said abstain refrain stop.
So there is more in the Manta refrain from Rama is more emphatic.
But this is basically because everybody could refrain from the mahatama but not everybody could do all the can perform all the commands. You know, some people a lot of people may not be able to just not be able to basic is because they don't have money may not be able to go to Hajj because they are unhealthy may not be so.
But ultimately, fat
is more beloved to Allah than
the performance of good deeds is more beloved to Allah than refraining from bad deeds, because frowned upon is a characteristic of the believers is a special characteristic of the believers. That is not shared by the non believers. But
even the non believers sometimes they refrain from
not all the non believers, you know, so that non believers, not all of them are
Some of them are married and some of them are you know, they don't steal and they don't pay them too
But it is only the believers that pray it is only the believers that fast but it's only the believers that do these things for the sake of Allah, Allah. So it's a whole mark a signature characteristic of the believers.
That is why it is more beloved by laws with our
patients essentially harnesses the driving force to push us towards good things and restraining force to hold us back from actions that may be harmful to ourselves or others. Some people have strong patience when it comes to doing what is good for them, but their patience is weak with regard to strength from harmful actions. So we may find that a person has enough patience to perform acts of worship is awesome, but has no patience in controlling himself and refraining from following his whims and desires. And in this
and in this way we may have, we may commit haram deeds. Conversely, some people may have strong patience and it stays in extending from forbidden deeds, but their patience in obeying commandments and performing EBITDA is too weak. Some people have no patience in either cases. And needless to say the best people are those who possess both types of patience. So, a man may have plenty of patience when it comes to spending all night in prayer. And then during whatever conditions of heat or cold may be prevalent, but no patience at all, when it comes to lowering his gaze. And refraining from looking at women, another may have no problem and controlling his gaze, but he lacks the patience,
which would make him enjoying the good and forbid the evil and he is so weak and helpless that he can not strive against the default emotionally. Most people will be lacking in patience in any one case and a few lacking and a few lack in all cases.
Further definitions of further definition of patience. A scholar said to have patience means that once common sense and religious motives are stronger than one's words and desires.
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scholar says to have patience means that once common sense and religious motives are stronger than ones ones and desires. Okay, let's rephrase those because the scholar said sabbatical to die. Or Dean Fimo cabela to die
the female favela to dairy popper.
So that is what it is worth standing is steadfastness. steadfast in the vastness of fluid, the call that they're having is the color, the color, preacher color, the dye the color of an ocular reason, what Dean, let's translate this as piety for for ease, you know. So the, the, the steadfastness of
the color of reason,
with Dean piety, in the face of the corner or against the corner of
wishes and desires, natural instincts and desires,
naturally Natural Instincts or we could even call this natural indisposition. The reason why I don't want to call it natural in this position is that we use this translation for fifth
and fifth era has positive connotations, not negative connotations. But Papa which is your natural
instincts, has positive and negative connotations, it could be your papa could be you could be easygoing.
You could be easygoing and stingy someone else may be brave
aggressive, bravery is good aggression is bad, or they may be forbearing.
But, you know, cower is a combination of things your your natural inclination
is very different is
Different from when we speak about clipper, we speak about the club or the nature and in the in the positive connotation only. So when we speak about the nature of the natural in this position of humanity, to worship the one Lord alone to worship god alone, that would be affected. So it is part of the topper.
But it is not all of your papa, because Papa is he is everything that that basically was
installed in you. So,
they have different puppet, right, they have that they have different natural and dispositions.
But both of them were able to control their proper contain their proper until their partner became in accordance with that Divine Will and the divine decrees and commands. So, but they didn't they started out from from very different places. One was always even before slama Baba was always the kind and quiet and calm and composed and you know, gentle baumer the strong the brave,
person and certainly you're coming from two different places, two different publishers, but they were able to control their problems until they became they brought them under control and in accordance with the will of us, unlike in government law. So, it became this
brave and you know,
daring persons your incredible read the words of the apostates and became this very gentle and
tender person during his rulership dealing with his the weak and the poor of his eye or of his subjects is extremely tender, extremely gentle. So, both of them were able to bring their power under control. So, here the scholar that said this was
what he said back to that in the battle that a lot what Dean the corner of reason, the inside you there is a color that tells you stick to reason adhere to reason, reason, you know is good,
like reasonably reasonable, common sense reason is good.
Adhere to piety T and D or t or d. And then there is another color that comes from your natural instincts that will tell you, you know, Oh, she says such a beautiful woman. She's flirting with you, you should reciprocate.
That is the natural instinct, that Papa
It is natural for men and women to have this attraction to each other. So it is naturally for a woman like a beautiful woman is flirting with a man, it is natural for this man 30 separate feet, that is the color copier natural instinct, the color of your
the color of reason and the piety keep in mind that is not only the color of piety, but the corner of reason also, because a reasonable man who has integrity and has honor even if they are not Muslim, they will say yeah, but I'm married You know, I do not want my wife to do this. So I should not do it either. So the cooler of reason is not to be ignored. Because reason, though, the reason why I have given you is good. As long as this reason is not defiant of the D ones, it starts with the fact that the internet is bad and it's corrupted reason. So every time you are being pulled by the
assembler, the color of symbol or lust or desires that pop out of the corner of your natural these things. My natural instinct when you know if you, for instance punched me my natural instinct as a man
you know has
Sometimes even not
negative, but what happened was courage
was not, you know coward is to punch him back. But I could say to myself, What if I reframe what how do you know? When the last time I looked at this positively or the loss of reward me from restraining myself? Let me see why he punched me. Let me see why he spoke with Let me see why he gossiped about me. And let me not just reciprocate, because that would be my natural instinct to reciprocate. No, I'm not going to reciprocate. I'm gonna listen to their Deen to the color of the optimal reason and the deen and not listen to the color of natural things.
it is natural for people for people to have an inclination towards their desires, but common sense and their religious motive should limit that inclination. The two forces are at war, sometimes reason and religion and sometimes whims and desires prevail. The battlefield is the hearts of men.
Patience has many other names according to the situation, if patients if patience consists of restraining sexual desire, it is called honor. The opposite is called
patients has many many many names and we will see
all of the good versus all the good versus there they have our routine patients
they there they are routed patients over the persons Yes. So there is freedom from sexual impropriety. That is what
chastity is a good character. Yes. The opposite of which is adultery and promiscuity. If you are Xena
if it consists of controlling one's stomach It is called self control that is Shivani enough's shavon laughs which is the Society of the self, the opposite of which is basically agreed for food.
If it consists of controlling one stomach, it is called self control.
The opposite of which is greed. It consists of keeping quiet about that which is not fit to disclose it is called discretion. mammals tick is basically the to
keep the secret keep the secret private.
The opposite of witches disclosing secrets, lying slander or libel, if it consists of being content with that is sufficient for one's needs is called abstemious
Zoo Zoo you got
to translate right? Everybody knows for the winning translate
is a very complicated concept to translate
basically, is to stay away from all excesses extras, you know it is this thing for the dunya it is
losing interest in all of the excesses of the durian having no interest or losing your interest in all the excesses of
is basically to be conscious that are to be blocked what is has to do with self restraint for the fear for your fear from God or our fear from God. But zoo is this interest in the dunya this interesting, the pleasures of the domain.
to eat more than your need.
That is excess. But that's not how. So if you're not tapping. If you
eat like dessert after your food, it is what zone is even to get back up. So there is you know there is to give up all excesses of everything eating drinking, you know,
president's car to give up
To give up all forms of luxury in life
here, you're this interested in life.
Like when when wouldn't have thought of a fattie used to have no furniture at his home and someone visited him and he said to him, you know, where is your furniture and he said that we have a different home that we send our furniture to on a regular basis. And so, the man said, but you as long as you live here, you need to have furniture here
said he said to him, that the landlord will not leave us here.
So, the landlord will kick us out at any time. So, it is basically that they have this interest in learning.
That is the manifestation of zones to be in this movie as a traveler, or how a stranger Yeah.
It consists of controlling one's anger and it is called for parents.
The opposite of which is impulsiveness and hasty reaction. If it consists of refraining from haste, then it is called gracefulness, and steadiness
and whatever would be composure
the opposite of which is to be hot headed. If it consists of refraining from running away, then it is called courage, the opposite of which is cowardice. If it consists of refraining from taking revenge, then it is called forgiveness, the opposite of which is revenge. So support is forgiveness. If it consists of refraining from being stingy, that it's called generosity, the opposite of which is wiser
to do with courage, and generosity, so, you see that patience here is like everything. So chastity, courage, forbearance, said yeah,
stuff, Farah, all of these great qualities are rooted patience.
If it consists of refraining from being lazy and helpless, then it is called dynamism and initiative.
case by case is competency. competency
if it consists of refraining from blaming and accusing other people that it is called chivalry, chivalry.
Yeah, it is. That is not a good translation. It is not about refraining from blaming other people. It is actually in Arabic it is.
When Canada and Canada Allah nazwa home Luckily, it is to refrain from throwing your burden on the people and not carrying the burden. So, you know, some people throw their burden on the people. But whenever people have a burden, they refuse to share it with them.
And so that, yeah, so that is not moral. It is opposite to Moodle. amuru is when you
hasten to helping the people, when they have a burden, you carry it with them. Whatever burden you know, it's not a physical burden, any burden. You help them out with it, you carry it with them, but you have a bird that when you have a burden of your own, you try to carry it yourself by yourself. That is the animal model that is complete moral and moral, would be translated just as integrity, for lack of a better word.
different names may be applied to patients in different situations that all are covered by the idea idea of patience. This shows that it's them in its totality is based on patience.
Is it possible to obtain the quality of patience. If a person does not naturally possess the characteristic of patience, he can attain this characteristic by acting as if he does possess it until eventually becomes second nature. This is what the prophet sallallahu wasallam has told us. Whoever tries to be patient, that alone will help him to be patient.
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person can also
In the masaharu, but the sub board
and there is
scholars disagree. Some people said that
that the natural instincts, the natural inclination or in this position will overpower
Your effort in changing your natural inclination, sometimes the natural inclination resurfaces every once in a while, but generally speaking, your effort at change will overpower the natural inclination, were told that this Viola has messenger that we get because otherwise there will be no hope and change. And human beings would not have the tools to seek completeness and to seek perfection and to seek excellence and all of these things are goals that human beings were demanded, you know, to see whether in fact likely or less than perfectly, they are demanded to seek SM excellence.
If we cannot change ourselves, then we then no one will be able to do that and a law does not burden a school beyond its capacity. Loving absolutely loves it. So, there is a very beautiful copy that is reported by Naveed Dhoni and
Baghdadi in his book attentive
from Abu hurayrah
in which the prophet SAW sung himself in the hello world, in tandem with the high known woman at the heart of our
becoming knowledgeable, or the acquisition of knowledge is through learning. acquisition of knowledge is through learning while handled with the handler. And then the Prophet sallahu wa sallam said heaven. forbearance is through the Hello, the hallowmas what practice of forbearance is through practice of forbearance to try to act like you are for daring to try to act like your forbear, this is not acting that is the sprays. This is acting so that you may attain the quality of forbearance, you're usually short fuse, you know how to edit,
how you usually have a bad temper.
But you say to yourself, I will, you know, try to control myself and try to act for bearing until you become forbearing you become Holly. And the beauty of this is this is you know, like another manifestation of how the Prophet was on was given
to America in the Muslim, comprehensive, yet concise speech, comprehensive and concise speech, because at the end of the town, Hall, and this is not just the writing, because the Prophet never was never bound by any rhymes that were and has never never, you know, binds itself to rhymes. This is the shell that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was deemed above, above it, and the Prophet was deemed above poetry, because the meanings are more important than the form. And the Prophet would never bind themselves to rhymes. But it rhymes, despite the fact that it doesn't rhyme. But the reason why the Prophet put them in man and Henry together, is that which we are which is what he's
started with. This is by agreement of all people, attainable through learning, right? All seen people will tell you, yes, you know, people learn, acquire knowledge through learning, and that is doable, but many people will say forbearance is a natural inclination or indisposition, that cannot be attained, unless you were given, granted forbearance, you know, naturally by Allah subhanaw taala. So the Prophet told them as much as us as much as can be acquired through learning, hidden, can be acquired through practice with the handler for many other horrible fate I offer and he who seeks good will be given good money.
and whoever avoids evil will be spared you
A person can also start to control the sexual desire to lower his gaze until these two become second nature. The same applies to all other desirable characteristics such as status, generosity and courage.
Everything is acquired through practice, everything every good quality is acquired through practice. And patience means becoming more patient is acquired by a sub practice of patience to practice patience.
take it one step at a time, you know in small increments, because the profits have a lot of one behind them are included in this most beloved deeds by Allah are those that are consistent even if they were little. So take this matter female in small increments until you reach your goal of becoming patient and forbearing support the patient and for me,
that's it, that's the end of that part and so on. Next time we will go over the different perspectives on patients and
the five categories of patience and other things.