Essential Fiqh Class – Sunday December 13, 2020

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He was set up. By LNB. He'll carry him, Allah He of Allah to attend with a slim rubbish, roughly suddenly were silly and the 10 mil discerning for who coli, my brothers and my sisters as salaam alaikum, warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. I hope that everyone is doing well in sha Allah, Allah forgive me for being three or four minutes late, we had a lot of things to look after just before the class started, the construction is going on outside, it just needed to make an announcement, we have some fresh cement that was poured. And we don't want anyone to step into fresh cement. And if they did, well, we would know exactly who it was because their footprint would be preserved in it.

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So I'd have the law, like the parking lot expansion is going well. And there were a lot of people here because one of the brothers in the community, his mother passed away for their face. Oh,

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in any law here in LA guajira, when his mother was in the hospital, we announced it at Juma and

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Pamela his mother had passed away.

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So, you know, there were there were a lot of people that came but Hamdulillah, the masjid area and the gym was typically at a show was almost full. And it's a beautiful, beautiful sight to see lots of people. But it's always a little bit more hectic, when you need to do some crowd control, right, you need to make sure that people leave slowly, you know, don't all crowd at the entrance or exit, and we open up the gym area. So we have the garage doors open so people can go out through there as well. So there's a lot of extra things that you know, need to be done at a community center. And sometimes throughout the pandemic. You know, there are people even online I'm sure there's lots of

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people here online that have complained and said, Why doesn't unless you do this, and why doesn't the master do that? And why aren't you guys doing these things that and so on. But somehow you have to understand that there's even more stuff going on behind the scenes than what you see in front of you. And I can tell you, you know, firsthand, almost every single day, there's something new that we need to discuss or talk about or look into, or change in terms of our protocol or how we're doing things because of the pandemic. So, you know, bear with us and those of you who have been patient throughout just come on level hate on those of you who may have noticed something and picked up on

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it and corrected you know, a mistake does come a level fade on to you as well. And may Allah Subhana Allah bless all of you in your marriages, and in your future marriages. And for those of you that aren't married, and May Allah subhana wa tada put back and fade in your lives, I mean.

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So we're going to continue today, we're not going to take as much time as we did last week. And that's because I want to finish up the void marriages. So we're going to talk about marriages, we spoke about the marriages that are permissible last week, the people that we are allowed to marry the people we are not allowed to marry

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in terms of family relation, and so on and so forth. And today, we are going to focus on marriages that are void as in a type of marriage that is not permissible.

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So

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at this point in time with regards to the chapter of marriage and what's permissible and not to sonically you all know, a decent amount, in fact, you know a lot about marriage now, considering we've gone through, you know, how to look for a spouse who to or the things to look for both in a brother as well as in a sister, the marriage contract, the walima, the Nika the process, what is needed, what is permissible, what's not permissible,

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who you're allowed to marry, who you're not allowed to marry, and so on. And today, we look at void marriages. And the first one is the Shahada marriage, basically, this is the marriage where a man marries off his daughter

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to another person

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or his sister on the condition that

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the person he's marrying her to marries their daughter or sister to that men, so basically two fathers with two daughters, and each father says I'll marry my daughter to you and you marry my daughter T. And you marry your daughter to me kind of thing. And so each one of them is marrying their daughter or their sister or whoever you know, is under their guardianship, whoever they're acting as what he for and that is not permissible. islamically Okay, why because that can easily open up a door to taking advantage of, you know, those sisters and it's not permissible to do that. Remember, at the end of the day, the sister has a choice and has that final say right?

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So despite her having a wellI, her husband will, sorry despite her having a Wendy she has the final say in whether she agrees to marry that person or not. And so sometimes what happens is in this type of marriage and the Prophet sent along, I think he was seldom spoken about how it's not permissible in this type of marriage to men can come together and say, Hey, you know what, I'll marry your daughter, you marry my daughter, or I'll marry your sister, you marry my sister, and everything will be fine. No, that's not the way it goes. Right? Because there's a vested interest that each one of them has in this type of marriage. And it's like, okay, fine, you marry her, but I'm getting

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something in return. And that's not permissible systemically. So in Sahih, Muslim, it's recorded on the authority of what I thought about the longer under the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam obeyed the Shahada marriage.

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He said, this type of marriage is for men to say, this type of marriage is for a men to say to another men, marry your daughter to me, and I will marry my daughter to you or marry your sister to me, and I will marry my sister to you. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also said, there is to be no shoehorn in Islam, there is no this this marriage doesn't exist in Islam as an IT is not permissible at all. Some people will ask, Well, what if a Muslim was already agreed upon? Right? What if they went to head and said, okay, there's a, this is the Maha and the sister agrees to the mother will still is not permissible because there's another sister that's involved. And maybe she's

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the one who is getting the short end of the stick kind of thing. And, and even then, for me to say that is not even, you know, not even, right, because

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it shouldn't be that way in the first place, like she should not be forced into,

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into marrying someone just because, you know, there's, there's already an agreement between three other people and they're fine with it. And she's the only one that is, you know, left aside. So this type of marriage where, you know, as the Prophet said, a lot of it usnm said, when a man says to another, men, marry your daughter to me, and I will marry my daughter to you, or marry your sister to me and I will marry my sister to you. This is not permissible in Islam. Okay, so that's the first type of marriage that we look at as being a marriage that is void.

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The second type of marriage that we look at that is void is a marriage solely for the purpose of making a woman once again, permissible for her ex husband. Okay, the marriage that is solely for the purpose of allowing a sister who got married to someone and was divorced three times from that person, in order to make her had to re marry him once again. So that is not permissible in a snap.

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So this type of marriage

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you'll notice that we've we've spoken about this before, right when we talked about marriage and divorce and stuff like that.

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I need your lover and stated that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a cursed, the one who marries to make a woman permissible for her previous husband, and the one for whom it is done. So the person Allah Subhana, WA, tada, you know, sorry, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, a cursed is the one who marries another person or marries a woman, right?

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For the purpose of divorcing her so that she can go and re marry her previous husband.

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So someone's asking, what's wrong with that? Why can't she be with her previous husband again? Okay, so in Islam, there's three kinds of divorces or sorry, there's, there's, there's marriage, and there's divorce three times within that marriage. Okay? So a couple can be married and then divorce. And then they get back together, and then there's a second divorce that might take place. And then if they get back together the third time, right, once that third divorce is pronounced, then she is completely how long for him to go back to him. So it's not you know, a lot of people might look at it and say, Well, wait a second, why is it that a person who is married to someone and divorced from

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them can't go back, you can go back, but going back is the second time. And now if you get divorced a second time, then you can go back a third time. But if you get divorced a third time, this is the way Allah Subhana Allah, you know, teaches us it's probably better for you to move on. Right? The two of you are not taking this marriage seriously. Either divorces just being thrown at each other, or

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the two of you are emotionally stuck to one another or theirs.

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some reason why this person can't move on and marry someone else, whatever the case is, it's a way Allah subhanho wa Taala puts a shield to protect us. Okay.

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Is there any other way she can be with a previous husband again? Oh, three separate divorces? Yes. So there's three separate divorces that are already took place. Okay. So, in Islam, there's marriage. So the couple gets married, okay, they're on their first marriage, their first chance with each other. Okay. And while they're married, everything is fine. Five years later, the husband divorces his wife. Okay, they can get back together again. Right? And now they are on their second stage, you could say of their marriage. Okay. So there was one divorce that happened. Now they're together. And now the husband divorces her again, for example. So now a second divorce took place,

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they can get back together again a third time. Right. But that third time is your last time. And we spoke about this already. Right? So we're just going over it. That's the last time if they get divorced, that third time islamically she's not allowed to re marry him. And he's not allowed to marry her. And the only time that she can re marry him, is if after that third divorce, she moves on with her life. She's you know, married, she goes on with her life, she gets married to someone else. And you know, they consummate their marriage, they live together and so on. They're a married couple. They're not just getting married, for the purpose of getting divorced, so that she can go

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back and re marry that first one again. Okay, does that make sense. So that type of marriage is not permissible, the marriage for the purpose of her just getting married to get divorced and go back and re marry the first one. So that is the impermissible marriage there. So let me just say that once again, once a woman has been divorced by her husband three times, and it's a complete and final divorce, she is not allowed to re marry him.

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And she needs to move on. She can remarried, she can marry someone else. But she's not allowed to marry someone else, with the intention and agreement in place, that she will get married for five minutes, or one hour or two hours or one day or one month or one year, and then get divorced, so that she can go back to her previous husband, okay, that's another void marriage in his home, cannot get married to someone with the intention of making her hell for her previous husband, the two of them are punished in this. Okay? And this is something that is not permissible in Harlem and Islam. In fact,

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you know, when these cases would take place,

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even our modal dialogue are

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mentioned in, you know, I'm basically just taking it apart out of ahaadeeth.

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Even our mode or even our model DLR, Angela said

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that we used to consider that to be fornication during the time of the messenger of a loss of a long RNA USM. Okay, so we used to consider that to be fornication, as in they what they were doing together, the woman with the temporary husband, who would just get married in order to get divorced, so that she can remarry the previous husband, they would consider that to be fornication. Why? Because sonically, she cannot just go and get married doing the cap. There's a condition, the condition is that the previous husband doesn't become Hillel for her until she gets into a marriage, and the marriage is consummated as well. And some people will say why does this time say that? Well,

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it's um, says that in order to encourage this woman, to, first of all move on, but also that the two people who are getting married with each other are going to take their marriage seriously, marriage is not a joke, and not something just play around with. And there are people who do this, there are people who play around like this. And I've dealt with cases like this. Okay, both in Canada as well as abroad, of people who are just playing around. They're like, you know what, I divorced my wife three times by mistake. You know, last night? What do you mean by mistake? How do you divorce your wife three times by mistake? It's not a mistake. You shouldn't be saying unless you're drunk or

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you're high or stoned or you're, you know, you're lost in your mind. You know, you have some sort of zool uncle. How on earth are you mistaking the divorcing your wife three times, okay, you ate too much lead or something and your sugar levels is, like, skyrocketing. It doesn't make sense.

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I remember being in a foreign country in another country and, you know, a sister came to me and she asked, she said, You know what, there's a way that we can pay and get this $250. Okay, we can pay $250 and there's a mums or someone, I wouldn't really call them any amount of, I would just say there are people right to make claim to be able to do this marriage. And what they'll do is they'll make a marriage contract for you for $250 and then issue a divorce

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contract for another $250. So that you can prove you remarried and prove that you divorced.

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And then go and get married to the previous husband once again. So this is a business, okay, there's, there's people who turn this into a business, okay.

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Let me just scroll here and see if there's, if you divorce twice in their second stage, then it will be considered the last two. Okay, so I'm not going to get into these types of questions like, what if someone said, I divorced you, I divorce you, you know, in one time, generally, what we look at here, especially here in Canada, the scholars, you know, we've consulted amongst ourselves, someone might say 1000 times a divorce you, you know, in one setting in one setting, we generally would consider that to be one divorce. Okay. But again, we will ask, what was your intention? What were you intending by saying this? Right? And the reason why we have to ask that is, you know, sometimes

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people just say it out of out of anger. And though you know, that afterwards, they're like, oh, man, what did I just do? Right? They didn't think it through. Right? This is why First of all, we need to eat healthy, to make sure we are not like losing it every five seconds, like a blood pressure is not going out the roof, like and you notice this sometimes even here in the masjid, right? Sometimes you're talking to people, you go up to them, and you're talking to them about something. And you know, or they'll come and complain to you about something and you and you respond to them and give them their answer. Like what are you talking about? Like, oh my god, chill? You know, like, relax.

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Yeah, you know, have a heart attack like this, like, What are you talking about? I'm not gonna have a heart attack, what are you saying you're gonna have a heart attack? Because I'm just explaining something to you. And you can look like you're gonna hit me up, we're gonna hit you. What do you think? Do you want me to pick you? I'll take you No, I don't want. Andre is like control your blood pressure a little bit? Right? So So kind of what sometimes people are like that. And if that's the way they are by simply asking a question or getting an answer to their question, or by seeing something, they're frustrated with, like, you know, sometimes in the parking lot, people don't

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listen to the volunteers. And then something happens, you know, their car gets bumped, or you know, there's something happens in the parking lot, or they're turning and they get hit in the street or something. And then like, they're all yelling and screaming, it's like, why didn't you listen to the volunteers? Why do I have to listen to you know, you don't know what you're talking about? I'm the one who's driving my car. Oh, chill. And if that's the way people are losing their temper, with like, being out and about, imagine how they lose their temper when they're arguing with their spouse. I feel sorry, I feel really, really sorry for some of these people's kind of law. Like, if

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that's the way we are carrying ourselves as believers, meaning, right believers in Allah subhana wa, tada, then May Allah subhanaw taala help us, right? So my brothers and sisters,

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keep in mind, you know, what we what we teach, we teach generally, and there's always going to be need for further, you know, explanation, elaboration, and so on. And a lot of the time, what I tell people is if you have a specific case, then reach out so that we can, you know, get an answer for your specific case. Because teaching online live, first of all, you probably don't want to tell everyone your issues. So ask it in the third party, right? Ask it as though you're asking it on behalf of someone else. But also

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remember that what we teach is general and then there are specific cases and exceptions to certain rules and certain things that do come up over time. Okay.

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So the marriages we consummated didn't know that. So just by having an intimate relationship, a marriage becomes serious.

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Yeah. Marriage becomes serious by being intimate in Islam. You know, if someone is going to be intimate with another person, that marriage is serious, right? Like

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you're sharing and you know, so Pamela, my wife and I have been talking about this the last few days and even last night we were talking about it, when when when you look at non Muslims and you know, the whole dating scene, like you meet someone and then they

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will sometimes go home with them and you know, sleep together. And it's just like, how a lot Islam is such a blessing. Islam is such a blessing that you only give and I'm not saying that all non Muslims do this, okay? There are many, many non Muslims that I know. And I would assume that the majority of non Muslims are you know, people who not assume I do know that the majority of non Muslims have certain principles for themselves, right.

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But 100 in love for Islam, that we have these limitations that have been put in place for us by our Creator by Allah subhana wa tada that we don't date and even if someone is going to speak to someone for the purpose of wanting to spend the rest of their life with that person, or getting married to that person, then there are certain things that you can't do until after you've agreed to get married and agreed not only agree to get married, but get married, actually fulfill all of the process of getting married. Okay, and then, and only then do you become Helen for each other. And so we'll have the love for Islam, right and 100 lovers now, and this is why I posted the other day, you

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know, on Facebook.

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If after 40 years of life, there's one thing that I learned the best gift, the best gift that we can ever have and receive is the gift of law in the law. Right? The gift of law, the law in the law, as in you are.

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I'm coming to that question because I think some people might I see something written there and I'm gonna come to it inshallah, okay, let me just finish what I'm saying. After 40 years of living on this earth, you know, there's one thing that you you realize, you either have been blessed by a lot to take with you and hope to continue to be blessed by a lot so that you can take with you, or you leave behind. And that's the Shahada right now, in the law, to testify that you believe in Allah subhanho wa Taala is the biggest and best gift that anyone can receive from their friends, their family, as in people who encourage them towards it. And also from a lesson Hannibal, what's Okay,

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let me just look at this

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shift. You are not saying that a marriage is only considered to be a marriage after consummation. Right? Like, if newlyweds choose to wait to have sex for a month just to get comfortable with each other? Whether it's still a marriage, right? Okay. So yes, it is a marriage. A marriage is a marriage, once the kneecap is done.

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Once the kneecap is done, you're married. Okay? Even if the walima is not done, the marriage is valid, and you are married. So once the kneecap is done, okay?

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The two people are married, they are Hello for each other. And they may choose not to be sexually intimate with one another for some time, a month, two months a year, you know, whatever time it takes for the couple to feel comfortable with each other. That's fine during that time you are married. But the consummation of the marriage changes certain things. There's a few things in there, for example, if the marriage was not consummated, and the couple got divorced, so the marriage, you know, lasted two weeks, within those two weeks, they did not consummate their marriage, and a divorce took place, then the mother is to be returned.

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Okay, but if the marriage is consummated, then she keeps them up.

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Okay.

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So that's one example of you know, certain things that are

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conditional within the marriage. Okay. Now in the example that I was giving, with regards to someone who was divorced three times, okay, someone who's divorced three times and then marries another person.

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If that marriage ends in a divorce before being consummated, then she based on what we're seeing right now is not able to go back and marry that first husband. Makes sense? Hopefully Charla even though she was married technically, to someone. Okay.

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And I think reframing this it's just not everyone thinks sexual is a big deal. So I wanted to double check with you sharing intimacy with another person, isn't it? Yes, it is meant to share what if a couple had intimacy before marriage and they made repentance and made it hallel will this marriage be valid or not just asking.

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Um,

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so whatever a person doesn't their life, whether during marriage after marriage or before marriage is between them and Allah subhanho wa Taala

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if a couple was doing something, and they repented to a loss of Hannah or to Anna and sought forgiveness and made Toba

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And then they decided, Hey, you know what, let's let's do what Allah subhana wa tada wants from us and they get married and make everything, legal islamically then we ask Allah Subhana Allah to bless that marriage, and they are technically doing what is right islamically by getting married and then living together properly after marriage, that doesn't mean that what they did before, is like, okay, it's permissible, it's fine. Thailand, everyone should go and do that. No, it's still considered a sin. And they made Toba they sought repentance from Allah subhana wa Tada. And we encourage that, you know, we believe that a lot accepts our repentance, right? And accepts the repentance of people

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when they repent, because he says that he does, right.

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So we should ask Allah subhana wa Jalla. Sincerely, but remember people who are thinking, Hey, you know what, let's just go and do this, then. Remember, those who were in that situation, they will know. And they will, you know, anonymously tell you that they live with that thought for the rest of their lives. And it's not an easy thing to live with. Okay? They live with that thought. And they try to hide it, or conceal it because they're not happy about it. And even though they change and they may be pious people, righteous people.

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It's something that's always on their mind, and it's difficult for them.

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Okay, so we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make it easy for everyone in their situation and what they're going through. Okay.

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Um,

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one more thing in sha Allah, okay, that will take the last thing that will take is the marriage of pleasure. The Marriage of pleasure is not permissible. It's avoid marriage. Getting married for the purpose of being happy is not permissible. islamically? No, that's not what we're saying. Okay, and don't go and cut and paste this. Because I have multiple recordings of it. So you can't mess around with it shot a lot. Okay. So marriage of pleasure is the marriage that is done temporarily with the intention of divorce. So this type of temporary or non perpetual marriage, in which men contracts with another woman for one day, or one week or one month or a specific time, right, a specific time

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period is not permissible and void, that marriage is not even it's not even a valid marriage. Okay. there is agreement that this type of marriage is forbidden within Islam and that such a contract is void. Okay.

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Oh, no, someone is asking about looks at the

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looks at the whatsit looks, it looks at these coming and asking, Can I take your daughter away from your house? Yes, I already allowed you to take my daughter away from your house when you signed the contract and agreed to get married to her. When the two of you agreed to get married? Tell us? Like why do you need to do it looks at the we'll talk about that later. Let me finish this topic. Looks at these annoying, I'll say that. So the marriage of pleasure, which is a marriage for the purpose of just chilling and having fun and basically dating, or, you know, we're gonna we're gonna make our intimacy Hello by saying we're gonna get married. But you know what, I only want to be married for

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you for tonight. And then tomorrow, you can go off and do whatever you want. That's how I'm in Islam. It's not permissible, it's void. Okay, that type of marriage is not even valid within a snap.

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So you'll find sometimes people will go to another country, they will be there as a student, and they'll be like, you know, what, hey, I'm here as a student from my country for two years, you're here for two years? Why don't we just get married for two years? And when we both graduate, you go back to your country or go back to my country and the lava during that time? Hey?

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No, not permissible. Okay. islamically not permissible. So those are the types of marriages that are not permissible within Islam, and will suffice with that for today inshallah, and then we'll open it up for some questions. show a lot. Okay.

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I mean, look at what's here.

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Nowadays people do the kneecap, but do not do the rook Sati. Is that right? So there is no looks at the in Islam. Okay, when you do any care, the husband and wife are now highlighted for each other. They don't the husband doesn't now need to go to the father of the bride and say, Hey, you know, what can I take your daughter that's

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Already a given they did the Nika okay?

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Means right now they do the Nika but they don't live together. They said after one year, then take it looks at it. Okay, so that's so here. I want every single

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Pakistani and Indian to erase looks at it from your mind,

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okay? erase it from your mind. Because once you do the nica, your wife is hell for you. And you do not need permission from her father, or her ready to be with her to spend time with her to go places together to take her to live with you. You're supposed to start providing for her now, if you agree, and if your wife agrees, agrees, not agrees.

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If your wife agrees that you know what for the time being, you're working abroad, for example, or you're traveling or you're you know, studying or you know what you live far from each other, her University is closer to her parents place, then you know what, just stay with your parents and your parents are okay with it, then that's fine. If if the two of you are okay with it, but you don't need to go and ask permission afterwards and have looks at deeds now. I'm taking my bride and put the ladoo in the mouth. And you know, do all the Mehndi and the henna. Now she's coming over. She's already gone. She's already you know, married to you. Okay, and you have that responsibility of

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taking care of her already. Okay.

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Who looks at he looks at these annoying.

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So you know why I'm so annoyed about looks at it. I'll tell you why I'm so annoyed about it. I never heard this term looks at it. Until the day after I got married. I was like, What is this? It looks to the app to ask permission. I don't understand this. Like, actually, it was the night so it was like the night have gone into the next day. And it was like I had to ask permission to take her to what this didn't make any sense to me. Like, Oh, you did you didn't do it looks at the end. I was like 21 years old thinking to myself, what is a Rock City never heard this thing before? Right? So that's why like gets under my skin when I hear this word looks at it.

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Okay, just checking what questions are here?

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Someone says he comes over with his decorated car for the dog city.

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under law, that's so true, because that's what actually happens. Okay. Someone else says looks at these South Asian concept. Yes, it is. It's not an Islamic sort of thing. If your parents cannot understand or get past it, they should do Nika and rooks at the on the same day. Let do and Hannah are the fun parts chef. Mo let's do an henna and not the fun parts. Let's do an Hannah are the and I'll say this. Sometimes the lead doing the henna or the hot on parts of the marriage. Listen up, listen closely. When it comes to marriage, sometimes the henna and the lead do are the hot on parts of the marriage. Why? Because the bride and the groom are sitting there and people who are not

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maharam for him or He's not my home for other sisters. Her Sisters, for example, His bride's sisters, cousins, you know, friends, they're coming and putting a lead doing his mouth. And he's like eating out of the mouth of these other or eating out of the hands of these other women. Right? That's the thing that's hot off. Now, the other thing, the henna, she's all beautiful, her hairs hanging out of the hijab or the job is non existent or, you know what she's showing beautifying herself and other people are enjoying other men are enjoying it, why that's not part of this stuff. So sometimes, and I know, you know, that's the fun part if it's done in the right way. So if yes, if

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it's done in the right way, and the brothers are with the brothers and the sisters are with the sisters, and they're enjoying themselves and hamdulillah enjoy and have fun, but usually and most of the time, you'll see that it's the partying and chilling and the laid back and the fun parts of the marriage that actually aren't the harm aspects of the marriage as it contributes towards things being done that are held on for the people that are attending as well. The people that are attending are committing things that they're not supposed to be doing right sins and so on.

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Okay,

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So, in the case of two people that are home for each other, committing harm with each other, and then want to make it Hello,

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I usually encourage them to make it Hello, first of all, by seeking repentance making Toba and separating themselves from each other completely for some time. Why? Because you don't want to act on impulse. And you don't want to make a decision that you're going to regret 20 years later, right, many years down the line, you might say to yourself, man, I only married her because we were already in a relationship. But really, she was not the person that I should have spent my life with. Or I always felt that he was he was not the right person. But it was one thing happened. And then after that, it just kept, you know, one thing led to another thing and led to another thing. And then we

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kept doing things that we knew were not right. So we just got married, but deep down when you think back, she's like, he's not really the type of person I would have chosen anyways.

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There you go.

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Those things do happen. So prove to yourself that you are worth that marriage, you're worthy of that marriage by separating yourself from that person and giving it some time and living apart without communication and so on. And try to make that relationship Hello when the time is right. Okay.

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All right. Seems like I've answered everything on the law that says

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what a Santa is the term used in lieu two brothers sister and one family night? Oh,

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I didn't know that.

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Thanks, Jeremy. All you better cheek

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Oh Imtiaz Allahu Akbar. didn't even know you were on here. Diaz awesome. From Surrey, Vancouver, BC.

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Okay, so it seems like that's it. No more questions. If anyone has any question, now's your chance to type it in. This is your last 30 seconds. That I keep it open before shutting down. And beginning my weekend. Jani. All right. So we'll suffice with that and challenges that come along later on. albaraka lofi. come next week, inshallah, we will begin with the rights of the spouses. So what is the right of the wife? And what is the right of the husband? What rights do they have? Okay, so that's what we're going to start with next week in sha Allah and Tana. Okay. So make sure that you tune in next week. And

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you know, if you're asking for premarital counseling, yes, that is something that we do. But it takes time. It takes time. And let me let me tell you that so had a lot. I usually go through a lot of things. And I've gone through marriage, you know, step by step with certain people

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prior to marriage, and then also went through divorce with them. And you'd be surprised how it even happens where during the session people like why are you talking about divorce? Why are those talking about divorce? Why are you mentioning divorce, because you need to know how to get divorced, and some how to live had people thank me because their marriage ended in a divorce because the divorce rate is really high nowadays. And Alhamdulillah they knew how divorce is supposed to be done statically and they followed through with it. But of course it's based on the fact that people will actually follow through with it. Okay.

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Is it okay to have a large timeframe between an account and walima Well, it should be we took that right it should be not too long after the kneecap. But if there's some reason for it to be prolonged, then that's a different story, inshallah.

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Well, there's three questions here that I didn't notice.

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Okay, so I'm gonna come what's your advice regarding certain hurdles during the marriage?

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when away from late to work, which is okay, okay, I can't read that. It's too long. I can't read it.

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When is the next session next Sunday. Okay, next Sunday is the next session. Same time eight o'clock pm next Sunday inshallah Tada.

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I was asking if I'm going to do the Koran class again, inshallah Tada. I hope to start it out this just with COVID and everything. It's it's been crazy, crazy busy with a lot of extra things and a lot of extra work and

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shot law. will hopefully you get that up and running sometime soon. So next week, we're starting with the rights of the spouses. And we're going to start with Should we start with the husband or start with the wife

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With the rights of the wife upon the husband, and the rights of the wife of the husband, that's what we're gonna be learning next Sunday inshallah so make sure that you tune in and let other people know that they need to join because they need to know about the rights of the wife upon the husband chat a lot, a lot about features that come along with Hayden or some Allah who will send them over to God and Amina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salim was Salam or aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.