Bilal Assad – The Rightly Guided Caliphs #10 Umar Ibn Al-Khattab (RA) Part 4

Bilal Assad
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So my brothers and sisters, now we look back at how these great companions dealt with power and the love of power. We look a Hummer of the Hatha, but at the Allahu Anhu how he was just so special and different. He was a black and white person who truly, and quite oddly acted in ways that to us today we think why, but then we discover Subhanallah he's truly the 100 shaitan has no power over his sincerity. You'll see in sha Allah that his deen and his Lord Allah Subhana Allah and His messenger came first even before himself. So oh my god, if you recall, brothers and sisters, we talked about during the whole biography. We mentioned about two lessons ago about the great companion Khalid

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Abdullah lead or the Allah one. And we said how he is the greatest commander of any army ever to exist till today, highly different than Amara, the Allahu Anhu were a competition before Islam and even after Islam.

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And it got to a point where a middle man Amara, the Allahu anhu, he took kind of knowledge of the commanding post when Abu Bakr had placed him and the prophet called him a loss unsheath sword.

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I'm not going to go into the details, there's no need. But the point that I want to make here that we want to finish off in sha Allah, is that it created a tension between our model and Harley didn't know the two great companions had a slight tension towards each other. More so from Highlander towards Omar. Now Hello, the Allahu Anhu was a distance away, he's in a place called sham and he's in Iraq. He's all the way there. He's been there for decades to do nearly two decades now fighting the wars and conquering and conquesting Muhammad Ali Alana is back in Medina all this time. So there's a distance and there's no telephones, there's no mobile phones, they just would send someone

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to go and gallop on a horse for two months to get to him with one letter. So you can imagine the miscommunication that can happen yet Subhanallah because they were so eloquent in their words, the miscommunication, there was only small marginal room for miscommunication. Today, subhanAllah, we send each other night and day messages, and we still misunderstand each other.

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A lot of our sisters, they love emojis. Men don't understand emojis, my dear sister stop it. We have to do courses to understand that. My brothers and sisters, I'm not I'm just joking about that, of course. But I'm saying that miscommunication even with technology today is very difficult. But they communicate very, very well yet you can imagine two months journey there's going to be miscommunication, misunderstanding, and people assume so

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naturally drawn to assume the worst of something except very few people Subhanallah, whose hearts are safe from that. But most of us, we assume, especially from a distance. And that's why when you cut off someone, you don't talk to them for a while. And then you hear something about them or they hear something about you. Unfortunately, the shaitan makes you think the worst until you get closer and you talk, you have to talk rather than sisters. And then you realize that the other person didn't mean exactly what you were assuming. Or or you didn't mean what they were assuming. And you're thinking they don't know what I'm thinking. And big enmity happens until you get closer and

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you talk and you communicate. Brothers and sisters, don't be afraid of disagreements. And don't be afraid of conflict. It's not conflict. It's not disagreement. It's always the attitude that we come with when we disagree. That's the problem. Most conflicts in the world is not because of disagreements because the attitude that you and I we place we become rude. We don't let the other person speak. We want to overlap each other on we may have our own whims and desires. We have our own motives. We have our own assumptions. So sometimes I might not let you talk because I don't want to hear what you say. Or maybe you will shut me up. I've got an ego I don't want you to shut me up.

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So I'll just speak over you brothers and sisters, be careful as the Prophet salallahu Salam did say that among the signs of a hypocrite. We're not calling each other hypocrites here. But he says the hypocrites used to do that and in his time with a horse on a fisher. When they go into disagreements with someone they explode, they become immoral. They swear they shout they yell they over. They they try to silence you they try to make everybody look like you're the one that's harming them. They start shouting and doing things that people can think that you have a right and remember the other person is quiet. It's the ego that comes in and you got people on your side falsely, don't listen to

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the shaytaan and that was what causes great conflicts and great enmities so highly below the Allahu Anhu and home Radi Allahu Anhu uma there was this slight tension that developed really from Khalid Saeed not from Ahmadi Allah and you'll find out why. The only reason why I'm gonna be Allah one who took him off his command post was because Omar's intention was that he feared that the Muslims will put too much trust in Khalid Abdullah

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leads amazingness his, his his great power that Allah had given him in winning battles, and forget to put their trust in Allah subhanaw taala himself. And that actually means that He is praising Khalid, rather than putting him down to be honest. He's telling them that harlot will never lose. Allah has given him victory forever and on the tongue of the Prophet sallahu wa sallam, if he sought comes out, it can know what it will not return without victory. He's literally praising him. He's not talking about hardly being a bad person. He's not saying that I've got anything against him. But he's telling them he's afraid for the Muslims. That's what the leader really thinks about he doesn't

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think about himself doesn't think about individuals doesn't think about monetary things or he thinks about the community thinks about the responsibility that Allah has given him. And that's what really had to make these decisions. Anyway, after a long time, some people assumed that highlighted, he had betrayed somehow he had cheated, he had done something wrong. That's why Omar told him to get off the post. So all these assumptions from the Shaitan came to people, some of them and holiday long one who heard some things and he was in doubt. So the day came when Khalid returned from a Shem Hashem is greater Syria. He came to Medina this was only a few years before couldn't have been more

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literal, the Allahu Anhu

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was stricken with the plague. He died 40 years after it but this was a few years before Homer the Allah on who died. He enters Medina, he didn't wait for the first time now. And after nearly 20 years, he sees all matter the Allahu Anhu maybe less than 20 years, maybe something like less than 15. And he saw Amara, the hola Juan Omar in front of everybody, he comes up to him and hug when it comes down. They hug each other as the first thing they do. They hug each other. They say salaam to each other. They ask about each other. It's nothing personal between them. And this what happens when you don't talk to someone? Okay, they may have harmed you for something personal, you may have

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them and you don't and you want to minimize your contact with them for some reason, but at least there are six rights of a Muslim upon another Muslim. One of them is that if they say salaam to YOU MUST REPLY y equals Selim. If they sneeze and say in Hamdulillah. I have to say to them your hum como Allah, may Allah have mercy on you, if they get sick, you should check on them. If they asked you for advice, and you can give them advice. Even if you don't like them. You have to give them some sincere advice if you're able to. And if you don't want to say Forgive me, brother, I don't. I don't, I don't want to say the wrong thing. The point is, you don't just cut them off completely

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completely. If they die you and you can go to their funeral you go, if they have a wedding, and they invite you to their son or their daughter's wedding and you are able to attend then you should attend otherwise apologize. It doesn't. When we when we don't talk to someone it's not for a Muslim. It's not That's it? It's like they don't exist, they're died or something. No, there's still some little tiny here between you and I. And it's a difference between if you don't want to forgive someone. You don't have to forgive someone who wronged you if you don't want to. That's your right. If you can forgive and find a way to reconcile that's better. But some people actually don't deserve

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to be forgiven either. I'm not telling you you have to some people, if you forgive them, they get worse. But it doesn't mean you negate everything else. I see you in the masjid just because of one thing that happened between me and you. I turned this way you turn the other way. We even avoid each other so that we don't say Salam o alaikum. And with that selfish we become that selfish, that we don't even want to say I don't even want to say cinema Aleikum to La ilaha IL Allah. Rasool so As Salam said that among the most selfish of people is the one who doesn't want to say salaam to some As salam o alaikum. My peace and security beyond you. What's the problem with that? You know, a

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salon the word Salam is a DUA, you're making too hard for your brother, or your sister. And how about thinking about this way? When you say Salam aleykum to someone, even if you don't like them, for the sake of Allah, there's an angel. There's an angel that makes it hard for you. Welcome. Hello, the angel says and you have the same as what you made the art for your brother, As Salam aleikum, WA,

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from Allah that my peace and security of Allah be upon you. You say May Allah forgive every Muslim and every believer, you have you ever tried that? When somebody's hurt you and you make it for them? Some people they see with family sorry brothers sisters, if I went on a bit of a tangent here, I think this is important to talk about little bit at least, because people misunderstand what it means to cut off and forgiveness and all that stuff. And if sometimes we say family cut them off completely, they're toxic. Yeah. Why don't you turn and think about it a different way. Have you ever thought about making dark for them I will guide my father guide my mother guide my brother

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guide my sister. Now you feel sorry for them. You feel sympathy for them? And you ask Allah to guide them? Why not guide them some people have their hatred so much that they say doesn't deserve to be god I'm gonna be gonna ask Allah to guide them.

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The other hand llama Are you more merciful than Allah? God is from Allah. If he knows that undeserving he won't, but you're the one that's going to benefit the angels gonna make God for you. Ibrahim alayhi salam was kicked out by his father, the great prophet, and his father said to him, I will stone you to death if you don't leave me and he disowned him he kicked him out on the street and the letter come back home

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Abraham my son instead of looking at him and say you're not a father to me and you're toxic and I hate you, and all that stuff or feeling sorry for himself, Abraham, I said, I'm looking at his father and said, My Father, I fear upon you misguidance I will ask Allah to forgive you. I will ask Allah to forgive you. I Betty stuff Rola curly Robbie in the How can I be happier? My Lord never leaves me it's not you know, your fatherhood was not the thing that's gonna save me Allah is that I feel for you, dad, because I love you. We feel sorry for people who do the wrong thing. Our children, our friends, our relatives. So my brothers sisters, you don't need to be like them. Yeah,

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you don't want to forgive someone for something was or another. That's fine. You don't have to. But you don't deny all the other rights of a Muslim upon another Muslim? Is there any one of us here who is perfect in every way? Have we never hurt anyone if you and I never hurt anyone before? I'm sure that if we were to check Allahu Akbar probably hurt more than more than 100 people just in the past year. Just because some people forgive some people don't talk. Every one of us has this. So my dear brothers and sisters, if we can forgive we can. If we can't, that's fine, but still don't deny the other rights. Still have some goodness in you. Otherwise, no, but everybody will be toxic to

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everyone. Everybody will be toxic. If we're gonna go by that mindset, everyone's toxic. Is that how we're gonna live? This is why we're here in the masjid. We see each other we renew, we break the shaitan the first one to say the sellout to the other will get the reward. That's it? Well, let me for example, if you if I owe you money, and I can't do you say I'm never gonna pay it. You say to him, I'm not gonna forgive you.

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I'm the one that has to be scared. I don't come up to you and say you have to forgive me on my brother and I blackmail you with Hadith. You have to love for your brother, what you love for yourself. Subhanallah that hadith you have to love for the brotherly love for yourself is the other way around.

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It's when I come to you and I want to let's say I want to, I want to do something for you and you haven't asked and I insist. And you know you feel overwhelmed and you're happy about it. And I say to you okay, because I got a love for you or a love for myself that way when I offer your service not the other way around. When you know I blackmail and say sell me that product brother. I know you got a business. Give me a discount love for your brother what you love for yourself, give me a discount. Because you gotta love me. Like the way you love yourself the Hello a La Quwata illa it's a new trend. How to blackmail your brother with Islam.

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It should be the other way around. So brothers and sisters, what I'm saying is a Muslim can love can still love a person from an angle hate. You can dislike something about it from another angle. But not altogether. Yeah, there's still some little hairs between us some little strings between us in sha Allah, that in a nutshell, halogen when it comes in. Honorable Hapa say for nearly 1015 years, people have saved hundreds this college been hearing words, can you imagine? 1015 years you're hearing these words from people and you don't know the truth and you're far away. That immediate minion has put him away aside because he's done something wrong. He's got a stigma on him for nearly

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15 years. That's harsh. He comes back, they hug each other. And Amara, the Allahu Anhu makes a poem about Harley, the beautiful poem.

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Now you might think that's a it's what we do, and we want to suck up to someone that's not true. I'm gonna we'll help Bob was known for his honesty, he doesn't care. And he made a poem for him to show that we are brothers. And then harlot said to him, yeah, I mean, you've wronged me. You've treated me harshly. You've hurt me so hard. No. Well, it was also one of those like on my just spoke the truth. Watch this now how people who love each other for the sake of Allah. They are frank with you. And I do it sincerely. There's no two faced approaches between these people. There's companions. It says your alma mater, you've hurt me. You really wronged me? It's been such a long time. And I've

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been holding something here I've got I've got I've got this ugly feeling towards you because of this. People said about me. I was betraying and all that stuff because of what you did. I had to live with it. So he said he told him his feelings.

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And he knows the armor will listen. And then Omar turns around and he said, You're Khalid we're more here in front of these people. I did not tell you to get off the commanding post, except because I didn't want the hearts of the Muslims to put their trust in you because I fear that the Muslims will lose, as the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told us

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and then he looks around Omar, and he says the Holige brought lots of fortune with him. And he says you're Khalid

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all this fortune is yours. He goes, Yes, I fought big people, really rich people. And you know, when you're a warrior in the army of the Muslims, you have a share. Allah has written the Quran that the Warriors have a share. He goes, I fought a lot and I got a lot of share. And Omar said that's a lot. And Khaled Said, Okay, how about you counter? If you find more than 60,000 dinars anything extra to that? I give away to the Muslims. And then Omar, what do you think is going on?

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I know

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we would say it's okay to call us may Allah Subhana. Allah bless it for you, I believe, you know, he said, Okay, he brings all his men says count his money, takes his money inside counts every single did I mean, it's like saying every cent, and they said it equaled 80,000 dinars. He said, Take 20,000 as he promised and give it to the Muslims and give him back his 60,000

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Yeah, he is. He's just so harsh and down the line.

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Has no it looks at it. He goes, Okay. Give it to the Muslims. And then Omar comes back to harder than he says, Yeah, call it come here in front of everybody. He says Wallahi you are a generous man. Holly probably was gonna look at him and think, What are you doing? What do you mean generous? What's this? You just took my money. But he didn't say that. Then he said to him, but I am a businessman, for the Muslims on behalf of the Muslims. I am their broker. So when you said this is for the Muslims, I am going to haggle you for them. Not for me, for the Muslims. And so he took us Yeah, was not about himself. And truly, it was given to the poor and the needy and the widows and

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the orphans of the Muslims. And Khalid bin Walid, when he realized that he couldn't, he actually ended up loving Almighty Allah Juan, his heart started to soften towards him. And then Omar wrote a big letter

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about the whole situation, and talking how innocent home is, and how great he is the unsheath sort of Allah, and that the only reason why he did this was because he was feared for the Muslims to lose their power and trust in Allah. And he kept talking and talking and talking. Until harlot was so happy. And he just forgave everything about Omar. And Omar is Ha was, has always loved Khalid anyway. And hopefully it says after I was so happy that I met Omar that day, and I came face to face him after 10 to 15 years, in that, in that one day, just that few little bit of conversation, just a little bit of communication. Everything was resolved. Do you understand brother sister, sometimes we

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might not talk to a person for 1520 years of our lives. And sometimes we come back to talk with only a day or two everything's resolved a little bit of talking a little communication.

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You know, empty your hearts a little bit and just try to understand what the other person is coming from them understand where you're coming from, don't be afraid.

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Some urban sisters, I've done this many times that have led to work so many times.

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And Insha Allah we can do that communication. My Brothers and Sisters in Islam,

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call it an invalid goes back to hims in Syria, and as I told you last week, the Great Plague happened the plague of MLS. And among the people who died in that plague was Abu Zubaydah. Technogel Ra, he was one of the 10 promised paradise, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam called him Amin who had the Ummah, the trustworthy of this ummah.

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Had he lived on all marginal Capaldo the Allahu Anhu said had to obey the lived on to the moment of my death, I would have elected him to be the next Khalifa.

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And then after him a man by the name of salaam Radi Allahu Anhu. He was a slave who was freed

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of other amount of an alpha, I think one of the companions and he was the next in line. He also died in the plague of MOS and Amara, the Alonso said had he still been living I would have elected him and proposed him for the healer for after me. Do you realize he was a slave?

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Mola Mola Khalifa are the Allah monitors aka Lafayette, not Abdurrahman. So it was a slave of data. And you can see brothers and sisters. Islam does not look at you based on your status, who you are, where you come from, what your color is, what your language is, what your gender is, what your wealth is.

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This man was a slave and he said, I would have liked him to be the Khalifa why based on his character and what the Prophet sallallahu sallam said about him, he is trustworthy and honest and able to lead this nation. That's what that's what really matters.

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But somehow Subhan Allah, they died Khalid bin Walid you would not believe he had over 40 children.

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Maybe 50 or 60, Allahu Allah.

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40 of his children died.

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In those two years of the plague, all of those 40 children they died. And he only had about three or five or something like that left.

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And it was terrible for Haldeman, Walid or the Allahu Anhu until Allah's mantra lifted the plague. And I talked about that last week and hung well it stayed there really sick and unable to be what he was before he got a disease in his lungs and he stayed like that for a long time, unable to take part in battles again. And there were many battles

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After that which burned my needs heart and ripped it apart that he couldn't take part in it. But he said, although my heart is shattered that I cannot go and help the Muslims in their battles,

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I am also equally happy that my heart is now clean towards my brother immediately in the Allah one. And he died. The Allahu Anhu had no need saying, Here I am, there isn't a place in my body that does not have a stab wound, or an arrow wound, or a dagger, or an injury. I've got scars all over my body, it was said that he had more than 70 Different stab wounds in his body.

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And they were all from the front, not from the back. So he never turned his back in a battle hardened with either long one. And he said I sought martyrdom in every battle. There isn't a battle didn't wasn't with the promise of ourselves after became Muslim. And there isn't a battle of the muscles except I was in seeking martyrdom. And here I am. And he said the famous word here I am dying like a camel.

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Just from a sickness. And then he said, Man, I'm gonna die in

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May the cowards never sleep and enjoy their sleep. Meaning that here I am. I was facing death, I want to death I was seeking and I couldn't get it. martyrdom. So my brothers and sisters,

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virtues are given to you by Allah Subhana Allah. And obviously when it did not die in battle, because of what the Prophet peace be upon him said he said he was the unsheath sort of Allah. How could Allah let her know and he'd be broken by the enemy? And that was the reason why are the Allahu Anhu measure may and may Allah be pleased with them old and how they dealt with each other. Ilaha illa Allah you can see brothers sisters, when a bliss set to Allah wiser ethical agenda Nicola over yonder homage marine by your mind and power, oh Lord, I am going to lead them all astray all of the children of Adam. And then he said Illa either come in Holman Maha seen except your slaves among

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them who are truly sincere and honest, that he has no power over them. heilbrunn already sincere and honest on what are the Alana sincere and honest and you see the differences were not about themselves was never personal is not about dunya it's not about monetary stuff. It was never about themselves always about the bigger picture was for the sake of Allah and for the ummah. Do you understand brothers and sisters, this is the this was the issue hamdulillah

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my brothers and sisters a little bit more about Omar the Allahu Anhu. Just to talk about what he did. These are special things that Omar Delano did in what we call his administration in Medina. So he laid laws down he established new rules, new policies that we still practice till today in lots of Western countries here in Australia. We practice them one of them. He is the one who established the welfare system, the collet, Bateman and Muslim in the house of the welfare health of the of the Muslims and the residents, and he turned it into a different type of allowance. Each person had an allowance of some sort. The widow had an allowance, the new baby had an allowance. Babies being

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breastfed had an allowance for two years, the children up to a certain age had an allowance, parenting allowance for their mother and for their father. The divorced woman had an allowance, a man who was single had an allowance so they can get married. A man had no job had an allowance to go and work and try and make himself a business. Person one to study had an allowance, the soldiers had an allowance, everyone, the non Muslims had an allowance, everybody had an allowance of some sort to help them so called Ahmad Allah, one who made this system and we still have it today, here in Australia Centrelink. Now, he also wrote the Allahu Anhu.

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He got himself a small monthly salary. He is the leader of the believers of the world.

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So he's higher than an emperor, higher than a president, of course. And he only had a monthly salary. Very small enough for him and his family

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to meet his day in day day to day needs, besides that, he would not spend a cent of the public money on himself or his family. He was in charge of the Treasury, but he wouldn't spend any of it on himself so much. So listen to this. He used to have a lanten that he lived up in Atlanta and he had to put fuel if he was doing work for public affairs for the community. He would use the Lenten to see at night.

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And when he finished, and he came time to his personal time, he switched off he he he hee hee

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hee blew out. The plantain. I'm tired today. He blew out the lantern Subhanallah and he would not use anything

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for himself beyond his salary to that point

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he personally as I said, walked in the city at night and to check on the residents and their needs and anyone who is in need, he would next day go and help them like a laborer.

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All the citizens were equal before the law that Amara, the Allah Allah placed according to the Sharia, so much so that he established something called separation of powers. I mentioned this last talk. It's when the state and the court system is separate. There's no conflict of interest everybody's subjected to the same judgment. So much so that once someone complained about our own model, the hola Juan, can you imagine someone's complaining about the Khalifa someone's complaining like about let's say, if there was an emperor complaining about the Emperor, about the king,

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or some farmer who's not known nobody knows who he is. Or she is comes and complains, can imagine that complains about the king? you've wronged me? Can you imagine the king coming and saying, Let's go before the court? No way.

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Oh my God, Allah who I know says no worries, what would you like to do says I want to take it to court. On what are the Allahu Anhu goes to the court. And the judge when he sees Rama or the Allahu Anhu. He stands up for him. The judge stood up for Omar says Ameerul Momineen. And Amara. The Allahu Anhu frowned and shouted at him. He said to the judge, this is the first injustice you have done to the plaintiff, the plaintiff, the one whose complaint, this is the first injustice you have done to the plaintiff.

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By standing up for me, You've honored me and favorite favored me. You see, you'll see that I laid out the Allah one who did the same. I'll tell you quickly, Oliver Delano and he became the Khalifa followed the same footsteps. One time a Jewish man Jewish. He claimed the islet of the Allahu Anhu had his shield.

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Sorry, Oliver the Allahu Anhu saw his shield with the Jew

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shield. And he said, That's my shield. You took it? He goes, No, you got no evidence, it's mine. Prove it.

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So good. We'll go to the court. They went to the court should have been at the time violated the Allah Allah. And he said

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he called Oliver at the Allahu Anhu with an honorable name, and highly rebuked him and said to him, you have dealt in justly call me the same name as the plaintiff as the Jew. She said the Holy, what evidence do you have that the shield is yours?

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Because the law in Islam is the claimant needs evidence and the denier, the plaintiff, the person who denies the accused, needs to swear oath

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and says I deny Oliver the Allah who did not have any evidence, said I just my own claim my own word against his. Then he said to the Jew, do you swear by God or by your Torah that you that this shield is yours? He said, Yes, I swear. So the judge says based on the evidence, I can only say the shield is the Jews and added a lot of smoke smiled and left he said thank you because I didn't want the team to rule by Allah's law and that is justice. When they left the Jew handed over the shield Talib of the Allah one who said Your religion is a religion that deserves to be followed. And he ended up converting to Islam because of the justice system of Islam. Compare that to today.

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My brothers and sisters, any man woman or child could stop Omar Abdullah, hop over the Allahu Anhu in the middle of the street and talk to him or point out his mistakes. They could turn and say oh my god, you did this. You've got this. Your problem is that an honorable man would never rebuke anybody. In fact, this is what he would say, a child or a woman or a man. Anyone high or low, wealthy or not. If they told him his fault, he would smile and say Rahimullah humbly in a layup or you will be May Allah have mercy on anyone

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who gifts me

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who gifts me advice about my shortcomings. He called it a gift. And truly it is so you know, Brian says you should not run away from criticism. Criticism helps you to understand yourself and not to make the same mistakes. A foolish person who makes the mistakes for years, get embarrassed once and learn rather than staying embarrassed. And people talking about you as a fool for 10 years honorable how Bobby's to say, May Allah had mercy on the person who points out my mistakes. And it's, I consider it a gift. Truly it is a gift. My brothers and sisters next.

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He's governors. He was one of the first one to put governors in different states in how we now have

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Similar to we have the Premier of Victoria premier of New South Wales like that. And we have the Governor General and so governor's Amara, the Allahu Anhu. He plays governors. And this is what it leaves the conditions he placed on the governor's he said

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the governors are one of the people, they are ordinary people, they don't get any special treatment. That's number one. So much so that he told them they were ordered to get the people's opinions. And to eat simple food like everyone else. They had to dress like everyone else, that always simple clothing. They were forbidden to build porches, the porch, veranda, they were forbidden to build porches, in front of their homes, their houses, they were forbidden to have doorkeepers they had to be one of the people.

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And they must meet and be on call for the people.

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And he had inspectors that would go and inspect on the governor's actions and their day to day movements, checking that they did their job, not spies. This is halal to check on them if they are fulfilling the job because this is the community that Alma

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once he heard about a governor of his who cut himself off from the people, he had enough of people so he started to isolate himself. So he ordered that he take be taken off his post and put out to 10 to a herd of sheep in the desert. Since he like isolation and being alone, okay, I'll take you off your post. Your job is now to go and look after people sheep. And that's what he went and did. Nice and just want to stay away from everyone. And that's why Rasul Allah alayhi wa sallam he used to say, and maltman Allah the U haul little NAS where your spirit Allah Allah Hi Ramadan movement, minute Muslim, Muslim, hi Ramona Muslim, Allah de la Hadith and as well as Kurata as the Muslim who

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mixes with the people and does good duties, and then is patient with the hurt and hurtful words and actions that they do to that to them is far better and more beneficial than a Muslim who sits away from the people to avoid hearing things that hurt them or harm. So, obviously, when you want to work and do things, you're going to be subjected to tests and trials all the time. My brothers and sisters and that's what separates the leader from the one who is not separates the one who achieves from the one who doesn't.

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He was put in a woman he also put a woman inspector

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to inspect that the tradesman trades people were doing fair trade, she would inspect them. And whenever she walked into the market, all the tradesmen they started to sweat and shiver, because she's out there. Her name was handset. And she'd come out and make sure everybody is doing Fairtrade.

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My brothers and sisters,

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once there was a master who slept his slave slavery was still allowed, but they were given rights never given before. And then soon the slaves were slowly liberated. But there were still slaves, and they had to be treated with honor and respect and fit like what their families are fed. And if they work that combined themselves out, there's a long story about it.

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If Islam had eliminated slavery straight away, they would have become public property. My dear brothers sisters, a lot of people have asked me about slavery. And they say Why did Islam allow slaves? The answer to that is number one, Islam is not the one that made slaves. Slaves had existed for 1000s of years, no one knows when it began. When is when the prophets Allah Salam came into this world with the message, the slaves were already there. If Islam came to abolish slavery, straight away, those slaves would automatically become public property that will be harmed, raped, abused and stolen, because they had been in that situation for hundreds and 1000s of years. Number three,

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Islam did not eradicate slavery that way, rather, it did it systematically. It started to if a Muslim had a slave, they had laws, they had rights, freedom of religion, freedom to use their wealth, if they had any skills, they could buy themselves out. If a woman slave had a child, she can also she was not she was called on more so and so she was honored if you had a different name, and she had different rights.

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And Islam came with liberating them by encouraging people to free their slave in public to atone for their sins,

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to free slaves by them and free them in public and not just to eradicate it just like that it wasn't going to work.

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And slowly 100 In less slaves started to get liberated and Pamela in the end the Mamluks. If you ever heard of them in the 12th century, they're the ones who became the Ottoman Empire. They were the slaves that were liberated from Islam to

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I'm out. And Allah gave them enough for the Ottoman Empire. My brothers and sisters,

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there was a master who mistreated his slave. The story goes like this, that he had a horse. He had two horses and he said to his servant, race me on that horse,

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and the slaves horse beat the horse of his master.

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The master had an ego issue, so he slapped his slave. Why did you run in front of me? Obviously he regretted it, but at the time of anger, he just slapped him through a slave. Something happened to him out of anger. The slave winning plane took him out of the Alon

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Omar summoned the Master and the Master comes from a noble family

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he said to him Is it true said it's true he said You had no right slave your eye now order that your slave who are entrusted with slap you back the same way you slapped him?

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Do you agree and the master said

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Oh, immediate Momineen

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Can you compare the stars in the sky? Two grains of sand on Earth? Come on. I'm a star in the sky. He is a grain in the earth. Obviously he still had ignorance in him on what are the Allah Allah said? Absolutely not. Because why? Because Because Islam came and he put all our cheeks beneath the truth

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Oh us beneath the truth.

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I'll give you three days to think about it. You will come willingly or you will be punished whipped. So the man went and ran away from the city never came back. Subhanallah so I'm gonna the Allahu Anhu and Islam is like that.

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There is a story about Amara, the Allahu Anhu in Abu Bakr I'm sure you guys have all heard it. It's a famous one, it sheds the tears, it really floods the heart. And it plays with the emotion Subhanallah and I the story of Amara, the Allahu Anhu when it says that he

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used to help or serve an old woman who was blind in a house in Medina.

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And whenever he goes to help her, he would find that her house and everything was ready. It was cleaned. Her clothes were clean, her food was ready. Her goat was melt and so on.

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And he would find that already and he would ask her, he asked her once who is it that comes in? How do you how do you do this? And she said, Well, I don't know another man. He comes here. I don't see him. I don't know him. I don't talk to him. He just does everything for me. And he goes so he went and investigated and found out he went and waited earlier before Fajr and he found that it was Abu Bakr, Radi Allahu anhu, who was coming

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early early in the night to help this one. And then he said, You have truly

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exhausted everyone who came after you Oh Abu Bakr. Now that statement is a true statement. Now brothers and sisters, I'm going to disappoint you by telling you that this story is very weak, there's no authenticity to it.

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Its chain of narration is very weak and it cannot be relied on. I wish it was true. But it's even a contradiction a bit of a look at the line would not enter upon a woman by herself in the middle of the night. Okay, this is haram you might say she's an old woman, even if she's an old woman. All right, yes, you can meet an old woman you can actually touch her hand you can put your hand on her even if she comes ahead once an old woman is 80 years old, she kissed me slug slug right here and there is like I'm her son or something. But an old woman's okay. And even if her hijab came off a little bit for an old woman in the Quran, it says this, it's okay. But you don't go in the middle of

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the night alone. Enter upon a woman's stay there for an hour or two, wash your clothes and do everything by yourself so many nights. That's not what the Companions used to do. They would seek permission they would get someone along with them, they would have their mammograms or something. But brothers sisters, the story itself, unfortunately, it is not authentic. But I do have another one.

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Once that was also Amara, the Alana was standing. And he realized that the people who were getting married

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young people who were getting married,

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a culture was developing.

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The culture that was developing was that people were making marriage harder and harder. How? By making the mother

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the dowry of the woman. The Sadat, I'll explain it in a minute. They started to make it higher and higher.

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When you go and ask for a woman's hand,

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her father

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or her family would say I want a higher murder for my daughter.

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So I'm gonna Dylon who he realized that people are gonna find it hard to seek the halal Avenue

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not gonna be able to get married because it's so expensive.

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Still poor people there. So he one day stood up

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and he said

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If the manhood of a woman, the dowry upon marriage,

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also called in the Quran Sadhak, which means a token of honesty, a token of honesty or a pledge of honesty, to the woman you want to marry. That's what it's called. Or you can also call it a bridal gift that denotes honesty.

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He said if it was meant to be

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a type of

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honoring her,

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by giving her by by requesting higher higher higher matters, and competing with it, then you are not

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a woman is not honored by monetary gifts.

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And then he said do not make it expensive.

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And if you think that it's Taqwa to Allah, if you think you're gonna get closer to Allah by making the Mahara even higher and higher, then it's not.

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Because if it was extra, of honoring, and if it was extra taqwa in Allah, the messenger SallAllahu Sallam himself would have beating beaten you to it. He would have put a higher Muhammad for his wives and his daughters. And then Homer said,

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There is no one more honest than the Prophet sallallahu sallam. There is no one more generous than the prophets. Allah Sullivan is no one who is more God conscious than the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and then he said he never gave to any of his wives or asked for any of his daughters. I met her more than 400 Durham's.

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400 Durham's.

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Today's value I'm not sure maybe,

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maybe, but maybe about $1,000 or something like that Australian or 2000.

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And then Amara, the Allahu Anhu. He said, putting the Mahara too high creates enmity between the spouses. The husband will one day say you cost me this much, it turns into a purchase price. It turns into a commodity like he's buying luxury as a product.

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That's what he said. He said and it can cause enmity between relatives.

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Now there is a story after that they say that a woman stood up and he said you're wrong.

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You can't limit Mahara to 400 Durham's

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because Allah says in the Quran

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what? What

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if you had given a pledge to your wife, a compound which is a common load of gold, of murder, then you must fulfill it.

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And the story goes the Amara. The Allahu Anhu then stepped down and said, everyone is more knowledgeable than Omar and Omar has made a mistake and the woman is right. Then he climbed back up and corrected himself and he said the woman is right I am wrong. I will not make a law anymore but only a suggestion.

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That part of that the woman negating or the law nor saying him the area is not not authentic. There is no authenticity to that statement. But the rest of it is and it's an honor the honor said it in different ways as well. The true story is that he just said

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I was about to make a law that limits the Mahara to 400. Durham's but then I remembered Allah's statement in the Quran. And if you want to marry a woman, if you want to divorce your wife and marry another wife, and you had already pledged to her a camel load of gold in my heart, then you must give it to her and do not take anything out of it. Would you take something that is not rightfully yours, out of oppression and out of transgression?

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What this verse means is that if you agree to a murder that is a lot $100,000 $200,000 And you agreed to it, amen. You must fulfill it. Unless your wife forgives you and says I don't want it and you're not allowed to even pressure her. You're not allowed to tell her what are you gonna do with them if you want to review them I had a little bit everything I've done for you have gone places of taking you out. We bought this house I did. Come on man. You're breaking my back. Change the MaHA to change it and then he starts to fight with it. This is haram.

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This is haram in fact, it reaches a state of major sin.

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And the prophets Allah wa sallam said, let me know in our industry,

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believers have to fulfill their contracts and their conditions.

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Now to talk a little bit about that matter. I'll tell you something. The mother of my dear brothers and sisters, is a rite of the bride stated

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In the Quran, what? To Nyssa. So Ducati in LA,

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give to the women that you marry there.

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Right that you had pledged in honesty at the time of your marriage contract.

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Nila Nila me means out of pure heartedness. And not in exchange for repayment. So you're giving it there's nothing in return.

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And it is agreed upon by you, the husband upon proposing

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the prospective other, the wife that you want to marry, and her father her wedding,

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you talk about it, she talks to her dad talks to her mother talks to her family, but we have the Father because women may be embarrassed to come up and talk to this fiance about money and what she wants. So in Islam, Allah has placed the next of kin to talk on her behalf in case she gets embarrassed. And we don't want to lower the standard of our sisters by talking about monetary value. She's above that. And it's all about the man's generosity. And he is the one to come and talk about it and offer from himself. So he talks with a father, he could talk with her, especially if she's been married before, she has more of a say and she's encouraged to speak up more, because she's now

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had experience with men and she can understand her own circumstances a bit better, she's more independent. Yeah. So Islam came not to degrade the woman but to honor her and to really look after her emotions and to look after her dignity and to look after her feelings and to look after her honor in every way.

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So then negotiate, and they come to an agreement that the husband or the prospective spouse within his capacity and ability. Now Islam strongly recommends and emphasizes to not make it too much to make it less everything in the Quran. Everything in hadith is about making things easy on Muslims on people. Yes, it'll weather to us it will make things easy, don't make them difficult. If we make the halal difficult guess what becomes easy, the Haram but if we make the halal easy, the Haram becomes difficult. In fact, people run away from marriage who can afford $100,000 or $50,000 to pay up front for a marriage. On top of that the wedding and the dress and the diamond rings and the jewelry. And

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the ups and downs in the honeymoon and the car and the Come on this is no one wants to get married anymore like that. So we need to make marriage easy. As much as we can. Fathers and mothers and brides don't get too hooked up with monetary value SubhanAllah.

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So what is this marker This marker is an evidence of the man's honesty to the wife that he will he is ready to spend and to work to provide her even if she is a millionaire. Even if she is a millionaire. It's not her duty. A woman is never responsible to spend any money on any member of her family. Not on her children. Not on her husband, not on her father, guys, it's killing me to say it but I have to say it because I'm a man. But this is what Islam says. She has other duties in return. Allah says Allah Hoonah Mr. Lady, Allah Hina Bill maruf any rights that are against them, they have rights that are for them, any rights for the husband that afford them, there are rights that are

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against them, each one has its balanced out. But men have one extra degree and that is they are they have a responsibility of accountability for the affairs, the protection and the affairs of their family. One of them has to be finally responsible and Islam has made the men responsible. The woman has to get pregnant the woman has to give birth the man doesn't do these things. So it's more rightful for the man to have the leadership role. Bill maruf Allah says Bill Maher off means within reason within goodness based on mercy based on compassion based on understanding based like that not based on

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chivalry or misogyny or what do you call it overpowering? No, no. Men are not better than women women not better than men. Evidence of his seriousness Are you serious about this marriage? Take something out of your pocket and give it you know brothers and sisters Islam understand the psychology of men and women have you ever been to an all you can eat restaurant?

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All you can eat never been? Why not?

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You go to an all you can eat restaurant.

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Now the jokes not going to work now. Anyone been?

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Okay, we've been alright, you got you get a gym that has. So you got Oh, you can rig restaurant with your wife. Okay, and you got your children.

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Let's say you went to your sister with your sister in law and her brother and your brother, everybody. Right? You all went there. Now look at the men and look at the women especially look at the men who have paid

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all right. Even if the woman paid. Check out the psychology when they go to all the beautiful food. The men don't care what it tastes like anymore. It can taste like rubbish. But they're gonna get the value of their money. They got it. They'll fill

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themselves until they get sick.

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But they've got to get the value of their money. What the women do mostly.

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I like that color.

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I like that taste. I'll give you a little taste of this. And I'll go and eat a little bit over here. She'll probably eat a little bit maybe worth $5 $10 So and she likes it. What about the money

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and she loves your wife and she love your daughter, your sister. That's how we think Subhanallah the man thinks monetarily a lot. Subhanallah and that's why in history, we learned that women were more generous in sadaqa actually, to be honest, I don't know if that's true. But I hear a lot from about the eyeshadow on asthma and all the women anyway. So men psychology is if you take from their money, it's hard. And Allah says to him, You gotta give that Mahara. If you are honest, it's an evidence of your honesty. Also, it's a gesture of valuing and honoring her. You buy a jewelry you buy a gift, with her agreement with her consent.

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And Islam did not place a specific value otherwise it becomes a purchase. Once you place a value on something, it means it's a sale.

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But it's not. It left it open for your culture, your customs, your communication, you talk about it within your ability with your mercy and your goodness. That's how it's done in sha Allah.

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My dear brothers sisters, if a person gets married and the contract is done, but they have not consummated the marriage, they haven't yet been alone together.

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And they decide to divorce to leave after the contract has been signed. We call it the kneecap contract or the cutback term or the Arkadin Quran, the KK

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and they leave each other half of the matter is due to the wife, half because they have not consummated the marriage. You're not consummated means. We've got little children here. But if they consummate the marriage, then the full mahute is do forever anytime. Unless she says no, I don't want it anymore. Allah says for Kulu honey and Maria, then you can consume and take it back. And don't worry so long as your wives have forgiven you and said they forgotten. My brothers and sisters is a long topic. I'll finish it with one more issue of one more thing about Omar and then his death. hombre de la no one saw a man and how they felt. How are they familiar man was the great companion

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the prophets of Allah Selim was called Cat hemosiderin Nabhi he was the one who the probably used to tell him secrets that he sets in these secrets right now you don't tell them Muslims yet, until after my death and so on. Among the secrets is to tell him his who Allah told him who were the hypocrites living among them. He told them I'll tell you and after my death so you guys can take care of it. While these hypocrites are here. I will protect you. But don't say about them because I don't want the people is to say I don't want the people to think that Mohamed Salah Salem kills his companions because the hypocrites were very inconspicuous. They everyone thought they were Muslims.

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And when if you're going to kill them, people going to think the Prophet kills his companions. So he left them alone. But how they familiar man was a very noble, amazing companion.

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At the time Rama are the Allahu Allah and Islam expanded, Muslims expanded, they met obviously people of different nationalities, different races and colors. And who they for comes along and he had married a Christian woman. I think she was from among the Romans The Byzantines, he married her.

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And, you know, in the Quran, Allah Subhana Allah allows

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us to men to allows us to men and women to eat from the slaughtered animal livestock of a Christian or a Jew, who was slaughtered it 100 kitab and also allowed the men in the Quran to marry from the women of the People of the Book

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that needs another lecture on its own. Why, however,

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cutting the story short, they differ but the Allah had married a Christian woman.

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And Amara will help offset to him. Yeah, who they refer

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to look her. Divorce her.

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He said why your Amira? Not many is that not in the Quran? Have I missed a verse as Allah made it haram is sincerely asking. He said no. It is Khaled. But yeah, how they if you are a role model,

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and people will follow you. Because you are a role model.

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And the women of the Byzantines

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because they don't dress like women.

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And they don't have boundaries like the way our women have. They're going to be more exposed to the public. Wi Fi hidden Alaba they will start to attract the men because they show themselves. When I say show themselves not like today, they still covered. They still covered bronzes, they covered their hair, but they showed their neck show bit of their arms. Sometimes they were tired sometimes their legs would show not like the Muslim woman knows times.

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And he said Muslim will be attracted to them and because of the idea and because you're a role model they'll start marrying them

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And I fear that they will forget about our women, the Muslim women, because they're not as exposed as them. The men will foolishly start going for them and forget about our women now women will not find suitable husbands or they will be forgotten.

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So divorced so yeah for the for so that this doesn't happen and how they've divorced her for the sake of Allah gave her her my head looked after her and obviously he treated her well and honored him.

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We learned from this brothers and sisters that

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Allah says,

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Allah says why Latin

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America they had you mean or

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may not own white room him or should he get you

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wet comb do not marry the mustard again the people who associate pounds with Allah, the polythene until they believe and the believing woman is much better for you than a disbelieving woman. Even if the disbelieving woman happens to attract you.

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These are talking about non Halal keytab and in general, a halal Kitab if they are looked at more than the believing woman. And Allah also says while at then you're holding more shrieky in a hat. You may know women also don't marry the polythene men until they believe or allow I

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mean on my main machine motioning King.

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Java com Allah says, and the believing man is far better for you than a disbelieving man, even if the disbelieving man is more attractive to you.

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Now, of course, when we talk about believers, not just any believers, you might say to me, Oh, come on, man. There's some believing men, they're just so toxic. Some believing women are so toxic. I agree with you. Not all Muslims are the same. What this is talking about is you study their character. You go and ask about them. And when you see that they are truly people who have the character of Islam, they are far better for you. There's more compatibility. You have less problems and when it comes to your religion to your social life. Obviously looking at compatibility with the personalities, that's another thing. Your children when you have them in sha Allah, even if you get

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divorced, a believing man or a believing one image you get divorced, and you start hating each other. Some people hate each other and start talking about each other. No matter what happens with sadness. Of course, you shouldn't be like that. But let's say that did happen, at least, at least, both parents will know to raise their children on Islam.

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Because most people when when they leave each other, they want to do the opposite. Everything that they did within the marriage, they want to do the opposite.

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Some kind of revenge of some sort that's twisted, but at least the children will learn to remain Muslim.

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And the believers they have more compatibility like you can marry a Christian. Christmas time comes, you're going to be compromised. What will you do with the family and your love and your compassion and all that stuff? How are you going to tell your children What are you going to do? You're going to have to cut corners.

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Easter time comes I know a brother I know many brothers and sisters who have come to me they want to marry someone who's non Muslim. And then they say they want to convert my question I said okay, if you want to convert let's give them time now they want to convert now and most of the times I sit with them and they say to me I want to convert because I love her because I love him so you don't convert to Islam out of love you don't do for someone they don't but you don't belong to them. They don't own you you don't change your life for them. He's not your God and she's not your god goddess.

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Right? We don't convert for people has to be sincere. I remember one brother Masha Allah He came, He was a non Muslim Christian. He wanted to marry a muslim woman. He came to me a long time ago, about 25 years ago was here in the masjid. And he said to me, I want to marry this woman. I said why? He said I want to become Muslim. I said why do you want to become a Muslim? So I don't jump like though you can come Muslim everybody let's check a party nanana let Why do you wanna become Muslim? He said because I want to marry this girl can I love her and he thinks that he's doing a great thing. I said no brother. That woman does not own you. You don't change your religion or you don't change your

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color or who you are just for a woman for example, or for a man they don't know when I was you, not even your parents. He says What should I do? I said you got to become Muslim so they forgot because you want to and then when you're like that, then your marriage will be more compatible you enjoy it even more.

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He said how do I learn I said go learn I gave him books. I started Wallahi Brothers Sisters us to remember I truly respect this brother two years he went Wallahi he did not talk to her didn't do anything until two years later. He came back to me said Now I'm ready.

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And he converted truly I've seen him now so Allah He used to drop off his children at our school where I teach and I've graduated from the Masha Allah

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and I've seen many like that the opposite also happens I remember one brother comes says I'm in love with this girl. She's Christian. I said Masha, Allah beautiful, you know, obviously I'm being a bit sarcastic here, but I shouldn't have

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However, I said, Brother, listen, my advice to you is look for a Muslim woman who's compatible with you. Because no matter what happens, even if you have children and she leaves you or you leave her, you know that she's gonna still look after him as Muslims. He didn't listen to me. One year, one and a half years later, he comes back from work here. I'm talking again, 25 years ago.

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I say, Brother, I came from work, she's not home anymore. We have a child, she took him I said, Why? Because I call her she's gone back to a parent, she Mr. old life. Okay, he goes, I should have listened to you. I said, the LEA.

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Try your best. What do you do? And the opposite is true as well. My brother and sisters, what I'm saying is this, there are people who are non Muslim of great character. And maybe there'll be good husbands or wives temporarily for the time being. But overall, it is far better for you. Because Allah says far better for you to marry someone who's more compatible with you in your faith, in your values, and in your compatible your personality.

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That's far better.

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I know of people who got married, and unfortunately, the wife, for example, stayed a Catholic. They wanted to convert they called me I went there. I said, Sister, you can stay a Catholic. She was really sad. Yeah. And her mother said, really? I said, yeah.

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So but I thought after conversion, you don't have to convert, you can marry him or still do the marriage. They said what a relief, looked at the brother and I said to him, See, she wasn't gonna become a true Muslim because you might as well stay like that. Done. Islam is not to be played with let us stay like that, marry her, hopefully Insha Allah, she'll learn if she doesn't convert Ali, she'll love Islam. Subhanallah they went and he baptized his children, he they went and did their marriage also at the church after they did it with us that they should be involved. But Hamdulillah I met them now and hamdulillah the sister, although she's not a Muslim yet, but she loves Islam,

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she's very close to its own handler sometimes good comes out of it, but afterward, and some of them just went kept on going and going and going Subhanallah so brothers sisters, what I'm saying is Insha Allah, try to think a little bit wider, and choose the right spouse, even if they're Muslims still don't rush to a just because they're Muslim. There are good Muslims and bad Muslims. You're going to do a bit of research. But my advice is, even if they're not Muslim, my advice to you there's the compatibility is going to be less and you're only going to stay at a certain limit. If you want to get more religious, there's going to be problems, you know.

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I don't know am I saying the right thing? Do you agree or kind of, I mean, you might have some other points against it. I accept that but just talking from my own personal experience, a lot of it although it is Helen still I've done many marriages for people who brothers who married the Christians did one for a Jew, some of them brothers converted, and Hamdulillah we hope inshallah they're going well.

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But anyway, that's all I wanted to say about that. I think there's a little bit of time for solid.

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I reached up to the point where I wanted to talk about the death of Almighty Allah on the next Khalifa. I will talk about his death and I'll leave the election of the Khalifa wolfman to next week.

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Amara, the Allahu Anhu. This hadith is in Buhari,

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this man who they refer, he said to him,

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who has memorized a Hadith from the Prophet and who they first said it the Rasul Allah, I did yeah, I mean, he said, Tell me,

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said, he said a hadith to him. And then he said, No, no, give me a hadith about the signs of the last hour.

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A Hadith that talks about the waves that come to us of fitna one by one he said to him, yeah, I made many in one of the signs of the last hour, and if and that will cause the fitness to come like waves till the end of time. Oh my god. You don't have to worry about it because there is a door between you and it. metaphorical door. And then Omar said to him, Tell me, did the Prophet peace be upon him say that this door will open

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for the fitna? Or did he say the door will be

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broken and the fitna will come. And he said to him, No, he said, it will be broken and fitness will come till the end of time. Then Omar said, if he's the Prophet, as I've said, the door will be broken it means it will never close again. Meaning the fitna between the Muslim man the world will continue like waves it'll go and come go and come go and come until the last hour.

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The next day they said Do you know who that man is and and how they first said and Omar said it is Omar, Omar is the door. If he dies, the door is broken. And so the fitness began after him.

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From the death of Ramadan onwards, the fitness the mischiefs the calamities began, and the fights and the turmoils there was a person's Persian

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slavery and

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the Megan are the major there was a fire worshiper from Persia. And he had a master

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in Medina who was a Muslim. And this made an absolute lawyer. He, there was a rule that anyone who did trade, they had to pay

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a minimum tax, the minimum tax was I think it was half a 10th. Very small amount and point zero 5% of your profits. And the masters of the slave had to collect it from the masters and give it to the Muslim government. So a lawyer and he came up to Omar and complained that his master is taking too much tax from he should take even less than that. He said, Do you have a trade? Do you have skill? Because yeah, I'm a painter. I'm a builder. I'm a carpenter and all that stuff. He said, Well, I don't think there's any problems where you can pay the full tax, not a problem. And I will look ahead at him for him. He said to him, I'm going to show you

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he threatened him, and Omar walked away, just smiling and laughing and said, Look,

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now I've got him threatening me.

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After a few days, that man he poisoned the dagger overnight and an infinite prayer. I will look at I was praying with the people. Obviously he's not a Muslim, and then ensued. He got up and slowly went to a middle minion while he was in Suzhou. And he stabbed him several steps over six or seven steps into his stomach, and then he ripped his stomach out till his intestines fell out. And then went unconscious and fell to the ground, and then absolutely killed himself. The Muslims got up noticing that a minimal minion had not gotten out of his suit. They raised him and his son Abdullah, his name is Abdullah raised him he tried to put his intestines and everything back in but they kept dropping

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out the hole was too big Subhanallah so they carried him to his house and laid him there and got a doctor while maybe moaning was still unconscious. The doctor looks at the wounds in the poison. He says he's traveled through his blood. You have to fear Well, him. He's got a day or two to survive. He's gonna die.

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So his children, everybody came and gathered around Ameerul Momineen. And then Amara, the Allahu Anhu woke up.

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And the first thing he said, was a Salah nurse. Did the people finish their prayer?

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And they said, Yes, yeah, immediately they finished their solid. He said, Alhamdulillah he doesn't want to be responsible for the muscles not finishing the affairs of solid. Then he said, Who is it that stared me. They said Abu. Al module. See, he said, I knew he had it in for me. Since that day, when I told him the truth. He said, But Alhamdulillah that it was someone who is not Muslim. Because on the Day of Judgment, I won't feel bad that I have to stand before Allah in the court of Allah and complain about a Muslim instead of a non Muslim at least I won't feel that bad on that day, because he's already chosen not to believe in God.

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And then, Amara, the Allahu Anhu gathered his companions. And he said to them, Listen, I know now, I've seen he saw the Prophet sallallahu Sallam while he was unconscious in his dreams. And he saw a prophet

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and the prophet peace be upon him told him, you will break your fast with us. Yeah, Omar. So Omar everyday stayed fasting. And he said to his son, Abdullah, I'm going to go now I'm about to die. So I'm going to remain fasting. Because I'm going to meet the Prophet sallallahu Sallam fasting, we're going to break our fast together,

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he gathered his companions. And he said to them, I cannot leave this world without first of all, laying the foundation and the plan for you to elect a Khalifa after me. I cannot leave this world. While the people without a Khalifa, the first thing they said to him is Amira minion, you just choose who the Khalifa will be, and we will all follow. And then Omar said to them, Oh, no.

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Oh, no. enough for me to be judged for the people in while I'm living. You want me also to hold the responsibility of the people after I have died? I don't want that responsibility. You do a short. You go. And you talk among each other. And you decide collectively, then I said to him, how about your son Abdullah? He said, Oh, no.

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It's enough for one member of Al Shabaab family to be questioned on the Day of Judgment, Stan before Allah then having two members. That's enough, don't bring my son into it. Let you know, look at the opposite. And he was aware not to turn it into a monarchy. You know, like a king giving it to his family.

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Then my dear brothers and sisters, I will talk insha Allah next week about the precise plan he laid out for them because it's a beautiful plan and a long plan. But I'll talk about how he passed away now in sha Allah and leave that till next week and follow up with Fernando the Allahu Anhu story.

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He went to his son Abdullah sorry his son Abdullah came to him and Lady

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his father's head on his lap. Abdullah his son laid his father's head on his lap.

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And he's just sort of stroking his hair and father and making a diet for him then, oh my god, the Allahu Anhu teared up.

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And he said, My son

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placed my cheek on the floor.

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Take it off your lap, said why? He has placed it on the floor.

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Humble before Allah, Allah created me from the soil and I belong to the soil, place it on the floor. He said but you are a married woman. He goes no, today I am not anymore.

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Today I am not only to earn more money in my role has finished. I am now turning to Allah subhanaw taala. But Abdullah, I want you to go to eyeshadow, the Allah Allah

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and ask her permission if I can be buried in her spot next to her father and Rasul Allah.

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So he went to Asia and said, Amina asks you if he can he said and don't say, I mean, say Omar Omar asks, you use my name, said Omar asks you permission to be buried in the slot that you've preserved so that you can you can say he can be buried in it. And she said, if it was anyone else who asked me I would have said no, but for Omar, I allow him. He came back as soon as he gave she gave you permission yet a minute or minute. He said, please go back again. Tomorrow and ask her again in case she was embarrassed to give her time to think about it. I want it to be from her heart. He went the next day and she still approved. And that night, it was Thursday. And Amara, the Allahu Anhu was 63

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years old.

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And when Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu passed away, he was also 63 years old. And when Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed away, he was also 63 years old Subhan Allah, except that Rasul Salah Salem passed away on a Monday, Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu passed away on a Monday. Oh my god, Alana passed away on a Thursday night, which is called the night of the Friday and he returned back to Allah subhanho wa taala. Today on what are the aligner is buried. If you go to Medina, you will see as you're passing, you'll see three, three small holes that you can look through. It can't see their grave, it's been covered. And it's a long story to it. Perhaps the law sometimes gravest

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first, it's a little bit forward. And then there is Abu Bakr the Alana a little bit further away on on the side of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. In the length of his shoulders over his head is where the shoulders the personal SLM is. And then Omar is a little bit further out at the shoulders of Abu Bakr the aloneness at the waste of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam so that's how the otter was and that was the backyard the orchard backyard of the prophets, Allah salams house which was also it should have the other one has house that was connected to the masjid. My dear brothers and sisters this is the story of Omar the Allahu Anhu. In sha Allah next week, we will talk about how

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the next Khalifa was elected and what bequest and plan that Omar the Alana had laid in place to show you his true honesty and trustworthiness when it came to the leadership and responsibility of the OMA. How there was some a lot one of you know, Mohammed while early he was happy

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