Friday Night Etiquettes Class – July 2, 2021
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa sallahu wa Taala he was Salam ala nabina Karim Allah He of total Sana to attempt to slim rubbish. rocklea sorry, very silly, angry Washington awkward attend melissani of Cabo poly. My brothers and my sisters said Mr. Aleikum, wa rahmatullah wa he will bought a cattle. So today is
Friday, July the second
Friday, July 2 2021. And we are back I was away last week hamdulillah took some much needed time off from the office from work from
responding to emails and answering questions and sitting through counseling sessions. Some how to I just needed a break needed some time. And it was very, very beneficial and
fresh, not as fresh as I'd like to be more fresh than I was. And hopefully, you know, get to take some time off again sometime soon. Because it was really nice to, to just get away a little bit home to LA
You know, a lot of people thought that it was completely gone and out of the province when I was at home for most of my time off and just literally doing that just staying at home 100 locker, we did go
and spend a few days away. But under the law, you know, it's just it's nice to be back.
Today, we can do our class on etiquettes and we were talking about decades of eating and drinking. Okay, we were talking about etiquettes of eating and drinking. We took some of the examples from the Quran and the Sunnah. We also looked at
the impermissibility of eating out of vessels or cups or plates or you know, bowls and stuff like that that are made out of gold and silver. And for today inshallah continue looking at a new topic, which is took the mill achill either solid Sala De Anza her door time. So, eating food before going to pray, or even though the time of prayer or the cold air has actually begun.
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If food is served, can we eat the food? Or should we go to prayer, if the call to prayer has been announced, and it was called, so you hear the iqama and it's time for pray. But the food is served to you it's on the table. It's hot, it's ready. It's there. The only thing that's left is for you to literally you know, take some of the food and put it in your mouth and start eating. So islamically What are we allowed to do? What should we do? Okay? There is a hadith of ns or the loved one where he mentions the prophets on a longer it he was seldom said either will be either OSHA will clematis Allah forbid that will be lasha the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said in this hadith of Anna sort of
the Allahu and he says on Allahu Allahu wa sallam if dude, supper Asha, if supper is placed in front of you will be met to swallow and the solar is standing as in the economy has been called or the saga has begun. forbid that will be sharp. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, then begin with your supper, not airasia I shot right. Begin by eating your supper. And what we learned here is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is encouraging us to eat the food when the food is ready despite the fact that the Salah has been
In called to begin or has actually begun. Let's take a few more examples and shot a lot of data to try and tie it all together.
Even our model about the long run, Homer says that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
has been placed in front of one of you, and the prayer has been announced to begin and possibly begun,
then begin with your food. And do not rush until you have finished eating it. Right, do not rush to the prayer and finished eating your food. So we learned from this narration is that again, we're looking at supper. Okay, we're looking at supper. And when the food is placed in front of you now remember the Sahaba of the lava and how many of them did not have a big breakfast. Many of them did not even have breakfast to begin with. Some of them did not even have lunch, right? They would only eat really, sometimes one meal a day, and that was usually our shot. That was a supper or a meal in the evening.
So he says that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, when your supper is placed in front of one of you and the time for prayer has begun, and the call to prayer has happened. Then begin with your supper by eating your supper, and do not rush through it until you have finished and concluded with your eat.
Again, we'll take more examples.
EMF med, narrates
that Nuff said that it'd be normal for the lover and Homer
sometimes Karna Hernan
would be fasting on the days that he would be fasting
and Rh Rh that would be placed in front of him. So his supper is food to break his fast and to eat is placed in front of him.
And he had already made intention to go for solid automotive.
And assala has bigger
and he hears the prayer, right? He's healing the Salah Muslim prayer happening
for Torah, he would not leave his supper, he would not leave his food his supper
and would not rush through it.
Until he had finished eating his food.
From Maya forage for years, slowly, then he would leave and go to prayer. Now this is even normal for the Allahumma Okay, this is a third This is a narration letting us know how even Norma Viola and Homer would treat the food that he was eating or being served after a day of fasting. So to recap, he is fasting, and it's time for motherhood. And the food is served to him. He could hear that the Salah has started because he hears the recitation of it, the people are standing in prayer, but he chooses to eat his food. Why? Because remember, the previous studies we took is narrated by an arm of the llama and humor as well. So he learned prophets and along with it, who was someone that when
the food is served to you, and the Salah is ongoing, then eat your food and then go to the prayer. Right and don't rush through it as well. No.
And he used to say, even normal the local animal used to say Well God county a cool call and abuse on call in a viola he's no longer any he was seldom that the messenger of the Prophet of Allah subhanaw taala used to say, Do not rush through your supper
when it is served to write Do not rush through your supper when it is served to you.
Now, here's the question. Why? Why should we not rush through our food and why should we not go to the Asia or the mother in prayer or whichever prayer it is when our food is being served to us? First of all it is because of how short okay? concentration we know very well as human beings when we smell the food our mind, our nose, our tongues, right our stomach, our belly. Our you know our brain is already thinking food, right? We're processing Oh, today we're having butter chicken tomorrow, or right now we're smelling the you know cups or
You know, Mehndi or
biryani, or, you know, Subhanallah we could smell the samosa as being fried. The pakoras are like nice and hot and crispy, you know, somehow all of these amazing foods that are out there that some of you might like, and then you know other foods like the burger is grilling, right? You know some how to lie you get, you could smell that fish roasting. And so suddenly your mouth is watering. Your mind is focusing on the food, your nose is smelling the food, right? Your eyes, you're seeing it, you're like, this is amazing, like your body is prepared for food, right to intake, some food. And then when the time for Salah comes and the food is ready to be eaten, it's hot, and it's prepared
and it's there, it's ready to be served.
your level of concentration on Salah is not going to be the same as it would be had you finished your food or tasted the food and got written, gotten rid of the craving of food and then gone to the prayer. Right. So here the advice of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam is when the food is ready and served to you and you hear the call to prayer. Don't get up and go to the prayer, finish your food, eat your food. And when you're done, then go to prayer. There's a few things that I'm going to throw in here in a few seconds in sha Allah who had before that though the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,
and this isn't the Hades of the shadow, the alarm or
the mother of the believers, the wife of the Prophet salallahu it he was sending them.
No prayer should be performed when the food has been served. Nor should it be performed when a person is in need of relieving themself going to the bathroom. So these are two times when you may have Moodle Sala may be ready, or have even it and you want to go to it. But you need to go to the bathroom, you need to remove yourself. And you think to yourself out let me just pray quickly. And then you know, I will go relieve myself No, you are to go relieve yourself in order to clear your mind and to be able to have that. That focus that concentration, that devotion that you need in prayer. And the same goes with food. When we want to eat food, we need to make sure that he get that
craving out of us so that we can go and pray the prayer and be focusing on the prayer instead of on the food.
a must Allah that we could add right as scenario that we could look at
when the food is served or if the food is served. And then you hear the ikoma for Salah
eat your food?
Right? Is it worth it for you to eat your food? Or
is it something that is preferred?
The answer to that we see from a normal the Allahumma as in the previous example.
In that Hadith narrated by EMA Ahmed Rahim Allah
which shows us that we should prefer or
put forward right? I can move Lacan, as in, we should make sure that we eat that food before we go to prayer. Why? Because that was the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and we saw it not often, even or what are the Allahumma there's multiple narrations also from the issue of of the Allahu anhu says that if the food is served, you should eat it right? You do not go You do not prefer the period over food when the food is served. And you do not prefer the prayer when you are in need of going and relieving yourself. And so through all of this, right?
You find that whole short is one aspect of it. But in all of the examples that we've looked at, who are the Pete we're talking about talking about the profits on a lot of it, some of them first of all, and then some of this habit of the Allahu anhu on both male and female that heard and saw the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam doing this. Were these people that were lazy with prayer? No. Are these people that you have to tell like our mother and father tell us all the time when it's time for prayer get up and pray get up and pray get up and pray and you're like, yeah, just need to finish this video game right and just need to finish this or just need to finish typing this email
or just need to post this picture online. Right? Just need to. I just need to do something on Instagram.
Are we giving the importance to Sala like this habit of the lover and whom gave importance to sada? Obviously not right? Not at that level, absolutely not.
So what we learned from that my brothers and sisters is that,
prayer is the most important thing in our Deen, from the actions of the things that we need to do in Islam. But there are times when we can delay that food for delay that prayer for certain things. One of those things is food. And like we mentioned, as well relieve yourself, now you're delaying it, because you're going to eat, and you want to finish that food, and you're going to go and pray. As opposed to what we do today, we sit down, and we have the first course that we have, or we have like the salad, and some bread, and then we have main course, and then we have you know, like dirt, and then DJI or tea or coffee, and then sit back and socialize. By that time, the time for the prayer
has already gone. And so my brothers and sisters, some of the scholars say that the main objective is that we remove that craving for the food from our system. But the reality is that if we look at the examples of the of the Hadeeth that we've taken, the profits and a lot of it was sort of encourages that we finish our food and then go to prayer. Don't just take a few bites in order to taste the flavor of the food. And, you know, and please the cravings that we have, and then rush off to prayer, no,
finish the food and then go to prayer. But make sure that prayer is your priority in life to begin with. Right as the actions and the things that we need to do as believers in Allah subhanho wa Taala had
a lesson even early the grandson of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Alicia oblah Salah
enough Salah wanna use have enough salomaa he says that eating your food before praying your prayer, right when the food is served, and then you hear the time for prayer, continue eating your food. Why? Because it allows enough Salah warmer, to go away, what is enough to lower the nurse that is inclined towards something, right?
We are inclined towards eating, we desire that food, we're thinking about it. And this shows us as well as human being we are human beings, right we are
We crave food, it smells nice, we'd like it to remember at the time of this habit will be a lot more heirloom, it wasn't so much the food in terms of the smell and the flavors and the taste. It was food as
a means of survival, right? Something that gave them energy food, like they needed that fuel that energy to keep going. And sometimes they would not eat for days on end. And remember as well to start a fire for them to to just make the food to warm up the food or to cook the food itself you need to start a fire and you're starting the fire not by taking you know your barbecue and just turning turning the gas on pushing the button and the barbecue lights up. Or you know turning on your stove simply turning a dial and the stove turns on and you can start cooking and heating up the food. So how to love for them that was you know, trying to start a fire with no fuel, right with
just air and stick sticks and rubbing them together the heat or the sun of the of the desert, getting that fire going, took some time
took some time they had oil, they would use oil in the lamps, right. So sometimes they may use oil to light or the lamps to light their fire. But it took some time and energy and was not easy. And the wood itself just to cook the food costed money, right you'd have to sometimes go out and try and find those shells and bring it back just to start a fight or you would buy it. So there's a difference in the preparation of food at their time. There's a difference in the flavors and the purpose of the food at their time compared to ours. And there's also a difference in the ease and luxuries that we have compared to how difficult and challenging life was for them at the time of the
Prophet sallallahu and he was therefore my brothers and sisters. To conclude on this topic if food is served.
And it's minutes before sada but food is there and it's ready. Don't let it wait.
Start, take your food, eat, eat your main meal, and then go to pray. Make the Salah, the focal point of that moment. Usually when food is served, especially when we have gatherings and get togethers I know now, you know we've moved into step two. So we're allowed to have five people indoors at our home. I believe it's five, right? Yeah, five people over at our homes.
And so we may now start to have gatherings, get togethers, family visiting and so on.
It's very easy to be distracted from sauna due to what due to food, inviting people over to feed them and sit with them and socialize. But make the focal point Sala when we make the focus on food is ready. Okay, let's eat we eat your love this villa. Let's go and pray when we're done praying, then we can come back and have some dessert. Right? We can sit and socialize and talk a little bit. But the main thing is that the Sala gets done. Right? When we do that, we noticed that the food is just a secondary thing. It's a means for us to get a little bit of energy, to be able to focus on what's important in life and move on. And that's all that we take for this topic in sha Allah Allah.
Now we're going to look at
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washing our hands before eating food and after food.
the author of our book that we're going through mentions,
not coming across any authentic narration, any authentic hadith that states specifically that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam encouraged washing one's hands before eating food. Okay, that there's no specific narration that mentions, if it's time to eat, you go and you wash your hands that are authentic narrations. Remember, we're talking about authentic narrations, right?
there are many scholars who, from the scholars of the dean, traditional scholars, right, we're talking about traditional scholars, who advised their students and has become a tradition, the norm for them and their students to wash their hands before eating as something that we as Muslims do, prepare ourselves and make sure that everything is clean. Why First of all,
purity and purification is a part of our event. It's a part of our belief. And when we are about to eat, we want to make sure that our hands are clean, we want to make sure that we are you know not eating anything that we
are putting something in our mouth, that could be
one aspect of it, monster
the importance or the
the need to wash one's hands before prayer before eating. Okay.
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So with regards to washing one's hands after eating food of what I wrote the alloga and mentions
that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ate from the shoulder of a sheep.
Right, that was one of the favorite types of meat of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ate food, and the food he ate was the shoulder part of the sheep.
And when he was done, mother's mother was a hustler. He had a he, he rinsed his mouth, right, and swish the water through his mouth, and spit it out, and then washed his hands. And then he went to pray. So we see this as a narration that shows the importance of washing our hands after eating food.
Also, above even earthman
mentions that Earth man even affirm right, with men or the women who
ate bread and meat.
When he was done, he rinsed his mouth out, washed his hands
and wiped his face with his hands. Then, he went to pray, without having made will, as in he already had weevil. So he did not make all the once again after he ate his food he already had with he washed his hands, he rented his mouth, he washed his hands, and then he wiped his with his hands. And he went and he prayed his prayer. That was Earth man a bit of fun. Obviously, we take these examples because they learned from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
for our benefit,
some of the scholars
Okay, performing will
before eating food was done and encouraged by the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when a person is in a state of Jenna, when a person is in a state of impurity, okay, so I'll say this again. Scholars mentioned that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would make booboo before eating only when he was in the state of Nevada, a state of impurity. Okay.
And see the example of it shall be Allahu I'm her when she mentions cannot osuna la he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he was in the state of Genova and he wanted to eat he was in a condition of impurity, a state of impurity. And he wanted to eat or he wanted to go to sleep. He would make woowoo right, he would make will rule.
The rule that you would make when you're about to pray Sala, this is what she said. Okay, so when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was in a state of impurity,
and he wanted eat food or he wanted to go to sleep, he would make wufu the same type of Lu that you would make when you are about to pray. Sala, we're about to pray prayer.
As for some of the examples from the Sahaba of the Lahore at home,
when he wanted to go to sleep, or he wants to eat food, and he was in a state of impurity.
He would wash his face wash his hands up until his wrists then he would wipe his face. Then he would eat or he would go to sleep. Okay, that was even armor of the Allahumma
and ignore Tamia raha hola famous scholar of the deen even Tamia he says
we don't know why let me know Hello nerello A Hayden is the herbal booboo achill il either Canada rajul donnovan we do not know of this being something
of the norm, right? where someone makes Whoo, before eating food, except that that person is in a state of impurity, they're in the state of Genova and they need to take a hosel Okay. Other than that, they would not make room for the Sahaba nor the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. When about to eat. Now, pay attention to this.
All right, you saw the yellow her and her mentions that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he wanted to go to sleep.
And he was in this state of impurity, he would make
what either out or that call for Salah your day, and when he wanted to eat food, he would wash his.
So for this example, remember we mentioned before, of no authentic narration of the profits on a long line he was selling washing his hands specifically before going to eat.
Some of the scholars will use this and other examples to say, well here the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam washed his hands if you wanted to go to sleep, he shut off the alarm and he was telling us that he would make will do to go to sleep when he was in a state of impurity. And if you wanted to eat food, he would wash his hands. Now they use this part of the Hadees to say we should wash our hands before eating.
this is for when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was in a state of impurity.
Therefore, it's not the norm. It's not the norm of what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam would do when he is about to eat food. Okay, the next and last thing that we'll look at in sha Allah, Allah is
saying Bismillah before eating food, and saying Alhamdulillah when finishing eating food, very simply very easy to understand.
The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said shaytaan considers food lawful for him. When a law's name is not mentioned over it. shavon considers food lawful for him to eat, when the name of Allah is not mentioned over the food. Okay, so when we are about to eat the food, say Bismillah and then shavon is not permitted to come near this type of food or that food that you're about to eat.
Also, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
to aroma, even Irby cinema
he says, Yeah, vuillaume
all young boy.
If you are going to eat food, say Bismillah
eat with your right hand.
And it's that which is right in front of you. So three things the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam advises with regards to eating food. You
if you are going to eat food,
say Bismillah right? For cool Bismillah the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam specific lead Bismillah right not Bismillah R Rahman Rahim for call Bismillah say Bismillah
and eat with your right hand
and eat from that which is right in front of you as in eat the food that is closest to you don't go and reach over the plate and eat from the other side. And we spoke about that last week. Right? So eat that which is closest to you.
Now what if someone forgot to say Bismillah when they are about to eat their food and they started to eat, but they didn't say Bismillah at the beginning? Well here we see that in the Sunnah. We could say Bismillah Allahu earthhero or Bismillah a when he was a theory, and we see that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in the Hadith, either Ocala or hadoken folia carisma la heeta Allah when one of you is about to eat that mentioned the name of law,
for in nursia and if you forgot
to mention the name of Allah
at the beginning before eating your food for Leah call Bismillah awasu
very simple Bismillah at the beginning and at the end of it right.
And like I said, the last thing that will take is saying Alhamdulillah when we're done eating
So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentions in a hadith. He says Allah will be pleased with his servant or worshiper
who promise a story who praises him when he eats, and praises him, when he drinks, Allah will be pleased with his servant, who praises him when he eats, and praises him when he drinks.
My brothers and sisters, we all know very well the importance of eating food. And we all knew that we're supposed to eat with our right hand, we all knew that we're supposed to say Bismillah we all knew that we're supposed to say Alhamdulillah when we finish, but at times we forget. Remember, there are challenges that we face in life. And a lot of the time we go through hardship that we don't expect to experience in our lives.
And then we start to question and wonder why, why is this happening to me? Why am I going through this challenge? Why am I affected by this, that or the other. And this is where we need to take hold of the small Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, these little etiquettes like saying Bismillah before eating, because then shaitan does not come near this food, and saying, Alhamdulillah when we finish and saying this, we love you already, He will say to you if we forget while we're eating, and we remember that we forgot to say Bismillah at the beginning, right? These little things that we can do like washing our hands when we're done rinsing our mouth making we'll
do properly before eating before in the state of Genova. All of these little things are important for us to try to put into our lives, to be able to not only attain righteousness and piety and come closer to Allah and get more rewards and you know, have a better chance at paradise and so on and so forth, but also to protect ourselves from the evils that are out there. Because the more that we do according to the Sunnah of the Prophet said, the longer it he will sell them, the more we ward off and we push away the shame lien and the evil that is around us of this world. Therefore, my brothers and sisters, encouraged myself first before I encourage all of you to take hold of the smiles of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and tried to implement these not only our lives, but to encourage our children to do them as well. sha Allah Tada. That's all the time that we have. There's 20 minutes until the end for Mohammed. And we need to make it to the masjid right, the brothers who are heading to the mustard need to make it to the mustard. And any sisters that are going the mustard is open for you as well to pray.
So feel free to make your way over to the masjid. And also remember this is a time when door is accepted. It's the last hour on the Friday, right just before the end of Friday. So make dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala before McRib and ask Allah subhana wa tada for goodness and higher and Baraka and ask Allah subhana wa to Allah to keep us upon even in Islam and ask Allah subhana wa tada for not only yourself but the rest of the Omen all of the brothers and sisters who you know, including myself barakallahu vehicle what is lacking Allah Hayden are some Allahu SLM all about our kalenna Vina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam was Salah or LA Kumara to wa he wabarakatuh