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37 Surah Nisaa Reverence For The Parents
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hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah in Africa who understand you know one of the few who are not meant to be here when I talk
when we learn Himanshu the unforeseen amin sejahtera Molina, Maya de la fille de la la, la la, la la,
la la la, la la la sharika. When a shadow Adnan Mohammed and Avi Dora pseudo salvaterra he was an alcoholic. He was happy woman died without what he Elijah we didn't have our blood brothers and sisters in Islam Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
For those of you who are not here for the last few weeks,
what we are doing is we are giving a what they call a symmetric presentation of the whole of Iran, which is what we do is we take every surah of the Quran sorry, was sort of nakara in fact, it was certain Fatiha
and we look at the theme of the surah.
And we look at the cost of the surah, meaning the objectives of the surah.
And the most important thing that we look at is that we look at the practical application of the surah in our daily lives, either in our individual lives, or our lives as a community our lives as a nation, because the Quran has to have practical relevance for the Muslims.
And I repeat what I said about the Sahaba islands
that for them, the Quran was not a book of Baraka.
For them, the Quran was the book of execution.
They lived the Pura, they had to live the Torah. They had to know the Quran, and they had to know the application of the Quran. Because our laws mahanta Allah tells them and tells us
for international official info do Illallah hora so
that if we have a problem
or a dispute,
then we should refer it to Allah and His Messenger, meaning we should refer it to the Quran. And the Sunnah of Mohammed salam, Salam. And we cannot do that at least we know
how to approach the Quran and what the Quran teaches. And similarly, we need to know the student of Mohammed Salah Salaam in his various and diverse applications in the world, in its application in the high bar that
as much as its application in the morava that in our social interaction with one another, in our financial dealings, in our inheritance, in our social communication, and so forth and so on. So today, last week, we had a bit of a
we stay out of the park somewhat, that we spoke about the importance of not the importance but we looked at the mother head
and historical analysis of the mother hip.
And we looked at how it should be approached
and how we should look at the four mothers which the four great eponyms the four great founders of the mother, how they saw
they teachings to be implemented amongst mankind. So today inshallah we are busy with surah, two Nyssa. And we've already started with Surah Nisa, and we looked at our first lecture on surah to Nyssa was looking at the creation of men.
And we looked at it from the Quranic viewpoint, and also from the viewpoint of the Quran, and we analyze the very famous Hadith of the enemies of Salaam where he where he said that
women were created from the ribbon we know didn't go there and we insha Allah Allah said today, we go back to the first verse of surah Tunis of course as you know, Surah Nisa is the fourth surah of the Quran. We allow 400 A says
yeah, your nurse
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open Surah Nisa with the word taqwa
and addresses the verse to the whole of mankind
because the application of the verse Easter
The whole of humanity irrespective of creed,
or race or whatever it may be, and allows what I'm going to say is it.
Allah uses the word taqwa taqwa. As I've already pointed out, he has many different shades of meaning.
In itself, it's the remaining apparent meaning. It means fear Allah.
It can also mean mean be conscious of Allah.
So Allah, Allah says, and in this year it means to reveal Allah.
Have reverence for a loss polygon.
Because Allah says Allah created you from a single person created of like nature. He's made from them Twain scattered like seeds, countless men and women. Fear Allah through Muti. mount your mutual rights. We know I've said this already.
That we always invoke the Sharia when it's in our favor,
isn't it? our wives will do that often. But the Sharia says, but the Sherry says, if you have an argument with somebody will say, but the Sharia see, so Meanwhile, our love, we never live the Sharia. But when we need the Sharia, we invoke the Sharia. And Allah Swaziland says, we can't get our rights by using Sharia, she's not wrong.
And then allows her and Raven reverence the wounds that volume allows partner says, Allah uses the same word as he uses for himself.
allows other uses the same word dukkha, which allows for talks about the matter.
with others, Allah refers because the womb, only a mother, as a woman,
allows for hunt Allah, when Allah talks about the mother.
And the reverence for the mother and the aggravation of the mother, he uses exactly the same word.
Which means it's an indication of the status of the woman, there are many, many hundreds of ahaadeeth that deals
with what is called silicone or ham, or the relationship
that comes about from the womb.
When I say to my children, you know,
the relationship of wound comes about because of marriage.
That's why marriage is such an important institution
amongst mankind, because this was his race to mankind. It's an important institution in mankind, and even more important institution in the Dean of our last panel.
Because when we get married, we release a tsunami of manhood. And mankind means you start with only one, then you become two, then you become three, then four, then five, then six, and so forth, and so on. And your children become one and two, and three, until you sit with 5040 grandchildren, and you get lost with the names.
And they also you look at the grandson, Abdullah, Mohammed is my
No, no, no, no, Daddy, No papa, I'm so and so and so.
And they get data and so
nations get born, communities get born.
So that's why it's so important for us
to have a conception of this room.
I believe that the problems of the world that we have 99% of the problems we have in the world today is because we don't respect the woman.
We don't respect the women.
We don't respect
the status that allows for 100 has granted to women.
And most of the status of Allah, Allah and the reverence Allah has given to the mother.
And I was one of the reasons I'm telling you, all mankind
to reveal your mother's and your families that come from the same home. And I want to remind you says allows for I'm watching over you, our children,
our husbands with wives allowances I am watching over you.
When we look at the mother figure in a home,
it's not just a law firm that
doesn't impose the obligation of reverence to the mother just because
she's the mother
New alongside doula has given her the status because of the sacrifices that her mother makes.
Allows what I'm gonna say is, well, I've seen an insanity Why are they here?
We have enjoined upon men to be kind to his parents hammer lead to Omaha Quran
surah Allah says, Your mother has born you in pain.
And she has given birth to you in pain.
Well, hallelujah, follow that as soon as.
And the birth and the breastfeeding of the child stretches should stretch over a period of 15 months.
So if the mother gives birth after nine months, then he has to breastfeed the child for 21 months makes it 30 months. If a child is born after six months,
then chairs to brace with a child for 24 months, and so forth and so on.
Because it's a choice, obligation. Mother collaborates with the child when she completes furniture, overcharging tough stops drinking on the mother for some reason or other than that also falls away.
But the injunction is to complete the 30 months, including the months of gestation or the month of pregnancy.
And alswamitra says
Hector, either by law or by innocent until the child reaches the age of 40.
What about the age of 40?
Why does Allah mentioned the age of 40 because Allah says it is at the age of 40, that man reaches his complete full manhood or womanhood or maturity.
And once you've reached the top
of the mountain,
now it is getting down on the other side of the mountain, Allah says, and when you reach that age of 40 many people say that
when you reach 40, you've completed your personality and you can't change.
I don't accept that argument.
Because that's an argument which is well you know, I've been doing this and I'm not 40 I can't change damages continue to do what I'm doing.
Now allows rather than say that, Allah talks about the age of 14 many things can happen after 14 affect your life and started 14
many people say when they 50 my life started I was 16 when they retired, they said well, you know, now my life is beginning starting life. But I'll also this is this is the so they read something which should trigger in your mind, when you get to the age of 14, are you going to be 14 are you 39 of the day, you got two years more to go?
What happens at the age of 40 you should undergo a metamorphosis, a change in your life. In Allah yoga,
Hatha Yoga, you may be asked to see, Allah says, I will not change the condition of a group of people or even individual, unless that person in that group has the capacity or has the intention of changing themselves. Allah says, When you reach an age, you say, color A B, oh my lord,
oh z and the Anushka Nam attack Allah
grant me that I may be grateful to you
for the favor which you bestowed upon me.
today and the favor which you bestowed on my parents, when I'm outside the house and give,
give that I should know from the age of 40 at least change my life and lead a life of piety and commitment and service to our last panel.
Off lately fetal reality and Allah give me good offspring.
Now good offering is not something that you pray for good offering something that you make good offering something at you guide that you read,
good offerings, having
a good band, a good father.
examples in the home
and then you say,
Oh Allah, in me to be to a lake. We're in the middle Muslim and you reconfirm to our last minute Allah, that he is the one to turn to.
Complete in absolute trust in Allah subhanaw taala we're in the middle.
Mina, Muslim, and you confirm your commitment that you are nothing by
As a Muslim,
that you are one of that oma, which calls himself oma to Islam.
Now, as I said to you, the mother has many virtues, my mother has been your obligations.
And one of the obligations that the mother has is to guide the child is to install the child, the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala.
Now, I know many of you will differ with me.
And I love that I respect that.
And in fact, in my students are encouraged.
Like the great servants of Islam.
The Sahaba also didn't agree with each other two times when they disagree
quite sternly with one another.
We find that the students of yoruba hanifa Imam Shafi
nomadic, as I said to you last week,
disagreed with a teacher's
answer for you to disagree with me.
We can only grow
when we use the mind which allows pilots given to us
I say that the mother has the responsibility of guiding the child, of instilling in the child the love of Allah and the love of Allah.
But how can the mother do that if she's not exposed herself
to the love of allowing the love of
it possible to dream?
I'm giving a lecture today on love of the mother.
respect and reverence for the mother. But we are the mothers
giving a talk on medicine to students of agriculture. We are the
We Are The doctors
advice we got pediatrics do you say well, you know chef is going a little bit off,
so to speak about the reverence for the mothers but the mothers are not.
we deem it
some of us right to deny the mother's entry to the masjid.
And if we don't deny them entry to the masjid
we sometimes deny them even
to leave their homes to learn the Dean of our last panel.
differences about that, my view is that women should not be divorced especially for Juma
because so many important lessons are given
and especial arrangements are made for the women
has been should encourage their wives to come to the masjid.
So I want to tell you a story about
the role of the mother
and how important it is for the mother to be Allah conscious.
There was this particular mother when little Sandy was about 10 years old.
And he went to a Model T school
somewhere in Weinberg somewhere in Newlands some ways
that my children went to middle school. So this little boy one day came home came in Salah how's it
to this case down
to the minute said, you know, you should start saying I said Mr. Lincoln, what is it Salah Moussa, you know, you should stop using the phone as salaam alaikum Salam or Aleikum? wa salam alikoum on me.
He said, You know, you old You know, this is, you know, what's the food? I'm hungry? You know, did you make any food today mommy says you made food. You know, Sarah says, You know what, mom?
I think I'm gonna get six A's this year.
The mother is busy in the kitchen. It's hot in the kitchen. busy making the Korean
getting the food ready. You know, for the children. Are there other kids coming home from school? Is your mom I'm going to get six A's this year. My teacher said I'm gonna get six A's.
So the Microsoft team
you know, My son, I think we should get seven, eight.
So, how can I get the nicest mother? How can I get seven? Hmm, I'm only doing six subjects. How can I get seven is I'm trying to think
if I'm gonna get six A's, which subjects are going to get lazy, maybe it's science, maybe it's methods, English, Afrikaans, whatever it may be.
So his mother says, you know, My son, I don't want you to get any ice. So he said, Mother, I think it's too hot in the kitchen for you, you know? It's affecting your brains. Like
how could you tell me you don't want me to get any AC so I just come here, come and sit down. Come sit next to me.
His mother says to him.
I want you to only get one a just one way.
This is one thing. I'm doing six subjects. What kind of do are you making? For me? I was getting only one a certain which subject by me. Should I get an amen? Sister? No, no, no, no. I want you. I want your ad to stand for Allah.
I want the ad that you get that your I'ma stand for Allah.
Listen to his mother. say he's my boy. You see?
You can have one we are in your name the alphabet. B sc
mbchb Ba, n g.
How proud aren't we whenever I'm not as when I meet parents in the supermarket, or in the street or wherever I go. You know, they're so proud of the children. Oh, my daughter, you know, I know she's in Greece. Really?
Yes, she has got a some kind of a degree that she got. She's got a master's degree. My son has got a master's degree. He's doing this
successfully, but you say so near the mercy that ever seen children.
You've come across this. So all our children are now indicated they will have degrees, all of these long things behind the name. Sometimes you don't know what they've studied where they've been in life. So the other thing is
once you have all those letters behind your name,
but you don't have a line your life. She says you know, if you are if you are, if you're in need in in trouble, you will never be sad because you know you have a helper called Allah.
And if you are successful, you will never become arrogant.
Because you would acknowledge the fact that your success comes from a low
end of the day of piano if aligns with you What can stop you from going to paradise?
What can stop you from going to jail.
And EVE Online this dude named Akira you are successful in this world and India.
So this little boy looks at his mother with a tear in his eye and he says
shoo Mom, you're a genius.
that kind of mother
will not be bred on the waterfront.
That kind of bother will not just come from UC T or u WC or Stellenbosch.
That kind of mother will not come from just waiting a job.
That kind of mother
will be a mother
who has a strong leader in her life a strong husband
because a weak husband
becomes another child of his wife.
A strong husband
is a husband who says to his wife, I love you in this world. I sleep next to you every night. I wish to be with you also in the gentleman there.
So from next week, you will make the food and finish it at 11 o'clock and you go with me to Joomla to the Joomla when I leave to go to Joomla if you can cause some people work they come but many of our mothers are sitting at home
and I'm not saying you must come to this magic for 500 machines in Cape Town or he says to his wife
children a big with home will seek a teacher for ourselves. Like we sit in the cinema
to three hours, walk around and go on holidays for weeks.
And we say we deserve that, you know, we work very hard.
We have to go away You know?
So why can't we spend in some time
to go in the path of a law
and the greatest path you can take
in the way of Allah is to go and seek knowledge for the sake of yourselves and your children in your
man Salah kokkari
yo temi Sufi Allah sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam said he will seek for himself a road to learning
Allah will make it easy for him
to reach paradise Now you might say well Jeff you know that's fine to say that you know but I could never learn anything
brain Mickey silicon
for iron I passed and five are standard three year standard for you know,
so I leave it to my children you know my kids or hobbies, my gradual hobbies I can read properly but you know, my kids
as you know that is going to save him on the day of care.
How is it that somebody else's effort will save you 20
allows Muhammad Allah says Nagisa Salam doesn't say you must go and learn to become a doctor in Surah
Nisa Salaam says tala
Nabi doesn't say seeking knowledge as far as I know. Nobody doesn't say to become a genius is found or to learn everything is found. No, no, no, no. Nobody says someone says to seek knowledge is
how much you will remember that knowledge hence, how much your practice that is in your hands. What is your obligation The following is on YouTube to seek palapa. palamedes if the Navy says lmha aligned for either Nemesis Rahman said knowledge is compulsory, we would have all been in very big trouble.
Because it would have meant that all of us
would have been required to become allamah. And we're not required. But each and every Muslim men and woman for read only Muslim in one Muslim, a team on every Muslim male, every Muslim female.
Coming back to the question of kindness to parents, Abdullah says that he asked the Messenger of Allah subhanaw taala that which act is most beloved to Allah.
And the Prophet replied, to pray on time of Salah to
free walk to
to pray on time.
Then the Prophet says they initiate and what they are after the poverty, to be kind to your parents.
And kindness here means love
to love them so much
that you do anything and everything to please them.
And then the Navy so Salah was asked by a man by a gentleman who's who as a savior Rasul Allah, who must be my friend in the dunya, who deserves to be my friend who deserves my company, whom I spend my time with. And the Prophet said your mother. And again, you're asking the prophets in your mother, and again, you ask them the prophecy tomorrow.
Today, people children visit their mothers, what do they do? The mother sits in the room, they sit in front of the TV in the lounge.
They only comes around economy
and then it goes somewhere else. And when they leave salonica Mommy, and then they leave.
And the parent sets she won't show she or he won't show that they unhappy. Or the heartsick like my child is not spending any time with me. Nine months I carried him.
I fed him put his nappy on that his tears
from the weather from the elements from his enemies from everybody. Now knowledge
he's got nothing to talk to me about.
Musa Salam said, Allah is pleased
with you, when your parents are pleased with you.
Your parents are pleased with you.
But what do we think today, I think
if I make salah
and I give zakah and I fast, doesn't matter how I treat my parents, I'm alright with Allah doesn't work like that.
You can't pray away
the pleasure of your parents.
You have to earn it. You have to spend time with them. And Allah is displeased with you and your parents are displeased with you.
And you know, life has changed so much. I mean,
I'm not that old. I mean,
my parents are not alive anymore.
But really, when I think back at how I lived as a child, in my home with my parents,
there was the question of disobeying them no question.
It never crossed your mind to say no.
Never, no matter what they asked you to do.
And when it was no, you understood.
Today when you say no to the child, he doesn't know what to say. Thank you speaking Greek.
Yona understands? Yes.
And not only that today, parents the parents is no and they still do it.
Debbie Salama Sallam said was asked what about after
your parents death yasunaga
what will appeal it's already gone. What can you still do for them? Professor Sallam said number one you can make dua for them.
Pray for the
Aloma fiddly world with a
allama Finn lahoma Warhammer was Keanu morphogen committed often in English all the Gotham gentlemen.
You can ask forgiveness from Allah forgive them if you don't need any people ask an English counsel mohawked.
Number three fulfill their obligations if your mother or father owed anybody money. When obligation you can't say Well, sorry, my mother is now dead, my father's dead. That's it end of the road.
There is sponsibility of the obligation shifts to you as a son or a daughter.
It carries on.
Why? Because by you fulfilling the obligations of a parents you are saving them from the failure.
For example, your father has an obligation by Allah to have made his world in accordance with the Quran.
If he does if he didn't do it,
there is no salvation for him in data. Zero. He goes straight to hell.
When you see my father was he didn't understand these things. You know, he didn't understand what Excuse me.
1500 years when the Quran in your father didn't know about the Quran
1500 years your mind didn't know about things occur.
Because this is what people tell me. They bring the world and I say
father's born Muslim, Sunita Quran. So what is this?
How is it possible for a Muslim?
to go against
all cinturato Nisha from Western
Express instructions from a law as to how you should divide
your assets when you die. And I tell people I say you know, why must you do that? You do that because it doesn't belong to you. You came into this world naked, and whatever you have here, Allah gave you so when you leave you must give it back to Allah and Allah has the right to say who you must give it to.
So your father,
or your mother, or your brother, your sister, your mother in law your father
made a well known in accordance with what is your duty as a child obligate obligation
Is to re distribute
that which pleases allows.
So fulfilling the obligations of your parents very important, with normal obligations also to correct the things which he did wrong.
Number four, to keep ties with his or her family, your parents.
Number five, to honor your father's friends or your mother's friends.
All these and you can see
three of the five concerns.
how we live in this world,
how we deal with one another. When people say, Oh, you know, my father's dead or anything do with these with these family anymore? People say they don't have to go visit my uncle anymore. It's a terrible guy. And I don't know that my father can force me to go, I won't go anymore.
I didn't like my mother's family, you know, so. And remember, yeah, it doesn't connect with Islam couldn't do without a Muslim or not.
If they are non Muslim,
you also have the obligation to keep the family ties.
If your mother sister is not a Muslim, or your father's brother is not a Muslim, doesn't matter.
They're still family.
And the professor was asked, Can a child repays parents?
I know a lot of children are much, much wealthier than their parents were who could ever dream of being.
So can you go to your mother or your father and say, Look, I want to make a deal with you, I'll pay you out how much you want.
Only one condition and the one circumstance that you can redeem
yourself in front of your mother or your father. And that is if you find them enslaved, somebody bought them, made slaves of them, and you buy them back and set them free.
Then obligation of children to parents
CSUs. Now you may say you know she's fine. So what you're saying is hotlines. today. All parents are free.
Our parents are more enslaved.
I cry sometimes I look at parents more in slaves than ever
before, when people got married,
The girl who got married, look after children.
My daughter gets married to somebody. She has children. She looks after her children. She stays at home looks after children. Today we enslave the parents.
Oh, you know the bond is 20,000 Rand My wife has to go work. So where do we put the children now that the grandparents had to raise and relax.
They now have two parents left.
What they do is parents can't work anymore.
So the parents never rental property. And I'm saying this because these are all the cases that come to me. pains have a rental property. So the son goes to his parents and says I'm gonna pay the rent, you must look out for my children. And she becomes a slave to him. He tells her whatever she then she says, Oh no, no, he
may seem to shimmy down the nerves the mother and the father.
is a food ready You know? is is is everything in fine is the children old look after you know the old washed and bark, you know, because his wife comes home nine utensil skirt, you know?
Is the is the house clean?
That's constructive slavery,
If you can
redeem that if you can relieve your parents have that kind of responsibility. Then maybe you will have the same reward as the man who finds his parents really enslaved
When we look at life today we can see why.
This vehicle Baraka
My daughter is such a good girl, she married a good guy.
They divorced, what happened? What went wrong with
two kids one kid
nice couple nights that just
and what is Baraka in this life, the root of the mother and the father,
the mother and father, the pleasure of the mother and father 99
plus 10% of Baraka in the life of a child.
I'm not saying that
there is a certain pleasure of Allah lies in the pleasure of the parents.
So remember what I'm saying to you today.
We all have daughters and sons.
Now, we say, you know, once they reach the age of 15,
they become the father and you become the son. They become the mother and you become the daughter.
So I say to parents, my own children, my brothers and my sisters, when your child is under 15, you let him do what you want him to do. No choice. Let him go to Madras, go to school, go here this properly. Because after 15, you can't tell him.
They'll tell you more what they learned on the internet than what you could ever tell them. They become internet children, even as far as the deen is concerned.
So parents have an obligation
Now last, I'm going to give in Sharla that we take lesson from the first verse of certain Nyssa and reverence the wounds that bore you.
And we take cognizance and lesson from the hadith of Mohammed Salah, salah
and certainly life of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam.
And we adapted to the times in which we live.
Ma allows one to guide our young people
because they know the future. They the present.
Yes, the future belongs to them, but they are the present we need to guide them now towards Allah.
And when we take lessons from the mother, who told her son that comes from the model c school, that my child, the age that you're going to get for maths and science is nothing I want you to get get an A called Allah.
You have the echo of Allah in your life and your grandfather gives us this into your grandchildren.
You know, there was a time when grandparents used to speak to the grandchildren about Allah.
Today, the grandchildren speak to the grandparents about
all the movies
that they've watched. If they come to you on a Saturday or Sunday, they will tell you they watch this. And they watch that and can't you download this and come to download that they have conversation with you. He said if you haven't conversation with him
and we need to reverse that.
You need to transfer
some of your character and your knowledge that you have to your children in your graduate.
Study. Now last time the giving challenge will take lesson from today's cookbook. Walter illallah wa salam aleikum wa rahmatullah