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Daood Butt

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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam O Allah Ashraf al anbiya wa l mursalin Nabina Muhammad in Allah He of Mato Salatu automata slim, rubbish heraclius Audrey wire Sidley Emery Warlock Dr. Melissa Annie efco Kohli Am I buried my brothers and sisters in Islam Assam or Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

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Now from here I can't really see you but I know which seats are empty because the suver

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pole or the the you know, the silver part of the seat is shining in my face for those that are not sitting in a chair so I can tell where people are and where they aren't. I like to begin by firstly correcting our brother Ottawa Mashallah I graduated two years ago for my master's degree

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in law.

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Our topic today is a very interesting topic. It's a topic that affects every single one of us as our two brothers just finished highlighting and pointing out to us We begin by firstly looking at how our family itself can revolve around the dean and how sometimes we fail to actually achieve that in our homes. I want us all to transport back a few years This was while I was still a student in Medina was teaching in one of the massage it in Montreal. And while I was teaching there, and I know many of you are like, Why are all the speakers coming from Montreal now? So busca new parallel concept, a

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live ballet, dan de Lang comm live concert English and our via Bahasa Melayu, a, and we can communicate in various different languages, for those of you who don't speak French, sorry.

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So we see here that the element of the family that is lacking in terms of Salah, and that's really what we want to focus on begins before saw that even takes place. It begins by making iRULU inside of your home.

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And I want to transport us all back, like we mentioned to a few years ago when I was still a student in Medina. And I was teaching at a Masjid during the summer.

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And I had approximately 60 to 63 students in my class.

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And these students were all children.

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And one day, during the summer, one of the parents comes up to me, the Father, and He says, Can you teach my son how to make will do.

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I then asked him, who's your son? He says so and so. Said, but he's like 12 years old, 13 years old. He goes, Yeah, but I want him to learn how to make Lulu property. And I was like, What do you mean make with little property? Like, are you not making Moodle properly. So if that's the case, you need to learn how to make whether or not your son, first of all, as the Father, you need to be the one to learn how to make Lulu. He's like no, but you know, you're Mashallah you're the teacher, you know, this stuff, you teach some core and etc. So just teach them how to make will do properly. And I told him, I said, Listen, uncle, or brother you have

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how many children, you have three children, you have a wife and three children in your house. And you have the whole day to divide your schedule to spend time with your family however you want. I have 62 or 63 students in my class and I have exactly two hours to listen to all of their lesson. Give them a new lesson for tomorrow, teach them a DA or teach them ahaadeeth and then listen to the one that they learned the previous day, etc, etc, etc. And I have two hours to do that. I said I spend a maximum of two minutes with your child, one on one every single day. If that even happens two minutes. I'm like there's no time. I just can't do that.

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He goes no, but why don't you teach them how to make Whoo. And that brings me to my point. My point here my brothers and sisters is that many of us fail to recognize the fact that our children learn from us when we don't even need to speak

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when we're making blue inside of our home. And we live in Canada. So our sink is inside the bathroom, which is inside one room that has the toilet bowl that has the sink, it has the bathtub, and it might have whatever other luxurious things that we have or might have absolutely nothing in there. But the point is the bathroom where we make whoo typically that sink is inside a room and there's a door and that door is usually closed when we are making Lulu as parents

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When our children want to learn how to make with blue, or they're just learning how to be like me and you because they look up to us as role models, they don't see us making Lulu. So the parents who says my child doesn't know how to make blue, the problem is not with the child. And the problem is not that the parent doesn't know how to properly make Lulu. The problem is

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we just didn't open the door.

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We just don't let our children see us performing acts of very bad that leads towards the pleasure of Allah subhanahu wa Tada. That's it. It's so simple.

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We and now we transition from the woowoo aspect of our household, you know, what's stopping us from opening the door or going to make blue in the kitchen so our children can actually see us performing will do and how we're supposed to do it. You know, sometimes we go to events and we're making Lulu in the public bathroom bathroom, and people come to us and they're like, oh, Mashallah, Chef, can you show us how to how to make Lulu properly? And I asked them So you mean for the past 40 5060 years of your life you've never been making Lulu properly and you never had the interest to go and learn how to make will do properly which means if you're not making will do properly and you know

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you're not making with who properly then how are you even praying your prayers?

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And so it's not a problem with the way we're making.

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The problem is how we teach our children you know, the saying monkey see monkey do? children see children do. Children are not monkeys. We know that. Okay, that evolution theory doesn't apply in Islam. We don't believe that we came from apes, etc. But what we're trying to say here is that children see their parents doing things and children do it. Do you remember the time that your child first said that bad word inside of your house? It was probably three or four seconds after the mother or the father said that bad word inside the house as well.

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They lost their cool they lost you know, they got frustrated. They were irritated with their children. And they said what are you doing? You're dumb. And the child goes, hi, you're dumb. Mama. You're dumb, Baba, you're dumb. And everyone is like, No, no, don't say that. Don't say that. No, no, don't say it. It's a bad word. Mama, you're dumb, Mama, you're dumb. Why? Because you said that word in front of them. You gave them permission to use that word. As a parent, they see you doing it, they do it as well.

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And so when it comes to Lulu,

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that applies. Now when it comes to Salah, the exact same thing applies. How many of us as adults as parents, as you know, most particularly the men of the household, go to the masjid to pray our salt out regularly. And while we're at the masjid, we pray Our son as well and then we come home as though we could have either gone for a coffee at Tim Hortons we could have went to the grocery store. We could have gone for a business meeting we could have gone to the masjid and prayed. We could have sat in the car and recited quote and we may have given some sadaqa but our children have no idea what we did while we were gone, because while we were gone from the home, nothing

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educational took place from the aspect or from the from the angle of the person who was gone. But the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is to do what

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it's to go the men go to the masjid. They pray their prayer in Gemma in congregation in the masjid. And when they're done their their compulsory prayer, if they pray their son in the masjid, they come home and they pray Nuffield prayers at their house. If they don't pray the sun in the masjid, they come home and they pray there's some prayer inside of the house. Why? Because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us letter jiankou takamura don't render your homes as though it is a cemetery. Do we pray in the cemetery? Do we go to the cemetery five times a day to pray? I know in some countries, some cultures some people do. But that's not part of our Deen. We don't visit the

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cemetery five times a day we visit the masjid five times a day we come to pray to Allah subhanho wa Taala in the masjid not in the cemetery. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says don't make your home like this cemetery. Why? Because the cemetery is a place that you don't go to to pray regularly. The Masjid is make your home as though it's busy with Sala now how do we do that as a family? We spoke about Lulu and how we should let the family members see that we're making Lulu Don't you think the same thing applies when it comes to sada? Yeah, of course it does. But what we make mistakes in is that we all have or 90% of us as Muslims. We have these nice clocks in our

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homes.

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And as soon as it's time for Salah, you hear the clock, the watch the cell phone, the iPad, the desktop and the laptop all of them going at the same time like there's five or six machines in your neighborhood Long

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You know that digitalized then that you hear?

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And it's like coming from Iran law. Oh, come on.

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It's nice. It makes you feel like you're in Medina, like you're sitting in front in front of, you know, must could attain for example, and you hear the end coming from all different places and in the distance you hear the headline from must be the number one it sounds nice, but what we make a mistake in doing is that our children don't copy the clock.

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Our children don't walk around like I'm an iPad today. Our children want to walk around and say, you know what Baba dresses nicely. I want to dress like Baba, Mama has got the most beautiful hijabs. I want to wear the most beautiful hijabs, right. They want to be just like their parents. So when they see their parents, it's time for Salah the father before he leaves his home to go to the mustard. What does he do? It's time for Salah What do we do and it's time for Salah along the bottom line. Oh?

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Shouldn't we be calling our family members to sauna?

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a sauna Let's go. It's time to pray. Even if someone lives all alone, your university students you live all alone. Get in the middle of your home, the place where everyone's going to hear you the humans as well as the angels. There are other creations of Allah subhanho wa Taala, the jinn that engage in sadhana, those that believe

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cause call them when you enter your home the son of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam is to do what? You enter your home, you enter with your right foot. What do you say? Honey? I'm home. Where's dinner? No.

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You enter your home a cellar more alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. The single brothers and sisters that are not in the matrimonial thing or like well, we don't have anyone to say sell them to Yes you do. Your home is filled with either goodness or evil. The evil that's there when you say sell them.

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They run.

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They leave

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the good that are there. They're happy they respond to your senem.

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Similarly, when you call the event inside of your home, do you know what shavon does when shavon here's the N Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, why don't we understand it? The profits in the long run. He seldom teaches us when the event is called what this shake on do? Does anyone know?

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Does anyone know?

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He goes away. He goes away Doing what?

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He's mad. He's upset. Yes, but he's going away Doing what? Does anyone know? Raise your hand if you know. What is he doing?

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farting.

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What did he say?

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Hiding? Before he hides? He's running. What is he doing while he's running? He's hearing Hi.

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What is he doing? I gave you the answer. shape on his breaking wind. He's fluctuating in Canadian terms. He bet he's farting. Literally, the Prophet sallallahu. wasallam tells us he's breaking wind, why he's doing it so loud out of disgust for what we're about to do. We're going to pray. He doesn't like it. He doesn't want to hear the event. So he's relieving himself as loud as he can. So he doesn't hear his he doesn't hear the event that you're calling?

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Isn't that what we want to do? When we complain? And we say, you know, our families are suffering. They come to the Imam they say oh, you know what, there's must be black magic. Someone gave nuzzle to my family member, right? Those of us that know what to do, right? I mean, for those that speak Arabic, evil I for those that speak English, we complain about this stuff. And yet we don't realize there's ways and methods to protect ourselves. And we don't understand that when we step away from the simple things that we learned when we were children. Those simple things are actually set in our

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To protect us, when you call the end the shape on runs and makes as much noise as he can doing what we said he does, simply because he doesn't want you to hear, or he doesn't want to hear himself, you calling the other end.

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So parents get in the middle of your home, the place where the Nintendo's the xboxes, the PlayStations are being played. It's time for salah and everyone's hearing the Medina style and then echoing from here and from there from left and from right. And what are we doing, the kids are playing, they don't even hear the six or seven different events that are going off in the digital sense. And you come in the middle and you say my son's my daughter's I'm not going to force you It's time for sada I will I will now call the event and you begin along with

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and you call the event, they hear it, they learn a lesson, don't expect them. When you go home today and you try this, don't expect them to change like that.

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You need to work hard now, we all need to work really hard on our family members. It is not going to be easy. Work doesn't begin at nine o'clock when we get to the office. work begins at five o'clock when we get home from the office. And SubhanAllah. We're seeing crazy trends of things. I live in Mississauga. The other day I was I was behind this school bus that was not a school bus. It was a school bus that goes to school and picks up students. But it doesn't take students from their homes to school and from school back to home, it takes them from the school, to the Taekwondo to the karate, to the jujitsu to all these different things. It takes them from the school to their

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tutorship to where they're going to get, you know, tutoring in math, etc. English, French sciences, you know, it's taking them from one school to another school, either they're going to learn some sort of physical activity, or they're going to do some extra math, science, etc. Why? Because the parents, Mom and Dad both work.

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And mom and dad, because they make so much money. And I don't know why they need to both work in order to make so much money in order to pay for those activities. If one of them worked, and the other one stayed home, the children can go from school back home.

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And the mother can be there, or the father can be there from work when he's done, he comes home, and they can educate the children, the mother and the father can teach the math and the science and the English if we're educated enough to work at Deloitte and to work for the government and to work in all these beautiful places public sector, private sector, etc. Shouldn't we be educated enough to teach our children math, science, French biology, etc, that we've already passed up until grade 12? At least, of course, of course, we can all do it.

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We just think that we don't have time to do it. So we work harder to pay for more services that are going to take up the life of our children occupied three hours of their evening because mama and Baba are not there yet. They're busy at work. So let's pay for them to go to Taekwondo. And after Taekwondo, they go straight to the masjid. The bus takes them from there to the masjid so they can go for Koran class, they come home and they have this beautiful $1.5 million dollar house and what do they do? every single member of that house only sees the house when they're asleep?

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What's the point of the house, you may as well live in a shoe box.

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Seriously,

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I was picked up this morning. And you know being driven to the airport. And it was a Palestinian brother that was driving me. And he was saying you know we might have luxury cars and luxury houses. But the happiness is still in those people whose houses are under their feet that have crumbled to pieces. And they're playing on top of their house that they no longer have to live in. He goes, those people are more happy than you and I

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and he's from Palestine. And he's telling me that their homes have crumbled, and they're still happier, they enjoy life, they get an apple, they cherish the apple, we give an apple to our child to say I don't want that. And they throw it in the garbage at lunchtime because they don't want to eat it. And every single week you're going and doing groceries and you're buying two dozen apples because you have two children, and they go to work. They go to school that every single day you send them to school, you give each one of them an apple, they take that Apple and they throw it in the garbage because they're not cool kids at school if they know if they eat an apple.

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Yeah, that's actually happening. As the children. Ask your children, they'll tell you

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ask the children. I asked them,

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I see them doing it. Ask them, they throw goodness from our hard earned money in the garbage. Save all that Apple money, save all the fruit money and put it towards something else stay home, buy less for them. And so when it comes to solar in the home, begin by calling the event in a common area of the house, call them to solar. Now let's look at another aspect of solar

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You know, some handle on many of us, we complain when our children become a certain age. And we say, you know what the son of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is that by the age of 10, they should be praying. So we wait until, okay, my daughter is just about to turn 54321 Okay, now she's 10 years old, Betty, you have been t you now have to pray. Why? You're 10 years old. You have to pray now. How am I like, what's wrong with you? You have to pray. You're 10 years old. Now. Don't you know the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Oh, and by the way, you need to wear your hijab as well. Oh, and by the way, you need to do this, you need to do that you have to fast

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you have to do the whole list. What is the child thinking?

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I'm running out of here. I'm leaving no way. I'm gonna live this type of life so strict, so hard. My life was nice and enjoyable and pleasurable. And I got iPads and I got iPhones and I got this and I got that and I enjoyed myself and all of a sudden I need to live, I can't go out anymore. I have to cover myself I need to wear not buy. And you know, I need to grow a beard and I need to do this and I need to do that and I have to pray.

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And then we come to the Imam and we say, Chef, can you make a dua for me? Why

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please make a dua that Allah guides my children.

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No drama is technically needed from the Imam.

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You as the parent, first of all, start making the drama. You as the parent First of all, start being patient with teaching your children one step at a time. Okay, you've reached a certain age. By the way, my daughter I made a mistake, I should have been teaching you that for you know, all these past few years, you're supposed to be learning how to pray. And when I pray and you see me pray, sometimes you could come and join in with me and pray. Or my son the same thing, the exact same thing. It doesn't, you know, I'm just using son and daughter as examples. But what we fail to do is teach our children, the core elements of our Deen until we think, oh, now they're ready for it. Now

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they're mature.

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And we let our children run wild. We just let them do whatever they want to do. Yeah, they can play they can have fun. They don't have to pray. So don't force them to pray. But let them see you praying because at least you're you're establishing a foundation for them. When they get older and they go through a hardship in life. They will think you know what, when my father when my mother was going through a hardship in life, they would turn to a Law Institute and everything would be okay.

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he was swan

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song MIDI in seek help from Allah subhana wa tada in your Salah. Be patient, be patient with a lot and how do we do that? We do that by seeking that assistance from a lot in our Salah, a kerabu. Morocco nollag to the closest that one of us as a worshipper of Allah will be to Allah subhanho wa Taala is when not when we're standing in front of the carrabba not when we're fasting during the day of Ramadan. Not when we're praying speed 200 Right.

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Right. No, not when we're doing that.

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Or thought, are we even worse, right? That's not the time that we're closest to Allah. What does the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us the closest that a servant is to Allah to his Lord is when? Well who was Sajid?

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when that person that worshiper is making sujood

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when we put our head to Allah

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to the ground, we are the closest to Allah

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in sada,

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or outside of Salah, you need something ask Allah subhana wa tada in your solar or in Doha, outside of solid just make a sujood right now you need something you you asking Allah Subhana with Anna Yeah, Allah forgive me, simply go and make such that anywhere. Make such that as long as it's clean and it's not in the bathroom in the places that are not permissible. Make such that to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, ask him for forgiveness, ask him for assistance, ask him to guide us and ask him for whatever you want.

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And thank Allah subhana wa Tada. One last thing I wanted to touch upon,

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is that for those of us there was there was something I wanted to mention the shift in the V dimension, so I'm not going to go over it, which is protecting your Salah by praying the Sunnah and the Noah Finn, those are protection layers that you have upon you. But one thing that I'm going to mention is for those of us that really are concerned about our families, and those of us that really want our children to pray, and those of us that really want to be an example for our children. Why is it that those from amongst us that want all those things are not getting up in the middle of the night to pray extra prayers, when we don't technically have to when we're covered up

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And that beautiful blanket is over us. It's filled with down. It's soft and fluffy. And the pillow is under our heads and two pillows are there and one pillow is under your arm and another pillow is behind your back and you're all in this fluffy playground. You're enjoying your sleep, you're in La La Land. Allah subhanho wa Taala calls out to you in the Quran. Bismillah Hiroshima near huashi name

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was um mean. Oh, you who's wrapped up and comfortable in your bed?

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Gumi, Laila Illa Connie

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get up for a portion of the night. Stand in Sala nice for Hulu.

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Kuzmin, pani

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ozy, de la he wa T. co.

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recite the Quran in the middle of the night stand before Allah subhanho wa Taala asked him for forgiveness. Pray for your family members and make dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala that you live in you die upon Amen, and fill your nights as much as you can. Even if it's one minute that you sit up in your bed and you make dua to unlock for one minute and you go back to sleep, and then get up for fudger do it. And tomorrow, it'll be two minutes and the day after it'll be three minutes and the day after it'll be four minutes and etc, etc, etc.

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And that's what we need to do in order to bring all that into our homes. It's simple, really. It's really really simple. Just remember the concept children see children do. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to grant us all ease? We ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to grant us a deeper understanding of this Deen We ask Allah subhana wa tada to make it easy for our ourselves and our children and family members to pray their solar regularly. And we ask Allah Subhana which Allah to grant us the understanding of why we pray Our Salah which will be for another topic, which is Uncle malachite on was some law of Central America Nana Vina Mohammed Allah Allah hirosaki wasallam Santa

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