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The Issue Of Back Biting

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Bilal Assad

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Full Lecture on The Issue Of Back Biting by Bilal Assad

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He was hoping he

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said he

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My

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name

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is

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my brothers and sisters in Islam as salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa.

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After praising Allah and sending the prayers of light his blessings upon the messengers of the Lord, he was sending him and on to all of those who follow him in righteousness, till the last power to his family and his companions.

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We recited verses from the Quran that talk about that one which is being continuously conscious and aware of Allah presence wherever you are, when you are

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fearless

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in every case, and do not allow your chance to say anything but the truth. The truth is the Quran.

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The Quran is the book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, everything other than that is just words of men.

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Was it men,

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Allah Goddess is fear of loss. Be continuously conscious of his presence in every situation, and know at the same time.

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What count what you'd have done for your tomorrow or tomorrow? What What have you prepared for tomorrow meaningful, the hereafter fluid is

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what the law and federal law says.

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The one who shall judge you, the one who shall judge you about your kinship, your relationship with your relatives and your cousins, the ones who share the womb, they are extremely important that the last minute I mentioned them with taqwa in the Quran, and he makes a special verse in his words,

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saying this, my brothers

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after saying this brothers and sisters, I would like to

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now move on to elders for today inshallah, I

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would like to say, today.

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Before I begin, I'd like to make two points.

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Last week, and the week before, we spoke about some serious, well sensitive issues, we spoke about blind following and beta, which are innovations. For some reason, we find that a lot of people, many of the Muslims today and a little bit in the past, find it very hard to listen to topics like this, I really do not know why will not allow them, if a person is sincere, for the sake of Allah is sincere. And then he wants to please

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and then he followed the evidence that's clear and they reject that which is not clear. And you're not obliged to listen to me for example, if the evidence is there, they want a lot and they want the messenger. So,

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they should not find any

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unease, any discomfort from listening to something, so critical, that is actually part of the cell of our of our belief of our faith. And that is not to invent new things in the religion and not to blow not to follow not to follow blindly single individuals or single groups just because they are that group or is that

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we call it evidence without

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any without it, there will be no one on the right track, nobody will be worshiping each other. There will be people who are giving

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fabricated information which they make up would not accept anything unless it goes back to the same streamline back to the process.

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And this is the updated the fate of every minister. Whether you are a non Muslim, whether you are not born a Muslim, whether you are invalid whether you are whatever you are a Muslim, and it applies to us from the beginning. And even from the prophets, Allah. Allah says in

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one

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cheesin a lot once the Prophet Mohammed

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from fabricating anything that comes from a last minute in the plant, he says, and if he were to make up any fabrication about makeup any worse,

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even a few of them, we would have taken him immediately meaning alone have taken his soul and then would have cut out his jacket.

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And none of you will be able to prevent us alone punish the purpose of the lesson if the profit were to make up a fabrication for about a month.

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So what about us people, weaklings,

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fabricate freely.

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Because of this uneasiness, we heard some people saying

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that

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what we mentioned some examples. For the first time they ever heard of they said, Well, lucky in all my life, they said, I've never heard something like this, which is quite natural to me with this response. Because if he had been 20 years or 30 years a Muslim, it doesn't mean you have 60 years or 100 years, which still have so much to learn about the religion, so many new things to learn.

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So many new things to learn about, there are so many things to alter, and exchange. The important thing is your sincerity.

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That Oh, they'll always be consulted, they'll always be differences of opinion about minor issues. You have to be sincere

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and try your best. The clear is clear. The sooner understand the very clear, the prayer is clear, the five pillars of clear the oneness of Allah was clear, the messengers are clear that what is clear,

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is clear between them there are doubtful matters, which either the scholars have differ upon, or we don't know much information about, then you avoid them, just avoid them. Or follow whichever of the scholars that you honor and respect the most if the data is not clear. Yes, it's a very simple matter. So these people said, Well, what is the first time we heard that, you know, raise your hands up to the top of the footprint yesterday because they did not raise his hand after the trip. Now the onus of proof is on the person who claims that he did. We say he did. Well bring in evidence that he did. So.

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This is all we're asking. Allah says in the Quran.

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Do not follow that he had no knowledge of

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a prophet just now sitting here telling me someone was arguing with my father for hours about Bukhari and Muslim being unauthentic. I said, On what basis is he following this? He said he read a website that says behati Muslim is fabricated with all these rubbish, really, that is following something which he has no knowledge of, number one, it's a website.

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Number two,

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what is it whatever is standing to save?

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Us?

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All reliable?

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So they're following fabricated information. And they found something they have no knowledge behind, or fabricated. And what are we? What do we call it Bukhari and Muslim, the collectors have had it a week and gone, whatever. The plan will lie, that's not enough.

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Because the problem isn't the plan, also what the messenger can see with them forward.

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And obviously, is

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one more point, I received information that someone heard me wrong,

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claim that in my first class, I spoke about the amulets or we call it an Arabic, the hijab. in Turkish, you might call it macka. Or we call in other languages, but it's basically a piece of paper which or something you put inside of the leather pocket, and you start and you saw what happened to someone with it to prevent bad luck or to prevent them from having bad dreams or whatever. You know, these types of things. They said that I said is only a bit which means an innovation

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is that it is not only a bit, it is

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a shake data, because there are two types of data, two types of innovations that are not good and bad in innovation. Don't wait for them. There is no good and bad and innovation is an innovation, no matter how big or small it is you invented. It's a major sin. But two types of innovations are there innovations that are shipped, and there are innovations that are just sins, not ship. They're matrices, they're not ship.

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Right. For example, the person who

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makes congregational Vicar, you know, forget as I explained last time, that's a bit Ah, but it's not a

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person who is an amulet or something like that protecting the rights numbers inside of them gets to

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decision to run is invented as a religion but also is shaped. So please

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correct your information. And don't misunderstand us and shall return back to the tapes which we obtained and follow correctly. inshallah, you will find that we actually said it's been mentioned at the same time.

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Well, let's come to a topic today.

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I have to be clear for those who have been here last week,

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I thought of taking a break now we'll be speaking about prayer a lot. And there are still more gaps that are left.

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Something's

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the shape whatever you need. We're not going to dwell into all the complicated issues. Today, I wanted to take a break before I start on the on the topic of the hate the oneness of Allah, to talk about something which I believe

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is a major issue in our community. It has caused the breakup of families, the breakup of husband and wife, the breakup of brothers and sisters, the breakup of families and relatives, the breakup of friends, the hatred amongst the Muslims, the splitting into many organizations, and six, they are the result of many sex in the religion. They are the result of people having a bad name, ruining reputations of people, right, preventing people from getting married or engaged or cutting off an engagement or marriage. Well, like causing a disunity amongst the Muslims. One of the major causes brothers and sisters and if you might guess it, it is something called NEMA mean, translated

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literally as Gossip.

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Gossip,

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gossip, gossip.

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So false truth, gossip about people and spread rumors, rumors without whether they are true or false, but you just spread about people about about one another.

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Today, I want to express the importance and the major prohibition of this in our religion.

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Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala, the one who created the male and the female, and the one who knows what the male and the female thinks and does a lot, the one who fabricated this, knifes ourselves, knows what it is capable of doing in good knows what it's capable of doing evil, Allah knows what mankind is capable of doing. And so he set boundaries and guidelines in the corner, and in the center, wherever you can, and just to do brothers and sisters, it is only because it is and has to be good for us whether we understand it or not.

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And whenever a law prohibits us, it has to be harmful to us, whether we understand it or not

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giving a child a baby, the child has to fight, or two or three years old, goes to the jaw and picks out.

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Does that child No.

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No.

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child when you tell them don't touch the knife.

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The child probably at that stage maybe doesn't understand you grab a one and a half year old child and tell him you're not touching that he doesn't understand why he doesn't understand what is wrong with what he what he or she has done. But later on, as you explain it, he finds that he can now trust the parent because the parent knows what's harmful to the most beneficial.

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And last minute data, his knowledge is endless and unlimited. How can we compare what we feel with what we understand or don't understand to what

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if a law prohibits something Why do some Muslims wait until they can understand or comprehend it before they can prohibit themselves from it

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can be for example, prohibited?

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The you know the the consumption of river of usury. Some people don't understand that concept. Why? Why? They say if you can't give him a proper excuse, like a reasonable logical excuse. You find that that he was with it. They just keep doing it. Yeah, he also does not wait for a logical explanation. Our logical explanation is that Allah subhanaw taala has prohibited and he knows that it's harmful to us isn't enough? Isn't

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severe. Allah says in the Quran

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is not sufficient for a servant. Of course it's enough. Well, if you don't, then there's a problem with your Eman. You have to realize what's wrong with your belief in Allah. You have to revise yourself.

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So Allah has prohibited the gossiping, Nina spreading of rumors whether they are rumors or whether they are true.

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gossiping and backbiting and slandering.

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Without any doubt,

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without a doubt,

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without any pattern of doubt, it is one of the most grievous sins that a person can

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Get used to

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and diagnose.

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Today's show we'll talk about the dangerous.

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We will talk about the different styles of gossiping. How do they occur? Is it only by talking? Or is that other ways?

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We will talk about what are the motives that drive people to gossip? Why Why do people gossip?

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Or try to attempt

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to tell? What are the causes of people gossiping?

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What are the wrong excuses that people give? When I gossip?

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What is our duty when we hear people gossiping? And lastly, what types of gossip are committed in Islam?

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These are the things I'm going to talk about to you today inshallah.

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So, let us begin with the definition. If you don't know what something means, how are you supposed to know what to do what not to do with it? First of all, brothers and sisters, there are three definitions you need to learn about gossiping, three.

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Number one,

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there is a word called backbiting is either

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evil? Or is it

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in Arabic

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is to say the truth. Listen carefully to what we're saying here, brothers and sisters, it's important is to say the truth about Muslim behind their back to someone you say to someone, and that Muslim you spoke about

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does not like

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you saying it anyway.

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I'll repeat that buying zebra, which is the lowest amount that's the lowest form of gossip. The last is to say the truth about someone who is not present behind their back. You say to someone else, obviously, someone is a Muslim. And that person whom you gossiped about would not like you to say this adult

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to clarify his ad, these are the processes.

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He wants that with this content is any citizen.

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Do you know what is

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the processor catches the attention column

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on his messenger notice, he said

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below

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to mention something about your brother or sister in Islam

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behind their back something which they hate

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to say, one companion stood up, and he said,

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what if what we are saying is true.

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So he's an intelligent

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person. He said, if it is true, then that is in fact, bad.

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But if it's false, that's the biggest thing that's fun is slander. slander.

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So brings us to the second definition of what is invoking gossip, slander, slander, slander is not just here.

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It is more than that. It is a Muslim something that is not true. Or it's true exaggerated.

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It's true but you exaggerate.

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That's a lie. When you exaggerate something too long, that's worse than near.

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No.

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No

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into

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the prompts are seldom said that

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the images completed and the processor instead and if what you are saying is true about him, then you have also

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gossiped about him back behind him, defend him

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to defend each other, to honor each other.

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And lastly, there's a word called Emina. And this is what we're talking about is a combination of the two. It's combination of LIBOR backbiting and slander.

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It's one of

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one of them, but you exaggerate it and you spread the spread. Every company can hire you mate. You know, someone said he said this. So he did

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say spread rumors.

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What is the ruling?

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There is no doubt that the scholars unanimously agreed

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parametrizing

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get the book hole and cover the book of major sins and you will find the lever has been interesting.

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Now, reverse image is

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a person who continuously does it, you die when you die with a major sin. And a major sin is a punishable sin.

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The prophets of Allah, Allah subhana wa tada says in the Quran, Allah will let

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him in.

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What

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are

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the believers, our brothers and sisters in Islam? We're brothers and sisters,

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brothers and sisters, it's a stronger bond than anything in the world.

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For us to

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reconcile, make the affairs good between your brothers and sisters, to

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honor them,

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craves them, make them look good. Put them before you reconsider the 20 that are upset or angry with each other, reconcile your situation with them all of it.

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Then tells us how to also practice this brotherhood.

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Yeah, you're

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not addressing the Muslims. in general. He's talking about specifically the believers, because only the believers listen. Only the people with an open heart and a strong faith are the ones who feel listened to this. Allah says the believers are the ones

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not the general Muslim. The believers

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who have faith

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one

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amongst you tease another,

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no. Women amongst you tease another group of women.

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Maybe

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better than you, and you slender and cheese and people who are better than you. Whether it be male or female, whatever just says Oh, so

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here's the verse on

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a cola

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engine, not gossip.

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When there's one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother,

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and the flesh of our brothers and start eating them

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even been mentioned

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and mentioned coming off of your mother and eating the flesh of the flesh of your father and eating the flesh of your blood, Brother Blood sister eating or cutting off the flesh of your brother who's next to you and eating or cutting out the flesh of your Muslim neighbor and eating the flesh of a child the gossip about eating and cutting off the flesh of skull and the process.

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And

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flesh of the scholars are poisonous.

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The human

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flesh of the scholars of the shapes are the Imams, they are poisonous, it's a metaphor. So that even increases it more.

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If you eat the flesh of the scar,

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you spread the poison amongst the oma because everyone looks up to the skulls

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and sisters

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Gina

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is

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common and Muslim.

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Like Mr.

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Young up the meeting,

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there is a person who has lost all of his wealth. He said

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that's not what this is really. You're thinking about what returns we don't care about the world.

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He said the backdrop person is the one who comes on the Day of Judgment you have to watch

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out for them and that

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was the

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the one we have

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On the day of judgment, and he has had such a person stolen from such a person, back, there's such a person gossiped about such a business spread earlier about such a pistol, whatever.

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Then Allah overs to for the asset, and you can get and you come with that, as far as you can see with your eye, and then the last one begins to take from your net. And he would give them to him.

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He will keep giving,

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once, as far as I can see, finally, is

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what happens after that he's still above such a person. So there's a lot he has.

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So he takes from

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the victim, and he starts placing him more on top of your answer yes.

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And then he is thrown into the fall.

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So the punishment is grievious. This means that this sin is a major sin, anything which is major, any any

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says that there was a passion for or describes a passion for it. It means it's an HSE means to make

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the

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passport to grips and the problem is

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he passed by children.

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And then they saw the process.

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And he cut through a branch and he placed it on one hand he placed the other piece of wrench on the other Greg? Yeah. So why did you do that? He said

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something which is being something which is big meaning that as the scholars have made us understand that in our eyes as human beings, we don't see it as a major issue. That is to be punished, which means in the eyes of a lot, it is a major sin.

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It is a big thing. Why? What happened? The first one?

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The first one, what did he do?

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He never used to wash himself thoroughly after going to urinate. So he would pray deliberately, while not having washed himself or herself after urinating.

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And the process and at least say most of the people in this room I get punished because of them.

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Secondly, what about the second grader? He said the second person

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he used to walk around spreading gossip and rules. And he has been punished in his grave.

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I placed these leaves

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with the blessing of my hands can the ministry

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to diminish until these leaves are drowned in return?

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It is not this does not mean that it is as soon as the place branches on the graves, the scholars tell us about this, that he specifically chose these graves specific especially. But no other company did such a thing for any other grave.

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So the sin is grievious Yeah. How many communism is united? How many relatives don't talk to each other 14 years? Yes. How many best friends relationship for 20 years 30 years mamaki there are so many and if I sit here to tell you how.

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We will not stop

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the process

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is journey

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when he traveled in a non journey from Mecca

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to Jerusalem

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and then he elevated into the heavens into the sky which is the props are so many things that she could not understand good things and bad things. People being in bliss and people being in punishment

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amongst the people will be so in a in a very ugly and terrifying punishment. He said I saw a group of people with a book a book a crosswalk, an angel will come and he will place them into one ear hook into the ear. And then he would read the trace from one ear to

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the first thing after that would return then the hook would be placed into the ear again and they would rip his face to the other ear from ear to ear from ear to ear continuously.

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And he said they are the customers.

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The back pockets and the DNA of

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the ones who back

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optimise

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the gossip, they spread rumors about

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people with dripping in their chest.

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And some of them eating the flesh. And there's also the gossip is.

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This is why some scholars say that when you see yourself in your dream, that you are eating meats

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of people,

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then it is a warning that you are probably backbiting your Muslim brothers and sisters in Islam.

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Some scholars get that we get that reputation of that dream. And it makes sense because they're basing it for the proselytizing lesson.

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This is why some companions is a particular, I think, I think it was

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he heard that somebody had lots of data. So they did without doing anything, he got happy. He got a little basket, and he put some gifts in it.

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And then he sent it to that person's house. After obviously, after verifying that he did

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not discover this again.

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After verifying he brought the basket of gifts, it took me seven years to give it to him and say this is a gift because you have gifted me.

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You're awesome.

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Yes. Now

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some people, especially amongst those practicing Muslims, they're gonna go wow, this is really good to get to get better at some people. So the user and the user without even verifying anything, and it goes more and more this unity. One particular person told me, brother one time, you know, they sent me a matchbox with a little gift inside of it, and this and the little red. This is your gift, and I thank you for gifting me.

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So Pamela, first of all, it was a lie, and they'll just room is a non verified anything. And it just caused more hatred and loss. So you need to bear

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and to see

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too many

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believers listen

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to believers, listen,

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when it comes to you with the news, as soon as a person comes with a rumor or a news about someone else, a law considers that person in that situation, even if it's a religious person, in a situation, he's a person, that action is the action of corruption, we must or should not really split anything that anyone else even if it's true.

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It

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never comes to within us.

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then verify, verify, make sure it's true. And we'll see what goes on.

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Because then you will begin to have some people out of ignorance.

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And then after you realize that you just harmed him and something which is false, and you start regretting what you did.

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And what are you going to do when you regret, your reputation will be finished, you're actually harming yourself, you're harming yourself.

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Listen to Office lovers wants to fall into holes, and dungeons, which we can play with.

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My brothers and sisters, let's move on to another issue concerning this. Now some people think that is just when you talk. You are

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gossiping.

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Listen carefully how beautiful how religion is

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all the gifts that we may fall into

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even a person who writes about someone else,

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such as the meteor in a newspaper or writing a book about someone

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or on the internet.

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Or even when you listen to the gossip, and you don't do anything about listening. Now, some people think that you're listening so it's not a problem.

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Which is

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I'm going to use this because the best part of the process and listen to what they did one time

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the narrator says there was on a cavalry and he was

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on a trip on a certain mission. And the process splits the army into two or three as I recall

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them on whoever in charge of one particular group or two groups and the process animals with another group

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and they are appointed each person with a

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duty what

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This man was the cook he had to prepare the meal for the sauce.

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So they went through the meal everyone got hungry and they noticed that the meal was taking too long. So when they went to the search for the cook, they found that he was asleep

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him

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so one of them one of them one of them said to the other one

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is sleeping as if he sleeps as if he's

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sent to the center so that he could send us some food

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seven

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after the broadcast, and I didn't bring anything with him and he said, You messenger the messenger says you've already eaten there's no need to eat

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nothing so they went to the messenger so

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you're so ma we didn't do anything.

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He said you have eaten the flesh of your brother

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the person whom you said he sleeps as if he's

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in his flesh can still see the flesh between your teeth.

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He said that all sorts of other people

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know this a theme this is still filling in ask a lot of forgiveness since

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then.

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And you

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can ask me ask your brother He is about to forgive you ask Allah to forgive you not me a lot of work

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criticized for such a thing.

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And something very simple.

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How many of us

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know has been an hour or

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so have a lot he concentrates on his hair for like

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you know someone so we have a lot you know, I mean when he walks in walks with a limp

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such a sister, such a sister, she you know, she did such a thing.

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Yeah, we keep gossiping and talking very simple things. Look.

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Look.

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Even Wikis.

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Well, why even a signal isn't gossip Listen to this. The

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other day was married to several wives.

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One time, one of the wives, I think it was Sophia Revlon because she was short. She can't show the long run. It hasn't been Josie says she can pass she signal to the process. And then what is indicating show show.

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Show. In other words,

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the process and I became

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aware that the words have been mixed with this with the ocean.

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It will overwrite its saltines it'll be saltier than the salty ocean followed

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a lot just by signaling, winking signaling.

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This brings me to imitating

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people even say

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that imitating is even worse than talking worse than listening. You know why? Because when you imitate,

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you didn't clarify the picture even visit for the listener. So you make it really understood.

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what people

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mean, when we know why they gossip, we understand how to avoid the first

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for what people actually gossip.

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The general message the general reason really

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is because of our

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you know, this nemesis, when

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he gave it the

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urge to do good.

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He verifies as positive.

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An e who

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has defended

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all these designs of

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backbiting and gossiping.

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And Alice is an

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American

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is the commander of evil you're not supposed to do the bad sense. That's the inclination of those tells you to do bad things. Talk about such a person, you know, how could he be better than you show?

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So it always commanded to do to do that. The stress of these medicines I can think of

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People love to listen because they want to get that one person may have done something at one time. And you're sitting in a group and his name is mentioned. Say think to yourself inside.

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Now's my chance to get back in sir. You mentioned something.

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Islam is not about revenge. It's about advice. What to do with that revenge?

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What happened to the area tells us

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forgive and avoid the ignorant people.

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I mean, when he said

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that he said

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and he said, I've seen a lot of things. He said, Go for your frequency. What happened to

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revenge

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revenge causes deaths. And

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the second was hatred.

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Whatever reason, and so the time comes, and you get the opportunity to

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because you want to relieve

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getting something off your chest.

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getting something off your chest

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and getting off your chest as well.

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Another matter is jealousy. Well, he was sitting in a gathering. And as someone mentioned to you a certain person in goodness, they'll say Walmart for example, let's say Mashallah.

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Martina beautiful was in Panama and the other day? Yeah, you know, I admire them for doing because Mashallah they you know, they're honest people. So you sit there and you're jealous, you think to yourself,

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man, how can we talking about them? You know, I mean, like, there's something different about

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sort of they do, they can just say,

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you know, what you're really thinking? I don't think that all that as you're planning into it. You know, I know that they did such a thing one time. But the repetition of would you like someone to do that to you? Would you

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otherwise, this jealousy, at least jealousy against the human being so we

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did.

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The angels

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Don't be like a nice Johnson.

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He said that one of the one of the major sins or one of the major sources of the nuts is jealousy.

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into situations.

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Man who his wife was added to his mother to the system, to a certain point.

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When you are jealous of someone's righteousness, well, someone's got a lot of knowledge in Islam, someone who's got is able to read the Quran or someone is able to give me a nice lecture. I don't think most people are just this type of jealousy, this is not a bad jealousy, the jealousy were inside of you, you want to be better than them. But at the same time, you're happy for what they have. So you actually praised it inside of yourself.

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You're jealous of that person to a lot of the angels were jealous of that.

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But in the proper way.

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Another very be showing off. And this is similar to the jealousy you want to show some images somewhere else, you want to show yourself off.

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So we're sitting in a gathering for example, and getting someone says, Well, that's such a person is very knowledgeable and you say, you know, the other day you know, I've got it recorded here on this team. You know, I've heard them say such a thing especially so then go around saying he's knowledgeable,

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knowledgeable.

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He has got good influence.

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In you sitting in a group, right? And everybody starts gossiping and entertaining themselves with discussing. You feel that you're a stranger that you think man

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they're gonna look at me as something different so you feel like you want to fit in so you fit we start gossiping like them, just just for the sake of fitting in.

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If you were to follow them around

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jority of the people on earth, they will leave you a string

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of money. And most of them are lost my data says they are not believers. So if you want to follow my journey of hitting the ellipses,

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the people, then he'll be gathered with them. And David, what do you want more than that?

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Another reason why people like to gossip,

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especially people who consider themselves practicing,

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you see a person doing his thing, so you get angry? Why is he doing this? Let's start talking about

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I'm sick and tired of seeing, you know, people don't see such a person the other day be missing?

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Everything or respected.

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mistakes, are you free?

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You should rather than take them aside and advise them in the proper way.

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reason why I want to advise you like this because I care for you. And you say nice words. Why should you go and gossip and consider yourself religious and practicing by doing that, okay, it's good to get angry. When you see it, passing by you gossiping is the biggest thing.

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You don't see me as someone talks about you.

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And you're not free of sins.

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processes is limited to them, the way you treat us the way you're gonna get treated. Another motive is just plain boredom and entertainment. So entertain yourself, you're in a boat, you're you're bored. You think the most entertaining thing is quite common. As we all get together, and they both talk about people, family gets together, they both talk about that they can come together and have a dinner or a barbecue amongst the family. Talk about your auntie and your and your uncle, son and your first cousin and so on. So

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this is one of the bad news is boredom is one of can you

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make an alternative and read the talk about many things you can do.

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And some people like to gossip about other brothers and sisters good effort. You see someone, a group of sisters or brothers who have initiating an activity or a project going ahead with making Tao for example, you sit down and you think, well, you're not doing anything. So what do you do you try

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to gossip about it. Often this is done over here, when you see someone doing a good work and you just want to ruin it just for the sake of ruining them, you're jealous of them.

00:47:45--> 00:47:50

Rather than assisting them rather than gossiping about them and defend the system you

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help each other on doing good to others and hearing along and do not assist and help each other on that since

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anonymity and starting wars with others.

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And disobeying the messenger.

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Some of the causes why people get find themselves gossiping is number one, the debt company you might have a bad company or when a person is a bad company, they begin to inherit their traits. Number two, lack of knowledge or lack of care to what Allah has to say, You're not your GM. You know, like some people they think that gossiping is true about another person you're allowed to say that's like acknowledge some people they know what's going on but they're just sick and tired of all the rules have a last minute dad said that he was in a loss rules. Major similar.

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Or another cause is the environment you live in while you're brought up in a family that you inherit that trait or your parents or the elders. You know, they talk in front of you saying inherit as you're young. You have to reestablish your inner and being conscious and aware of yourself and say these a bit honest avoid that.

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He's advised his father and avoided the worshipping of statues. Now here are some excuses that people get when you cast someone on the spot. You're sitting in the middle.

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So

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what do they use? They say? Well, he spoke about me

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not did not meet a scene with another scene. What should you do if he if he

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or if he calls himself to be punished in an era What do you wanna

00:49:54--> 00:49:58

upset? What do you want to still accompany them in the hereafter

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What is expected?

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Because I've given you if you believe in

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another excuse to use, we're just having fun, man. Thank you seriously, it's not just having fun. Having fun, you know how many people have had fun and cause

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cause

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divorces between husband and wife?

00:50:23--> 00:50:25

children running away from homes, because

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a person may say a word, not caring about it will make it fun to help by 70 seasons.

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Some other excuses.

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He's

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talking about

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face

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to face.

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So

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yeah, if you say to his face,

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don't say to his face, but

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if you're so courageous,

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so it's contradictory. I'll say to his face

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to us, because when you know we've shared with you

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another one is just my brother, my sister. So my mother and

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my sister in law, they have a stronger bond than the no brothers or sisters in Islam. So why should you

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ruin their reputation? borrow yours. As one of my uncle's gave me this example. He said, Look, when you go family, it's like putting your head up. And it's being

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what is the speaker that

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comes back into your office?

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Some of them may say I was just a kid. When

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children were

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exempt you from gossiping. That's when you said gossip.

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Especially the children was about the kids. You know, sometimes when you go through about the kids, the parents take offense it's as if you're talking about the mother or father.

00:52:09--> 00:52:13

Look after his face his or her cute. So if you're saying how cute mother

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the mother is gonna take offense and she's gonna hate you.

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Another excuse to use

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anything else just listening?

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listening,

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listening is part of it. That means you're not going to do anything about it if you don't like or you're not a part of it.

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What is our duty for Islam? My brothers and sisters our duty number one if we hear a person who is gossiping is to want the gossip of the command of a law and the punishment of a law we must you're in a group you have to speak out when

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you said to them yeah, this is how wrong you

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know you then you have to defend that

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many good things about it and

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then you must leave the gathering.

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You have to leave the governance of the guy into a different discussion altogether. This is a must they what do you do about someone in the past number one, you have to try to ask them for forgiveness. Now if you are unable to ask them for if you think that this is gonna escalate things even more than the scholars have said that you must undo the harm which you have done. First of all,

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I said what I said is not right. And you should start to build the reputation of the person who knew victimized so you will say good things about them, which inshallah should cover up what you have done.

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Lastly, as I conclude with this, please pay attention before the oven.

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What kind of gossip is permitted in Islam?

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What kind of gossip is permitted in Islam?

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There are seven and some schools put them into six

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put them into seven

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and this is what I read from him.

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Number one, the first

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permission where it is allowed for us

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to back by someone else, not absorb that but talk about them in behind their backs. Does something which is true

00:54:39--> 00:54:41

is when you are seeking

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and you come to the scholar and by the way when you're seeking

00:54:50--> 00:54:54

any person. This is specifically to the scholar.

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Also the person injured with knowledge can go and tell other people and the person in jail

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Knowledge. And you asked me for example, what if a person did this to me? What should I do?

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here give you a general answer, you might want to have a specific answer that relates to family. So you say my father, or my brother or my son, he did such a thing. Here you are. But you must understand your intention is for what is not. your intention is in order to reconcile and to solve a meta islamically. For example, the other day a brother said to me, brother, look, you know, my father is forcing me to go to the bank to consumer, but what am I to do?

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So in order to get closer to a lot, this is why gossiping with a FERPA is allowed. That's why, number two, identity,

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identity, you forget a person's name, and you want to say something good about them. So you come to your friend, you say brother, is his brother his, he says something really good? What's his name? What's his name? I can't remember his name. But you might know him. He's the person that lives a bit, you know, lives has a bit of a limp, you've got to go. But this type of gossip is allowed to stand because your intention is to just identify, and you say loosely, for the person who has a problem with this, either, you know, or the brother who is a bit bold, here. Now, he uses these expressions loosely and carefully. And just so that the person will know who you're talking about,

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in necessity, you have to be careful.

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You're allowed to gossip in marriage purposes?

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Yeah, you want to get married to a certain sister or a certain brother.

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You want to know some things about them? Because obviously, you're going to go into a life with them. So you go to somebody now, who do you go to their specific people, you're only allowed to go with someone who is related to this situation, someone who is involved without exaggerating the gossip, and without using it as an opportunity for you to get back at someone. So you're left to govern?

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That person can tell you, for example, well, you know, I'm thinking about a certain sister for marriage. Brother, I heard that you or sister, I heard that she might know some things about it. And she says or he says, For example, well, you know, look, what I know about them is that, you know, they, they smoke, or they, you know, they go out to parties, or you know, they watch certain magazines or something like that, you know, or they lie and you're allowed to say these things, but you're not allowed to exaggerate them. You have to be careful with that.

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Now, another type of way permissible is when you are talking about an open singer, and he's somebody who does the

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smokes in open drinks in open swears in open.

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Careful not a sinner in secret.

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Everybody says

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is the one who was just exposed himself.

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people that come and shut us off in front of their friends. They say you know what, man, the other day I went out with this girl and we did this and we did that.

00:58:10--> 00:58:44

It feels like he's a man that has done something courageous or something. But really, it's just defend himself and he's an open sinner. This is especially when you want to warn someone from walking with this particular person, you know, such a person goes out to nightclubs Well, you know, person has got a very bad habit, which is, you know, he usually doesn't so you want to warn that particular person and you can put that as another another reason but I've now included in his open signatures and you want a one to one back from walking with the person with me because I think

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he likes going out with gills he likes talking here. He likes new drinks, you know what I mean? So now to do something like that open

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when you want to one you you know something specific about that person it's a you know, a certain scene which he does as a habit, probably not people don't know. But you have to come up to that and and warn him for example, say bad, I know you're accompanying him, but I fear that you might carry this trait. This person gossips a lot for example, then be careful. You want to want someone from a business partnership.

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Over here wants to go to a certain person and I know him, he comes up to me said brother, look, I want to go into partnership with him. What do you think? Is he an honest person? Is he a person who I can deal with? And I'm allowed to tell him Look, brother, he is a good and honest person to say brother, he's known to be a dishonest person. So avoiding and this is allowed over here. And lastly,

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one who is serving the public Muslims or whatever, and he betrays or she betrays their duty.

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For example, you know, you're employed by someone and you serve the public, you have a particular duty and you're not doing your duty.

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Then you're allowed to gossip about

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But

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not just any person. He goes to the authority that people have employed in for example, or to the authority. Or for example, you see your brother or your sister doing something haram or whatever and you need to tell someone tell your father because he's in authority, tell your mother she's in authority

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and spread it around you make sure you tell someone who can do something about it because your intention is not to ruin his reputation, but your intention is to make them better people. So you thought the right way

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is understood brothers and sisters The time has now come in. So he shot a lot of stuff here. I don't like opening the floor for questions and answers.

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And

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I'd rather leave that for you to ask people with greater knowledge inshallah for Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh