Bilal Assad – Signs That Allah Loves You with QA

Bilal Assad
AI: Summary © The importance of Islam's love and pride in shaping one's behavior is emphasized, including the use of Islam as a means of achieving spiritual health and achieving spiritual health as a means of achieving spiritual health. The speakers stress the importance of learning from past experiences and using them to improve one's life, as it can lead to sadness and depression. The negative impact of divorce on women, including the need for privacy measures and the importance of staying in touch with behavior, is also emphasized. The segment ends with an invitation to join a regular speaker at PGCC.
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a special to you that you share with Allah subhanaw taala no one else like the way

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and they are

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righteous dreams, righteous dreams from Allah.

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Sometimes when

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I hear this because I'm a teacher as well. And these teenagers come to me every year at the same United's.

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I'm stuck with the United guys every year. It's that critical age. And it's like they never changed, but I forget that they've moved on. So I get the same ones over and over again, teenager the same. And one of the things they always tell me, I hear this a lot, sir. I never used to see so many dreams. Now I see too many dreams. Some of them say I don't see anything. But a lot of them say I see the Day of Judgment. I see this. And I see that Subhanallah says if when you hit puberty, the shaitan comes to want to destroy, you know your pathway make you feel like something's wrong with you, then Allah brings you dreams as well. To help you could be guided a warning, or a guide or

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something good.

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To give you maybe a sign that you are going good.

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You remember those dreams? We've had those nice dreams.

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I haven't had some in in a while. Maybe maybe three days ago was a nice dream. But one time before that.

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I just wish those dreams would come they make you feel something special, don't they?

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Anyway, imagine you went to your dreams and went back to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and you're looking for him? Where do you think you'll find him?

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Where do we find him? What do you think? was the first place to look? Let's say you don't know how he looks like you?

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Will looks like you don't know where it is. You've never been to Mecca or Medina. How do you know? But you went back 1400 years ago and the first thing you think about? I saw Allah Where is he? Where do you go without asking anyone? Anyone want to guess?

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The Masjid? No.

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Not the carbon.

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I sent well done

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with the poor people.

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That's what the Sahaba used to say.

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If we ever looked for a solas as alum outside of solid time because you know, a Muslim doesn't have doesn't stay in the masjid all the time. That's not a productive Muslim to stay in the masjid all the time.

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Rasulillah Salam, Salam Salam if you had nothing else to do at home or his other duties, he was at the masjid. But we will find him with the poor people. And he used to say I love the poor people the most and the most people of Jannah are the people who used to be poor here. Something secret about them, Allahu Allah. And not everybody can handle being poor.

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Have you ever heard someone say making that statement? Nobody, not many people can handle being wealthy. I said not many people can handle being poor. Like you think you think you deserve to be poor? It's like that. Poverty now seems a blessing. But only for some people. Well, maybe we'll call her in La Nina Sabado. Allah says, No one receive it Jana except those who are absolutely patient, when they will not call high level huddling them those who enjoy great fortune. When you go solo Salah Salem used to look for the poor people and used to be sitting sitting amongst them. So let's look at the mentality today. If Allah loves you, He makes you rich with money. Here is the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam praising the poor people who are righteous Of course, if Allah subhanho wa taala.

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Loved people based on the blessings He gives them. Then why

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam himself was not wealthy. He didn't even like it.

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The other way around as well. If Allah loves only the poor people of wealth, why would he give that word Suleiman and use of Allah he was salam among the greatest kingdom on earth.

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If Allah subhanho wa Taala does not love Allah if Allah subhanaw taala loved you only when you see someone healthy.

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Then why did he make Prophet au Ballet has said I'm so sick for so many years.

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Even some people used to say, Look at this man, are you

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if he hadn't done something terribly wrong, Allah would not put him through this hardship. Is that correct? And people moved away from him. They isolated him, because they didn't want to get jinxed by him. They thought he was a non righteous man evil man. We don't want to get this in a myriad into our family.

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Some people live long. Allah must love them. Some people live short. What have they done?

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If Allah Subhana Allah Allah is love for a person is a sign that you live long

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that Allah

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SubhanaHu wata Allah would not allow for around to be in His Kingdom and sit live long. In fact, he preserved his body so that no one could ever forget him.

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If Allah subhanho wa Taala did not like a person B, if Allah subhanaw taala took someone's life early, which meant that he doesn't love him, he wouldn't take the prophets of Allah and so lambs child, of course, somebody brought him at the age of two years old.

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So my brothers and sisters Love of Allah is not based on the amount of blessings you have in this world or the lack of it has nothing to do with that.

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Have you ever heard of happiness and contentment,

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the difference between happiness and contentment is that happiness is temporary. Contentment is forever. And contentment in Arabic is called Carnera.

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Karna to be satisfied and content with whatever you have, it doesn't matter what state the Muslim is, the moment is,

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you have contentment. You don't forget Allah subhana wa Tada. If you are in prison, you look at it as a seclusion between you want to Allah. If you're out in the open, you see that Allah has given you a duty you have to give you have to do. If you have wealth, it means that Allah Subhana Allah has given you responsibility to use that wealth in some good way. If you don't have wealth, it means Allah Subhana Allah is testing you with poverty, and you're going to learn from it for others, because the biggest people who really are the most humble, you'll find the homeless people, you give them they give, for some reason.

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If Allah subhanaw taala gives you children and muses testing with your children somehow, or he is honoring you with the children, but it's a responsibility. He gets you married, it's your responsibility. But comes all the blessings come with it. If he keeps you single, again, it's a responsibility, whatever it may be. Allah subhanaw taala is giving you tests and responsibilities and with it, you will arise awful, it's up to you. But here's the thing, Allah will not bear you more than what you can bear law you can leave Allah when Epson Illa Allah, Allah will not burden a soul with more than what they can bear. This is a promise from Allah subhanho wa Taala that how come

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some people say I can't bear it anymore. Brothers and sisters, this is you making that decision. What Allah He This is us making that decision.

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There are so many YouTube clips from non Muslims who have learned from us from the past, how to motivate people to move forward and not give up.

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But Allah sent the message is Allah Azza to teach us that from the beginning.

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Jacoba alayhi salam said to his his children, who tried to kill his own son Yusuf after many years, he said to them, let they assume in Rohingya do not give up from the Mercy of Allah don't despair from the mercy of Allah subhanho wa taala.

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In Rohilla, Hillel common caphyon The only ones who give up on Allah's mercy,

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others disbelievers in Allah, because they don't trust Allah's mercy. Those are the people who say, What have I ever done forgot to do this to me? What have I ever done so God doesn't give me and gives the other person. These are people who deny Allah's favours and blessings. These are the ones who despair from his mercy, because they don't have any trust in His mercy subpoena. And he said to himself, don't and look what Allah gave them. Look what he gave us of Allah, etcetera. And what Yusuf alayhi salam said in the end, after all the dungeon, all the prison, all the hardship, what did he say, on his throne? Rob, be my Lord, You are the one who gave me this kingdom. And you are

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the one who taught me the knowledge that I know.

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Oh Allah, I asked you only to make me die as a muslim, and make me join with the righteous

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while Hackney beside him, you know, Al hit me in Arabic means someone's ahead of you. And you're running up to them. You're chasing them. You're in the backroom.

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Yusuf alayhi salam, the Prophet of Allah

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says, Oh Allah, even in the background,

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I'm happy with that. Let me follow the righteous, this is a form of humbleness.

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That if you think that you are such a righteous person, and you boast about that, then these are the people who actually forget Allah Spano died. Because when you think of yourself too good, you fail. When you think of yourself too low. You'll never rise.

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But stay somewhere in the middle.

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My Brothers and Sisters in Islam. So what are the signs of Allah's love for you?

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And what are the signs in you, that you love him?

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The first

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is that you

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are voluntary follower, meaning no one's forcing you. You are a voluntary follower of the message of the messenger Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam. Allah says

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Isn't the Quran calling in

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to hip bone along Debian oni or Habiba como Allah? Your Habiba como la jolla, la comme dono back home? Allah says, say,

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if you love Allah, then follow me follow Mohamed Salah Salem and Allah will love you in return. Following the Promise of Allah it was salam, Allah who loves you. Now following the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is *

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is it just in in the white soap, my beard in the miswak in the hat

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in the dry with my hands are asleep on my right now,

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it debarred Rasulillah Salam is what he said in the following Hadith you want to know,

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after the worship, we all know the worship and the Sunnah of worship he said, at a drone, I'm an anti Muslim. He said those companies do you know what a Muslim is?

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So the Allahu wa rasuluh Allah, Allah and His Messenger know best he said, Al Muslim woman Salim Ali Cerner home and Salim our nurse who mainly Sunni he was

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a Muslim is someone whom the people are safeguarded from his or her tongue and his hands.

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Then he said at the drone ml movement Do you know what the movement is bit higher than the Muslim believer?

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They said Allah his Messenger know best who said a minnow min Amina, who nurse who Allah I am worthy him were unforeseen.

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And what many somebody when people feel safe

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with their wealth, and they honor and self with them, they can trust them with their wealth and their honor.

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You do business with them, they're not going to cheat you. They're not going to lie to you. They're not going to deny

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themselves, their family, their children, their bodies, their honor. You went back bite them. You weren't gossip about them. You won't tell about their secrets, you won't harm them. When you get angry, you won't hit them, you won't abuse them.

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Sometimes you look at people and you find them like that, don't you? You think Subhanallah you know what?

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I will never deal in business except with that person. And sometimes people tell you, if you ever want to deal in business with anyone go to that person

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who heard that that person and it's like people don't really know them but they hear all this good about them right? And everybody starts to point to that person. No, my dear brothers and sisters, if you are like that, then Allah Subhana Allah has placed your acceptance in earth. He has made you a trustworthy person whom the angels love. Why? Because people can trust you with their bodies, their honor and their wealth.

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Then he said, Well Musa hit and the one who does jihad and lead the Asia had enough several other part for Utah Atilla, he or she is the one who strives against themselves in continuing to worship Allah and obey him as much as they can.

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What Maharaja and he who migrates really, man has yet to see a man Hazara. Alaba winmau See what the Nope. The one who truly migrates is the one who migrates from their sins and their mistakes meaning, not all sins, the major sins, you have a bad habit of sin, and finally, you're able to migrate from and never return to it. As for minor sins, my dear brothers and sisters, Allah subhanaw taala forgives them so long as you continue to do your acts of worship. Any tiny little good deed that you do without taking it for granted. Is a sadhaka even more upset, yeah rasool Allah. He said, If I say La Ilaha illa Allah, is that a good deed? He said, among the best deeds Yamaha to say that, you

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know, wipes away your little sins. One man said, Yeah, rasool Allah.

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I touched a woman.

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He said, I touched

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homcom Allah

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that's a legacy that one a sha Allah.

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Allah, my brothers sisters, I'm sorry, I embarrassed him.

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And so rasool Allah, as I said, let me say to him, you touched a woman.

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He said, What do you mean, you touched a woman

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said, I touched him. Says, did you do Xena says no. It says, Did you do the stuff that husband wanted? He goes, No, I didn't do that. So it just touched him and hugged her. He said, Pray your Salaat do your good deeds and wipe it away.

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Now I can hear the young people using this as an excuse. I can hear you're saying it just by thinking I can hear it.

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Does that mean that I can do what I'm just praying it's all gone? Obviously not. You can't

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TriC Allah subhanaw taala Rasool allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is telling this young man who has this energy and hormones is telling him go to do good acts, because good acts, what they do is they are rehabilitation. They clean you, and they clean your mentality and they make you feel embarrassed. Because when you become better, and you remember Allah, you are more likely to not return to that sin and to feel ashamed of it. But if you don't follow up a good deed, then there's no rehab.

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We've all told our children these things that we get off the phone, get off the PlayStation, get off the game. Words that work with kids. They just love for you get off. Yeah, all right. You gotta seriously put restrictions and replace it with something else that gives them the same or similar rewards something else that they enjoy.

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My Brothers and Sisters in Islam, therefore, whoever follows the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah loves them by a second one.

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The ones who are humble and easy with their brothers and sisters in Islam.

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Allah Subhan Allah

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if you do not, if you do not strive and struggle in the Cause of Allah, Allah will exchange you with another people whom He loves them, they love him. And then he describes them as the Latin Allah meaning they are humble with their brothers and sisters, I certain Isetan Allah, Allah, Catherine, and those who are enemies of Islam, they are honorable against them.

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They don't they're not they don't put their heads down to them that they're aware.

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But with the believers, they are humble.

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Now, some brothers and sisters that I've heard of, not everyone, not everyone shall are not here. I've seen it happen before. When the dunya creeps into our hearts and the love of Allah subhanaw taala is kind of their only lip service not really in your heart. I come to you and I say Brother, how much do you want for the car?

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You say well, a brother $10,000

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So what are you talking about? I saw it for 9000 Over there. Just tell us brother take it for 9000 Then I say to you give me a better a better deal than 9000 How about 8000 He says brother I can't this is it. And then I say to you, Brother You gotta love for your brother we love for yourself.

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I start blackmailing you with the Hadith?

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I use the deen to blackmail my brothers and sisters. This is the opposite of humbleness. Subhanallah that Sahabi I think it was Musa Sharia, Allahu Allah. I'm not don't hold me to it. He went to buy a camel. Okay, back 1400 years ago.

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He went to buy a camel from another companion from Muslim and woman says how much do you want for the camel?

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He says give me

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five dinars.

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He looks around at the camel.

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He says

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no. He says less. Because I think it deserves more than that. I'll give you six

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he says take it for six. He gets just a second. Looking at it. Obviously when you're going to buy a car you have to look around and check his checking account a little bit more.

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This is no no I think I think it needs seven seven dinners. We accept seven in why not?

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And the Sahaba kept going around the camel more and when the more he saw this camel, or was it a horse? The point is he saw that it was worth much more than five double its amount. He says I'll give you 10 dinars for it.

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He says you've given me double says yes.

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For I heard the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say

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you will not receive pide until the love for your brother what you love for yourself if I was selling this horse or this camel

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if I was selling it

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I will know that it's worth much more than that

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and I would want more

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so I'm giving you more

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hamburgers saw today his buying man oh gosh you know man oh she's any Lebanese people manage

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Arabs Egyptians Yom disarmament ocean.

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Feldman oh

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god yeah, like that the dough

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is mine man OCE for tomorrow on eight. buying lots of Manos. The brother loves him. I could tell he likes him for one reason, because the other brother is religious journey. The word religious not the right word, but we can say a man who loves Allah. And he loves that he loves Allah.

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The man who is selling him said, for example, $200 what Allah has taken for 150 the other brother looks at him and says Wallahi I'm giving you 200

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I'm going to give you more snow you could give me less you take more Wallah I just want less wala hunger.

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It's very rare to see people arguing

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the opposite of everyone else.

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Also Allahu alayhi wa sallam he said

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But Al Islam of urban Islam began Strange was a outdo urban camp. And Islam will come back strange the same way it started for Toba and in Harada glad tidings to those who are strangers. This is one of the meanings of strange

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who does that these days they'll call you crazy. But no no, no, you have a feel you have something inside of you richness that no one else has. Who else does Allah subhanaw taala love

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Allah subhanahu wata, Allah loves

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the one

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who finds himself or herself attached to the places and the people

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whom Allah loves.

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You feel comfortable when you're at the masjid.

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You feel comfortable with the people of the Masjid.

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You see someone who looks at person a woman or a man of Deen

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you feel comfortable you feel at peace.

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You feel comfortable when the Quran is is recited.

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You feel comfortable when somebody reminds you of something that Allah loves you like it, you actually love it.

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This is a type of person who has a sign of Allah subhanaw taala as love to them.

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My Brothers and Sisters in Islam, listen to this beautiful Hadith. I've said it before, but it's amazing and really stoked to this point.

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in Bukhari Sahih Bukhari Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, that Allah subhanho wa Taala said,

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Man, Lee when he

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takes one of my righteous worshipers as an enemy,

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you are bad to them.

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Forgot to Bill herb. I lost my saying, I have declared war against that person.

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So be careful. My dear brothers and sisters, we don't know who is the righteous person of Allah

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is not necessarily a famous person.

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Not necessarily a person anyone knows. Not necessarily a person that you see all the time in the masjid. Not necessarily. You might see them might they might go to other messages. Maybe your sister, she doesn't go to the masjid at all. I don't know. Maybe she goes, sometimes she goes at night. But these are people who are inconspicuous, you don't actually know. They're not out there to show off.

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And sometimes some people who are popular and famous, they're also people of Allah. But what I'm saying to you is that you don't We don't really know who they are.

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Not not clearly

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could be you could be me, malice pantalla make us all among them. So ever is an enemy to one of these righteous people. I have declared war against them. So be very careful my brand sisters, then Allah Subhana Allah says, and there is nothing that my worship comes closer to me more beloved to me. The thing that I love the most, that he comes closer to me with

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than the things which I have made compulsory upon him or her.

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See this photo is that we pray. The fact that Allah subhanho wa Taala made and said there's a punishment if you don't do them anymore. Like the five daily prayers for example, the five pillars of Islam. Why did Allah make them felt he made them first because he loves them the most.

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He refuses

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to make something he loved the most as an option.

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Because he wants you to come closer to him.

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Sometimes my father says, You have to call me every single day at this time, they'd be happy I've got this. I'm not accepting any excuse. You have to call us always at this time. Why?

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Because your parent loves you.

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is teaching you how to respect your father and mother to connect with them because if you don't, you're gonna be unhappy. If you don't connect your family ties are an unhappy person. So unless of course there are exceptions.

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So then he said

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and my worshiper keeps coming closer to me with what so you come closer to Allah with the fork press. And then some people keep getting even closer after the photo press with what

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with voluntary acts be no effing. So Sunnah prayers are voluntary acts, fasting voluntary days of Ramadan is what is no effing. Right doing hombre is another fella. Doing sadaqa is enough you know anything that you're not asked to do?

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You don't have to do it you do it. Walla Walla Hill Alvine even

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directing someone last on the street how to get to the shops or how to get to somewhere is a southern Muslim or non Muslim.

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That's the Hadith the Prophet sallallahu wasallam

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giving water to a bird is sadaqa

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avoiding walking near

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a colony of ants that you see in the park you avoid it. Like you want to light up a barbecue you see a colony of ants you got let's not do it here. Let's do it over there is a sadhaka Can you imagine an angel coming down to give you a house an ad just for choosing to move away from a colony of ants? obeys. Something so insignificant anyone can do it. Subhan Allah

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bless she likes it. Smiling to your brother's face a sister smiling to her sister's face.

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A husband and wife looking at each other. Brothers Sisters, I didn't even say smile to each other, but good in a good look. Just the husband looking at his wife and the wife looking at her husband. This is what the Prophet sallallahu sallam said either no horizontal Eliza was at one over at the Xhosa to Eliza if the husband looks at his wife and the wife looks at her husband, nothing Allahu Allah

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Allah looks at both of them with the look of mercy

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is it hard to get to Jana now that we think of it

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you grabbed the vacuum cleaner

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and you vacuum your room or the lounge you didn't do a good job with it. How old are you? Seven year old What's your name?

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Was a que la la you know the cremains?

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Um, without good is the one who reminds others of Allah. May Allah bless your parents were naming you that name. My Brothers and Sisters in Islam, well, that grabs the vacuum. It doesn't have to use a verb and starts vacuuming.

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He gets rewards and his parents get rewards. He's helping his parents but parents also get rewards for raising

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you as an adult.

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You do the same thing you get rewards Subhanallah and it's countless

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directing someone to the tap to make although your reward is there

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a person who can't see something wants to read it well like it's in the Hadith literally says a person can't see well and you read something for them.

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Your grandfather, your neighbor, a person on the street waiting at the bus stop someone says can you help me read this

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he's a sadhaka

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so my worship I keeps coming closer to me with these little voluntary acts.

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I love him in a special way.

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Now Allah subhanaw taala has two types of love, the love that is for everyone.

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And the special love that is only for specific people.

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The love that He has for everyone is that he loves for them to be guided and not go to hellfire

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and to come closer to him so he brings to them signs well like even the the non Muslim He brings them signs all the time.

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Everybody and then there's a special love those are the ones who deserve it like this. Then Allah says fee that I have up to as soon as I love him a special love going to someone who led the yes my OB I become his hearing which he is with what about Sora who led the episode OB and his eyesight which he sees with wire the hula the apple shall be her and his hand which he uses. What is that will let the MCB and his legs which he walks with? Were inside Eleni.

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And if you asked me I will give him water in Easter Island.

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And if he saw protection from me, I will protect him one to one to unshare him and I have never hesitated to do anything Allah is saying and I have never hesitated to do anything more than I have hesitated to do this and that is to take the soul of my worship and when he comes to die because he hates it and I hate to hurt him

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your crown

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chakra home masa dough,

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he hates to die.

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And I hate to hurt him.

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But our whole body

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those who love Allah

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Allah uses them

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and employs them

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for good work on earth.

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You know

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some people call you

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at the most awkward times

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and I need your help

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and you answer them.

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You feel awkward.

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You know that

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Allah has sent them to

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Allah has chosen you.

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You know, when you're tired,

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and you got to do an act of goodness.

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Allah has chosen the fact that you have the ability to do that. Allah has chosen.

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Listen to the Hadith Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, either a habila who have done Islam Allah. If Allah loves a servant, a person, a worshiper, he uses him or her.

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He uses them.

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One time this brother he said to me, brother, I was at the masjid.

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I'd only been going to the masjid for about a week.

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And I only went there because there was some people I was meeting

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for marriage.

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Now, he used to go to another Masjid but that particular masjid they used to meet there

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is one day this woman walks in, she's pregnant.

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And she needs help.

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Her husband walks in you could tell

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he's had problems.

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This brothers there

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and they couldn't find the people of the masjid the administration and management and they said we need just to buy very simple furniture at least a bit. Because I'm pregnant. I just need a place to sleep. I need a bit in my hand. We've got nothing we've got a fridge we haven't got food. We haven't got bed nothing.

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This brother

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and his future father in law

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and his future wife.

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I did their marriage. About a week later.

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They went to the closest furniture shop

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and bought for them a mattress. Some blankets in Manchester. So we call it Manchester but we call it yeah Manchester

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and a bed

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and some groceries

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and came back. They went to their house.

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unloaded it

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and left

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this couple is blessed till today Michelle

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and the other couple Allahu Allah what happened to them.

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But this was a sign for me when I looked at it Wallahi sadaqa rasool Allah Azza wa sallam, he is so truthful. If Allah loves someone,

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he will use them. He will send those people to you. When you least expect it.

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You are special.

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And Mark my words any good you do to others. It'll come back, double, triple or quadruple false, in ways you least expected.

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Allah said well, Maya tequila Ayesha Allahu Maharaja, whoever feels Allah and avoids doing something that is wrong. Allah will open a door for them from places they least expected.

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My Brothers and Sisters in Islam

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Rasool allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us also that one of the signs of Allah's love is this. Are you ready for it? I'm almost done. But this is probably the hardest one to handle.

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The more hardships you go through.

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And the more patient you are.

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The more is it is a sign that Allah loves you.

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Man, that makes no sense. Makes no sense.

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It doesn't make sense to us as humans, because we've been conditioned to think that way.

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It's negative. Allah says why Santa crochet. You might have something when it's actually good for you. And you might love something when it's bad for you.

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But also Allah Azza wa sallam said, in either Malaysia

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the amount of deeds, the glory, the the the the, the gratification of deeds, depends on how great the hardship that you're going through is

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when Allah azza wa jal lay their head back home and if if Allah subhanaw taala loves the people, he will give them hardships of some sort from another year. Whoever accepts it, that He is pleased with Allah subhanho wa taala. Further hereto Allah will be pleased with them while en Sahaba and whoever turns away and loses themselves and loses the connection with Allah Subhana Allah completely. Allah also turns away from them. So my brothers and sisters, the ones who go through heart

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hips and a patient patient means you don't do nothing. You don't do anything about it, you do something about it. But what do you do? You don't abandon Allah subhanaw taala you don't say what's happening to me. I'm gonna give up. This is what prophesized Salim said, he said a person keeps calling out to Allah subhanho wa taala. And then he said do not give up

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and insist

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for a person maybe calling to Allah and then suddenly they give up on their DUA and ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala then gives up on them they turn away from Allah Allah Samantha whatever was about to be giving them remember my brothers and sisters when Allah Samantha doesn't give you something maybe it's not good for you right now. Maybe what's happening to you know something for the future. We hear all these celebrities they talk about it they give these motivational speeches I mean, really the simple to almost them we hear them every day. And they say I hit rock bottom before I can go back up and this wall I had to put my back towards so only in front of me man.

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And then everybody goes comes Miss motivational speech.

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We hear 10 times more motivational than that mashallah coming from above seven heavens.

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Yet these people are seeing it. We should see to

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Allah Subhana Allah never leaves anyone out what either so Allah chi by the money

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for any career. And if my scholarship has asked you about me, I'm close. I'm close. I'm always close.

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Zachary Alehissalaam 1am. I can be a Kirby Shukla. Yeah. Oh my Lord, I've never been with my dua to you unblessed nor left alone.

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also said

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that if Allah subhanaw taala loves the servant.

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That means that worshiper will be loved by the angels.

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And it'll be loved by everyone else on Earth. If Allah loves someone, he tells you breed, I love certain person so loved him, so it's up to them loves him, then he tells the angels, Allah loves so and so. So love him all the angels start to love him. You know how many angels there are. Don't worry about it. You will never know how many stars there are.

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More than the grains of sand on Earth scientifically proven.

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And I have a science background.

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Doesn't mean I know everything. I don't know astronomy. I just read that somewhere.

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There are more stars in the heavens, than the grains of sand on Earth. And there are more angels and all the stars. And also Allah Azza wa sallam tells us the long Hadith that there is a battle Mahmoud acaba up there.

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Ever since he was created 70,000 Angels enter it and leave they make tau f and they leave and they never returned to it and it's never empty. 70,000 up to 70,000 How many other

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my brother and sisters they love this person and then their acceptance is on earth Wallahi even an enemy looks at you and can't help but respect you. They'll fight you they'll kill you and they'll say

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that was a worthy fight that was respectful person. And I'll say good things about I've seen it historians write this all the time. They write about salah Deena up for example, how many enemies so he's a loving man He's respectful man. Right? Allah, Allah puts the love even of your enemy towards you.

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And lastly, and this is the best I think for me, because I see young people here

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the prophets profitable Ohio USA LEM told us a shot

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a shed the youth

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boy girl

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the one who is always seeking Allah's forgiveness. I'm sorry, Allah, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Again, I'm sorry again, Oh Allah, forgive me again. Forgive me again. And how many times we have to ask ALLAH forgive me, I'll just keep going, Oh, Allah forgive me. And I said, I'm not going to do that again. But here I am. Oh, Allah forgive me.

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See that person.

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With us. Humans may even have as a parent, my son, or my daughter keeps doing that. A friend keeps doing that over and over again.

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What's my reaction going to be?

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was their reaction.

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Right? Oh, my God. You keep doing that all the time. You don't deserve anything. You're a beep we say all the words under the sun. But Allah subhanho wa Taala

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he says the one who does that is my beloved.

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Obviously it's a sincere person. But you know young people that have a lot of hormones, and I keep forgetting in a condom. They got to influence sometimes, but Allah Samantha doesn't want to lose them. He says come back. At that it means doba means doba. Who knows what doba means? What's the literal meaning of Toba?

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To come back to return to return? That's the meaning of Tober a chat Buddha Abraham Allah, He is the Beloved of Allah. She is the Beloved of Allah who constantly returns back to Allah.

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Always returned my dear brothers and sisters, and Allah will help you and cleanse you

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You because he loves you.

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I ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make us among his beloved's. I ask Allah Subhana Allah to make us feel the love that He has for us. I ask Allah Samantha to give us the patience and the perseverance to pass through this temporary world until we meet him. Subhanallah without, as Allah spent, Allah said to His Prophet, O Allah, say it to us to want to come in and all the Hereafter is better for you than this form of life. Soon you will come to us soon you will come to us. Just be patient a little longer, a little longer. It's not going to be long, you will come back to us and the Hereafter is better for you than this world. Trust in a llama and sisters May Allah Subhana Allah

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enlighten your hearts Thank you for listening was all Allah on Urbina Muhammad, while early he was off the edge Maui and shared, just humble request, if you could just quickly in like in a couple of minutes summarize for us, this speech, just met two or three points.

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So in summary, I've used my notes

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that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam loves those who believed in him but could not see him. He said, I will miss my brothers. They are the ones who have not come yet. They are the ones who believed in me, but never saw me. I will see them on fountain of Goethe on a day of judgment, because of the widow and so let Secondly, Allah subhanaw taala who sent this messenger peace be upon him, sent him with mercy. So what does that tell us about Allah subhanho wa Taala himself. Although Rasul Allah Azza wa sallam has left us, Allah is still with us. So worship Allah and trust in Him.

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There are signs of Allah Subhana Allah is love in his worship is number one is that you follow the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in your worship, and in your character, and manners.

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The word Muslim

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on top of the worship, when people feel safeguarded,

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from your tongue and your hands, men is one who people can trust you with their wealth.

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Amnesia hate is one who does striving against themselves in order to continue worshipping. And a person who is a true migrator is one who migrates from their major sins. Allah Subhana Allah loves a person who is humble with believers, and does not blackmail them, or use manipulation against them. But they are humbled to them even though they may be stronger or more powerful than them. They're forgiving, they pardon them for the mere fact that they are their brothers and sisters in Islam.

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The love of Allah Subhana Allah is for a person who focuses on their fraud, Acts the compulsory x and then continues to get closer to Allah with their voluntary acts, until Allah loves them a special love and when he loves them a special love their eyes, he is hands and legs only enjoy to do the things which Allah loves.

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And if he asks Allah, Allah will respond to him. And if he sought refuge, Allah will protect him. And Allah hates to hurt that person. And he does not hesitate more than taking his soul at death. Because he knows that we don't like it, and he doesn't want to hurt us. Among the signs that Allah Subhana Allah loves you

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are the ones who love each other for the sake of Allah, who visit each other for the sake of Allah

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are the ones who humble themselves for the sake of Allah. And the ones who connect their ties for the sake of Allah. amount the size which Allah Subhana Allah loves you is that he puts you through more hardships which you can handle and he never gives you hardships more than what you can handle. The more you are patient with them, the more Allah subhanaw taala will give you trials. These trials only make you stronger, and make you rise and making more important and making more content in life. If you are patient with them. If you are six, if you accept them from Allah subhanaw taala and think well of Allah, Allah will love you and you will find it easy, but if you reject it, you will find it

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hard and you will turn away from Allah, Allah will turn away from you. Among the signs that Allah Subhana Allah loves you

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is that if you're a continuous repenter, you can constantly return back to Allah subhanho wa Taala even if it's 1000 times a million times, if you are a young person, with hormones pumping and with your energy really up high, and you constantly returned back to Allah subhanaw taala for forgiveness, then Allah Subhana Allah loves you. Among the things which Allah spent Allah loves you with people whose hearts are attached to the places which Allah loves, such as the message and the gatherings where people whom Allah loves gather, when you see a righteous person or a person reminds you have Allah you love that company and you love those words, and you find comfort in them. Among

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the things which Allah spent Allah is this a sign of his love to you

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is that people also accept you

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Wherever you go, and people love you, even the enemy respects you and this is a sign that Allah subhanaw taala loves you. Among the things which you can see in yourself that you love Allah subhanho wa Taala is that you find yourself comfortable in the things which Allah Subhana Allah loves, and you find that your ear eyes hands and legs actually feel great discomfort in the sins and the things which Allah Subhana Allah hates you feel this confidence.

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Among the things which also show us that Allah loves you is that Allah subhanaw taala uses you in this life in a godly manner. He employs you, he sends good work to you, and he is employing you because He loves you. And he loves the work that you're going to do and he knows that you're going to pass it Allah's pant that also shows that those who, whom he loves the ones

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are the ones who do not take for granted the smallest of good deeds. And then look at their Deen as a holistic thing in their life and not just attached to only the masjid and that's it, but rather holistic and they see that their sadaqa can be done everywhere they go and anywhere they go. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us among them. I mean churches just had

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a few questions that we've we have from this is the brothers clipboard, waiting for the sisters to complete the clipboard inshallah.

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A question here is a common question which is especially from non Muslims, if Allah subhanaw taala is loving and merciful. Why is there pain, injustice and suffering in the world? My Brothers and Sisters in Islam, the pain and injustice in the world in itself

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is a mercy from Allah subhanho wa Taala but to others,

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Allah subhanaw taala if he created a world where there was everything perfect.

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The number one

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it does not be fit him to create us in such a lonely world to be a paradise. That would be cruel. Allah reserved that for Jana. Number two, this life is actually a test to see who are deserving and who are not. So there's going to be the unjust, and the person who does wrong. And Allah subhanho wa Taala is going to sift through these people, the ones who protect and defend and the ones who are oppressors. And the ones who are oppressors, Allah will punish them and those who defend and stand up for the right Allah Samantha will reward them. If there is no good and bad then you will not know the good from the bad as the poet says out of to Shara lady Cherie when I can attack a woman lamjao

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diphenhydramine a Sharia coffee, whoever

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bad not because I want to do the bad. But in order to stay away from the bad and whoever doesn't know the good from the bad they'll fall into the bed. So

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this world to have this the dark and the light, the good and the bad. And Allah subhanaw taala ordered us and commanded us stay away from the bed. Second, another reason why the brothers and sisters is that it is not Allah subhanahu wa taala who made people become unjust, it is not Allah subhanaw taala who made people hurt others, if people hurt others is their own actions. Otherwise, Allah Samantha would have not forbidden it and will not have made a day of judgment, to punish the ones who do bad and oppress and the ones who defend and stand up my brothers and sisters in Islam, Adam and her work when Adam ate frontman Adam and how we ate from the tree that was forbidden. There

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was one thing that they immediately learned that if there wasn't an evil present, which was the shaper, to influence them to do something evil, they would have not learned something very valuable, and that is forgiveness and mercy, without oppression a little bit without injustice. Without wrong without pain. We will not learn empathy, we will not learn mercy. We cannot learn forgiveness. We cannot learn generosity. We cannot learn any of these things without those negative vices. That's why Allah Subhana Allah says, I created you in a world that does have pain. In fact, the Quran says we shall put you through certain pain. Pain is how you perceive it. If you perceive pain, as bad,

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then you have created you have if you have made this life negative, you think of Allah negative, you think of yourself negative. A person like this cannot be productive. Allah says pain or no pain. It does it. There's no difference between them, except that they are both tests and they both make you grow. Sometimes, as we said, we think that when you have a blessing, it's good. But actually sometimes a blessing can be the worst thing for you. We've heard of people who have absolute absolute wealth, absolute everything that they wish for yet they still go on to drugs, they still commit suicide, they still are mean to people, they're still oppressive. In fact, the people who

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have more of these blessings who don't connect themselves with Allah and don't appreciate these blessings, they are among the worst of the people. So my dear brothers and sisters, there is no balance in his thumb of if there's pain. It's

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Bad and if there's health, it's good. No, Allah subhanaw taala says each one of them has its merits and each one of them has its good Allah on dialysis in no malice three, Yusra with every hardship there are many aces. Do you know what that word means? A lot of people misunderstand, they say, after hardship comes ease. That's the wrong interpretation. The correct interpretation is with hardship and pain, there is a package of many goodness that comes out from it. So a package comes down with pain with that pain. So many blessings happen, that without that pain, the blessings cannot come by Brothers and Sisters in Islam, the wisdom of Allah subhanaw taala. In doing so, is in

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order to bring about those unbelievable things, those those positive things in people that without the negative,

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they won't come out. And always the example of Adam and Eve, I always think it's a really good example. This is a whole topic on its own. Thank you. So

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how can we differentiate between a last test and Allah's punishment?

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That's a good question.

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My brothers and sisters in Mammoth nuclear, Rahmatullah Haley is the first thing that comes to my mind. He addresses this point in his book called a debt, what

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the ailment and its cure.

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And he says,

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if Allah subhana wa Taala brings down

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a test a trial, whether it is good in our eyes, or bad in our eyes, for example, well for poverty, health or sickness,

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it depends on how the person receives it.

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If they accept it,

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and assume of Allah well, and use it, to learn from it, or to be patient with it.

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And then they get out of it,

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then it was either a test

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or a blessing

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to save them from something negative in the future.

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Because they learned from it, they paved a different way in their future. So either good comes out of it,

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calls a plan from it, or it's a test.

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But if the person receives it with by turning away from Allah, blaming Allah, abandoning the righteous deeds that they used to do,

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assuming of Allah,

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the worst change into bad behavior and losing themselves,

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then it is a punishment. The actual trial turns into a punishment. So let me repeat, when Allah Sparta brings down a trial, it's neither a punishment, or a test

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or a blessing. It's neutral. If you receive it,

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as Allah says Ananda Hosni is on the appdb. I will be, I will react to you in the way that you assume is me to be.

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And then he doesn't make positive, what Allah is the word positive because Allah is not negative.

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And also, what's awesome is to say, oh, Allah,

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from you, there is no bed and only good for the bad and the good is all good from you. It means what we see is bad is actually good. If it comes from Allah, how you react to it becomes either a trial and a blessing, a test or a blessing, or it becomes a punishment, but because of your reaction to it, I hope inshallah that gives you a bit of an understanding, you can do more research on it, but that's the fundamental that nuclear uses the foundation. Thank you. How can you tell if Allah subhanaw taala has accepted your Toba? Allah? Well, several of them that's a beautiful question. I love it.

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Number one,

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straight after your Tober you've made let's say you made to raka you don't have to do a lot of this I do that and then you admit it to Allah subhanho wa Taala what you have done wrong and straight after it. You feel a special feeling in here that rises

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Allah says in the Quran

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enamel mock Menon Alladhina either to Kerala wash it at Kulu boom. Why the Trulia Tala him area to that whom a man the believers are the ones and when Allah has mentioned to them,

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they Shiva

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and when His Verses are recited upon them, the man rises. So when you mention Allah and repent to Allah, your Eman rises. That's the first sign you feel a good feeling on the inside

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and achievement, a strength of positiveness. It's like because the example is let's say you have a best friend or your life.

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And then one day you did something wrong to them.

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You expose their secret

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and you've almost lost their trust and they're very upset. How do you feel

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If you love them, you feel terrible.

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And then you try everything to try and make it up to your friend. Yes. And the moment they forgive you and your friends again. How do you feel, or with your parents or with their relatives, you feel amazing. With Allah Subhan Allah is the same. You feel an Amen That is rising, a connection to Allah. That's number one. Number two, a sign that your Toba has been accepted is the wrong that you did before.

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You start to hate it every time you think about it.

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And you hate the things that remind you of it.

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Because the prophets Allah sallam said, a person who is truly repentant, is the one who hates to be thrown, who chose to go back to their old sin, just like a person will hate to be thrown into the fire into a blazing fire. Another sign is that the things you didn't like before that Allah loves, you will start loving them.

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Any you start liking going to the masjid, you start wanting to listen to Quran. These are all immediate signs. Now, I don't know some people it stays with them, some people dies out again. But I'm just telling you that immediate science of them.

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So I'm rolling sisters, these are three main signs. Number one, you feel a positive energy rising This is Amen straight after it a relief a happiness. Number two, you start hating the sin likely really every time reminds you of it, you don't really don't like it. And number three, the places and things you didn't really notice or didn't like before you start liking them now. Quran solid sadaqa you actually really enjoy them, they bring you happiness, and then it's either temporary, or it continues with people until the next sin and until the next repentance thing. So

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why does every man drop after a season of Ebola for example, Ramadan or hedger shall well and how to remain steadfast all the time? Oh, that's a long question. Yeah, why not? Very simply. It's very obvious how Eman decreases and increases effects is the Hadith the process and the manual? The fundamental of all the scholars have said a man rises and falls. Now a man rises and falls naturally because you are a human being you have desires you have hormones you have pain, you have struggles you have all these things. In Ramadan it rises for example, because the atmosphere is everywhere. And we that's the thing that makes the man rise when everybody comes together and doesn't Why do you

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think we have a need? Why do you think Allah spent Allah makes all these collective things happening because the spirit you feel the energy and it's true, I believe energy is transferred. You transfer that energy the man does get transferred. That's what I'm saying. You know matava To shake hands and your sins drop because energy also. So when everybody is doing it naturally you feel you're a man rights, people who start thinking having doubts, they see everybody doing it, they say, man, there's something special about this I feel closer to Allah if this was wrong, why would they not be millions of people who are doing the same thing? I'm missing out? Subhanallah so in Ramadan, of

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course, the spirit because of your belief as well that you really do believe in Ramadan, you really do believe in Allah Subhana Allah, and it's such a sign has happened. Look, there was a sister, young girl who asked me at school the other day, because I want to put on my hijab.

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But something's stopping me. And we tried to ask her she couldn't pinpoint what's stopping her. She could find all the reasons to wear the hijab. The fact that she wants to as a sign from Allah subhanaw taala. But she doesn't know what it is that stopping her. And then from here to here to here, she says, Well, you know, my friend, and the other friend put on the hijab, the other friend who put on the hijab, you know, all of them they like had a sign they had a sign on in life. So what's the sign this one had this sign and that I want to have that sign this one saw a little squiggly thing in the clouds, there was a sign from Allah or something. So I had a dream. So

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sometimes signs come to us and our mn rises and then we forget the signs and the signs and then now Amen drops again. Sometimes my brothers and sisters, we we get distracted, just obvious things. We get distracted. Sometimes we listen to things a little bit more often than what we shouldn't, you know, because in Ramadan, what do we do with our ears and eyes? The majority of us

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we restrain them, don't we? The fact that you restrain them automatically has an automatic response on your heart. It cleanses it in the center. You hipness, a yet good deeds, wipe away bad deeds. So when I stopped doing these good deeds after I was doing them, obviously, the heart becomes dirty again. Now, now some people they say, why is my name what can I do? There's no magical formula. It doesn't work like that. All you got to do is this you're ready for it.

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Just do it.

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Now Allah this is outstanding. Just do it. Like I said, Allah Subhana Allah says vokalia Malou say, do

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as soon as you start a step Subhanallah another step opens and then suddenly you find your Amen coming back. Another thing brothers and sisters is try it. You know how when you get bored of the same activity in life, what do you do? Find another activity, another hobby, isn't it then

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You renew it correct? Isn't it? Right? You get married? years past? What do you do?

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Change the romance

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with the same wife

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try something new.

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Right? Maybe go to the gym, halogen, maybe want to do exercise, maybe wanna change your diet to something new. Even in salad, we say subhanallah Bill alliums, some 100 of the names panel have been all been spent on them. For a moment we were born to the moment we die. Nobody ever changes the word Spanner below them Subhanallah below it. But did you know that there are about 50 different other things you can say instead of SubhanAllah? Building, the fact that you change it around your image will be renewed? Right? So my dear brothers sisters, in a very, very simple matter, this is this is how a man rises and falls two things, mainly, number one, you were doing something and then you

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stopped it and got distracted by something that is of less significance, usually materialistic things. Number two, you keep doing the same thing until you got so bored of it. And it becomes a routine like automatic robot, change it up a little bit. Okay, change it up a little bit. Maybe you want to go and try and find a new project for yourself about how to help people.

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You know, I saw a brother today he says, I gave my quarterback I gave her okay.

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I gave an Opia.

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Alright, got my father called me from Lebanon, and said, Son, do you want to send money over I'll do what we'll do here because this poor people says, But father already did go up here.

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He says, Okay, it's up to you. Then the brother he called his father up and says that, I'm going to send you again for another oto just as a sadhaka. Now, it sounds very easy and simple, doesn't it? But he's never done that before. He's always done one or three. How simple it is. He goes Wallahi the fact that I made that decision, I've never done it before. I felt a surge of emotion again, just by doing that, why you change that up? You did something you haven't done before you helped you know that you've now invested some poor people that you don't know. Sometimes you might sponsor an orphan through some organization, they send you a picture of them. How do you feel amazing when you see

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things before your eyes? Isn't that correct? Do something you haven't done before. That Allah Subhana Allah loves, right? Sit with people who you haven't really spoken to before. The only people who have a good sign handler upon them, and you learn something from them. Right? So my dear brothers and sisters, there's 1000s of things you can do. But these are two main formulas that I told you either you were doing something and now you stopped the like Ramadan. And after Ramadan, naturally, your heart gets dirty again, you got to do the good things and then he starts washing it away. There's no magical form. It's just do it and watch it wash away you actually feel it's just a

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feeling. It'll come by itself. Number two, change up your acts of worship, change up your projects and your good deeds, do something new, something that you that you feel the reward for in a different way. And insha Allah Jota Allah now has anyone done night prayer before?

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But by yourself people don't want to say I understand. So night prayer has its amazing thing so tonight for example, go and make the door and just before you go to sleep, just to to rock as that you've never done before. How can I get hustling Muslim fortress of the Muslim and learn a few phrases you haven't said before? Just make a colorful something nice, right by yourself. Put your hands up to Allah subhanaw taala and tell him all the bad things you did this week trying to remember them and say them. Oh Allah, I did this. I feel terrible. I feel like

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a cockroach. I feel bad. Just keep saying these things. And then ask Allah to forgive you.

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These are some pointers. And don't worry if your Eman goes less honorable kappa will be Allah one who says when your Eman is low, then focus

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on stopping yourself

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from abandoning the follow up things and stop yourself from doing major sins. And when a man is high, rushed to do voluntary things.

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Top of the handler

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What's your advice on marrying someone from another continent? It is?

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Is it possible to marry someone but lived separate for a few years until I finish university? And he finishes work? Because

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it's a tricky question that when someone's interested in someone from another continent, I know that

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they want me to make them here.

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Yes, yes.

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Absolutely nothing wrong with marrying someone from another continent. We all know this. Every single Muslim face of the earth knows this. But some of us it's hard for us to either accept for some reason, or maybe and I agree with the second point, if there is a good reason that they're not going to be compatible because of drastic differences in their culture. I

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I actually personally agreed with that. But that's my personal opinion.

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As for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and what the Quran says, Allah Subhana Allah says in the Halacha comienza Quran 1/3 Jalna, or Okada in a letter of we have created you male and female and many nations and tribes so that you may come to know one another data if we didn't have seed means marriage, family, relationships coming together and expanding your family.

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And we all know from the seed of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, there was inter marriages galore.

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And it's very encouraged in the deen to marry Italia to marry someone within your family, it's also encouraged to marry outside of your family. However, the conditions today may be different. What is very important is compatibility. Are you able to get along with that person?

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What's the likelihood of you being able to live and grow together? Are there too many differences that will get in your way

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you got to use your brain with that.

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So marrying someone from a different continent just like that, obviously I we encourage it as the Quran does, but using your brain and using wisdom and reason is also an obligation on the believer. Okay. Secondly,

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if there is compatibility then go for it. And I urge the parents to please help their children not to delay

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Wallahi my son is now 16

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If he is able to get married financially and mentally he is able

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even now Wallahi I will marry him

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to any girl that is suitable. Why? Because when we make the halal difficult, the Haram becomes easy. And when we make the halal easy, the Haram becomes difficult. Secondly, in this country, Muslims cannot we can't compare ourselves to the west to the non Muslims, we can't help if they say I don't want to get married. We can't afford to say that. Because they can have they can have relationships that in whatever they do what husband and wife do they get pregnant or in defector partnerships, we don't we don't do that we don't believe in Xena and you shouldn't live like that.

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Understand. So marriage is a solution for us.

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So my dear brothers and sisters, if they're capable of getting married, they're financially able and not too much and is able to live in a humble home able to have humble furniture and able to have a simple income then let them go. What do we do then? If we're married 10 years later we'll become bankrupt. Do we get divorced and just throw our kids away? We don't do that do we?

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Thank you. So you got to rely on on last month out a little bit here. And not think too much about poverty and richness and materialism. This is not who we are what

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Allah has never lived with anyone out now brothers and sisters marriage is from the son of the process and as you know someone's there is compatibility even from a different continent. It doesn't matter so long as they're compatible and can get along but this is the secondly the question very good question there it says Are we allowed to live separately after marriage until they are ready or until they're able to open up a home together? Is that what it means?

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Yeah, so until she finishes uni and he finishes work, I guess finishes work that's what I mean.

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I think probably you know like a temporary work finishes work and the guy won't have a word and whenever income

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comes there's no context confused Yeah, go ahead. I mean, if the if the system wants to finish uni to work and he rests then that's fine. Why not?

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Anyway, anyway, brothers and sisters look

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The SLM said men Yeah, Marsha Shabazz is talking mainly to the men, Minnesota Army combat athlete who is able to care for a family to provide a wife and open up a home. Simply even simple minimally, then get married quickly. Okay, that's the you got to be able to look after a family. Now.

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living separately

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is an option these days. I believe.

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Like you can do the Catholic tab. That's what we call it in Arabic.

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You might call it Nick on contract.

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That's all right. To be sitting my beard. comes with the package guys. Brothers and sisters. When you do the Catholic tab or the Nika contract, it's when like you get an Imam or the what is that a girl's father is there and you have two witnesses and the market is agreed upon. And there's consent from both parties to marry.

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Then that's called a nigga contract, aka the Quran.

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Everybody know what I'm talking about?

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I'm not talking about the whole legal process when you get it registered and legally married.

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Now, that cutback tab Islamically makes it lawful for the boy and the girl, the husband and wife, you know, to be physically for each other and go out together, they can stay alone together, and there's no harm upon them.

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If there is

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hardship in them living together, and they know each other, and they love each other, and you can see that it's better that they get married, but finance has stopped them.

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Then Insha Allah, nothing wrong with doing this get picked up.

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No need to make it to public celebrations and weddings and all that until they're finished. They can move in together. No, there's no harm in doing that. Like even if a husband and wife already married. And one day, he said, Look,

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you know, how about,

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I'm gonna go work overseas for a little while, maybe it might take me a year, I'll come and go, Aren't you allowed to do that? There is a reason for that. So long as you both agree, and the husband and wife, they're in agreement.

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But my advice is never to prolong this too much.

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Because what happens is that people start in you. And I know some people may say I don't care what people think.

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But you're lying to yourself. You do care what people think it is important what people think it's important to your family thinks because it affects your life. We don't live on a on an island by ourselves. There's other people were involved. When you marry someone, you marry their whole family, you marry somebody made the whole family. Okay? Put that in your mind.

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it's not good to keep seeing you're going out a lot alone. And you're not really living together, people start thinking there's something wrong with them. Maybe there's something wrong with the girl or there's something wrong with the guy. And God forbid if the marriage doesn't work out. People might even have that stigma on the person makes it hard for them to get remarried again, or into another relationship. So all I'm saying is don't prolong things like this. Marriage is meant to be husband and wife living together supporting each other, growing together, being together not really separate apart, but temporarily if they're really not able. I don't see anything in our shadow and

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I'll click on any item who, who disagrees with them living temporarily.

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Homeless pantalla knows best hamdulillah only two questions left after this one.

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Why is it halal to eat meat when it involves killing an animal? Are we not indirectly inflicting pain?

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Yeah, of course we are in directly we are directly inflicting pain. Okay.

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The question are we are directly inflicting pain on the animal. But the pain that we are inflicting is justifiable and halal. It's not haram, brothers and sisters.

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If we're gonna go by that Tality

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really we can't live

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because I can sit here now and use so many arguments about nearly everything in life.

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Okay, I can tell you not to eat plants, because plants have sensors to

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they feel and Allah subhanaw taala from cutting off branches.

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And they are life. Even rocks are a life. Organisms are a life where inflicting pain.

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But obviously this No one says something like that. So my dear brothers and sisters, the concept in Islam is not that we have been sent to this world and put on this earth to prevent pain.

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If we directly inflict pain for no good reason.

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And we could have avoided it, then that's when the sin is upon us. But it's impossible to avoid pain upon an animal that you slaughter.

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Now, you might be asking, though, but if I slaughter this animal kill this animal in another way, where there's no pain at the other ways, inject them with something for example, make them go numb and then let them die peacefully without slitting their throat. For example.

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The counter argument to that is, you will then cause harm to the human being. When I consume it, it becomes unhealthy to the human being and not good. Because that blood blood always carries the most

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diseases blood is the fluid, the heart, the liquid house of all diseases of the world.

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Doctors will tell you that. And that blood needs to be drained along with the adrenaline that comes out from the pancreas of the animal. And we slaughter it from here because the largest amount of blood is all drained from there. Right. And it it does a whole lot of other things. It triggers the receptors in the brain which triggers the heart rate which triggers other organ

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Have the body to flush all the blood out. Right? And the animal is now fit and healthy and good for the human digestion to live.

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The One who created them, the world is the only one who has the right to tell us how we can treat his creation how we're not allowed to trade it, because he owns it.

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And he is the one who said, Oh, hey, Leila. It has been made halal for you the anon the livestock, but on condition, this is the way you got to treat it. This is the way you got to slaughter. And so law, but what's the formula in the scholars use is

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law, the role of the roar?

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Do everything you can so that you don't cause harm to others, and no harm is caused to you. So if I'm going to slaughter the animal, stop slaughtering animals stop,

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you know, going about doing like doing these things, because I'm inflicting pain on them, then I'm also harming people. At the same time, if I just inject them and then slaughter them, then I'm also harming people. So

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there's a balance. There's a balance, a law on

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how to bring the families to Islam like doing Dawa, without severe ng toys.

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So I think how to give Dawa without severing ties to the family, which are always my brother and sisters. That's an open question depends on the situation of each person. So what I would advise is that each individual who has a family of particular attitude you need to sit down personally actually, with somebody wise, someone you trust doesn't have to be a share, can be someone wise and has the way of you think that they know how to talk know how to deal with people and get try and work out on the device, maybe sit with another family member and see how you can communicate with these people. Now, can I just say something about Dawa

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Dawa can be done in many ways? It's not just verbally talking. Sometimes it's in writing, sometimes by gifting sometimes just with your attitude and your behavior, then we all agree.

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So, Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us that the reason that Rasulullah saw Salam Dawa worked with his companions was what

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was it the truth that He said to them?

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Do you think that the people listen to the Prophet SAW Selim, just because he told them the truth? No. Do you think they listened to that to him because he was eloquent? No. Do you think he listened to the laborers? And then because he continued to give them Dawa and insist No, what is the reason Allah said that these people listen to him?

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Tried his character to his approach towards them. So Allah says Furby, Marathi midnight intellia home while canta Colombian and subdomain Holic because of Our Mercy, which we put in you

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see the mercy that you have you treat people with mercy, you were able to attract them. And if you were to be harsh hearted and rough in your approach, they would have run away from your elbow. Koroma Osman Ali Oh, don't run away from you. Even if you spoke the truth, some brothers sisters, we need to use wisdom. I think that showing

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if you can find out what is it that your family values the most.

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And then show them and use that inshallah slowly you can get them whether it's through gifts, whether it's through nice words, whether it's through just being just being quiet,

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and showing them

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good treatment, visiting, talking about things that you both enjoy talking about doesn't have to be religion.

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Just by doing it, sometimes it'll work. I have a friend, for example. He is, I won't say which background he's from.

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He can he his father used to drink alcohol, and so did he. And then hamdulillah spatula guided his friend. And he started to preach to his father, his mother, his sister, his family, and they kept moving away.

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So one day I said to him, brother, stop preaching to them, and just do what you have to do and mind your own business

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and be good to parents,

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but then bring religion into the picture anymore.

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So he says, I started praying Sunday, the parental boundary of time has been my room. I'd help my mother my language changed. I stopped swearing. I stopped this. And one day, my father by himself, I come home and I see him spilling all the wine, their Muslim family, but they were very

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ignorant. He's spilling all the wine bottles and alcohol out in the street.

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says what happened?

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He says I watched my son becoming better than me.

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And I saw some peace in you.

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And I felt ashamed. He made that word to himself. And now his father does more night prayer than his son

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His mother's somewhat guided,

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and his sister Hamdulillah. And his other members of his family, his brother, his cousin.

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The point of that is,

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it's trial and error. But the number golden rule is your character and treatment.

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You melt someone with your treatment, and the treatment is make them feel important.

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Make them feel important and valued. You listen if they if they're saying the wrong thing.

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You respect their home, if you're not allowed to do certain things,

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and approach them from the angle that they love. Except for the haram. If you stand a stance of integrity and saying, look, it's okay you guys enjoy yourselves. Um, I want to take part in that. Now if that's the thing that's going to sever the ties, you don't obey them.

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But never cut them off. You continue to come, even if you think they've severed the ties know how they said I've never gave up on his son until the waves came and took him the waves he kept with his son didn't cut him until the wise I know a sister whose

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child whose son left Islam

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and he said to me,

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what should I do?

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I said don't cut your communication off with the middle.

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Even if you minimum continue to communicate even till his death

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because no Hala has Salam did not leave his son knowing his occur

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until the wave took him from him. But he's speaking to him. Yeah, Buddha Eurocom mana Oh worship Allah, Nana, I'll go, but such.

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He's talking still annoys talking. So we don't give up on them.

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That's all I can say about last month to assist you and help you. And remember severing of ties. You're not the one who's severing it. They're the ones who are severing it if they if it's because of religion ordain. But my advice to you is continue to keep contact with them until there's no more Avenue like a prophet Ibrahim Ali said, I'm his father said I'll kill you if you don't leave me. Then he left and still as he's leaving. I will ask Allah to forgive you that he is merciful? And is that swearing at him get out of my face? I will still ask Allah to forgive you. And I forgive you. It's so this is how we live in Sharla. Last question from the sisters. And then after that, I have a

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critical question as well. Sure.

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How do you cope with a man depths of your spouse and encourage them to the obedience of Allah? subhanaw taala? Yeah, we get this question a lot. Subhanallah

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a lot of sisters have asked me this question. How do you deal My husband doesn't go to doesn't pray Fudger to my husband, my husband. Sometimes asthma says my wife refuted one. One brother actually said to me, my wife

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doesn't put on the hijab.

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And one sister says he doesn't pray the fajr prayer. And he cuts his prayers off.

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the brother who married the sister without hijab, I said, Did you marry her that way? He said yes. So well. Yes, you're gonna have to take your time. Be patient, should I divorce? So you have children? No, no, no. No. Now Allah has put her with you as the hour. If you let her go, she is going to get worse. They know that you believe in Allah that she prayed hamdulillah then you work on Insha Allah, listen, your wife will see through the way you treat her and how Islam has changed you. So women that Allah gave him a sixth sense. It's not through talking and epi pink. She watches and she wants to feel that she's important to you. Anyway, the system says My husband doesn't wake up

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for version or whatever it was. We say to her, the system, you can only do what is in your control. What is within your control

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within your control is to advise your husband, number one.

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If he doesn't listen,

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then you continue to raise your children in an Islamic way.

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If he gets involved,

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you continue to raise your children in his absence. There's divorce people who have a bitter conflict with each other it's not correct. But when the children are with the father or with the mother, they raise them when they're not with them, unless they're with Allah subhanaw taala you do what you can lay you can't even have son Illa Husa Takala must have taught them Allah says fear Allah as much as you can not do more than that. Secondly, if that spouse does not listen and continues so long as it's not something that is destructive to the family makeup

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and destructive.

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It's going to be hurtful and harmful, and the person has not left Islam.

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So destructive and harmful, dangerous or Islam.

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Continue to be patient. That's my advice to you and I've heard a lot of Musharraf say this too.

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Until Allah subhanahu wa taala guides them.

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You never know what Allah Who loves him. You never know where the guidance comes from. It could be just from your patience. It could be like the friend of mine who just kept praying in front of his father until his father gave Dawa to himself.

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But I can tell you sometimes in family if you tell people because that you're vulnerable, right they can see a lot of your problems. So when you're together as speakers they say when you first get married man shall be wearing big armor. One year passes bit of that armor comes off. The helmet comes off next year. The leg arm has gone then the Beckham and then front armour you've got no more armor What are you going to do? You're no longer the knight in shining armor. So they see your vulnerabilities. What can you do then sometimes your word is too heavy. You just be

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and when they see that change, they see what do people look at their look at how you treat them. They look at your mercy they look at your piece they look at what you how it has improved you. And when they see the improvement Allah He they'll come with you insha Allah to Allah, they'll they'll follow you though there'll be like that in sha Allah Allah the way you are.

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Let's rally him almosafer You cannot force them. And he prophesied salams door is not all of them embrace straightaway. It took them time. Isn't that correct? his cousin's took them time. One thing Do not cut them off. Do not put them down. Do not judge them.

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Just invite them don't listen. Then you do your part.

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You do your part.

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Now at chef on behalf of PGCC brothers and sisters, are you willing to become a regular speaker at PGCC?

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I feel like that brother I got embarrassed before. Now I'm embarrassed.

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Yeah, I mean, I would love to and I'm willing.

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you know being willing and able are two different things.

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So if I'm able insha Allah Allah like today, we'll come down insha Allah Baraka lofi

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I give lectures every Thursday nights and it's on live streamed on Facebook my facebook page my facebook page

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but anyway if you want to watch the lectures every Thursday night insha Allah press the mosque again because I live on the other side brothers sisters, so inshallah if you want we can do that and by that I seen and brother arm but I've never left me alone, masha Allah so long as that you guys have got them. They're not going to leave me alone. You'll see me here again inshallah. Just to check for coming down tonight and sharing your works and motivational piece will shallow we'll blessed and benefit from it. On behalf of pilsners guidance Community Center, brothers and sisters. It's a small token of appreciation. It is a glass trophy, acknowledging yourself

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support Subhanallah brother Abdullah

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he went to pick up the trophy his brother Abdullah I mean

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by I think on our Hiranya mashallah, he's his biceps are capable of doing you know, 100 kilograms dumbbells. He did drop this very heavy 500 gram trophy

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inshallah we will get a new replacement one small token token JazakAllah high for come down. May Allah reward you

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and bless you and protect you.

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Okay, I get

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