7 Habits Of Raising Righteous Children – Part 2
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Sh. / Dr. Bilial advises us on 7 habits we need to adopt in order to raise righteous children.
2017-05-26
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The importance of morality and belief in a law is emphasized in Islam, where people are called doctors and lawyers to avoid their deeds. They stress the need to be cautious and seeking knowledge before recording deeds, as well as the importance of gratitude and not being caught in the "Grade sense of gratitude" and not accepting others' custom. The speakers also touch on the importance of education and sharing unique points of interest for children to benefit from it.AI Generated Transcript ©
Salatu was Salam
ala
in the
previous session
we looked at
the trade
off what we felt
a righteous Muslim
should possess these traits.
And these traits are basically
moral characteristics.
All of them
all of the traits are moral characteristics. And we said that this is in keeping with the pronouncement of the prophets, a lot of us ended up
in which he defined the whole of Islam as being a moral message.
divine guidance
sought to change the moral parameters called the Arabian society,
and
world society, he mentioned.
They are the same moral parameters, of course, that all of the prophets brought
up the brave new principles of morality that did not already exists.
Existing in the teachings of the earlier prophets.
Anyway,
the point that we're trying to make here
is that the goal that we wish or should wish for our children
and raising
thrashes Muslims
is putting the focus in the right place,
rather than the focus be dunya is centered in dunya focused, we want them to be doctors, lawyers, engineers, etc.
And there's no harm in them being these things. But the main focus shouldn't be
that they are righteous Muslims who would then inherit paradise.
That's the that should be the main focus.
And then we pointed out that the Pillars of Islam
basically,
express all of these pillars, all of these traits, all of these moral principles,
they can be found in each and every one of the pillars.
We looked at the Pillars of Islam.
And before going on to the first habit, taqwa
which is piety,
God consciousness.
We,
we wanted to just go through the pillars of the man and how they relate to the same principles.
Because, again,
if the prophet SAW Selim summed everything up in moral
character,
righteous moral behavior,
believes principles.
We could see them in Islam Of course, we should see them also in the pillars of email.
So when we look at the front
The Pillars of a man belief in a law.
Of course, that addresses first and foremost consciousness of all is
to believe in a law
is a necessity. If one is to be pious
belief in a law
also
produces
a stable patient
character.
Because belief in allies belief that everything that happens in this world
is from his creation.
It happened by his permission.
So we don't
get thrown off course. When tragedies, calamities happened in our lives,
we believe in a law that gives you the strength to be able
to carry on knowing that a law
permitted this to happen for a good reason.
Even if we can't see the reason
we can't figure it out.
Many times, every one of us experiences many times things happen. And we think, Oh, this is terrible.
Then, a couple of days later,
we see
a good result commodity it was it was very good. I thought it was bad. Two days before, two days later, all of a sudden it became good.
We all experienced many cases many times.
But it is the cases where we can't see the obvious, good that we have trouble.
Believing in a law
should help us bridge that gap.
So whether we have understood the reason or we haven't understood the reason, we know it is for a good reason.
And this is what the story of us
as teachers, which we should have read today,
today being
exposed to read
soroka strongly recommended
and swirl cough love that story of Musa
is all about
believing that whatever happens is for good.
The hole in the boat
the killing of the child
the building of the wall, rebuilding of the wall, all of it was for good.
Though the hole in the boat
appear to profit goes up to be something evil.
The owners of the boat
would soon recognize it was something good.
Initially, they would have said who did that, who made a hole in our boat.
But when the king came down the river and took all of the good boats and left that boat alone.
The owner would have said that was something good.
What he initially thought was harm turned out to be then
of course the parents of the boy who was killed a
young boy
11 years old.
They wouldn't understand
that child was murdered.
Allah replaced the child
with another child
who honored them,
cheated them well etc. But they would always in their hearts have feel a loss
loss, loss of that child.
And it would not be until the Omen tiama.
When the reality of that would be clear to them,
because it was dealing with
the hypothetical future,
a future which
for the parents, they've never experienced, but they would have experienced had that boy grown up.
That's why we say a lot knows not only the future.
But what would have been had it not been
had the future not been this way.
And I've been another way he knows that.
He knows all of the ways that it could have been.
And the child of course,
the young
kids, orphans,
whose wealth, inheritance left by the father was preserved by the rebuilding of the wall.
They wouldn't even have known about it.
But this is just laws working. In creation, things we know about
things we understand, things we don't understand a lot is operating in the creation, but for good.
So
believe it or not a law
has two factors.
From the moral list,
piety, consciousness of Allah,
and patience.
Being able to handle the trials of life,
we're not flipping and flopping.
When good happens, we're one way or another way.
That's why the profits as unlimited said,
the affair of the true believer is amazing. I Japan,
in the opera, hula hoop, all of the big affair of the believers good.
If good comes to them, to the believer,
they find the law and the law rewards them for it.
And if bad comes to them,
they are patient.
And a law rewards them for it.
Win win
at the true Win win.
So the believer in belief in law
gets to that point where he or she can handle whatever trials they face in life.
The second
pillar of the modern belief in the angels
and we can stick along with it belief in the jinn.
Have you think about it?
Did a lot have to tell us about the angels
that he created?
We don't see them.
He could have not told us about that.
But he told us about them.
For what purpose?
To emphasize to us that our deeds are recorded.
There already recorded
he didn't need he was the recording
isn't it?
Everything is already recorded.
But he placed angels with us recording our deeds for us, not for him. He's not gonna forget our deeds if he doesn't keep a record of it. That
To us, we forget things.
So this whole process of the angels, recording the deeds, it's only
to make us conscious of our deeds, to be cautious about what we're doing to think about things, not just run ahead and do it, you feel like it's okay to do this, you feel like, Oh, I should have done that. I shouldn't have done that. No, think about it first. Is it a good thing? What are the consequences? So we act in a deliberate fashion.
We're not
hasty, in our decisions throughout the process of our sentiment, said, A La Jolla, minute shaped by haste is from Satan. Because most of the times that we do things that we end up regretting,
without thinking
emotionally, quickly,
not giving ourselves sufficient time to deliberate the matter.
Think about the consequences.
So this characteristic,
belief in the angels develops the characteristic of deliberation
and carefulness in what we do. We are careful.
We think about it not once, twice, three times.
And believe in the jinn.
Belief in the jinn. Because, again, a lot didn't need to tell us about the
unseen world, for the most part, you don't see them.
But he informed us about them, because they do influence our world.
And much of shift
comes through their support, or their influence.
It is they who
aid people like the magicians
so that people will believe in them and be drawn into their ship.
When you see people doing things, people like Criss Angel
doing things you know, it's like, wow, oh, how?
Oh,
yeah, there's a certain amount of it, which is trickery.
Slave Han fast, and movements.
But then there are some elements of this thing, which steps over into the world of the gym.
You understand the world of the gym, then it's no longer a difficult thing.
It's quiet
and know that this is not something new.
Yeah, procedural and the others like him are now becoming very popular. But they've been around
since the time of Prophet Musa
a summary
and the golden calf
that golden calf with samedi took the jewelry from the woman
and made that calf of gold.
He didn't tell the people
that this calf is your God.
God Moses when he first made it, know what he did
is he had the calf move.
Got the start you
said move.
People, you know, this is a living calf of goals. This is what this was magic.
This was magic. And the people fell down bowing before this.
It was that step which brought them to the point of worshiping the gods. accepting this was actually the God of Moosa that Moosa was going up to meet here he is right here.
And the
Worship
through magic.
So Allah
gave us God. The last message on
sadhana Islam,
brought by Prophet Muhammad wa salam is the last revelation.
knowledge about the origin of the magic and the jinn and all this stuff, lost
garbled among the Christians, Hindus, Buddhists, Confucianism, all these people confusion.
They really don't know what's going on
all kinds of fables and stories and things about it.
So Prophet Mohammed says Allah was given
knowledge of that world,
which he talks us
through the Quran, and through the Sunnah.
So that we would not be drawn into shake through their interference in our world.
This is the purpose.
Not to tell stories.
Go around the Muslim world, everybody's got a gin story.
Not to blame everything on the gym. That's another problem. Parents, they see their kids acting up in a weird way inside the gym, get a rocky
start of understanding, finding out about the psychology of the children easiest thing is to blame it on the gene.
So this is again, one of the characteristics of those who are truly successful, they're cautious. They don't just take things as they see them. This world can be delusion.
There are forces at play that can make you think things are another way. And as a result of it, you accept false hope.
I mean, how did
Sai Baba? What have you heard about Sai Baba? South Indian, Tamil Nadu Sai Baba had 8 million followers,
including one of the presidents of India
believing that he was God.
Europeans, white Americans come in they're flocking behind him.
Some of them wrote stories you know about what happened to them with their children. Children were abused and stuff like this, you know, seems like Sai Baba was almost sexually
abusing the kids.
That's the facts. Of course, it's kept under wraps. It doesn't get out very far. But he had this huge
believing that he was God.
He was doing a few magical tricks.
He used to have an urn,
sort of like a
container,
which he would show the people turn it upside down there be nothing in it, that he would put his hand inside of it. And then ash will come out holy ash. People will be running after collecting of this ash.
That sometimes you'll be sitting with his people and he's trying to get
that out to come up. Golden Egg.
Like the goose that lays the golden egg right?
People believe in his
magical tricks or tricks, regular tricks, really, you know, any good magician could do that. But he had 8 million people believing he was caught.
He was taking 8 million people to handle with him.
At serious it's not something we laugh, but it's something very serious.
So
the prophet SAW silo
informed us about this world.
So it would not be tricked, diluted and ended up in those traps.
The books
the third pillar of faith.
Allah gave us book self revelation.
Did he need to give us books about religion?
Wasn't it enough that the prophets Allah told us
prophets before they told the people, he gave books of revelation?
This was an extra.
So what is the characteristic? What is the characteristic that we should develop from knowledge that Allah has granted us these books of Revelation,
especially the final book of Revelation?
When he didn't have to do that.
We're born with the fifth
natural belief, we received through the messengers, information, but he also gave us books of Revelation. So what is the characteristic?
Now what will never learn from the message that the prophets
what is the characteristic?
Nobody
characteristic
that we should possess,
seeking knowledge.
The characteristic is thankfulness.
Gratitude,
we should be grateful to Allah, Allah, for this book of Revelation.
Technically speaking, it was enough
for us to be born each one of us to be born
with a built in consciousness of Allah. When Allah created Adam, he took from Adam, all of his descendants, every one of us would ever appear in this world was created at the same time rose up.
And he said to them, and asked to be referred to all of us.
And we all said,
yes, you bear witness. We all were given a consciousness of a law
at the time of the creation of Adam,
and we are given
from
our top why each one of us is given a consciousness of food, you're correct corruption,
righteousness,
and messengers recept.
So books also,
we should be thankful to Allah.
For the books.
You can say also, that the books do represent.
This is the tangible
symbol of knowledge books.
And we know in Islam also we are commanded to seek knowledge.
Of course, the well known statement, seek knowledge from the cradle to the grave is fabricated. Hope you all know that. But
seeking knowledge is compulsory for every Muslim is authentic.
seeking knowledge, if not to China, also fabricated.
It's quoted quite often,
but
compulsory seeking of knowledge, this is what is authentic, we all have to seek knowledge.
And no doubt.
One of the characteristics of those who would inherit paradise would be knowledge.
Because if we don't know a lot,
how can we worship.
So knowledge is
a characteristic or something that we should have. The characteristic really is the desire to seek knowledge, the desire, a person is driven to feel there is no time that the seeking of knowledge
you retire, but you don't retire from seeking knowledge, maybe retire from a job. But seeking knowledge, something right until you die,
and thankfulness
the primary characteristic,
which is also present in the fourth pillar, messengers, because the sending of messages we should also be thankful for
a lot, but have just given us the books or messages, as he could have given us messages and notebooks.
The messenger showed us how to apply the book.
So nobody could say you can't do it.
So, this characteristic of gratefulness, gratitude is one of the
greatest moral characteristics that human beings should possess.
It's the basis for belief in Allah.
And it is so important.
That alarm made it the very first words of our prayers are
the first words of our prayers every day, 70 times a day.
So Allah made it the first words for a reason.
And he made ungratefulness
equivalent to disbelief
when he said, while I in Chicago,
if you are grateful, I will increase what you're grateful for
what I refer to in da da da, da da da.
And if you disbelieve, my punishment is severe.
If you are grateful, I will increase it.
And if you're ungrateful, that's really what
we were expecting in that sentence. And if you're ungrateful, my punishment will be severe. But the law said and if you disbelieve Allah in a foreign tongue,
so he is made
in gratitude, equivalent to disbelief
in gratitude, equivalent to disbelief
so serious.
And we all know promise our sentiment said
man, Llambias, good enough.
Whoever doesn't think people don't think about Allah has made it so important that we think other people, though we know it's coming from Allah.
Those people are just agents who along has chosen for that blessing.
That benefits
that risk to come to us.
But he
told us we have to thank those people. We don't say somebody gives you something you don't say thank Allah.
I should relax. People say there's actually
a sugar lilla common phrase Egypt.
I don't need to thank you
was the one who gave it but no promises
to people. Why? Because if you thank people and encourages them to do more,
if you don't think people that discourages them from doing more.
So in order to keep that going, giving thanks, thanks being grateful to people is very important.
In terms of the messengers,
there is another characteristic
which I think many of you mentioned
obedience
being obedient, the believer
should be
successful believer should be obedient, that should be part of his or her character.
And this is among the characteristics that we have to raise children with a sense of obedience. We'll be talking about that
later.
But that characteristics of obedience
is what
allows us to grow in Islam.
If we're really into what the prophets Allah has commanded us, what a lot of the others told us, then Islam becomes a reality. But many people will say, I believe
in my heart.
Externally, I'm doing all these other things which are displeasing to Allah. But I believe that
but we're not obedient.
If we're not obedient, and we really haven't
believed.
Obedience is proof of belief, of true belief. That's why the prophet SAW Solomon said,
all of my descendants will enter Paradise.
Except those who refuse
companions asked him who would refuse or messenger. He said, whoever obeys me, will enter Paradise. And whoever disobeys me, has refused.
Whoever disobeys me has refused, has refused to enter Paradise.
So obedience, is a primary characteristic
of the truly successful,
and also follows the messenger belief in the messenger.
If we have understood what he brought,
it creates in us also a questioning character.
We don't just accept whatever people do the custom. This is the nature of people.
It's our tradition. We do things this way.
This is how we do it in Indonesia.
But if you believe in the messenger,
then you have to go beyond the custom and the tradition.
Because it is he who received the revelation, not our forefathers.
And oftentimes, people
will say,
when you tell them something from
from the sooner, they will say, our parents didn't do that.
For parents didn't do that.
Are you saying they're wrong?
They were off.
misguided.
This is the response.
Either that or you're a hobby.
Either that one or this one. That's a more complicated one. A simple one is your hobby,
but rejected,
rejecting the message based on the custom and the tradition. Now this response is exactly the same response which is recorded in about three or four places
where a loss adds to the profit and loss.
And if you tell the people believe in a light is messenger, they will say that's not what we found out for parents doing.
What they were doing is enough for us.
So 1400 years ago, they were saying to see the
customs and tradition.
Customs tradition has such a hold on the people. That avatar the
uncle of the prophet SAW something
who raised them in his own Oh,
who knew he was a messenger of Allah
could not let go.
And it took him to help
us, Adam said he would be in hell.
Of course, she is a no, no.
User knees are liars.
Because for them
amantani
He is the father of who
their whole program is all about.
So they would never accept that
reality
as problems, as Alan said,
is going to
allow receipt,
lightens the punishment, because of what he did for the province, etc. But it's still held.
So he wears sandals from the hellfire.
And those sandals will cause his brains to boil.
And he will think that he is receiving the most severe punishment of anyone in Delphi
though is receiving the lightest,
all because of custom, and tradition.
So the messenger calls us to question to challenge the custom and the tradition and to follow revelation.
So among the characteristics of those who make it to Paradise is that they are willing to question
they will not take things blindly. Simply because so and so senate simply because these people did it. My parents, grandparents, everybody else.
I need to know what Islam is.
The last day
last day characteristic is fundamentally that same calculating,
deliberate
personality,
you're keeping track?
Do I want to face this
on the last day,
I'm going to be held account
it has been recorded, there is no escaping.
Everything is recorded
every little thing and every big thing.
So knowledge of the last day
should give us that
calculating personality on one hand, being deliberate and our actions
and even a law being deliberate is from above.
And also,
it should give us a firm and strong personality strong over what is fat and the truth that we hold on to it. We don't compromise that truth.
Because we know
it is the truth and then on the Day of Judgment, what is right will become clear.
And if we hold on firmly to it, we will be successful.
So it gives us also a sense of confidence, confidence in Allah.
Allah has promised us you do the right thing.
You will receive good
patches on a Sunny Hill
is there any reward for good other than good.
So that gives us a firm footing.
And the last
characteristic or last
set of characteristics from the sixth pillar of faith destiny or other
is a repeat
of
earlier mentioned characteristics
Patience,
their patience.
You know, it's all written,
written 50,000 years before the creation,
whatever we face
being content content.
This is one of the key characteristics of the righteous.
Being contented
knowing that whatever has come to us, we made our efforts.
We only got this return.
In fact, along with patient, we don't go outside of the boundaries of Islam.
We don't go and take that load with rebar at the end of it.
We know it's wrong, we know it's wrong.
But we don't we can't be patient.
We live beyond our means.
This is the western trap.
With the credit card, live beyond your means you can buy what you don't have money to buy that card.
So
the tract
you live within your means you don't need the credit card.
And you free yourself
of deaths
an interest
and debt so severe that
that would even stop the martyr from entering paradise.
Martin somebody was given their life
for the sake of Allah
would be held back from entering paradise because of debts.
So we want to live a debt free life.
If we can't afford it, then don't do it.
You want to get a car.
It doesn't have to be a brand new car.
Of course, because your best friend, your neighbor, they got brand new cars.
Your family's all jumping up and down. We need a brand new car. So you feel I have to buy a brand new car. No.
If you can't afford that brand new car, don't buy it. buy a used one. Get a good used one. That's what you can afford. So stay with that.
And
then of course, what comes along with it is having also, as we said in the beginning is stable personality, which frees you from flipping and flopping with everything that happens in life.
You're able to ride the waves,
the good, the bad, and the ugly.
We're now going to move on to the first
of the habits.
taqwa.
And when we talk about taqwa, of course, a baby. A young child, two years old, three years old.
taqwa is not really relevant to them. This talk was talking about taqwa of the parents.
That if we are to raise righteous children, then we ourselves have to be righteous. Righteousness begets righteousness.
That's the general rule of what people say what about the son of Prophet,
son of Prophet.
He was misguided.
was a prophet of Allah.
Allah gives him
as an example, a trial.
Even the righteous can fail be faced with trials.
But that's not the norm.
That's the exception.
The norm
myths that righteousness begets righteousness.
Righteous parents have righteous children.
Righteous parents have righteous children, that didn't work.
Also, sometimes bad parents have righteous children happens too.
But that's the exception.
The norm is that righteous parents, our righteous children.
So we can say that it is the right of the child.
It is the right of the child, that his or her parents be righteous.
It's their right for them to have this chance, this opportunity.
His or her parents should be themselves righteous.
And what we're talking about is,
before the child is born, we're talking about
habit, which
deals with
pre birth before the child is born even before the child is conceived.
Which is why Prophet Muhammad wa sallam
told us
women and men are married for four reasons.
Everybody knows that right? First one is what?
duty
is the movie star?
She's a movie star.
Second,
well
loaded.
Third,
third one is
family status status. A good family, marrying somebody from a quote unquote, good family.
People of influence, power respected in the society etc.
And then the fourth is
for the dean
religiosity.
And he said, marry for the dean, and you will be successful.
Married for the dean, and you will be successful.
Now, this doesn't mean some people have misunderstood,
meaning that
if she's ugly,
poor
from a lonely family, but she's got Dean barrier
if you find her attractive, Mary,
but if you don't find her attractive, you don't find him attractive. He could be been basses sub
i would not advise you to marry him.
Though the most important thing is the deed It doesn't mean that you ignore the others.
This is the point people have misunderstood this. So parents will tell their daughter having Skype is religion. She's in the drawers and is on the team but you don't like him.
You're not attracted to him at all. You're turned off.
Don't marry.
Because though the dean is most important, those other points have consideration
for problems I'll send them when one of the companions
and informed him that he's about to get married. He said did you go and have a look at the woman
no
Gucci
Gucci first.
So the element of attraction is real.
And it's something I mentioned in it. Why? Because I would say that probably about
a quarter of the mail that I get, right from my Facebook page, I have nearly 4 million people following the page. And about a quarter of the mail are women, saying, Hi parents are forcing us to market. People we don't like, you know, we're in love with somebody else. And, you know,
they're being forced to leave eventually, one of them said, Could you please pull somebody else
wrote something, parents should not force their daughters to marry people who they don't like.
They don't feel attracted to.
It's their right. They're not supposed to be forced.
This is mostly in the case of women, men, some get forced to
some societies stronger than others.
Parents will tell the son you better
marry this person, from our family, relative cousin, whatever.
And they will disinherit, you don't do it with this narrative.
So
the point though, that the process of did stress, the importance of deed,
the point is, he said that marriage is half of the
marriage is half of the deal.
So I stressed the importance of top law,
deed, being religious pious.
And he stressed that marriage is half of the deed. So to put those two together,
then you should marry one who is
practicing the day attracted to could have finances, finances, could be from a good family or a not so good family.
But the dean, definitely
don't go without it.
So that is the starting point that is the right of the child.
Your child's right is that you as a woman, choose a righteous husband, you as a man choose a righteous wife.
You do that you have a good chance for raising righteous children. You don't do that. Then your chances have just been cut in half.
Because marriage is half of the
European your families. How is it half the data?
How is marriage? Half?
Somebody you've already decided before? Right? Who has never heard that before? And nica
you've all heard this before. What does it mean?
Nobody knows.
No idea.
You heard it but you know what it means?
Well, if you hear it, you should ask.
If you didn't know, the law said the decree and go to law. If you don't know ask those who know.
You heard that? Do you hear it repeated said many times. You can't enter a course in marriage except here in Canada.
What does it mean? It means that if you marry a woman who is righteous, she will help you with half of your deen
a man who was righteous will help you with half of your deen a man who is righteous if you're not getting up for fudger
He's gonna wake you up.
Similarly, as a man,
if your wife is righteous, she'll wake you up, she will not see you sleeping and think, Oh, you poor thing. You work so hard and so on. So it's okay you can pray after sunrise.
You will wake him up.
Even if he is gruff, when he wakes up, you will wake him up.
Because that's what he needs to do, he should pray before sunrise.
And as the prophet SAW, Solomon said,
Allah blesses the woman
who sprinkles water on her husband to get him up.
For 5g,
this doesn't mean filling a bucket and throwing water all over your house, but not what it means. It means sprinkle.
You put your hand in the water and you miss sprinkling water.
Because when you're asleep, that little drop of water hitting us like a bomb. You know, you're
just Trump. But in your sleep, it has a powerful impact.
So that is the Rights of the Child, that the mother is helping the Father, the father is helping the mother with the deed. Together, they are practicing the deed, each one be a helper to the other. If the man was on his own, that helped, that he would have gotten half of his Deen that you would be helped with based on the rights of the wife, you would be missing. That's why she's half the deal. That's why he is half the deal.
Because he will help you in those areas where you might become lacks, lazy, whatever, you'll be there to push you along, get you back on track.
So
the story of Prophet Musa
goes back to this point,
the point of the righteous parents
in the case of the wall,
which was about to fall,
which kids are rebuilt.
He said, What can a boomer saw
their parents their father was righteous.
So a lot had to him
pretend protect the wealth of those two orphans, because the father was righteous.
So the righteousness of the Father benefited the child through a law.
And that is why
many of the early scholars used to tell their children
I make extra formal prayers. No often
for your sake.
They would make extra profit
for the sake of their children.
So the parents
first and foremost, you
have to have correct data.
That's the beginning point of
having the correct data.
And that correct aqeedah should be implemented. It shouldn't just be facts.
knowledge that may have
but translated into real life. Because many of us we attend. Classes are not either classes, Islamic classes.
But
in our practical life, we don't see it implemented.
So we all know that a loss Rhonda diamond is a result. He is
The provider
is the provider.
However,
we ended up taking the rebar
with the excuse that if we don't take rebar
our business can't move ahead.
We can't succeed.
You have Muslims
with restaurants selling alcohol.
Because
they will say that
in Jakarta.
So many non Muslims, if you don't sell alcohol,
they won't
come to your restaurant.
The restaurant won't become famous, go make money.
You've forgotten that Allah is a result.
He is the one who will provide
and you
are not content.
You're not content
with what has given you what Allah has given you
to stay within the bounds.
That is also what drives many of us to go overseas
to go to non Muslim countries
and Muslim countries, because the pay is better,
you know, will be more successful financially, life will be
more pleasant.
But what happens when you go
how many cases I met in Toronto. I grew up in Toronto.
I was in Toronto,
and
how many cases I met of parents who came from
the Muslim world
and
migrated
to the west
who lost their family in the process.
I remember when I
attended a conference in Toronto. After the conference, a sister and her husband came up to me they're reminding me that they used to attend classes with me back in college in UAE.
And I used to set up the first Islamic data center in the UAE in UAE, the way
SAVAK Information Center, and she and her husband were among the first students who used to attend classes there.
She reminded me I had forgotten, she reminded me that you know, you
when we told you, we wanted to go to Canada, you advised us don't go
and we insisted that said, we're just gonna go
to get the
citizenship and combat back.
And you said our two sons at the time they were young enough that okay, five years still be you know,
about seven. So the damage would be less.
So okay, once you got a
citizenship, come right back. Don't stay there. But as she said, after we got the citizenship
we felt life was so comfortable.
And we couldn't see any damage being done.
We didn't see we couldn't understand.
It seemed okay.
said my two sons just graduated from University of Toronto,
the best top university in Canada, University of Toronto.
One of them graduated in engineering and the other one graduated in
Mathematics.
She said both of them graduated atheists.
She had tears streaming down her face. Both of them graduated atheists denying the existence of a law.
And they were good parents. Good in the sense of practicing, they practiced the day they were eager to learn all these different things.
But in the wrong environment.
That's not enough.
So, it is important
that the parents
are righteous, and they implement their righteousness. They know who Allah is that he is the provider.
It doesn't matter about getting a Canadian citizenship. It's not worth it.
You're putting your children into a state of spiritual suicide.
So your consciousness of a law, knowing he is the provider should stop you from making that move.
The parents should also practice the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad.
This is part of tocom.
And they practice this and
not only that, they know it.
But they practice it, they live it.
So now is a living system. It's not a set of dead rituals.
That we take out
on certain occasions, and then we have another life to live
like people who go to the masjid
and
they put on a sarong
to pray, then they take it off, they go back out.
allies in the masjid
if it was right for you, to cover yourself,
male or female
in the masjid, it's right for you to do so. Outside of the masjid.
That's the bottom line.
And if we hold on firmly to the Sunnah,
it also means that we reject the bitter opposite of sadhana is with
I know some people here which is like that is the Wahhabi weapon,
the weapon of the Wahhabi
beating people with the big eyes.
But
reality is that
is the opposite of the tsunami.
Tsunami is what
online is messenger
have taught
and be there
is a part of religion
which we made up
that's what is fake religion.
We are making up practices
and giving it the title of Dean
but it is not a part of the deal.
And usually
when it comes to issues like birthdays,
these are minor issues.
But when it comes to issues like do we pray to the saints
the nine one
Or
do we pray to them or not? Now you're dealing with a primary issue of faith,
which
is what this call is divided into two categories, with the Anglo Cafiero with our children turning into a disbeliever
your apps, perhaps all into disbelief,
praying to Allah to valleys, to human beings instead of a law. This is the essence of shelter,
the essence of shelter.
So it's not something light,
something very, very serious.
And the Buddha, of course, comes in the form, which is attractive.
It's a shortcut, a spiritual shortcut.
You don't have to do what everybody else does, you have a shortcut.
So, the shares
are the one he
he becomes your means
to escape, having to do the deal as it is required to be done.
So for example,
Chef or snake nozzle and Cobra See,
famous leader of the branch of the Nexavar Sufi order,
whose followers believe that he could be in seven different locations at the same time.
They believe he could be in seven different locations at the same time.
He told his followers,
that when the time to die comes for them, if they are true followers of his breed,
when the time comes to die, the angels
of death or the angel of death will not take their soul
he will be there to take a toll and hand it over to the angels of the hereafter.
So they will not experience the trials of dying.
The death will be smooth transition.
And when when Karen machir come to them in the state of the grave, and ask them man Robert
Medina.
He snake Northam will be there whispering in your ear.
So if you have that, you have nothing to worry about. This is the shortcut.
It doesn't matter what you do in this life. As long as you are a true follower.
You're guaranteed paradise. These are like tickets to paradise.
The Christians did it long time ago back in the Middle Ages.
They have what were known as papal indulgences. It was a certificate
that the pope would issue. It says the bearer of this certificate has a place in paradise sign stamped by the Pope.
People paid for it.
Where this can come from. This is from Satan. satanic.
What snake Nasim was teaching was satanic
from Satan
regardless of what it looked like at a big beard, a huge servitor
his followers used to be falling all over him and he's making will do they were trying to catch the water from him even now. He died about two years ago. If you go on the internet
and you Google
water of shape nozzle, you will find it being sold
The water which fell from him when he's making buku, they're now selling it files that $50 70 $500 if it has particles in it,
meaning is dirt.
We can laugh. But people actually believe this.
Where do you go?
This is Satan has.
This is the beta.
That is the evil end of the beta.
The small things as I said, birthday do celebrate birthdays are not
even the prophet SAW some of his birthday do celebrate it or not.
They are bigger.
not correct.
But they're not going to take you to hell.
But this time,
this other time, this can take you to hell.
That's the real danger.
The last of the principles for parents, the rights of the child on their parents is that parents should keep away from sins. Unwanted one hand.
They need to know what lies and practice to do. And then on the other hand, they need to keep away from sins no matter how small the sins may be.
Because this is what we tend to do is they call this the small set
listening to music, smalls.
But
the prophet SAW something that said Be aware of the score and since the Yakumo Mahabharata.
Because these scorn sins are like a people who camp in the bottom of a valley, and one comes with a twig and another with a twig and they make a bonfire to make their bread.
So the small sense, like those little tweaks, by themselves, you can't make any bread. When you bring them together, you can make that bonfire, bake the bread.
So this is the point,
small sins you do enough of them,
then the big sin is become
easy to fall it
because you lose your sense of shyness to do since the more you do them,
the more likely you are to do the bigger things. So this is the right of our children upon us as parents
to have Taqwa to be pious.
And those were the main elements of piety, one that we should
know a lot
and implement what we know of him in our lives. To that we should hold on firmly to the Sunnah of the prophets
and three, that we should avoid sins
as much as possible.
Okay, we're going to
break here is that the break for questions? Do we have time?
exercise? Yes.
In order to build top law,
because we talk about it, what can we do to build
if we can make a chart like this
and write down
our daily habits, habitual
acts righteous acts that we want to establish which will build our taqwa whether it is reading the Quran
on a regular basis,
giving charity on a regular basis.
Fasting Monday and Thursdays, three days of the full moon
Every month
or
even simple acts like
smiling
which is sad
to smile at somebody who you don't normally smile
I mean there are people that you smile at were the people you like
so it's not real
friendship
but when you smile at somebody who you don't normally smile at
that makes them feel good and they smile back here is yourself
especially somebody who between you and them maybe things are not so good
you used to be good friends and not anymore for reasons which are really not
worth breaking up a friendship etc. You tried to revive bring things back
to
smiling
and you keep track of it.
Try to smile at somebody
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But, and I try also to socialize this to my children's.
But the problem is consistency of doing this probably, if you could advise, advise us or advise me on how we
keep doing this happy. And then the second one is
probably have a mechanism to how to give a kind of reward and punishment, for example, to the children's. If you're doing this.
Practice, practice this habit.
How should we reward them? Because sometimes
we sometimes we really love our kids, right? Just molting we sometimes we give them two months or something like that. But even if they don't do it, or even they do, something's not good. We don't have had to give punishments, please advise us on this. Okay, actually, this is sort of jumping the gun.
You know, we will be coming to these points. Right now we're beginning with First things first.
That is later on down the line, when we come into disciplining children know our methods of reward and punishment. And we'll be looking at that later in the coming sessions. I just wanted to mention though that in terms of the talk while the board
that if the husband and wives here and even individuals were not here with their wives or without their husbands, you
could make it up between now and tomorrow. And then we hear at least a sampling of what you have put as habits that you plan to do. So that you can share with others, maybe you have some good ideas that others didn't think of it also they can add these points to the Yes, word by this man was suggesting us instead of doing with the spouse, instead doing with the friend mean,
like, for example, in this market, for example, what do you think? Or
I think that, you know, since husband and wife are the ones that have to, you know, establish this for their children, the primary concern would be for the two of them, they know what each other share what they need to do, what they're not doing. So, I think initially,
it may be more effective to do it with husband and wife together, and then we share it with the whole group. So that whatever unique points anybody has come up with can be shared and others can benefit from it is what I would suggest
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Okay, hi, Daniela materi bagmati.
I would like to ask you about how to build a consciousness about Allah to the kids.
That always always watching them because most we're gonna come to that.
We're gonna come to that the taqwa point consciousness, this first has to be with us. That's why we focused on us as parents first and foremost, because this is where it starts from, if we don't have it, we can't give it to the kids. So, we need to have it ourselves, we need to have habits which are building our own relationship with the law. So with that, consciousness with that realization ourselves, that we can develop
the process also for our children, and we will be looking at that, when it comes under education, these are amongst the different
habits that we have to establish for the children, giving them proper education, what constitutes proper education, first, performance is going to start with knowing,
knowing who all is. So at that point, inshallah, we will look at strategies, how
making our children understand, or giving them the consciousness, the understanding of the law, and knowing which age that we should be focusing on because some concepts which have to do with the law, or the Messenger of Allah, you know, when dealing with a child who was two years old, it's just
can't, you can't get it across, because their mind hasn't developed enough to be able to grasp it. So it may be just enough for them to know to say a lot.
They use certain terms later on. You give them a consciousness of what those terms represent.
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we don't want to be what they call male chauvinistic, and all these other things, know that the women also get an opportunity. This is the last question. Let's save your question, we'll still answer for you.
Hi, I want to ask about how to keep we on the right track, to
practice or now to keep away from CNC given if we
maybe we feel tired, or on the bed. Or maybe we have a lot of problems, sometimes we just have consciousness to get on the right track, if we in a good condition, how to keep the good,
man,
even if we have a lot of problems,
and
how to implement in practical life.
But this is where the friends come in.
Who you have as your friends, if you're the type of person who is isolated, you only function by yourself, then you're going to have a very difficult time.
But this is you should have good friends. And that's what good friends are for. When you're down there to help you back up. When they're down, you're there to help them.
With why the problems I said I'm stressed that choose your friends, well, because you will be raised on the Day of Judgment with your friends.
So those friends will remind you of Allah, Who remind you to do your prayers will remind you
to do all of the things that you may be slackening loosening up on. Those are the friends that you want, they should have around yourself, a circle of good friends.
Who would you say are among them, the boost?
The boost, you're a man, you see that striving, etc. That makes you feel and want to strive. And that's our nature. You know, when we're around people who are strong, we're strong. When you're around people who are weak, we tend to be weak is the nature. So that's one of the key principles is to have good friends.
Sharing What about we have last question, but I don't know.
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Thank you slowly comes in.
I hope we're too late for this session, because our kid is teenagers already. And most of the participants here maybe the oldest 10 years old, 11 years old.
I get the older sister the second, the third. And then the youngest one is 17. So how to
make them wrenches.
What we are working on, we're going step by step
tackling
the necessary
elements that need to be in place for us to achieve the goal of raising righteous children. So we're going from zero
all along your case.
Much of what we're going to be covering, you have already passed.
If you didn't do those things,
then we can look at strategies how you can make up for some of those things.
But we're looking at the process from the earliest ages
all the way along.
So when we come along to
Issues of education and discipline. These are the matters. You know, you can raise particular questions in our time, we can try to look for solutions for your situation.
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