Channel: Haitham al-Haddad
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam O Allah Nabina Muhammad.
We said that this madonie Sutra is talking about the some aspects of our social system. And in particular
the family law, as you can see marriage and divorce, in particular.
A lot, Delilah mentioned some of the rulings regarding divorce. Then a lot gelada mentioned some of the consequences of the divorce, and what are some of the rights of the divorcees and also, of course, some of the consequences of the divorce is directed to the tennis director. And then after that a lot gelada started to speak, speak about some of the
some of the other consequences of the divorce, such as the rights of the divorcees including the maintenance.
So now we'll talk more about maintenance, maintenance in general. However, within these legal points are the law mentioned here and they're things related to email. For example, a logical analysis
to the law. These are the limits of Allah Allah, Allah Dante triangulates, the limits of Allah Allah, the Nevada Nevada mentioned something about taqwa, Mayor de la Maharajah.
In the middle of this legal code, you can say, then Allah, Allah says,
as we say, that Allah Allah Allah mentioned all of these
Eman elements, Eman and destructions, Eman boosters, spiritual
spiritualities then Allah Allah Allah started to speak about some of the consequences of the divorce, which is the maintenance of what of the divorces in the previous ayah Allah Allah
said heskin ohana mean hi to second to lodge them, wherever you are, wherever you do have, wherever you do have those are, as we said that divorcees then Allah gelada says whether to borrow money to buy Yoku or the hin Okay, why not to borrow one and don't harm them. So, to strain them,
strain them in order to cause another term for them. Then Allah Allah Allah said
mentioned a lot, you know, Allah mentioned one of the most important rulings regarding maintenance, which is when could know that Hamlin
in the law
which means if they the divorcees are pregnant then you need to maintain them to give them nothing, not to give their children not to give your children no to give them nothing. Why because they are caring your children.
They are caring your children and they are doing a job for you which is what carrying the children in their stomach. Okay, and it is a very difficult job. This is before giving birth to them.
Okay, and this is an important rule. Many people don't understand that. The divorce see even if it is the third divorce or if it is a first or whatever.
If she is pregnant, then she has the right of maintenance over her husband
to amphibole him until she gives birth when she gives birth. Then she has no maintenance.
as we said before your child should receive maintenance. Your child should receive maintenance and the mother should receive maintenance for what Habana for looking after him the custody although she deserves
The custody by the law follow the law and to be mad. I'm thinking the prophet SAW Salem rule in one case, yeah, you have the right of custody over him until you get married to another man.
she has the right of what
she has the right of maintenance, and she has the right to receive a wage for
looking after the child. Yeah, sorry, we said we said she has the right of custody, and she has the right of what of receiving a wage, what for the custody for looking after the child.
It is her only child. But mainly you are as a man responsible for the maintenance of deformity. And this is a strong believes that the responsibility of maintenance lies with the husband.
the responsibility of maintenance for the wife for the children as well. Even if the wife is rich, and she doesn't want to spend any penny from her wealth, the husband has to work and depend on her. Okay, we will explain a little bit more about the loading or some of the rulings regarding maintenance. So I like the law that says you should spend it on them. They have the right of maintenance and until they give back. Then Allah Allah, Allah says, in Allah and Allah come to hoonah we do run. If they breastfed the child, you are a child, then you should give them wages for what?
For breastfeeding. This means that if a person divorces his wife, and she was pregnant, he has to maintain her maintain hair completely.
Then when she gives birth, the custody of the child
yes will go to her.
And then she receives What? Wait for breastfeeding.
Which is a different from the way of what
of looking after the child because breastfeeding is a job and the changing the nappies is another job.
Yeah, that's why, as we said last time, if she said, if she refused to breastfeed, she can receive she still is
liable or sorry, it is her right to have custody over the child. And her husband or her ex husband is responsible to find a lady to breastfeed the child.
If he refuses, okay, but it becomes logic upon her to breastfeed the child, when they said, if the husband does not have any money to hire
another one another lady to breastfeed the child or the child, they refuse to suck from any other lady,
then she must do it. Now, there is a discussion these days whether
she still must breastfeed the child
despite the fact that there are other artificial ways of breastfeeding. This is a matter of discussion. Okay, but the conclusion as we said is when
he divorces her, she's pregnant and she gives birth then he should pay what should pay for her for breastfeeding. And then another way for what for looking after the child and then what else?
The maintenance of that child
here who's maintaining the child he should maintain the child
as we mentioned this in a way I was planning to mention it later but as we mentioned this
the maintenance for the wife
is obligated upon her husband. In exchange of what
Okay, let me put it the other way around. If the wife is rich, and the husband is not that rich is not well
Does he or is he obliged to maintain her although she is rich
and the answer is what yes
okay, because this nefa is in exchange of zodia the word lock okay. If the husband is rich he has the children and the children are rich
or is he obliged to spend on the children?
The answer is no
okay, the answer is no what is the difference between the number of the wife and the number of the children
then if a part of the wife is is alive that was established because of what because of the word luck
Our as the scholars said in order to be more accurate have been esteemed
by the help of the center the right of having sexual relationship
that's why if there is an issue from the wife, she left the house without the permission of her husband, then her right of maintenance will be what will be dropped.
Yeah, because now she's not offering herself to her husband or she is not she is this obedient, okay, she left his house without his permission okay. So, this is the maintenance of the wife the maintenance of the children
meant or is meant for what because they are your children
or because of their need if they are in need
Yes, because there are children helpless, they cannot earn money. So, therefore, yes, someone has to maintain them Someone has to maintain them. However, if they are rich
then you don't need to maintain them.
For example, if they inherited from their mother
a lot of money they are rich
then the husband is not obliged to spend on them.
Yeah, the father their father, if they are rich because of what because of what they receive from the state or government.
Yeah, then the Father What
is not obliged to spend on them.
Okay, accept the need, except according to their needs. This is important because when I have one up here, if a person divorces his wife and then she has a children and she's living with them, she's looking after them now.
Okay, she receives
housing benefits or a house from the council
and she receives also part or part of this housing maintenance that she is receiving from the council is meant for her children of course
yes, and she is receiving Family Tax Credit because of the children.
Then when she comes and says that she needs maintenance for the children from her ex husband,
we need to take this maintenance that is given to her by the council or the state into consideration when we calculate what she deserves
okay. And if this these matters are matters of
and hence, I advise you I advise for level those who are and those amounts not to give any answers regarding these matters, unless the area or the scholar or even listens to both sides
Moreover, he knows these rulings. Yeah, he knows them carefully otherwise, he will make many mistakes. Okay.
So this is
a very important rule regarding nataka. Okay.
Uno de Haan temi rubine akumina if there is a dispute, then you should resolve this dispute in a good way. Yes, in a good way, don't
don't continue the dispute. And mmm as Elijah levada says in the other area, what happens out of a narco remember that there are some good things that happened between both of you, your husband and wife, you were husband and wife, you are sleeping together, you are sharing so many things together, and so on. So don't forget all of these things. Okay, why not? And so for levina
Allah, Allah, Allah here says what time you buy in a comb, beam?
Then if they give,
yeah, and let each of you accept that advice of the other in just wait. Then Allah, Allah, Allah says
If you have a dispute, and you disagree, and you became difficult with each other, as of two minutes, you became difficult. With her, she became difficult with you. She said, No, I will not accept two
breastfeed him, except if you give me this much amount of money. And he says, You haven't had any fear a lot. I can't pay this much amount of money. And she says no, this is what I
like to have. And then he said, Come on.
And she said, No, I will not breastfeed him then. Okay.
She asked for a reasonable amount of money and the husband said no, this is too much. She said come on federal law and this is your son. Okay, and I'm your ex wife and breastfeed him this is my middle. You said no. Okay. So if you became difficult with with each other,
find another lady to breastfeed him. Or then armadillo Allah mentioned a very important rule.
Very important principle regarding maintenance in general.
Allah Allah Allah says Leon, do certain men say it.
Yeah, what does that mean? Let the rich man or the one who have a surplus, yes, or have some flexibility not necessarily rich man.
No one who has some money he should spend according to his means.
Which means that he should be what? He should be relaxed in spending on his wife,
on his children, on himself in general.
Yeah. And some scholar said this is the ruling regarding maintenance with our maintenance on yourself or maintenance on others. So you should spend according to your means.
Provided that you don't become extravagant or there are other
people who are in need. Okay, of
your money. And
they don't have other sources for this money. Yeah. Then you should consider you should consider maybe spend less on yourself because of what because of the need of those people.
Okay. We are not talking about the circumstances. in general. This is talking about in general, exceptional circumstances have exceptional What?
rulings? Yeah. So in the times of difficulties when people are dying because they don't find the basics. And then you have millions of pounds. You are a very wealthy person. And you said that Allah, Allah Allah
says neon blue certain mentality and you just dispense in proportional to the amount of money that you have below. That is wrong. Is it clear? Yeah to say I am rich and I'm just, I cannot just eat any kind of food I cannot just have any car, I have to have a luxury car I wish I should have luxury house because etc. And you enjoy your life and let other people who are desperate or who are poor die because of poverty or hunger? No, we're not talking about that. in normal circumstances. If you have
a little bit amount of money extra then you should reflect that on yourself. You should also let this be reflected on your children and your wife.
It was reported a study
appointed about Aveda. And Deborah as an Amir of one of the cities and they told him Yeah, we want more meaning this Amir our Amir, he doesn't wear proper clothes.
Yeah, he'll be so harsh in Amina Thea sick clothes, which means that the cheap clothes and he doesn't eat good food.
The very intelligent leader, he sent an amount of money with one of the messengers and he said, Go give it to him
and keep an eye on him.
Check with him, he will change
the way he dresses and the way he eats. And then the man came up and said I gave him the money amirul mumineen. And yeah, his claws improved a little bit and his food improved, then upset to do certain means at that time, the Islamic State was in a very good position by and that's why he
did this. Okay, but in general, if you have
any surplus, just make sure that this is reflected on your lifestyle. Okay. Now, once we say this, we are not saying that you should. As we said I don't want to keep repeating it. You should only be extravagant in the amount of Okay, or you should spend on things that you don't really need. Yeah, now we are not talking about that. Be careful. I don't want to keep repeating it. Okay. But this is the general rule. As we said, Allah Allah Allah says woman pudiera here is Nima. Tara who law woman kodaira here is who and the man whose resources are restricted. The man this is a poor translation. Yeah. For the rally here is who? The one who have or the one who had his resources been restricted?
So if they were restricted, and here are the means, they were restricted by someone else, who is other than Allah.
Who restricts there is other than a lot, who controls the risk other than Allah. But Allah Allah Allah did not say if a lot is tricked you this. He said What woman
od era means what became restricted.
Who is not who did this is a law but the law Delilah did not mention it here. Why?
Not out of what? Out of respect, but out of Adam?
by good manners with a lot. Like we're in nada, nada, a sharp one.
Ooi da the monkey or the the gin? We mentioned this in soda. telogen Yeah, we're in
Russia. We don't have to know whether there is something bad have been intended.
Okay to happen on the earth. Nothing happened without the will of Allah Allah
They did not say we did not know whether Allah intended something bad for them. Okay destruction or something like this No, they didn't say this, they said
maybe needed material same thing here one pudiera here is who find the minima, Allah He should dispense according to his means, whatever Allah Allah Allah has given him This means my dear brothers and sisters, that in any community, our fellow Allah will give people more than others there will be some rich people will have people and some people who are not that rich
we should accept it.
Yeah, we cannot all of us cannot live in the same level
and hence this idea of communism that people should be equal in terms of their
social status or financial income.
But it is against the law again, it's the human beings nature.
No, and Islam does not call for this
and that's why this what is known as eastern Turkey.
The Communist communist principle or viewpoints of Islam is not there. Why? Because Islam acknowledges that Yeah, okay. Danny Khurana babraham
Yeah, yeah, developer come Baba, Sofia, Allah de la la la some people over the others in order for the people who have high status, social status, financial status, etc. They will employ others.
Yeah, if everyone is rich then there will be no employer and employee.
Okay, and this is not like, this is not like, Okay.
Another point? Allah Allah Allah says woman pudiera here is fufen ma, ma,
who have historically been restricted, he should disband from what Allah has given him
no provider for this except to
Allah is the only provider for this and we should have confidence in this Yeah, no one provides any this for people except what a law dilla
Okay, that's why Allah Allah Allah has the name What was
yes was up Delilah dawn who provides and as the prophets Allah This is a person is running away from his his his his pool what
will reach him?
phenomena this will reach him before he dies.
So they will reach him as def will reach him.
They will never run away from his wrist.
But the issue is we don't know how much Allah Allah Allah
promised us. It is more or less Moreover, no one said that you sit at home don't work. sleep until the home by wake up not because to pray. Now wake up because you're young you became tired of a lot of sleeping. And then you asked a lot louder for this. No, no one says this. But okay, be careful. Put your confidence that our the levada is what was up
by the gender Allah Don't worry about you this. Perform automatic Allah Allah commanded you.
Okay, and have your trust in Allah Allah, Allah Subhana Allah, I found from any experience, those who are worried about the list by those who are worried about the risk, they will be depressed in the dunya and maybe it is unlikely they will get a lot of risk.
Yeah. And you find that those who are not worrying? Yes about there is there is chasing them.
Yeah, there is is chasing them.
And the promise of a lot is an unsettling
dystopia. It is baja de la ha, why do you need to follow?
Your da should not be mainly about
Oh Allah give me this, oh, I'm worried about my children and give them this. Yeah, as we said last time, or one of the previous time don't make you to my brothers and sisters.
Even don't make you
for the dunya only, or don't make most of you out for the dunya.
And you check how much do you make for the very little for what you are worried about? Is the dunya? No, no, you are deceiving yourself. Don't worry about you this Allah Delilah will bring it to you.
Okay, and the prophet SAW Selim said, first of all, you will not die before getting all yours. All of it. Don't worry, you will not die, and there's still some risk here will be left over for others.
That's why the angels come. And they are right. Yeah, after 40 days, the after 40. Sorry, when the window is blown in the fetus. The angel will write what their agenda and what there is and what
the agenda means how long he will, or the child this child will live. And how much this child will work.
And when he is a chaperone, I'm sorry. Yeah, whether he is
successful or failing, regarding that you're
not in the dunya. Okay. So
and as we always say about, you don't know how much it is, you are given. Just do whatever Allah, Allah has given you. Okay. And we're lucky my brothers
Okay, I have to say this, that I have seen in my life, a few people worldwide that is is chasing them.
There is busy chasing them.
And among the qualities of those people that I have seen that there is fuzzy chasing them, is they have good hearts.
They don't envy others.
They are not worried about their risk. They have strong takuna modula. And whenever they get money they share as much as they can with others.
These are among those the qualities, the main qualities that I noticed for those people who receive a lot of this with little effort
or with some effort, or with an effort that if others have done the same effort? Yeah, wouldn't get the same risk, the same provision, have good hearts.
They don't envy others.
Your algernon has given this person Yeah.
he applied for for this council property and he got a big Mansion House in a very strategic good location is a risk. Don't say why not to me.
By Allah, Allah, Allah knows you better than yourself. Maybe if Allah Allah Allah gives you this, what will happen? Maybe you will, this will be a source of shock
Maybe and as it was reported as an attorney, and he's not an authentic hadith or I don't recall that it is an authentic that some of the slaves of Allah, Allah Allah. It is better for them to be poor. If they become rich, they become out of them. Some of them slaves of Allah de la vida, yeah, fits that they are rich. If they become poor, they might become this obedient to Allah.
So whatever Allah Allah Allah has given you accepted, wholeheartedly, be happy with it, be satisfied with it. In particular, my dear brothers and sisters, it is.
Yeah, I remember a brother in my university. I experienced him in gamma cubitron
I haven't seen him after I graduated except maybe last year I saw him by any coincidence, I don't know whether that quality continue to do them or not. But during the, during the university, this person never entered into any contest or competition except he wins a big portion of it. Anything anything even I remember some competitions, he just joined for contests. He just joined at the end and he won.
Many of us were working hard. We did not win anything. Yeah, even one time he won a car.
Yeah, he wants a car and it is ideal that
it is from Allah, Allah Allah, they mentioned that Abdullah
was a person like this
was a person like this. They said that if he were to lift a stone, he would find gold under the stone.
It is Allah.
Yes, this is Allah who he knows him. He knows you. He knows all of us. And he has the one of our we should not be worried about this. But a loyal customer
divides the risk between people. Okay. Anyway, the point is we should not be worried about risk and we should have any I don't know what we can call it in English. I don't know what you call it in English. You know enough spy Eva inside.
Any a person who has who has a white, good, pure heart. This person is a simple person. Yeah. As the processor says mobile calm His heart is simple. He doesn't carry hated it and envy.
Yeah. And this person, Mathurin people ask him for money. Take your shirt. They deceived you. Yeah, no problem. No problem. Yeah, no.
Okay, maybe he would be tricked. Sometimes. He will might be deceived. But he doesn't feel Oh, yeah. I was deceived. I wish if I did not give him anything. No, just simple.
I remember that another person. Okay, I'm so sorry. But just these studies were lucky give us a map. I remember another person. A friend of mine, he was my colleague in one of the companies I worked for. So panela this person, he did not have many qualities. Even a job. He was not that brilliant in terms of his job. But for whatever reason.
Maybe his heart was purer than all of us. Yeah. His colleagues at that time Allah, Allah, Allah was providing him. And I remember that our company gave us shares. Yeah, give us shares. And don't ask about the rulings of shares. But that was a gift from the company. Okay, and then those shares can be exercised at a specific time. When the exercise time came,
the shares were going up. So I remember that the company sent a delegate to ask us whether we want to sell the shares.
Yeah, we if we want to sell the shares, I remember that they gave us 400 chairs. Okay. So the man was moving around us and my friend was sitting next to me. And then the this delegate came and he said to me, do you want to sell the shares because now is the time to exercise them. I said, Well, I don't know. I need to think about it and just leave it and it is now going up, etc, etc. Same thing. my other friend said that same thing. Then this friend said, Come on.
just sell it. Yeah.
Yeah, I said he was his name was Jesse. I said yes. He knew always do things without
what is this? Come on, just sell it?
What is this Bible? I remember this.
Come on, he said
to the delegates, I'm selling them, I'm selling them. And he said to Panama, you do like you always do like this,
then it was just less than two months all of us regretted
because the price became I think, from 80 something dollars became around 17 or $16.
within few months,
and then later on became for the
anthem hannula this brother, he sold it at the highest price.
It is it is
it is it is you should accept it. Yeah. So Canada, this brother, later on,
he left the company. And I told him, yeah, why do you need the company now it is they give you good salary, etc. He said nyesha, Allah God.
I said, Okay, it is up to you, he joined another company. So davia saavik, he joined another company. And in that company, he worked for a department.
They gave him good salary, reasonable salary, but less than the salary that you receive in my company.
Then later on within just a year time or maybe two years, okay, they have restructure for the company restructure, then they decided to get rid of some employees because of the restructuring.
Then, he was one of those employees who were made redundant by the company. However, he was not worried. He was not worried.
He told me his story, he said that
there were those who were made redundant, a few 100. Some of them, or most of them have been working for the company for 20 years, 15 years. So they received pension,
they were entitled to receive what pension.
Then they found that there are six or seven people who just joined the company joined the company. And they are not entitled for a pension because they did not spend enough time in that company to receive what to receive pension. Yeah, one of those six or seven people he went to the,
the director of the company and he told him Come on, we just joined the company. And he and it is not really good that you just make us redundant and we lost some our jobs and to join your company, etc, etc. Then the director of the company, he said, How many of you? Yeah, they said we are seven or six. He said, Okay, this is
a decision that you will receive. Yes, pension as others receive pension as if you have spent the 20 years in the company.
So I met him after that. And I told him, yes, in what is happening to you. He said, Well, I'm staying at home.
Yeah, so he was a name and stuff.
Yeah, maybe he would work on YouTube. And then he would say no, my name is he wasn't his name is Sally.
Sally Hayashi. I said sorry, what happened to you? He said, Well, I was made redundant and I'm sitting at home and I said, so sitting at home doing what he said what why me dropping my children and bringing my wife and just reading some here and doing this and that I said, What do you live? He said, No, they are giving me the the salary because of this and that and this. I said, Sorry.
Because now what happened to you you are receiving pension, just while you are sitting at home and you just work for less than two years in that company. And you are treated as those who have been working for 2025 years in that company. He said say Mashallah, Mashallah
Danica padmavathi, Manisha and for life
say Mashallah Shiva don't send.
So this is this.
This is how
No one knows a long nose.
And this is really important, my dear brothers
and sisters, because you might see in this life that Allah Allah, Allah has given some people more than you.
For whatever reason, for whatever reason, just be happy with what are the law Allah has given you. And what the legend of Allah has given them, and don't have acid don't have hatred don't have any kind of enmity in your heart. And my dear brothers and sisters at the end of the day, the whole dounia even if we live for 200 years, is just just like less than one second in the app.
Yeah, it does not really work. So don't worry about it. By that's why they say in an episodic crawl mode, da da de Sala minify The one who remembers death a lot. Yeah, three good things will happen to him and mubadala tulipa they do a lot of fat and revolving yes here.
He will be happy with whatever there is has come to Him He will not have envy or he will not envy anyone. Yeah, because they got this much amount of money they received this. Yeah. So okay. I think inshallah it is clear. Anyway.
Yes, so one on kodaira hit is fulfilling
the full law when Epson Illa
Allah, Allah, Allah will not put burden on any person beyond what Allah Allah has given him.
And Allah He This is an ayah of ma
Yes, and I have rushed mercy because Allah I was not given this.
Yes, yes, I would say to him, you can do for long enough send me lamotta I will never burden you with something more than what I have given you.
It is all from Allah.
Yes, it is all from Allah. Okay. However, here, there is a point which is
when I like those poor people, poor companions who came to the province of Avada Silla and they said yes, we'll have a look at those rich people.
Look at those rich people, they pray, we pray.
Yeah, they fast really fast, but they have some extra money, they have surplus, so they go for Hajj they go they give sadaqa we don't have that money in order to give sadaqa then the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said Shall I tell you about something you will catch up with them? They said yes what is it the others who will Allah then the prophets I send them say to make this be yes by the end of the solid 33 times and damage 33 times and techniques 33 times and the the 100 is the revolutionary cologne cologne.
Yes, so you will be competing with them. Then you know the rich people heard about this of course they will not leave it. Yeah, they will not say we
know if we can be if we can compete with them. Why not? If we can be better than them in the afternoon? Why not? So the poor people came to the professionalize and under the Arizona law look that rich people heard about it and they were doing like what we are doing. So still there are better than us. The process of them said what?
yeah, this is the father of Allah. Allah Allah the boundaries of Allah, Allah Allah Allah, Allah Allah will give it to whom He wills. Now here
on the other side, the prophet Allah Allah is Allah says in one beautiful Hadith seberapa del Hammami aka alpha Durham
of soda is better or one over 100 Durham's. Yeah,
sorry, over 1000 Yeah, over 1000
they said he said the person has what to their hands and gave one of them as well as others. And another person has a lot of money after them in the matter he just dropped and it happened that it is 1000 around here.
Okay, so the one that one is better than what the 1,000th somehow
because the one who gave one
out of two has given what 50% of his wealth, the other person did not give 50% too well. So Allah is just
Allah is just
and Allah has given opportunities to everyone, to everyone it is upon us to excel and to compete to it.
Yeah, that's why when you hear this, this will not put it in your heart that all those people have more money and they can get certified cetera, et cetera, give whatever you have. Maybe this one, the ram that you are given is better than millions or billions of DRAM or pounds that is spent by kings or by those rich people.
Don't worry, Allah knows what is in your heart.
Yes, there is a Hadith, I found another amazing Hadith. Although I'm not quite sure of its authenticity. The prophet SAW Selim, which is a similar which is similar to seven
I think the narration anyway, the prophet SAW Selim say the person has 10 opia tender and another person, person has tender, he gave one devil Hamas. So the person has 10 ounces, and he gave one ounce as I said, and another person has 100 ounces and he gave 10 ounces as
the processor them said they are equal in the reward. They could learn minimum alpha d, because every one of them has given what one can have his wealth. Mind you, dear brothers, Nia to LogMeIn, Abdullah, Amina Emily, some say that is authentic hadith, some say that is not authentic hadith. Many, the intention of the person goes beyond his what
his actual deeds, in particular in South Africa. That's why I'm happy to be back in soon an eternity the prophet SAW Selim says that dunya is divided among four people. Yeah, one of them was given what wealth and wisdom. So he's using his wisdom to spend his money in the best way.
He knows the rights of Allah, Allah, Allah and the rights of their creation. And he maintains the cause of the kinship through his money, and another person was given money, sorry, another person was given wisdom, but no wealth. He says, If Allah has given me what Allah has given that person, I would have done the same,
would have done the same, I would maintain the cultural kinship and witness or observe that I to follow the law, the prophets, I seldom said what for whom I do Reserva.
There are what there are there are equal in the world to Panama. This is a game out of the wisdom, Justice of Allah, Allah Allah, there is nothing like this. There is nothing like this. And this puts hope, confidence and tranquility in the heart of the believer. Because Don't worry, don't worry, yes. Just intended the higher and do whatever you can do. Which means that if you are a rich person, don't look that you are spending more than others. Maybe the others are spending half of their world and you're not spending half of your world. So don't say when you see a poor person giving a set of one pound and you give 100 pounds. Yeah, I give 100 pounds.
Yeah. And you have to feel confident that you are better than him. No. No, who knows? Yeah, first of all, who knows who which is accepted mode over?
Yes, the key thing which is relevant to our discussion, later on the Buddha, this is another discussion. Yeah, but maybe this person is what is a very poor person and one pound for him means
A lot 100 pounds for you means nothing.
So he will be rewarded more than you. That's why allow
the wise person will not compare himself to others in terms of what in terms of good deeds, they will try to what make as much good deeds as he can or she can in terms of quality and in terms of quantity. Anyway, a lot a lot a lot you can do from luck on Epson in
LA, diversity user, this is a very important part of the ayah. Yeah, Allah Allah, Allah will grant is of the hardship. This is a very important part. We will leave it in sha Allah to the next lesson. Allah Deacon, we were planning to finish the surah. And, okay, we could not finish one.
Yeah, I'm blaming you, not myself.
By always the only when you make mistakes, find someone to just to throw it on him.
Yeah, this is a very noble character.
Yeah. Questions? Yes.
This is the question from last week, they asked a question late. So
Salaam shahana? A cup, a cup? Who wants a divorce, but the sister is pregnant? Do they need to wait until the child is born? Or can he divorce her with the usual time skills?
Yeah, that this question is clear. Any person wants to divorce his wife is pregnant. Okay, she's pregnant. And Can he divorce her while pregnant? Technically speaking, yes.
But spiritually speaking, ethically speaking, we say, okay, your wife is pregnant with your child, do you want to divorce? Cause her troubles? Yeah. Over the troubles of pregnancy, Yanni be just to be nice to her. Okay. And if the wife is insisting I advise you system to be not to insist on divorce now, because I have seen many sisters who are divorced while pregnant. And really, they regret it because they are going through hardship during pregnancy. And they want someone to be next to them. And no one will be next to you. Like your husband. Okay.
If the children are in need, and separate, but the mob is rich.
Yeah, if they if the, if the parents are separated and killed in this, they need and the mother is rich and the children are living with their mother. Does the father have does the father? Is the father obliged to spend on them? Yes. The answer is yes. So if the mother said I don't want to maintain them, she This is her right. She said I don't want to spend on them. And she's willing to do that if she's willing. Yeah. If she's willing, of course, we as men will take advantage of this.
We'll let her spend and then we'll go and get married another.
Yeah. What is the limit of spending on the children? Yeah, the scholars have different opinions. Some of them they said until blue. Some of them said until they are able to earn money, some of them said until they reach adulthood.
Yet some of them said until they are able to
earn by themselves even if they could not.
So there is any level of
variety of opinions. Yeah. So each case has to be taken into its own merit.
Yes, this is a question from last week. During a pullout process, is a woman allowed to withhold or keep her mother and proceed with a fuller or is it mandatory? Also, what happens if she spends a lot of money I no longer has it to return?
Yeah, the question is,
during the process,
if the is the wife obliged to spend or to give back
All the money that she received from the husband and what happened if she has spent some of it Yeah, some of it see that with regards to her and the compensation for her because we say that is a divorce in exchange for an exchange of money not to doubt that one might accept less than the doubted husband might accept more than the doubt.
So, if there is a problem in agreeing how much compensation should he receive, they can go to the Islamic court in order to decide okay, but if the Islamic code for example decided that she has to return this much amount of money and she does not have it then she should either borrow or do something with it in order to
pay for that
Question from them
okay, if the wife earns money through working a part time job
can the husband refuse to provide as she is earning her own money or Can he asks her to pay for
for housing bills, okay, this is
it is a bit tricky situation, but
the man is getting married to his wife,
he has the right to ask her not to work
okay, he has the right to stop her from working this is technically speaking
okay because her main job is
as they say it is a conflict of interest policy now you are employed for me
you cannot be employed outside this is technically speaking, by the way this is the opinion of all scholars.
And now there are attempt from
any feminist Islamic feminist movement by to change this. Okay. But anyway, they can do a lot of work by and Islam will not change. Ciao. Bye. Yeah. facente una. Una Alaykum Hazara.
if this is technically speaking, however, the problem we find in this country and other countries is that they know his wife's work. Yeah, they know his wife's work. I don't know whether I have said this before or not. And that's why if a person marries to his wife here in this country,
the norm is that she what works?
If he doesn't want to, he should make it explicitly in the marriage contract.
But in some other countries, some other countries it is the opposite. The wife doesn't work.
Yeah. So hello. No, is she doesn't work technically speaking here that I to say, No, you don't work. But here, it is almost the opposite. The same thing is I received similar questions in Birmingham. And I told them what is the norm in Birmingham?
In London, we have this know what about in Birmingham and they told me no, it's 5050.
Is not it is not confirmed know that women work and Birmingham.
Yeah, maybe we'll go to another country or another city. And we you know, there was
I did about the city in Africa, some
In Africa, where men look after the children and cook, and women, yeah, women work outside. Seriously, I forgot the name of that that tribe and even women treat their husbands very bad.
Their needs their needs anti feminist movement today in order for the husbands to get their rights
No, in fact here here we need what is the movement, the anti feminist
movement for men's rights
for women's right, I know we know this father's work justice. Yeah, Justice for fathers. But no no if we
have a can nessa we have
no feminist is any for women What about for men what it will be
Anyway, we need the movement for our rights, because many of the rights of men in the West in the West have been given to women. And this is not justice.
We see this everywhere. By we have no rights compared to
Islamic entities at least there is a level of justice by Islamic system Yes, women have more rights over men in certain circumstances, but we have also more rights over them and our dellavedova distributed right. So, we are happy, but here it seems that the feminist movement is so strong and it gave more rights to men.
So, it gave her more rights to women okay. And it is really problematic by
So, I said if the know that the wife works,
yeah, then the husband should make it clear that he doesn't want her to Now, the question is
you know, in the classical scenario, if the wife if the husband accepts that his wife works by you know, outside his home, okay or part time or whatever, this caller said he has the right of some of have earnings
Is it clear? He has the right over some of her earnings and this can be discussed between both of them.
But the question is, if the known that the wife works here,
yeah. Can we say the same thing that the wife the husband has the right of
his wife's earning some of it Okay. Can we say that they are both obliged to share the bills and the expenses of the household? Yeah, it is a matter of discussion. It is not a clear cut.
It is a matter of discussion. Is it to clear the scenario. Is that clear? Clear? Yeah.
Yanni the husband got married to his wife, he knows that he works.
And he got married. He didn't say anything. later on if he says that I don't want her to work, then we say no stop you should have said this. Clearly. You should have stated this explicitly in the contract, why didn't you do this and unknown that she works? By then if he says okay then I have she has to pay some of the bills
Yeah, pay some of the bills Okay. Then we can generally speaking we say yes, but how much it is a matter of discussion.
Okay, clear. So, each case has to be dealt with separately
second question, What is it now one question
or one question.
Any questions? By
okay, but at the low FICO
low head on to the next