The First Woman to hold Prophet SAWs

Bilal Assad

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Mohammed hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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It's a pleasure for me to be here in front of these wonderful faces. I asked our last panel Tyler, to fill them with light in this world and in the next, brothers and sisters in Islam. One of my favorite places to be is to talk to youth. This is my area. And

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I don't think the youth of Malaysia are very different to the youth of Melbourne of Australia. I think humbler youth is youth.

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So I think inshallah, as I address you, I think I'm talking to the same type of youth I always talk to anywhere else in the world inshallah.

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Brothers and sisters in Islam.

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As I'm speaking, I may use some Aussie slang words. I'm sorry, if some of these words may not may confuse some of you. I've had times where I've used words in English, where they could be not very understood by people. So put your hand up afterwards or during the token shell and just ask me, can you please clarify? Brother, can you please clarify this? What do you mean by that?

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I've been asked to talk to you about companions around Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam.

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But they asked me to focus on women. So habia for a change. What do you think? Okay, brothers, it's okay in sha Allah. Allah will talk about the Sahaba yet.

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And every now and then we may bring a Sahabi men into it young young boy, because we're talking about youth, such as unnecessarily Allahu anhu, such as Abdullah in a bass or alley or the lavon.

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We have these were very young people. And just before I start, let me see what you do know. So when we say someone like Abdullah bin I bet so we say someone like nS? What age do you think they will when we talk about them? put their hand up and tell me what age do you think they were?

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When all these stories we hear about our beloved neighbors and nomadic and the Hollywood Ilana? Well, Alia Dylan became a Hollywood later on, but when we specifically talk about these two, how old do you think they were?

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Now

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17 years old, maybe 17 See that? It's actually not. They were 11 years old. When Toma Anna saw the law and he was 11 years old. The stories we hear about him that Hadith he narrates to us 1112 years old.

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And he was with Rasul assassin from about 10 years old to about 1314 of the live not best, we're talking about 11 years old. These youngsters when we talk about them, they were telling us the stories about withdrawal sort of loss, and they were about 1112 1314 years old. Savannah, we have so much about them at that age

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Sahaba yet, we're also like that, so heavy, that means the female companions now Sahabi and a Sahaba. Just see understand. They're people who met Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. They believed in it also lice Allah send me a message, and what's the third condition?

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So they died on that belief just psychologically. So they died on that belief, because some of them actually left Islam. We don't call them Sahaba as Harborough Susana, those who met him believed in him and what died on that message.

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I thought about what Sahaba to talk to you about.

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And I want to talk about someone who's close to my own heart, someone personal to me,

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that I enjoyed reading about and talking about, I don't know if she would interest most of you here. Or her story would be as inspiring as it was for me. But I think insha Allah, it's someone whom you don't often read about.

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I don't know if you've heard about this particular Sahaba. Her nickname is Baraka Has anyone heard of that name before? Baraka

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Baraka de la Honda. Now,

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how about on what a man

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you've heard of the name on what a man but do we know whom what a man is? We know what a man is. Who wants to have a guess? Give me something about on what Amen.

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Mistress No, not mistress.

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Nice nice train

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anyone else on what a man

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now

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Who am I talking to their brothers moving his mouth and I can disappear Arthur is talking to me khandala What is it?

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Okay, we'll stop there inshallah there's something like that. You're getting high marks at university, aren't you?

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My brothers and sisters in Islam the story I want to bring to you today in sha Allah, and we'll rotate around it with other things that happened around her a little bit after her Her name is known as Baraka. Later on known as Omar Ayman. The name Baraka is the only name we know of her. We don't know any other name. And so Pamela, it brings great sorrow to me that the Syrah books don't emphasize a lot about her.

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And we don't hear missionaries and diet speaking about her too much. A lot of us don't know much about her. But if I were to ask you this question, would you like to hear about the first person in the entire universe? Who physically touched Rasulullah sasana. Before anyone else? You would say yes, who is the one who touched our solar cell and before anyone else on the face of the earth, she is Baraka. She is the first one to lay hands on Rasulullah saw Selim when he was born.

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So let's tell us the story of this woman. Baraka, the woman of Jenna.

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She was an Ethiopian lady. Her origin is Ethiopian habashi, like Bella rhodiola, one, except that Bella was known to be benign. If Nora

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Baraka was not no been to do. We don't even know who our parents were. We don't know who our ancestors were. We don't know anything about her except she doesn't even know anything about herself about her lineage. SubhanAllah. She is Baraka and later on, known as a man from Russia from Ethiopia. That's it. So she came from hundreds of years of slavery

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through our ancestors, to the point where she doesn't know her lineage. In one time, she was bought in the market, by who, by Abdullah, the father of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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Abdullah, and you know, for someone to be bought, in those days, slavery was universal, so they don't get confused. We don't have much of it today. But in those days, what is universal, the Romans, the Persians, the Arabs, all of them practice there was slavery everywhere, they could not free them. If they freed them, there will be a an epidemic of public property happening. Slaves would have been killed, taken, raped, pillaged, so they could have freed them. But the slavery was there, and slaves themselves couldn't free themselves, they didn't know where to go, they were afraid. The only way slaves could survive and meet and and eat and drink and look after the children

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was to be slaves to be bought and sold in the market. Unfortunately, this wasn't ever This was throughout the world. But so panela for a slave to end up with a man such as the father of Muhammad Messiah send them a quarter she has she may, one of the best families known to the Arab world. Surely Baraka would have been a very special woman. From the point when she was bought in the market. She was an extremely special woman, someone that was so dear to Allah subhanho wa Taala. But among the public till today, unfortunately, not very popular.

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So I've de la bought her. She was only about nine or 10 years old. Not more than that. She was a child. My daughter is now eight years old. So she's a child, nine years old, 10 years old estimate, because didn't even know the actual age of children that time. estimated to be nine or 10 years old. She was bought by Abdullah

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Abdullah

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Abdullah muttalib was extremely generous, full of, you know, manners, very kind. He looked after Baraka as if she was his daughter, and me and I've been to what have the mother of Mohammed Salah Salem. She looked after her as if she was her daughter,

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literally.

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And Baraka loved the company of the family of Muhammad sallahu wa sallam, intensely. She didn't want to leave them. It was paradise for her. She loved Abdullah and loved Amina, more than what she almost loved herself. And in those days the rule was, if there was a slave of the family she became any any other member can her mom as well.

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So she can shake hands with Abdullah she could be in the same room and take off her hijab in front of him when she became Muslim if she was if he was at that time.

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So Baraka Nell was in the household of the family of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she was the first slave of the family of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, and the only one.

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They offered to free her, but she refused. She wanted to stay among them, serving them and be among their families, Where will I go? Who can I find better than you help another guy after myself, I'd rather be among you and everybody know that you own me, you are my masters. I'm happy to do that. You've got to take yourself 1400 years ago to understand that, okay, but this was a privilege.

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So Baraka was raised among them.

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There's one thing to note about Baraka or the other one.

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She was, she had this book.

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And this was something that assassin later on said, among the people that fear a lot and believe in the hereafter are the ones who say, only the necessary words, something that is good or they are silent. Baraka had this trait before salasar. Selim even taught the people that before he was born.

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She was also extremely optimistic. Anything that happened, she always interpreted in a good way.

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When you're afraid, she was the one to make you feel peaceful. And me and I've been to one could not need anyone more than Subhanallah Baraka in her life. What happened? We all know the story of Abdullah. He just became married. So he had bought Baraka and he married Amina, and she came into the family

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only in about a few months, and in a row, the last one. I mean, I've been to what she became pregnant. And she saw a dream.

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She saw a dream as the sunlight nor was emanating coming out of her belly out of her abdomen. And it lighted up the city of Mecca, all the way to Iraq.

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So she woke up and the first person she came to was who, not her husband, Baraka.

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She said,

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Come here, I've seen this dream. It lighted up throughout Makkah, although it should have been Iraq, Basra, what do you think this is? And Baraka? His first words were this she smiled and put her hand on her shoulder, saying to her, yeah, Amina Mum, just to call her mother. Yeah, I mean, and my mother

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actually have good tidings. This is a sign from above the heavens, you have someone important inside of you,

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the first woman to make this beshara to make this good news, the first woman to work it out, in fact, the first person on the face of the earth to work out that there is an important man, more beloved and more special than anyone on the face of the earth to come out. Now we all know that the first person to make this beshara was probably Abdulmutallab his grandfather, she said, hyden cape is this dream a secret? Don't tell anyone, for the people knew they'll start getting jealous and probably plot for him. He knew the people of Mecca. But Baraka knew this before, even after mythology, and a lot of the industry. Apparently, in this era, we fail to find this, that Baraka is

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the first woman to recognize this and interpret this.

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And I've looked at it when he found out the grandfather, he said to me, and I keep it a secret, don't even tell your family except your husband and don't tell your extended family. Yet Baraka knew, and he didn't care that but I knew because Baraka was also a woman who kept secrets, as we said, very short tongue.

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One thing about Baraka to the lohana she was not a very attractive girl.

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She wasn't one of those who everybody looked at and said, well, her lineage was unknown as well. Another downside to the people in those days not a downside to us. a downside to the culture of the people of McKeon Who is this yet look at her status with Allah.

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Then came the day, when Abdullah the father of Muhammad SAW Selim was migrate when he was on an expedition going to Syria on a business trade, we know the story.

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On his way back,

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close to Syria, Abdullah died.

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And when the news came to us and looked at it, he became very sorrowful, very sad. If you know the story of of the muttalib, and how many camels he had to slaughter in order to break his vow when you made a vow that he will slaughter his last son, for the gods and all of that stuff. You know, there's a big story about that. He sacrificed 100 camels to save his son because of a pledge he made this up the line He was the youngest, so he was the most beloved and closest to the metallic so the grief of the McDonald was amazing. Now can you imagine ammunition

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His wife, she was left alone widowed, not knowing, not seeing her husband died far away in the Syria and she's pregnant. And she's sick already with the pregnancy hearing about her husband of the law dying. She was grieved for more than two months straight. Lucky she didn't. She didn't lose a child. Usually a woman within a first trimester the sisters will know. In the first trimester, first three months. It's most critical stage. A woman if she is depressed or in anxiety, or she is stressed out, she can lose a baby immediately.

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Yeah, I mean, I went through this extreme depression and sadness, yet so panela her baby only grew stronger. In fact, it made her strong, who was there for her? Baraka Baraka was there at the time of very extreme depression. She could have not gone through it without Baraka being there. So she was a therapist beyond any therapist today. Emotional therapist, psychological therapist, a therapist for anxiety, a therapist for depression, a very simple woman who understood how to give therapy to people to make them a common ease and at ease.

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She didn't Big Bucks today, what is she big therapist today because of the epidemic of depression epidemic, we have an anxiety that we have around the world today. So Baraka said to her calm down, one law he, this dream that you had, remember, it is only good news, Allah is with you. They knew who Allah was, they worship Allah but they worshiped alongside of them, idols. You know, the idols. They used to say we don't worship the idols, but they bring us closer to Allah. Didn't I say that? So they didn't really take the idols as the God but they were the gateway to God. So they really worship the Lord that through Schick and Baraka said, Allah has a plan for you. This is what calmed

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her down. No one else said this except Barack Obama.

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Baraka nurtured her

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until the day came about a month before her birth, the birth of Amazon seller. Amina wanted to visit the grave of her husband to that point, she couldn't live peacefully until she visited the grave of her husband. That's how much love she had for him. And the romance between Amina and Abdullah is another story as well.

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So she said to Baraka, I want you to come with me, you're my only person that gives me calmness. I would like you to come with me and go with us too. I want to go to visit my husband's grave. She set off with her now Barack at this age was probably the see the historians say about 14 years old, maybe 13 or 14.

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And Amina is over 20, close to 30 years old. A 1314 year old these days is a teenager who we call a breath. We say their breaths because I teach you nines. When we get to the nines, you know the 1314 will lie, as they say in Arabic 11 What am I good lord Miko in yoga, they say it's a it's the same we say no that I get stressed out. So 1314 years old. Look how much wisdom and how much comfort she gave to a person who was nearly 30 a pregnant lady better than any nurse or midwife. She visited Abdullah's grave, and on her way back in a place called agua. A little bit of a distance from Medina. And I've been to what have became ill.

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And she sat inside rented they rented a hut a little small place. And Amina began to become Ella and deal

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now

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I think

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I jumped the story a little bit, so I'm going to go back

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Pulp Fiction.

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Before that came, she had given birth to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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And when she gave birth to Rasulullah sallallahu sallam,

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Baraka was the midwife of Amina. There was no one else.

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She gave birth to Rasulullah saw Selim Baraka carried Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Baraka cut. I'm sorry, there was no umbilical cord. She took her salasar sanlam and wrapped him up immediately

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and placed him onto his mother Amina to suckle

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Baraka was the first one to lay eyes on Rasulullah saw Salah the first one to touch him. The first one to see to smile to him. The first one to make the following comment. Oh Amina one law he he is more beautiful than the moon. Allahu Akbar. Yeah, I mean, I told you your dream has come true.

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He is more beautiful than the moon and Arab statement to say that he is unbelievably beautiful, vibrant, full of light radiant.

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So the first one to complement the beauty of Rasulullah Sasson.

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Amina, obviously also asylum was given to Halima to Saudi Arabia. She looked after him. And then Baraka was there with me now looking after her. After two years, Ross was asanam was returned. And Baraka nurtured and raised Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, until salasar sanlam felt as though he had two mothers, his real mother Amina, and his second mother, Baraka, but obviously in his life in her lifetime, he did not call Baraka his mother. He called Amina his mother, but he treated better like his mother.

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Time passed and there are solar cell and became six years old. Six narosa cell and being six years old is not like the other six year old children that you hear about six years old was like a 20 year old, he remembered everything. He recalled everything you tell him something, he would recall it he understands the wisdom behind it, he understood it on a deeper level. So the law he was setting them he was known like that even before he became a prophet.

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That's when the story came when I mean I wanted to go and visit the grave of Abdullah so they went to Syria on the way back in Alabama, I'm in Alabama rhodiola Amina, we don't say Ilana Allahu Allah if she was included in part of gender or not, that's a controversy on the Allah knows best. But Amina, she became ill in a lab and she brought Baraka towards him. She said to her yeah Baraka

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I'm about to pass away, about to die. I entrust Mohammed to you, solo send them be to Him a mother, the way I was and better for Allah I do not trust anyone else can carry this role. So Amina so batoka took Rasul Allah saw Selim, held him tightly and began to cry, but also less hassle and looked at burkas face and when he noticed she was crying. He knew it was bad news. He looked at his mother would look at Baraka, look back at his mother. This is exactly the detail though the historians narrated, looked at Baraka looked at his mother, and he knew something was wrong.

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And then he began to cry sallallahu wasallam at the age tender age of six years old, knowing that his mother was going to die.

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The second day came and am in a scepter Baraka bring Mohammed Timmy Salaam

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and she was taking her last breaths. She whispered something into the ear of Baraka and said to her, something which made her cry immensely, which was I'm dying.

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brucellosis lm is looking at his mother

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and a six year old child sees before his eyes, his mother take her last breaths. She died in front of Rossville ally, Sasson.

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Baraka began to cry heavily. And what it also Lhasa seldom saw her cry, he burst into tears.

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And he threw himself onto the chest of his mother

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tongue in detail. He threw himself onto the chest of his mother, and he wrapped his arms around her neck tightly. He placed his cheek on her cheek tightly, and he began to cry heavily, saying, amen. Amen.

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Then, after a long while, he looked at Baraka and Baraka hugged him tightly.

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And he began from that day calling her

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homi Bhabha, only he called Baraka, my mother, after my mother.

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Brothers and sisters, can you imagine with me,

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a six year old child, witnessing his mother's death before his eyes, he never saw his father.

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He was a team and often true often.

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And now he's interested to a woman

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whose lineage is unknown,

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whose name is unknown except for Baraka, the generous but accompanies blessing.

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And she was the slave of his family. She now becomes the mother of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Who is this woman?

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How great is she's upon a lot for a lot of choose her. This is planned out 1000s of years ago, planned out and Rasulullah saw Selim is only 60 think how much you will remember of this.

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Well, let me take you a few decades after that, but also as a sudden, remember this moment Subhan Allah even until he was about 50 something years old, when he was coming to Medina, and he went past the grave in Alabama. He sat down at his grave, and he began to cry and armor the loved one who saw him. He said the mayor of KKR Sula, Laura McCullough had this not an app came out.

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What's making you cry Ursula, tell us so that we might cry with you. And he said at the Drona cobraman had, Do you know whose grave This is? They said a lot of sort of Ireland. He said her the club Romana become this is the grave of the mother of your prophet does occur to Hannah, if you Sorry. I remembered and recalled her kindness towards me when I was a child,

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sort of solo assassin and remembers so at six years old, she dies. He remembers her Hannah and Her empathy, her kindness before he was even six.

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up to the age when he was 50 something years old, and he's remembering crying, I remembered her hand and upon me, I asked the loss of Hannah who wants

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to play some piano, and he did not respond to me.

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And some olema that go with this saying that if this hadith is authentic, then this is evidence that the parents of Rasulullah saw Salam died on ship while lava. But also xlm is crying, remembering, even with that her empathy and her kindness when he was a child. So my brothers and sisters that death before his eyes was intense, was intense.

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Baraka then, with roswaal cinnamon raised him. Now she was like a mother, and those who describe the relationship is kind of a funny one. It's like this child who speaks to his mother like a friend. He used to joke with her she used to joke with him lightheartedly to the point where he became 25 years old, and he married a diva rhodiola Juana

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Baraka is with ressource Assalam in his house, right up to the age of 25. He went with them from there to Abu Talib, and Baraka is with him all the way every step of the way. His sleeping, his bathing is

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going and coming. His words is everything. Baraka was there. I don't think anyone anyone in the life of Rasulullah saw seldom spent more time and so more of a source arsons childhood and adulthood to death than berkadia lohana. yet so Pamela we don't hear about her much. At the age of 25 Rasulullah saw Selim became married to Khadija for the loved one. And the first thing he did on the first night, he went to hadiza. Donna's house, because she is the one who gave him the law on her. She was more wealthier, she was wealthier than him and she is the one who gave her a sauce asylum to live with her in her house is a big story to that. So panel. And then he said to Baraka, he said to

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hadisha I want to introduce you to someone very special to me. He called Baraka in and she says she said that this Khadija and he said to her, deja, this is Baraka. Yeah. Khadija in homi Bhabha on me, she is my mother after my mother.

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And he said to her, yeah Baraka, I am now married. You are unmarried. It's time for you to get married. And Hades Rhonda said to her Yeah, Veronica, it's true. Well, I have the best men for you who lives in your three in Medina. There was still in Mecca that time in Medina.

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If you want, I will spend and pay for your lawn. I will spend them pay for your wedding and everything that you need, because the man is not very well off.

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She said they are a solo law. Well, at that time he became broadsword. Baraka was among the first to embrace Islam,

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which means she was the first among the slaves to embrace Islam. How do you sort of Yolanda was the first among the women to embrace Islam, Abubakar Yolanda the first among the men and Holly delana first the first among the children, the boys for them or their loved one, the first among the gills barraca the first among the slaves? She said the Rasul Allah will law cannot be leaving you and going away How can I get married and leave you I need to look after you for services and I'm said no yoga, I cannot be a living without you being married, you have desires you have, you know your needs as well. You must get married. And this is the way to source arson and tourists, young people who

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every view is able to get married, then get married, able to look after a film especially the men more on the men who are able to look after a family then get married and a last pantalla will assist you will having this discussion with our ship before a certain spot on when we when I decided to get married and they had a little bit of money. And when we made that decision our last panel Diana brought Pamela blessings to us from places with least expected as Allah says he akuna fukuro him along with foreplay. If you are poor, Allah will give you blessings and provision from himself. So then she went to married this man I forgot his name from Medina and Allah gave her a child named

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Amen. And so she was known as on what a man and woman lived.

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Double aim for about two years, and he died in a battle. So she became widowed again. Back to the house of Rasulullah saw Salah, but this time with a child, Amen. And amen was a child raised in the household of Rasul assassin and so he was among the young Sahaba is a member of the law one time passed, and also was assigned and made hijra to Medina and there was his adopted formally adopted sons eight we all know about zeta Dylan and other young men. He had been married to Zane a bit to Josh that's what her name was. And then it didn't work out they became divorced and later on rustlers and married her big story to that and they became a single man.

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So one day I saw Sam was sitting with his young companions, very young, the between your ages similar to your ages, and say, let alone who would have wouldn't have been more than 25 years old at that time, maybe even less, early 20s barraca at that time, would have been close to her 40s mid 30s.

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On top of that, a widow. On top of that, her lineage is unknown on top of that, not very attractive at that time, it physically. She entered resources and and called her in she entered he said something to her and she left. Then he said to the people who wants to marry a woman of gender, of paradise. They all put their hands up, mira Salalah, she's a woman of gender.

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That means she will take me with an agenda.

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A woman agenda must have an amazing character. I'll have a beautiful life with a nice life. I'll be happy forever. I'll have gentlemen on earth and gentlemen here after

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he said good. She is my mother after my mother. All the hands went down.

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Nobody wanted to marry her. So panel.

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That is aid, or the law no kept his hand up. He said they are also Lola. I will marry her.

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Should you marry a woman of Paradise who said no one but her jasola. Close in his mid 20s. She is in her mid 30s. He didn't care about that. What he was looking for is the man the character and surely a soul assassin and would not recommend someone unless she is something amazing.

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So panela this these are the first qualities we look for. And it also was Assalam did say about the you know the beauty said about wealth and said about lineage. But the first and foremost is Hewerdine. That's the basis. This is the woman who makes you live a beautiful life. And the man who feels Allah will never oppressed his wife. These are the two people so she married say that their loved one and from him came Kusama and her and so she had her son Osama It was a lot they loved one another young companion like ns and like our beloved bass and like a man and the rest.

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She grew up probably a lot one her

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and she was one of the people of paradise. She went on battles with Russell wasallam there was a time when she was she she loved the battle so much rather she wanted to, you know, inspire and motivate the companions so she used to try her best to stand up and please rustlers as you want to make them happy. So one time she stood up and she said some a sentence in Arabic, telling them march towards the enemy and don't look back, be brave. And the way she said it. She put the grammar backwards back to front in Arabic. Baraka didn't speak Arabic very well. She was a habashi and rustlers. Assalam when you heard that he laughed, he said, he laughed, and he said, Yeah, man,

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Baraka scuti Farina cathro Listen, be quiet. You don't know how to talk. They will not talk about the relationship between them. And Baraka was like that. scooty Be quiet. You don't know how to talk.

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Embarrassing the way you're talking. So and she'd laugh she said, Come on, get out of here. That's the relationship. So Pamela Rasulullah saw Sal and died and Baraka was still alive. When he died, they found her crying immensely. Who wouldn't? But then I approached I think was I've worked on the saying Yeah, Baraka Tsubasa cinemas engine, you're crying and you knew that our last panel is going to take him away his mission has ended. Your meeting with him is in hold inshallah. She said to him what law here I'm not crying about the death of Rasulullah saw Salaam I know that he has died. I knew that he is with a lot and we shall all die. I'm a believer in that. But the reason I am crying

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is because the way he used to come down frequently. And now I know that there is no more way from between the heavens and the earth. This is what I'm crying about. So her Eman was high.

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But a Corolla won her lift in the center for Abubakar de la one, the Center for of Amara de la one and the senior favelas Nando de la one. She lived on safari.

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Allah and zadara the low one who died and she lived on as a widow. The last husband was eight. She never married anyone after him. That was Baraka of the Allah Juana, who died at the cleanup of Earth, metal the lawn and don't hear much about a therapist. A person who loved us was our solemn, one full of MN, optimistic, the one whom the family of Rasulullah saw Sandman could not live without, and the one whom Rasulullah saw seldom found comfort with after the death of autolytic, Khadija and the other people around him my brothers and sisters in Islam. This is one story which I wanted to bring to your attention to point out the following number one, the merit of a person is

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not based on their lineage, or their color, or their status in society, or their wealth.

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For we don't even know her name except Baraka and Omar Iman, we don't know her lineage, and she wasn't physically very attractive. Number two, the merit of a person does not have to be known and become popular. Your marriages with a loss of Hannah who were tired, and Baraka was one of those who only cared what Allah subhana wa Taala saw of her and her marriage with him subhana wa Tada. Number three, Ria showing off our good deeds. Baraka was one of those who did not show off her good deeds, she did not care whether people saw her or didn't see her. Number four very importantly, a short tongue, she only spoke was necessary and that which benefited for us as a losses in the court and

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law higher efficacy in

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many of your conversations. Many of them are non beneficial in law, except of sadhaka here means anything that you possess and you give, when you're not obliged doesn't mean only money, the things that we speak with the smile that we give, the service that we give is all called sadhaka. And Baraka was one of those, my brothers and sisters in Islam. This is the story I had for you, I hope in sha Allah, you can go away with something to talk to your family about inshallah, and teach your children about how Islam puts merit to the people who are not popular and we don't go after popularity, and how Islam rises and raises people who are not very well known in the community, but

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their actions and their merit to Allah subhana wa Taala is what means everything to us, just below here. Salahuddin ebina Mohammed, violet and he was off the edge May.

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How to question

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brothers and sisters in Islam, Salaam Alaikum once again

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now inshallah I'll try to answer all your questions.

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But if I don't know the answer, I'll say I don't know.

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Finish although we have some time we don't want to drag on too much you probably don't want to tell you

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they're excited that's what we do all the time. We love talking and getting together catching up to things so this is a question it says cinematic wanting to set out other people who died before Islam revealed to Amazon said lamb will antigen meaning he did.

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Everybody who died before the time cross was I don't

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know whether they will enter general revealed though enter agenda or not? Well, some of them were according to the holidays that we hear about. And not all of them.

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So not all the people were a filter or some of them will enter Paradise or enter help.

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But he did mention

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someone by the name of Nova.

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He said if I lived

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to see that they were the people of this man hamazon

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or

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this one.

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So one of them is what a covenant often when Rasul bosasa lamb was still

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in his 20s Khadija domanda took it to him, took him to him. And he said if I were to live to the day when the people your people, expel you from Makkah, I will be the first to support you. And rustlers SLM said that he is in jail now because he was a monotheists to follow the religion of Ibrahima.

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SLM, there's only a few people also wassalam knew about. But there is another Hadith I'm not sure if it's authentication. One man stood up windows salasar salaam was giving I'm just giving an example he was giving a long cultiva because people asked too many questions. They asked and asked the NASA estate from Fisher until I share talking about everything that will ever be. And people are asking him, one man stood up and said there are so law is my father in gender. He died ninja Hillier, and he said, your father and my father in our engine and marine Hellfire, for example. So it also was asanam was revealed about some people, but some people who didn't know.

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So this is what I can say about that question in sha Allah.

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How can a youth who lives in an anon Islamic surrounding protect his amen? Good questions upon law, but long answer,

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the advice I can give.

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So

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I know that this is something your parents will tell you all the time. I think marriage plays a big role in helping your Amen.

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But at the same time, you have to maintain your marriage and look after properly, otherwise, your marriage will make your men fly out the window as well.

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So insha Allah, get advice when you want to get married and share along on the process and who to choose but and how to live your life. But marriage helps you a lot. Your university students, most of you, right. And I know the university life. I don't know about Malaysia, but I think it's something the same as universities in general. And when I hear Misha in Saudi Arabia warning about universities and that's in Saudi Arabia, I think Wow, what's left for us? So universities, I know how it is answer panel. I think when you get married,

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you kind of

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pass through university easier for some reason, just don't have children straightaway. Marriage is one way that insha Allah can help you stay close to Allah spent Allah depending on who you choose.

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Look rather than sisters. The basic guidance of rosov salaam helps you anyway, number one, he said

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it doesn't count wherever you are, remember a lot and protect yourself. What this means is that let's say you're out at university or in the street or you're somewhere else where heroin has attracted you this come to you. If you're a person who develops a habit where you have Taqwa of Allah wherever you are, then the next time the next moment you're in the masjid or at home, the taqwa kicks in and share Allah you may still fall. Secondly, the water to Sahib elimina this is something very important. In an anastomotic country or a place where the sunlight and its non Islamic surroundings it is absolutely crucial for you to choose friends who remind you of Allah

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Spano, tala, you walk with them, you go to them, even if they're a bit older, or younger. Have them as your friends and be together. You can't be alone. You can't do it alone. Absolutely not. Especially if you're single. So you need a surrounding you need people who remind you hit you on the head, sometimes when you forget. You hit them on the head when they forget, you need that to those types of friends. So the friends and the company you know this very importantly brothers and sisters see some advices and share a lot. You know, the, you know, the way the good know the curries, right as it does anyone have that book called husband Muslim.

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You have first and Muslim? How many of you use it?

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Like I mean, you really use it.

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I'll tell you how you're going to use it right with an app.

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In Australia, I take students iE 10 students every year to Ramadan. This is one of my duties at the school, we take them to Hong Kong. And I always look out for those exceptional students. I still remember this one young fellow.

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He went past the bookstore and I and I told him this black book here this was it was black. Some of them are orange. He said this book here, you take it and you learn it. And you can always ask God morning night. dotnet Do you want it? He said yes. I said on one condition. I'll buy it for you as a gift. So long as you practice it and you promised you say well, I said well, I will. Now he wasn't very religious before. He skipped his salad. He used to swear a lot. Anyway, when I say swear a lot I meant swearing comes with a package. You swear the people you hang around with also swear the places they go right the swearing people their life. It comes with a package. When it's a habit like

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that does it's not just the words, right? Comes the whole new thing. So I said take this and he took it as we save about 21 days, every morning every night, every evening every afternoon he's holding on with him and then suddenly he's got to miss work. So that's the first sign obviously, obviously man's gonna miss work using it all day all night, Scott. This helps.

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A Muslim and he began to recite and read them now ally two years later

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he comes to the school two years. I saw the book with him it was ripped apart literally ripped apart old and fragment the fragment It was so happy. He kept using this book until he ripped it apart so panela not literally rip that it kept using until it was fell apart. Then the next week after got ripped apart, he had another one. But this time was with a leather cover.

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I said why they said I want it to last me more. He's literally memorized about half of it memory. And these are God's stayed with him brother sisters of God are so vital is so crucial will lie to you, man. It's unbelievable. Unbelievable. Look, I live in Australia. When I came to Malaysia I couldn't, I could already see the size of my own family. My family's with me here. I currently already see the size of them and me just by merely hearing that and then in the mosques in the messages. Having Vicar around you plays an humongous role in your image. And I don't expect that when you do that you're going to go outside and as soon as you see something I don't wanna meet

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something haram that you know you're going to be an angel. No, it's not you're not expected to be perfect don't you get that in your head? Some people they think amen I'm losing my that's good to think that you're losing your Amen. eyeshadow delana was asked at one time who is a woman how do you how can you tell she was an extremely scholarly I showed him and so she said these following words I read them span a lot. These statements I've never heard before she said they're not mean is the one who does not think them.

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And the one who is not Mormon always thinks that they are absolute movements. You know what momentum is not just believe not many men like Allah loves them. They're going to gender No worries. Don't expect yourself to be a woman always. You're a man comes and goes, you're a man is your friend. Sometimes it leaves you when you're in high drama, designs, takeover. But there's something I can tell you if you stick with your God. And you make it a habit. Give yourself about 40 days. Okay, don't worry about the number 40 there's nothing special about it. But somehow even psychologists they use the number 40 3020 bit something like that. 20 and above. You make it I've got to make it a

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habit. It works wonders. Because when you come back you regret badly. Even from the smallest thing you regret it, you cry.

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And you know what Allah says in the Quran? He doesn't say those who are it doesn't. Whenever lzma speaks about momineen he describes something about him. He talks about things they do things that happen to them, he speaks about the emotions and what happens to them. And usually, there are many verses in the Quran Allah mentions the Mothman and sins like they sin they remember a lot after sinning so there's something related to it. He man is not that you become the super being that nothing affects you anymore. No, it does still affect you. That's the whole idea. You're a man comes back hits you hard with your god you remember a lot and you feel so dirty. If you don't feel dirty

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after that then know that your demand is low. But when you feel really dirty, your demand is actually highest and it's the other way around. And you know, Allah says and sort of unfair, he said

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in a minute, Xena either, Loki, Rama zucchero, la, Zoo Kerala, or gelato boom. What either to lead him to again zeker that

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a man wanna be him. metavolcanic Subhan Allah perfect description. Behold, in Nana literally means as a matter of fact, in them as a matter of fact, meaning whatever you were thinking it's wrong. As a matter of fact, the real meaning of these inanimate mineral and as a matter of fact, I mean on the ones who when Vicar of a law is around them, when they remember Allah or someone reminds them of their say, Vicar, something that reminds him what he did Columbo immediately the hearts began to begin to react. They feel guilty, they feel regret, they feel loved, they feel remorse, they feel emotional, they feel anxious, they feel all these things.

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And when our last Verses are recited that a man rises higher, so that means the man was low, the man rises higher and then they rely on the last time. So when you stick to these Vicar, my brothers and sisters, you will always have a backup when you come home you've done since

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you're a man is heightened again and you repent and you make us that far. And he's a beautiful little story. This is a good good question goes long. I'm just going to finish with this. You know, when we talked about Xavier, the Aloha no zayde a young man's a, there's about 1415 at that time, it just reached puberty and I can't control his desires. We always talk about our youngsters and hpbt that they go all over the car, they're not used to themselves they think what's happening to me. So this is a it was working with our source our salon, and with resources. I was another companion and rasulillah

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Solazyme is talking and is looking forward, but with the left with the side of his eye, he can see his aid.

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So it also was as he used to treat the youngster so tenderly. He could see say, from the corner of his eyes, they're walking in a woman past, a woman past and sades eyes went with her.

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Just like this aerosolize with him, you'd think to yourself if Rasulullah was with me, call me flying with the angels, as well as as I was with him and said, He loves us a lot better won't pass this whole manual thing reacts and rosol and kept talking and he moves his feet face back like that. He took another one past his face, we won't go like this and Asana keeps talking and he just moves without a solo looking his walking is talking to his companions. Allah said this, Allah said that, Allah said this, Allah said that and just move his face again and again suddenly. So if you say that they're lined with wrestlers as enemies, the man is up and down because of his desires. But what

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happened? His friend is also law reminding him when he goes back, what did the Sahaba is used to disable Lucha rasulillah? When we're not with you, we feel like we are the worst of the worst. But when we're with you will feel like we're going to geminus straightaway and resource our senses Do you really feel like that? He said,

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You are with those whom you love. We love you so much. And in the sahabas they said well, ah he there was not a better day than that day when he said you will be with those whom you love because we spend so much and we regret with him going to Hellfire but when we love Rasul Allah, inshallah, that's a good title. So what I'm trying to say to you is this, my brother, sisters, Vicar plays a big role, your select will light unbelievable, but the way you got to do solid is you got to mean it. You got to really look after you're gonna love it, you're gonna make it like the way you love your hobbies. This is my solid mine. I'm going to go and pray because it's me, it's mine. And he

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said, You make for yourself like routine, save yourself, you know what, inshallah, tomorrow I'm going to start praying on the time, not in time on time. I'm going to say as soon as that then goes, I'm going to make the one of those who pray on time or you might say to So, you know, I haven't been praying as soon as all the time is 12 Sooners are going to start praying that you make that decision. You see, there's something about you making your own decision. You make your own decision, you decide, come up with an Islamic idea for yourself and do it, say grab the husband Muslim is I'm going to say Subhana Allah, or behind this panel allows him 100 times everyday at Doha, at 9am 10am.

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You make that decision. oxen will be late. It has enormous wonders on your Amen. Enormous wonders on your Amen. Right? Because your heart gets dirty, and it gets cleansed. And you just feel it. You just feel it is in Sydney back in Australia. I said to these brothers, young people I said, Pray at the masjid for 40 nights, 40 days. I just plucked out that number, right? 40 days. I hate my brothers into literature. Now. There was talk about 40 days, 40 days. I said you know what? Maybe there's something cool about it. So I said, Pray for 40 days, further at the masjid. I did that in Lebanon took 20 days, and inshallah after that you will never leave it alone. I came back 25 or 26

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days later to Sydney one brother who said well, ah Hey, brother works. said how it goes, I just do it.

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So do you know you're not you're not wearing a Nike brand? Are you and just do it. You know, like, my jokes are silly. So then this relative 26 days and I'm on a roll until today hasn't left that three years later. What I'm trying to say is this make a decision about something that a lot loves, but you make it and make it very personal and make it a routine. So Pamela you're a man stays with you and keep changing it around. keep changing around and don't feel bad. Like Don't feel bad that your demand is not always at its height. If it goes up and down and you bring it back up with your with your regret, then you have a 900 lead that's the man. That's Amen. As Allah says in the Quran,

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Valentina is the father of certain overland foster homes

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for sale farolito became a US citizen in the law following the Alamo and those are when they do a fashion fashion means dirty, dirty acts.

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The ones that if your wife if you're married, or your father or mother or your brother or sister knew about or someone you respect knew about you would feel like just running away never coming back dirty acts so fair, he showed me his dirty linen in the foul fair, he should have won and won for some or they wronged themselves by doing some things that got a lot you got on your alone, you make thicker. You remember Allah when my mother in law who forgives them, so he man is a company that people who regretted their sins and come back and go. So brothers and sisters, this is kind of a brief, very quick advice I can give you Although there's so much advice, but if you just take this

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bit inshallah, Can I say one more thing I know I haven't got too much time. I have a friend who's a colleague, he taught me something I will never forget. which helped my email a lot. What did he say? He was picking up his son from the kindergarten. I've said this on YouTube. I'm gonna say it again.

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Malaysian style. His brothers picking up his son. I was with him in the car as he was reversed parking reverse parking hit the curb curb in Australia. If you hit the curb while going for your driving license test, you fail. You can hit the curb. So you say he hit the curb and he said a little while ago. He

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said, Yeah, he haven't done anything against the law is just the government system. You know, you've just done something that the government says don't hit the curb. What he's saying is stuff that allow you to Hellfire for. He said to me, Oh, no, no, no, you know, this brother. He said, I don't say stuff a lot of them because I hit the curb. I know it's not a sin. But I say I got myself used to saying something of Vicar whenever I am startled, startled, paranoid startled. Because what do people say when they're startled?

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They usually say what I hear people say is a four letter word starting with an S, you know, or they say an F letter word or some kind of word that's hung around the metro system. However this amazing Imagine you're crossing the Red Sea. This is now your imagination. When the Islamic imagination Imagine you're crossing the road and the trucks coming to hit you. And your last words were a stop for a lot of them and then you die. So you don't have to stop for law thing that can happen can it isn't a sudden deaths.

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So imagine your last words were not like or some other word.

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One brother he died saying, oh, Margaret, this is Gil that he wanted to go out with. So brothers and sisters, we want to say

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we want to say a thoughtful love. We say that a lot. So imagine you get yourself used to a panel. And these are the things that really make you a manager last day with you.

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It says here.

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Yes. So this brothers asking in Arabic, and the Masekela Pharaoh Bulbasaur.

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And this is a problem. A lot of especially the men go through. I have a problem he says with lowering my gaze. And you've just heard the story of Zaid rhodiola Juana, he had a problem with that, too. They had a problem. The waitress was awesome. The weather was very suddenly, okay.

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However, today, it's a little bit worse. It's not just the woman on the street or the man on the street. I thought the buzzer involves people alone in their bedroom alone. So my brothers and sisters, this is an epidemic and we do live we have to say it in a hyper sexualized world.

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You hear the dog now saying this word a lot. Before we used to be embarrassed now we have to say it. So it is a struggle. And I agree with you with lowering the gaze. You know Rasulullah saw seldom said I was not in luck with hernia I like the first look is yours. The second look is against you. Don't go looking for hours with your first look. The first book is accidental.

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The second one is against you. But he said it in such a way that it's a minus in meaning he knows it's hard. It's difficult. So when you say it's not for the law, when you pray when you give sadaqa when you say Salaam Alaikum. Son when you say that a lot it wipes it away wipes right? My advice to you is this number one, lowering your gaze is not something that you can do perfectly. No one can. Everybody's subtly they get the desire to get the better than my laughs and even Jani, the best of people. But the difference between the person who doesn't fear of loss, Panda doesn't have any sense of human regret. And the person who does they both look sometimes. But what happens, one of them

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goes back and does something to erase it and the other one enjoys and tells his friends about it.

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That's the difference. So my advice to you is not a medicine or a cure to knit to lower your gaze forever and ever be able to look.

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But there is no such solution. A lot of credit a desire in us to test us with it. It's there. And Ross was awesome said the first is yours. The second is against you, meaning it's always going to happen. So let's just cut to the chase. And let's not be superhuman because none of us are super Muslims, boy or girl men or women. We all have you know, weaknesses. And these weaknesses however, the difference between a person who is weak and fears alone a person doesn't fear a lot is that the weak person does something about it. Now

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when you go on the internet, for example, and there's these problems, then the only answer I have for you is this my brothers and sisters.

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You must stop. You must and you can you can because it becomes an addiction. Do you know what I'm talking about? If it becomes an addiction, it's gonna be very difficult to stop. But you can't stop.

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Some people stop when they get caught by someone

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They thought

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I would kill myself if I get caught by this person. We don't want to get to that. Some people, they stopped when a tragedy happens to them, we don't want to get to that. You can stop. Don't ever say to yourself You can't. pornography is something that causes a person to become sick and ill and listen about the problems that you have in the future. In high school, the 11th and the 12th come to me with the same problem. So I can't I can't help myself this that and I say to them, you know, when you get married, it's going to cause you problems. And I start to detail the problems to them. I can't say it here, we have brothers and sisters together. But I want you to read about the

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psychological and physical problems, it can cause to you and break up your marriage, break up your family and yourself. If you get into stuff like that you need the only solution for how bizarre is fear. Fear fearing Hellfire, fearing the punishment, fearing the embarrassment, fearing the physical harm, the illness, the sickness, so our brothers and sisters, the best advice I can give you right now simply for lowering your gaze is if you do look, then do something, do something to erase it do something to erase it. And one Sahabi said Dr. Sol, Allah is saying La la la la, one of the Rebbe that originally said among the best. So if you follow it up with that insha Allah, you'll keep it

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maintained and balanced. And if you are stuck with it, in secret, no need to tell anyone about it. Leave it when you on our last panel dialer, and do your utmost effort to do anything to stop it, you can stop. So my brothers and sisters in Islam, this is brief advice I can give you. Now in that conference, I saw one of the topics on Sunday. Please go to it. I'm not sure which was giving a diet was giving the topic about this particular issue in detail. inshallah. There's so much research done and I really advise you to go to it in sha Allah Allah. I'm going to go to it because I have students who I'd like to go back with the shell with more information.

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Now it says here

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this question is controversial. I don't know if I should answer it. But insha Allah, it says unusually active fellow Bill mobileread demoted the Navy so lightly or sell them. So is it allowed to celebrate the birth of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam? Me, I follow the opinion me, I follow the opinion that it's not allowed. It's Laos to celebrate the birth of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. But I'm not one of those who go out and as if the world has ended when someone celebrates motorcycles are center. Now some people they go to extremes with molad. So okay, fear the net effect. The manner of how to celebrate also matters to me. I agree. This is some scholars have

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different upon and some of them they went through strictly the Hadith and Sunnah, that if Rasulullah saw Selim did not celebrate his own birthday, then are we better than him and his Sahaba is to celebrate his birthday. I go with that opinion. If you want to get closer to our last round of dialogue, then why don't you do what the Sahaba is used to do? I don't think we love the Rasul Allah more than the Sahaba. So the term you know, the taboo about everything, we're talking about 300 years in the making three generations with 300 years where no one ever celebrated Modi There was also a lot to say, and I think they loved him more than us. So if we just enough with that

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inshallah, we can understand that celebrating mother's salsa, Salah is not really from the sooner however, however,

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if at the time of his mullet we'd actually don't know when most of the results are Salamis, we know it was on a Monday we know something microbial or something like that. But nothing is authentic. It's like a Salah instead of the Christians, they celebrate Christmas and they really don't know when he was born. You have the Orthodox celebrating Christmas, two months before or two months later, you have the Mormons doing it another time you have the Seventh Day Adventists doing another time you have the Catholics who do it now on the 25th of December. Hey, Sally, Sam is a prophet. Why don't we celebrate his birthday? Musashi lambs a prophet? Let's celebrate with the Jews. Why don't

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we do that? Well, I think we love him more than them, don't we? So it doesn't make sense to me personally. Neither islamically nor in common sense to celebrate our sauce and his birthday. And I think this was brought out historically from the Christians and those before and we're imitating what they are doing by celebrating Jesus Christ but they were Southern Bahamas on his birthday to show that we love him. Now brothers and sisters, very important. Please do not put down those brothers and as Michelle says, though some of them are full of knowledge. One of my colleagues, Masha Allah is a doctorate he's got a doctorate in the Hayden acleda and he Subhanallah celebrates

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motor socialism. We have long conversations together about it. However the way he does it is this way. He says, Yeah, we live in a non Muslim country. And honestly, in this week, we don't see

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Specify the day but why don't we just you know use this time in our hotel for example, you having a dentist that day instead of talking about another topic talk about cilantro salsa lamb, talk about his birth talk about his merits, his his character. And when you say in this time or salsa Salaam was born, don't specify it, then it'll be an occasion where young people come to actually listen and learn a little bit more. In that sense, I kind of agree with him. But then specify a day and turn it into

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a celebration type where we have nasheeds and we have

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fireworks and we have dancing, we have things like that. We don't do stuff like that. Insha Allah, Allah.

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Allahu Allah. Just two more questions we have.

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What is this? Something your Bursa? No, yo Baraka.

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I said he or she he mentioned that Zaid, married woman, a man when she was middle 30s. How come? Because the marriage was after his return. And the process send them was 53 when he made his return. And she was the one who welcomed him when he was born at that time. So can you clarify? So I mentioned that they did married a man when she was middle 30s? How come because the marriage was after the hegira. So Sam was about 53 when he made his return. She was the one who welcomed him when he was born. So the math doesn't add does it? The maths is not right. Maybe I made a mistake. Well,

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maybe she was a bit older than that. Well,

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if

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you have a point with that, so she was about 1314 or so. So I was I was born. And he made his euro suasana manager when he was about 5313 years or 14 years after his

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prophethood and then she married Zaid, so she would have been in her 40s. Now she would have been in her 40s a bit like that I saw suddenly those 25 minutes. In addition, she was 40. So just below hate for pointing that out.

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It says here. How can you make Toba for running other people? Very good question. Wonderful question.

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Making Toba from wronging other people is the most crucial one and the most dangerous one.

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Because Allah forgives, that people may not forgive is an incorrect alarm. I forgive without even you asking him but people may not forgive even for the smallest things. So

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Rasulullah saw Salam told us something.

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If you have wronged someone, you have to go to them and seek their pleasure.

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Okay, now the LMS spoke a lot about that, especially about backbiting.

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Go to them and seek their pleasure. So if you had wronged them, and they know about it, go to them. Like in front of them. There's a little story about the lawn another Sahabi where they argued about a piece of land resources and and gave to share between them. And he said this little section was mine. The other one said notice of loss and I meant it for me. So I work with Ilana accidentally said something that hurt the other Sahabi they all stopped and cried. He grabbed him and said, Take a revenge. Take revenge, take revenge, say the word back to me said now Elia will not say it back to you. So he went through sources on him to complain and the Sahabi rich there. And also as as Adam

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said, is true. Whatever worker said he said, Yes. Is it true? You did not say the word back to him? He said yes. He said Please don't say anything back to him. Say refer Allahu laka abubaker. So the Sahaba kept saying how for Allah Allah, Allah for Allah contoura workers, on the other hand was beard was soaked with tears. Now, the point of that story is do anything that it takes

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to make it up to the person whom you've wronged.

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That's one if he's he or she still doesn't forgive you, and you've tried everything you can.

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Then you've done what you can go back and make the art for them. Every time they mentioned make doc for them until you die.

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Well, like there's something I did, I did once. Every time the person mentioned, I made it for them.

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And whenever they are mentioned in bed, you mentioned them in good in front of the people.

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That's one way of compensating. Now if that person never forgives, and you die, and they never forgive, well, then that's upon

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us, Allah subhanaw taala to save us from arrogance, I hope they're not arrogant people. Because you are not more merciful than Allah, Allah. And Allah is wrong more than anyone else. So you've done what you can and there's this beautiful Hadith, which I read about source Assalam in a book called The Methodists and again, no, it was called the Western and was in some

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Hi, this is Sam authentic. And as he says about a Surat where the believers when they're crossing going to Jenna, they reach the last station, and two believers are stopped. And they say, I have a right with my brother. And Allah loves them both. So then Alice says to one of them, or sends an angel to say, forgive him, if you want. And he says, Now what I want to forgive him. And then Allah says to the angels say to them to look behind them, they look behind them, and they see a beautiful palace like the palace they've never seen before. And they say, Would you like that palace for yourself? And they will say, Yes, I will do anything for that palace, I say the reward of that

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palace is for those who forgive their Muslim brothers and sisters in Islam, and he forgives him as they both hold each other's hand and antigen. So if it's not dealt with here, Allah doesn't let it go. If he loves you both on a day of judgment, he will settle it by rewarding one of you to

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compensate you for what you've tried and forgive you. Now, if you have back there in the person that person doesn't know about, you've wronged that person, and they don't know about it. So this is one when he when he knows you do everything, but if they don't know about it, what should you do the right amount said number one, you can go to them, and apologize to them. But if you know that by apologizing to them, it'll make the matter worse, then go back to the company of people whom you wronged him in front of, and make sure that you fix what you said in front of those people, Island and in public to them, and show them that you had wronged him and take their oath not to repeat what

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you had said. And then after that, whenever that person is mentioned in bed, you mentioned them in good, or if it's true, be silent. And make dua for that person.

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That's the way insha Allah with or you can give us another call on behalf of that person. These are the ways that we compensate for running other people. If the wrong had caused damage to them, we have to fix the damage.

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unit for example, knocker and whoever is killed Muslim woman killed by mistake from the people then you have to compensate the family with blood money. If their family forgive you, then you're off. But the point is, you need to look after their family because they have no more. If it was a man, for example, a husband no one to look up to the point is if there's damage you need to fix that damage.

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It's panela. Remember in the mosque in Melbourne, when you park, you park your car, you park in the masjid,

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you come out

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and your right hand light is broken. Yama who broke my light and he's sitting over there looking at you doesn't even tell you runs away. Call me with the message. One time I came out one person hit the car. I saw another big hit that hit his car. They stopped I said yeah, you hit my car. He said this is from shaitan.

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From shaitan What does that mean?

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Another person comes up and says that you believe in Allah. Allah La quwata 11 let the guy hit Yokai say Coca Cola.

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Do like Amara Delano did he came and hit someone after this has covered a lot too.

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So when you wronged someone, you must compensate them so panela home alone when you do business with each other today. We kind of blackmail each other with a lot with the last words we'd like mileage. Like I come up to you and say I can't get in your car. yard I want to sell you my car.

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If you love for your brother what you love for yourself, you'll sell me your car. Now how long will

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you want? How much you want? $5,000? How long? Do you want dunia take 2000 it's enough for you. I blackmail you with the Hadith.

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It should be the other way around. So he won't 5000 I'll give you 6000 because a brother should love for his brother would love for himself the other way around. Where are we like that was the man.

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That's why that's the problem. That's good. That's a good problem.

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They give you more.

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You pay more.

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You've got to also be wise and smart. For example, someone gives you a ride in the taxi and you have a nice word and the brother he ends up liking you. And then you know 20 ringgits and he says Brother, don't worry about it. You say you know what? Yeah, I think he's 30 ringlets in that manner. And he that's not saying a person who you know is cutting and he's trying to take everything from you need just Amara de la nice to say let's do.

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Let's do we'll help you a little bit. I am not a naive person, nor can a smart aleck. You know, trick me. That's to be humble. Down.

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Can you relate this question to the famous scholar who used to be a highway robber or it's a long story? Do we have time this is a story that you can look for on YouTube. I've said the story about Manny Medina. The story of Malika Medina is beautiful.

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madaket Medina, should we finish it with this story? Well, hello has no more time.

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What do you think? Five minutes. They're not gonna say no. Out of respect. Six minutes. How she said see, we have to respect him. He's older than us.

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manuka honey dinar is the story here. Beautiful good for the young people as well. Malik of no de nada was a highway robber. He used to stop people on the roads in the desert and steal their their food and money. Some say is to give it to the poor Allahu Adam, I think is to take it for himself. Malik of Medina was a highway robber. He used to be an alcoholic drink a lot of alcohol. But he was a Muslim, we have lots of those around the hamdulillah. Out of sorrow, even though this person he used to drink alcohol needs to be a highway robber. And no one really liked him. So one day, so panela he sees a young a poor men who had just come up with a bit of money for the day, it was all

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day and earned this bit of money a little bit by seven loaves of bread or so for his children. He had seven daughters, he went to buy six or seven loaves of bread. And he found this last loaf of bread that was there. Then another man who was wealthier after the seller had sold sold it to about to give it to the poor man for whatever it's worth. Say. For example, when ringgit.

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The wealthy man said, I'll give you five trinkets for example. Now the poor man can't afford to give more than that. That's all he's got probably five ringgits to live on the other man, often in five minutes. And the seller was going to give it to the man who paid more. And the poor man started to big say, Please, I've got seven daughters. They'll, you know, go to bed without food, and they're probably stopped tomorrow, please, this is all I have. But the wealthy man was too arrogant. And now I bought it. I gave more money we have lots of these times. It doesn't act like it's not listening. So American Indian art for the first time in his life felt empathy. And for the first time in his

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life, he did one good deed. This was his only good date that Allah loved. So it comes up to the person who's angry, and this is good anger. He says to the wealthy man, yeah, I'm gonna give him a slice of bread. He's telling he's got children What's wrong with you?

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And the wealthy man said no, who are you get out of my first one humanity come to the alcoholic. Now you're a good man. And we always use this against people don't mean husband and wife. And now your religious wife says to him, her husband says Mashallah. And you come from a lineage of law so the law is what they say to each other right? They get back at each other Yeah, we have mercy towards each other Have mercy. Okay, a person is a sinner has endured they've put him even deeper in the toilet this panel, let him be alright. So medic of the dinar, he when he noticed this man is not listening to him. What did he say? He said, Okay, well, I'll pay more. The wealthy man paid month he

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said not pay more, until he bought the loaf of bread for the man. He said, Hold the array and let your daughters make dua for Malika Medina. So Annie, this is a person who is desperate, he knows he's doing sin, but he's addicted to alcohol. They can't stop his robbery. So Panama said let them make dua and he probably used money that is stolen. So Panama. So this poor man, he took it. And he gave his daughter that night they made that family covenant dinner, time passed, and Melaka Manila wanted to get married. So guess what? Nobody would give him his daughter, Xu, an alcoholic and a robber. So he had only one option. In those days, we talked about slavery. He went to the market and

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there was a girl who was being sold it Please don't misunderstand me, you've got to take yourself 14 centuries ago to understand the meaning of slavery in that time. Muslims were very kind and that's another story. So he bought her and he freed her, then married her. That was the only way you could get married. Allah gave him a daughter named Fatima. He named the Fatima he loved immensely. When she was about four or five years old. She was playing around and he came to drink alcohol. So she hit him on his chest. On the sorry, the bottle.

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So what's this? My daughter doesn't like this alcohol. Every time he found that cute. He didn't know Subhana Allah Allah has given him has given him guidance. He died. And Allah knows in the heart of somebody there is good. He guides them. He brings someone to them. And this family brought to him and his daughter, Fatima.

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So she's hitting it yucky. This alcohol bottle.

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At close at the age of panel of humans later, she became ill with a fever. So he carried her and so Pamela, she used to hit him on his chest. It became a habit. As though he had the alcohol bottle she used to she had a habit. You know, some children's panela babies. What do they do some of them they they touch your beard, my daughter She is the you know, always pull my beard. That's why from here it's missing. And sometimes, my son I remember Jeremy put his hand in my chest. This is a habit. She had the habit of hitting him on his chest because of the alcohol bottle.

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And so Pamela she died in his arms. He became so grievious over her. He became so saddened.

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He buried her cried for her, and he became more addicted to alcohol. After that he kept drinking more and more to forget his sorrows.

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He said, I kept drinking and drinking until one day I went unconscious from my intoxication. And I dreamt as if the world had ended

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The world was ending y'all can

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look behind me there was a huge dragon following me, monster. I ran away from the dragon in my dreams. I kept running until I reached the edge of a cliff. I looked at the cliff I wanted to jump but there was fire burning. So I ran the other way in the dragons behind me. He said, I reached the beach sand. And on the beach, there was an old man barely able to walk. His beard was wiped to the ground. I raced to him said unleash the Save me Save me and the old man couldn't even speak, he could barely lift his finger up shivering and he pointed inward with his with his finger towards that direction. He said, I followed in the direction of his finger, I'm running in the most is

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behind me and and suddenly I reached some cliffs, a cliff. And in that cliff, there were pockets. And out of that pockets came girls and boys, children.

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These are the children who died, Allahu Alem. The interpretation of the scholar who's reciting the interpretation said, these were children who died at an early agenor in gentlemen, they came out of the pocket and they all called out. Yeah, Fatima, Becky, Fatima, save your dad, save your dad. He says suddenly look behind me in his dream. And I see my daughter Fatima, running to me. She stood between me and the dragon and she did this with her hand, the dragon faded away. So I carried her. And she looked at me and said, Father, what's wrong with you? He said, What happened? What's this dragon? What's the old man? What's happening? She said, Yeah, Betty. Your sins have grown too much.

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Your sins have grown too much. Until they became the size of that dragon. That dragon is a metaphor of your sins. That dragon is the shape of your sins, you can no longer run away from them. They're going to consume you to the point where you can't get out anymore. And that cliff that's hellfire. If you continue doing sins, Your sins are going to throw you into hellfire.

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He said Who is the old man? She said, Betty. That's the only one good deed you have when you fit those children.

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Couldn't you see it's not strong enough to even guide you? It can only just barely. And this is your last chance. Allah has given you a guidance. She said then my daughter Fatima hit me on my chest as she usually does. And she recited the following verses. Yeah, Betty and EMEA and Isla de una mano en de Shaku buena de la womaniser lemon and Huck kukan Latino to kita woman COVID fatahna Ali, Ahmed for Casa kulu, waka zero Min homefirst sifu. And Oded has not come time for those whose hearts are being guided by Allah. For those who have believed for their hearts to come close to Allah and repent and not be like those former people before a serious sieve that received the Torah and

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indeed, they got so used to the Torah and the NGO that it became words used to their ears until their hearts became hardened. And the engine and Torah could not make them move anymore. Do you want to be like that for kosaku? Boom, waka Hiromi nonferrous eco many of them have corrupted themselves. In other words, you evety the Quran every day, are you going to be like them? You got so used to it that your sins are going to consume you and your heart becomes so hard and to the point that the Quran cannot even move it.

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There are people who hear the Quran every day when law he does not move them.

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What color rasuluh you're in Columbus,

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Georgia. La Crosse was awesome. I just want to say oh my lord, he will cry complaining my people have taken this quote and abandonment and no longer moves them or Baccarin their core annual core and Milano

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said it could be a person reading the Koran while the Quran is cursing them. Can you imagine someone reading the Quran with the sweet and the Quran is saying curse you because they read it for the wrong reasons and they don't practice any of it. So my brothers sisters, Malik of new dinar received those verses from SoTL Hadith and he woke up with the last verses. He wiped his tears he became sober and he said better and better.

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Yes, it is time. It is time remember what we said before that making a decision brothers and sisters nobody can make that decision but you you want to be guided you you say I have made the decision. Now we are lucky that decision is the most powerful strength Allah has given any men decision making. He went to El Masjid. Microsoft went to the masjid of Medina and there was a man of Sheffield. He's lived at the time remember chef it and so panda law he had finished the same area and a mutiny. And he was he was given tafsir imagine membership or give it up sit on this area. I am now split compared to him is given the Tafseer of

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Imam Malik if Medina he stood up that morning from treasure and he made the decision said I have given up everything. My alcohol is gone. My robbery is gone. My salad has come back

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Everything. He picked up his family and he said,

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I'm sorry, I'm going to chef he was not in Medina that time.

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He said he picked himself up and he went to Medina.

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And he became the student of the Imams there

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until he became one of the great imams that we know today. In America, Medina, he has books and books that have been written. We read about him thoroughly. After him, the people often became Matt and his students. And he said, At the time of his death, close to his death is the same. Although a lot took away my daughter,

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he brought to me the most beloved, which is, he died, he died in place Fatima was my hidayah and he brought to me the children of all the minion from all around the world to come and learn from me. As a result, Fatima he took her away and gave me 1000 other Fatima's and 1000 other Mohammed's she was my head. let you know how in Lala Yanni, this is a glad tidings and an inspiration that if Malika bernadina an alcoholic I don't think any of us here like that, and

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then don't ever display and finally I finished it with this idea. Well, last minute what our law says cordonnier

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to Otto Mirage

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in Ohio Pharaohs Oh, by Jamie, in

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a name, which means, say to my servants, my slaves, whose hearts have regretted and they blame themselves and they burden themselves with regret. Do not despair, from a loss mercy and forgiveness. Allah forgives everything. Allah forgives everything in the whole who will afford or Rahim as a matter of fact, Allah is the Greatest forgiver and the Most Merciful.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala accept our deeds, forgive our sins, encompasses with his mercy and grant us Jenna, may Allah spirit ALLAH forgive all their sins tonight and not leave us to leave this room without our sins washed away. Alumni dinner alone methylcobalamin along

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with the innocent

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or Salalah one and avina Mohammed either early or soft big man. Thank you for having me. Brothers and sisters just on the low height did not forget me in your

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mind but

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they think that you

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have to make a decision.

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Happy