Channel: Daood Butt
02 – Purification of the Soul (Tazkiatu Al-Nafs) – Resisting Hatred – Sh. Daood
Nov 11, 2016 @ Al Falah Islamic Centre
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala nabina Karim Ali Abdullah Saleh to attend the tasneem rubbish Rafi surgery we have Sidley Emery, Dr. Tommy Lee Sani of Coco Lee. My brothers and sisters in Islam Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
Mashallah, let me do this.
Good hamdulillah Okay, so before we begin in sha Allah Allah I'm going to ask the sisters in the back to open their light so it doesn't feel like we're going to sleep. And also the partition is put up so the sisters that want to come through the white door on your left side you can do so any of the brothers here maybe just move over to this side and shut a lot of time so the sisters can sit comfortably there, and sha Allah.
Today inshallah to Allah actually, before we get into today, and we have a slight technical difficulty, we're missing the projector.
So if anyone has a projector that they keep in their pocket, that would be great. But if not handler will try and make do with the laptop like we did the first time inshallah or
Yeah, so we'll try and do it in sha Allah the quiz at the end.
Okay, so before we go into our topic for today, who can remind us what we discussed last week? What was our topic last week?
Tez. kiya, what is touchcare?
Pure purification purification of what? Like Should I just go wash my clothes every day or what's Tesco Tesco Of what?
Okay, so we spoke about purification and we mentioned teskey to nuts, which is purification of the soul, purification of the heart, etc. What topic in particular, did we discuss with regards to test kiya or test Captain knifes purification?
We mentioned those diseases of the heart, right? What are those diseases? Who can remind us has said which is?
You don't know. But what do you want to say?
envy or jealousy? Very good. So we spoke about envy. We spoke about jealousy, we spoke about the diseases of the heart and how we need to clean our hearts cleanse our hearts. And some of the different topics related to that we will cover throughout this month in sha Allah hota. Now today, I wanted to focus on hatred.
Yes, hatred. Does anyone here hate someone else? That's here? No, don't answer that.
Sometimes, yeah, it's true. Sometimes we feel, you know, really bad inside of us towards someone else. Maybe it's because, you know, while we're praying, maybe they stepped on our foot. Or maybe at some of the children as they're, they're praying, for example, someone comes from behind and just pushes them and runs away and they don't know who it was. All of these things happen. Sometimes it might be that someone harms us in some way, shape or form. Is that the projector?
A lot of a lot of Arcola, so don't go away, what I need you to do is set it up.
Set it up, the two of you will be in charge to set it up the same same way we did. You can you can that's okay. You can No, no, listen, no, no two of you. I said, Hey, I said to you Come sit down. You You will get to do something afterwards. Don't worry you may have for them alone will bless you with that as well.
Remember, we spoke about how I said don't be jealous, make sure that they get to do this more often. And you will also sometimes we'll get some benefit as well. Okay.
And then just so, you know, just to brief you a little bit, maybe just put it on that. Put on the box, how you set it up, do it the way you want.
Okay, so we're going to talk about hatred and some of the things to do with hatred, right? And how hatred itself is something that many of us might feel inside of ourselves. Like you might hate someone, it could be a family member, it could be a relative, it could be just, you know, a neighbor. It could even be someone who you're sitting right next to right now and they don't know that you hate them. Or you have this thing inside of you that you don't like with regards to them, but you just pretend like it doesn't exist. Now let's look at what Allah Subhana Allah tells us in the Quran. In Surah Taha Jamaat Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions in Muna fo for all sneer Rubina
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Verily, the believers are brothers and sisters to each other right brothers and sisters to each other. So as Muslims as a Muslim men or boy
As a Muslim girl or sister or a woman, we are brothers and sisters to each other. Right? And I've mentioned something in the past that our blood
you're gonna have to give me two minutes to spend. I had a friend that I came home to LA Salatu was sent him when I solo Hannah and he was talking to you on my bed. I was watching my daughter's hands and I heard the recitation I thought Masha Allah Subhana Allah with someone in this Masjid is an amazing goddess and how Allah, one of these children and then I see the phone, my daughter says it's a phone, I haven't been enough. Forgive me, my wife is not here it goes.
Right? My wife is not here. And so I have the daughters with me. And I had taken them to the bathroom before we started to make sure that they had gone and some kind of law. This is the color of Allah subhanho wa Taala halus. So we were talking about the verse in Surah, to her daughter, Allah subhanho wa Taala says in me know niqua Verily, the believers are brothers and sisters to each other. For us, the whole Bane away from Allah subhanho wa Taala, then gives the command to fix ourselves to correct our relationship with each other. Make sure that our dealings with one another is good. And we don't have this hatred between us. And some handler. When we look at the son of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he would encourage us to never hold a grudge for more than three days, how many days three days never hold a grudge for more than three days. Now that's important because the profits of the longer I need to send them knows very well that as human beings, we will feel hurt at times, someone might do something to us and we feel hurt. And we might feel you know what I don't want to see this person I want to stay away from them for some time. And you know, colleague buried her book yazeed keep a person far distance absence makes the heart grow fonder. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam understood that. And he allowed for us to have
that time, but not more than three days. And we covered these Hadeeth in other bill McBride when we spoke about these chapters before and I'm about that belief. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam does not allow us to have that hatred or that you know, Ill feeling towards our Muslim brother and sister for more than three days. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala.
Going back to the verse, he says, For all sunny who have been awakened, correct the relationship that we have between us now for example, someone comes to you and punches you in the face.
What do you do?
punching back an eye for an eye a tooth for a tooth? Right?
What do you do? Yes.
You ask him why he did it. So he punches you in the face. You're like, why did you do that?
What do you do?
start crying what do you do?
Call the police. It's an assault of how would you want your you know, your your brother or your sister or someone anyone in general who did something maybe they didn't know maybe they punched the wrong person. Right? Maybe the puncture on person and it's just a punch release However, when we think of it, but you're right, you're absolutely right. If someone does abuse us and this is important as well, and I don't want to go down this road, but it does happen sometimes that people become very physical and violence and that's important for us to understand that yes, we do in that case, let the authorities know whether it's the police or whether it's school and we let the teacher
know or a parent know or someone of that sort. You had your hand up
What are you doing walking around with
a shot lots a lot of Come on. No, no, we're not gonna mention that one. This is being broadcasted live you know?
What else do you do? Tell your dad
Call an ambulance. Call us What about the sisters someone comes up to you and punches you what do you do? punch them back. Okay.
Especially if it's a boy right a boy punches a girl you know
kick them so they punch you you kick them so Hannah law Anyone else?
Last one Okay, last two. Yeah.
Good telling adults very good and
forgive them somehow and Allah Mashallah lots of water cola. Okay.
Walk away. All right. So a loss of handle it's an SS for asleep, Robaina awaken. Now how you deal with that problem is a completely different story. Right? There's no there's no ultimate solution. Someone might punch you and you know, there's legitimate reason or something of that sort or they made a mistake and they punch the wrong person.
Or they didn't even plan on doing that. Maybe, you know, they saw a fly and they went to catch the fly and they hit you in the face by accident, right? It happens sometimes. The other day I was in a meeting and there was a fly flying around and everyone was getting annoyed with this fly. And I went, you know, I move my hand like this, and then it came down in front of me and I went like that and knocked over a full bottle of water I just opened all over the meeting table. I was like, Oh, no, it's alright. So sometimes you don't intend to do something and it happens, right? So Allah subhanho wa Taala then says,
Okay, then Allah Subhana Allah says, what are called La la la come
to him on what taco la have Taqwa be conscious of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Understand that there's consequences to what we do our actions. There are consequences. So when someone does something to you, there's consequences to your actions, right? What tequila, tequila right here Allah subhanho wa Taala be aware of Allah subhanho wa Taala lan lacouture hammann. Why? Because Allah Subhana Allah is Allah We hope that he will have mercy upon us.
Okay, so sit down and your legs hurting, you can do a stand up. Then the profits on a longer day you are selling them he says in a Hadeeth now this is a really important Hadeeth especially for the adults. This is an authentic hadith mentioned in Sahih Muslim. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says that the gates of Paradise the gates of Jannah are opened on Mondays and Thursdays. Now when we hear that, what do we think right away? It's the gates of Paradise are open on Mondays and Thursdays. What should we do? fast? Fast.
Fast, because a prophet sallallahu wasallam fasted on Mondays and Thursdays. Make widow and pray.
Catch the gate before it closes. I don't know how you do that. But okay. Yeah. Okay, good. Sit down, please. Behind you. Yeah.
be better on those days. Very good.
Hope that you die on one of those days. Tell us one of the days when the doors of Paradise are open. Right. And that's really important. Yeah. Fast. Good. Alhamdulillah any of the sisters? A little girl with her hand up there? I think she just has her hand up because everyone has their hand up, right? hold us. So one of the things that we think of doing on Mondays and Thursdays is fast because we know it's a son of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to fast on Mondays and on Thursdays. But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says these gates of Paradise are open on Mondays and Thursdays. And Allah subhana wa Johanna forgives all the believers. Initially now you can't come and
bother me all the time. You
sit down then stop walking, okay, so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam continues to say, after saying that the gates are open on Mondays and Thursdays that Allah subhanho wa Taala. Allah forgives those who believe in Allah subhanho wa Taala and who do not associate partners with him. So we know that every one of the believers is being forgiven on Mondays and Thursdays. But then the Hadith continues. The Prophet sallallahu wasallam says that of that to people who dispute amongst themselves, it will be said to them. And Allah subhanho wa Taala will say to them, hold both of them until they reconcile each other, hold both of them until they reconcile each other, to people who
have hatred towards one another will not receive forgiveness on the Monday and the Thursday when the gates of Paradise are open, simply because they had hatred towards one another. Now that's powerful. That's really interesting. Because sometimes it happens that many of us feel things inside of us towards someone else. I don't like you, I don't like this brother, because you know, that one wears this perfume that I don't like and this one, he thinks he's super cool because of you know, the clothing that he wears. And that one he drives a fancier car than me even though he makes less money than me. And this one, you know, he has more children. So he thinks he has more Baraka and wealth in
his life. And so we start to have these feelings inside of us. And we know that it leads to backbiting as well because we sit there and we start to talk about these people, when we're with family, when we're with friends, etc. And so the prophets of Allah Allah usnm shows us that Allah subhana wa tada restricts forgiveness upon us simply because we have ill feelings towards another person.
if we as believers
can't fix our problems between us, and we have this hatred between one another, how do we expect to take Islam to the non believers to the non Muslims? How do we expect to be a good example for others if they see us, people who have hatred inside of us, people who have envy jealousy inside of us and we're always you know, jealous with
one another and we always hate each other and we talk bad about each other, we backed by one another. How would they want to be like us if this is what they see? And so it's important for us to correct ourselves. And this is why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam encourages us to do so as Allah subhana wa tada mentions in the Quran. For us, Lee who Bane away can fix the problems that we have amongst ourselves so that we can move forward united. Now, having said that,
something recently happened a couple of days ago. What was it?
Donald Trump, one who had a very frank, very straightforward, Donald Trump one. All right. You have something something else happened.
Very good. Two Muslim Brothers passed away. We asked Allah subhana wa tada to forgive them And grant them Jenna, and make them from amongst those who have a beautiful, wide open, sweet smelling grave that resembles a garden of paradise. I mean,
we take some questions later, guys, keep asking.
I have no idea what you just said. Something got 11,000 votes
World War Three happened in the past few days.
You see where the minds of the children aren't you see what they're thinking somehow that's really interesting, because the US just finished their elections. And Donald Trump was voted in, right. And so you start to see, and I'll tell you what happened for me. I woke up on that morning, and there was a brother who's sitting here who sent me a text message I didn't want to see. Right. I at night, went to bed looking at this the laptop in front of me because my wife had opened up the laptop. And you know, she was watching the elections and what was taking place. And a few hours before that, I noticed that Hillary Clinton was ahead of Donald Trump. I was like, okay, hold us, whatever happens
is the best man wins, or the best woman wins, right? whoever's best will win. And then some handler what I noticed was as I was about to go to bed, and this was like, you know, around 1130, or something like that, Donald Trump, his numbers were really high, like just going higher and higher. And I thought to myself, how long now I'm gonna go to sleep. I'm gonna trust a loss of handler to handle whatever is best to happen will happen. And I was going to sleep thinking, yeah, a lot. When I wake up in the morning, don't let Donald Trump be the president of the United States, right. But some handle on when I woke up in the morning, what I did, and I told you this before I turned my
internet connection off, when I go to sleep at night, if you send me a WhatsApp message, or you messaging me on Facebook, whatever, if you see that I'm not responding is because it's off, right? I turned it off at night, so I don't get bothered. But one brother, he doesn't really use the internet very well as and he doesn't use it very often. So he sent me a text message as we normally message each other using text, what happens when your internet is turned off? But someone sends you a text message? Do you get it? Of course, you get it because you don't need internet to get that text message. So I see that text message. And it says by I heard Donald Trump won the elections. And I'm
worried or I'm concerned about my family, and the Muslims in the United States House. Like I didn't need to know that. Because my plan in the morning was to wake up and do not look at the news or the media at all. I didn't want to know, I planned on making the morning my morning.
It's mine, I own it. I don't want to know what happened in the world. I'm going to use my time that Allah gave me in the way that I want to use it. So I went for a walk, right. And as I'm going for a walk, I thought to myself, Carlos, halfway through it, it's time for me to check social media and see what happened in the United States if this text message is true. And so I go on the internet, and all I start seeing is lots of people who have so much hatred inside of them. They're like, you know, saying things about Donald Trump saying things about the people in the United States, things like how can someone or how can a nation elect a person like that, who has no knowledge of politics,
you know, never really spent much time learning it or, you know, in that realm? How is it that people can vote for someone like that? And I thought to myself, instead of joining the people and having that hatred, and instead of just saying what everyone else is saying, why don't we understand it from a different perspective. When I went to bed, I trusted that Allah subhanho wa Taala would choose the best person.
Ultimately, who chose Donald Trump to be the next president of the United States.
Allah subhanho wa Taala.
Now I know for us as parents, we're like, Well, wait a second. What are you talking about? Now? You don't know what you're talking about. This is nonsense. No, think of it.
A loss of Hannah Hannah says in the Quran.
calm. He says you might think that something you hate is bad for you.
But it's actually good for you. Whereas
law calm, and you might think that something you love is good for you. And the law says, I said unto him, boo, you might think that you love this thing. And because you love that you want it, it must be good for you. Well, who are shoved, we're lucky, but it is actually bad for us. That in itself is a lesson from Allah subhanho wa Taala. I am not saying and I don't know, I've never spoken to Donald Trump. And if anyone ever asks me, I don't know who's better. But we leave it up to Allah subhana wa Tada. We don't need to have that hatred inside of us. Because someone else shows hatred towards us as Muslims, that does not mean we need to return the hatred to them. We should not live our lives as
people that are being put down all the time. And the lesson that we learn is that Allah subhanho wa Taala unites us, Allah subhana wa, tada brings us together now we're at a time of need, we're at a time where we want to unite where we need to unite in order to stand strong. And so that is the lesson that I want all of us to go away with in sha Allah hota hai Allah, that we need to be strong and we need to remove the hatred from our hearts. Even if someone is bad to us. Even if we don't like it. We need to trust that Allah subhanho wa Taala will make everything good for us. Why? Because Allah subhanho wa Taala says, you can have to wait, okay, because I'm going to lose my train
of thought, Okay. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, One Manitoba Canada, law he has
whoever has to walk when in Allah subhanho wa Taala. What does that mean for who has? What is that a lot is?
What is a lot, a lot is
sufficient enough. A lot is enough for us. So when we are hurt by someone, when we are harmed by someone else, and we have those feelings inside of us that are fostering inside of us, I don't like what this person did to me, I have to work well in Allah subhanho wa Taala. When you put your feelings aside and you trust that Allah will fix the situation, trust that he will fix it for you. And Allah is enough for us a lot is sufficient for us. And that's a lesson that we need to learn some Hannah law, because many of us we don't have enough to work well. And Allah subhana wa, tada, we have too much hatred inside of us. And we let that hatred overpower us. And what happens is, and
this is another topic that we'll discuss maybe next week in sha Allah, is that hatred leads to anger. And that anger, many of us blame anger. We say, Oh, you know what, I wasn't thinking straight. A man comes in, divorces his wife and says, I divorced, you got divorced, you have divorced you? Right? He says it three times to his wife. And then they come in front of the Imam and he says, You know, I said it out of anger. No, the anger doesn't control. The way that you do things. You are in control. And this is why Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us to control ourselves when we get angry. The consequences of what happens when we're angry is not because of the anger,
it's because we couldn't control ourselves. And we need to understand that, that loss of habitat, through this hatred that we have, brings out other characteristics in us that we need to be in control of. And if we're not in control, it's because we need to clean something inside of us. And that is teskey tumnus. That is cleaning ourselves, purifying our soul, purifying our hearts, purifying our thoughts from the harm that we see going each and every way between our Muslim brothers and sisters.
Hey, I want to bring another thing to our attention because there's a lot of youth here in sha Allah. Okay. And this is something that our youth are actually standing strong in doing. How many of you go to a school that is part of the peel school board?
Or let me ask the parents, how many of your children are going to schools that are part of the peel school board? Raise your hand.
Okay, none of the sisters go to appeal school? Yeah, sort of you don't know you're like on between? Okay, how many of you right?
Hey, I sit down.
Good. So many of you might have children or some of you might even go to a school. That's part of the peel school board. Now, I was at a meeting the other day. Any of you heard of this meeting, peel school board meeting that discussed Muslims.
in the gym or whatever, yeah, you were there. You heard about it. Was it mentioned in your drama football? Is that how you heard about it? No, you got a message of some sort, right? Hey, I'm gonna ask you one last time. You're gonna need to stop. I'm gonna call you Baba. He's gonna come sit right next to you.
he's, he's done. Okay, just be careful. Baba might be coming. All right. All right, inshallah. So some of us we noticed this a panel, our children go to peel schools. Right now, I'm not saying anything bad about the peel school board. hamdulillah. It's a great school board. It does a lot of good things that allows our Muslim students to, you know, have freedom of various different sorts. But we saw this week a meeting that took place at the actual school board itself,
where high school students stood to defend their right to have Juma at the school, not actually defending the right to half Juma, but defending the right to have more than just six Juma what was that they can choose from for the whole year.
So there was a new policy that was that was put into place, or that was going to be put in place. And this policy was restricting students from making their own hotspot, or having their own hotspot or putting it together on their own, where they can only choose from six quotas. And that's it. Now, imagine if you came for Juma every single Friday, and the hook Bell you heard today for Gemma was the same one you heard six weeks ago. And the hook that your next week is the same one that you heard five weeks ago, and the hook but you're in two weeks is the same one you heard four weeks ago? Would we be excited to go for Gemma?
No, we wouldn't. We'd be really bored and the parents know it. Because the parents already come for Gemma. Mashallah. And we're like, falling asleep, because many of us don't know how to do a proper job. And so sometimes we fall asleep already during the football, these students. And we have to recognize that they were standing defending themselves, high school students, university students standing up saying, you know, what we want to choose, we want to speak about what's important. We want to talk about our, you know, festivals, we want to talk about things that happen, for example, Ramadan, and these hook was, apparently we're restricting them from doing so, because they're not
allowed to now talk about faith. They're not allowed to talk about belief. They're not allowed to talk about prayer, they're not allowed to talk about fasting from what I've been told, right, this from what I've been told, I haven't read the actual documents. But this is what I've been, I've been told. And so what we saw during that meeting, as well, was an example of how these youth were standing and defending themselves. But there were some things that came from the Muslims that were sitting there
that projected their hatred towards those that were making decisions for their children.
And that's not a good thing. That's not a good thing. things being said, things being spoken about one another being yelled out or shouting, saying things to others, that actually is not nice. According to our Dean, we're taught to do what's right, and to say what's right. And if we don't have anything good to say, what do we do? remain silent, right, we remain silent. And so that's an important lesson for us to learn to behave when we're in public settings, and not let our hatred come out. And so I asked all of us before we conclude in sha Allah, Allah, to look into what's happening with the youth and the school board and the high school students mshs within the Peel
Region. Think of this, the peel school board is the second largest school board in the entire country.
It's the second largest in the whole country. If they start to do stuff like this and restrict our students who eventually become really bored with Java, eventually, they don't want to play drama. They don't want to pray this boring. Every time we go, we talk about, you know, smiling, every time we go for drama, we talk about charity, every six weeks is charity every six weeks, it's about you know, something else like generosity, etc, we get really bored. And this is a simple way of stopping our students in high school from excelling in their Deen, it's controlling them, and we should not allow this to happen. So I'm here just requesting First of all, don't bring our hatred out in that
way in, in public matters, right? Go and address the people that we need to secondly, for the adults that are here, stand strong and support those youth support them. The policy Alhamdulillah was taken aback for now temporarily, and they will discuss it they will meet with those students and move forward. So we should be there to support them. These are our Muslim youth. These are people who stand strong Alhamdulillah with their identity as Muslims, happy and welcome to show their other friends in school that they're Muslim. And so we need to help them to do that as well. All right in sha Allah
had concluded that In short, a lot, a lot of distractions today so my mind is everywhere so panela
Mashallah, we didn't have socks on the table.
So this is what it's like when you're when you're teaching and a father at the same time, so
help us. So, those are all the things that I'm going to mention for today in sha Allah Tada. We do have the quiz. Okay, how many of you want to do the quiz?
The same one with not the same one different questions. So we're going to do different questions and Sharma Okay, good. They'll come to the lab. So what we're going to do is we're gonna set it up, you have that ready to go. Good hamdulillah we're just going to plug this in
and get your phones out or your tablets. Get connected in sha Allah
just wait, just wait.
How are you?
Okay, so we'll give you another 30 seconds inshallah to
to get on
what's going on?
Is their price
All right, we're gonna get going and Trump guys, you got to stop moving it now. Okay, just leave it where it is.
Okay, guys, all the youth that are saying bad things about Trump, be careful.
Because as Muslims, whoever, whoever, whoever that is, I'm going to advise you
To exit and change your name, please. Okay. Whoever it is, hmm.
Can you kick people out?
So they can't just exit.
I don't see my mouse.
Okay, so we have to remember, we're in a Masjid. Okay. This is a community center as well. There's a lot of people here. And as youth, we don't just write things that are bad. Okay? we're promoting goodness. And remember, you might, you might have some hatred inside of you for someone, even if it's Donald Trump.
But it's important for us to always portray a good example and be good to others and show others that we are good people. Alright, so for those that are around,
you know, playing the quiz in sha Allah, Allah, make sure that you have good behavior and you do the right things.
Nina, can you get off me? I can't see what I'm doing.
Okay, so I'm just gonna ask you to
do it from there Is
Ready. You need another minute.
Thursday, Monday, Thursday and Friday, Monday and Tuesday last night.
Monday, Thursday, Monday.
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to be kidding me either.
Those of you that got it wrong Did you get it wrong? Because I said this is mentioned in a heartbeat.
But the question was who says this? Who says it?
what is what is the
last week you guys can play the questions.
This week I switched it up.
You guys know you
find the verse in the
US we call Vayner already.
the hardships we go through in life comes
more hardship and depression.
who didn't forget
the hardships that we go on in life.
They will be times where we're happy and things were going good for us a lot. We just need to
get the last question.
The last question we're
gonna be on three hours.
Whoever depends on the law, you will be fortunate
it's enough to be ready for him.
He never said that. He never saw
he never said enough.
to stress that right before we finish I kept saying a lot is enough.
Number one, a lot. I may drive for number one after the first round, right number one.
you guys are number one. Good.
Because you got to number one who said, Now I'll make number one come up in the first place.
so you guys can do whatever you want. Okay? This is for the two of you can split it or whoever else.
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mozzie which is assuming? And
are you actually adopted? Good?
Alright, so that was
Okay hamdulillah. So that was the quiz, you have to forgive me, my head is all over the place today. And just been dealing with quite a few things, some kind of law and having the children as an additional thing on mind. So we asked Allah Subhana, Allah to make it easy for us to remove the hatred that we might have inside of us towards each other. And we need to work with one another to try and remove this hatred. One of the best ways to cure ourselves of any one of these diseases of the heart, is to actually work with someone. So find a close friend, it could even be your spouse, right? for the adults, it could be your spouse, where you work on fixing yourselves together, sit
down at night, take a piece of paper, give it to each one of you, right? The husband, the wife, or the mom and the dad take this, and you guys write down things that are specific to yourself. So for example, say, you know, what are three things that you know, I could change in myself. And so you will write that about your spouse and your spouse or write that about you. And these are all things that Subhanallah you know, tricks or tips with regards to things that I use when I counsel people, especially when people come in and they have major problems. One of the biggest problems is that we don't communicate enough. And if we're trying to correct ourselves, we need to be humble and admit
yes, I do have this problem. How can I fix it now? How can I correct myself? How can I change this within myself? And so when we do that in sha Allah Hosanna we find that we eventually can correct ourselves and fix the problems that we do have an might even be fostering inside of us. ask Allah subhana wa tada to make it easy for us to cleanse ourselves and to grant us a higher and deeper Amen. I mean, out of Bella alameen wa salatu salam o American anabaena Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam