Haitham al-Haddad – Tafsir Surah Talaq #09

Haitham al-Haddad
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the concept of three types of women and the importance of avoiding the death of a woman due to divorce or divorce or widows. They stress the need for regret and recounting history to avoid confusion and emphasize the importance of showing actual behavior to avoid causing harm. The speakers also discuss the importance of avoiding sexual behavior and avoiding false accusations of marriage. The conversation ends with a discussion of the importance of avoiding false accusations of marriage and the need for a strong legal stance.
AI: Transcript ©
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In the last episode,

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in the

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last lesson, we spoke about the idea of or the idea of three types of women.

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And we said that when Allah Allah Allah says when I

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was in Peru, some of the Sahaba was reported that one of them have done a monkey, but others asked the Prophet sallallahu Sallam whatever they did have as a woman, such as those who do not see the period because of age or whether they are old or too young or those who are pregnant, what about their edit, then Allah Allah Allah revealed

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is nominal minissha calm those who have those women who passed the age of monthly periods, okay, past the age of monthly periods, some scholars say that this age is around 50 this is another discussion, but if the lady became

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around that age, it is very likely that she will stop seeing her period her monthly cycle. So, what is the ADA for such a woman Okay, there is therefore, such a woman is three months, three months, a lot and Allah says what is the mean nice

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Okay, any attempt at Tom Ferry to hoonah no debitum in a chapter a few doubt, we said that this has a number of meanings. The meaning is clear in a tempo which means, if you doubt but if you doubt what what it refers to, what does it refer to? So, some scholars say that any attempt So, you are not quite sure whether they stem on their period or not, this is one interpretation several scholars say that is not a very strong interpretation or explanation. Then the other possibility nF tapetum if you

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if they the blood that they see

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they doubt whether it is the administration block or the illness of blood, then according to this interpretation, there it is the three months but according to the first interpretation or the first explanation, the idea is different. Yeah.

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One other meaning is in a tough term, it does not refer to those women, but it refers to the people themselves if you don't know that, then there is this okay. And this is very close to the other meaning which is enough that

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means entire content means if you are quite sure that they have reached the age where they don't see the period okay. And if

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there is three consecutive months

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then Allah Allah, Allah says, Allah eat me, as we said, that this ruling is applied on those women who did not see the period because they are young.

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in between, we explained that it does have those who do not say of those who do not see their regular periods because of other reasons.

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For example, those who do not see the irregular periods because of pregnancy.

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For those who do not see the regular period because of illness,

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okay, or those who do not see their regular period because of any other reason, there is no, the doctors did not identify certain illness. Those are three types of women. What is there a duck? Most of the scholars believe that generally speaking without getting into much details, there there is 12 months, nine months for what for confirming that there is no what

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No pregnancy and the three months which is the data that is mentioned here, which is not 12 months okay which is three months in total it will be 12 months Okay. Then Allah Allah Allah says what would happen

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hammer home the pregnant women there is what to give the

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Yeah. Okay whether they are

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observing the death out of divorce

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or due to divorce or they are observing it that you do what?

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Due to the death of their husbands or their divorces or widows, what is their idea

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to give birth to the their children to give birth. Okay. Now,

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what will happen?

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I don't know.

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I don't know whether we mentioned or we don't we did not mention that even a basketball they allowed us to believe that the pregnant woman data we have added a delay it is the longest header of the two possibilities. The first possibility is to to give birth the second possibility is what

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four months and 10 days if she is

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a widow, okay, he said tend to be a bad a delay. So, if a lady is pregnant, yeah. And she is about to give birth today tomorrow today tomorrow her husband died then according to this opinion, which is the correct opinion that has been endorsed by the former da hip that

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is worked to give birth according to Ibn Abbas Hara Don't be one or two days sorry, according to the opinion that is endorsed by the former the hip yes hair is what giving birth whether it is one day or two days, but according to the nabasa opinion, her idea is what the longest period which will be in this case, four months and what 10 days However, if a person died, he left his wife she is

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she just became pregnant she just became pregnant. So according to her best opinion her it is what about a delay the longest period which will be in this case what until she gives birth because it is the longest period which will be around the nine months? Yes, because nine months is longer than the other adult which is four months and 10 days. Is it clear? Okay. But as we said the correct opinion is well that Maria de Luna

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okay, because this

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abrogates the other Yeah, yeah. Or make particular route link for the other. So what

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the pregnant woman that is to what to give the

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woman a lot in Nevada, Nevada, again mentioned about mentioned the consequence of one or one of the main consequences of what of the woman a

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woman and he is

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the one who have Taqwa of Allah Allah Allah Allah Allah will make his matters easy. Oh, yes, the more accurate translation Allah Allah Allah will give him is on some of his matters, okay.

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Also we have explained this that either this ayah refers to what refers to tala or this

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is general, that the one who have Taqwa of Allah Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah will make his offense easy for Allah Allah Allah will ease many of his efforts okay. Or if this is if we say min Emery is some or if we say that a word Allah Allah, or if we say that it is. It doesn't refer to a min here, but it is Jen's our Delilah will make all his matters, matters of ease Allah Allah Allah will

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It is his effect. Okay? Then Allah Allah Allah says the Nika Amara La, la comme Danica that is the command of a word Allah Allah which he has sent down to you what is the cup valleca counter referred to the last one or it can refer to everything that has been mentioned.

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Okay The matter is easy vatika Yeah, that is

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the cup and a shadow bilberry is not had Delica anyway, okay, that is the matter or that is the command umbrella here, either you can say that umbrella here means the command or the ruling of Allah. Yes, I'm not from a command. But as you can say issue had an AMA this issue. Okay, the Liga law, or you can say that this is the command of a larger levada that he has sent to you. And it is it looks that the Nero tafsir is Danica amarula. This is the command of Allah Allah Allah that He has sent down to you. Then log in Nevada says me again. This is the third time that Allah Allah Allah mentions what the consequence of taqwa The first one is what Romanian

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Allah Who? Maharajah?

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Then Allah Allah Allah says, Allah ha ha ha the second one yellowman md he usera and the third one is what may Allah you capture and who say it. And this really my dear, respected brothers and sisters is a very, very good, glad tiding for all of us. Look what Allah Allah Allah gives the person who have Taqwa of Allah, Allah Allah. That's why we mentioned the narration of phibian our bass and other than even a boss as well. That if the heavens Yeah, fell on the person and he was squeezed between the heavens and the earth. And he has taqwa of Allah, Allah Allah, Allah Allah Allah will facilitate for him way.

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Okay, but all what we need is to what? To have real taqwa of Allah jello Allah. Yes. taqwa of Allah, Allah Allah we mentioned that the definition one of the best definitions of taqwa which in which they have be praised very well is the definition of what do you remember palpable Mojave? He said what? Yeah, a duck wa and tamela

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illa Allah, no demon Allah to do so have a law? Yes. And well under Kufa and Mattia de la nuit de Mina la de la.

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Yeah, that you,

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you worship Allah, Allah, Allah, based on new light from Allah de la vida, based on El, you hope, you have hope in variable to follow the law, and you abstain from them

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because of health as well, because of the rule of law, the law which is then and what because

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because of him out of knowledge and you stop the mousy out of knowledge, and you don't stop from the VRC just like this, but what hoping that it will follow the law or abstaining in the case of mausi abstaining from what being disobedient disobedience of Allah, Allah Allah or this obeying Allah, Allah Allah. Okay? This is taqwa. Here, my dear respected brothers, we spoke about it. Okay, little bit.

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Of course, it takes yonny lectures and lectures to speak about it. But here, this verse Romania,

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you can't fit it and Jose de la, la, semana LA.

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We need to reflect upon this verse. My dear brothers and sisters. First of all, a legend Allah says the one who have Taqwa of Allah, Allah Allah what you can't fit and who says he? Yeah,

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he will allow the Nevada will expiate.

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from him, his sins will explain from him his sins. Now we have said we just said that the taqwa is to abstain from the mousy.

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Yes to abstain from the sins. How can we say that? Allah, Allah Allah says, if you have Taqwa of Allah Allah Allah Allah Allah Allah will expect from your sins.

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But you do not have sins because you have Taqwa.

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Is it clear?

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For me that Allah, you can fit on who say it which means that he is still the one who has taqwa of Allah, Allah Allah. Still he has what? Since otherwise, what why Allah, Allah Allah says, you confer on who you are, and who say it experience from him. Yes, his sense.

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It is it clear. And this My dear brothers and sisters, it is a very glad tiding that Allah Allah Allah knows that even if we fear Him, we will have some sins we will commit some sins. Yes. And allegedly, as we said, knows this. And Allah, Allah Allah will forgive us. Yes, we'll forgive those sins if we have Taqwa of Allah, Allah Allah, which also means that even if you have the highest level of depth of a man, you will still commit some sins here and there.

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Yes, and it is true. Who is that person? Who is that person? Who is really a righteous person who does not commit sin, anything at all? It is impossible. It is impossible. One of the righteous people, he was counting his sins. Yes. And he found that there are 40 something since counting them one by one. This is the reason

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that in terms of ourselves, we ask Allah, Allah Allah to forgive us maybe for the sins will be committed in maybe a few minutes by one of us. Okay. Lakin, my dear brothers and sisters, once we talk about this, we need to remember a very important thing is that it is true that abstaining from sins is

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is crucial, important, no need to talk about its significance. But the key thing that I always emphasize on and I always like to emphasize on this issue

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in the West, in particular, in the in this modern Yanni life or lifestyle in this time and age, that the key thing is the person feels embarrassed before Allah, Allah Allah for the sins that he commits.

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The key issue, my dear respected brothers and sisters is not to turn you back

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away from Allah, that you don't run away from Allah, that you show a lot that you don't care about the sentence.

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This is the biggest problem. Don't misunderstand me, I don't say yeah, commit sins law, we are not saying that the person should be careless. And he should, Yanni

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he should not control himself and he should look at the opposite gender, he should look at how long things or he doesn't control his tongue and he just leave.

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He or she leaves their their tongues to do haram things. And so No, no, no, we are not talking about this. We are not talking about this. We know that we will commit sins, the key thing is

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to regret it by your heart.

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That is the key thing. Yes. And your heart should not act in a very careless way towards this sense.

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The worst

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level is to show a law that you don't need him. And you don't care about the law. This is the biggest sin and this in fact, might need to what to cover or shift. That's why Allah says if you have Taqwa of Allah, Allah will expiate and forgive your sins. How?

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It means that yes, you committed

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But you really internally you have fear of Allah, Allah Allah.

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You have Taqwa of Allah, Allah Allah, you are trying your best. If you commit sins, you feel embarrassed. Because you glorify Allah, Allah, Allah, you respect a lot in Nevada, you are feeling the oh that Allah Allah Allah has over you, because of this, because of this stock wall, because of this feeling, which is as the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, that duck wahana

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in your heart, Allah Allah, Allah will forgive your sins.

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This kind of attitude, makes the person who commit sins, makes him what doing is therefore three countries. Yes, making Toba frequently. Moreover, he is trying his best or her best to stop himself from sins.

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Okay, and we're law he This is from Allah, Allah.

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This is Rama from Allah, Allah, Allah, why my dear respected brothers and sisters, because imagine that the Lord Allah, Allah says to us, when you commit sins, I will never forgive you. So don't commit sins.

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Imagine if that is the case.

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All of us will

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agree or not.

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All of us will despair. Why?

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Because once the person convinces him, then we'll say or no hope for me because Allah says that he will never forgive me. Even if it is a small sin. Yes, and we will just go back.

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And this will lead people to what to despair.

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Okay, that's why the guy or the person who's giving

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the person who gives talks, etc, he should be careful not to make people disturb or lose hope.

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Yes, he should always give them hope not to belittle sins in their eyes, no, but to give them hope. And there is a difference My dear respected the brothers and sisters, between those who trivialize since say no problem, no, don't worry. Now,

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we are not saying this. And those who are worth giving everyone hope but not trivializing the sins. Same thing, the person himself should not trivialize the sin or the sins and deliver but if he commits anything with a small sin or a major sin, He should always go back to Allah Allah Allah and ask for forgiveness

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Okay, now, this point, where may I say it where you limit the who are the raw Yeah, I will be speaking about where you are the level algebra now. But

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before talking about

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this phrase, which is that about you know, Allah will expand or within the law in loved his reward, I would like to speak about something interesting.

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Yeah, which is any part of what is known as social engineering?

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Yeah, what social engineering means, how you run the life, how you run the social life? Yeah, this is a very important and advanced element of social engineering, which is where many of you could fit and who say it, okay. Now, social engineering, which as we said, how you run social life.

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Now, people,

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people, as we said, they are born with many shortcomings and they will commit sins,

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will commit sins, Allah, Allah, Allah knows this. And the word Allah, Allah is giving them what a way out.

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Yes, a way out. And he's not blocking all the roads. Otherwise, as we said, we will What? People will despair and lose hope. Same thing if you run a country or if you run a society, you need to give people hope and not to block all the ways around them.

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Then from what? From doing, maybe from breaking the law?

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Yes. You cannot run a country by saying don't to break the law. And the one who breaks the law, you are what you will

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you will apply the severest punishment against him. Have we spoken about this last time? No. I feel that I spoke. I mentioned it anyway. So, the issue is if you run a country, if you run a system, if you run an organization, if you run anything, if you are in charge of a group of people, always give them hope.

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When you put certain loads, make those lows have a level of flexibility to cater for those who break the law.

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I always give the following example. Imagine, imagine that the traffic law, people need to park in order to buy from one of the shops and people need to park their cars to buy from the shop because they need to buy something from the shop. If the lawmaker stopped all cars and put all signs and did not allow any parking place near that shop, what will happen?

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At one time people all of them will break the law

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because they need what they need to stop park their cars go and buy something from that shop.

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Here Imagine if the traffic lights became red all the thought and people are waiting, waiting waiting they need to move.

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What will happen?

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All of them will break the traffic light. Yes. will cross the traffic light agree? Yes. Yes. Okay. They always say in the art in the art of war. Yeah, this Chinese he wrote this

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book before he said, if you have a fight with someone, make sure that you leave what away way out for him.

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So once you defeat him, don't imagine that you will just finish him off. If you are unable to finish him off. Then don't keep pushing, pushing, pushing, but leave D leave a space for him so he can walk.

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Run away.

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Are we following? Why?

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Because if you don't leave any space for him to run away, what will happen?

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Hey, we'll just go crazy. And then he will do anything that is not calculated. And he doesn't care because he does not have anything more to lose.

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Are you following this? Yeah, we in Arabic Say that don't when you for example you want. They say when a person wants to beat a cat. Don't call up the cat and keep beating it without letting it escape or run away from it. Because if you do this and the cart found that there is no way out for it, then it will turn to be what a lion

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and it will just fight and make sure it hurts you.

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And this is a stupid way of running things. Yes. And this is known as social engineering. subhana wa ceria is very advanced in this Islam is very advanced in this. Okay? Allah Allah Allah acknowledges that people will commit what sins he says. You will make sense as far as generally speaking, you have Taqwa Allah will forgive those sins.

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Yeah. Moreover, in terms of the legal system as well. That's why the Islamic legal system, the Sharia legal system is more advanced than any man made law system. In fact, the Sharia system is more merciful than any man made law is more merciful is more just than any man made low system. Sharia law says that if a person commits a sin, yeah, he violated the law if this person will

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was not cold, and he did not cause harm to the society. And he repented.

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Leave him. Don't chase him until you What?

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Until you catch him. Is it the clear? Yeah. Now the man made law system does not have that flexibility. Okay. And even recently, those cases of those who were caught after 20 years, or 15 years or maybe 30 years, and 30 years ago, 20 years ago, they had a sexual

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affair or harassment against someone. And now they want to punish them now, after they became 80 or 70, or something like this. And I feel that they knew about the

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intervention or sexual harassment they have done. They knew from before, but at that time they want they needed them. Yeah, they were big celebrities or something like this, once, they don't want them and they want just to get rid of them. They apply the law against them after they become what become old, which shows the fallacy of the system. Yeah. And also, it is very strange that the victim could not at that time. Yeah. could they not go to the court, but now the victim went to the court after 20 years, or after 15 years. No one says why couldn't the victim is go to the court in the beginning,

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the victim should have gone to the court, okay? When within a month time, two months, one year, two years, but to leave it for 15 years, for 20 years, and so on and now you want to apply it This means that it is something wrong. Yeah, there is.

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There is something wrong in that case. And moreover,

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it doesn't leave any space for people to repent or to rectify their problems a person committed Isn't he was not a good he was not quote,

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and he did not cause any particular harm or he caused a particular harm for a particular person. Maybe that person forgive him.

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Yes, from an alpha? Yes. Well, I have argued to Allah, maybe he pardoned him. And he this person, yeah, the perpetrator repented. That's it, the law will not keep we should not keep chasing them, because the law should give some flexibility for people to repent and to rectify their mistakes by themselves. Now, this ability to repent or to rectify your problems by yourself or within yourself within the, the perpetrator and the victim, this cannot happen unless the people have what have Taqwa of Allah.

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Yes. Because if a person does not have a taqwa of Allah, He broke the law, he will not reflect upon it and he will just if he feels that he's safe, he will just leave it and and just maybe even continue in,

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in breaking the law. So it is really it is a very wonderful system in terms of how to,

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to run any any system or any country or any group of people. And this is known as social engineering. So woman, you can't fit on a tee. Not only that, my dear respected brothers and sisters, not only that, it is a deep Subhanallah how merciful Allah Allahu Allah is. What may Allah Allah Allah, Allah will forgive his sins wa Allah, Allah will in love his What? his reward will you

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see, even a word and Allah says what well you limb

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you have them for an hour from Allah. something huge, Allah Allah Allah will make it big holiday Allah Allah will enlarge the reward. And my dear respected brothers and sisters, we should always remember that the acts of human beings by are not equal in terms of their reward.

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You know what even a monkey they said about one of the Kava instead of Abu Bakr, radi

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that abubaker Sadiq

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Khan who did not proceed all of you because of what because of the amount of salah and cm Lee, but because of shame on what are often called.

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Yeah. What is that Yanni Allah, Allah Allah placed a boob across a deal in this high level of a man, not only because of the quantity, but because of what the quality of the actions, his qualities, in general, his effect, what is basically about aboubaker sodium is the level of the law he has in his heart. So the level of taqwa you have will cause the reward to be double the triple multiplied number of times, my dear respected brothers and sisters. So that's why you may come along with the person next to you, and both of you pray in the same stuff. Yes, in the same line, as they said, one of them will have a reward for his Salah that just goes above his head and another person, another

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person's reward will reach to the discard Subhanallah Why is this because of taqwa. That's why my dear respected the brothers and sisters, we always say don't make the focus on your outward acts.

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Yes, many brothers and sisters focus on the outward acts, to make sure that they are according to what they perceive as the center. But the most important thing is to focus on what on the inward acts.

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Yes, the top wall, and we should be careful, my dear brothers and sisters, not to deceive ourselves. When we focus on our outward acts, we think that we have Taqwa. No.

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Yeah. And that's why we always say, Be careful, don't be deceived. You might find the person maybe who's who does not have a beard, clean shaven. Yeah. Or maybe, maybe he commits or she commits some money since our two cents here. But when you see their level of taqwa, you will find that this level of taqwa intanon, fear of Allah, Allah glorification of Allah, Allah is so big, we always say that, look, you might pray next to a person and you are worried about where you place your hands is this this is the sooner This is the sooner this The sooner this The sooner you might be focused, you might be focusing on this. And that will make you what

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he believes of your Salah, and another person next to you. He's maybe you can say that he's a lay person. He doesn't know the proper way of putting the hands. Yeah, so he's just putting them in a very simple way. But he has his shoe in his hand. He returns more than you. I'm not saying that this will be always the case. But we should be careful that this should not be the case.

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Yes, brothers. Okay, sisters, same thing for sia. to people. Yeah. Might abstain from food, drink sexual relationship, a person he's abstaining from this and is really waiting for the time he breaks this old waiting for the time Ramadan comes to an end because he is really frustrated, not because he finds it difficult and he has some any illnesses or weaknesses. And another person he finds it difficult, but he enjoys it and he wishes if he can, or he has the ability to fast more and more.

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This abstention is totally different from this abstention. My dear brothers and sisters. So please, please let us take this matter. Seriously. Yes, the taco and in particular the intern duck was

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Allah Allah, Allah says here for me,

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you can't fit on Jose, t while you're away blah who are the law and the law, the law, Allah will in law, his reward and as hidden and Mubarak said, Hello, I'm Alan funny to get through Nia Obama in Kathy topolino Nia, there might be a small deed will have a big reward because of what intention and there might be a big deed will lead to what a small amount of reward because of what because of intention. So we have to be careful My dear brothers and sisters. Anyway, Allah gelada says after that, asking ohana mean hi to second to moody calm, to borrow money to buy a Ferrari and lodge them. Okay, then who are them? We'll talk about it, lodge them here, where you dwell where you do where

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you live, okay, or where you live? According to your ability or according to your financial ability? Yes, or according to your means. And don't?

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Yes, and don't harm them. So to

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straighten them, that they be obliged to leave your house. So that

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don't make it so difficult for them. Don't harm them. No, in fact, is not don't harm them. When to buy your quality him. Don't tie it to the amount of maintenance that you provide for him in order to force him to force them to what

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in order to force them to leave or in general don't harm them. Yes. Well, or to borrow money to buy a plane in order to make it difficult for them in general.

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Okay, here asking ohana asking

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them who are they?

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These colors have different

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interpretations for this or different explanations. One explanation says that as kin ohana, lodge them where you dwell refers to the divorcees who have not rich who

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whose their divorce whose their divorce is revoked? Yes, other than the one whose divorce is irrevocable. zetaclear because we said before that the divorces can be irrevocable, irrevocable, the irrevocable divorce means that you cannot reconcile with your wife, which means that if she stays in your house, and you stay there, it might be a source of fitna for you. That's why some scholar said leave them in her house and you leave some other scholars said no, if it is every workable divorce, then she should leave the house. So two meanings. So if we say that this is general, so it refers to all divorces, whether the divorce is irrevocable or irrevocable revocable divorce is clear. You

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don't need it. It doesn't need to be mentioned. But every vocable divorce, yes, needs to be explicitly mentioned. And this is talking about and the vocable divorce, which means that if a person divorces his wife, and it happened to be the third divorce, which means that the divorce is what

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which means that the divorce is what? irrevocable, this, which means that he cannot take hair back during that period. Yet, according to this explanation he should let have live in his house and he should leave the house. What does that mean? They say that the scholars have different views in terms of the entitlement of the divorcees,

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the divorces who have a revocable divorce. So they say that those who have been divorced for the third time and the divorce is irrevocable. They have their own

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To be lodged

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So, the husband must what provide for them what a second

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without other nefa Is it clear?

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Is it the clear those who have a revoke of a divorce, What rights do they have over their husbands? As some scholar said they have the right to what

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sukeena that I took of housing. So, you should what the person who divorces his wife the third divorce he should provide for her what housing whatever their maintenance? Yeah, some other scholars said no. Some other scholars said you know, why no, because they said there is no relationship between the man and his ex wife after the third divorce. So, there is no left or no housing between them. And they refer to the thought and the Hadith that we have mentioned that her husband divorced her the third divorce and she left his house okay. And he did not give her maintenance or he gave her little maintenance. So she went to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and say the Arizona law Okay,

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so on so divorce me the third divorce and he is not maintaining me properly now. What is my right over him the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said there is no sukhna for you there is no there is no housing for you. There is no nothing

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Okay, this is one view as we said. The other view says you know, the one who

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received the third divorce and the divorce now is every vocable Yeah, has the right for housing. And this is referring to that. As can ohana mean hydro second term. Mooji decom.

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Is it clear? So to us regarding this? Yeah.

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Okay, either the revocable divorce or the death revocable divorce

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Okay, then Allah Allah Allah says whether to love ruhuna little boo boo Allah hint don't Tom them Yes, Don Tom them so as to is today

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what is it strange and it shouldn't be too

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strange. Yeah. to strain them so that they become forced to what? To leave their houses. Yeah. Don't to do that. Don't do that. Fear Allah, Allah Allah and let them live in the house that that has been appointed to them by Allah Jalla wa ala. Okay? Yeah, Allah Allah Allah says as you know him in Haifa second, Tom moody decom.

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Yes, moody calm. What does mean odd can mean according to your financial ability, or according to what your means men wish they come. Okay. So if the person has the ability to provide a good quality housing for his divorcees for his ex wife, he should do that. If the person is unable to provide luxury housing for her. Yes, then he should provide what he is able to

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to give her. Okay, is it clear?

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As you know, when I'm in high school second to me with the Kumara bartonella who Allah him, then Allah Allah, Allah says, What incunabula to have Linda Luna, so everyone could know that to have lived in La Nina had Yaba

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if they were pregnant, then maintain them until they give birth. Okay. This is an introduction or this ayah started to talk from the beginning. Talk about what the rules of maintenance and how sync Allah, Allah Allah mentioned here in the beginning one rule, which is what

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the divorcees who received the third divorce, have the right of what have housing. Some scholars said this excellent.

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It ruling leads to number of implicit rulings. First of all, it leads to another ruling that they don't have the right of maintenance but they have the right to

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have housing.

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Also, it refers to those who receive a revocable divorce. If Allah Allah Allah says that this every vocable divorce leads to this, it means that those who received a revocable divorce has more rights than this, which is what, which is the housing and what maintenance and maintenance and this is a matter of agreement and there is no dispute about it. Clear. By then, Allah Allah, Allah mentioned about those who are what? pregnant. Why Allah, Allah Allah mentioned those who are pregnant, because if someone were to say, okay

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as a woman hater second to Mooji DICOM I provided my wife who is pregnant, according to the I provided her What? housing Yes, and that's all and then she says yes, but I am pregnant. Okay, that housing I need, I'm cutting your baby. Then he would say no, Allah, Allah Allah says asking ohana mean hydro second to me which dico he can use this ayah but Allah Allah Allah says, so this should not be misused. So a lot the Nevada mentioned the ruling of the pregnant woman. And so if we understand this, like this, we have understood so many rulings regarding what regarding maintenance, we understood the rolling of maintenance of what of the divorcees from irrevocable divorce and

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irrevocable divorce. And we understood that there is a difference between maintenance and what and housing. Yes. And then in all cases, we understood this ruling of a specific case, which is what

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led to him and those who are pregnant you have to act not only provide them with housing, but nataka in general, which includes maintenance and housing. When canola to Hamlin philippou la la, you spend on them? Okay. Now a la jolla did not say what am philippou Allah?

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Allah de Hina

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Yes, spend on the children or on the fetus on your children? No. Phil la hinda because he is carrying your son. So he she has the right over you. She has the right she's doing a job for you. So I'm Phil la Hilah

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is it clear and we always receive complaints by some sisters who are pregnant being divorced and their husbands are not maintaining them properly know if they are pregnant for a while enough spend on them until they give the then Allah Allah Allah introduced another case. Okay, is it clear about the maintenance of the pregnant woman? So pregnant ladies? Yeah, deserve what? housing and maintenance full maintenance you can say?

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On a nap na hepta Ivana habla home until they give birth

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Okay, then Allah Allah Allah introduced a new case which is what the in our bond Allah Khun

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na foodora home. Okay. Funding are gonna come IF THEY BLESS said your children. Yeah.

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For if they give suck to the children for you. Yeah, if they if they started to breastfeed your children.

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First of all, our gelada says in bana lakum. So they are breast feeding for you For you, which means your children.

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Yes, Allah Allah Allah says in Surah Al al no Lu de la who raised our kids

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Because this is your Loulou, this is your child, and she is doing what a favor for you.

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This caller said, if the we need to differentiate between the wife and the ex wife, the wife, generally speaking should breastfeed her child, according to one opinion. Yes. Now that divorce See, the ex wife

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who received irrevocable divorce, she is not obliged to breast feed the child unless the child did not accept any other one to breast feed him. Yes. And moreover, the father has no or the Father has no means to provide for him another lady to

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do to breastfeed him.

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Is it clear, which means that the person divorced his wife, she gave birth? And she said, Okay, this is the child, I will look up for him.

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It is her right to look after the child. And she said, but I will breastfeed him, give me money for that.

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Yes, give me money for that that is her right?

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If he says to her, but this is your son, no, this is user.

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Okay, the son of the man. So he has to what to spend on him. So he has to pay him have a wage for what? For breastfeeding him. He has also to pay her a wage for looking after him as well. Although Allah, Allah gave her the right of what have custody, provided that he does not get married to another person, is it the clear two things, so she can receive a wage for breastfeeding him, and she should receive a wage for looking after him. If the child could not be fed, except by his mother, then it becomes obligatory upon her to breastfeed him. And it is obligatory upon her husband or ex husband to pay her to pay her a wage for that.

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Is it clear? So this is the ayah are gonna come? See, Allah Allah Allah says fine, if they if they which means that there is a possibility that what?

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Haha, that she doesn't do it.

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Because Allah Allah, Allah says fine out of Allah. If so it means that there is a possibility that this if does not, is not fulfilled? Yeah, for him are gonna come to hoonah foodora. Han give them their wages.

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Visa roof, yes. and deal with your cells in our roof in goodness, because at the end of the day, you were husband and wife one time you were sleeping together? Yeah. The man have seen from his wife, things that her father her mother could not see from him and the woman have seen from her husband, things that no one can see from him. Yes, they have done things together, that maybe children will love to do together. Things that can be seen as silly between the husband and wife, they do all silly things. Yes. So there, they there this should not be forgotten. After divorce, you should not turn to be what enemies as we have, as we see, unfortunately, I have rarely seen a person who's

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divorcing his wife or a wife who has received a divorce from her husband or received from her husband, who remain in good terms together.

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Yes, Allah Allah, Allah says

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yes. And let each of you accept the Yes. Let each of you accept the advice of the other in a just way. Okay. wine, there are certain facets of the order who

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but if you make it difficult is for one another, then some other woman may give or make breastfeed

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your child. Maybe we can elaborate on this part.

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Insha Allah

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in German the next lesson, this will be enough inshallah for this lesson yes as I said these verses are very very rich. Okay. So bear with us we know that we have taken some time in explaining them but inshallah there is a fire either in the inshallah Okay, there's no heaven if you have any question. Yeah, go ahead please.

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Any question? No, we don't receive questions from sisters Why?

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Happy marriages Mashallah

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This is your view but we did not hear the views of the sisters. Maybe they have another view?

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Yes. He says Don't worry about the brothers just send your question. They are stopping you from sending questions. Just let me know. Yeah, I'll tell the brothers of Okay. Yes. Oh, stop, honey.

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This online question. Sisters asked my son has divorced his wife during a pregnancy risk to develop I think she's referring to come up at once. And then he took her back. unfortunate. He after a month he again divorce a third remaining the law. Yeah. The wife is still pregnant. Can he take back before she gives the? Yeah. Okay. The question is clear. So he the person divorces his wife, they say the first divorce the second divorce. Yeah, the second divorce. She was pregnant. And then after one month, he took her back. Yes. Which means that he took her back within the ADA. And then yeah, he gave her the third divorce by and there it is, is still there. Yeah. Carlos, the third divorce is

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No way back. We have explained this a lot. You know, Allah says Apollo Nava can.

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That's all twice, then Allah, Allah. Allah says, After that, then

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you have

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to have a life you come and sit in the Islamic Sharia Council. You receive these cases on a daily basis. And if you have a soft heart, please don't come here. And if you have a soft top don't ever think of being a judge, because we have seen so many judges Muftis

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who received questions from

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people I have witnessed this myself. And in many cases, even today, there was one case that the husband I dealt with it, okay. The husband divorced his wife, three divorces, separate divorces. And he admitted that he willingly divorced her three times and he was angry but connected that anger that makes him Can he lose his

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No, no. lose his conscious. Yes. So, three confirmed divorces. So I told him that is done. Then he went and he saw another Mufti. And he said to him, the other Mufti unfortunately said, well see if the third divorce. You any

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think that you were angry? Very angry? Yeah. And you took her back just continue living with her.

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I contacted them. And I said to him Can I understand why you dropped one of those divorces? He said, you know, the Animus kin abajo

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was his wife three times.

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And you know they want to live together. I really found Danny. I said

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Well, I don't know who is the skin?

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skin? Yes, because it is not an easy issue. It is not an easy issue. I don't know why. So many of them have teens are taking this matter is yes. So anyway, we always say to the person who divorce divorce his wife three times it is you that who divorces his wife it is not mean so you have to bear the consequences. Yeah.

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Even if it gives

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now to Tata at once, it is a different case but we cannot give a general ruling they have to any come either to see us in the Islamic Sharia council or to give to go to a Mufti who is well qualified in these matters. Yeah.

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The case where there's a divorce and the children are older, and the and the woman looks after the children and

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lives with the children.

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Does the ex husband still have a responsibility to provide

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for those children?

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What do you mean they became any children above 18? children? They divorce? Yeah. The children live with the mother. Yeah. Does the husband have to continue providing? Yeah. Okay. See, in terms of maintenance, a person divorces his wife, she has children. There are two things here, there is havanna custody and what there is what maintenance, there is custody and maintenance custody means who they live with, and maintenance, who spends on them. The father is responsible to spend on his children, okay, until they are adults, or they can spend on themselves even if they are living with the mother.

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However, here in this country, the children take what? Yeah,

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no take take child benefit. The mother, or the parent whom the children are living with, receive what received some benefits either housing benefit, or family tax credit or something like this.

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If the maintenance received by the mother, for example, is enough to maintain the children. Yeah. Or even if it is not enough, that reduces the amount of payment the husband should give to the wife for the children? Is it too clear? So if what they receive from the the counselor or the government is enough, then generally speaking, the husband might not be obliged to spend more on them. However, yeah, sisters brothers should not take this and should say, voila, we have heard your faith me saying this. Yeah, because these cases are cases of work of judgment. We need to sit with the man with the husband, we need to sit with the wife, we need to see the financial abilities of both of

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them, what are the children in receiving, etc, etc, then we can have a better estimation, no one can take a general rule and just apply it on him on himself. Or in herself. There. Yes.

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A concern regarding

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vaccination that children get it?

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Yeah, this vaccination that we're referring to, maybe you are referring to the latest in thing. What is it? Mr.

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Yeah, this vaccination, I checked with the check units do do either. And he said that this vaccination is not obligatory, and there is a place for it. That does not have pig products. So that's why we say to the children Yeah, don't take it. If it does exist.

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The doubt is very strong. Because the the pig ingredients

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even I confirm this, myself with with with Dr. Mohammed alibaug. Yeah, he's an expert in this field. He has written so many books

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in Koran and science and these things.

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He said that pig products are the only products that do not dissolve, they remain as big.

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Unless you take them through certain chemical processes.

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They remain as big. So that's why we should really avoid any pig related products as much as we can.

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yes, yes.

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I need to know about a man that married the knot with non Muslim woman and she still remains a non Muslim marriage is this type of marriage. Allow

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And will Muslim men remains Muslim after the marriage? Please clarify. Yeah, Muslim lady, what kind of non Muslim lady, Christian Jew anyway, we said the number of times that

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a Muslim man

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Muslim man can marry a Muslim woman

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or a lady from the People of the Book only means Christian or Jew. Yes.

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Christian or Jewish To be more precise, because she might be due from ethnic perspective, but she's not Jewish from religious perspective. So she should be Jewish. Yeah.

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Provided that they are test women. Yeah, a lot of Allah says, well, Masonic men and livina uchiwa min kobelco formosana. mean chest women. Yeah, from the People of the Book. Okay.

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This is one thing, however, the man, the male.

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Certainly the man cannot marry a woman

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from other than the people of the book. So a woman cannot marry a Hindu or a thief.

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And or

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agnostic or atheist? By?

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I don't know, recently, and the last maybe two, three, or more than that four weeks.

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I received this question frequently, so frequently, on a Slack channel. I don't know. They want to just, they want me to make a mistake and maybe some say something offensive and they will stop me. I don't know. Okay. Because for example, today, here on Islam channel,

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a brother called the first question. He said, Chef, you know, this interior this fight? Is it Jihad? Yeah. Or not? Is it obligatory or not? Is it Jihad? This Syria is a jihad.

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Yeah, the second one.

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The second one chef, you know, this Israelis who killed the Palestinians and Palestine? Yeah. How what what should the Palestinians do with them? And what should be our position? Yeah. Anyway, they might Yani just fabricate certain questions in all of them. Maybe they think that maybe I will say something then they will.

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accuse me of certain things. They might shut the channel of.

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But we received this question so many times, which is managed to Hindu, a lady's calling and she said, My son got married to a Hindu lady. My son got married to a serious lady. My daughter's got married to a Christian. My sister got married to a Hindu man, shall we go and attend the wedding or not? One lady said that my knees my knees. They are really pretty children good children. Mashallah. But their mother is safe. Yeah. My brother got married. And we say that, okay. If a man

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got married legally,

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a lady from the people of the book, then it is true that this marriage in the in the law eyes and the eyes of the law is called marriage, but in the eyes of Islam is called what? Xena?

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Yeah, it is called the Xena.

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By fornication and the children who are born in this wedlock so called wedlock, they are from an Islamic perspective illegitimate.

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Yes. Okay. This should be clear. Similarly, if a person if a lady a Muslim lady got married to any non Muslim man, and they registered this marriage, we have so many cases. We say to them, yes, this is a marriage from what? From a medical perspective but from an Islamic perspective. It is not any. It is not a valid inika it is what? Xena Yeah, Xena clear Xena, let alone It might be rejection of Islam.

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Okay, and the children are LED

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legitimate children. And that what we mentioned earlier that what differentiates between what Islamic marriage and legal marriage and we said that they are two different systems.

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Okay, babe, last question. Haha Yes brother.

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They should have what?

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Now we said that Allah Allah Allah says what I should do the way I didn't mean come they have to be two men.

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Muslims, adults, these are the conditions the main conditions Muslims here males and adults, okay? And generally speaking adult adult means have a level of

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or they are trustworthy generally speaking.

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But last question from

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online from where which country

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is one brother Can you ask the chef in the person devoted his wife and marries another one? Is he allowed to get married again to his previous wife?

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Maybe he thinks that falletta handler who had to think as Oh Gemma is applied on men and women. So the person divorces his wife three times. Yeah. And he gets married to another wife. Then he can go back to the first one.

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He divorces his wife 111 divorce or another or two divorces? Yeah, of course he can marry her anytime he wants after that provided that he did not divorce. The divorce. Yeah. Okay.

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Zach. Hey Monica. Lovely.

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