#05 Fiqh of Family – Chapter on Breast-Feeding

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AI: Summary © The speakers discuss various topics related to consanguinity, including the importance of proper use, avoiding marriage, and breastfeeding children. They emphasize the need for consistency and avoiding confusion in relationships, legal protection for victim and their family, and the importance of showing a woman as the custodian of her children. They also touch on the loss of interest of a child due to a mother losing a father and the importance of consistency and avoiding confusion in relationships. The speakers emphasize the importance of considering differences between men and women in their roles and taking into account the "weird" women experience.
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Hello So summers are allowed

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to proceed. Then inshallah we will try to finish the chapter on breastfeeding or baba.

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Allah tala said in his book along the or on the

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under the chapter of breastfeeding or on breastfeeding Baba da da da Manasa remiel Mahamaya the restrictions of marriage and subsequent restrictions

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of consanguinity and subsequent rulings that result from breastfeeding.

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restrictions of marriage and subsequent subsequent rulings that result from breastfeeding are the same as those that result from consanguinity. NASA, consanguinity masaharu marriage.

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So the restrictions of marriage

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and Mahamaya the other rulings that

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pertain to this which would be, you know, if, you know, being able to

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mix with the other gender without being on and follower, and all of these things that would apply between

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two blood brothers or two blood siblings would apply between two male siblings as well, or would apply between a person and their blood parent would apply between them and their male parent as well. So that's what that what this means.

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To me, well, marami the restrictions of marriage and subsequent rulings that result from breastfeeding are the same as those

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that result from consanguinity.

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Now, the first thing that I wanted to talk about is that breastfeeding, like, although this is not limited to orphans, and you could breastfeed anyone, and the same rulings will apply, but breastfeeding as basically a system of substitute family, for people who have no family or substitute mother for a person who has no mother is, is a genius system.

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And it you know, the fact that it is contingent upon breastfeeding and contingent upon press, breastfeeding,

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sort of like

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according to the trapeze, and somebody is at least a number of feedings that would create some form of biological connection like because the food that you eat goes into the making of your body of your flesh and bones.

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Man better luck, no answers allow that which produces or causes the growth of flesh and bones, as the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, so it makes it like,

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almost like blood relationship.

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It is a real relationship between the two parties, and breastfeeding.

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So many women that the idea of a witness or a substitute mother in the sense

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that would breastfeed the infant was essential because there were, they did not have sort of Formula the time.

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And if you if your mother died in childbirth, or if your mother was unable because because of disease or because of just any

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incapacity, any form of incapacity, then you will have someone to breastfeed you

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so it's it's a genie system can is this relevant today it is relevant today. Can we use it today to solve the problem of adoption and instead of adoption, we will have like an alternate system

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which is mailed male family or the breastfeeding family.

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So we can use it

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and we will come to the discussion about whether it be or breastfeeding of an older child that is not in the first two years of life and we will see how this could be pertinent or relevant today.

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So in general, it is

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system it extends the sort of pushes the boundaries of family

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and affords the people who have no mothers substitute mothers, people who have no family substitute families because as we said before, the breastfed infant will be as if they were transplanted into the milk family, they become part of the milk family as if they have been taken

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away or not taken away, they are not taken away from their own biological family, but that is if they have been in addition to their biological family transplanted into this milk family part of it, just like you You put like a bar, if this is the milk family here

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and they have their own children

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and you have this boy here

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let's say his mother died for instance, and this lady here, breast feeds him.

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Now, we will take him and put him here

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certainly that will not apply to inheritance, it will not apply to inheritance, but it will apply to everything that that is, you know, because he will inherit from them.

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But he will not inherit from her, but it will apply to be part of the family in terms of mixing in terms of hijab rules and in terms of marriage and and such respects so that that's that's very

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important. That's a very important aspect that we may benefit from if we know how to properly utilize it. Then she except for metadata merata Flan Saravanan Lucha Libre Julie Lisa lebon will be what he

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family family khulumani Ramallah Nima milanesa in Lhasa bintan llama Tara mala coordinamento chromolaena to whom Amina NASA, the powder also relies a lot is Allah yamamura Dotty Maya Romo Minh and NASA.

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Okay once a woman breastfeeds a male child he becomes a son to her and to the man who caused the production of the milk This will make the restrictions of marriage for this boy, the same as for their own biological son of the woman breastfeeds a female infant she also becomes a daughter to them both with all the restrictions of marriage applying to her as if she is their own biological daughter. This is because the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam said breastfeeding results in the same restrictions caused by consanguinity. Breastfeeding results in the same restrictions caused by consanguinity. So as as we said, this is going to be transplanted and planted here into this family

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whatever applies the you know, to them applies to him as well, because the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said breastfeeding results in the same restrictions caused by consanguinity. Does it result in the same restrictions caused by marriage? Because what are what are the causes of permanent restrictions?

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The four causes of permanent restriction natsap, consanguinity masaharu, marriage and breastfeeding law and

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the public implication or invocation of curses. Now, the prophets of Salaam is saying that breastfeeding

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will cause the same restrictions are caused by consanguinity. He did he say marriage? No, he did not.

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But the

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the for him is that it would also be

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it will also cause the same restrictions caused by marriage. Now, if you haven't Mar Amala, limited this to the text.

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Sort of the main two that had these

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two the explicit statement of the Prophet sallallaahu settlement said marriage does not produce this. Breastfeeding does not cause the same restrictions caused by marriage. In what sense?

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How is you know, so, like if I have, so the two steps and the two in laws

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was not the you know, so your male stepdaughter and your male

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stepmother, your milk, mother in law and your milk daughter in law, according to the four mazahub are haram to marry and consequently, they are allowed to, you know, not wear hijab in front of you and mix them follower and things of that nature. Certainly sensitively, you know,

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if it's me or am Allah said, the Hadith does not talk about this, they're not haram for you to marry, but, so, consequently, they are not allowed for you to mix with uncover in front of etc.

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When it comes to a like a matter of this nature,

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we want to be particularly cautious with

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particularly cautious with what the you know,

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marriage and you know, they say last,

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last, the fee is about karma. So, they say that the default when it comes to meat and what comes to marriage is prohibition. So, we tend to err on the side of have prohibition, that restriction limitation. Therefore, we take the position of the poor man's and as we said before, we we usually take the position of the forum member, we do not go outside of the agreement of the forum member except when a position when a position outside of the forum as I have

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sort of cast game the mainstream acceptance has gained mainstream acceptance, like, you know, a mayor's position on the three like three fold divorce, a composite divorce,

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if it is needed, like you know, if we don't take it will have some hardship would ensue if it is needed, if it has been mainstreamed and if it is founded by the text of revelation as well has have them in another has some basis in the text of Revelation. So these are important conditions. This this particular position may be founded

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by the text of revelation because as we see here, the prophets of Salaam did not say milanesa Masada He only said milanesa may be somewhat surrounded by the text of Revelation, but it is missing the two other conditions, it has not been mainstreamed, and we don't need it.

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Like there is there is not that urgency to take it. Therefore, we say within

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the agreement of the form is the safety of the agreement of the for mother.

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So whatever is restrictions caused by consanguinity or marriage, breastfeeding will cause them breastfeeding would cause them so this little boy here

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this is his

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so if you like

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Okay, mother in law, this is your wife. This is you. This is your mother in law.

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Daughter in law

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okay, but this is not like this now.

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So we're trying to get them the milk at once and let's not just throw it because it's gonna confuse us. So stepdaughter stepmother. Here's the stepdaughter is what?

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The daughter of your wife is your stepdaughter? Certainly She's not your daughter. She's the daughter of your wife from another man.

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we're talking about what daughter here Melaka daughter, not the milk daughter.

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So the milk Daughter of your wife, the whip nurse of your wife, which is what? The milk mother of your wife, so the mother of your wife is called what? Your mother in law? What about your daughter in law? The daughter in law? The milk daughter in law?

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Milk a daughter in law, how do you get a milk daughter in law? Your okay? Your son,

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his wife,

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nurse somebody. That's your milk daughter in law?

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So my mother in law, daughter in law, stepmother, stepdaughter.

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The position of the forum is I have milk, milk, milk milk, the position of the formulas I have is, they are not allowed for you to marry her. Let's just remember this and move on. There's a formula. They say that breastfeeding causes the same restrictions not only that are caused by NASA or consanguinity, but that are caused by marriage as well. And we have four restrictions cause of a marriage to in laws, and two steps, stepdaughter stop Mother, mother in law daughter in law.

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Making a drawing out of it will be difficult because these are milk, you know, relationships. They're not biological relationships. So you can't really make a drawing.

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Unless you're creative.

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I'm not.

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So then the sheikh said.

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But one thing that we wanted to discuss here, the chief said for metadata

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and layout originally, Lisa Levin will be what he wants a woman breastfeeds a male child, he becomes a son to her and to the man who caused the production of the milk and to the man who causes the production of the milk. Now, the man who caused the production of the milk through pregnancy, getting her pregnant or enhanced the production of the milk through intercourse. So because they believe that intercourse would enhance the production of the milk. So, the but

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but there is a particular issue here to be discussed.

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The milk that gets produced without pregnancy, according to the authorized position in the Hanbury method does not cause restrictions.

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So the woman had milk come down without being pregnant and authorize the view of the mother, this milk is inconsequential. They consider this milk like the milk of Mahima a goat and

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you know you may not You may not believe it, but we do get this question to people who you know drank from the same goat are the brothers who are early.

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So, but, but people do ask this question.

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So they consider this to be like the milk of men. If a man produced milk does it cause the hareem? No, it does not. They consider milk that is the milk he has a man can produce milk. So they consider this milk that is inconsequential legally.

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Now, the majority the three of them as I have and there's a position in the confetti method as well, when consider the milk that is produced by a woman who is married consequential,

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even if there is no pregnancy, but she produced milk that milk is consequential. Legally, that's probably what we will go by particularly that sometimes we need

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we need women to like if if like a particular family has no children, for instance, and they want to

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take care of an orphan and make the orphan part of their family it is not called the adoption. But even if they have to go through the legal sort of adoption then they

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Have to go through it because otherwise you're not going to be able to take care of the child and raise the child, which is a virtuous deed, Greg, great deed and our cafeteria team campaigning for done. So, hi, I'm the caretaker of the orphan will be this close and Jen.

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So what do we do we tell them, you know, breastfeed them. And if they're if the mother if the woman never got pregnant in the first place, we'll just give her medicines to bring down the milk, and then she can breastfeed and then the Mahamaya will into order restrictions will ensue,

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does not acknowledge, yes, the authorized position appears

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to be milk that is subsequent to pregnancy, because they consider milk if is not subsequent to pregnancy, abnormal milk, unhealthy milk. It's like the milk of, you know, a man for instance, who has like a disease and something of that nature.

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So this was the first issue here then the chick said we're hiring, medical halka men 11. So

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Sadie, Julian sollten mahabang kana.

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Alma Shubin, eval amused,

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the legally prohibitive,

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the legally prohibited breastfeeding is whatever milk enters the throat, whether by suckling or through drenching, pouring milk into the throat, or nasal feeding and whether it was pure or mixed as long as it is not diluted to in significance by the other substance. So, in this case, some when we come and talk about about Kabir, breastfeeding, you know, the issue of breastfeeding an older child that's more than two years of age, and some people you know, marveled at some of the fatawa

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before because they thought that it meant that the woman would actually nurse like give the like, an eight year old, her breasts to nurse. No, it is not like this because according to the vast majority has disagreed but according to the vast majority, anyway that you could get this milk came to the child it would work.

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But why because of the the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said law in llama and butter LACMA?

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No, there is no legally consequential breastfeeding except that which causes the growth of flesh and bones. If you give the child if you basically suction the milk, give it to the child in a cup does this cause the growth of flesh and bones does so it would be considered consequential, legally consequential breastfeeding? Okay.

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It is legally consequential, even if you take it out, let's say this woman that we give her prolactin for instance with some medicine to bring down the milk because you know, we want her to breastfeed this baby to become his milk mother and for her husband to become the milk father as well.

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The say that she is able to produce only little milk, we will add formula to not formula you add something else you have like a little water to according to the Hanbury method, as long as you could recognize the qualities of milk and the new mixture, which would be what what are the qualities that we are always looking for all the time, allowing altamura color odor and taste as long as you can recognize the qualities of milk in the new mixture that would cause the cream that would cause restriction would cause restriction. If you take that milk and make cheese out of it and give it to the child, it still causes restrictions, according to non badmouth because at the end of the day,

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and but a lot more answers. HIPAA causes growth of flesh and bones, no matter what form it is in, no matter what form it is in.

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Okay, then the sheikh said whether you have a more elaborate routing selasa huduma, Annie akuna Levin Umbra Bikram Canada I would say even Fie hayati about the multi family behemoth our Roger and Munchkin for you

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rim say

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it is prohibitive only upon the fulfillment of three conditions first it should be human milk of a woman, whether she, whether she was previously married or not. The authorize the view of somebody messed up is that it is consequential only if she is previously married and she, you know, become pregnant and so on and so forth.

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Whether she was previously married or not during her life or after her death during her life or after her thus,

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it's easy like if she died and some baby had already breast it's not easy, but I'm just saying that if he died and some baby had already breastfed four times and that baby was next to her and nursed from her while she was the them that fifth suckling will count and it becomes

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his mother

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or she becomes

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so, it will be legally consequential okay.

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Because, you know, certainly she has to be a woman, man's milk does not cause restrictions between Canada I would say even and we did talk about the difference here. And the method the author is the view and the method is that it is it has to be consequent to pregnancy, whether she is whether she was previously married or not. During her life or after her death, family Robin will be email Roger I will consider mushkin follow her emotion. As for the milk of beasts men and the ambiguous, ambiguous hermaphrodite,

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they are not

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legally prohibited. They're not legally prohibited. So

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that's clear, you know, Lebanon by EMA is not legally prohibitive to people nursing from the same goat will not become siblings.

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Then the sheikh said

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the second condition for this milk to be legally consequential. He said Athenian equivalent how Layne Nicodemus will realize that a lot of light hearted woman Ah, in fact, our can a couple of feet on. Second it should be within the first two years due to the statement of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam. breastfeeding is not legally consequential unless it expands the stomach and happens before the age of weaning happens before weaning

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in the age of weaning actually is not happens before weaning a couple of feet on should be just happens before weaning.

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So this is the second condition here the second condition that happens in the first three years of life. However, they have not been that particularly faithful to two years, like mathematically because some of them said 30 months, some of them said 26 months. You know Hana fees. They said 30 and Maliki's they said 26

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Sharpies and honeyberries they said 20 T for now. So what about robot cabbie? What is the whole story of robot Kabir or breastfeeding an older child

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or an adult

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or adult Listen to this.

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So what about the the the

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the concept of radon can be? Well, it is clear that the Prophet sallallahu sallam, you know had,

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you know, a lot of mechanical holding. And these are controversial reports in terms of but they corroborate one another so it is established worldwide

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in Canada In Canada, and women breastfeed their children, their infants two full years for those who want to complete the duration of breastfeeding.

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That's what the last seven sort of the bacara sarada is in ways within the first two years where the complication of rodar Kabeer come about or come from it came about. Booth came about after Salim

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you know and his wife had adopted Salim before adoption was made illegal in Islam. And after adoption became illegal Salim came and ever came to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and said to him now adoption you know. Now salad is a is an older

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Fell or a young adult and we

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like he does not have a place to go, what should we do about him? And he said to her, but he told me, he breastfeed him and then you become

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haram to him haram to marry become

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unmanageable came to him.

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So, then everybody agreed, this is this is what happened. This is an established report, there is no controversy over the authenticity of this report. But what do we make out of it? Is it a seesaw? Is it something that is special for this particular family? Or can it be extended?

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Well, some, you know, I totally alone have felt it can be extended.

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The other wives of the believers and are actually used to have, you know, her female relatives breastfeed, like give milk to people to drink it, so that they can sort of have an easier time learning under her.

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So that she does not have to observe the full restrictions

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that were imposed on the wives of the believers, including you know, the covering of the entire body, so

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that the other wives of the believers and I actually use the salams report or seldom story as a proof or

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evidence on this

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practice. So the other wives of the believers except for half so we get conflicting reports from pops up It seems to have so was it an approval of ISIS position as well? The other wives of the believers felt that it was a peculiarity that was specific for Salah Mota because they've now some people like a follow the eyes and heritage the hub like Alta and others.

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And the person who defended the most would be even husband.

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Rahim Allah tala. And some people did not follow this, and that happened to be the former's so we have now two different positions at both ends of the spectrum one positions that are Kabir causes the same restrictions like rather severe some people said that about Kabir was only a concession for Salim on the peculiarity also, say, for this particular instance, or this particular case, then came up with a man named Rocky Mountain lotta iron and said, No, it does not. Kabir does not produce the same restrictions, like rather severe, because it has to be only within the first two years of life. However, if we have a replica of Selim story, the same conception will apply to another scenario

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that is like Salim scenario. So if we have the same need, because there would be no, they argued that there will be no rational

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reason to restrict this concession, this Adams case, what if we have similar scenarios that are comfortable and you could say that, you know, we can't have similar scenarios, because this happened during the time of

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adoption was halaal and then became Haram, this will never be repeated. But, you know, the the point that they were trying to make is that the need the hardship, you know, the need to resolve the hardship, in certain cases, like people who are orphaned in war, for instance, and have no families. And they just crossed the two year mark, let's say they're three years old today. You're 36 months old, according to the forum as I have you cannot breastfeed those it will not be legally consequential to breastfeed those they said you can take them breastfeed them.

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have we made use of this at one point when the like the the war in Bosnia was taking place and where a lot of children coming here and the Muslim kid Muslim families have this reluctance to take in children that are more than two years of age because of the the issue with mixing and so on when the child grows up and what are we going to do with regard to mixing and all of those things

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If we utilize this position this concession, as we said before, you know we are not going outside of the agreement of the form of except if there is some validation and the revelation, a position is adopted by a guy the man who presented some substance substantiated disposition by some proofs from the revelation in this case the Hardys authentic hadith of Salim NaVi

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and has been mainstreamed and there are many contemporary scholars and it

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was not the first come up with this. He is the first to sort of position it in the middle between the two ends of the spectrum the people who said that rodar COVID will always be consequential and the people who said it will always not be consequential and he said it will be consequential in scenarios that are similar to salams scenario. So,

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how many contemporary scholars do it up to this? You know, a very large number of contemporary scholars adopted this. And is there a need for it? Absolutely. There is a huge need for

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that makes it much easier for so many Muslim families to take care of kids for to take care of orphans or kids who are parentless.

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Okay, the next point here the sheikh said

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Sally Sue and er toddy Arkansas, the company is already lower on her own Xena for an extra 200 fancy Cummins radica concern fissara in 100 year art in moto math in your

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Third, the number of breast feedings must be five due to

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a statement it was revealed in the Quran 10 breastfeeding shall cause prohibition and then this was abrogated by five, this matter was already settled by the time the Messenger of Allah died,

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was already settled by the time the Messenger of Allah died. So this is how the ether my shadow the Alona authentic hadith where she tells us that party that there was an eye on the puram that said that asked about your herremans for 10 sucklings or

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breastfeeding 10 times with

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with cause prohibition, and then five were abrogated. And then it became five cycling's or five breast feedings with cause prohibition. And I just said, By the time the purposes of them died, this matters was already settled, you know, coming down from 10 to five was already a settled matter. That is why the shaft is and the ham bodies.

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They say that it is five, there are different positions there is like 213, and five and one and so on the shaft is or somebody say there's five, the medic is an hanafy, say, one, because he or

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breastfeeding causes the same restrictions as an ESA. And the Prophet did not qualify that statement did not specify. So they went by the generality of the statement of

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And the 70s and 80s went by this particular report from is are they alone and they said, five breast feedings will cause restriction.

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So it you know,

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and there are other reports were from the prophet SAW seven, that's the you know, so the prophets of Salaam said for instance, in another report.

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You know, it was controversial in traceability to him, but not everyone must have a certain You know, one or two proceedings or sucklings will not cause prohibition and that's why some of the scholars three would

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if one or two would not then three would Bible human mohalla or the divergent implication. Anyway, what I want you to remember is just the two popular positions. The one is the Hanafi and madikwe. Any breastfeeding would cause brain ambition. The other is the shafee and henneberry. Five breast feedings five sucklings will cause prohibition. So that's as far as the numbers concerned. How do you determine the number of proceedings every time the child leaves the nipple

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and gets the

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distracted for a while, that is a breastfeeding. So the child was, you know, nursing and

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turned away and just did anything funny.

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Even if he comes back, that was one time. That was one time.

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Now, so as you know, whenever the child loses interest, even if that loss of interest did not continue and he returned to breastfeeding, but if he loses interest it's not like he's taken like a breath or something. No, he just loses interest

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and then comes back that was one time.

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Then the shift said we'll have another family Mahara mon favor Canada rather an umbrella term for

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the nominee Teflon widow kurata flat sobre Hawaiian Ileana makaha

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if a man has more than one wife there are

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Why didn't I translate Levin and Franklin Hartman

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anyway, which which means that the milk of the husband or the fertilizer is prohibited.

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If a man has more than one wife, there are additional restrictions caused by milk produced as a result of conjugal relations between him and his wives.

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If a man has two wives and one wife breastfeeds, a male infant with milk caused by him while the other wife breastfeeds a female infant, the two infants become brother and sister through breastfeeding. This is because the fertilizer is one of the pathway ahead semen or the fertilizer is one. So a man has two wives, one breast feeds boy one breast feeds a girl are these siblings.

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They are, they are funny enough, they are parental paternal siblings through breastfeeding, but they are not maternal siblings. They are paternal siblings through breastfeeding. So they are milk paternal siblings. Yes.

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The no this is this is not hair. It is no a man is married to two wives. Those two wives break brought to perfect strangers from the street babies

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and breastfed them

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not not necessarily means like a boy and a girl.

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Yes to milk babies. Yeah, so a boy and a girl perfectly, you know from from any buddy, you know?

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And they breastfed them. So the father the man becomes the Father.

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That is certainly every every woman will become. And I'll give you another scenario that's even weirder. But every every woman, every woman will become a mother.

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But they will they will not be maternal siblings through breastfeeding. They are only paternal siblings through breastfeeding. Their mother is not one to co wives. The man is their their father. So they are paternal siblings. And this particular case, is a fatwa from Abdullah bass himself. This particular case is a fatwa from Abba live and how best himself and then sex ed went out about their home and from here on we're going through Shakira pedals that he rattles from here to the end of the chapter. But these heroes are good because they exercise your mind. And it does not mean that Messiah are telling people to do this stuff. It just means that the Messiah will have to provide

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answers for when this stuff takes place. Okay, so don't get like to sort of,

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like upset about

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in about 11 he

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didn't and let her know who do

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or do not woman should be. If one of the wives breastfeeds a female infant three times and the other one breastfeeds her twice or two times she becomes his daughter but not theirs.

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Because according to the honeyberries you need to breastfeed

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three, five times to become a milk mother.

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This baby was fed five times by co wives of as the same men, each co wife would not become a mother, but the man becomes a father.

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Whenever there's a weather tomorrow

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you guys are going to be laughing for some time here.

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But artists, modern modern artists learn from our boss who comes out of art

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automatically, when faster Kanika automatically not have 11 to harryman, Abaddon, Leanna, Hassan,

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and Hannah nama. If a woman marries a male infant, and then breastfeed them five times, she becomes unlawful to him and their marriage becomes void. She also becomes unlawful to the man who caused the production of the milk since she was once the wife of one of his children.

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She was married to a man

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and got divorced from him.

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But she was still breastfeeding, or she still had milk that was produced by him because of a pregnancy that took place before their their their divorce.

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Now, she got divorced from that first man. She married an infant

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she did not consummate the marriage by the way.

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She doesn't have to consummate the marriage. She just got contracted with an infant.

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And then he or she felt bad for him is angry or something.

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And she breastfed.

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So if she breastfed him, then she is his milk mother.

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Then their marriage becomes void. The marriage becomes a void with that infant. Can she go back and re marry her ex husband? No. Because why?

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Because he's the father of this child.

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The he is the father of this child.

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So he's the father now this child Yes.

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Not because he is the milk father that she can't marry him.

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Because she was the wife of his son.

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Not because he is the milk father. Because she

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because she was the wife of his son. That scenario if that boy that was breastfed has a sister can that divorced husband marry his sister.

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The boy have a sister. She wasn't breastfed by this lady love can be ex husband married sister. Yes.

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Firstly, what is Elijah Raja Vira

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Vira forgotten Kabira severe automatic Kabira when Sabbath Anika saga

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subsection if a man marries an adult woman and does not consummate the marriage of her and he also marries an infant and then the adult woman breastfeeds the infant, the adult woman's marriage becomes void and the infant's marriage is not void.

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So a man

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is married to like,

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like two women that says caviar. caviar means all the names.

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This woman now goes and breastfeed this woman.

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This woman goes and breastfeed this woman.

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She becomes a milk mother. He is married to both. He has not consummated the marriage. It's a contract. It's a contract.

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Now can you be married to a woman and her daughter

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after the contract, your marriage to the woman becomes a void immediately, because he is the mother of your daughter. And the mother of your daughter is not contingent upon consummation for the contract to be void.

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the mother,

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okay, she's not the mother of your daughter, I'm sorry.

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The mother of your wife, or the mother of your wife, when you marry a woman, her daughter, her daughter,

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does not become immediately forbidden to you. Her mother becomes immediately forbidden to you. Here you are married to those two women, one of them breastfed the other. This is a mother. And this is a daughter. This is a mother and this is a daughter. The mother is immediately forbidden to you now.

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Why? Because you're married to her daughter. And if you're married to her daughter does not mean whether you consummated the marriage or not.

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Yes, it's just upon the contract. But what about this one? Is your marriage void here? No, because you did not consummate the marriage with her mother. Had you consummated the marriage with a mother.

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Both of them would be forbidden

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to you and they will be forbidden to you permanently.

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Then the sheikh said we're in Canada savedata in our bathroom or Cobra automatic Cobra and fussa Kanika sorry.

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If he is married, that is contracted to two young girls and his adult

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contract also wife breastfeeds them, the adult wife becomes unlawful to him. His marriage to the two young girls becomes a noun, but he can remarry either one of them afterwards.

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So now he is married to

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another one.

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So he is married to those three contractive contracted contracted

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has the marriage to this woman becomes void. And she becomes permanently forbidden to him if she best feeds his two other wives that are infants.

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Okay, sometimes they used to do this like intentionally to ruin the marriage. And so because that was like a technique that women could use to be basically like to get out of a marriage could breastfeed like

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you guys don't learn these techniques.

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But there were a lot of such techniques. Oh, by the way, it's like there

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he goes and breastfeeds

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she goes on breastfeeds these two, here managed to this man becomes avoided and she becomes permanently forbidden to him permanently forbidden to him. Why?

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Because she is the mother of his wives permanently forbidden upon contract. Now, these are the daughters of his contracted wife, not consummated contracted wife.

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Are they are they permanently forbidden to him? No, because it's only contracts contracted why it's not, you know, and the consummation did not take place. But is there marriage? Does their marriage become void? Yes.

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Because you can combine two assessors. So the marriage becomes avoided immediately. But then he can go back and take one of them re marry one of them.

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In coordinates alas and for the for the tournament fairy that have omitted Cobra one festuca Anika had moto mod bought a new one with a Botanica

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if they are

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Three, the adult why breastfeed them at different times, she becomes unlawful to him his marriages to the two who breast fed first become now. But the marriage to the third one is invalid. Okay.

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So now he has three little wives.

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And one other wife, the older wife went and breastfed the three little wives, okay?

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You know, these scenarios would be perfect for like copy and paste and stuff. Anyway, but,

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so this is,

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this is the story here. So she breastfed them one after another.

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She breastfed this first, second, third, she breastfed this one than this one, then this one.

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Once she breastfed this one,

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she becomes what she's hot. She's out.

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Okay, once she breastfeeds this one.

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No, they're not out in the sense of permanence prohibition PS the marriage of these two now.

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Then, then she breastfeeds this one.

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And she says Why? Because by the time she breastfed, this one these two were out already. So,

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she was not there was no combining of sisters between this one on anyone because this and this. Once they were combined, their marriage became voided. He is now not married to this this or this. His marriage to this will stay

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Can he divorce

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and remarry the first or second? Absolutely. Because there are no permanent prohibitions here the prohibition is in combining

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the run up a little kids a man

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time in the intro of our year Islamic calendar this start happening and what is the cause? This is like a recipe for disaster.

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The husband the wife, the man the woman is like

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no, this this is like I say guys, I didn't I give you an introduction. These are called copywriters to exercise your crappy mind. They're not saying to you go and marry three

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kids and have your older wife breastfeed them. One family that, you know one after another. They're just saying what if this happened, then that would be the ruling. And and this the focus needed to say this, because at times people could do things of that nature for particular motives, whatever ulterior motives they may have.

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Then the sheikh said we're in about the honeymoon phase and attain about a man in foster clinic. So that's what I want to mention. I'm in honeymoon Florida. If the adult wife breastfeeds, one first, separately, and then she breastfeeds. The other two simultaneously, the marriages of all three of them become void. Afterwards, he can select one of them to remarry.

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And like I said the appendix that I send you the appendix about the age of marriage in Islam. Okay, I'll send you the appendix. Because it is in the book which you know, as long as there is a revolution in Lebanon, the book would never make it.

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So just pray for Lebanon I guess, for the book.

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So the idea here

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whatever she breasts feeds them all simultaneously.

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How do you do it simultaneously, you extract the milk, suction the milk, better than three cups, give it to them at the same time.

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The formula is easy. have three women or men sitting there eating

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One holding the cup give it to them at the same time

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that's what the breastfeeding them simultaneously.

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Okay, so

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No, she's not breastfeeding all of them simultaneously she's breastfeeding the first one

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alone and then the two others simultaneously or all of them seven days doesn't matter

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that is the three marriages will become invalid.

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Because at the same time these two were breastfed This was already their sister. So at the same time he combined the between this and this and you combine the between this and this is so breastfeeding are

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multiple the fifth we're talking about the fifth one now.

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But that is one very wise because the HANA fees and marquees would would would go up by one.

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Then the chief said we're in Canada, cannibal Cobra Hormel colada he elaborate What are maharal Cobra in Canada Miotto when Kanika duckula behalf?

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well enough for Marilla saga, your God Allah Cobra,

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if he has consummated his marriage with adult one, then all of them become permanently unlawful for him. Right? If he had consummated with this one.

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These are now the daughters of his wife, the daughters of with wife with whom he consummated the marriage. There are permanent prohibitions, okay.

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You can you don't need to. It's a it's it's void.

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the voice works. The marriage is voided, the marriages is

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voided invalidated, there is no marriage factor.

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the marriage isn't because this is immediate, becomes immediately voided after the contract. where,

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you know,

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this is for that combining.

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this one hair marriage becomes avoided. Even if she was have not consummated the marriage. Once she breastfeeds, a wife of his because she becomes the mother of this wife and the mother of this way it becomes permanently prohibited

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even if the wife was not

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even if the marriage was not consummated. Now, we're saying that he consummated the marriage with this one now. And if he consummated the marriage with this one, not only that his marriage with this one will become permanently that this one will become permanently forbidden to him. All of those would become permanently forbidden to him because they are the daughters of his wife. They are his stepdaughters. Not any wife, the wife with which with whom he consummated the marriage, so everybody becomes permanently forbidden. He says, What are Mahara? Little Cobra in Canada.

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We're in Canada dakara behalf.

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Wha de la saga, your job? Cobra, the adult wife does not deserve any silver bride of the hour, if he has not consummated the marriage with her yet.

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Why does she not deserve any silver? Because she's the one who ruined she went out and breastfed his other wife to ruin the marriage. So she does not deserve.

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Now if he had consummated the marriage, it was her that she deserves this luck all the time.

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The woman deserves this all the time. Regardless if the marriage was consummated. Even if they cheated him he would have to go back to the wedding. And you know, but marriage is consummated. So that becomes a bind. Then the moment the marriage is consummated.

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And the woman becomes deserving of this other even if there was cheating involved, he would go back to the he will go back and sue the Guardian, not the woman.

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Okay, so what I'm about to Cobra in Canada, would be how in Canada

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he consummated the marriage with her and then she went

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Her she will she will be entitled to herself

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while he and his former Asahi er gbrf Cobra, now, this marriage has become void void void the contract contract contract see contracts have become voided because she went and breastfed them. So the contracts have become void. Now,

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let us say she had consummated the marriage. So not only that the contracts have become void, but they became permanently forbidden to him.

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Or the contracts have become void because she has not consummated. He has not consummated the marriage with her. So only the contracts have become void, but he can go back and re marry them when the contracts become voided before consummation. What is the woman entitled to half of her dowry? Has he does he have to pay them half of the diary? Yes, they are entitled.

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Then he can go back and Sue this woman to get the you know, the three halves of the Suboxone that he lost to this woman because she is the one who did it.

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Now, okay, take this scenario.

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When I was

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when I was about to Silverado Cobra Hannah Emma for

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her Amata zote wanna harness for Maria de yavi Allah Sora in Ghana couple of the hood when Canada who Farah Morocco La La Joby, Allah had one Amara Sora.

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Okay, let's say this little girl in the here, he was married to these two now.

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This little girl here, crawled up to this woman she was asleep. And she nursed from her five hives

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happy and medically wise will be easy because it's one time. So as I assume it, like you know, crawled up to her. And President she was asleep. She was asleep.

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if this woman was only contracted, she ruined it for him, right?

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She ruined that for him because she made this the mother of his wife by breastfeeding for her. If this woman was only contracted with this man, she becomes entitled to half of the Saba.

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Okay, who pays

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the man has to pay this woman because that is he has he has a van he went to this woman the car

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children are not legally liable, but they are liable in civil court for financial losses they cause if a child caused the damage to property, you could sue

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No, but we

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know the

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damage to a property it's not the woman that's a property that's about the dowry is the property. She ruined that like he lost with us. He's entitled to financial compensation. If a child causes loss or damage of property, the child is not liable in criminal court the child is liable in civil court if the child has money.

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The money will be taken from the child. It is a civil case it is not a criminal case. The child is not legally liable. The child is financially liable for that.

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The Guardian done better

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than we were not going to be able to kill the child. The child has not been legally liable.

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Guys, you're actually saving simplifies sympathizing with a child because the child is a girl. Have you been a boy, you would have not

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so this child is he entitled to her dowry?

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Now that she that she crawled to this woman, and has he entitled to the her dowry? No, she's not. She's the one who did it.

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She's not entitled to anything because she's the one who did it

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doesn't matter, but this is a civil, really no, it is a civil case, because you don't have to do things intentionally. Like if you ruin people's property, cause across the loss of people's property, you are responsible, whether or not you are criminally or legally liable. Like, you know, you don't have to be there, there is a difference between criminal and civil, even, you know, in all legal systems. So the idea here is she's not entitled to anything because she's the one who caused it like she was not entitled to anything if she had caused it. But we said, if the marriage is consummated with anyone, they become deserving of this salary regardless, like if he had consummated

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the marriage with this one, and then she went and she breastfed from her.

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He will have to pay her the full dowry, he will have to pay this one give them this one the full dowry. Right. Does he Sue this one to get the full dowry? No. Why?

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Yes, because the full dowry has become binding lasme had the time of the consummation on him have the time of consummation.

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The contract if this was consummated, then the contract for then they become permanently prohibited both become permanently prohibited. The contract is voided in all cases. But if this was consummated, they both become permanently prohibited. If this was not consummated, she becomes permanently prohibited because she is the mother of a wife. She does not become permanently prohibited because she is the daughter of a wife, and the daughter of the wife is not prohibited until you consummate the marriage with her mother.

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Then the six

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well Nakamura Macario Femina Radha and fussa Kanika, who was in Canada,

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how nice to who in Canada may not be one of the

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if he marries a woman and then says she is my sister through breastfeeding, her marriage becomes numb, and she is entitled to her server if he has already consummated the marriage.

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If not, she is entitled to half of the sybok if she rejected if she rejects his green, if she acknowledged his claim before the consummation, she is not entitled to anything. She's not entitled to anything, there will be a difference between the man and the woman here. The man who's responsible for the who's financially responsible for building the nest, who is responsible for building the nest, the man therefore, if the man comes and says, the nest that I built,

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should be sort of taken apart. Because she is my sister, then we will have to believe him. And we will say,

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since you are claiming that your wife is your sister, because he's also the one who has opposite Annika He is the one who has who is entitled to

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the divorce.

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So since you are saying that this is your sister, the marriage is no, marriage is not. Now there are two scenarios, marriage has been consummated. The marriage has not been consummated, whatever they consummated the marriage. And then he comes and says she is my sister, she will be entitled to her full dowry. Regardless, she is entitled to the full dowry. What if the marriage was not consummated, they were only contracted.

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Then we have one of two possible it's an algorithm you know and draw these things when he studied draw draw, draw all the time,

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make algorithms for himself all the time. So it is an algorithm What if she says so if he if it was not contracted then one of two possibilities. She

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acknowledges his claim. she rejects his claim. If she rejected his claim, the marriage said no, because it says right

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to divorce.

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So we forced him to divorce because he can't keep her, but she will be entitled to half of her salary. If she acknowledged his claim, then she will not be entitled to half of the dowry.

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Because they are sisters, they are siblings. And she's acknowledging that they are siblings. So she's acknowledging that the contract in the first place was a void contract, how could you make a void contract legally consequential.

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Then, the sheriff said, we're in Canada reality, Carla to ask him, in

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fact, whenever you're not alone, for him or her,

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if she is the one to say that he is her brother through breastfeeding, but he rejects her claim, and she has no proof and she has no proof,

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then she continues to be his wife, legally, otherwise, would have been very easy for all women to just get out of like marriage. You know, he's my brother, you know, after like 35 years, you know, I just heard from somebody my mother's

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you know, saying, breastfed from Halima at one point and etc, etc. So, so now if she has approved, then the marriage will be void, if she has no real proof, and she says that my husband is actually my brother, my milk brother, it will not be void. Now what it will not be void, in what sense? legally, Baba and the enitan. You know, in the sight of God, is it void, it depends on whether she's right or not. And she is truthful, it is void in the sight of God. And if he keeps there, knowing that he is truthful, the fact that the court will judge in his favor and keep the marriage will not absorb absolve him of guilt at all in the sight of God, He will be committing Zina for the rest of

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his life.

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then, so what do is?

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Give me a

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sec? Well,

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level then level, then the federal men who might have clarity and meaning that she will have to run away if she can, or steady enough to ransom herself from him through color or some other means, like she is bound shadow wise, although court wise, and this is one of the rare instances where you have like a complete separation between the Deanna

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Deanna Cava and court wise, legally she has his wife and in the eyes of the court, she will have to act like his wife.

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So you believe him or do you just believe.

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So that is that is that like logical? Is that correct? And then she has to go out of her way to get

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away or to do whatever it is, because believe but she is not. He is believed to be

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hazy haze is believed it because it is his loss because he is the one who has that. Because he is the one who has, if he if you are the one who can divorce if you're the one who can divorce. And you are the one who is financially responsible, not only for building the nest, but for taking the nest apart all of the financial consequences, focusing bill out of him. This is the essence of justice. But if you're not able to see it, you're coming from your perspective, from rooting for women, his sense of justice, if he is the one who is required to pay enough, he's the one who's required to pay more. He's the one who's required to pay more. He's the one who's required to maintain the children

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afterward and afterwards and pay child support. He's the one who is required to pay for her as the hub in The Guardian, the custodian he is required to support the her to take care of her kids, you know until they become adults. And then he comes in says, This man this needs to that I built and I will take it apart and I will be responsible for all the financial consequences of taking it apart. Like I would not have wife but I will have to maintain her and the children.

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You know,

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then he It is our It is obvious that he is the He is the one who is

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subject to all the financial loss subject like to all of these sort of liabilities, liabilities, do you know what it means to be liable like to be liable for a family that you like a wife that you don't have as a wife anymore, you don't have any rights on her anymore. But she's you're liable to support her as the custodian of your children and child support and to give the different boundary and to do the maintenance and to do the whatever matar the bereavement gift and all of that stuff. If you're coming and saying that, yes.

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Like all of this, I would have to be liable.

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But I don't have any rights on her because she is my sister, then, then it certainly,

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you should certainly accept that.

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Now or that claim, because in the first place, he could have just divorced her,

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you know, but he's saying that I, he's not gonna like, it's not like, he's not gonna be liable for child support. And for, you know, her maintenance as the hublin as the custodian of insurance, or anything of that. So we will have to believe him, because he is making a claim that is clearly against his interests. And that's just like, you know, simple. But if she says that he is my wife, and now she is entitled, He is my brother, he is my brother. And now she's entitled to all have these entitlements that the Shara made up sort of forced on the man, then,

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then we just can't accept her claim without proving it. Because we are causing so much loss to this man, so much liability to this man. And she is not providing any proof on the claim.

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We are telling her at the same time, that since you are unable to prove it, the anathan in the sight of God, you should try to get out of it as much as you can, you know, by like running away by

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getting a color, give it you know, getting a quote from him or something, and then cut off and which isn't in the eyes of the court in the sight of the court, she made a claim that may be in her interest. Again, it's somebody else interest. And she could not prove it. The court cannot judge in her favor. And then she proves it if she proves it helped me and she can prove it by the testimony of one woman. What testimony of one woman as

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according to the body position? Yes, it's 21. So what we're trying to say here is like, just like

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we keep on talking about walking away from you, where the ego walking away from the eagle means walking away from all of our, our identities, like you have to think not as a man or a woman, not as Asian or African. Not as cold or young, not as rich or poor. Just walk away from all of your identities, and how that is not easy, but and I understand it's not easy, but but honestly speaking.

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These laws are very balanced. And they're very just

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if we are able to walk away, and I am not, you know, and keep in mind, I really sympathize with women I always sympathize with like the woman in my family and I do understand that men can sometimes be

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belligerent and they can be like the aggressors. But it does not mean that

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that women cannot be you know, just the notion that women are always the you know,

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like the notion that this partition is between angels and devils is is an incorrect notion. It is an unfair notion

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that the woman would work

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But, but but let us be, let us be honest, let's be honest, you, you are also unable to walk away from your ego, because the women in Asia or Africa or Europe in the 15th century, when, when

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being a warrior was the sort of the first best job and the second best job, and the third the best job and the fourth best job. And the fifth, fifth best job was being a warrior, being a knight, being like, you know, and then, like a foot soldier, and all of that the value of the contribution in that sense was determined by your physical strength, and by your warrior skills throughout the history, that was the mark of basically strength of empires, you are able to conquer and defeat armies. That is Alexander the Great, that's the Persian and Romans, that's also Islamic conquest, that is everything that is Europe throughout the Middle Ages, that was Africa, that was Asia. And in

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addition to this, it was physical labor in the field. So you want to limit this not only temporarily, but also spatially to a very narrow context in America where you can go to an office work nine to five said, no aberdares can do, the history of humanity is not your experience of humanity is much bigger than you, humanity is much bigger than you.

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So if we have asked women throughout the history, to be partners, in that sense, to be equal and indifferent, man in that sense, you provide half of the you provide you contribute half to have the expenses, I contribute half, you do this, you do that you do this, I do that, that would have been the most unfair system

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to women, that that you could think of this idea of dividing everything half and half, that would have been so since that was impossible, and remains to be impossible in large sections of the world.

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And it remains to be impossible in metropolitan cities in America today, because men will not be able to conceive. And it will be women who are conceiving, and it will be women who are breastfeeding. And in this sense, it will continue to be also impossible for women who are burdened with, you know all of these other responsibilities towards humanity, towards the human race, towards the continuity of the human race, they are responsible for so much more than men. So for the collective, and we're not talking about the individual, he did not have children. And that did not mean that he was less of a woman or less of a contributor to the history of humanity. She was better

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than 1000 men like me, no one is arguing about this. There is a difference between talking about the individual and talking about the collective. Collectively, women, we're not going to be we are not going to be able to compete in the workplace with men. Because

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no, I'm agreeing that they can go out and work and

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no, even if they want to go out and work at the work environment is fine, and they can go out and work. The work environment is fine. And women can protect themselves financially, that is fine.

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But at the end of the day, the laws have to take in consideration

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the differences because if we if we do not, if we're not being dogmatic, we will have to acknowledge we will have to concede to the fact that the anatomical differences between us and like I said, Of course I love my mother more than my father. And of course I love my daughter's more than my son well I do.

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I love the my sisters more than I love them my brother, I love them my mother more than I love them my father, I love my daughters more than I love my this is not about sort of like animosity towards women, but we have to agree that all of the anatomical physiological, biological, psychological, emotional, and mental differences between us not in grade, but in

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You know role and the differences

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between us have to be consequential to growth in life.

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There are so many difference, it is extremely dogmatic to think that all those differences are inconsequential to the roles that we play in life. And if they are consequential to the roles that we play in life, when you develop a system of laws to govern the interaction between men and women within the family unit and outside of the family unit, if these laws are not sensitive to the different rules are not sensitive to the to all of these differences, then these laws are

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just biased, corrupt.

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And also they are detrimental to humanity. And I am done. So I will stop and take your questions. But I'll give people five minutes to leave.

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Before I stop and take your questions.