Haifaa Younis – Top Ten Questions Women Ask About Ramadan

Haifaa Younis
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of fasting during a busy cycle and the need for everyone to be aware of their actions and not worry about social distractions. They emphasize the importance of fasting and avoiding alcohol consumption, and stress the need for everyone to practice social distancing and be generous. The speakers also emphasize the importance of keeping track of time and avoiding missing important events.
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Okay Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah.

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah. While early he was sabe he woman Walla Walla Molina myInfo. Now Tanya Bhima limped Anna in a co Simeon would you would do ah Lamoni I'll do become nine milliamp hour Albula SHA one I've seen that touch bar what do I lose my Robin Allah to Zocalo whenever there is a headache to know Hublin I'm a little Kurama in a cancer Wahab from be struck the solder us sadly, Omri why you'll have the time to listen you've probably so today inshallah is going to be different. It's basically the most frequent questions I get. And I'm sure most of you ask. So before I tell you what are these questions who want to tell you the most common

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question that you hear and number one

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Does anybody want to know

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thank you

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bye. So well the eye drops right

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so what's gonna break my fast but I made it specifically for a woman. If you read the title woman ask is these are general question everybody, specifically woman as a communist questions

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Thank you can I take medicine to delay my cycle?

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Okay, so I divided them because they are only 10. I think the list had maybe I don't know how many they send me, but I divided them to topics. So it is related to everybody. Because if we're going to talk about menstruation, those of you who haven't had it yet, or they already passed it? Well, it's not related to me. So I divided two menstruation. Or actually, the first question is, you may not all of you saying COVID. But I hear it. Why I cannot fast when I have my mystery.

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It's from a one. It's very hard for me to do it again. You may you may sound surprised, but I have heard it. And we cannot just say because, number one, whenever somebody asks you a question that you never thought anybody will ask don't belittle them.

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They are, especially if it is the younger generation, you know what, they are very different than you and me. And it's very different, where they are growing and what they hear and what they see. We didn't have social media when I was your age. If I had social media when I was your age, I don't know how I was turn.

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Right, honestly, so so we have to listen to everything that you say, you know, if it's simple Hamdulillah I need sometimes people to remind me of the simple things, if it is how they are if I have asked it for when I was her age, how dare you ask for things has changed. So any question you get, take it. And if you don't know say I don't know, I'm gonna go and check. But but never belittle somebody who's asking you because they will never ask you again. They're gonna go and ask somebody most probably don't know, and they will get not the right answer. So the number one question is, is it related to menstruation? As a woman? Why I cannot fast?

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Right? There is nothing in the Quran says I can't fast you hear this? And the answer is, there is nothing in the Quran says I cannot trust it's true.

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It is true. There's only one verse in the Quran about my situation, only one is Sedona Canyon. My hail is unsorted. Bacara 185. They ask you about menstruation, say meaning or soiree saw to a sinner. Tell them it's pain. It's discomfort, Allah COVID other pain, discomfort, something we don't like you all agree with me. But then what did Allah say? He didn't say don't pray. He didn't say don't fast. So you can say it's in the Quran. Because if somebody knows the Quran more than you, you're done.

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As like, Oh no, here is the verse and Allah didn't say don't floss don't pray Allah the only thing he said, Don't get close to the woman during menstruation meaning intimate relationship. And then when it is done, and they have done the stomach bath, you can resume the relationship. What about fasting?

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And what about salah, combine them? Because that's always the other issue. Everybody in the masjid praying taraweeh and I am staying home.

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What do you respond?

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It's a hadith formula. So Ali Asad. What did he say?

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Actually, it is not from Roswaal risotto sir.

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Okay, now we are we are guessing that's our problem. This is when you answer. Imagine somebody in front of you know a little bit more than you or they don't know but they just challenging you. And if you are not confident about what you are saying, nobody will listen to you. It's actually not a hadith of Allah Suarez. So it was a hadith said by Seder Aisha in more than one thing, because the question came to her. Why listen to the Hadith. The woman asked her it's actually her helper, asked her why the woman during menstruation does not make up the Salah, but makes up the fasting.

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So there was nothing from what I saw it I saw she responded, we were at the time with a Roswaal they saw to us enough we get our cycle. And he ordered us to make up our salah, but not make up our fasting meaning we did not fast.

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And we did not pray sooner. This is something for all of you to learn. Soon it is not only what he said.

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It's not only what he said, is what he said. And the second one, what he did, and the third one, what he approved. So if somebody's in front of him, let's say a girl sitting on the floor like that's not Roswaal they saw two synonymously he didn't say anything, but she was sitting and he didn't say don't do it. That means he approved it.

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So he approved she That's what she told him she said that's what we did at the time of Rasul Allah Santosa. Obviously he ought

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The rhythm or he explained to them for Salah it's very clear, because another woman when it came about abnormal bleeding, she came to him and asked him, What do I do? I am a woman who bleeds all the time. He said when the time of your cycle comes in, stay away from Salah. So that we know but the fasting was in this hottie. Now very important for everybody younger not very young because now I'm here it's also from nada very young people. Whenever my Deen Islam, you know what is really the real meaning of Islam is what?

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submit to the will of Allah. And Allah said this verse beautiful sorts of zygoma cannot be more. Well, I mean that God Allahu wa Sula, who Omran a Hakuna Allahu ala to mean Embrey him. And they said, No believing men and woman here He Allah subhanaw taala put them both.

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When Allah decree something, or when Allah order something,

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they have no choice.

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Meaning you have no choice but to submit to the will of Allah. Not everything I'm going to understand.

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And even harder, not everything I like, what I want to do, what everybody else is doing. Most of what we are doing, how many people does what we do as a woman? But that's what Allah said, Send me Anna Wattana. So when I come to Ramadan, why I cannot fast? My immediate answer is Allah said so. Where? In the Quran and the Sunnah. So that's the first the first question. And it again, it is common. I've heard it about Sona, also, and that's why I am combining them. So that's number one, the next and if the woman say I'm sorry, I love to fast. I'm not convinced, again, maybe not you but in general. The answer to her you're disobeying Allah and what you are doing is haram. That's the

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word the scholar use is not my word.

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All consensus if the if the woman during her menstruation fast or pray, she is disobeying Allah and she is doing something haram.

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So imagine the woman says, what I love salah, I want to be close to Allah, my answer to her and I'm going to come to it later. And another question. My answer is you're going to be much closer to Allah when you do not pray. And when you do not trust the same thing, when I'm somebody who has chronic illness, and who I see this all the time, right, but it's Ramadan. I said, Allah, I know it's Ramadan.

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But when Allah said, if you're sick, and fasting will make you make your disease or make your, your health worse. The order is to break your fast. You're obeying Allah, when you break your fast, if you don't break your fast, you're disobeying Allah. So Allah riba that this is something for everybody. act of worship is not what I like, or what everybody else is doing. The act of worship is what Allah said, and ordered, which usually mean a lot like, so that's the first question. Second one that comes in. Oh, and they said, This is a nice thing. I looked it up and I was like, maybe somebody will, we'll think about Why did Allah did not want me to fast?

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The usual correct answer, I have no idea.

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Because that's actually most of the scholars said it. I looked it up clearly. And I even can tell you who said it. I mean, real scholars, they said, The Hickman, the hikma tinea la mala, there is a wisdom only Allah knows about.

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I don't have to understand everything. But again, we are a day in time. I'm not convinced convinced me. This is why it's becoming harder. But I'm going to say I don't know. If he wanted to teach me he would have taught me he would have made one of these is called second couple of them. Later on, they said which they said menstruation as Allah described it in the Quran as other it's pain, its discomfort, talk to somebody who has severe pain, or a woman who bleeds very heavily and she has anemia. And they said out of the Mercy of Allah subhanaw taala fasting is not something very easy, and he made it easier on her.

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Look at that. That's it put a smile on your face, and 100 but I don't use this number one why? Because some people says no, my cycle is absolutely fine. I have no problem. I don't even feel it. We are by nature. Argumentative not woman, everybody, Allah certain sort of calf. What kind of Insano actor a che in general and human being was extremely argumentative and Rasul Allah is AutoSum you

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Was this verse once either one say no ID and say the former were asking him to have a helper.

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And then he just left my he told her, you know, say subhanallah well hamdulillah lai lai de la she was not very good he moved and he said what kind of insane luck that he enjoyed the human being by nature or do a lot. So so that the number one is Allah said so number two is probably a Rama for us type second question, which is has so many issues? What can I do? When I must waiting in Ramadan? I get this so many times. My cycle is 15 days. There is one there cycles 10 or 11. Which Well, what do I do? I can't fast I can't go to the masjid. I can't listen to taraweeh and I cannot pray what's left from Ramadan?

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Number one, before you tell her what to do change the way you think. What does anybody

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know that's not invalid that spa?

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Worship is a bad what does it mean?

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No, I don't want to everything I need detail. Because if you tell everything to her, she says what is everything? When you answer as a person answering the question, give us detailed talk to my brain.

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So what do everything I can pray, I can fast I can go to the masjid I can pray tarawih what is left from Ramadan, and they are sad. And their people really are crying.

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You give them the definition of a bad that

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Imam Ibn Taymiyyah gave it and to make your life very easy because that's related to another question comes in it came from a student and a bad act of worship. Don't define its salah. And that's it. Really what is the big deal?

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And Eva is small in German. It's a name that contains all the following. What is the following khulumani Haibo, La Jolla, la everything Allah loves and pay attention to the next one. Pleased with

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external and internal saying and actions. It's six things remember that? Actions and sayings, external and internal, Allah who logs and pleased with I give you an example.

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Saying yes to your parents since I have a good amount of youth

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and you don't like it? And you're not convinced what mom's saying.

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When you're going to say is that a saying? Yes. Is that pleasing to Allah? Yes. Does Allah loves it? Yes. Is that the external Yes, that's an act of worship.

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act of worship.

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I didn't pray I didn't fast I didn't go to the masjid I did not read Quran I'm during my cycle

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345 yes to your parents you prayed five salah.

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I have a lot of other examples. But I want the examples applies to every age in this room. We need to change the meaning of a bad

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because sometimes I am in an external act of a bother I'm praying that I'm not pleasing Allah.

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Yes or no? Right? Or I am doing it but not the way Allah ordered me to do according to what I like. That's not an act of worship. So what does the menstruating Woman number one, look at all the other acts of worship. Right? Next door neighbor, old person living alone, you're gonna go and spend 10 minutes 15 minutes sitting with her Muslim or non Muslim, Muslim even better

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actor for sure.

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We don't think of it. It's an act of worship. But while you're doing it, you have to put your knee not because I love her not because she's nice, not because she did this before it has to be for Allah. Because Allah taught me through the soulless Auto Salon, take care of your neighbors. And the right of the neighbor is even sometimes more than the right of the person, your blood relative that became an act of worship.

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So when I have everybody from now, from today, put a list of the things you're going to do, do or say or don't do and say that is going to be absolute acts of worship. That's usually when you're having your cycle. You don't have time to do it. Because the time is very tight and Ramadan. Right. Especially if you're working whether inside the house or outside or these days, all the students are in colleges and in schools. We don't have this luxury and you have to take care of the family and then you have to run to the masjid or you want to do your taraweeh and you can just sleep. Get up for school all day.

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Now Allah lift this up from you for about a week. Now your time you will have time to sit for Fudger but you're not praying but you're going to do your car.

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Your proper remembrance of Allah. I will remind you of this beautiful Hadith that is gonna make the scale very heavy. Probably more than 20 Rocard but you will pray in the masjid. What is it? Can you mutton coffee for Tanya I love the sound. The female attorney Phil Nisa Have you been attorney la rama Subhanallah he will be handed Subhanallah we are having two statements. There very light on the tongue. Very heavy in the scale. And very beloved to a rough man he and the Hadith he didn't use Allah. He was the rock man. The Most Merciful. What are they? Subhanallah he won't be handy. Subhanallah Obeah lovely. How many of us say it in the day? Don't show me hands. Because I can

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Here you go for it. And that day. I'm not going to go to the masjid. I'm going to everybody's going to go to the masjid having to read. I'm going to have my peace of mind. Right and I don't have to take care of this without.

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I'm going to sit in my room on my sit Giada I'm not praying, but I'm doing another form of a bada. And I'm just going to be doing why they occur.

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Subhan Allah be Hamdi how much is defined. We have to do. How much how many times you have to ask Allah for forgiveness, Santa Ana and maybe Alayhi Salatu Salam 100 200,000, whatever Allah opens for you, this by itself, if you sat, see if you can do that.

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That always starts normally takes about an hour, hour and a half, right? Maybe two hours? I don't know. Let's assume two hours. Can you sit on that agenda? In your home for two hours doing liquor?

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Then that's a by the two hour what I call it, you go to the masjid. Because one, two and three and four and five. I'm not gonna put them. One of them is to pray Taraweeh for sure.

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Versus I'm sitting on that said Jada turn off my phone.

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And I am crying because I can go to the masjid what Allah says that's another form of a gratitude. Or even better. You have your friend who has children, and it's not her monthly time. Can you take all the children and you babysit them and tell her go and enjoy your Tarawera for a change? That's an act of a brother. Because you help somebody to worship Allah.

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Did you see so many options we can do? But we are so limited.

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You can't fast which means you have more energy than you can cook for somebody tell her don't cook today. Don't cook today. You know what, Russ today. I'll send you the food before Iftar

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what kind of rewards you will get? So I don't want to hear or I don't want you to let yourself say what I am going to do. What you can do? Put a list outside salah, outside Seon hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen. So that's the second question which is related to another one. But I'll come to it. How about reading Quran? There are still questions about it. One is can I read it during menstruation. Second one is when I get the same reward if I read it from the phone or from the tablets versus I'm reading it from the Quran. Let's turn to the first one majority of the opinion accepted Imam Malik.

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He said you cannot don't ask me why. Back to the beginning.

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accept Allah his order.

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Yeah, nearby Allah and I'm going to challenge you here. Everybody in this room. Don't show me hands. Every single day. You read at least 30 minutes of the Quran every single day.

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So when Ramadan comes in, and you're not reading the Quran for five days, you start making it the end of the world.

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Again, I'm speaking with you, truthfully, because I see it. So number one reading from the Quran, there is a contract more than one contemporary opinion. They said they are challenging this because the hadith is weak. But I always like to play it safe.

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Don't read it from the Quran itself.

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And don't read with moving your lips. By the way, if you don't move your lips, it's not reading.

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You have to move your lips out. In fact, you have to move your tongue actually they say to have equal reason is reading. So if you're looking at the Quran, you're not moving your tongue you're not reading but you're reading with your eyes but doesn't count as reading. You're not

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obeying Allah. And if I read it, and touching the Quran also meant almost all of them. So, you know, there were a woman during her Master's should not touch the Quran. Okay, can I do it with from the phone? The answer is absolutely yes.

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Clear? Is the same reward

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yes or no?

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Yeah, wish me luck. Who said yes? Same reward?

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Three, four, buy and hold?

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And all says no.

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It's not the same 140

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and the rest is, Allahu Allah.

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I'm very happy. Okay. What do you think the answer is? No.

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Again, when you see how scholars look at things is very different. They don't look at things abstract, yes or no? What about the blind person?

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So the blind person will not take the same reward.

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What about person doesn't know how to read?

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You think they don't exist? They do? How about somebody who don't know how to how to read Arabic? That's very common.

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This is how they said. And I loved it when I was reading it. They say which one

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will bring you closer to Allah?

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Which will one will make you feel the Quran more? Is the recommended because the argument was also should the woman the half year will read from the memory or she should read from the Quran. Yanni she knows it, but is it looking at the Quran will give her more rewards? Did you look at that point. And they said it doesn't matter.

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If your whichever makes you feel it, whichever makes you understand and reflect do it.

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highest level

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which I was advised by one of my teachers, again, I'm going to give you the highest level and see what you can do. And I've seen it done by my teachers. They do three hotline number one, one in the car by listening.

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So you drive and one by reading,

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reading and one by the reading is usually contemplation they all have fun of course, one to contemplate and one to read.

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So they will

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have it all have it all. So one you listen,

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you're driving, you're walking, you're exercising, you're walking, you're going to do your things. Make it as a hotma you start you know you have it you have done your phone, keep listening, that's one

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and this helps you a lot when you are menstruating because you are absolutely fine with that. You're cooking, you're cleaning, you're going to bring your child you are driving to school, these are all times that we waste a lot if we look at how much time we spent in this it will be at least an hour if not more a day. Actually definitely more and in this state. So you can do one by listening. Choose your favorite recycler and listen to him. Second is you read with contemplations, which means you're going to read and translation if you don't know the RV, and the third one you read in the RV for the reading or if you are happy of course you will review and then you're done. You can do what

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when you are still menstruating when you are very super busy. Everybody these days put this in their in their ears when they are doing

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what they are doing and then they asked me is music haram

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put it and listen to the Quran. And this is actually one of the ways the Inelia training camp is Ramadan is to remove the singing from your heart

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is that you try not to do it in Ramadan because Ramadan is easier or the acts of worship is easier and Ramadan, the baraka as we call it from above, try not to listen to anything other than the Quran

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and see what will happen to this heart.

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And then you can do this and when you are menstruating or when you are not

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okay, well I get the same reward. Now this is somebody who really cares about the reward. Well, I get the same reward if I'm not able to fast on the one

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whether I'm traveling whether it's again my situation whether I'm sick

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now everybody is quiet and thinking, the smell. I'm not looking at what are they saying? Oh

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someone gets sick, I got caught COVID Last year could

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fast for five days is my reward less, more

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investment investment, we can ask the same thing who says it is less? Norfolk Hamdulillah? Who says yes, it is the same.

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Who say it's for sure more.

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So those who said more why.

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So why when I got sick, I'll get more reward than when you are fasting and you're not sick.

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Don't Don't mix up things. Cafaro has nothing to do with reward.

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and then he will get more reward for the person who's struggling and passing 15 hours.

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That reward very word is not from me or you.

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None at all. And Allah don't think Allah knows. However, however, your state with fasting or not fasting will dictate your reward. Because the person who is fasting, he is obeying, or she is obeying Allah and the person who is not fasting for a reason also is obeying Allah. Right? I just told you, the menstruating woman she wants to fast but Allah said no. If you are sick, if you're traveling and the travel puts hardship on you, you're absolutely allowed. Right? So these both the idea is the same.

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What makes that takes you and you really need to think of this. Everybody in this room, let's assume everybody will get hungry or healthy. And it's not Mr. Waiting day, and they're not traveling. So everybody in this room will fast right? hamdulillah are we all going to get the same reward? Aha, why not?

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Now your intention, they are fasting Ramadan for Allah, nothing to do within the never say intention. Because only Allah knows the intention. I never can judge your intention.

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But it depends what kind of fasting I am fasting. If I did not eat and drink from morning to evening, and I backbiting everybody, and I heard this, and I heard that, right. And the moment I broke my fast I start doing all the Haram things that alone when I'm fasting, then the only thing I got is hunger and thirst. Versus I am not fasting because Allah told me not to or I couldn't. But every moment of the day of the fasting, I'm obeying Allah subhanaw taala Are we the same?

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Or the person who's sick or menstruating huff and puff all day? why this happened? Why in Ramadan it's going to be too tough for me to make it out. And the person who's

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fasting is very difficult with everything but she's so happy it's Ramadan and She's fasting are they the same?

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So it is not the fact you're not eating and drinking.

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The fact is where is your heart?

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Are you a different person in Ramadan when you're fasting than when you are now?

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That's you answer

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does Ramadan really bring the best in you?

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Does Ramadan really changes you?

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Again don't say yes or no not to me because he's seeing me and he's seeing you so the person who fast and the person doesn't fast for a reason not fast doesn't doesn't fast just because but a valid reason they are both could be the same could be both higher could be both lower one could be better than the other

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which means the message for everybody

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what are you doing in your fasting

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and some of you may not have attended on Saturday there's three levels of fasting the fasting of everyone so Formula One everybody everybody don't eat don't drink don't have a relationship from this Fajr to sunset have everybody the whole millions that are fasting

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but then there's the second one. So how was the special what did that person fasting external what we need to fast from but they are fasting from every haram

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It shocked me your honesty and I don't mean you but I've seen it everywhere including in the Haram

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where people they broke their fast they come to the masjid whether here or there on the huddle.

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Right. And it's not easy even here, even if you live next to them as you there's still not easy, right? And you will come to the masjid or you will travel and you go to the huddle and taraweeh has been grabbed and I'm sitting and talking to my, the person next to me, let alone I'm backbiting people are talking negative about people.

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What kind of a fasting is what kind of coming to the masjid let alone I'm coming to the masjid and the masjid is mine. And I'm hurting everybody.

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I'm bringing my tea I'm talking to you. You know next to me imam is reading, qualia, a variety readiness stuff like that and forcing him you need to be crying. And I'm sipping my tea and talking to my friend in the masala

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so make sure you move everybody, at least I will say make it 30 days, but at least half of it. When you're fasting is the fasting of the special.

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You will not see her on, you're not going to break her fast and you're gonna sit in front of that TV, and you're gonna see all whatever they put there. Subhanallah how shaitan is operating these days, that the best Haram is in Ramadan. If there is a word called Best Home, but you know what I need?

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Right and people wait for it.

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Wait for it. People don't go for taraweeh to watch this and that everybody according to their age, whether it's on social media, whether it is with friends, whether it is with friends, whether it's in the masjid or outside. No, we're going to move it we're going to move to make it a fasting that I am going to fast from haram

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because fasting is holding is abstaining. That's the meaning of the word fasting is to abstain. I'm going to abstain from haram. Haram in my dress code haram in my word, the way I talk haram in the wasting haram in food haram in everything. I'm going to put the Haram as the filter in everything I do. Or I see you leave the merge again. I'm just assuming because I've seen it in other places. I don't haven't seen it yet. But you leave the masjid as everybody throw things on the floor who's going to clean after a while there is a cleaning person. That's why we donate lady. That's what you do for the house of Allah.

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If I come to your home, and that's what I do to your home, will you invite me again? What are you going to say about me when I leave?

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I come to your home. You invited me You're honored me you're cooked for me. Right? And then I eat and I throw everything on the floor? Let alone my child do that. What do you say? How can I do this in the house of Allah?

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It is not a party the tarawih is not party tarawih is one why it's called tarawih does anyone know?

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Why it's called tarawih? I said that yesterday in the young professional so don't answer.

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Why it's called tarawih.

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Why it's called Tom, anybody?

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Because you between every four? You take a break. That's called tarawih Why do you need a break? Because the hard work?

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It's hard work. Yanina Imam reads one pager everybody starts huffing and puffing.

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Right? They used to read long and you'll feel it. So you're coming.

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And the masjid have done so many things for you to make it comfortable. And then you deny TOEFL or the facade or I let my children title on the prasada don't do that, then you're not you're fasting is not special.

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You fast your fast is accepted hamdulillah but you're not special. Ordinary letter alone the highest level may Allah give me I always say it'll be one day of this. And then I'm ready to go back. And that is when you fast from anything other than Allah. Anything, you're not going to think about this and that will plan this and this you do your your usual what you need to do, but your heart is only focused on Allah subhanaw taala.

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So the question was, if I remember now, I think I want to is the reward the same for using the Messiah or for using the Quran? And do we get the reward the same if I cannot?

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Should I go to Tahoe stay home?

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That's the usual question I get.

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Where we're where you're there's three things. And again, I may be very direct with you today. But I really think we all need to hear it. Say the house has had a hadith after Roswaal the salatu salam died

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and I want every woman in

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about a woman coming from a woman coming from the most knowledgeable woman in the Islamic history.

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She looked at the woman in the masjid.

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And she said the following. She said, if I was to add a song to Sarah, we'll see what the woman did in masajid. He would have prevented them from coming.

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When I did this hadith, I say, let him come and see these days.

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Let him come and see these days.

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I come and dress as if I'm going to Walmart or I'm going to any grocery shop. It's the house of Allah.

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I come in and run and laugh and talk to people.

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It's the house of Allah. You don't do this in people's house. Now laughing talking on the phone, dress not properly for makeup, jewelry for fuel. Where are you going?

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Where are you going into the house of Allah is not going to make you closer to Allah this way. On the contrary,

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again, I'm not. I'm not talking about anybody, but we see it everywhere.

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It's becoming the norm. And that's what she said. Less than 50 years after the Roswell so

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she died she died more or less than 30 years after.

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If he saw what the woman did after him, he would have prevented them from coming to the masjid.

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And sometimes and I am absolutely with the woman coming to the masjid. Where will I learn my Deen? Where will I meet the Muslims? Where will I feel I'm not alone 20 in the masjid. But sometimes when I see what I see, I said she was right.

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Let's do it differently this year. Let's put a title to each one of us saying this to Allah, not to anybody. I am going to make this Ramadan, the best Ramadan of my life. And I'm not talking about fasting only. But I'm going to talk about my conduct everywhere. Even my conduct in my work place at school, let alone when I come to the masjid show Allah the bus study. Before you leave the house. Don't tell me I just came from work. You just came from work put something in your car. That when you look at the mirror, you say Allah I can pray with it.

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Change Masjid is the house of Allah. So is that are we better in the in the house or in the masjid?

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Technically, of course in the masjid because the Juma because praying with Jamar you will get 23 to 27 more. But if I'm coming to the masjid, in a in a way, shape, or form acting inside the masjid, this obeying Allah the no stay home.

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Stay home.

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Also, if you're a person where your heart will be more connected, some people say in the masjid and a good number of people say alone with Allah. That's you decide.

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But don't come please don't make a social gathering. It is not.

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Don't come to the masjid to meet your friends. Meet them after we

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meet them during the weekend. Meet them after Ramadan.

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Don't bring your chai, your you know and coffee and food. You will not be fasting a special.

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go against your knifes. Keep saying it yourself. As you're saying it. They will listen to you they will hear it. I am going to the house of Allah. I'm going to make this day the best thoroughly. I'm going to be sitting in that corner not speaking to anybody. I'm not taking my phone with me. I'm gonna leave it in the car. Nobody will die, don't worry.

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Honestly, any distraction phone is a huge distraction to all of us. I'm not going to take it. I'm going to leave it in the car. You are worried in the Toronto area and that break they give you go and check if there is anything really important. But don't put the I have seen it.

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They put it like that on I have seen it very recently. And unfortunately the woman left before I can talk to her. She picked it up insula looked at it. Don't laugh, it's painful. Honestly, don't laugh at anyone because I could be that person. And I'm not saying it to make fun of people. Maybe you don't do it but you may I may do something different. I may do something different even more.

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But you know what? That tells

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For me, I don't know what else do this what is the house of Allah is and what Quran is that's what Ramadan should teaches me come out of Ramadan and you have more of you glorified Allah way more.

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But you come and you do all of this what I just shared and again I have not done it in this Masjid but I've seen it in many places. Again, even in the huddle

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is because my heart is not there yet is my heart who moves me.

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Let alone the imam is reading and I'm tired and I'm sitting in the back chit chatting with my friends and letting my children roam around.

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And I'm not only bothering everybody but my children also is bothering everybody. Why? Why? What did I get over it? So please, coming to tarawih absolutely coming to the masjid. Yes, yes, there is a Hadith Salah Tamara trophy later Pharaoh masala Tia fee as Judy Harada he told the woman who came to him and says I love your masjid. And I love praying behind you. She said it to him the wife sad and he said no. Your sauna in your corner. Better than your Salah in the courtyard of your home and the Salah in your courtyard better than the salah and the masjid close to your home. He gave her like five options. Scholars will tell you when we are living in this day and age the only place that

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remind me of Allah is the masjid number one. Number two I go everywhere.

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Fight. I go everywhere. I go shopping, I traveling I visit my my friends I go to the coffee shop I go everywhere when it comes to the house to the masjid. Stay home. No. Because then I'm not connected with Allah. So yes, I am would definitely come into the Masjid. But you come be pleasing Allah, act pleasing Allah leave. And you have left a footprint in that masjid, that it will witness for you on the Day of Judgment.

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Think of it this way. Think of that. Every step onto going to the masjid, Allah will reward you. And every good action I did in the masjid, Allah will reward me.

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And now the masjid is not about to me, I'm not the only one. And be generous. Don't talk because it's going to bother other people not because I don't feel

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more rewards. I'm going to give my place I'm going to move a little bit, it's going to be a little bit discomfort, but it's okay. She's going to come in next to me a lot will make the place bigger. That's the mentality, the mentality of taking care of the others shoes, shoes, find a way that you don't have the shoes. Unfortunately, this is one of the challenges we have. Because how our Masjid is May Allah reward everyone who built it. But let me figure out a way I'm not going to put my shoes. And when I come how I'm going to walk,

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how I'm going to walk

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down, I'm going to figure out what I put it in my purse, a lot of people put it in their purse, bring

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a bag, put your shoes and put it in your purse, then you don't have to worry about outside. You know what I'm saying? Literally, I beg everybody, every step in Ramadan, every breath, you gonna make it an act of worship.

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Everything you do is pour Allah not only in the masjid not only in your house everywhere, and see what Allah will give you on the Day of aid. See what you will feel when they tell you tomorrow is

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you will be crying like a baby. Because you don't know if you're going to continue this way after. So please do that. And I really mean it. Because the effect of the masjid and the effect of taraweeh is I can't tell you, but unless I come with this

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the next one is new Muslims. You know Allah what questions I got this week. One lie say where Allah is going to ask me. Young woman came to me or after Saturday and she said I'm the only Muslim in my house. 2021 not too old. And she said I live alone. But now I'm going to come and live with my mother for whatever the reason, and my mother is a Muslim. And my mother is not very happy about me being Muslim and is going to be family coming and all my all her family is going to come for a meal for lunch. What do I do? If I tell her I'm fasting is going to be a big issue. See what issues we have

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anybody in this room have this issue.

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Everybody will tell you wake up for supper. All right, everybody will tell you wake up. First of all, it's Ramadan. Everybody push you to obey Allah. What do you say to this woman?

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Right, same question yesterday.

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They after they unprofessional I was like Pamela What are you teaching me Allah? Exactly the same question

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and you know what she said I wish I have a place just for this month alone. So I can worship Allah the way I want to.

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anybody in this room have this issue.

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So what do you say for the new Muslims because sometimes Milan for them is overwhelming.

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You're gonna say Don't tell her you have to come to Tarawera to finish Quran. One by one most important thing is you fast. Train yourself on fasting. May Allah make it easy to give her tips for making passing easier. Do your Salah on time. If you can come to the masjid hamdulillah if you cannot come to the masjid Alhamdulillah do anything extra at your home make it easy there are no Muslims they are not you and me

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Salah she doesn't know how much of the Quran what is he going to do and throw away

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all these issues we have no we have no problem with that and look at our CL I when I read when I Allah bring people to ask me this question. I say why my salah is not the at least salah of the special. And let's say I'm of this special. Why?

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I don't have any of these major obstacles, major obstacles. So for the new Muslims support them. If you know new Muslim, absolutely support them for each after them. Get them to your home. Break the fast with them. Maybe it's too much for some people find it overwhelming to come to the masjid. You and me is fine. But for them is overwhelming. What is this? I don't know what to do. They are so worried to do something very opposite us. They are so worried of doing something saying something that is not appropriate. Am I correct? Absolutely. Look at you and me must be this my house. So really, it will be very nice as a huge new Muslim group here. Reach out to them.

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That will be one of the things you do when you're menstruating. Don't worry about it. Take care of that new Muslim, bring them to your home, bring her to the masjid help her get out of a lot of things for sada teach her how to read the Fatiha. So for the new Muslims, what they do whatever you can do, the two obligations you need to do is fasting.

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Unless fasting becomes they're not used to it may make them sick, then that's a different story.

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But don't push them to what I like most of what I said with you. I'm not gonna say to a to a new Muslim unless they have been Muslim. They're not new anymore. If they have been 10 years and hamdulillah make them keep them strong. hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen.

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Can a woman lead taraweeh her tomb?

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Yes or no?

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Yes. That's the second Bismillah. Yes. Categorically dead, okay. Or now you change your mind?

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You can do that? Can tell me if somebody told me? No. Then I then you're not confident of your answer. Can she as a principle lead woman in Sudan? The answer is yes. Can she lead? taraweeh?

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Yes, if she is qualified,

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because everybody and again, that's one of the tricks of shaper.

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Some people wants to lead Why do you want to lead?

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Why do you want to lead?

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And you have to really dig inside you. I'm talking to myself before anyone is it so people say oh my God, Allah, she knows Quran? Oh Masha, Allah, she's a happy Allah. That's not for Allah. That will be against me.

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But if you're the only one who's qualified, then you have to, you're the only one not necessarily happy about but you're the only one who knows more Quran than anybody in that line, then yes, you do. And yes, you can. And it's may be sometimes better to do with at home with the group. If, again, the Masjid is small, or you have small children or your I can go I don't have a car wherever or simply I focus more. And the house is a lot of people see this. And if COVID taught us anything taught us what? The beauty of tarawih alone in the house. We never thought about it. We all I'm sure you all said no way I'm gonna do this. I've never done it. But then when you did it, I don't know

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how many of you I'm sure all of you have done it.

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When you did it, especially if you did it alone, you open the must have in front of you and just start trading. Different trading because it's harder.

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It's much harder to do with no

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nobody is pushing you know Imam saying Allahu Akbar.

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So here you go Tarawa who can do it at home? Yes, you can do it with your children. Yes. Can you lead the man?

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Most of the time? The answer is no. Absolutely no. Very few exceptions that I'm not going to get to the exceptions. But in general, the answer is no. The man has to lead you.

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Right? The man leads you and you follow. The man leads very short, he doesn't know a lot. Fine. Let him finish. And then you go to your room and read the whole Quran and make tarawih.

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But you can do it. Yes, you can.

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pregnancy and breastfeeding, I covered it. But I'm gonna say just in case, pregnancy and breastfeeding, like the person who gets sick in Ramadan, can you do it or you cannot do it? If it is going to harm you, then you have to break your fast. If because I get this all the time from my patient, but let's send them along. I was like, I know it is Ramadan.

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But it is hurting you, then you are disobeying Allah, if you're fasting.

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You this you obey Allah when you break your fast because he gave you the permission. Same thing with the breastfeeding. And then you can do it later on. The last question, I'm going to end up here. What about a from Milan is going to come? How many of you still have days to make up for previous Ramadan?

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Right? Absolutely. Right. Everybody's like that.

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Right? So the scholars default, what should she do?

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So everybody agreed, you have to make it up after Ramadan. But should she pay money? Because she deleted

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the default value?

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Some say yes. Why didn't she make it up before?

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And some says, You know what there is nothing says she has to make it up. That's actually Imam Abu Hanifa opinion. There is nothing said that she has to pay money, so we're not going to make her pay money. So it depends which school of thought the last but not the least, which is the million dollar question every year after Ramadan? Should I make up my my fasting or do Chawan? How many times you've heard this question every year? And the answer is

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Oh, Bismillah.

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Now I have 341 says combined who said combined?

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Yeah, Wally?

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Did you see my answer?

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You're waiting, literally, please don't listen to them.

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Think of it this way? And then you will understand the concept. Can you do so now with the first salah? Why not?

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Because first of all is fine. That's the same idea.

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You're making up the fasting of Ramadan, you're doing obligatory fasting, I can't combine it with the chawan Chawan is volunteered.

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Okay, so which one I do? Shaohua? Why?

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Depends don't give right away. Bullet answers. There is nothing. This is clear. It all depends. If you ask me, I'm gonna say how long is your cycle?

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You told me it's two days.

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Two days. Next, is there any issue? If you fasted eight days of the month versus six? You're married? For example? You're going for vacation? You're getting married? Right? Or you're having guests coming from overseas? The haven't seen them for years. You need to take into all this consideration? Is it going to be an issue? If you're going to fast eight days or you're going to fast 14 days? Seven you're gonna make up and six from Chawan if you say no, I It's my choice. Then I will say you start with your obligation. And then you do Shaohua

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I can't put whatever the reason then you do your show why first why?

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Because show why did they call it a bother to marketer, it's limited to the time once show I leave I can do I can bring show on again. So I do the show. Why do I have why it is I shouldn't say how, why it is highly recommended to to fast Chawan because you will be as you fasted the whole year, and Hustler be Ashati and 30 every good deed timestamp, you did 30 of Ramadan, that's 30 and then you do six of Shaohua that sick that six, that's 36 days, timespan 360. So don't belittle Chawan you cannot pass the first day of the eighth you will be disobeying Allah, It's haram. These are the days we cannot fast. But second day you can second third day whatever is but also don't leave with ice it

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also five days left from Shawa. I haven't started. I'm sorry, it's too late. I can't make sure we're 31 So think of it easiest to

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way is to do it. Monday Thursdays. If you are not used to continuous you can do six days together you can do two days a week and then every week to you do it the way you want there is nothing special way of doing it but definitely do your best to do it. Do your best unless there is really a reason for that.

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We're done with time hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen Subhanallah Houma will be Handicare shadow Allah in Agra and stuff we will cover today so Allah Allah say you know Muhammad, Allah Allah He was harvesting and Kathira any question I haven't covered? Yes. Oh the one you're in big trouble. Yes. This one

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so it's the site that was sold on

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before the Euro I was able to pass more

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I'm sorry, I didn't get your question. Bismillah let's say it one more time. So I have six days

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eight days to make up your mind.

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So suppose

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that I was able to pass more during the year okay.

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But I passed the duration where I consider them as the

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is the question everybody heard it? Everyone in this play? What is the answer for PA

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No, why don't don't do this to me. If you say no, you need to stand up and tell me why.

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I'm Bismillah that's how she said yes

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she can or she cannot

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that's not the right answer

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what is the right answer? You're right. She cannot. You're absolutely right. But the explanation is not like why

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you cannot can you pray before you're finished? Right? And then you say Oh, this is not going to be you finished? Not during you finished? And you say Oh, I'm going to change it. Oh, I'm going to go to the masjid and I'm going to pray well with the masjid Can you do that? You can go to the masjid but when you get when you pray with them as did you gonna pray with an ear off extra

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because you're doing obligation you have to really pay attention obligations very different than the extra is extra is I can fast Monday. I can make it Monday Chawan and I can make it any other reason for fasting let's say the Monday was what can be shower, let's say I am will be exactly like exactly. So the 1314 15 and it is one and it is Monday Can I do that? Yes, you can multiply the knee or for the non obligatory but once you do the obligatory you cannot that's why scholar said if you think you cannot finish the 15 days start with Chihuahua because she one is the time limited and see that it used to make up her fasting in Shaban but I don't recommend this because what happens is

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what everybody now everybody is going through panic. How much left from Shabana and I'm not supposed to fast after the last in the last two weeks of Charmin. I said yeah, you know, all this, why didn't you make it up earlier?

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What can I do?

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Right so you can change forum to sooner and you cannot combine it?

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Okay, clear everybody. hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen SubhanAllah moganda shadow and

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stuff we will cover today. So Allahu ala Sayidina Muhammad Ali Ali. He was habitus demon cathedra Jacques Mala had a couple of announcements for everybody. The first

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