Haifaa Younis – The Disease of the Heart Arrogance

Haifaa Younis
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The speaker discusses issues of pride and arrogance in Islam, including a woman who thinks she is a black man and her desire to "nails." They emphasize the need to start thinking about self-quarantine and socializing in order to improve one's image. The speaker also touches on diseases of the heart and how social media is making it difficult to stay focused on them.
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What is the disease of the heart?

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The number 1

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is what?

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Number 1. It's

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a pride.

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It's arrogance.

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And arrogance is number 1 when Allah created

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heavens and earth when shaytan

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did it

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and was expelled from Jannah

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How many of you here since you are

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Masha'Allah, very honest audience

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say

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it's me.

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Preeti, I'm moving.

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I'm moving to Detroit.

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What a community.

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Do you want me to expose you? Or

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let me ask you a question.

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How many are Arabs in this? I know

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I'm in Detroit, so this is one of

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the biggest Arab communities in the US. How

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many are Arabs or parents are Arabs?

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Right. How many are Desis as they call

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them?

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Wow.

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Desis.

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1

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tiger.

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I'll give you an example. This happened in

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front of me,

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and I'm not gonna say you again, I

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don't know you very well.

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So this is we were in the car.

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The person who was driving is an Arab.

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The woman

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sitting next to her is an Arab.

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So she get a phone call

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speaking in English,

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driving,

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another phone call speaking in English.

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3rd one,

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speaking in English. The other Arab lady looked

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at her and says, don't you have an

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Arab friend?

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And I, out of the curiosity, because I

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wanted to deliver the message,

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And I said why does she have to

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have an Arab friend?

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There's nothing wrong with having an Arab friend,

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but why it has to be an Arab

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friend?

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And I don't want to tell you the

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answer.

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That's arrogance.

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And daisies do it too. Don't you think

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it's only Arabs? Because I have friends from

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all over the world.

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The biggest problem

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when you are in Ramadan, remember this, Allah

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knows if I'll be alive, I'll see you.

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When you go to the masjid, wherever masjid

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you go, and when you I said this

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in the beginning,

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when you reserve

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the seat next to you,

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so your friend comes and sits next to

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you. Why?

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Why?

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You need the other woman who's gonna come,

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isn't she Muslim?

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Isn't she coming to please Allah?

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Isn't she coming to pray taraweeh? Why do

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you want your friend?

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Why do you get upset

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if that woman said I'm sorry, you can't

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resolve

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spaces in the masjid?

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Which she is absolutely right.

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Why? Why you get so now I'm gonna

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really say it.

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Right?

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If your daughter

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are you ready for this example? It's gonna

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hit you hard but that's okay.

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Cause you're a very good crowd. You're listening

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with your hearts. I see you.

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If your daughter

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comes

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and says

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mom or dad or both,

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I have this amazing Muslim

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that wants to marry me, and

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that man is

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African American.

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Silence

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that's arrogance.

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That's arrogance.

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Why?

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Because I think because I'm an Arab

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or

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Desi

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or white American,

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I am better.

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True or false?

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Let's be honest.

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Right? You know why I'm saying this? Because

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I do office hours, I meet with the

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community in California.

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And that's one of the biggest problems the

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young girl comes to me,

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or he is not from the same background.

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I had a mother comes to me,

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throwing

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fit.

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You talk to her. I said, what did

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she do? I thought she's marrying a non

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Muslim.

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Honestly,

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this is true. This is our community.

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These are people who come to Masajid I'm

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not talking about people who doesn't

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He's a revert

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And I said what is wrong with that?

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Or convert. Now, what is wrong with that?

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He says, la ilaha illallah

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All the Sahaba are converts.

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All

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Sahaba are converts. True or false?

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That's arrogance.

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Let alone

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Syrian,

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Palestinian,

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Egyptian

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come to the day see

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Kashmiri,

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Hadrabadi.

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Why?

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Erogance.

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That's arrogance.

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The first thing Islam did

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and that's how they changed the world

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is when they broke

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these barriers.

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And the number one

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or close to Allah

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the longest

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Nak

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was who?

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Hussein Abirad

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He was the caller of Kursa. They have

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the longest neck

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and he was

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slave.

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I'm gonna say the word black.

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Do you think if he proposed

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to say the Fatima,

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Rasul

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would have said no because he's black?

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Alhamdulillah,

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you all are feeling it.

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Ittaqollafi

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banatikoo

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This is what I'm gonna say because you

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are a very tight community.

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Have awe from Allah

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when it comes to marriages.

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It doesn't matter who is he, they are

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all American.

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I even don't say that. I say they

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are all

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servants of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

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As long as they say da'ilahadaba,

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Otherwise, that's a no for sure.

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I don't guess.

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Literally, what

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I see, it's like I can't believe it.

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Number 1. Number 2,

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especially women, I'm gonna be very honest,

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self admiration.

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You make sure you praise yourself

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indirectly.

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True or false?

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I wanna hear it.

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I wanna hear it. You're all laughing because

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it's true.

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And how is that?

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How do I praise myself? Every

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age

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has their own way Are you all with

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me?

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Okay.

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High schoolers,

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how do they, how do they praise themselves?

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High schooler,

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16 or 17

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How does she or he praise himself?

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Praising his parents Oh, do you know what

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my dad does?

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Oh, do you know what car my father

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drive?

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College.

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The bragging

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about which college

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they are going. You know what I say?

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Because I say it in my nieces and

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nephews. I said, did Allah

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send you a message

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saying

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that whoever goes to the league colleges

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is going to Jannah?

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If that's the case, I'm gonna be killing

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myself to go to one of them.

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But because it's bragging,

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If your daughter or son, ulillahi alhamd, there's

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nothing wrong with that, that's fadullah, that's the

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grace of Allah, God accepted to one of

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them.

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In Yale

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or Harvard,

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you make sure

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in a conversation,

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you bring it to tell

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people, you're son or daughter in this

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college. Why?

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Why do I have to do that?

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Why?

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Because indirectly, I'm praising myself. They are my

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children.

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You wanna get a woman upset, a mother

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upset?

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Say something negative about their children.

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And some I know

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what the children does.

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I know they came and talked to me

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and the mother praised them as if they

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are angels

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because she's praising herself.

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Self admiration.

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Simple one, you all gonna feel this one

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even if you don't have children.

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Cooking.

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Everyone think they are the best chef,

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and they take these pictures

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and post it on social media.

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Why?

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Honestly,

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very recently, I ordered someone. Can I take

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a picture? They were in my house. I

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said, why?

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I really meant it. I really mean it

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because we we need to start thinking.

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I said, why do you want to take

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it? She said, it's beautiful. I said, Jazaq

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ilaha illa qayyah. But why do you want

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to take a picture and put it on

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social media?

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Is it going to get me to jannah?

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This is the question that each one of

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you has to ask herself.

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If this is gonna get me to Jannah,

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I will fight you with swords

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on it.

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But it is not.

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If anything, it's probably gonna push me away

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from Jannah.

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Self admiration.

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Salathun Muhlikaat

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Rasul alaihi sata wasalam said 3 things that

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is a destroyers.

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3 things, destroyers. Look at his words.

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3 destroying things, he said. Falathunmuhlikat

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shuhanmuka'a

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wahawanmuttaba

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waajabalmaruibinafsi

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3 things will destroy you, meaning destroy my

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good deeds destroy my relationship with Allah

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Jannah becomes way too far from me. Where

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are they You Rasoolullah? He said, shuham mubba,

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miserness, which is one of the diseases.

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Don't do that. Don't teach her. Don't give

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her. Don't donate.

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I hear it and I follow it.

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Not I fight it. He said shuhun muta'

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Muta meaning I do it.

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And

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hawan muttaba, my inclination. I like it, I

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love it, everyone else is doing it, what

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is wrong with it?

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And the third one,

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when somebody, I praise

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myself, I think I'm the best,

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and I get very upset

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especially this is for the youth here

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when they don't praise me and praise my

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friend.

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Now putting you on the test

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putting you at the test

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when someone prays somebody

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and they don't praise you, you know what

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should you say?

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Alhamdulillah they don't know my shortcomings.

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Alhamdulillah Allah concealed it.

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So diseases of the heart, number 1 is

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arrogance,

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number 2 is self admiration,

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ostentation.

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Show off how the third one

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show off, which I shared it with you.

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Praise your children. Show the house.

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Show your furniture. Show your beauty. And and

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again, social media

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is making it very hard on us

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to stay focused on Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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I'm not against social media. Most of you

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know me from social media.

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But when I use it to please Allah

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Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,

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it's gonna be for me on the day

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of judgement. I'm gonna say You Allah, I

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had that Instagram.

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I did not post anything on that Instagram

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except what pleases you. I want my reward.

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Yes.

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But Instagram and make somebody sad

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and make somebody feel low,

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don't.

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