Fatima Barkatulla – Aisha (RA) – Mother of the Believers #11

Fatima Barkatulla
AI: Summary © The Nationalator's life and scholarship are discussed, including the rise of the Hara defense, the rise of children in school, and restrictions on children's art projects. The speakers also discuss the historical significance of "ma'am" being a woman and her family tree, as well as the use of water skins for praying and the importance of protecting oneself from potential embarrassment and fear. They stress the need for people to avoid embarrassment and avoid sexual behavior in public, and stress the importance of avoiding physical contact and highlighting relevant deeds in publicity.
AI: Transcript ©
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I shall. I shall.

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I shall I shall

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she was

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peace be upon him. We

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are amazing father.

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Rahim al hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam rubbish radically sadly it was silly unbraid wash loo look the Tamil assignee of Coco Lee. Their sisters a Salam. Wa Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. And welcome to this 11th session of the life and scholarship of I show Ilana

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How's everybody doing?

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Is everybody okay?

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How are things wherever you are in the world?

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Would you say lockdown is pretty much over?

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London is pretty much over I mean,

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nobody's nobody's really taking any notice anymore. What the government saying?

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I don't think not much.

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There are some rules still that people are supposed to follow. But I think the the rules keep changing so often that you know, it's hard to keep up.

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Okay, just waiting for some more people to join us if they want.

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inshallah, we will begin. So this session, we're going to,

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I'm going to answer some of the questions that were left over from last time, or that people had emailed me after the session. And then

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we're going to look at the

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incident of tiamo you know, because we're talking about the different facets of eye shadow Dylan has personality and her life and her contribution and one of those is that

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they'll actually verses of Quran revealed due to her right.

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And um, and then if we have time, we will go into the

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you know about the verses of hijab when they were revealed.

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And if not, then we will cover the verses of hijab next time.

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And then go on to

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I think we'll go straight on to the relationship of Ayesha with her co wives.

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And the Hara defense will ask as well after that. So inshallah we still got a lot to look forward to. One of the sisters is saying anterior has its borders closed, schools closed, no. fudger no Juma in the masjid. So Pamela

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Birmingham is in lockdown.

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Yeah, here in London with when it comes to the massage. People are just, you just have to book a place. And it's pretty much men only and you know, they have to book a place to go to most of them massage it. And if they don't get a space, then you know, they can't. They have to find some alternative arrangement

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for Joomla

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hamdulillah on this is saying it's so much better to watch this live upon the love made it to this week. Is is better? I hope. Okay.

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Yeah, because what happens is, apart from the fact that it's it feels much more direct, the quality is probably better as well, because for some reason, when

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zoom records these, it kind of degrades the quality of the video slightly. So when we upload it to YouTube, it's not as good as you know, the actual quality of the

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actual zoom

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broadcast itself. So.

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Okay, so we've got some questions from last time. One of the questions actually, this was like two sessions ago, and I had made a note of this question, but I didn't answer it last time. Somebody was asking about Is it okay to do children's illustrations? Right, and that sort of came? Because we were talking about I think we were talking about eyeshadow, playing with dolls. And although they would have been very crude, you know, dolls, not like very, very not like Barbie doll.

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today are very detailed and all of that. Still, the concept is the same, right. But,

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dolls are basically sort of like a copy of a likeness of a living thing, right?

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we were saying that the rules are relaxed when it comes to children,

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even though islamically, you know, making images, and especially making statues and, you know,

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those kinds of images, and also portraits is not allowed, you know,

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the, when it comes to children, and making things for children, and then the rules are a bit more relaxed. And that's what the question was about. So one of the sisters said, Okay, if it's okay for children to play with those things, is it okay for us as Muslims to actually draw? draw those things? Right, like, be like a children's illustrator, for example. And I did some research, and this question has been asked quite a lot online. So I'd encourage you to have a look at any kind of reputable

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Islamic, you know, website where they collect a tower. Yeah.

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If you want to look it up yourself, but basically,

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it is, as I mentioned, you know, so basically, because

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making cartoons, making drawings for children's educational and recreational material

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is permitted, based on the permission of making buying and giving dolls to children, right.

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And that's something which in the Hanafi books is definitely, you know, endorsed.

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You know, giving dolls for children. So, then just make an analogy with cartoons and things like that. Yeah. And also,

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not not just in the Hanafi madhhab. But also, if you look at

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some of the other

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scholars and what they've said,

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Yep, so this is the same thing, basically, you know,

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that children are allowed to give them dolls, and therefore, it's okay to make cartoons for them. And it's okay to make,

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you know, basically human images, etc. for them.

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So, yeah, I hope that's clear to everybody. So what that would mean is,

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once they get to a certain age, then should start discouraging it. And also we shouldn't that doesn't mean that every type of drawing is allowed. So making portraits of human beings no black people do when they go to art classes or things like that. That would also not be allowed making sculptures.

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Okay, so what about another question that was that came last time or somebody sent me was what about it shows mother's side of the family. Like we covered the family tree on the father's side? What about the mother's side? I don't I didn't really have time to go and really go to town and research and like draw charts or anything like that for the mother's side. But I'll just give you some basic information about that. So Oh, man, we said she has been to Ahmed been way more even zuhal even the man Akina Nia now the by Nuki Nana they are basically one of the ancestors of the prophets of Salaam one of the descendants of smile a Salaam right they are clan descended from it's my Elisa Lam

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through a lady that he married

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Okay, and basically

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Yeah, so she's from that clan, she her her family tree would meet the family tree of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam they're,

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you know, says quite far back so she's not from perish but

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you know, she's from the monkey Nana. And

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she was married before

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boubakeur to Abdullah bin and Harris been such as the

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and he was somebody who had migrated to America and

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When he migrated to America, he was friends with America and he

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formed an alliance. So they had this system where you would you would like, have some kind of alliance with somebody within the city in order to be given like, was almost like a seems like it was almost like a visa, or some kind of protection, you know, some kind of backup almost. So, he had an alliance with boubakeur siddik. And so when he passed away, when what was his name, it's hard to keep up with all of the names of Filipino Hadith in Sahara, but when he passed away,

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then abubaker, married

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on Roman, and before she married her because she had a son, with Abdullah. And his name was to fail bin Abdullah.

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And he became Muslim, before the hegira, so this would be Arusha, and of the Romans. So Romans, two children from Albuquerque, a shrine of the Roman right there, half brother,

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was to fail to fail, shared a mother without a shot, and of the Roma, but not not a father.

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And he became Muslim.

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in Mecca before he was a Sahabi. And I had didn't have time to find out any more about him. But if any of you do, you know, then please feel free to share it with us. And maybe that I could set that as homework. I don't know what your research skills are like.

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Um, but probably he's somewhere in car alarm Annabella.

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he's definitely going to be I believe he narrated Hadith as well. So he was probably in the

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books of religion.

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So if I get a chance, I will look him up in more detail. But if any of you have research skills, you know, and you could do a bit of research on to fail. He's not, doesn't seem to be a very famous hobby. So you know, I've never really heard of him before this.

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But it seems that he was just a hobby and it will be so interesting to know more about him. So if you manage to do the research, then please send it to me My email address is contact at Fatima barkatullah.com. Contact at Fatima barkatullah.com and spelt, contact at and then fit ima BARK at ULL a.com. Yeah, contact at Fatima rukhsana.com. So there's no h okay. Sometimes people right agent, my email address and then doesn't get to me.

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Okay, so I hope that's clear. If I get a chance, I will look into him even more, because I'm quite curious now about him.

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So just like we love him for those questions. Now we're going to talk about them. All right. So we we talked about how I shut down her, you know, relationship with the profits on the loans alone, we looked at her personality traits. And some aspects of her personality, that obviously we don't know her personally, and we're not in her head. So we don't know, we can't really do a

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personality test or anything like that. But I think of all of us her, but she is one of those who know a lot about in her own words. Right. So I think what that does is it gives us a unique insight into the way she thought and Subhan Allah later, when we look at how the fertile if you're gonna be like, Well, you know, there are aspects of her personality and her good other been a good

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you know, mindset, I would say, that really come out, you know, during that time, because I think, wouldn't you agree that when we're put under a lot of pressure, when really difficult times come around, that's when our true personality comes out. Right?

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And so you can see from the title if aspects of her personality, you know, so we did a little bit of a personality test last time when we identified where I shot where we think I showed it on how it would probably be in the five big personality traits. If you missed that then you can watch

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I think part 10 right part 10

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of this class, which is available on YouTube for the on the on our channel and it will be on my channel soon, too.

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Okay, so

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one of the things that we know about actually delanda that we can, you know benefit from is that she used to beautify herself for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. You know, and I'm mentioning these things because

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and I also want to mention that she used to serve the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam, she used to do housework. The reason why I'm mentioning it is because sometimes in our eagerness to impress the West, right, and to impress, like, our Western sensibilities, especially,

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we highlight the fact that look, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam used to serve, you know, he used to do it, he used to serve his family, he used to

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do chores, right.

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And I mentioned that in one of the previous classes, and then we forget to mention that actually, the wives as well, they will Subhanallah they, they had really hard lives, actually, you know, they,

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if you wanted to make bread, you didn't just go to the store and get some bread, right? You literally had to grind. First of all, you had to buy the wheat, you tab the wheat or grow the wheat. And then you would have to, you know, process it, grind it.

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And then, you know, you'd have to have fuel to make bread. Right. So Pamela, it's like a such a big deal for them. Right. And

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so I should have been, I would have done that. Right, she would have done

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she would have served the profits and loss of them. And what that shows us is that,

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you know, there is honor, in service, there's honor in being a wife in being a family person. And being a homemaker. You know, sometimes we lose that

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realization, you know, in our times, that the best of creation, he used to do housework, used to do chores, and best women, they used to serve these to serve their husbands to look after their homes. They used to have to work hard, right?

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And part of being a good wife is also taking care of the way you look right? Taking care of your parents beautifying yourself in front of your husband, right. And I shut up Dylan has seemed to take very good care of that. And she used to have a dress we know that from the narration she's to have a dress special dress that she used to borrow from her. Sorry that other people used to borrow from her. Right? Because it was known to be such a nice dress. And we also know that she used to borrow her sister.

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Her necklace, she used to borrow it and it was an onyx necklace. So onyx is like

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a black, very dark black stone. I tried to get one actually to show you guys but I couldn't really find a really good onyx necklace online.

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That was like available. So inshallah if I get a chance I'll try and get one but you can look it up. So she has to have this onyx necklace that she's to borrow from a smart and this onyx necklace is like HoloLens like a symbol now it's become like an iconic symbol of eyeshadow delana because due to this necklace, so many things happened, right? And I shed the light on her. Let me read the narration. She says that the necklace of a smart was lost. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sent some men to look for it. The time for the prayer became due and they had not performed ablution and could not find water. So they offered the prayer without ablution then Allah revealed

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the verse of tianmu. Okay, so and this is in more detail. Okay.

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I should have

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said we set out with a with a last messenger on one of his journeys, and when we were at bay bought, or that the jaysh a necklace of mine was broken and lost.

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So just to explain that a little bit, so this is probably in the so there was a battle called the Battle of

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honor Mr. Lee.

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yeah, and basically

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on the way to a battle on the way back, you know, it was a usually a long journey, and they would be a whole

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caravan going. And the prophet SAW Selim used to take one of his wives each time. So this time he was taking Arusha. And usually there was like a special,

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special kind of carrying thing called a hold edge on the back of the camel, right? In which I showed the lambda would be, okay, so it was like in order to give her privacy,

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okay, and this must have been after the verses of her job revealed, right?

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Because, you know, that's why they wanted that extra level of privacy. So it's like a box, you can look it up online, if you want to see a picture of it. If you type in holder, or hold edge, usually, you can see it's like this box on top of the camel that you have, so that the person has privacy, right? Um,

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so, obviously on the way on the way back, you would have to stop you have to make lots of stops when you're on a journey in those days, right? In order to have a break in order to sleep in order to you know, have some food, etc, right? To pray, etc. So

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they would have stopped, right, they would have stopped somewhere and

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during that time, I showed them on his necklace went missing.

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Okay, allows messenger stayed there, so allow them to look for it. And so did the people along with him.

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Neither were they at a place of water, nor did they have any water with them.

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So the people went to abubaker City and said, Don't you see what Ayesha has done? She has made Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the people stay where there is no water, and they have no water with them.

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Walker came while allowes messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sleeping with his head on my fight.

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So, okay, so this is good. This is where it gets a bit funny. So

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sorry, excuse me.

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So because this necklace is lost, first of all, we noticed that the Prophet sallallaahu Selim took the fact that he had lost her necklace quite seriously, you know, and that's very chivalrous of him. You know, he really cared about if something was missing for her. If something was upsetting her. He really cared about that. You know, you didn't trivialize it. And so, you know, everyone was looking for it and everything. And also probably because it was a smart necklace, you know, and the prophet SAW lots of loaning Salem and the mutton obviously, as a Muslim, you're supposed to take very, very good care of an Amana, right? somebody gives you something to use, and you're supposed to give it

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back to them.

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So Hanalei now times people take your very lightly, you know, if you sometimes people will borrow a book from you. And you know, you're never going to see it again, right? Even though you're just lending it to them. You just have that feeling that because people have lost that sense of, you know, holding themselves to that standard that no, I must have integrity, I must return things that I borrow.

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If you don't return it, you should be compensating that person, right? If it gets lost, or whatever. So it seems that they were taking it very seriously. And

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so they didn't have water, or they ran out of water. And the prayer time was coming, and obviously, they've been delayed now. So what should they do? You know, the people started putting pressure on Apple. Right? They came to him, and it's like complaining to him and saying, Look, what, look what's happened, you know, and he obviously felt really terrible, because at this point in time, there wasn't really a solution for the believers

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when it came to, if they didn't have water, right,

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and they needed to make wudu.

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So, Abu Bakr Siddiq goes to the 10th of the profits or loss of them. And, you know, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam is basically sleeping with his head on fire. So he must have gone there quietly, you know, not wanting to wake up the prophets lesson. But he kind of had to go up. I shot right. And he said, he said to me, so she says, he said to me, You have detained the laws messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the people where there is no water and they have no water.

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them. So he admonished me and said what a law which tend to say. And he hits me on my flanks between, which is basically between the rib and the hip. Okay? So basically poke turn, you know, it's kind of like having a girl, you know, like, Look what you've done type thing.

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And she says nothing prevented me from moving because of the pain, but the position of Allah's Messenger on my thigh.

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Okay, so you can just imagine the scene, right? It's kind of a bit comical father comes in, he's like, what you've done, Look, you've caused all this trouble, like, couldn't you look after your necklace, you can just imagine, you know, your own dad saying something like that to you, right. And he's like, poking or having a go at her. And she's like, she wants to move. But she's not moving because sort of less and less Alan's head is on her thigh and he's asleep. So she's like, trying to probably tense herself and prevent herself from from moving right. And then the Prophet sallallahu wasallam gets up.

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So allowes messenger, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam got up when dawn broke, and there was no water. So Allah revealed the verse of tiamo.

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will say it's been harder said it is not the first blessing of yours. Oh, family of abubaker.

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Then we made the camel on which I was riding Get up. And we found the necklace underneath it.

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Okay, so is under the camel all along.

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You know, what I find really funny about this story is.

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So just to explain the last bit just in case, anyone didn't catch it. So once the this problem happened, the verses of Oman revealed that, you know, if you are traveling, and if you're in this situation, you don't have water, then make demo with the earth, right, which is dry ablution we're going to talk about it in a minute.

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And so basically, the people, the same people, or some, you know, the same from the same group of people who had been complaining to abubaker that look what your family's caused us, you know, look what your daughter's caused us. Trouble is inconvenience. And we don't have water and we have we don't how we're going to pray.

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The same people, we're now saying, well, your family is so so blessing, you've given us this dispensation, right? Because obviously, they saw that they Amman as a blessing, you know, it's a real blessing for people can you imagine people in the desert, water is a scarce resource, it's not something you have readily available everywhere, right? Something that you have to extract, either from a tree or from the ground or, you know, etc, right, it's not going to be we have basically have to carry it with you in in water skins, right. And so it wasn't something easy at all for them to have water for will do. So now that this dispensation was there, they didn't have to worry so much,

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because anytime they did not have water, they could use the earth, which was everywhere, right? They had sand everywhere, literally, they could use that in order to make them want to have ablution in order to pray. So now they were came to a worker and said to him, oh, your your family are so blessed, you know, they could this is not the best blessing that your family has brought to us and bucket. And

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the reason why I find it funny is because, you know, sometimes we

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sometimes we face situations like that where you know, something happens. And the initial knee jerk reaction we have is to like feel negative about our own family, or some something else child has done or something, you know, someone has done. But actually, you know, the situation can turn around and you realize that actually, you know, that was a good thing that they did.

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But sometimes we're very sensitive, we're very quick to rebuke our own family members or our own children or our own spouses, right. So it goes to show that sometimes a situation can look a certain way. And then it can, it can completely change, right? And that same thing that you were trying you're you're being blamed for can become something positive. And it also shows how human beings are right how fickle sometimes human beings love and they

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are quick to be upset and they're good to be happy as well. Quick to be upset with people and quick to be happy. So it's better for us to stay

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As kind of stable and constant as possible, you know not to be too emotionally, say, erratic, you know, always be patient because you never know, some situation that seems difficult, can be turned around and can become a blessing, right?

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So, let's talk a little bit about TMR. Okay, and this was in the sixth year of hegira,

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that these verses were revealed. Okay.

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How do you do tm? I'm just gonna like roughly go through it. Let me just make sure we're okay for time. Yep. Okay. So, in order to do tiamo, you do say a moment, if you did not have water, right? You didn't have access to water?

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Or if you're so ill, and you're not allowed, you can't use water. Right? Because you're ill.

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Right, for some reason, and Tim can replace the major, the major purification, which is also muscle, and it can replace the

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urine he will do as well. Right? So what that goes to show is that this purification that we do, it is a bad, right? Because somebody could say, technically, you know, putting your hands on some dust and then just wiping your face and hands it there, that's not doesn't make you really clean, you know?

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Especially, you know, if a person is in the state of Geneva, right, needs to make listen. But it shows you that this is more of a, you know, an this is an act of worship. It's not purely about the purification. Physically, it's a spiritual purification. Right? So how do we do

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you say Bismillah,

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with the intention of making termo, right? You don't have to say anything to make an intention. intention is something that's in our heart, right? We know what we're about to do. So be conscious of what you're about to do. And then you strike the ground once with the palms of the hands, right?

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Yep. So you strike your hands once like this on to,

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you know, anything that is from the earth. Okay, so that could be

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sand, natural sand, it could be

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stone or rock. It could be soil even, right.

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And it could be chalk. You know, natural chalk.

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Natural chalk is basically Earth, right? It's Earth matters matter that is from the earth. So any of those types of things, and even the scholar said, if that's not available, you know, the dust from a wall, especially if the wall is made of natural material, right? And just dust in general can use dust, you know, like, literally dust that you find in the house. Right?

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So you strike your hands on it, and then you rub your hand the back of your hands. Yeah. And then your face, obviously not with an Arbonne right? Without even a carbon, you rub your face. And

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that's it.

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That is it. And then you make glass. You know, that was optional, that same guy that you would make often will do, you know, sure, la la la

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la sala.

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So we said Tom is done if there's no water, and if a sick person cannot do with all with water, because he is unable to, or because he is afraid that it will make his sickness worse, or delay his recovery.

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so an easy way to do it really, an easy way that I found is to keep, especially like if somebody is going to hospital and they're not going to be able to make a model. Because there may be bound to their bed. They're not allowed to move from the bed or whatever.

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It's to have like some chalk, get some natural chalk, put it in a bag for them, you know? And then they can use that.

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And something useful to keep as well. You know, if you're on a journey, you never know when you might be in a situation where you don't have access to water, right.

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So I hope

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has been helpful. Just going to check in with you guys.

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Everyone is ok.

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Please, could you write the email in the chat? I'm just going to type that in.

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doesn't pay I'm gonna make you dirty. Huh? Well, I think I answered that, in that,

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you know, this ablution that we do this purification is a spiritual purification as well, it's not meant to be merely about physical cleanliness, right. And that's why we find that

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it's whatever Allah defines as purification, right? Not what we in our heads think is purification.

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So yeah, like, for some people, that idea of like, touching sand or soil and rubbing their hands and face on it is seems, you know, strange, but lost power that Allah made the earth clean, you know, Earth is clean. So as long as it's not a NASA that you're using, then it's something pure, something purifying. And in fact, you know, sometimes

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we don't realize it, but one of the ways to clean things. So say say you have something on your shoe, right? That is impure. One of the best ways to clean it, especially when you're out and about is actually to, to rub it in sand or rub it in soil or some other kind of Earth, you know,

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gravel or something like this.

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Because that soil, purifies that thing, you know,

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hope is

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In cold conditions, is there non permissible?

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it depends like, you know, if the cold condition means that you are going to suffer in your you're ill, for example, and you're going to become worse, then it would be permissible. But generally speaking, if it's cold, and you can handle it, you know, that's not a problem. Just being being in discomfort is not a reason for doing town. Right? If you're genuinely ill, or there's genuinely going to be some harm, or it could make your illness worse, etc. Right.

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Three times, no,

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it's not three times.

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Not three times.

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I don't really understand one of the questions. I think the sisters asking in credit. Oh, right. Incredibly cold conditions. Yeah. So I think I clarified that. So you know, a lot of these rulings, yeah.

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The scholars, they would say, you know, you have to use your own intellect. And you have to ask yourself, Am I able to do this? Right? So for example, you know, like, we're supposed to pray standing up, right? We're supposed to pray standing up. We're not supposed to sit down. Unless we really can't stand up the farm, especially the foreign sellers. Yeah, foreign sellers. You're supposed to pray standing up. Now. Sometimes people ask, you know, I'm feeling a bit tired. Can I sit down?

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Well, no, when you're just feeling tired, that's not a reason to sit down and pray. If you have an injury on the other hand, you know, that's for you to make a judgement now. That Am I able to stand?

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Can I stand? Is it gonna make it worse? If I stand, right? Then you make that judgment for yourself and nobody can really make that judgment for you. Because you're the one is feeling it right. So you have to do your best to do the best thing. But if you're not able to do it, because you're ill because you really can't you really going to suffer. And of course, that's that. Islam doesn't ask you to suffer right?

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To say, the name of the Son of a worker. No, not the son of a worker, sorry, the son of whom Roman was to fail from before. Son of a worker.

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The right man.

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So I'm the right man and I share we're siblings any with the same mother and father.

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And Abdullah and as Matt, we said, Remember, we're from another mother

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and Uncle Phil, from another mother and Muhammad, you know, burger from another mother. So, you know, Booker had four wives over his lifetime.

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Okay, now I'm going to go to

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I'm gonna go to the verses off.

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I'm going to look at the topic of I shall have the lion has

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adherence and attention to hijab, right? So

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we know that I shadowed the light and had the verses of hijab revealed

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after Medina, county after the hegira, right, they weren't revealed straight away like so when we think of Khadija the gland and when we think of even the early Medina and period, we should understand that women were not wearing hijab, right?

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They would have been generally modest, you know, compared to today's standards, probably. But, you know, they didn't wear the job. And this was something that kind of bothered Omar Adelanto in particular, because he would sometimes, you know, he would feel uncomfortable, and he would feel that it was inappropriate, that people could easily recognize the wives of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. And that they could easily like,

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you know, when you can actually see somebody clearly and you can become a little bit relaxed, right?

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Omar Delano, he used to always kind of used to say to the prophets, Allah Salaam, I think your wives should veil, you know, they should cover and the prophets are solemn, didn't, you know, in didn't kind of impose anything. And then eventually, one day, one of the wives of the Prophet SAW Allah and Islam, so that was out.

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And, you know, the wives they used to have to, and everyone in those days have to go somewhere far away, or have to go somewhere far away in order to

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answer the call of nature, right, in order to go to the bathroom, they don't have bathrooms in those days, even

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relatively recently, in, in places even in, you know, the Indian subcontinent and other places.

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People, especially in rural areas, didn't have built toilets. Right, they had, like a space or somewhere very far away, where nobody could see them, they would go, and you know, they could relieve themselves. They're

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so you know, soda, the wife of the profits and loss alum, at one time was going to that place. And all my other language, he recognized her. And he said, Oh, we know it's you soda. You said something.

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Because he was trying, it seems like he was trying to

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highlight something, you know, he's trying to highlight that.

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So panela, like, even though, you know, the prophets are Salaam is somebody everyone respects so much. He felt like he was not right that people could just recognize his wives, especially when they were going somewhere sensitive like this, you know. And so, so that was embarrassed by this. And she went to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and told him

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and then eventually, the worst verses of hijab were revealed.

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And they were more strict for the wives of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. Right. Especially So,

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for the general believing women, the verses that were revealed, implied that they should cover themselves when they go out. Right.

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we know that you know,

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that some of the scholars say that includes their face and hands and others said, except the face and and right, they should cover everything they should wear a jilbab and we will look at some of the verses, they should wear something called a jilbab which means an outer garment, an outer garment, which is something you

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went over what you normally would wear inside your house, right?

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And that whatever they're wearing on their heads that tomorrow should extend over the chest. Okay. And that's a practice that has kind of people have forgotten about, or maybe people are ignorant about now that you know, it should come over your chest, you should cover your neck,

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includes the neck includes the ears, okay? Even if you're going to show your face and hands

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on, it doesn't mean that your ears can be shown, it doesn't mean that your neck can be shown. No, all of these things need to be covered. And so that was the general ruling for the believing women, right? For the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, there was an extra level of cover. So we definitely know they used to cover their faces, okay. It's not clear if all of the women but ordinary women used to cover their faces. Okay. So that's something that scholars dispute. But when it comes to the whys, it's very clear that they used to cover their faces this summer had the African mentioned in a moment.

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was going to say, and yeah, so the extra level of covering that they would have to have is a curtain of some sort. And that's literally what the what he job really is. Nowadays, we use the word hijab to mean our scarf, right, the way we dress.

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originally, hijab is a curtain, or some kind of a veil, something between people, right? So the wives of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam didn't just, you know, cover and have uncovered their faces. They also

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used to be behind the curtain after these verses were revealed, okay. And on top of that, they also, when they were traveling, they would be inside a hold edge for that journey, right? So they wouldn't, they would avoid being seen,

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even with that job, unless they were behind the curtain as much as possible.

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So what did I want to say about that?

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So we know that I shot a deal on her, she used to cover even in front of like, if a blind man came right to her house, she would cover because the profits or loss on them, encourage them to write because

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and, you know,

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even though

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the blind man couldn't see her, she could see him. So this was the implication in their Hadith. And

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I think what that kind of indicates is that, you know, the reason why she would also be behind the screen, even if a blind man came, is that it was, it was meant to be about

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just not not any kind of familiarity developing. Right? And also, that it was meant to be so that the wives themselves also

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could protect themselves, right.

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And the reason why I mentioned that is,

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you know, sometimes when, when some of the older men when they talk about his job, or when they talk about lowering the gaze, they kind of emphasize it, they emphasize that, you know, women are very attractive to men. Right? But they don't know, they don't really emphasize that men can be very attractive to women as well. Right. And so women also have to take the precautions that are necessary in order to prevent themselves being attracted to people, right, well, themselves falling short of,

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you know, the dub will the the manners that unbeliever believing woman should have in her interactions with men? Right.

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So we mentioned in the past, I think we mentioned and this could have been another class, that hijab isn't just about press, it's also about behavior, right? So it means that when we, when we talk to men when we're addressing men, we do so in a formal way.

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And we don't allow that relationship to become casual. With non morons. We don't chitchat we don't.

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We don't try. We don't make it into like a friendship

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We'll start going beyond that, right.

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And that can be quite hard to do, right? Especially in the West, where you know, especially if you're in a setting where you're having to mix with people, etc, and you have to work with people. But it's something that we as Muslims have to just never, never let your guard down regarding it, you know, because it's when you start thinking that you're immune. When you start thinking, you're immune, when you start thinking that this is never gonna, this could never happen to me, I will never feel these types of things, or I wouldn't ever feel attraction. It's when you start thinking that that then shutdown can strike, right? So it's really important that we protect ourselves.

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Because ultimately, you know, we save ourselves from heartache, right? save ourselves from emotional turmoil and distress, etc. And we save ourselves from falling into heroin situations.

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Okay, and

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excuse me.

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We mentioned in a previous class that, you know, I should learn how she was so careful about her job that

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when even her foster father was going to enter you, she was like, she was worried, like, actually, is he allowed, right? And she asked the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, and he said, yes, you know, his wife, breastfed us. So he is allowed. And she said, but she, he didn't breastfeed him feed me, you know. But the prophets, Allah, Allah made it clear that

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you know, it's fine.

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And so that shows you that she checked, you know, she was very careful to do not just assume, and we should also be careful in that regard, you know, and that doesn't mean being impolite. I know how it is, like, sometimes, you know, I know when I first got married,

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sometimes your in laws and your extended family, they want you to meet them, they want you to obviously you you know, to say Salaam and stuff like that. And so we should say Salaam we should meet people even if they're not on maharam.

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You know, if it's going to be something that your in laws would like, just to say Salaam and things like that, he polite, but not to cross the bounce, right? And so it doesn't mean now you take your hijab off in front of them, right? Or that you just stop, you know,

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being in a very in a mixed gathering, right?

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But we can at least be polite with people who are our non Muslims, you can say Salaam to them.

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And, you know, especially, so that the elders are not offended, I would say

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we can do within the Hello, any boundaries, we can, we can do that those things. But when it comes to anything that is encouraging us to go beyond that, then we don't do that, you know, so I know people get very carried away at weddings, especially right? And that's why it's really important to talk about all of these things beforehand, right? Talk about these matters beforehand, so that

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there aren't any uncomfortable situations, right, that arise, which can happen quite easily.

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Okay, so what else did I want to mention about it should have been on her?

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Yeah, there are also an aerations where, you know, sometimes a woman a woman would come to her it might come to her and

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this is after the death of the profits and loss on them, it seems, and, you know, they wouldn't be dressed appropriately. So she would say if the profits are low, what he was selling was here, he would stop women from going to the masjid.

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Because, you know, of the way that they were dressed that she was showing

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dislike for the way that they had not fulfilled the conditions of hijab, right.

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Also, once some women they asked

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the lion her while she was going around the garba says once when I was circling the Garbo a woman asked her to go to the huddle password with her. Right. and mother of the believers, why do we not kiss or touch the huddle? Last Word, I should told the woman to stay away from her and express that it was improper for women to move into such a crowd.

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So it seems that she was trying

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To highlight that, you know,

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if you're going to do something

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that you think is good, is going to mean that men are going to bump into you. And it's going to be like, you know,

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they're going to have physical contact with you. It's an inappropriate situation, then it's better to leave that thing, especially when it's not obligatory, it's not obligatory, to kiss the hazardous work. And if it's going to cause you to bump into people and have physical contact with people, then it's better for a believing woman to avoid those kind of situations. And that would be the same in any setting, right?

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It should not, we should have the level of hierarchy that we don't find it easy to just barge through crowds, you know,

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if you're getting on a train, and there's like men everywhere, and you're gonna have to stand close to a man, if you can't avoid that, avoid that situation, you know, wait for the next train, wait for a train that's a bit less or verbally say to people, you know, Excuse me, could you make some more space?

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And there's no harm in that, you know, everyone is entitled to their personal space.

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And it also sends a clear message to anyone standing around. Right.

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inshallah, I think we've come to the end of our time. If there are any last questions, I will answer them. And then next time,

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next time, I will continue without a shadow of the line has attitude towards her job.

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And I will also mention all of the I art because I think somebody sent me a request that could you please share all of the ads

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about your job, right? And we can highlight those we may as well use this as an opportunity to highlight those as well because unfortunately, in our times, some people have created this idea or narrative that you know, as if the Quran doesn't talk about the job or it doesn't tell us to, you know, cover in the way that we do.

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So let me just have a quick look at the questions.

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What was the name you

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know, to fail? Yeah, so to fail is not the son of aboubaker. To fail is the son of forgotten the name of his dad of the law.

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will fail is the son of Abdullah, who is

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Abdullah bin al Harith bin Sahaba. LSD. Who was on Romans first husband, right? So before she was married to abubaker reminded his anxious mother Yeah, way before she was married to her. She was married to a man called Abdullah even had if then Sakuraba LSD. And with him she had a son called bullfight. Okay, I hope that's clear now. Yes. So bucker was his stepfather? Exactly.

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the mandate of the worker is, yes, his own romance son, who is is just full brother.

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on performance, you say what the back of the hand and then the face? Okay. So you're going to find different opinions about this online. But the one that I found to be the strongest based on that the Hadith, and

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the scholars that I trust,

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that you wipe the backs of the hands.

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Sorry, can I say?

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say Bismillah with the intention of doing it, I'm on strike the ground once with the palms of the hands, wipe the backs of the hands with the with the palm of the left, and then the back of the left hand with the palm of the right. And then wipe the face with both hands.

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Okay, hope that's clear.

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Yeah, so the reason why I'm having to look at it, because I haven't really had to do that much in my life. Right. Most of us have not had to do the unknown, usually.

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Although, yeah, there have been situations where I have had to do it, like traveling from Cairo to Jerusalem once you know, it was no, no, the guy wasn't stopping basically, the bus driver wouldn't stop. We had no water and we needed to pray. We have to pray on the bus.

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And so we just had to use we just had to make them more, you know, because he was refusing to stop. What could we do?

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So, yeah, so the way you do say I'm on so you strike your hands on Earth, any Earth material, we said, you know, it could even be chalk

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could even be any soil, sand, gravel, anything like that. It could be brick, you know, even, it could be a wall, the dust off a wall. Okay? So you strike it, once you wipe the back of your hand you wipe

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the other hand, and then obviously without a niqab, you wipe your face. Okay.

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That's it. That's the only.

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Okay, so I think we've come to the end of that session.

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Hopefully next time we will do, we'll go through the verses of hijab

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and you can see how they differ for the waves of the profits or loss of them and how they differ for us.

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And inshallah, we will

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talk about the after that we will go on to talking about our issues relationship with the other waves.

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And then we will talk about how difficult if, which is something I'm looking forward to, even though it's a difficult subject, something that we will need to look out because verses of Quran were revealed due to it I shall get on his status was raised because of that situation. There are huge whole groups of people who suffer alone did not slandering I showed the lambda and continue to do so today. Right?

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Due to that incident, and, but we should remember, you know, a laugh that one of the scholars he said, you know, Allah loved abubaker and Omer so much that he created a whole group of people, whole sect

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that would curse them, so that they could take all of their good deeds. Right. So similar, we could say some of the thing about it shut down. Right? All of those people who said evil about her, then inshallah she will be getting all of their good deeds. Okay, lastly, please talk next time about the voice of a woman is it all right or not? I actually used to put a finger in her mouth to change the sound of a voice. Okay, we will talk about that inshallah.

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We'll see if that is actually accurate or not. So, copy that question because I cannot hear. So inshallah with that, I will leave you. I hope you have a good evening and inshallah I'll see you next Sunday.

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subhanak Alomar behind the gusher, La La elantas

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Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

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