The Shepherd’s Way #08 – Enrol, Don’t Control

Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Al hamdu lillah MAs. So that was salam ala Rasulillah AsSalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh brothers and sisters and friends and welcome to the eighth episode of Alvin hedges series, the shepherds wait. And the eighth timeless leadership lesson is enrolled, don't control. What does this mean? It means don't try and control people by using your authority in the wrong way. enroll people in your behavior, be that which you want others to become, in other words, have integrity. Don't try and control people by imposing your authority in an inappropriate way. This in fact is a sign of weakness, it's a sign of someone who has not taken leadership

seriously. Because true leadership is that you become you be that which you want others to become. you enroll people in your behavior. In other words, you have integrity. And what does this mean? This means that what you say is what you do, if you say chair, chair drops out of your mouth, from the point of view that whatever you say, manifests itself, you are your word. You keep your word. Your Word is your identity. You are trustworthy, you are sincere, you are a mirror. Remember the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to me no miracle movement, the believer is a mirror of another believer. If you see a blemish in the mirror, you don't wipe the mirror, you wipe yourself,

you be that which you want others to become. And being a mirror from this perspective is that you are imbibing within yourself. certain key characteristics that you want others to adopt. For example, if you want certainty, in people, you need to become certain you to display the certainty you need to internalize a certainty because certainty gives rise to certainty. If you want people to be compassionate, you need to be compassionate, because compassion gives rise to compassion. If you want people to be passionate with regards to the vision and the strategy, then you need to be passionate because passion gives birth to passion.

And this is summarized in the Quran with regards to integrity. When Allah subhana wa Tada says in chapter 61, verse three, how despicable is it in the sight of Allah, that you say what you do not do? And that is the key feature of integrity. Keep your word, what you say is what you do.

And from the perspective of enrolling people in our behavior, brothers and sisters, one of the greatest examples, as you all know, is the example of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and even the example of his family.

And I think you know, I'm going with this the famous story of his wife, on Salam. May Allah have mercy on her, may Allah be pleased with her. Now the Prophet Sall Allahu Allahu wa salam, after the treat of Libya. He said to his companions, stand, slow to your sacrifice and then shave your heads but not a single person of them stood up. No, even after the prophets of Allah who it who was salam Sallam repeated his command three times, then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam approached on Salama, may Allah be pleased with her and mentioned to her the treatment he received from the people and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that people have become destroyed, had it on selama

may Allah be pleased with her alma the reply. She said, Oh Prophet of ALLAH, do you want that? Go out, then speak not a single word to anyone from them, until you slow to your sacrifice, and then call your barber to shave your head. And once the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam took the advice from his wife.

Once he did that, they all followed.

They began to shave one another's head, and they were so saddened for having first disobeyed the prophets of Allah who it who was salam that they almost hurt one another, while shaving each other's heads. What does this teach us? This teaches many things, first and foremost, the prophets of Allah who it who has some consulted, he considered his family. He consulted his wound folk, he consulted his beloved wives, our mothers, may Allah be pleased with him all. He also teaches us to enroll people in our behavior. We do and we be that which we want others to do and become. This is a key part of leadership. And this is a key part of the son of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

Remember how you are as a leader will give rise to similar traits in the people that you are leading. Passion give rise to passion, compassion,

Shouldn't gives birth to compassion. Certainty gives rise to certainty hard work, gives birth to hard work, be a mirror, I will move you know murottal movement. Remember, if you're looking in the mirror, and there's a blemish on the mirror, you don't wipe the mirror, you wipe yourself. So brothers and sisters, this is the end of the eighth episode, and role. Don't control and role people in your behavior be that which you want others to become. And remember brothers and sisters, we experiencing these blessed days of bull hedger, where the reward of good deeds performed during these days is greater than the reward of good deeds performed during the days of Ramadan. So please

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