Kindness to Parents after Death – Qur’an Reflections

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Haitham al-Haddad

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And Subhanallah, my dear brothers and sisters, part of Bill, to be kind to your parents is to continue the saga that they used to give.

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And that's why I advise you brothers and sisters, don't stop sadaqa that your parents used to give. And that's why they said, if your parents bequest, any amount of money to be given as a sidecar, the first thing is to give that after paying the debts, after paying the debts, and preparing, preparing their funeral is immediately to give their sadhaka because, and I had this case where law he, I don't know whether I mentioned to you or not very few weeks ago, a children with their mother came and they said that their father passed away just a month or two months ago. And he written in his will, that he has to give a certain amount of money or a certain percentage of his wealth as an

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outsider.

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And they were trying to find a way not to give that sadhaka

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and I told them that come on your father, he spent all of his time working day and night, etc, etc. And he has built that house. And he has collected that money in order for you in order to benefit you and now you don't want to benefit him in his grave. And now imagine him suffering in his grave and you don't want to help him in his grave.

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And they found the close that

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that means that this is not obligated if you find it difficult. So they say that we will pay it but not immediately.

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I said to them immediately, okay. It's better. But technically speaking, I agree with you that the phrase in the will does not oblige you to pay the sidecar immediately on on behalf of your father. However, imagine him in the grave, and he will be desperate for every single person.

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Every single has an A so then the minute you give any Hashanah for him, he will be very grateful for that. And we know that the saga intercedes for the person and it stops the fire of from eating the person in what in the grave. And the sadaqa extinguishes the anger of Allah, Allah Allah.

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Allah, Allah and once said that the Messiah came, and they were competing and the southern one or overtook them all. a sidecar. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to encourage people to give a set up. And we all know when Allah Allah Allah says, Yeah, you're Latina Latina Kumamoto, como la otra de commande de la EFL. Delica como hacer en what, what am filipo Mimara? japonicum min tagliata como note fair Paula, Bella Bella, her attorney, Ella, Jalen, Caribbean, what? Fast sadaqa when the time of death comes to the person, he will say, yeah, Allah give me a chance. Just give me a chance what he mentioned, what did he mentioned, to give me a

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chance to what to go and pray to go do hedge to go and do this and that? No, for a sadaqa Subhana Allah for sadaqa and that's why the sidecar the sidecar has its role in stopping the punishment, in particular the punishment of the grave. And that's why the person should not stop himself from giving the sadaqa we mentioned to you the story of willhave when he used to give sadaqa every day and one time, they noticed that he had an onion with him. So his friend told him what is this? He said,

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I was about to give this as a sidecar. He said an onion to give it to us to this point, the smell of your claws. He said I was searching for a sidecar in my house and I did not find anything except to that on you and to give it as a soda. So I took it and I said maybe a poor person would benefit from it. I will not stop giving sadaqa on a daily basis after I heard of Muhammad narrating that the profits are low it was and I'm saying that the person who will be under the shade of his other day of resurrection.

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So the saga in particular, of course we can speak a lot about the setup of my dear

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Brothers and sisters, but in particular, if you want to be righteous and kind to your parents, they try to give sadaqa all the scholars agreed, as you know that the scholars differ on whether the sadaqa reaches your, the deceased, or your parents who passed away. So the the scholars differ with the deeds in general will reach the deceased,

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the parents who passed away, but they said the sadhaka of the children is excluded, and it will definitely reaching the parents in their graves.

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So that's why, if your parents, yes, my dear brothers and sisters, never never ever think of this when your parents dedicate an amount of sadaqa to be given after they die. Or they put that in their will. Yeah, never think of delaying that. And as many scholars said, that,

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when they narrate the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam, when the man came to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and he said, my parents passed away, what is how can I be kind to them, what is left from the bill to them. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sahbihi wa sallam mentioned that sadaqa discolored said among the best bill, to give to your parents after they pass away, is to have sadaqa jariya for them. So the kajaria are continuous sadaqa. And even some scholars said that this sort of Algeria, if you intended for your parents, what will happen, you will benefit from it and your parents will benefit from it. And among the grave things that a person can do is to stop a

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saga that his parents used to give.

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Among the grave things. They mentioned the stories about the children who stopped a sidecar that their father used to give. And they in the Arab culture.

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There was a very famous story that happened, I think, in Kuwait, a few people.

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There was two neighbors, and one person gave one good big camel,

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female comment to his neighbor, and he was milking it and he was benefiting from it. And

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this neighbor, this neighbor who gave the southern cow one time, he went for grazing, and he got lost, he got lost. And then he went into a well, and he disappeared there. His children thought that he died. So after he died, they thought, what they waited for him for some time. And then they thought that he died. When they thought that he died, they started to take his to make use of his assets that he has left. And they went to their neighbor, and they said, Our father gave you this camel. Yeah, he did not give it to you. He just give it to you as alone. And they took it from him.

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They mentioned on this study has been mentioned by many scholars. And it seems that Allah Harlem is an authentic history. They mentioned that their father, when he went into that whole big goal, he used to receive some milk. And he survived on that milk for months.

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And all of a sudden, when they took that camel from the neighbor, the milk is stopped coming to him.

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And by the grace of Allah, Allahu Allah, someone helped him and he came out. When he came out, he went to his children. And he said to them, he narrated this story. And he told them, have you done something after I went? They said, What like what he said, You must have done something wrong. What did you do? And then they confessed that they have taken the camel that He has given to the neighbor. They said, Because of this, the milk is stopped from coming to me when I was in that hole.

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So imagine if your father, not in a hole, but in the grave, and you will meet him after he wakes up from the grave and we will meet our fathers, we will meet our ancestors and when they will, what are they going to tell us about the solder that they have given?

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So that's why we should be very, very careful. Not only that, we have

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Have to fulfill what they have written in their will. But we should be kind to them by giving saga on their behalf. And that's why I advise you, my dear brothers and sisters, whenever you give sadaqa imagine quickly your parents, whether they're alive or dead, and give sadaqa on their behalf. include them in your intention. include them in your intention, Allah, Allah, Allah is rich. And Allah Allah Allah will not

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allow jell O Allah, He will give the idea for the past 700 times when your bar if and he might increase more than that. So by giving you a ledger, and giving them at least by giving them at least will not diminish your idea. So don't worry about the idea that I need to give it on my behalf only know imagine your parents imagine even your close friends who passed away imagine others and include them in your intention when you give soda.

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Anyway, we spend time on speaking about this topic, but it is a quite important topic and this is the one of the main benefits that we take from this story. We are not mentioning the stories of the Quran in order to say oh Subhanallah how eloquent that speech is, or the story is really fantastic. Or that's all or we just enjoy the story. No, the real enjoyment is to put the Quran into practice guitar one and then now he they come about

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it what do you tell

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the people who think can reflect upon the Quran and the Quran can give them more ever, not just listen to yet Allah, Allah to Allah and they listen to all of these things and they do not reflect them nothing happens to them.

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A fella to the Parana or an Allah khudobin. Uppsala, Allah Allah Allah mentioned in the Quran no answer no huddle, illegible na ito hace un Mutasa min Casa de la, within Kilimanjaro nobody knows the the mountain will crumble

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once the Quran is recited on the mountain, and that's why the whole point of the Tafseer is to reflect upon the ayat of the Quran and try to put those ideas into into practice in our life from all angles. And then we reflect on or we reflect the hadith of God Allah Allah Allah when she mentioned about the Prophet sallallahu Sallam Cana Kudo. His character was the Quran sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Anyway, to conclude the story in Avalon on gamma Bellona, then the ox Amadeus Ramana must be here.

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