70 Major Sins #08 – Sin 10 continued – Committing Zina, Sin 11- al-Liwat – Sodomy

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Insha Allah Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah the assisters salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. And welcome to

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this the 70 major sins class, where we're looking at the 70 major sins mentioned by Mr. Yvette Herbie in his book Kitab al Qaeda.

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So

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I'm just gonna share my screen.

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Last time, we were looking at the major sin, Xena.

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We were discussing that, and we're just going to finish that off today. So

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oops.

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Okay.

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So, of course, Xena, technically, is the sexual relations out outside of marriage, right? Whether that's

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sorry, not just sexual relations, that's very, that's very loose the way I mentioned that.

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I'm going to be really explicit during this class. So you know, if you need to wear headphones, you don't want other people to listen, or, you know, you've got little kids or whatever, then please, you know, you can be aware of that.

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So, when we say sexual relations, that's a very loose term, right? That can mean kissing can mean other, any kind of sexual interaction, that's not Xena, Xena is technically, when the private part of a man enters the private part of a woman.

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And that act of you know, of that sexual act.

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In outside of marriage, right outside of marriage. So whether that's a person who's married before who's been married before,

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or is married right now to somebody else, and they're having sexual relations outside of that marriage, or somebody who is not married, and is having sexual is having sexual intercourse, right.

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Those are all considered types of Xena.

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But, and those are the Zener. That is the major sin, right? And that under Islamic law is punishable. Right? If certain conditions are met, and if you know, if a person is convicted.

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We also said that there's no compulsion on anyone to to what is the word

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to confess, to confess that they've committed Zina?

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You know, if it's something that's not known, then it's better. It could even be argued that it's better that the person keeps the unknown. And just really sincerely repent, repent and decides that they're never going to go back to that again, right. There's no need or even virtue really in going and putting yourself forward to be punished. Okay? I'm talking obviously, in a Muslim,

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state or somewhere where,

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you know, Zina is punishable.

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Now, we're gonna look at something where the prophet SAW Selim described something which he called, which he described as really the steps that can lead towards Xena but the scholars call them like the lesser forms of Xena. So, so these may not be considered, you know,

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equal to the major sin of Xena, but we have been warned from these things as well. They are sins as well, okay. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said every son of Adam has his share of Xena

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for the eyes may commit Zina and there Xena is looking.

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So in other words, looking at somebody who you shouldn't be looking at somebody who's not your maharam.

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You know, especially if you're enjoying looking at somebody,

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especially if there is attraction there. Right? then that becomes problematic.

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The hands may commit Zina, and there Xena is touching. So in other words, touching somebody who is a non Muharram.

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Right.

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The feet may commit Zina and there's Xena is

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Walking.

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Now, when we say, you know,

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there's in the hands of touching,

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obviously, you know,

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that means,

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without necessity, right? Without necessity, and especially if it's with the desire, if somebody is, has desire for somebody, and they touch them,

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the feet may come at dinner, and there's you know, is walking.

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So walking towards a place where you know, that you shouldn't be walking towards, in order to see somebody or meet somebody who, you know, outside of marriage in the wrong kind of way.

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The mouth may commit Zina, and it's Xena is kissing.

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Right. So in other words, the things that are before full zinna the things that lead to it, or the things that are less than it, but are part of it in a way, right, they're part of the process of leading towards it. They're also since since

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the heart desires and wishes and the private parts, confirm that or deny it

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narrated by behati, Muslim

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Subhanallah, you know, I just want you to reflect on that a little while because,

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you know, we don't like talking about this subject. But as human beings we are, we are wired to be attracted to the opposite sex, right? Like we are hardwired to be attracted to the opposite sex. I remember a brother, when I was discussing this with

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one of the heads of one of the organizations.

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And he said that,

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you know, at the end of the day, human beings are biology, human beings are biology. And there's a certain level of attraction towards the opposite sex that you cannot help. Right. Like, even if you're a pious person, if you were to put yourself in a certain position, in certain proximity with a certain type of person,

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you could be attracted,

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because your biology will take over, you know.

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And that's why like one of the she'll, he always said to us never think that you're immune, never think that you are immune from falling into any of these things that then could then lead to bigger things, and then eventually can even lead to Xena, right?

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Because we are human beings, and we our biology, at the end of the day, initially, you know, our first instincts, our biological instincts, and those are very strong instincts. Right, whether you're married or not,

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those are very strong instincts. And so you should never feel immune, you should never feel we can never afford to let our guard down as Muslims. And that some might sound difficult.

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But believe me, people who have experienced sometimes, you know, lowering their standards, or letting their guard down,

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and the pain that follows that, right? Because they ended up getting attracted to somebody or they ended up becoming emotionally attached to somebody. Or even worse, right?

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They will tell you that I should have stopped it right at the beginning, you know, when I realized that there was going to be this interaction, I should have avoided these interactions. Or I should have known that if when there was even a slight bit of attraction. Now, that was something I shouldn't go near. Right.

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So Pamela, so it's upon each of us to really, you know, know ourselves and also to to understand that when Allah Subhana, Allah gives us guidelines. And you know, in Western culture, the guidelines that we've been given things like not touching, not being alone, etc, with the opposite sex. They seem extreme right? to Western people, generally, they seem extreme. Well, hamdulillah now, it's not gonna seem so extreme, not shaking hands of people, right? because nobody's shaking hands now.

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But

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it seems extreme, but then so panela if you think about

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If you want to have a society that doesn't have extramarital sex, and you want to keep the public space,

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a non sexually charged space, then all of the guidelines that Islam has put into place Make sense?

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You know, I was reading some kind of law that even some organizations and companies are now putting stringent things in place, right? Like women are saying, why do we have to wear heels to work? You know, because they're kind of they realizing, oh, minute heels are kind of sexual, right? They've got a sexual element to them? Well, they can do, and why is our workplace insisting that we wear heels?

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For example? Well, why are they insisting that we wear makeup?

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male colleagues don't have to wear makeup, right. And then new rules are being put into place in terms of,

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you know, physical interaction, right? Some women, they don't feel comfortable being hugged, right at the beginning of a meeting, or whatever. So even in non Muslim societies, now,

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they're realizing the damage and the harms of these things that they consider to be harmless, right? Things like a little hug, going out for a drink, in having a little mingle, having a little chat, blah, blah, blah, all of that, right.

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I'm even there realizing that this stuff that goes on between men and women, that might not be very obvious, and might not seem like abuse on the outside, but it can easily turn into that.

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Or at least it can, from our perspective, you know, it can turn into a relationship that

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is illegitimate, you know, so

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a home from Xena.

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You know, because in our societies, the societies that we live in, in the West, especially Xena is considered is not seen as evil, right? It's not really seen as evil as it should be.

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That's probably to do with like, you know, celebrities. And

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to be honest, I think

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the fact that the upper classes, like here in the West,

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okay, here in the West, especially our like, we're in Britain, we have a royal family, right?

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When you see people in the royal family, when it stops being a taboo in the royal family, for example, I think that has a huge impact on the rest of society. I don't know if it's that the way that the the upper echelons behave, then filters down and makes things seem less, you know, less bad to the lower echelons of society, or if it's the other way around, is it that the ordinary people start accepting something and they start thinking things, something is fine. And then the upper echelons also, then start accepting it? I don't know. But seems to me that the more that sin and evil is publicized, the more it becomes normalized, right. And that's why in Islam, you know, this

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idea of having newspapers tabloids that literally try to expose the, the darkest and, you know, worst things that people have done,

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even if it's terrible things, and even if it's in the confines of their home, right, and just dig and dig and dig and just keep talking about the sins of people in public. That is actually very harmful to society. Because what happens is, again, it desensitizes society. It makes you think, well, everybody's committing sin, right? Like everybody has a boyfriend outside of that everyone has a mistress or everyone has this or, or everyone is divorced, or you know, so that then becomes a normalizing factor.

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But we should always remind ourselves what the harms of Xena are. And we should always we should never be be

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in any doubt that anything that Allah has forbidden, there's some evil in it. Right? And anything that Allah Subhana Allah has commanded, there's good in it.

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So, you know, the harms of Xena These are just some of the harms and I'm not being exhaustive here. But

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you know, it's a major sin punishable in the hereafter. Allah Subhana Allah

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The prophet SAW Selim told us so

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it's such a grave crime that if convicted under Islamic law, there's a punishment for it.

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Either whipping or capital punishment. And that says a lot, doesn't it? About how serious is in Allah's eyes?

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it harms the individual. So the person who commits Zina, they are harmed by how are they harmed by I mean, I don't know if you guys are familiar with that. Psychologists, very popular psychologist at the moment, Professor Jordan Peterson, if you listen to some of his stuff, recently, he had a podcast,

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something about the people at the bottom of society, right? The the like the working class, or the lowest classes of society, and how they suffer

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is amazing, the impact of Xena in society, right? We don't realize it and the media doesn't talk about it. You know, the media portrays this kind of ease of relationship between men and women, there's nothing wrong with having multiple partners and all of that, right. But actually, if you look at what the real impact is, there's a huge emotional impact on the individual, even if the individual doesn't feel the impact initially, right? Of being the type of person who is promiscuous.

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Actually, there is damage being done to that person psyche.

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Right.

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as Professor Peterson says, to have multiple partners, and not commit, you kind of have to become a bit of a psychopath.

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You have to become a bit of a psychopath because you have to start divorcing sex from emotion.

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You can't have emotions for the pert for these multiple partners that you're, you know, having sexual relations with, you have to kind of almost see sex as separate from that human connection. Right. And that is literally what a psychopath does, right. You know, see other people as just objects and things of utility.

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So there's an emotional toll that it takes, there's a spiritual toll, you know, that as Muslims, right.

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There's it spreads diseases. You know, it's not a coincidence that after the free love movement, right, of the 60s and 70s, where promiscuity and so called, it was called the sexual revolution took place where then, you know, marriage was done away with marriage is not important.

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All of that.

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It's not no coincidence that aids followed.

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Right? The disease of AIDS followed. And it was spread by promiscuity. Fundamentally, it was spread by promiscuity, and also lots of other sexually transmitted diseases.

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It's dangerous, right? It's dangerous to the individual. I mean, it's so obvious that it's dangerous to women. It is just so obvious that it's dangerous to women.

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Because you have this person who wants to have relations with you. And you might, the woman might want to have relations as well. But there's no commitment, there's no binding there. So if she does become pregnant, which is very possible.

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There's no safety net for her, there's no, there's no commitment, there's nothing protecting that. Right. And that sense.

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And, you know, feelings of emptiness, feelings of lack of fulfillment, all of that, right. These are just some of the things, it harms families, because it's it literally breaks the sanctity of marriage of the marriage bond. It devastates children, right? If parents are having relations outside of marriage, obviously that's going to impact the marriage. Obviously, that could end up with the breaking of the marriage in a in quite a catastrophic way. And

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that will have a huge impact on the family and then on society, right.

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I don't want you to think I'm obsessed with the royal family. Okay. Because I keep making reference to the royal family.

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Maybe I'm just trying to make this class British, right. But suppose that I was, you know, even somebody like for example, Prince Harry right up to today.

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There are newspaper articles that constantly question who his father is, you know, because because it's known that his mother had an affair, right, with a particular person. And the newspapers are just gone. Of course, the newspapers in Britain are terrible, right? You know, they just fit now. mungus. Right. But can you see how even at that level of society when there has been promiscuity when Xena has taken place, right? The impact? So Pamela, like, the guy he's constantly pursued and and talked about whether he's even the son of his own father, right? Because there's a little question, there's a question mark. Right, because both of his parents were

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promiscuous, right, or they, or at least they broke the sanctity of the marriage.

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And so you can see that, you know,

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it's a terrible leaves a terrible impact on children, it leaves a terrible impact on families.

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The harm to society, right?

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The home to society is,

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you know, Subhanallah, what can we say? The fact that, you know, men don't feel that they have to be bound to a woman in order to have sexual relations. What then happens is that women then get used and discarded. And that's why in Britain, for example, you have so many single parent families where the burden of looking after the family is on the woman. And there are hundreds of 1000s of men who do not support their own children financially. Right? Well, the message was given to those men that sex has no responsibility attached to it. Right.

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So what do you expect? What do you expect you we created that culture?

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Right?

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At Home Society in so many ways, apart from the breaking of the family that another impact I was reading about is that women who feel abandoned by their spouse when they've just had a baby, and that happens a lot, right? Because like these, some men, they'll have relations, then when they find out that the woman is pregnant, they, they they panic, right? They panic, because they're little boys, they're not really, you know, they don't have a sense of responsibility. And so then they abandoned the woman. And at that point, the woman is at her most vulnerable, right? she's expecting a baby. She's at her most vulnerable. And the level of stress and the mental health problems that

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can result from that are immense. And that is the worst way to bring a child into the world. Right? The worst way to bring a child into the world that the mother is so stressed and so unstable, she has no support. So Pamela,

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it leads to further perversions in society.

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Because ordinary sexual relations with a man and a woman are just not enough anymore. Right. So when promiscuity and when sex becomes a very public thing, what happens?

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Ordinary sex is just not exciting anymore for people.

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Right? And that's why they start their mind stop becoming perverted. And they start wanting to go beyond.

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You know, we were just reflecting my husband and I were just reflecting that,

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like, our parents generation, they like, I don't think my dad even really met my mom before he got married her, right. They had a amazing, lifelong marriage.

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And that happened with so many of us, right, our parents generation were our grandparents generation.

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Why is it that they would get married and then just be satisfied and happy with the wife that they had? It wasn't like something that took them months and months and years to search for somebody and blah, blah, blah.

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I think one of the reasons is that in those days, they were not in the place where they grew up. They were not inundated with all this sexual imagery. So when they met the average girl, right? The average girl is attractive to them. And for a woman, the average man is attractive to them. It's not attractive, not just attractive, but I mean, you know, they're happy with that situation, right? They're not they haven't been spoiled with all these varieties of imagery related to women and men in a sexual way. Right. So in other words, all of this whole

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Culture behind Xena, which I would argue pornography, all of these things. These are all Xena culture, right? All of that culture

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damages the psychology of human beings.

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They become addicted and need novelty, right? Or the ordinary is not enough anymore.

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Or I should say the halaal is not enough anymore. So how do we close the doors to Xena

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some of the means that we can that our Sharia has provided us with or guided us to

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lowering the gaze.

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panel, it's such a powerful thing. And

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you know, it's not to be taken lightly not to be taken lightly, you can start

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to lose your standards in this in our times, because you know, the imagery is everywhere. But so for example, with women, sometimes sisters think, well, the lowering of the gaze is for the men, right? But actually, it's for all of us. And for women, even if we're like viewing, like the scholars, they said, if you're watching a lecture, or you're looking at a man like a teacher, for example, right? If that person is attractive to you, okay, then you should lower your gaze.

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Right? So it should be the default. Just lower your gaze anyway. Right? Because so how Allah shaytaan works through our eyesight, you know, he makes some thing or someone very attractive to us.

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And the truth is that we don't know that person, we don't know the reality of that person. But shaitaan is always looking for a window in right, a means to just coming and attacking our spirituality.

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Not free mixing of the sexes. So

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you know, this is why free mixing is not allowed, right? The idea of men and women were not related, just mingling, socializing, chit chat. You know, the reason why scholars

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talk about it is because these are all the things that can lead to then further problems, right. And I had a lady who used to be a friend of my mom's. And she told us about how before they were practicing these to have these dinners in the house. And she's, I think she was Fox funny lady. She said, we used to have these dinners in our house, and we used to have men, couples coming around. And you know, we just be all free mixing.

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And the women were dressed very nicely, obviously, like when you go to someone's house, you're gonna dress nicely, right? And they didn't wear hijab, etc. But maybe they just will cultural, you know, clothing, books, funny cultural clothing, whatever. And she said, we used to have these gatherings used to have a lot of mingling, and, you know, everyone was married, so nobody thought anything of it. Right? It's like the norm right?

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In, like, in Indian Pakistan, that can be quite normal. But she said, I didn't realize, well, while I was going round, you know, preparing the food, making sure everyone has food and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. One of the women, right, who was there, she was flirting with my husband the whole time. Right? And she was married, but she was continuously firt flirting with my spouse. That's what she taught, she said. And she said, over time, my spouse became very attracted to her. Right? Because Can you imagine like, this woman is like busy trip serving everyone, because this is her house. And her husband is sitting there and the some woman is like, engaging him in conversation. And she's

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basically flirting. And then there's just an attachment that forms right. So Pamela, she said, I had to, like, completely shut all of that down. And, you know, our families realized that it was like her husband and her they realized that it was wrong, you know, and they, now they're practicing and they don't do those kinds of gatherings. But what I'm trying to highlight by tech sharing that story is

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a lot of the time people have these types of gatherings and they say, still be so extreme, you know, don't be so extreme. Like, it's okay. Like, we're just we're all married here. You know? It doesn't matter. You know, human beings are human beings, human beings are by our biology at the end of the day, and attraction can happen like that. And that's not to say we want to be extreme right where we're just not

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Even speaking to somebody when we need to, or that we're not having formal relationship with somebody that's needed, right? We're not talking about that we're talking about the relaxed social situations, right?

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And also unnecessary mingling.

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He job heya and taqwa, right?

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One of the means that closes the door to Xena is definitely the fact that Allah requires for men and women to cover their older, when they're out in public, right? That's what your job is right? covering your odor when you're out in public. Same with men, covering the hour, wearing loose garments, etc. These are all things that close the doors to Xena. Because as a Muslim woman, when you're wearing the hijab, men do not relate to you in the same way. Right? Well, most of the time, right? They don't relate to you in the same way. They, they they realize and understand this is a religious woman, this is a Muslim woman. So I can't look at her in that same way that, you know, I

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might look at other women.

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Also, it makes us as Muslim women more careful. You know, it's like a uniform, isn't it? When we wear hijab, it's like a uniform. And it keeps things formal.

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It takes the sexual element out of interactions in society.

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Also instilling a sense of hierarchy in our children, right. So we have a natural sense of hierarchy, which is intrinsic, but it has to be nurtured. If you don't nurture it, your hierarchy and go out the window.

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And we see that because look, have you ever been to a gym? Have you ever been to like one of these public gyms or? Right and especially in the western country?

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When you go to the changing rooms, like in the women's gym, the women are just walking around completely naked? Right? Like, wow, like the first time you go to somewhere like that you're shocked. Like, even though it's women, how can you just walk around completely naked like that. And for them, it's nothing, it doesn't even register as a thing to think about.

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And it's obviously because that's become the norm right for them in their life. People walking around naked within a certain, like, if it's women only, or if it's within their family, for example. But for us as Muslims, we have been encouraged to nurture our hair, even in front of each other, even in front of our parents after a certain age, even in front of our siblings, right? So you don't just bust into somebody's room, for example, right? You have to knock and these are all adopt that we should teach our children because that's gonna prevent any kind of nasty surprises or you know, them coming in when somebody is dressed in a state of undress, etc, right.

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But also it nurtures a sense of Hey out that I have a private space, this is my body and it's not for public consumption, right.

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So you can see how Hey, I can literally be removed from somebody right? very easily.

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If they are conditioned, not to take care of it. Also taqwa.

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So even with a job even with Haier, you have to have a sense of taqwa, you have to have that sense that Allah is watching. You have to have that sense that you're going to be accountable for your behavior and your actions. And that nurturing that in our children, and in ourselves is, is one of the means to closing the doors to Xena. And the reason why I highlight it is because I've lived in Egypt, for example, I don't want to demonize Egypt. It's just one country that I've actually got experience with.

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And the amount of sexual harassment, right? In the buses in on the streets even sometimes, right? We're in

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kind of in a bit of a cleanser Stein way, not not necessarily out in the open.

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That takes place there

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is terrible. And, and it's a Muslim country, right. And you think, well, even women who are wearing Hijab are being sexually harassed. And men will do it in a secret kind of way. Right? But the point is that, so Pamela, it's obvious that they have not been brought up with dakhla.

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Because even if a woman is dressed in full hijab, if you if you don't have Taqwa, you're gonna not be able to, you know, treat her right. Okay? So it's not enough in our societies. The reason why I'm highlighting this is as

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Mothers For example, we should be instilling and assisters, instilling taqwa in our men folk.

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It's not the onus of closing the doors to Xena is not on the women. You know, it's on both men and women.

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Women need to lower their gaze as men need to lower their gaze. Women need to dress appropriately. Men need to dress appropriately. Right? Men are not supposed to walk, you know, they're not supposed to be in speedos. For example. They're not meant to have, you know, very tight jeans or tight clothes on. Right? It's cetera. So

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that's my little rant.

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Daca is as important as anything else. So it's not just about these outward things, that's what I'm getting at. Right? I'm

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protecting your older.

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Yeah, so you know, from a young age, just getting used to not allowing your older to be uncovered.

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Older is your nakedness, right? Like the parts of so I differs in different situations. So all right in front of our spouse, there is no our right like you can, a person can be completely in a state of undress in front of their spouse. But when it comes to your parents, when it comes to your mother arms, for example, there is a certain amount that you must have covered and that's usually

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all of the body except the arms, the legs, even I mean part of the legs up to the knees.

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And the hair can be uncovered right, the hair and face.

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And then you have the out in public. And in public, everything should be covered and except the face and the hands right forearm and it should be loose and it should not be see through right it should be it should not be a dazzling display. Where it's all it's it's attracting attention even though it's covering, right. So if you if you can, you should avoid all of these chill Barb's in jobs that are out nowadays, where there's all these spikes, sparkly dangly stuff on it, avoid it, because this is not that's going against the whole point of a job. The whole point of the job is to cover all of your jangly dazzling stuff that's supposed to be underneath, right?

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I'm not having casual friendships with non morons.

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speaking directly and formally, when you do have to talk to somebody, you know, don't start chatting about personal things and, you know, keep your boundaries

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and not being alone with them on maharam

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in seclusion, right. So if you have to go and speak to somebody, if you're at university, or you know, you have to in any setting, really, and you're having to go in and be in somebody else's office,

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keep the door open, if you can, right. Generally speaking, that's the best policy, keep the door open.

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Try to meet in a place that is public,

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a place that can be seen from outside from different ways, right. And obviously, if it's a necessity, then you know, that's a different matter things like going to the doctor's if it's necessary, and you can't get a female, right.

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But other than that, when it comes to General, everyday stuff, if it's possible not to be in seclusion, you've got to engineer it so that you're never in seclusion, right with the opposite sex.

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Because as the prophet SAW, Selim said, when a man and a woman are learned together, in seclusion, then shape on is the third, right. So shaitaan will try to cause some fitna between you, right.

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Protecting our senses, our sense of touch, our sense, our sense of touch by not even shaking hands with somebody for example, or not having physical contact with them. Right. We don't realize the power of these things. You know, if there is any kind of attraction and you touch somebody, it can increase that attraction 100%

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protect your senses, in your speech, in hearing in sight and smell. So, you know, all of these things. Our senses are what initially attracts us to somebody, right? We see someone we smell them, you know,

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Like literally, like, you see that, you know, when they have those adverts,

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and even when you look at deodorants and the things that they named them, right, attraction, fatal attraction, you know those kinds of names right? impulse, like, you know that there's a spray body spray called impulse. What does that mean? Like you're trying to encourage people to be impulsive? I don't know, you know, it's like,

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the these industries they know, they understand that smell is like a really powerful, attractive force. And that's why as Muslim women, we should not be wearing perfume when we go outside, right?

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We only wear perfume inside the house. Or if we're like, literally not going to be smelled by anyone, right.

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I think it's so self explanatory.

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We already mentioned don't think that you're immune. soon as you start thinking that it can't happen to you. It can, you know,

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get married and fulfill your desires in the Hello way.

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And make marriage easy, you know, and it's so important to fulfill, try to fulfill each other as spouses, whatever your spouse would like, in terms of intimacy, as long as it's Hello, you should do it. And vice versa, should be trying to satisfy each other. And you know, be

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the space where

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each other can express themselves sexually, in a halal way.

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I'm fasting, and taking spiritual means those are also ways to close the doors to Xena.

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So the next of the major sins, sin number 11 is a Leo up,

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which is usually translated as sodomy.

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Technically, it's basically the sin of the people of loot

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the sin of the nation of loot, who is the profit lot, right?

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That's where the word liwan comes from.

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Which is quite sad, actually. Because, you know, you don't really meet people who like Muslims, don't name their children. Look, do they? Have you noticed? And it's probably because of this connection.

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But, you know, obviously, the prophets, Lord la Salaam was a great prophet of Allah. So

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yeah, so we're going to speak about some explicit things. So please be advised.

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I don't want you to get offended. I'm when I'm mentioning these things. I'm mentioning them in a very technical way. Because Islam when it comes to law, right, when it comes to like, for example, when I was describing the technical definition of Xena, right, the private part of the man disappearing into the private part of a woman, that sounds really gross and kind of to say in public, right? But we have to be technical, because otherwise people will think what exactly is Xena? Is it

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you know, kissing is kissing Xena. Right? So that's why it's important to be very clear, we're trying to make it very clear what the major sins are. And because of that, we have to sometimes be explicit. So

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So Allah Subhana, Allah tells us in the Quran

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that

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you know, the story of Luther laissant, right.

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If you don't, if you can't, you should look it up. But essentially,

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the people of Luther were people who did this sin, the sin of sodomy, which is where men had sexual intercourse with other men. Okay. And

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the Prophet, Lord Ali Salaam, he preached to them, and he would say to them, you know, tell them to stop doing this, that this was a perversion, that this was something that no nation had done before them. Right? And

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they would walk the Prophet, lute la Salaam, they ridiculed him, and they said, Oh, you're just trying to be pure, right?

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And so Allah Subhana, Allah sent angels to knock in the form of men to come and knock

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On to loot la slams door

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they came

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and they said we they told loot Isilon to to leave and to go. And the people of loot were so perverted that they started banging on the doors of loot Isilon and trying to get to the angels, right, because they thought they were men.

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And they just wanted to, I don't know, have some kind of relations with them or something. Right. And

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a lot of a salon rushed away in the night, and a last kind of Allah destroyed that town. Right.

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So in this I am just gonna read the translation. And so when what we had ordained came about when or what Allah had decreed came about, we turned the town upside down and rained down stones of black baked clay on it, layer upon layer, marked from your Lord, it is not far from the evildoers, right?

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I mean, when you read it,

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really like you can see a lot of Dallas anger, you know,

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and they say that the place where the people have looked Where is where the Dead Sea is now, you know, in

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Palestine, swear, the place of where the Dead Sea is.

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And

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so you see that Allah, Allah punished people who committed that sin.

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Here, loot Isilon said these people must you unlike other people last off the males, and abandoned the wives that Allah created for you. You are exceeding all bounds.

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And here, Allah Subhana Allah says, We gave loot sound judgment

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and knowledge and saved him from the community who practiced obscenities. They were a shameless people who broke Allah's law.

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They were fast again, basically, he will do is.

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So what exactly is a fluid? It's a man having sexual intercourse with a man. Right?

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And obviously, both of those people are sinful, right? Just like in the case of Xena, both the man and the woman would both be sinful.

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Unless it was a case of rape, right? So if if a man was forcing himself onto a woman and she was resisting, and obviously she's not committing Zina, right, that's not sin for her. But for him, it would, of course, not only be a sin,

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but also, you know, the scholars say that it's, it's punishable, right? with capital punishment, simply because it's characterized as a type of highway robbery. Right? Because you're, you know, to force people to force somebody

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in that way.

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You know, is a type of

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it's like you're stealing something from them, right.

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So Pamela, you know, it's even worse than that. So I'm sorry, that was just a tangent. But here,

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Lee, what is a man having sexual intercourse with a man in the back passage, the rectum.

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It is the sin of the people of loot.

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They were the first to do it. So in other words, it's such sexual intercourse between two men.

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But also, the scholars under this category, they were under this section. They also mentioned anal sexual intercourse with a woman

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is also a type of sodomy. Okay, and it's it is a major sin. It is a major sin.

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The prophet SAW Selim said cursed is the one who approaches his wife in her rectum. Right.

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So

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so you know how

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We in our times, like there's this loose category called homosexuality, right? When we're talking about this,

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it, it doesn't fit into our categories like that, right? Because if two women have sexual intercourse or sexual relations, that's considered a type of Xena, right? That's not considered

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lewat. Okay. lijuan is specifically men having sexual relations with men, sexual intercourse with men, right. And a type of lewat or type, something that comes under it, which is a major sin as well is

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when a man has sexual intercourse with a woman in her back passage, you know, the rectum basically.

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And so both of these are Haram.

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So how do we prevent the sin of liwan? I mean,

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I think everything that I've said for Zilla can also apply here, right? The things that prevents you and I can also apply here. But I think,

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again, look,

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I don't really want to go into

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you know, when people have feelings, right?

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Of Attraction, same sex feelings of attraction,

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I'm just going to deal with that in a similar way to any kind of attraction, right? Because remember, even if somebody is attracted to somebody of the opposite sex,

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Yanni, they still have to control themselves as a Muslim, right? It's not like

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it basically any type of sexual attraction has to be controlled, right? And can only be expressed in the right in the hallway.

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But how can we prevent the doors or the things that could lead to liquid

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developing our sense of here, and I'm mentioning these things, because maybe these are things we can instill in our children, you know, we can instill in our children, developing the sense of hire in general is just going to protect them from Xena and lewat. You know,

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so that means teaching them about their bodies, keeping their bodies private, in, you know, in front of other people, that even in front of their own their own father, right, so a girl in front of her father, a boy in front of his father, boy in front of you, a girl in front of you, once they get over a certain age, we shouldn't be taking it lightly. You know, over the age of seven, for example, they should definitely be being as private as possible, you need to teach them how to have a bath by themselves. One of that kind of thing, right? Be careful of exposing the aura in front of any of the sexes, you know.

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So even if, for example, your children are going to a boys school, your boys are going to avoid school, they shouldn't be walking around in the state of undress in front of other boys, right? And the same with girls.

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It's gonna quickly go through this lowering the gaze from men and women. Do you know even if you see you, as a woman, see an attractive woman, you should lower your gaze.

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Right? If a man sees a man who is attractive, he should lower his gaze from that young man or that man.

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So it's not just restricted to the opposite sex? No, in fact, the scholars actually emphasized attractive young men

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and said to

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men that they have to be careful when they're in the presence of young men who are attractive, or who look very feminine, etc. Right? So you can see that regardless of whether it's a male or female, you have to be careful and lower your gaze.

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To be honest, we're supposed to lower our gaze from this dunya you know, you see somebody with an amazing car and amazing watch and amazing house and amazing this amazing that beautiful eyes, you know, even if it's somebody of the same sex,

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we lower our gaze say Mashallah to vertical line, we lower our gaze lower our gaze means we don't start coveting that. Right. And we've we actually physically lower against because the more you look at dunia, the more you look at the material belongings of other people, the more you start wanting them and the more attraction that you have to them, right

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Avoid nakedness.

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You know, avoid looking at images of nakedness, avoid pornography. This is really important. People get desensitized to normal sexual relations through pornography. And as we mentioned before, then they need novelty, they need something new, they need something different. And then they need something more different. And then they need something more different. Right? So panela and that's how human beings become their judgment with regards to sex or their desire changes.

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Keep men masculine and women feminine.

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This is going to come up later because it's actually a major sin. For a man to dress as a woman and for a woman to dress as a man.

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And the self Yeah, we already mentioned spoke about men avoiding attractive beardless youths. So look, even though they were not, like clueless, right? They understood that things can happen. Certain types of attraction can develop shaitaan is on our backs, right all the time.

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Yeah, so generally, being a person who doesn't follow their desires doesn't act upon their impulses, developing that kind of self control. staying away from Xena in general, right?

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is a means to staying away from Luwak. Because like I said, Sometimes when it comes to sex, sexuality and sexual things, person in this society, for example, you're encouraged to explore every type of sexual Avenue, right? You're if you have a certain feeling or an impulse, you're encouraged to follow it, to follow it. That's the opposite of what we're told as Muslims, right? No, you don't follow every single sexual impulse that you have. You know, you control your impulses. There are impulses that you have that maybe that leaves you feeling disgusting, that leaves you feeling shameful. Why? That shame, that sense of shame is there for a reason. Right? It's something inbuilt

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by God.

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So, staying away from CNR, you know, is a mean staying away from other types of you know, illicit sex as well.

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Because again, you don't get desensitized. Right.

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And generally speaking, keeping your Salah keeping your, you know, last Mandela says that, Salah protects you from the sins, it protects you from

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your annual fascia you will monka it keeps you away from all the disgusting like shameless type sins, right? So make sure you don't get away from your connection with Allah in that sense. inshallah we'll continue next time. I think we run out of time. How do we spell Li what

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I mean, if in English, I would spell it like that. But in Arabic, it's obviously an Arabic word. Right. So it's Elif was in the first slide so it's

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gonna take me ages to get to the first slide. Here we are only what so is lamb with kasra while with Fatah, Elif?

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Okay.

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Are we allowed to use dead sea salt?

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I mean,

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I don't see why not. I don't think there's any no problem with that inshallah.

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So,

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so Pamela, I hope that that was beneficial sisters. You know, I tried to keep things as

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technical as possible. You know, we are talking about human beings, we're talking about what our Lord Allah Subhana, Allah our Creator has guided us to, and there are certain sins that he has warned us against, because they're going to be harmful for society and for our own selves at the end of the day, right. And even if the society around us doesn't accept that and doesn't realize that we as Muslims cannot

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ignore that, right? We cannot water that down.

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At the same time, it doesn't mean we spread hatred, right? And we're kind of know where we are here. Right and sure that we are here as witnesses on to mankind. And so we have to make clear to human beings, what God has said. And that's what we're doing here, right. So that is

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Even if society has forgotten that certain sins are harmful and evil and that God does not accept them as normal, right? We don't become desensitized to that as believers. So inshallah Allah with that, I'm going to leave you today. Desert come ALLAH hafiz Farah moment does that hola Ferran. And by the way, just quickly straight off to this. If you go to my YouTube channel, we're going to be having a live session starting at 7:30pm

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