Book of Sadaaq (Wedding Gift)

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From the allow soldiers are sorted out early to

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receive,

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the data of army would go over to Thomas a law or a chapter on some left.

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Some people translate this a salary or an hour and when he said

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in the introduction, I explained why I would prefer to use the word sub off versus an hour or

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so later we'll talk about that was the lap or the wedding gift, if you insist that translated the wedding gift.

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Before we proceed with that, I just wanted to let you know that most Americans consume about 26% of the character of their calorie intake in the form of refined sugar.

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There are some estimates,

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even 30 to 40%

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correct percentage of

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your daily intake of calories in refined sugars would be less than 10%.

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Which means that it is okay to have doughnuts on a Saturday morning, because a treat. But really, if if you're if this is your breakfast every day or every other day, it is truly

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a problem for you.

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And, you know, one of the qualities and characteristics of the leavers is their determination, determination. And it is hard to believe it is hard to not necessarily to believe but to commit to your belief to conform to the rules

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that define rules, particularly in our day and age. and determination willpower is one of the

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characteristics or qualities of the successful move

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the lever

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and last final concepts of any Australian because I

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think that we have given you a strength, that strength of determination that will power is important in all of your

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in sort of quality or delivers them every day of your life.

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So many times we sort of pamper ourselves a little too much. And we live with that, that does not mean that you become

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zealous or extreme or excessive.

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But he, he'll sort of treat yourself with a little bit more firmness, and every aspect of your life, including by you know, sort of

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like if you hear this

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kind of person or less, should be in the form of refined sugar.

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And that is basically that is basically a generous estimate also. And sugar was discovered in the Middle Ages, it was not part of the human diet. So during the time of the Prophet so suddenly never had this sugar saving

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the most of the harvest honey, and honey is not really a cheap commodity.

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It was never

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in history

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is produced by thieves. So it's not like going to be produced in a factory you have like mass production on

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say even even nowadays, the cheapest forms of honey are still expensive.

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So if you're squeezing your stuff with honey that not will curb your intake of sugar nods her

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head and took her to sweet, sort of treat yourself with a little bit more firmness. Not with harshness, not with excessive nerves, not with us temptation. But be natural, be yourself. But at the same time, yourself should improve, you're very gentle itself should improve and you should treat it with determination. And if you fail

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in one area of

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sort of your human endeavors, it is very likely that you may fail in other areas. So that's why a reliever is

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determined in order to discipline in all areas because he fears from failure. less about failure spreads to other areas. So if you fail even in your diary

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Maybe you will just get used to failure, you'll get used to weakness, lack of determination and will creep on to other areas of your life.

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So good

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morning, good place

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on Saturday morning.

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Because ever just want to make it part of your day.

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Okay, so

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the reason why we have

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those items or

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the character characters on top and below, but others we should actually have like a dog below the S because of the Salafi this

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sub document.

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This will be as much as one word, because it's

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so sad. So

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the summer.

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And

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in the beginning of the chapter, before even we go into

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a little bit of an introduction, the definition and the ruling of Masada. And I said that the works of art has certain beauty

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it comes in from the same root as such, and such as truthful.

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So self

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means truthfulness and solid transparent same three letter word or cartoon like so.

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So in hers, what the implication here is that somehow is a show of the serious truthful partners commitment of the husband to her towards the future wife.

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And the concept of solak itself. And I'm just going to study a one on one minute to basically elaborate further on this concept because many people feel that subak is a purchase price. And there there is if you basically look at sort of libre websites, even if creeps corrected onto some Muslims, for the belief that the concept of market itself is sort of belittling of women,

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or patriarchy to realizing that women, so the man gets the pay her money has a purchase price or cousin like exchange for her services. But this is a this is really not true. And if if you take that financial commitment outside of marriage, then what will prevent the man from getting seriously married to

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50 women in three or four years? Well, there is there is really. So if you take any sort of financial commitment, financial burden from marriage, allows deviant wicked men

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may be extremely happy with that, you know.

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So marriage is

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basically stripped of every financial burden, and you made it too easy. You do not want to make it too easy. Even if the promise was obvious as parent or guardian, the sort of the best guy for marriage is that which was most affordable or easiest. It does not mean that it should be too easy. There should be some level of commitment. And often times with a lot of people because we're not only dealing with angels or pious people, we're dealing with all kinds of people with a lot of people

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nothing would hurt them as much as their pocket. So if if you really make it make, make this coupled with some of the some level of financial burden or commitment that will be serious about so they will not be engaging in marriage after marriage just to

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try new

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ventures

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So, the so salop basically comes from self pacificus truthfulness about is a show of truthful commitment towards this relationship towards this woman or this relationship

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and there is nothing which to work to translate a lot into, because the two common words are used as our now we

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have a problem even though I use them, sometimes

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they have their own connotations, the problem often with the most common Hawthorne terminology, the terminology comes with some connotations and connotations are produced by the culture you know, so, it is extremely hard to think some terminology and strip it all of its connotations, because it has been produced by a certain culture and the connotation is an integral part of the terminology itself. So, there is no language that is completely

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neutral, the language is never neutral, the language is a product of a culture and cannot be neutralized completely. That does not mean that we will not be seeking you know, so, we're not gonna be talking about our religion in English, we need to even the word religion itself is problematic. But, but at the end of the day, you will just have to, you will need to put your working tediously or consistently explain the differences in terminology, because they come with a completely different, completely different connotations.

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So the word gallery is often used to refer to the money that the bride case to the groom,

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half the beginning of marriage, dowry is often used to refer to the money paid by the bright, not the groom.

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And if you look at the Encyclopedia Britannica, they'll tell you about the history of the word dowry, and how it is common in Southeast Asia nowadays, but it used to be common in Europe as well. At one point, it had fallen out of favor of Europe in the 19th and 20th centuries, but prior to this women did pay to get married

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for the give a wedding gift to their husbands, you know, the inception of marriage.

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According to Britannica, when it comes to the world that our that our

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according to the Encyclopedia Britannica also, it's your first morning gift,

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a provision accorded by law to a wife for her support in the event that she should survive her husband 40 to 37 types of property brought to the marriage by the bride for bride price property made over to the bride's family at the time of the wedding.

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It does not past the bride herself. So all of these connotations are artists not a part of the painting.

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But somehow was described as well as nectar.

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Well, I was going to sell the party in Nashville and sort of in the sound of the beginning sort of in the center of the word nagla means two things, either an obligation, one means an obligation.

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So, it means the graph we have graciously given,

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gladly and graciously granted.

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Which tells you exactly, because that's what I said books words, keep in mind, so it was not

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it was not like a poet privilege anytime that chose the Slavic terminology for us was a lot of just the terminals. So the choice of the words here even within the Arabic language comes from a loss of power. So who could compete with them with with such choices?

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When they saw the party in America, was one of two meanings given loudly and graciously or given as an obligation and two meanings are applicable here is a gift given gladly and graciously by the husband has a show of commitment, which is the law

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Short truth commitment

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and it is an obligation since Allah made it. So, when the Salaam is described in some books as a compensation for the woman's commitment to marriage or compensation for

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you know, the marital relationship, this does not mean that it is a price for the

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bride herself in Islam the bride never becomes the property of the husband, she maintains her independent identity, including your family name, and she also

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maintains our independent financial

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credit identity or

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financial independence.

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So, sometimes scholars say is compensation for in science books, you will find that it may sometimes be described as a compensation for the American relationship.

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When they did this, it is sub optimal sort of sub optimal language for sure, it is not the the optimal language. But what the product scholar is meant to say is that is not

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an exchange for the woman herself, or even her services at home. So, you're not buying

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sort of a mate.

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The relationship is contrary, where you offer how Sapa

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gives you have a right to American relationship. But it does not give you rights beyond this conservative belief the rights of the husband are known, but we're talking about the services. That is what they meant to say.

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That is not an exchange for

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old services.

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And we said that, you know, we will come to talk about this, whether women are required to serve their husbands at home or not in the next chapter. So now it will be next week. But

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in order for the sisters to not get too excited,

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it has to be a balanced game. It just can't be that the husband should go to work in the morning and come back and find her, you know, waiting for him to cook dinner and mop and sweep and take care of the kids and so on. After you have come back from work, if she was staying home, then she must be like there must be some fair distribution of the complications can and that is only fair adjust. But at the same time she is working that he should not expect that he would come back

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you know all around me to make me this man. She has been working all day long.

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So the bottom line would come down to fair distribution of

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the family obligations.

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So but but the so you're standing now so when this color is said then this is the meant to say that you're not getting a slave that you want to have offered. There's an exchange for

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the permissibility of the American relationship, not as a prize because she's not a prostitute. It is not a price. It is basically a show of commitment to make this permissible according to this country. Keep in mind that this contract can be finalized without designating adultery. So it is not a price. Right? Because if it is a price in financial transactions, can you buy something without designating the price? No. To hell of a theremin. It will invalidate the contract. That basically unclarity of the price would invalidate the contract. This contract can be finalized without designating the salon because it is not a price. It is not treated as a price. It is treated as a

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show half truths of commitment to this relationship.

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Okay.

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She can either demand that immediately or the federal part. So it is obligatory on the husband to pay this as a last part of our second operand is you can either demand immediately or the third part of it to an appointed turn. The third part of it, because this is what I discuss later on.

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In the for part, they're all our core code.

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So she basically tells me my sub lock is such but you know, you have to have 10 years

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or 20 years.

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Some women want to do this and want to defer this about and indicate that deferred

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installment will be due upon divorce or death, she will have the right to stipulate that

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she does not stipulate that there is no culture of default. There is no culture of default, like there is no established culture that the firm is about whether we do upon death or divorce. If there is no established culture, then the difference of luck is a death that the husband would have to pay at one point of time. Guess what?

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He'll be penalized.

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That's fine.

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If it is stipulated like this is a shot

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of our chart.

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That chart will be validated not only by the competitors,

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that chart will be validated by everyone.

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There is no problem if she says that my differed part of the Dow it will be due upon divorce. She has said.

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Now, the key word there.

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For example, He says

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she says

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and then as he says

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they stipulate he

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needs to add an extra $5

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consider this to be part of a battery.

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Pack is out the fact of marriage. She told him

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to take 20,000 now on divorce court I'm not really saying these numbers that indicate anything, I would think you know 567 810 22 billion.

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So I will take this excellent X amount of money now. And then I will take 10 upon divorce.

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She has no right to say

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she stipulates expressly in the contract of equipment find that

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in this case that there is a death due on the husband only in the case of divorce. If she does not stipulate that the time is due on the husband in the case of divorce. He will be indebted to her.

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For the 10,000 you'll be liable indebted for the 10,000 you will need to pay them off half the designated time of the designated the time for as soon as he can if he did not designate the time. Yes, if it's not clearly stated.

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Can the preparation of the arm be part of this about?

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Yes, in this case, in this case, it's a matter of mutual agreement. Listen to this. This is a matter of neutral ingredients.

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But in this case, the effects are the metallic or the furniture at home as part of this abab She is entitled to all of it at the time of the dissolution of marriage.

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It is her stuff. It is our property

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doesn't fall into the obligation of the man

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as the caretaker

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like well. Okay so if it if she will make this part of herself or she is entitled to making this part of herself if she would now

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empty when asked for herself to be a gas or jewelry or some other item. She is also

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entitle, and in this case, you will have to furnish.

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It is all about the agreement. But the cannot agree on dropping this about because it is not up to them. Whatever is made out of litigation by law, it is not for the people to drop it.

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Yes, sometimes, but then she can give it to him.

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Hello, Honey, I'm ready. So they can have us about and then she can give it out to him. And then in this case, it would be permissible for him to take KFC that didn't previously planned, like my parents want to eat, you know, their kindergarten American. So they'll say, okay, fine, I'm agreed

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upon.

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She says that between me and you?

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That's fine.

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Just

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because why do you have no control over her property, and the feature, so she has made him a promise that she wouldn't give up half of her gallery to her husband upon, you know, the,

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basically, consummation of marriage, or at a certain time, she has a

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problem is when she takes back that promise.

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And I understand

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her father,

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he said to me after they get married,

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it is not it is basically a promise from her that she won't give up half of the summer off to her husband when they move together when they get married. So give it to my father, he will pass it on to me, and I will give you half of that chapter. I get it from him. I mean, I'm not saying that this is an optimal there is, you know, whatever you guys want to do, you could do it. The idea here is there's a problem there is bounds the last set, but within those bounds,

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basically

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cultural sensitivities, personal preferences, all of this is applicable. So you could use reason within those bounds. However, you cannot overstep the bounds. And what we've lost our senses, the three year developments you can overstep, but within the bounds, there is a large room for personal preferences and cultural sensitivity.

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So I'm not saying that it would be

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prudent for the woman to circumvent her parents, every event with her husband cannot say that this is prudent. I'm saying it's color.

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prudent or not prudent? Depends on a lot of circumstances. Let us say the parents are really unreasonable.

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Does that happen sometimes?

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So let's say that the parents are really difficult. You know, I spoke to a sister the other day who was wanting to get married without their wedding. And then just what just went through the number you know her he tapped me. I really sympathize with her versus like against their parents. Because she was 40 years old. And they're still making sort of like being picky and choosey she has not gotten married yet.

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So sometimes the parents could be sad. Yeah. Yeah. So the parents are asking for $50,000 and she can't find someone, you know, to really agree to that and she chose her future r1 which he likes to marry. Give it development, pass it on to me and I'll give you half two thirds. Call her talk to her.

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Yes.

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She is basically Russia, which means

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legally competent, to dispose off her wealth or her money.

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So first is the league accountants or

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financial maturity maturity.

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which is which is a little bit different from Blue, because blue is puberty after blue, they may not be they may not have reached the Age of Grace.

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Beginning sort of in the

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best course, until they reach the age of purity, then if you find them in and that's the minimum roast them, if you find the roast in their conduct, the roast is material in their contract and then give them their money, you know, pass the money on to them transfer control of the money, not the owner. So, because their orders transfer the control of the money on to them, somebody become in control of their money. So she is rushing them she has the right to do whatever she wants. If she is not than

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that we're saying that most of the time, like here in the United States

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in the West, she will get buried after Steve

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Range Rover

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Yes, but she could dispose of her money without that guardians permission vehicle she can give her money to somebody without the guardians permission.

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Whether he starts with or not, she will need to go with a according to the majority have the correct position Yes.

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The profits of the tennis hockman will Hadid seek even like a ring iron

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and the Hadith talks about the poor and it is basically a compensation for his teaching not for the forehand that he

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met memorizes compensation for the teaching. So if he teaches her, you know, that teaching is an effort that he would

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be entitled to compensation for

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conduct compensation was made to be

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the condition of at the time of divorce. If I say explicitly say if I divorced, Laura, I will give her 10,000 will that make it that condition and not soda

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rows still being set up like let's say I have five years

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or

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so that could be advanced or defer the difference above by default is that the husband will have to pay to the wife unless they stipulate that it will be only due upon a certain scenario. That scenario may be divorce, it may be something else. It may be the first child, it may be like

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something or another.

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If when we traveled to America,

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whatever, they have the right to do this guys

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don't get to work.

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They are the two you know contractual parties. They have the right to make to design their country

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as long as they did not transgress the bounds of a bus whether they design the country

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and particularly in the how many miles of the show route are open all the way until they conflict with the book of alarm cinemas messenger. So they can have showed that we discussed last time or before last two weeks ago that are even much more than those. So if she says only upon divorce, only upon divorce, if she does not say about divorce, then it will be

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that he will have paid off some at some point. Yes.

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And he's supposed to

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he did not face

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Yes, he's not here.

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No, it is not an obligation of his family, it is an obligation that basically in his estate, whatever he left behind, the boundary of his wife will come out of this, a lot of his wife

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will come off of it, before the division companies say why because it is treated like a debt.

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But it is not binding on his salary, if he left behind no estate,

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unless they want to pay off his debts, and we want to be kind to him, then certainly to be very patient and kind of them to pay off the debts of their

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relatives.

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If she dies,

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if she dies, yes, he owes that money to hers.

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It's a debt that will be treated just like any other debt. So in the case of the death of one of them, whoever is owed that that will get it from the state

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of the deceased party.

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And if the one that is all that that is the one that died, then their heirs will be entitled to it, because it is

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yes, it is distributed according to the laws of Mira

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case, even though you would get a portion of his wife's inheritance, anyway, yes,

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it would come back to the idea here is

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whenever she was entitled, you know, cuz she's the one who died first,

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then

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that that becomes due to the if someone is

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owed money and they died, there are two positions in the medical

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however, the heirs would have that immediate right to ask for less money now, which is the position chosen in among them in the book of financial transactions or

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and that that would be due to the heirs upon the arrival of the designated time. So if it was a deferred that, like if he said to her, how to give you the second installment or the last installment in 10 years, and she lied after five years,

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to physicians,

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either the depth becomes old do now Can the heirs have the right to ask for it immediately. For it will be do couple, you know, upon the arrival of the designated time, which is five years from now.

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Okay, we then finish that introduction.

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She has the right to refuse consummation until she receives the immediate portion because, you know, the beginning I at the beginning I quickly the introduction of the definition in sound bites a lot is a good word.

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And the meaning of sunblock and then a ruling and I said sanatory

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but it does not invalidate the marriage. If it is not mentioned. It's an obligation, but it is not a condition of benefits. It's an obligation, not a condition of validity. Because there is a difference between obligation and some

00:39:11--> 00:39:15

some shadow Sangha means condition

00:39:18--> 00:39:29

of validity. So Love is not a condition of validity the marriage is very the marriage is valid without that.

00:39:31--> 00:39:35

But it is an obligation it is sinful not to give soda

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and we will come to see them even if they do not designate us adopted is called them for water. And for water we'll get the saliva for equals this.gov beers. In the case of best for in case she asks for it.

00:39:57--> 00:39:59

She has the right to refuse conservation tip

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He or she receives the immediate portion of it. And if she accepts consummation before receiving that, then it becomes a theft upon the husband is liable for

00:40:11--> 00:40:15

things that are on. Okay, the next

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point here

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Okay, we're, we're done with the definition of an introduction, therefore it's called sybok. It's called the mark. It's called natural law. It's called many other things. But remember that's a lot

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harder the the sort of the most common terminology used here. So welcome. Yes, they can

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possibly manage without

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Yes, yes, it would be called on for a while but

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then she will be entitled to it if she asks for it. Or if she dies, he dies she'll be invited to the to the Bowery for the slop

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copper equals

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one

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the door

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the yoga Mecca

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Okay, so this is for the one that as the mama designated the other one the first one Well, that's what I can pull up to miss out on me. So now

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there is no harm on you if you divorce the woman

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prior to consummation prior to the designation of the

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next is what is the solid kind of the mountain for yourself what to put images in the akuna feminine doesn't equal NASA block and polygon cannon aka fear. Dakota Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam Hillary Padilla was originally

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in America Lockerbie had a pilot.

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So, he said everything that is lawful to be a compensation is lawful to be a solid, right?

00:42:29--> 00:42:45

Whether it is large or small, this is because of the statement of the Messenger of Allah subhanho wa sallam to the man who asked me to marry him a certain moment, if he was not interested in marrying her, seek something for $1 even a ring of iron,

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seek something for $1 even a lick of iron, which the Prophet wanted to show the emphasis on the obligation of the salon, but the man looked like he is truly

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sort of insulin for

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so here

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without us and everything, that's compensation,

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in transactions and financial transactions could be set up. So basically, he may not give her a doctor that is much rude. So he cannot tell her whatever is in this boxes yourself up. Because that cannot be an appropriate because keep in mind that the amount of parameters using this, not just give a parable, but he's telling you now transfer all of the rulings that apply to the salmon or the price in financial transactions to this a lot in this sense, meaning to Halla llogara, all of this, you know, under arrest baking,

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he cannot tell her so I'll throw this rock where you throw this rock and whatever event whatever distance and covers all of this land from here and there is yours and that's what we are so long or whatever is in this box that are somehow up

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all of this cannot be a compensation or a price for a commodity. Therefore, it cannot be copper silver, likewise, he cannot give her her the fix

00:44:33--> 00:44:39

barrels of wine has Sadat because this could be her own compensation.

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And I thought that was specifically.

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So now

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in terms of so in terms of what does a lot could be, it has to be something that

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To be acceptable as a price for commodity, so, it can be much more that can be haraam pass to be known identified. And

00:45:13--> 00:45:22

kind of tend to be useless stuff also can be something that is insignificant, trivial, insignificant, useless.

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In terms of the value of Slovak itself, what should we fuss about could be,

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like a long discussion here.

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So,

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we have an area, which, which says,

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when it comes to data selection mechanisms, you know, I'm taking my current chairman,

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with him over here. And if you want to replace

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a woman for another woman, and you have given the first woman, how can power choose a large load of gold? A large measure of gold? A very large presidential, do not take any back COVID?

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What do you take it back?

00:46:17--> 00:46:19

You know, in transgression,

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consensually, sort of. And basically, if you take it back, that would be a form of Transfiguration a sinful form of transgression. So what I say to my contado, Tara, and you have given one of them a huge measure of gold.

00:46:37--> 00:46:42

Don't take it take given that, don't take it back. That means what?

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There is no ceiling. So if someone wanted to give basically

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$15 billion

00:47:06--> 00:47:08

that's, that's like a car completely accepted?

00:47:11--> 00:47:15

And what would that be reasonable? Yes. And what if you wanted to marry

00:47:21--> 00:47:32

him and basically, also, sometimes, you know, I'm not allowed to make fun of him. It, it makes me happy to know that some students are successful.

00:47:34--> 00:47:44

If he had carried any of his wealth in her own way, then that is completely condemned. But if it was Halloween, and

00:47:46--> 00:47:55

for some people to be, for some systems to be wealthy, sometimes we also have those idealistic concepts that he should have passed down as well.

00:47:56--> 00:48:25

But he will not be able to compete them, he will not be able to have a presence in the market, if he fractures it. That is why Google will refuse to be fractured up into pieces. That's why Microsoft soft fought to not be fractured or broken into pieces, because it will lose much of its advantage in the market. If this happens. So sometimes we have books ideas, I don't know. But

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it was just saying that

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we have to search through our

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knifes. And whenever we feel bad, when we hear that someone is too wealthy, we have to ask ourselves, is there a fee for a law firm which has been envious

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of being too wealthy, if he pays his a cap? as Muslims, we do not have the right to do more than this a lot. If not then do more than this. If someone is extremely wealthy, and he pays his account on time, and he gets his wealth from her that said, we're done.

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And you don't have the right to tell him? Well, how come you are not a lot of note that under a lot of metaphors and to do that, you know, it's not enough I'm gonna come out of the house and most of the national history we have a lot of wealth in it. Can we really say that there was no poor person throughout the Muslim world during those times?

00:49:34--> 00:49:45

Why don't they share their wealth with everybody else divided up? These are socialist communist ideas, you know, that the

00:49:46--> 00:49:48

so we were is Islam

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basically respects private ownership. Islam is not a communist religion. it respects private ownership. It requires of the wealthy to

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earn their money through how to spend that enhance the compassionate and give them as a cap treat their employees well. Let's say they're doing all this stuff that's weird. But I'm saying if you didn't allow his wife asked for $15 million, that would not be like unexpected, no unexpected, unexpected

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It is possible that he could be extremely, extremely high.

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Now so so there is no ceiling, a lot of decisions designate the seating for that

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is basically dependent on the solvency or insolvency of that wife was

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the principal that the province of Southern

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lady down here is hire sewed up he is out the best of luck is the most affordable

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the easiest Heiser he was he's kind of hired the best slot for him the gap in another report

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slokas is mentioned in the report of optimal diet and accounting

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reports

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titled

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The dusts above is the one that is easy.

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Easiest on hospital

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so what does that mean?

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And why did the Prophet say this? Why is this concept that

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is

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explained to this council where he said

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Don't be excessive.

00:51:53--> 00:52:11

In a bus of ops one of you with pain his wife, Larissa, welcome, Tammy says to her lockup can lift to lucky Karnataka, ha you have costed me the

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string up to the strength of the water skin. So Sir, you have made me broke, you have

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cost me too much.

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I spent on you everything on 10 pies spent on you or on sacrifice for you the straightening the handling string, you know the use of hand the water skin from the roof, right? So that stringer came down from the roof, to which they tied the water skin with which they tied the water skin that is allotted. So I basically lost everything to the point of selling out and clever comparable to pay your salary, the head of the exchange of the waters to bear down it causes a lot of resentment on the part of the husband, when he gets broke, to bury his wife the gallery or to pay the director and his wife for salon. It causes resentment. So the Prophet cautioned us against causing this

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resentment, and he said it

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is the easiest, however, concepts and that is the thing that that makes the understanding of reality is extremely important. And the good understanding of the text itself is extremely important too because someone will take this idea and run away with it concerns that sort of

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using this prophetic voice to condemn all the people around him and contemporary society and the elders and the rotten parents who have asked for too much money and so on. And he would be the one that is wrong at fault, because

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he has a completely misconstrued concepts and like or sort of, he has a misunderstanding of what he has seen is what is the heezy support versus the select that will cause resentment, armor

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is very heavy set the young man can never look I'm a grown man and some of us will behave this is an honor to give a high together like a large suburb here the Messenger of Allah would have beat you to it. This is a concept that the Sahaba lived about.

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Anything that is good, because after about us, I said, I'm gonna beat you too.

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So there was, this was an honor the Messenger of Allah sauce, I'm gonna beat you to it, he had never given us a dog that was larger than 20 Oh PM, or his daughters have never been given us a lot that is larger than 12 a year.

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And this is, so what is so young,

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it would be about the Korea would be about

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for the difference.

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What is

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about three grams of silver.

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So someone who has, okay, so someone who has knowledge,

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you know, someone who does not who did not who just scratched the surface evocative sorrow would be going out and asking for people together in a marriage for, you know, a pair of shoes.

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And then also has the same assertiveness and he will be completely confident and has certainty that he is sort of the

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final,

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you know, preacher on Jabba the Hutt on the truth.

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But then you know a little bit more, and you figure that

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the Prophet gave political failure, which is 40, then each one has 40 their arms. So the Prophet gave 480 demos,

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which should make it about 1500

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grams of silver.

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And 1500 grams of Silver's will come down to $500.

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So now, you sort of you worked on it a little bit more, and you have like a little bit of a better understanding.

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Right?

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And then you would be asking people to give their wives hunt for marriage for this for $500.

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But not yet, so that is a clue that

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you do want to figure out the purchasing power of the $480 homes during the time of the Prophet sells them so that you could basically compare it or so that you could understand better understand the value half of the notary that the promise on sell and pay

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and the purchasing power of 480 their homes would be

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one.

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So how would we think are the best way to do this is that is basically because

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Canada

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how they figure that hieroglyphic writing writings are language.

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Yeah, but the Rosetta Stone, the Rosetta Stone was the cipher because it was written in different languages. So to get to give a compare between different languages, some of them are living, they were able to figure out the irrigation plan.

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And so so this is the love money because the money was set by, you know,

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to be 100 gallons

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or

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2000 sheep

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or

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10,000 them

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so 10,000 Americans according to this book by you 2000 sheep compared to 2000

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2010 1000 so five months in world

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equals

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one seat

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These are words

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for the Prophet Sentinel the dinar to buy seed.

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And then he went and bought the seed for one dinar, and then sold it for two went back and bought another sheet for one dinar and brought to the prophets house on the one dinar and one sheep. So this hadith tells you that it fluctuates, and one dinar is about $10 homes. So two dinars is about 20 homes. So what 10 to 12 minutes kind of controversial, but

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so one of the nice things about Canada

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is about 20 veterans, so far 20 milligrams, you put by

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watch the

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data.

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So it is anywhere in one shape is anywhere from five to 20 pounds, meaning that the 480 or 500 determines the properties together as wives would buy you 25 to 100. Sheep

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Do you understand the concern of the value of this during the time of the province of Southern I want you to not understand this within your own context. But within the context of their very austere life,

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that the live the very austere, modest life that the Prophet was on the Sahaba live, they would pay a woman as a dowry only five to 100 sheep.

01:02:12--> 01:02:16

That's, that's a lot of money. That's a large

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sum of money or huge wealth in their own times. So basically, for people who drive fancy cars and live in luxury homes to show modesty only when they paid us back to their wives would be hypocritical.

01:02:37--> 01:02:46

It just like it is not making sense. So the prophet in their very austere environment,

01:02:47--> 01:02:55

where they, you know, they own very little, they would pay 25 to 100 sheep has

01:02:58--> 01:03:04

someone who was driving like a BMW wants to pay $500 in his wife, so Doc,

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you could bet you could take his friends out to dinner can pay more than that.

01:03:14--> 01:03:16

I would not make any sense.

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Quan c++ $300 Yeah.

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Yeah, so if you if you say 50 times 300, that's like at least 50,000.

01:03:35--> 01:04:15

Anyway, so in order for you, this basically is very applicable across the board, you really need to have your in need to be quite comfortable that you have the right understanding of the whole context, before you go out and preach with aggression. Because a lot of a lot of people are sick of our aggression in in preaching, like we're talking down to like particularly the elders, where you know, a little bit of something here or there and then you start to act like you know,

01:04:17--> 01:04:21

one of the restaurants not just the profit.

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So, okay. So this is the value of the,

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the value of the

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salon.

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So, should we come up with numbers? No, we should not. Because that is the whole idea. It is a mutual agreement. It's like it's about mutual agreement. It is basically to figure out,

01:04:57--> 01:05:00

you know, the condition of the wife the condition of the husband

01:05:00--> 01:05:21

insolvency, insolvency and so on. And in this in this case, if he is a recent graduate, and he has $400 in his bank account, and they really want to get married, deferred, you know, so make that subak whatever a reasonable number, and defer most of it.

01:05:24--> 01:05:25

Okay, so

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there is nothing, just what I am puzzled by you and

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Maddie mithya elaborate of

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saying it is valid for a man to give his daughter in marriage for any sort of any sort of,

01:05:42--> 01:05:51

for other than the father, no one is allowed to marry her for less than this lacava equals, except with her permission.

01:05:52--> 01:06:14

So, if you're in that if the Guardian is the Father, the father may marry her off for less than the subject of her equals, because we're treating the father here as someone who's compassionate enough to look after the best interest of his

01:06:15--> 01:06:16

daughter.

01:06:17--> 01:06:52

And if he feels that his daughter that, that this is the right person, and I'm willing to marry her off to this right person for much less than what she deserve, then the father could do this. If this is another Guardian, rather hongkou any other Guardian, he will not be able to marry her off for you know, with less than the appropriate so that the for equals for her likes, except with her permission.

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Okay.

01:06:59--> 01:07:06

And anything that has to do with slavery, I did not particularly translated because it is irrelevant.

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With you, you're not gonna come across any scenario where you need to learn this. But for for the scholars, we learn this because of his part of the legal history.

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Yes.

01:07:32--> 01:07:39

You do come across it. That is why I have an attachment at the end of this that talks about slavery,

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for you know, within its historical perspective, but oftentimes, once we fail to understand this,

01:07:48--> 01:08:00

when when you talk about how beautiful the treatment of the slaves are, they may feel like you're reminiscing about slavery, you'd like you want to reinstate

01:08:01--> 01:08:03

that, like you want to restart.

01:08:05--> 01:08:12

So you have to always tell them that I am talking about it within that historical context.

01:08:13--> 01:08:28

That Islam was the keenest religion and most effective and the one that provided a practical roadmap for the liberation of the slaves, and while they were enslaved, it was their religion that

01:08:29--> 01:08:41

in prescribed instructed us in the best treatment of them, but you have to always say that Islam was working towards the liberation emancipation

01:08:42--> 01:08:45

of the free freeing of slaves.

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Yes, but,

01:08:52--> 01:09:00

but that is said within the same context, because applying an ICER, you know, has to be understood within the context of the

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Yes, the conduct of the Prophet himself, because he will do that which is best, he will do the right thing. So that the same applies to in the Prophet says that the woman's prayer in her

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private room is more reward worthy than her prayer in her living quarters of her household or his her home. And that is more reward worthy than her prayer and the mustard. You have to understand this within the context

01:09:36--> 01:09:48

of the wives of the Prophet was one of them in the believing women going out to federalize almost daily. So, because if you

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try to understand it in isolation from the practice, because the practice

01:09:56--> 01:09:59

shows you how they understood this

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Oh, no, she should not be comparing herself. Absolutely.

01:10:09--> 01:10:10

Yeah.

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Okay, so then remember to put myself in because I want to have an iris of Arkansas

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subsection if he married her without us adopting the marriage is valid, because it is not a price had been appraised, the marriage would have been invalid

01:10:30--> 01:10:33

for lack of a covenant, the whole American law.

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Furthermore, adna case when the dussehra Salah fee, then if he divorced her before the consummation, she will be entitled only to the Mater, which is gift of consolation.

01:10:51--> 01:10:53

Gift of consolation, that's a good translation for

01:10:54--> 01:10:55

you translated

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who came up with that terminology.

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If the translation is a good translation for I may have to come up with it. This should be proportionate to the welfare problem or poverty of the husband to the highest motor is a servant. And the lowest is a guardian in which she could pray.

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You know, I have not translated this book, but sometimes I benefit from the terminology used by God because he's better. So I review his translations to

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usage reports. Yes.

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Come under

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this if someone

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does this

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no football field but it's very inconsequential. It would not fit because it's very insightful, inconsequential, it's just like a promise that I would wait for you.

01:12:21--> 01:12:49

If they did not go to the courts, but they conducted the contract the marriage contract, then they are married No, but the marriage contract is not basically when they redid our certified car, this is not the marriage contract the marriage contract is a job and offer an acceptance in the presence of servitude. So, a promise to give her to you and marriage is not the marriage contract. So they have to sit down and say that wants to get

01:12:51--> 01:12:58

nutty falana Araki tabula rasa your silicon Savannah and then I give you in marriage my daughter

01:12:59--> 01:13:11

and then he will have to say I accept her marriage. If this happens in the presence of tissue to witnesses, you have a valid marriage here.

01:13:13--> 01:13:29

So, irrelevant phenomena here is saying that if he divorced her before the consummation, she will be entitled only to the mortal gift of consolation this move on should be proportionate to the wealth and poverty of the husband, the highest move is a surgeon and the lowest is a guardian in which she could pray

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but cover his or her hour

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okay. So So if if Why would he mentioned not on here and he did not mention anywhere else because according to that many methods of motor which is the gift of consolation is due to the wife only upon

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the force

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before consummation

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where, wherever he was not.

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Where she did not receive a mark for a man who was not designated for her. In this case, in this case, she's not invited to a man she's not invited to have a monk

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anything that is why alive said

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Okay, so

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now, so So the big carpet here.

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Have observations here

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okay

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engagement is here but we seven days notice only a promise of marriage zone three think of engagement as

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two separate promise that we will wait for you but that's a very consequential leading now, here at the conference he designated

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Saba

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does not designate mean

01:15:49--> 01:15:50

divorce

01:15:58--> 01:15:59

death

01:16:04--> 01:16:05

death

01:16:07--> 01:16:08

divorce

01:16:10--> 01:16:16

that would be a good one for America chart okay. So, here

01:16:18--> 01:16:21

how the government contract there is one of two possibilities

01:16:22--> 01:16:22

the designated

01:16:23--> 01:16:30

date above designators about right. He can buy after the concert or divorce dinner, right?

01:16:32--> 01:16:37

He could die or divorce her What if they designated

01:16:38--> 01:16:40

and then he died

01:16:42--> 01:16:44

or divorced her

01:16:45--> 01:16:46

if

01:16:48--> 01:16:49

he dies the force term

01:16:51--> 01:16:53

by divorce

01:16:55--> 01:16:56

was

01:16:58--> 01:17:00

how many scenarios that you have here

01:17:01--> 01:17:10

it's an artist right? Okay. So what is they got contracted? And he died

01:17:13--> 01:17:13

before

01:17:15--> 01:17:16

half his

01:17:17--> 01:17:18

children Oh

01:17:20--> 01:17:20

yeah.

01:17:22--> 01:17:26

And if the math is against

01:17:28--> 01:17:28

him

01:17:32--> 01:17:33

no she won't say

01:17:34--> 01:17:35

equals.

01:17:39--> 01:17:43

If he divorced around the mountains and the designated salon

01:17:45--> 01:17:46

she will take out

01:17:48--> 01:17:51

if you divorce her and be the month designated salon

01:17:54--> 01:17:58

okay. And morphology is the constellation

01:18:01--> 01:18:01

montage.

01:18:09--> 01:18:10

If

01:18:11--> 01:18:15

you do not need a supplier, then you will have to give them more power.

01:18:17--> 01:18:21

Yes, it is a must accept according to the Maliki's.

01:18:23--> 01:18:25

hafeez shaeffer is

01:18:27--> 01:18:29

calling about the Seventh Amendment.

01:18:31--> 01:18:35

What if she died off for the conservation and he designated to Sabah

01:18:38--> 01:18:38

so

01:18:42--> 01:18:43

she has a lot of

01:18:44--> 01:18:48

he died he died after the transformation we have not the significant savant.

01:18:50--> 01:18:52

She gets equals

01:18:53--> 01:19:06

he divorced her after the concentration the demand is again for salon and the listening to the salon. She gets older. he divorced her after they consummated and they did not designate the salon.

01:19:07--> 01:19:11

She has a lot of articles. So when is

01:19:13--> 01:19:25

that? When is when is the motor I do only in this one case. he divorced her after the contract and before the designated

01:19:31--> 01:19:31

for Eva

01:19:34--> 01:19:35

over to

01:19:39--> 01:19:40

win the lottery.

01:19:53--> 01:19:54

So

01:19:55--> 01:19:55

the

01:19:56--> 01:19:59

junior high there is a hard module

01:20:01--> 01:20:11

Or viability if you divorce the woman the 40% of the marriage and before you designate a salon welcome try

01:20:13--> 01:20:17

each one according to his solvency or insolvencies capacity.

01:20:20--> 01:20:21

Yes. So,

01:20:34--> 01:20:35

yes

01:20:38--> 01:20:38

yes.

01:20:40--> 01:20:44

Except it is just one second except for the hobbies.

01:20:46--> 01:20:49

No, it is not for because,

01:20:51--> 01:20:55

yeah, no it does not for sorry.

01:21:03--> 01:21:04

What is that?

01:21:13--> 01:21:31

If the woman initiates the divorce, and she gets a divorce, because she was entitled to it, her financial rights are all given to her, if the woman initiates a divorce and she gets a quarter because she was not entitled to divorce, she gives up all of her financial rights

01:21:33--> 01:21:35

okay. So, here

01:21:37--> 01:21:55

we would have come to say. So, the examples of motorolla that are given here may not be relevant to our times in another report and the mother of human mathematics, its amount is left to the judge to determine those examples would still be helpful in providing the judgment some reference points.

01:21:57--> 01:22:05

So, the father man the garment to the they are not particularly irrelevant or famous, the judge will determine the

01:22:06--> 01:22:07

basically

01:22:08--> 01:22:15

it will be left off to the discretion of the judge, but these are given him some reference points as to what the motor means.

01:22:18--> 01:22:27

About the motor according to The Addams Family code, he will find that they gave the matar to everyone

01:22:31--> 01:22:32

except for this one

01:22:33--> 01:22:36

did not get her to any divorce.

01:22:37--> 01:22:41

Now, one whose husband died any divorce or

01:22:43--> 01:22:43

family court?

01:22:45--> 01:22:45

So this

01:22:48--> 01:22:48

this

01:22:50--> 01:22:51

this

01:22:52--> 01:22:53

this one

01:22:54--> 01:22:59

she was divorced after the contract before the consummation when

01:23:01--> 01:23:04

he gets out talk about and this is not a big event myself, I

01:23:06--> 01:23:07

you know, stuff is long.

01:23:11--> 01:23:11

But

01:23:14--> 01:23:17

the years are longer. This one.

01:23:19--> 01:23:27

Event Management not give our obligation to anyone. But he made it recommended for all of them. Because not clear.

01:23:29--> 01:23:43

Why did we choose this lambda because if they're giving the horse the air after 20 years, and then she's told that she's not entitled to anything fast enough, you know, to look for culture in the waiting period,

01:23:44--> 01:23:53

at the same time to quarter to seven here that you're entitled to half of his wealth, I'll be a fit for the woman to put her through a very hard task

01:23:55--> 01:24:02

of getting nothing personal to the court and giving half of his worth. So he chose the number five because it provides some

01:24:05--> 01:24:08

sort of like a third route.

01:24:10--> 01:24:20

So it gives the arbitrators the Muslim arbitrator, there's a chance to give her something that could be a good compromise.

01:24:31--> 01:24:32

$1,000

01:24:33--> 01:24:37

nificant amount, but today might not be so what's the

01:24:40--> 01:24:44

effect of that? Is it translated to face value or whatever yesterday?

01:24:47--> 01:24:48

You know what I'm plastic

01:24:50--> 01:24:51

30 years ago

01:24:58--> 01:24:59

we'll give them more power.

01:25:00--> 01:25:28

They will know based on the under family code, they will get more time. And in the meantime, we said that we will have after seven years that it will commensurate with the duration of the marriage. So someone who was married for two years will not be given the same What are like someone who was married for 25 years, and now she's out on her own. So we will give her a motor that will convince her rate with her

01:25:30--> 01:25:46

the duration of their marriage and the motor, I would basically take in consideration the wealth that was accrued by the husband during the marriage, but what not give her half of his books, in all honesty, because that is not the essence of matar.

01:25:48--> 01:25:59

Islam is a different system. It is not because it is given the wife less, but it is a different system. Islam did not force her to work, even

01:26:00--> 01:26:03

Islam gave her the right to keep all of her salary.

01:26:08--> 01:26:09

She's 60 years old,

01:26:15--> 01:26:21

we will come to the issue of what I'm going to be talking about the Africa of the motor the woman observing

01:26:23--> 01:26:54

and their maintenance. So we'll talk about the motor. That is why, you know, she could have asked for an allowance she did. She could have asked for an allowance to basically keep in her bank account to save for the future. She did not create that Islam for a visitor from asking for an allowance. She could have asked for some allowance, if you will be saving, I also need to be saving.

01:26:55--> 01:26:57

Why doesn't she ask?

01:27:02--> 01:27:04

What do you guys teach each other?

01:27:10--> 01:27:10

Know?

01:27:11--> 01:27:15

Most Americans will say no. Well, that's that's a problem.

01:27:17--> 01:27:23

In this case, you know, before they get married, you make this a prenuptial agreement.

01:27:27--> 01:27:32

After marriage, you can decide after marriage, but this won't be a matter of mutual agreement.

01:27:41--> 01:27:58

Because if he chooses not to give you from the money that he earns, what he is required to give you by law, by Islamic law is nothing to maintenance, you know, to give you what is enough for your spending

01:28:01--> 01:28:01

American

01:28:11--> 01:28:29

Okay, so when you think about what Allah gives you are certain designates a certain certain rights and obligations for the two husbands for two spouses. And then one of them says, No, I'm not comfortable with what he designated.

01:28:31--> 01:28:35

What do you think of this salon? Look at that picture

01:28:37--> 01:28:45

is no human being in demand, which is entitled, hungry, I can do anything. But

01:28:46--> 01:29:01

but but in general, when a divorce happens, there is no good feeling in there. That hurt and harm and the 60 years old woman, it's very hard for her to leave. We will reasonably differ. But hold on.

01:29:04--> 01:29:07

Okay, let's see, what, three months or four months? No.

01:29:09--> 01:29:31

More is a sizable gift, the dissolution of marriage that is separate from Africa. You know, they're also she has children, she gets a compensation for a partner, the custodian of the children, which is sufficient for living. If she's breastfeeding, she gets added her body which is the breastfeeding compensation. So

01:29:33--> 01:29:41

you guys think this way. Come on, man can play in VR is really hard.

01:29:43--> 01:29:49

Oftentimes, men complain that this is really hard. Because custodians, I mean, she gets like

01:29:51--> 01:29:59

compensation for custody of the children. She gets compensation for breastfeeding, whether she being a mother for the men sometimes

01:30:02--> 01:30:06

Okay, next, let's finish brothers. Everybody says

01:30:09--> 01:30:16

yes, let's take a five minute break and then come back. And then when we come back, I will have to finish this challenge.

01:30:19--> 01:30:27

So brothers and sisters and let us go over this quickly. Okay. And then the pharaoh the question what it meant that

01:30:28--> 01:30:37

the food was part of the canal not really setting up Salah shop. This is the issue that we were talking about system. And you said that

01:30:39--> 01:30:43

as far as I remember that the hotkeys only are the ones who did not say the

01:30:44--> 01:30:56

position of the majority. If one of them died before the conservation of marriage and designation of salon, then she will be entitled to the silver copper equals because this hubbies was

01:30:59--> 01:31:04

you know, the high fees took the position that we thought it did not take the position

01:31:06--> 01:31:34

of assault tracings position all the way up to the profit center settings under 27 majority. They took the decision country from 11 years old, because he traced it all the way up to the prophet in a particular incident, where about 1002 asset came to the prophet and her husband had died after departure from before the consummation. And the Prophet gave her the loan in its entirety. The mama bears equals because they have not designated

01:31:41--> 01:31:48

This is what they're talking about. They did not designate the Han Han he died. So the Prophet gave her

01:31:50--> 01:31:53

monitor equals as we said,

01:31:54--> 01:31:55

but this is not another

01:31:59--> 01:32:18

setback, okay, so she will be entitled to the salon or equals with no other elimination or access is no more nor less than or equal. If she has the survivor, she must observe the iPad waiting period. This is because the profits are going to decrease concerning in the case of marijuana.

01:32:19--> 01:32:49

When her husband died before he comes into the marriage with her the significance of that for her that she is entitled to those a lot over equals with no diminution or excess Panda, she is entitled to her share of the inheritance and upon her is the observation of the height for waiting period. So we live here before the consenting to give us equals she would inherit from him, and she would observe it.

01:32:50--> 01:33:06

Keep in mind, there is a difference between doesn't divorce here. In this divorce, she does not observe it. Since the marriage was not consummated after death, regardless of the concentration, she went observed.

01:33:10--> 01:33:13

consummation is consequential only for either

01:33:14--> 01:33:16

in the case of divorce, not in the case of death.

01:33:17--> 01:33:23

When the husband dies, there is whether or not the marriage was consummated. Anyway.

01:33:24--> 01:33:28

Next one we'll talk about we'll talk about the hood and he asked me

01:33:37--> 01:33:53

if she demands of EPA designate this clock for before the consummation, she would be entitled to that. If he designated for her that's a walkover equals or more she'll be entitled to nothing more. The same is true if he designated for her this and she accepted.

01:33:56--> 01:34:17

Basically, if we have the contrary, the non designated a mark and be the man consummate the marriage. She can say to him one fascinating and very interesting either manage or not concentrating until a designated market for us at all. We're not concentrating on video, give me the wrong, horrible song. She would be entitled

01:34:19--> 01:34:29

then, well, if she said after the contract, keep in mind that she would have a lot of negotiating room before the

01:34:31--> 01:34:51

after the contract. If she said you must designate a robot for me. When he will give her I was locked off her key equals because the contract is already over. Now, if they go to the judge, the judge will designate for her there's a lot of her equals

01:34:53--> 01:34:59

who are there equals her cousins or sisters her you know friends

01:35:01--> 01:35:02

Yeah,

01:35:03--> 01:35:06

you know, gardens of comparable conditions.

01:35:10--> 01:35:13

Now calling for a cotton champion on my laptop, let

01:35:16--> 01:35:16

me

01:35:17--> 01:35:53

know, in the IBM facility their IVR, setting a taco bias to be Makarova. There's a lot to be dropped in all cases where separation is caused by the woman before conservation, like your convergence is there apostasy or breastfeeding. The same applies to phenomenon was caused by her defect or the husband's defect or lack of means, for if he emancipated her. So that's a lot. Probably the whole subplot before consummation is not his wedding, but not as

01:35:54--> 01:35:59

well Adam is obligatory, not as is not immediately by,

01:36:00--> 01:36:14

not permitted by him basically, unassailable. Because it can be drawn so long after the consummation cannot be dropped in any way, shape or form.

01:36:15--> 01:36:25

automatically becomes immediately binding after consummation, before the consummation before the fall, before they move in together.

01:36:26--> 01:36:31

Before they have shot out in seclusion, seclusion, America, no one else could see them

01:36:32--> 01:36:52

before around the sofa is unstable. If the separation was instigated or caused by her castigated or cross could be instigated not cause, like if there is a defect in him, not her

01:36:53--> 01:36:57

and he instigates the separation, the monitor will be dropped.

01:36:59--> 01:37:10

This is before the consummation before the consummation, if it was caused by her, like her conversion to a snap or away from a seminar would be done.

01:37:11--> 01:37:21

Let's say two Christians in the woman converted this he will not be required to pay her money, because her conversion does not cause

01:37:23--> 01:37:26

the dissolution of the marriage, not his is.

01:37:29--> 01:37:30

Okay. Now,

01:37:32--> 01:37:36

if that divorce comes across his sign, it's clear.

01:37:38--> 01:37:40

She asked if it was designated,

01:37:42--> 01:37:46

and she does not have anything but what if it was not designated?

01:37:52--> 01:38:09

Okay, when Jasmine has an A B, so when terminal Jeremy pharmaceuticals from Montreal to be around for lack of a normal if the separation is caused by a third party, half of the bride or doubt will be due on the husband. He can claim it from the third party that separated them. How could it come from?

01:38:11--> 01:38:12

Like,

01:38:14--> 01:38:23

here? How can this car come from a third party cause the separation was caused by a third party? How can these How can they become a third party here?

01:38:26--> 01:38:26

If the

01:38:28--> 01:38:35

if she was like an infant wife, for instance. And she went

01:38:38--> 01:38:40

for Let's not say this.

01:38:41--> 01:38:48

For me, this is also applicable if she was an infant wife. And then his sister breastfed her.

01:38:50--> 01:38:51

She wrote her for him.

01:38:53--> 01:38:54

So

01:38:55--> 01:38:56

very then

01:38:57--> 01:39:03

he gives her half of the diary and he goes to her sister and tells her

01:39:04--> 01:39:07

You owe me half of the dorrigo Okay.

01:39:16--> 01:39:19

But there is another scenario. The other scenario is

01:39:21--> 01:39:23

let's say she was an older woman,

01:39:24--> 01:39:25

older woman,

01:39:26--> 01:39:28

and his daughter.

01:39:29--> 01:39:31

She was an older woman, and she was asleep.

01:39:33--> 01:39:35

And his daughter

01:39:36--> 01:39:44

and his infant daughter crawled to her and breastfed for her while she was asleep.

01:39:46--> 01:39:50

Then that's here on Harper and

01:40:00--> 01:40:03

Because, because you're not here when we went over the charts.

01:40:20--> 01:40:24

Yeah, because she if if she breastfed your daughter.

01:40:26--> 01:40:29

But by the way, you you make a little bit of sense here.

01:40:33--> 01:40:59

Because according to some directors predecessors, and that's the position that you chose, the breastfeeding prohibitions are not established through marriage. But according to the forum in the form of hubs, and the position that is the former official position, breastfeeding is established through kinship and marriage. So if a woman breastfeeds

01:41:02--> 01:41:12

your child, she becomes No. So if the nurse mother, the witness of your wife,

01:41:13--> 01:41:14

and

01:41:17--> 01:41:19

the witness of your wife,

01:41:20--> 01:41:32

or whoever your wife was a witness for so the milk mother of your wife, in the milk Daughter of your wife are both prohibited

01:41:34--> 01:41:46

because that prohibition is established through your marriage to your wife. So since he married this woman, her milk mothers and their daughters became forbidden to you.

01:41:50--> 01:41:51

Is the position of the foreign

01:41:52--> 01:41:53

foreign official position.

01:42:03--> 01:42:05

In this case, your daughter

01:42:07--> 01:42:08

crawled up

01:42:09--> 01:42:21

know that this is this is a clear cut. Your dog crawled up and drinks and drank from that woman's meal.

01:42:22--> 01:42:24

That woman

01:42:26--> 01:42:27

because the

01:42:29--> 01:42:33

issues doesn't have any relationship with them beforehand, right? She did she

01:42:34--> 01:42:35

mother.

01:42:37--> 01:42:43

From what I read it, it looked as if this woman had no relationship even as a witness for anyone else.

01:42:52--> 01:42:52

Okay.

01:42:55--> 01:42:55

Wait a second.

01:43:00--> 01:43:05

Also the husbands of the breastfeeding mother at that time because

01:43:08--> 01:43:09

that's what

01:43:19--> 01:43:21

he has to live with. Why and

01:43:24--> 01:43:27

breastfeed your child. Right.

01:43:29--> 01:43:37

Each 1112113 then they will be happy

01:43:47--> 01:43:48

to women.

01:44:03--> 01:44:06

Yes, then he will be the father.

01:44:16--> 01:44:18

Yes, because he will be the mimic father.

01:44:20--> 01:44:21

Through his two wives.

01:44:25--> 01:44:25

Yeah.

01:44:27--> 01:44:27

Yeah.

01:44:29--> 01:44:32

That's so so basically let me let me read this for you.

01:44:35--> 01:44:35

From the chapter

01:44:40--> 01:44:44

who took us back to the chapter brother please?

01:45:28--> 01:45:28

Well, isn't

01:45:31--> 01:45:31

it

01:45:37--> 01:45:38

Yes.

01:45:40--> 01:45:41

This is opposite.

01:46:55--> 01:46:56

Okay.

01:47:39--> 01:47:40

The example that we gave here

01:47:53--> 01:47:54

have a third party.

01:48:02--> 01:48:06

So how do I how does the third party ruin the marriage now they are married.

01:48:11--> 01:48:12

If

01:48:16--> 01:48:18

this this has to be

01:48:21--> 01:48:21

the

01:48:23--> 01:48:24

mysap wife

01:48:26--> 01:48:28

has to be young

01:48:30--> 01:48:35

and then his sister would breastfeed her.

01:48:36--> 01:48:39

So now if she became his niece

01:48:41--> 01:48:43

then he will not be able to marry her

01:48:46--> 01:48:52

if his wife was an older woman, and she breastfed

01:48:57--> 01:48:58

long as soccer,

01:49:00--> 01:49:00

his

01:49:02--> 01:49:03

wife

01:49:05--> 01:49:06

not to make her

01:49:08--> 01:49:09

make her

01:49:12--> 01:49:13

because she becomes

01:49:15--> 01:49:17

his wife's mother.

01:49:27--> 01:49:30

No, this one is his wife

01:49:33--> 01:49:33

that I

01:49:38--> 01:49:41

know infant wife

01:49:42--> 01:49:59

has written on its infant wife. So there has to be an infant while breastfeeding her or she would be the infant twice and she just fell from someone that will ruin her for him. Such as

01:50:01--> 01:50:06

Another wife of his or his sister,

01:50:07--> 01:50:10

for someone that would make her prohibited

01:50:16--> 01:50:17

which is Yeah,

01:50:19--> 01:50:19

is that clear?

01:50:32--> 01:50:34

But what about the temporary

01:50:35--> 01:50:36

interference?

01:50:40--> 01:50:42

Her parents or siblings?

01:50:44--> 01:50:47

Even his size his mother, his sister, they don't like her.

01:50:48--> 01:50:54

So that causes the separation before would she be allowed the 50% and can he go out?

01:51:02--> 01:51:05

this one we're not the natural one here.

01:51:09--> 01:51:11

Okay, going back to

01:51:26--> 01:51:42

okay so now who here says what matters most of Americana maryellen baqia Martha the Moto Saravana Kumar is fine. Whenever the brighter tower is hacked and it was a particular item that did not change then it will be divided between the

01:51:44--> 01:51:44

further

01:51:48--> 01:51:56

Yeah. So here we have fungible and non fungible Valerie's if it was a non fungible towery

01:51:57--> 01:52:11

fungible commodities are easy fungible, fungible, fungible, fungible items are items that are substitutable non fungible items are items that are non substitutable non fungible.

01:52:13--> 01:52:18

So, fungible items would be like what cash

01:52:19--> 01:52:21

or you know,

01:52:22--> 01:52:24

like grains

01:52:26--> 01:52:41

with one type of price a certain type of price substitutable the parts substitute for each other non fungible items will be like a particular animal

01:52:43--> 01:52:49

non fungible items will be granted notes or livestock or

01:52:51--> 01:52:54

a particular piece of furniture a particular piece of furniture

01:52:56--> 01:53:02

is available nowadays with IKEA and things of that nature. Furniture also can be promised

01:53:03--> 01:53:17

items, because they all have the same meaning but during those times each one was, you know, replicable. It's its own thing. Because it was handmade.

01:53:18--> 01:53:32

So these are non fungible items. The discussion here will be about the non fungible items, not the fungible items, because fungible items are easy. So the value was $200. So then 100, you get 100, I get 100.

01:53:34--> 01:53:42

If the divorce happened after the contract, and before the conservation, but with non fungible items, I want you to remember two things.

01:53:43--> 01:53:47

Now, there it's complicated, but to simplify this.

01:53:49--> 01:53:55

Okay, who has it? Who has done a bunch of items? Let's say we have a herd of sheep?

01:53:57--> 01:53:58

Who has it?

01:53:59--> 01:54:00

The wife,

01:54:02--> 01:54:02

the husband,

01:54:07--> 01:54:10

the wife has the one of the big

01:54:12--> 01:54:19

men, we have two scenarios, they increase the decrease.

01:54:20--> 01:54:22

In Greece,

01:54:23--> 01:54:24

they increase

01:54:25--> 01:54:31

the Houseman hazard, we have two scenarios in Greece.

01:54:33--> 01:54:34

Decrease

01:54:37--> 01:54:43

increases there have two scenarios the increase is separable.

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From the original inseparable, how could it be in some trouble? If this team comes out or that is inseparable? How could it be separable if the team gave birth to another sheet that says

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inseparable and separate.

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So here's the life

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is in the dark give her mama or daddy because he procrastinated, so he was found to be at fault. She asked for it and he refused procrastinated 11 he will be responsible for,

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he'll be responsible for half of the value that was designated at the time of the contract. So, any decrease will be his liability, he loses,

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he knows.

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Now,

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if

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he was not passive give her that hour he was she was not request to have a diary and

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she died or got sick or lost weight or decreased in value. Value could be found only at fault if he was negativism or transgressive, transgressing. But if he did not transgress or he was not negative,

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it will be treated by contrast, not comparable item.

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So trust is treated in a different way. So here, the wife left it was, as I trust, the trustee would not be responsible for the losses unless he committed negligence or transgression.

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Is that clear?

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If she's the wife was the one who have seen in her position.

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She's entitled to the growth policy. So if the increase was

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separable,

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then she fix if the grease was inseparable

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100 cheap, they got flour. She has one of the choices she gives him 50 of the 103

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that are fatter now. Or she can go back and give him half of the value of the one country cheap when she received the Canada contract.

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Right.

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Clear. In Europe, you're gonna probably not come across.

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Yes.

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After the

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actual

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finish first, we agreed that we will finish the whole thing and

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when

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he has published it once he consummated the marriage with her, the monitor right of the hour becomes entirely binding on him. And it will never be on No. This is clear consensus. No questions about this when colombina bother to do a product Amato katusa power alone, or

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if he hasn't been in seclusion with her after the contract, but he said I did not have intercourse with her and she confirmed his statement. The marketer or bride of the hour is still binding on him. And the waiting period is binding on her. But mom in its entirety will be binding their hair according to the majority, particularly the hafeez opening balance.

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Accordingly, according to the masochism, chakra is in the opposition of the microcephaly according to the Maliki and Safa in the new position of image softly.

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It will not be binding in America if she if she said no, he did not have intercourse. And if she said no he did not. Then it will not be binding on him to give her the entire though. But the whole piece of Hanbury said that she may say he did not have science in front of her parents. So once a door has been closed, that's it, the whole model is binding.

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And you may think that these are trivial issues, but they are big issues. Because it means let's say the smartphone was $50,000 it means that door was closed

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$25,000 just closing the door.

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So these are companies that this is a very private matter. And the judge may not investigate this matter. The judge may not say so what did you guys really do inside?

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That all the judge had asked to do is was the door closed or not? closed? That's it. We're down to one

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and half year position.

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case, the so why did the medical interface disagree? Because the last segment

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if you divorce them before you have intercourse with them, and you have designated authority for them, then one half half of the value will be dude, Alaska.

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But for truckers, which is the 100. Here, how many position is the position of the forklifts the forklift has said, we will consider the seclusion in place of the actual intercourse because this is a very private matter that we cannot investigate. So we will treat the

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mirror seclusion as counts consummation of the marriage, even if they both agreed that they did not consummated.

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And their position seems to be stronger.

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What's up?

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Back then it was extremely difficult.

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Today, but when we're not talking about seven years ago,

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closing the door where there is, what about closing the door where there is a rational, logical possibility of having to have intercourse? We're not talking about basically.

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Yeah. So that I like that, yeah, meeting in the office, for instance, where she was close to his coworker, and the doctor just happened to be closer.

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Or they are classmates, and they were the last people to leave the class, or maybe close the door,

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or the elevator or something.

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Talking about whether there is a logical possibility that the marriage has been consummated. And maybe there is a logical possibility that the marriage has been consummated, then we do not investigate the actual consummation because this is a private matter. So have you ever been better positioned in this regard seems to have like a very

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decent justification.

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Last point, when it's colorful, so don't fuss about our company for coming to Colorado, many of you might want to miss them. I mean, if the two spouses disagree about this a lot for its exact amount of them the accepted claim will be that the one claims that are most comparable to the customary that are for equals along with her is for her oath because we said that we when we enter in these disputes, when we fail to provide a proof

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then we take an oath and in this case, if they disagreed over the amount of the month whatever whoever gives a number that is closer to the customary monitors, however equals people under age and same socioeconomic level and so on. His claim will be accepted the other time of the return

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clear Yeah, yeah. And that's it questions

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cuz I'm on record decreases on premier increases. Yeah.

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Half of this curse we have to take now

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or she came to the house was something

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Subject to increase or decrease now to separate this once she's in the house, everybody's,

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everybody's money, increase and decrease. Now, when the divorce happens, is the husband liable for any of this?

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Especially the police?

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No, because because all of this discussion is before the consummation, not after the conservation.

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Yes, maybe some

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monetary gifts after having this relationship? Can you go back to retrospect and say that was enough?

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If you didn't announce it?

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Let's say he gave her $10,000. A year later, he says this was

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announced.

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Okay.

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If he does not say that this part of this document, these gifts are not part of this,

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he has to say that this is part of yourself.

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Since there's any questions?

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Yes.

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Any other public questions?

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Yes, can you make,

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like, let's say, you had an agreement for 10,000 versus I get this bedroom and

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whatever. And this was like that, but then the

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gift to the wife. So I don't have anything so I come to the wife, I said, I gave you this out this dress as your mother because the other thing is just like business being was

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away from the village.

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So you want to give her more? More

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furniture? Yeah, absolutely.

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But the sidewalk does not have to be a romantic gift. I mean, if you want to give her a romantic thing that that is up to you. But this could be a herd of sheep. Or it could be a piece of furniture. It doesn't have to be romantic bracelets or green gorgeous or not. But I thought it would be a nice thing to have something that's easy for the for the medical so like, isn't the end of the day for her if you give her if you give her is for goats. That is a salon. That is money. That is a gift. You know, yes, she may. She may not particularly

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sort of relate to it on a romantic level. But but that is an apple to give her a ring or a bracelet. The foregoing won't suffice.

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If that's if that is what you the agree on. But

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it is Yeah. Is people think if you give her a refrigerator, and she accepts still, here's a mock is a stove and she accepts it. That is a valid symbol.

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Like this say

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that the problem the problem is no it is not your obligation to get the living room.

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Let's say that you you don't like

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you you buy.

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Like what's the obligation terms of furniture? Are the husband's applies to buy a microwave? No, he's not.

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He's the husband of lies by you know, like a set of couches and armchairs and no he's not.

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So if he makes this part of the monitor then it is fine. And in this case you will take it away with her divorce takes place.

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Now, I am not saying that I would recommend this for you. I am saying that the romantic gift would still be helpful. But in terms of the law is not a requirement. The monitor could be as an element but that must start with anything that is an acceptable compensation for our commodity that

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compensation for our commodity in the bartering system could be anything, any other commodity, hoarding the cash transactions if this cash, so cash or any item that could be unacceptable compensation for our commodity can be a valid marker but bracelets rings and things of that nature, across America you have been.

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And even in some costumes like in Egypt, these things are not mine. Modern Egypt is the cash

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to buy her bracelets and rings and all of these things that Egypt is considered a different thing which is chapter which has no place in Islam.