Haifaa Younis – Put Allah Number One in Your Life – I Journey to Taqwa #3

Haifaa Younis
AI: Summary © The importance of strong relationships with Allah is emphasized, including praying on time and not giving up on obligations. The Arabic language uses "use the word" in Arabic to indicate a person or something, and the importance of maintaining a strong connection with Allah is emphasized. Backbiting and punishment of discomfort are also discussed, and students are advised to study their subjects and not to blame anyone for their behavior.
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Question. How many of you wants Allah to love her?

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Show me hands. Everybody.

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Like, is it possible?

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Oh man, I love that man who said that highschool love it. Okay, and she says in Arabic of course Bismillah she's absolutely right. How's that?

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What do I need to do?

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What do I need to do?

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Anyone? Yes.

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Every action you do with your intention? No.

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Because I'm going to quote the hadith of Rasul Allah salatu salam so have you got to see actually how

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one I can I don't know who's speaking. I'm sorry. I said

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no, no, no. How that hadith is not small changes. This hadith is gives you the bottom line as we say in America

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is going to you want to Allah to love you. You really want Allah to love you. Let's do the following one two and three who knows them

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no that's the verse in the Quran a tabby only Yes

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I can hear you

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haha Marta call Robert layer of DB che la Mata to who Ali? This is I'm going to translate the Hadith so his quotes he said to me the there is nothing will bring my servant close to me. So there is no love yet. There is no love yet. Now you know when you like someone you all have done that you met somebody and he's like, I like that person. So let's see how long can I know him? Now you're all laughing because you felt it handedly? Good. So the Hadith explanation will be very easy.

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So the first step for the love of Allah subhanaw taala. Of course there's exceptions to the rule but the general

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is I need to get close to Allah first. There is no law Viet.

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There's no law from the two sides. I'm just going to try to get close. I'm removing the barricades. Matt Acaba, Ilya demand mafia, there is nothing will bring my servant he or she, to me, humpback day you're more beloved to me, Allah speaking more beloved to me Minmatar to who Allah you

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nothing will bring my servant close to me, other than the obligations. So this is the first big title

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obligation obligations. What are the obligations? I know what you're going to tell me? Salah

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are fasting Ramadan I know Allah I know will fasting Ramadan was the QA if I have money or Hajj if I can go, that's it. My Allah, this is very easy.

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Everything. Every, there's no exceptions here. Everything Allah says do.

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Do that's an obligation. And listen to the next. And everything Allah says, don't. You don't do it.

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Anything and everything Allah says do, do pray on time, do pray five times a day do that's do. Treat your parents with excellence do

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be perfect in your work, do be patient do. These are all obligations. The list is not five, and is not six and is not 10 learn them. Because every minute, I'm exposed to an obligation

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and don't

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when he says don't

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lie to just assume when he says don't spy on each other

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phone, including your spouse or your children.

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Then when I do it,

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I disobeyed Him major by the way.

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When I say I'm dining and the phone in front of me, and I have doubts in me

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whether the spouse is doing something that is not allowed, or the children and it's in front of me, and I say no. It's not pleasing to Allah.

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Then you're on that path. And these are obligations when Allah says don't backbite and Allah says don't lie. When Allah says treat your parents with excellence. When Allah says don't steal all these all these and don't eat haram all these are known so it's the nose and da

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do you think that will bring the love?

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Not yet? Not yet.

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Second is

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What is Allah Abdi Letta caribou, Elijah and my servant? Continue this journey of getting closer to me, Liza. It's a fairly mobile era is a form of a speech in the Arabic language means the current and the future is not a past sentence. It's a present sentence in the Arabic language when we you use this form, it means something. I'm going to do it today and tomorrow. Like I said, it's a process. It's not only today because I came to the lecture. Now I learned I'm going to go back home and I'm going to do everything and tomorrow hellos. No, continue, which means I'm going to feel and I'm going to get up.

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And I'm going to ask Allah for forgiveness. And I'm going to continue.

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Now you continue now the Love is coming.

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When I as I have the Takara Buddha, you have been Nawaz and you have to do the extra. Don't tell me it's Sana.

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When I see woman running after ma robe, and I'm seeing in masajid. I'm not talking about outside. And I say why you're leaving? What about the total cost after model? She looks at me says Son.

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Then don't talk about love of Allah.

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Why don't you fast Monday and Thursday.

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And sometimes we work and most of you who work you know, we don't have time to eat. This is but it's not an obligation. This is how they tell me. But it's not the Ramadan. I was like Wallahi I know when is it on mobile?

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Then don't talk about don't talk about love of Allah is not there.

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That's the Hadith. And you continue not do it what one or two continue and different. As as one of the scholars used to say be a hunter of a good deed. There is a fundraising you're the first one going, somebody needs to pick up you go and do it. Someone needs an advice you do it. Somebody send you an email for a question you don't know how to answer. So just a second, I'm going to link you with somebody. That's all good deeds. While I as I know have the Takara Bula you're gonna continue doing this morning to evening, day and night. Now comes the moment had that or homeboy? Then Allah who loves you?

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What is the sign Allah who loves you? And I read it when people telling me I know Allah loves me. I was like, please tell me.

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How do you know? One life I know Allah loves me I want to go back before he changes his mind Subhana

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wa hibel Now look at the signs when Allah loves you. Nothing to do with dunya nothing to do with money, nothing to do with degree, nothing to do with beauty. Nothing to do with status. This is in the sight of Allah is zero fee that I have up to when I love him or her and this is one of the DUA you have to do it for yourself and remind me just to teach you the DUA at the end fee that had to go into summer holiday yes malby it become his hearings.

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While masala hula the absurdity and I become his eyesight

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wired the whole lotta who will be her and the hand that he use another for narration? What is the whole lithium Sheba and the foot or the feet that he walks with?

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Now the sign

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Wallah insulin salmonella all three and one he or she asked me, I'll give it to her. And he used here those of you who know RB two QID he used a form of emphasis every tool of emphasis in the Arabic language you use the tear, Wallah insulin de la or Atlanta is used llama Tokyo noon Toki use two things.

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You turn to Allah and ask him something. But you have worked so hard by doing all the obligations all lots of continuous extras. You say your Give me this moment here we'll give it to well let me start and Isla or Eden and when he seeks refuge in Me, I'll give him the refuge. I'll give you this story and then we'll take the break. This is true. I lived it. I was in Makkah this is probably almost 18 years ago. As a young girl next to me. We were doing get decaf in the huddle. Last 10 days of Ramadan. Last 10 days of Ramadan. I can tell you

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if you find a place to pray Alhamdulillah no food. It's so hectic. And this girl was doing real Attica didn't leave the home except she goes to the bathroom. I was with her 2122 year old

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After us or if you are in Makkah, and the Haram, then places becomes impossible. This girl, anyone comes in looking for a place she says come on in LA holla Tality Come on, come on, sit next to me. Even people starts complaining about her

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honesty, and then just before Muharram or you're now ready, you know. And she disappeared.

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I was like, Where are you going says Haram is big Allah will give me a place and she disappeared.

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What did she do?

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An extra is very few will do it. Almost nobody will do it in the huddle.

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See how one she asked Allah what He gave her. I witnessed this. This was the night either 28 or 20 Nights. Yanni it gets very tiring at the end, no food, bacon, anything they give you eat. Usually it's bread and cheese. It's we finished to her dude. It was about 330. Exhausted, she looked at me and says she was Egyptian. And she says in the Egyptian Stankey a fat nifty Flama I am dying for a piece of meat. Because this is you really get to the point you're really hungry. Walleye, and I saw this with my own eyes. She didn't finish it. A woman comes in. Of course now after I lived in Saudi now I know wedding completely black carrying a plastic container. It's usually a box. That's very

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common for the local. We don't know this woman. She can sit next to us in front of me. She was here. And I was here. The woman came and sat next to me in front of me.

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And she didn't open clutches by Allah. You're gonna eat this. This was cooked at home, which is almost impossible to let you in. She opened it.

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What was it? Meatballs.

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I looked at her and I said why didn't you ask for Jana?

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Honestly, I was like, who cares about meat.

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I'm gonna go and eat tomorrow, the day after

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that hadith was in action. I remembered that hadith when? Because I was I witnessed her I saw her. And then I heard that she doesn't know that. I told her later on. I heard her. She was just married maybe two years, no children. I heard her in her sujood begging Allah for a child. She has twins

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what what did you do to have the love of Allah? And I gave you a real example. As I said this to myself and I one time I said it to somebody was, I wouldn't say bragging but talking about whatever they did for Allah.

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And I said, What did you give up for Allah?

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Give up not something you can't or you don't love, you will love it. But you gave it up for Allah. Thus what brings the love of Allah that's what will get you at the end of the road.

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At the end of the road, you have path this you know, where are you You took the steps, you're serious, you fall you get up, no problem. You start removing haram from your home, home number one, and then you remove what you like, but they are taking you away from Allah and you put a lot number one, in your actions in your deeds, in your words in your law in your life, and wait for miracles afterwards. Subhanak Allahumma Handicare shadow Allah EDA Haglund a Sufi rocoto boudic So Allah Allah see now Mohammed, while earlier he was high with esteem and cathedra I'm going to ask you are more than 1000 women in this room. So if you're going to leave and come back, it will take a lot of

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time. Just stand a five minutes to stand up. Take a breath if you want to drink your water, but don't leave because it's it's going to be very difficult to come back. We have to empty this room by nine Smilla Al Hamdulillah poor salatu salam ala Rasulillah while earlier he was talking he will Manuela La Molina miam founder on fina Bhima Alam tena, in Accra, Simeon would you would da la Mignon will you become an enemy lanpher or Kobe? lyac Shaolin of Silla? Teshuvah What do I lose my Robin Allah to Zulu, wanna bother it Hardanger now why blonar? Mila, don't call Rama in Nikka intello hub, or be Shockley, Saudi wastes li Omri Johanna lock the Tammy Lisa Annie of Coco coli.

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Very good question for everybody. Because this is very common. How many of you are the same person as you were in Ramadan?

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Very unlikely. Right? So this is the question. How do you maintain or how do we maintain the connection with Allah

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Law when sometimes you feel or we feel you are very connected, and other times you do not feel you're connected. So true. Even sometimes in the same day

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like you go to bed you pray Eurasia and you're so connected. You are in your Salah, you're, you're connected, you're feeling good, you're crying, you're Institut you're asking Allah, you see you feel Allah is looking at you. And then Subhanallah you go to bed and then you wake up in the morning and you're struggling to get up for Fudger in Allah knows, you probably missed it. So this is the sign number one less fun, what is the sign that I am connected to Allah? And how do I know at this moment? I am not when the disobedience of Allah becomes easy, let alone enjoyable. And at that moment, don't say I am not all the time. At that moment. My connection is zero actually. Because he

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said Italie salatu salam Lai is the movement one more movement. The believer will not commit Zina, when he or she is in a state of iman.

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So yes, when I disobey Allah, my connection is weak. Or none. And when I am enjoying my act of worship, or I love it, or I want to do it and do more, you're connected. This is what they tell you.

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Number one, before I say what do you need to do? What changes the connection?

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What makes the connection weaker?

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pay attention.

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Just pay attention. Don't look at people don't say Oh, I know. Don't worry about others. We're gonna go to Allah alone. Focus on me. And you focus on you.

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See when you want and I always say this very simple.

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At the end of the day, let's say you are in a gathering,

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right or you are sitting with your family, not necessarily with other people. And what you were talking about was pleasing to Allah.

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Or it was not without going into the details. See when you are we're talking about something pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala

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when the time for Salah comes in a Salah is the biggest monitor

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it's the biggest litmus paper because Salah is connection with Allah here the word Salah origin of it is Mina Syria from connection. So when Salah is important to me, I am connected. Why Salah is not important, let alone I don't do it.

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Then my connection is almost zero. I didn't say zero but almost.

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And then let's see the same with a family. But the talk was all displeasing to Allah no need for details. You know it? I shouldn't have said that. Why did I say this? And see your Salah al Iman, this is now coming to Arcadia to creed Al Imam uz Duang cos Eman increase and decrease we all know that. As Carlos has How does it increase and decrease? Izzy Dubois will also be Marcia increase with acts of worship. obedience to Allah and decrease when we disobey Allah. You walk in that street now you walk when you've come out. And you're going to see all this disobedience to Allah in front of us. You keep looking at it, see what will happen to your heart, you will lower your gaze and you say

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your Allah, please remove this and see what will happen when you are outside.

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So it is absolutely true. The connection changes most of the time, if not all the time. The reason is me. Don't blame it again or anybody. Don't blame me too are so good and blaming others is nothing to do with them. Why did I respond to them? Why did I listen to them?

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So when I feel now, okay, I feel the connection is weak. What should I do? Get yourself up and do an act of worship.

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From everything I shared with you before the break, pick up the Quran and just read three four verses.

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Look at something beautiful and Say Subhan Allah, Ya Allah, who are you? This is your creation. That's an act of worship.

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This is difficult. This is contemplation on the creation of Allah and you live in a city full of beauty. Just the flower Subhanallah natural

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I mean the

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other day I went for a walk in Kingsport What is this? It's beautiful Subhan Allah I literally I was my mind was blown your Allah You know what I said? Who are you? This is all your creation different colors, different sizes, natural, natural isn't human beings had nothing to do with it. They just brought it from different parts of Australia put it in that park.

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This is an act of worship.

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You felt your connection weak, leave the house go out and just look around you and contemplate this act of worship.

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So you need to do two things. What makes my Eman weaker? Remove it, and when it tweaks brings things that will inject it. I hope this is clear. It's very easy, but you know why we because we don't know it Subhanallah Oh, there is what is an idea? That is? Yep.

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I'm not going to ask you for it. But you need to do it.

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Maybe the best thing is this doesn't have it

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okay. So, please elaborate on backbiting

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I knew which will hit home hamdulillah

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if we discuss now, this is real scenarios actually. And this is our life. If we discuss a person who you want better for and describe their bad characters, is this as LIBOR is this is backed by tick.

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What is backbiting?

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Muslims. What is backbiting? I'm asking a question.

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Define backbiting

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really, so.

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So you leave now and you said she was amazing is that but now she changed her mind

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just a sec defined actually defined the Rosa de salatu salam, the crew he can be my Accra Isabella.

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Your four things. The Kuru Africa. Be Maya Cara De Croo. A he can be my acleda. Bulava mentioning your brother or sister someone human being not animal human being be my across things that he doesn't like.

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What if he hears it, meaning he's not there?

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So as I say, it's a saying it's a saying about someone.

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That's something that I'm saying is not good.

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Without His presence.

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That's backbiting clear. So if I if you leave and you say you know what? The sisters

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okay. You say Fatima was in the and you people know whose Fatima Fatima was in the gathering, and amazingly, how she understood and she helped me understand. That's not backbiting.

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You mentioned her without her presence, but this was something good.

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Versus she kept talking and I couldn't understand the thing.

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That's Backbiting is true.

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And you need to know this is true. She kept talking. But this backbiting and if you said something without her knowledge, and it was not true, that slander

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you know what slander?

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What is the punishment of slander in Islam?

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At lashes in public

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Are you sorta to know

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Islam is a religion really protect society and protect human rights. No one has the right to put another person down.

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even if you are whoever you are.

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So this is backbiting so here's the question is someone

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now we have a face ID now do

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I'm gonna do face ID Are you sure it's not gonna do the

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insha Allah okay. So, that question is not in the first one because it moved IRA that.

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So when do I

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say something that is backbiting but it's allowed

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very few

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We're circumstances, and we don't do it.

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So interesting. We don't do it. It's not my business. Why do I want to get there? Someone,

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for example, you're a single woman, and a man came for proposal whether to you, your daughter, right? And you come to me, I know this man very well. And you say, what do you think of this man?

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I know, he has this and that is not I heard, I've seen it as like, I'm missing out my business, I'm not going to get there, or his family, you will get upset.

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And I'm not gonna say anything

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that I disobeyed Allah here,

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is not an open invitation.

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And you don't like this man. And now my opportunity.

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That's not it. I'll give you an example to another true story. I was there actually,

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is a chef was asked about a very religious man. He knows him very well. And he was proposing to this person relative. And he said, Yeah, sure. What do you think of him?

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I was there.

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And I was like, let's see what he will say. I know he knows him very well.

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Look what he said. He said, He comes from a country

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where men are very well known to have a temper.

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What did he say?

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He's a man of temper.

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He should say it because this is very important. But the way he said it.

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So backbiting, you are mentioning a person, either don't mention the name.

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Somebody with me at work. The other day I was in a gathering Don't say a detail. Don't mention a name. That's not backbiting the moment you mentioned the name. It's backbiting.

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May Allah forgive us?

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And we live in a day and time even outside Muslims is the norm. I go for round in the morning. First thing is good morning. What is the gossip of the day?

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Was like your love make it easy?

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Right, honestly.

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Is it worth this is a good question. I get it a lot actually. This is why I'm Japan law is it's worth doing a medical degree or study the Dean as it will be hard to do to balance them both.

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Who said so?

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How many people take two degrees? You know, don't worry about Dean. How many of you you know people have more than one degree?

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How many show me hands.

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So why it is not difficult when it comes to taking a PhD in art so PhD in law

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nobody asked me these questions.

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So interesting. Is it true? And you know somebody comes to you and says oh, I took a master's in something and I'm doing another Master's. Oh, Mashallah.

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If I come to you, and I heard this, I heard it to me. If I come to you and I say I'm studying show ya why

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I really hurt it in my face.

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Who's gonna hire you?

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Tomorrow? How much they will pay you more?

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Why do you need it?

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Because May Allah forgive us all. We look at the deen as unnecessary extra.

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Versus if somebody has two PhDs?

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Can you do them both? Absolutely. Maybe you cannot do them both at the same time? Because in general, you can do medical degree with another anything else, let alone studying Islam.

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So you do either first or either you do medicine first and then Sharia or Sharia first and medicine. But absolutely. All the Muslim Scot nuts called the Muslim science, the Muslim

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pioneer that discovered everything in the good times. You all know all of them. All of them. Nobody. Nobody studied anything before they were they memorized the Quran.

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Nobody studied anything. You know, science, astronomy, medicine, whatever. without studying Sharia was the norm.

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What happened to us? We must and don't blame anybody. We must him

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I look down at studying Sharia.

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If your son

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and he got accepted into whatever college to study medicine, he looks at you and says Mom, no. I want to go and study Islam. What are you going to say?

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