Finding the Balance

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Rihanna Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen sallallahu wasallam obala caught in mobile. Al amin Nabina Muhammad in while early he also had a woman we had he was in a vision that he IO Medina Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

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The reply of the Salaam shows that they are good students of sin Mashallah

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my see this don't do this you

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may I welcome you for this however for this lecture and inshallah it will not bore you to death but at least we will inshallah try our level best to gain as much reward as we can. People are outside doing things a lot only knows about you are here coming to listen to the Quran and tradition and to learn the deen for there is no comparison. So inshallah we'll make it as easy as possible with the grace of Allah azza wa jal, the title of the lecture is balance. But such titles are usually misleading. Because balance in Saudi Arabia is different than balance in Sweden, for example, the things that they think is balanced, we think that it is extreme, and the thing that we think is

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balanced, they think that it is extreme. So first of all, we have to set the ground rules and the ground rules are that Islam is a religion of balance. No one can doubt this, because it is the verdict of Allah azza wa jal Can you question Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Rika Delica janicoo Ohm 10 wasapi.

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Thus we have made you adjust or a balanced nation so Allah azza wa jal is the one who made this balance. Now in order to have an idea of the meaning of balance, because sometimes people have different views, Muslims, about balance, and this is due to the fact that not all Muslims are 100% true Muslims. And this is not from me, this is a saying of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, who told us that the oma of Mohammed will be divided into 73, division, sects, cults, all of them are in hell except one.

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So this is problematic, am I from that one? And all of you are not? Or are you all from that one? And I am not? How would I know? How would I come to know if I am from the saved sect or not? The Prophet alayhi salatu was Salam gave her this gave us a description he said they are the jamara.

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So they are the majority. But his majority measured by number, by quantity, or by quality, even Mr. Road may Allah be pleased with him, the Companion of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said, Al Gemma is what coincides with the truth, even if you were alone.

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And this means that what matters is the quality.

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Not how many are there? Because Allah azza wa jal tells us in the Quran, woman, oxido, Nevado hosta many, even if you try your level best the majority of people will not believe Allah says this. So it's not the quantity, it is the quality and that is why Allah azza wa jal describes described Ibrahim peace be upon him to be an own.

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He was an oma What is the meaning of oma? Anyone knows?

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nation. This is one of the meanings of oma or an Allah azza wa jal mentions the word oma in four different meanings. One of them is an Imam Ibrahim acana on 10. Ibrahim was an Imam, someone to be followed a leader.

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And at the time of Abraham there was not a single Muslim on earth except him. Yet Allah described him as an oma So was he was he the majority or

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Not he was on the truth. So he was a single person among all the kofod. Another meaning of the word oma is time.

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And this is mentioned in Surat use of what decorilla by the oma, the man who was in jail and was set free. He remembered after a while, a period of time, a third meaning of oma is religion.

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In our agenda, and Allah oma, we have found our forefathers, fathers honor religion.

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And the fourth and last meaning of the word Omar mentioned in the Quran is a nation, a group of people, as in Surah, talcott, sauce

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omoton milanes, he found a group of people trying to water their flock and cattle. So, in short, in order for you to be among the oma saved on the balanced oma, you have to coincide with the truth with the help, which only comes from or an answer. And that is why, if you look at Islam, the religion, not at the Muslims, the people who practice it, if you look at the essence of Islam, not a single Khafre would reject it.

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But when they look at us how we practice it, they will definitely think that this is not valid religion. Islam is a religion of balance. It addresses the soul, as well as the body. And this is why whoever works on purifying his soul, he will be elevated close to the level of the angels, and those who only serve their bodies and neglect the purity of the heart and of the soul. They will descend then go down until they're close to animals. And that is why if you look at the people of the West,

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or the disbelievers in general, what do they pursue their lusts, their desires, they do anything to fulfill the desires of the body, and that is why they are taking off their clothes, they're becoming nude. This is Jerry Lee. And also, if you go to

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the jungles of Africa, you will also find them without clothes. Because they are in generally so it's the same civilization, but different continent. Whenever you don't have Islam, to uplift your heart to the levels of angels, you take off your clothes, you want to show an expose, and you follow your desires.

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And this balance between the soul and the body is mentioned in sohei hell a man Muslim, a beautiful body if you all know it by heart, inshallah.

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abubaker May Allah be pleased with him met one of the companions in his name was hum Vela

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and this is how sad or sad is different than hamdulillah Amir Allah seal, the one who died in the Battle of hope and the angels washed him between heavens and earth. No, he's different. This is humble, sad. He met he meets Abubakar aboubaker. What's happening? Have Allah says hamdulillah has become a hypocrite.

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Why are you saying this? He said, Well, ah, when we are at the side of the Prophet Alister, Sam and listening to the Quran, he reminds us of agenda he reminds us of not of hell, we feel different. But the moment we go back our homes, we meet our wives, our children, and our business. We do not recognize our hearts anymore. But like I said, Well, I this is a problem. I feel the same way.

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That makes two of us Let's go and consult the teacher then what alum sallallahu alayhi wa sallam so they go to the prophet and he repeats the same statement and the Prophet said, By Allah hamdulillah if you were here, as you are with your families, you will shake hands with the angels in the streets. Because the level of Eman is so great, and it's consistent, that you're with me like you are in with your families. You will see the angels in broad daylight but an hour and an hour, meaning that an hour for your heart to purify it and an hour for hallel Entertainment. That's what how long, not an hour for your heart and they go to the disco

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Let's have fun and whoo party you know, this is not what the prophet meant. So he meant that you have to what you have to attend your

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things that you have to do for your body. Eat, drink, make business, make money, put food on the table, see your children have quality time, which is not related to foreign Tafseer etc.

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Now, how would we know the balance? How can we tell? It's very easy. Whatever Quran and Sunnah

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checks the box as being balanced, it is balanced. Whatever the Quran and Sunnah tells us is good, it's good. And whatever Quran and Sunnah tells us is bad, it's bad, because your intellect differs with mine.

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People have different orientation, they come from different cultures. You may think this is good, I think it's bad. So who will draw the line and tells us No, this is extreme and this is balanced. It has to come from Allah the Quran and the Sunnah.

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Now, a beautiful lady also in the Sahara. You all know it insha Allah by heart. And this had it has two narrations one a story between sell manual faricy and a Buddha, Melody please read them all and one with the prophet Elijah Sam and Abdullah have named him than us. So which one you want?

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Okay, different opinion between the scholars as usual. So we will take We'll take the one with the Prophet that is Assam because wherever the Prophet is there, there is Baraka. So, I'm originally asked one of the great companions of the Prophet Alayhi Salaam who embraced Islam at the eighth fear of hijra, and he just before for America, so he was very late. And before that he was a very strong enemy of Islam. He becomes a Muslim, one of the wisest men of Arabia. His Son, is Abdullah have named him the last one of the great narrators of the Hadith, Abu hurayrah and Abdullah Nam, they have equivalent in the number but Abdullah writes and Abu hurayrah memorizes.

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So the father finds a beautiful

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woman from a good lineage of koresh and he wants her to his son Abdullah, couple of weeks later, he checks on his son's house. He meets his sister, his daughter in law. Hi, my daughter, how are you? She said, Marcia. How is Abdullah? Oh, Abdullah is the finest of all men. He sleeps. He fasts all day, and prays all night. Mashallah, he's the best of Muslims. Rama is a smart man. When a newlywed fasts all day, and prays on night, this means that he has no intention to give his wife her rights. So amber immediately goes and complains to the Prophet Alice a lot sooner. I will not speak to my son he's a hopeless case. If I tell him said no, no, you father you don't pray like I do pray he

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looks down at me. So I go to the Prophet so he goes to the Prophet the Prophet calls him

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um, Abdullah how many days do you fast a month he said, Oh prophet of Allah is fast every single day. The whole he'll fasting every single day. And now we come and fast Ramadan is

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finished. Imagine one more day I would have died. But he fast every single day. It should know fast only three days a month, or profitable, I can do more 710 15 That's it. don't exceed 15 days, one day, one day off. This is the sooner and this is the woods first thing. Abdullah how many hours? Do you pray at night? Hold night?

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Don't you watch the voice? Don't do no prophet of Allah. And this is astonishing. I found here on TV. Some of I don't know what country some of our sisters wearing the hijab and singing and dancing and what kind of balance is this? j let's understand balance then we can apply this anyhow. So Abdullah, how many hours you pray the full night? What kind of a man is he that he used to sleep at daytime, he goes for jihad. But he had an objective that is way, way, way beyond our job description. His objective is gender. So the Prophet told her a salatu salam not to do that. And he told him how long or how

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What is the way of reciting Quran? And he said I finished the Koran once every night

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from cover to cover.

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We come in Ramadan I asked brothers in my Masjid Mashallah, how many times do you finish the Quran? pre show I started doing that six years ago in Ramadan but inshallah this Ramadan I will complete it

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if you open the Quran you will find dust on it. This is a shame this Allah's words, but we are, unfortunately not putting effort into law half an hour, every single night he finishes it 30 times a month. The Prophet said, I said, No, finish it once a month, this is the minimum one juicer every night. I can do more 2010 seven and he stopped at seven in some directions. He stopped him at three and told me no one can understand it beyond three and he finished it every three days. So what's the conclusion? The prophet Elisha Salaam told him a beautiful statement if we can write it in gold and put it in front of us in all places we go to so that it would be our motto in life that would be

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good. The same statement was said to buy sell man to a Buddha. I will complain to the Prophet the Prophet. Okay that what is this statement? The Prophet said to Abdullah Yeah, Abdullah, in Arabic Allah Subhan. Allah has rights over you. What are our rights though he prayer etc. Your body and another version your eye has rights of you meaning health.

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Your guest has rights over you meaning social commitment. And your wife your family has rights over you. So give all due rights.

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Now this is balance. I could be the best businessman in the world. I can be rich. I can be filthy rich. I can have you

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wonderful hotels like Donald Trump maybe.

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But I will compromise with what was solid a solid answer.

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I have a meeting a lot of moderate will lie. We have come from a conference call. We cannot answer Asia. So you pray at the end of the night. Maybe you pray one night and seven days you miss I can be the best athlete

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and win medals and trophies. But I will not see my wife and my children because I'm encamped all the time and I won't be able to make money except for one soccer player football player. These are the people who make money but badminton you make money by doing nothing. Then the poorest thing look at them skinny Mashallah. They never find food to eat. May Allah azza wa jal give them hedaya I could be and also prayer fasting, forget about it. I can be the best shape

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praying all night and fasting all day sitting in the masjid with beads 1000 saying

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that, like some of these people do Hmm. I had a car. It's a GMC car. It is 1994 model very old. Mashallah. It was always remembering Allah.

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When you turn it off is a la la la la la la la la.

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Beautiful car. And he stayed with me for ages, but I had to sell it at the end. So I could do this. But always those who are into religion, in the masjid, they don't have money because you don't have time to make business etc. So there is always an imbalance. I can be done one. I can be Casanova with my wife, you know, taking my children every night to restaurants to funfairs. They love me, I'm the best father, I'm the best husband. But on the account of not going to the gym. So I have diabetes, cholesterol, high blood pressure, because I have to tolerate my nagging wife to be a good husband. And I cannot have money because I'm spending most of it on them. And I can't have business

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and I cannot learn religion because every time I want to go between Madrid or Asia or Africa or Asia to the DRC, my wife says no, I have to go and see my mother. So this imbalance makes our life difficult. The Prophet is giving us the formula a salatu salam B balance while LA and I swear in sha Allah truthfully, if you manage to balance

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These things you are the happiest person on earth.

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You will be the happiest person walking on earth because everything is satisfied spiritually and physically as well. But when you have this imbalance, then you have a problem. Nowadays, all who we know have this imbalance and that is why some of us live and die only for the paycheck.

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Some of us live and die for their bank account, how much is in it? Where did it come from? Who cares? I like to see the digits halal haram who cares i make one Ramadan every year Allah for

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Allah and the rest Witten This is not the way that Allah wants it to be. Some of us have an imbalance on the opposite side.

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They don't care about their needs, their physical needs, and they only go astray trying to reach spirituality but through the wrong doors and this is also an imbalance they go against their nature. They don't eat halal, or they make everything haram some of the brothers say hey this water is a no no maybe it's still it's coming from the Salah native plants have sewer and maybe why maybe to face chez haram because has pork

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where is it a pork?

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Pepsi? Coca Cola sweet everything is poor poor poor. Some of the brothers have this in them Why are you so extreme? Where are you getting this knowledge from? I heard someone say something on the bus.

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So I thought I have to this is from Allah azza wa jal Masha, Allah, Allah, and this is wrong. When you look at Islam compared to other religions, you will find it the best religion of all, some religions tell you to not marry, stay in a church or

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a place a monastery or something, be a monk. Don't eat this don't eat that. Some religions say everything is halaal Bismillah. Whatever you do, as long as your heart is Okay, no problem. Allah azza wa jal tells us how beautiful our religion is, it says, But seek with that wealth, which Allah has bestowed on you, is the home of the hereafter and forget not your portion of lawful enjoyment in this world badness. So yes, we are here to go to gentlemen. It's it may take us 60 years, and on average between 60 and 70. Some of us may live until 950 years like no, but then what?

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It's got us over eternity, no stopping us now. But if you work hard, you live forever in happiness in paradise. Allah azza wa jal is telling you work hard, but don't forget your portion. You are in this life Allah gives you halaal things. So eat and drink Helen, Mary in halaal enjoy everything in this world and Hello, this is the balance that we would like part of the characteristics of our religion, that it is the balanced religion that is a religion of the middle path, that it is suitable for every generation and every location. So Islam is suitable for all times no one can come and say, Hey, this was okay at the time of the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam 15 centuries later

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this we cannot apply? No, you cannot. Why? Because it was designed, it was made. It was dictated to us by the one who created us Doesn't he know whom he created associate Allah Allah mu, man Holla Holla playful hobby definitely. So by thinking that you can hint that the religion is not suitable now. This is total blasphemy. This is Cofer.

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And this we see all over. But in fact, I'm gonna stop.

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I was joking. This we see worldwide when people come and say, I hate chopping the hand is barbaric. This is mentioned in the Quran. One of to you that you either a Kaffir or a hypocrite both are in hell.

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You cannot you cannot judge or talk about these things in the this is odd. And these people come and try to undermine the core and undermine

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This one undermine the companions of the Prophet Isaiah Salaam in order to reach to their goals. No. We know that Islam is suitable for all times, and all generations and all locations not in accordance to your intellect in accordance to the Quran, and to the sooner.

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On the other extreme of the middle path or the balance, these extremes cannot live for long. And that is why Islam has been the same for 15 centuries. All Muslims say Assalamu alaykum all Muslims pray five times a day to the same location, fast the same month, make Hajj the same house of Allah azza wa jal prohibit intoxicants, Hummer wine etc. prohibit fornication Zina hasn't changed, it will never change because this is the religion of Allah azza wa jal extremists extremism on the other hand, don't eat meat. Why? Because you don't know it's halal or haram. Then why should I listen to you? Why? Because none of you are a Muslim or a Catholic.

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It's the same thing. It goes both ways. It's not one way. So religion is not by may be made known, said tennety. This is our hair pure or pure. Everything here is pure. But I doubt share that maybe not maybe throw it in the trash can. This is not acceptable if you're sure we consider it not to be but if it's a maybe or a possibility, it's not acceptable. And Islam and there's a rule known as Leah pain, Leia Zulu be shocked that serenity is not removed by doubt. And if you apply this, you will be relieved. I receive hundreds of questions every day, from brothers and sisters. And the majority of the questions share I have which was I have OCD. I go and answer the call of nature. And

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I feel that I have splashed my whole body with urine.

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How heavy is your urine?

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When it folds down? Should I get splashes? What is this?

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This is Ireland. This is not urine. And he says that I wash myself five times a day six, the whole shower. This is all from who?

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From shape on one law. He plays like with us, like children pay with football. He's playing with your mind. You're certain this is I have a drop. Where is this rock coming from? I think it's just No it's not. To the extent that even Rama may Allah be pleased with him was walking once and someone was washing the house water fell. And he his companion said and in a narration that he said himself. Is it natural or clean your water? The Prophet told him to the owner of the house Don't tell him

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why. So that he would not open the door for worse worse every time you get some water. Is it nudges? No. Don't ask. Are you sure? It's nudges? No, I'm not sure. The default it is. It is pure. This is a rule of thumb that if you apply it you will feel relaxed. Not like those who go to the bathroom urinate and stay for half an hour

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will lie I've seen we might laugh but this is an illness. I've seen people in the in the in the toilet. coughing.

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I thought that he has maybe some innocent. Maybe I have to save him and take him to the hospital. And I stay. I wait then I hit him jumping.

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Maybe he's now aerobics. I wait for 1015 minutes and the man comes out exhausted. Is OSHA Salam Alaikum alaikum Salam What are you doing? I have this problem with urinating Okay, people were urinating since Adam

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until now they did they still have the same thing. But no one is doing what you're doing. This is this is all from who? You tell me?

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Who is doing this show you're on. Now if I asked all of you and you are all professionals, Mashallah, can I have your CV? Some of you should Okay, you will give me my shoulder six pages 10 pages of CV of courses, training courses, positions, education. Mashallah. Very good. At least shaitan if I take his CV, it is this much. It's from Adam Stein.

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He knows exactly how you think, how you feel, and this is how he comes to you from the imbalance. You are either

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extreme in religion. Very tough, very strong. He plays with your heart.

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With your mind like this, no, no, no three times is not enough. Maybe you did it two times.

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lets me do it five times. After a while.

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Let me take a full shower. It's better.

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Voila, he in 1990 I was in in Damascus, Syria. 1990 remember the date so that you don't see Harshad went to Syria 1990 How long? 26 years ago

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26 years ago, it was very liberal. I went there to a Masjid to attend the lecture. And I gave the cubby I went and made and this man was making wooden and washing all of himself. I didn't pay attention. After half 510 minutes we went to the masjid and the magic King.

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Allahu Akbar we prayed the method of law kebab

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kebab

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and he repeated it like six seven times it's a law

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and then he left a lot and went into to rock as later he came with Moodle. And he said the same process five six times and then he left and after the Salah is over I see the man coming in giving that beer and going to make Moodle

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What do you think is wrong with this man shaytan is coming to him. Your Nia is not correct make beer again. Maybe you are intending to Primavera raesha Allah but I can tell you what my widow did I wash my foot. Yeah, you washed you washed it until it shrunk.

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Now it's not the same size. So what are you doing? So he goes on and on and on and on. And and people prayed and finished the prayer and the night was over and he said

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this is an illness shape and plays with him. On the other part on the other hand, there are those among us who don't care. Everything is easy. Everything is healthy. Everything is Allah folder. Rahim.

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You did not wash the right hand. There is no trace of water. Okay, the rest are washed.

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If you measured the percentage is very little Allah for Rahim. Have you prayed three rockets of awesome yeah, but Allah knows that I wanted to pray for okay.

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And he comes to the people like this, these people are the easiest to go into sin. So shaking hands with women. Hello, hold on.

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Hold on, when everybody's doing it. And the airport in the offices in some Islamic centers. The sister comes and I've seen this unfortunately, I don't want to mention the country. And they shake hands with the other colleagues. What is this? Is this Islamic? And maybe 1020 years maybe more?

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Everything is fine hamdulillah. The Eman is in the heart. Don't be too extreme. This is how shaytan plays with us. He manipulates us because we are far away from him. But if we have Parana soda here, then whatever I do, I'd like to drink a glass of water. So this is an example because I do want to drink a glass.

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So he comes to me and said Miss Miller

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This is an action I have to go through the filtering system drinking with the left hand is it right or wrong? No The Prophet said assume that the shape on each with his left and drinks with his left then this is heaven Bismillah AFI This is extreme you find people telling you this. You go to the restaurants and you find people Mashallah Western eyes You know, fork with the left knife with the right tiny small pieces of meat in Mashallah very civilized. You feel that very sophisticated Mashallah PhD holders engineers, okay, this is how I'm you're eating legendary fun.

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But they don't know. Or they know but they are arrogant. And they say it's all halaal it's no problem. This is how shavon plays with us. We have to always go back to the basics. Sometimes we feel that the companions may Allah be pleased with them, or the best of generation. And they are without any doubt. However, even them, they had few divergence, but they had who they had the profit or some to fix them. We don't have this we have the Quran and a student only three men came to the prophets houses sobre la sala and ask the mothers of the believers and they said, all mothers of the believers, what is the routine of the prophet in worshipping sola sola. And they told him he sleeps

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and he does this he does that. The three men thought that this was very little

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Coming from a prophet said yeah, the prophet so Salaam Allah has forgiven all his previous and upcoming since will not like him. So one of them said, I will pray all night and will never sleep.

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The second one said, I will fast all day and will never break my fast every single day. The third one was the luckiest, he said, I will not marry women.

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He wanted to relieve himself from headache. Anyhow. So

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the Prophet alayhi salatu salam when he heard of this, was he Okay, Masha, Allah, these are my my companions. They are monks that he was angered by it.

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And he went to the member. And he said, Why do people say so and so and so by Allah, I sleep and I pray, I fast and I break my fast and I marry women. Whoever was want or desire, a path other than my son is not from me. So whenever you want to do something tomorrow, how do I know if I'm balanced or not compared to the son of the Prophet, chances are you will never go wrong.

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And if we managed to do this, in this case, we can balance we balanced in issues of aqeedah

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in issues of fear, and hope, because we know that in Islam, there are three things essential for your opinion, the love of Allah.

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I met a Saudi gentlemen, once he prays in the masjid. He's a pilot airline pilot. And I was speaking to him. And he was saying to me, I don't love a lot.

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He's westernized You know, he goes and travels places. What am I this is what he said.

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And I said, Fear Allah. How do you say this? Don't you pray? Surely I pray five times a day. I find some woman but I'm afraid of his Hellfire but I don't love him.

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Such a person is stupid. Because he did not think of Allah favors and blessing if someone while you're walking says okay, you've dropped your wallet.

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And in it, your salary and your ID cards and everything you need. How would you feel?

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You would like to give him a gift. You're so happy with him. Okay, Allah is not giving you the wallet. Allah is giving you everything you have will be coming NEMA Amina law. Every single favor and blessing is from Allah. Take off your glasses. If you have glasses and put your hands on your eyes and enter the toilet when it's dark and try to like my friend urinate.

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You will make a mess. And this is the best thing of sight. The blessing of hearing the blessing. Yeah, so when you eat something bad and your stomach hurts, how would you feel when you get influenza flu

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and you are for five days? bedridden, shivering, Allah is giving you so much but you're not grateful. You use what Allah is giving you in sin. And this is why you have to love Allah. So the love of a lot is the head of a bird as the scholars explained, and fear and hope, fear of Allah has held hope in Allah's forgiveness and paradise are the wings. If you have one more than the other, how would the bird fly in not a normal way? So you have to have the balance between them. Muslims have the balance, they fear hell, but they also are hopeful. They're not faith, if they feed hell only they will become despair. They will lose hope. And if they are so hopeful in gender, they will

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make sense because Allah will not put us in hell, he will put all the cafe the Jews, the Christians with me. No, no, I will not. And this is why Omar, Allah be pleased with him. Look at the banners. Omar is a second halifa He said, If a man were to call from heavens, all of you on Earth are in hell. Except one. I would have hoped that I was the one. This is hope. And if someone called all of you are in Paradise, except one, I would feel that I am the one. So Helen and heaven there is this balance. Muslims have the balance in their art in their belief. For example, a hallucinogen Mara, it's us insha Allah, Who are the extremes? On the far right, we have the extremists, the radicals

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the average, who gives a clear to everybody. Even if they look in the mirror your cover up sorry.

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I'm sorry. I'm just used to it. Sorry, guys.

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They give the cure to everybody in Saudi, some of them who are brainwashed. They even gift that fear to their parents. One of them killed his uncle a few months ago, one of them, or two of them, or six of them from the same family killed their cousin, because he works in the army. They took him to the desert, we want to help us and they slaughtered him. Now these extremists, they don't relate to Islam. The Prophet told us Alice or Sam that they are the hounds of hell. In Hell, they will be like dogs. Why? Because on Earth, they were attacking Muslims. And they say that you're not a real Muslim. Okay, go attack the disbelievers No, no, no, they're disbelievers, you are worse. This is

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what they think. And on the far left, we have the liberals, the secularists that only have a tag with the with the religion saying Islam, they don't pray. They don't fast. They want everything haram to be halal and everything halal to be

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questionable, and they try their level best to undermine Islam. What is their Islamic name?

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That Islamic title

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Manasa own these are the hypocrites who can claim to be Muslims, but actually they they're not. So you come to the middle path in following Islam is the middle path. What do you mean by that? We have two extremes. We have someone who says I do not follow any school of thought. All school of thoughts are not good. No Hanafi no Shafi no hanbali no Maliki Okay, where are you coming from? Mashallah. You're a genius. You don't follow anything. Judges are uninsured.

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And we have people like this, you know, Branson, Branson, he you know, Arabic said no.

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How do you follow Quran and Sunnah my chef follows Quran and Sunnah. So you're following him? Pharaoh had even said.

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But on the other extreme, you have people saying if you don't follow Hanafi madhhab you're Catholic.

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If you don't follow chef, he might have your prayer is invalid. Or he we have Quran and Sunnah should know. And this is found, by the way in their books. Of those who are blind followers of madhhab. You stick to one madhhab regardless if it's right or wrong, regardless if there is a clear is saying haram or not. We follow them at home. And this is extreme. What is the middle path? The middle path is to follow the Quran and the Sunnah with the understanding of the four schools of thought with the seller with the people of the previous generations, not from my own head. What did they mean at best say, may Allah be pleased with him? What did Imam Malik say? What did Imam Shafi

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say? And we cross examine, and we can come with a conclusion. These are the scholars of Islam you cannot say just simply with a pen, No, I will not take from them anymore. I am a

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Koran. I'm Salafi. I'm super Salafi. I'm extremely Salafi. I'm screen dysphoria. You're following the wrong methodology. Again,

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part of being balanced is that you are easygoing. When you find a chef, a scholar who is tough and rough, and any Mashallah he's like the wolf who will blow on your homes and it will all go away. This is not a shave. The profit was not like this the profits as I'm used to smile, the profit so I'm used to joke with his congregation, but he always tells the truth never tells a lie. The prophets face was the most beautiful la salatu salam. So easiness kindness is a characteristic of those who follow the balanced way, who follow the middle way. And this is why whenever the prophets used to send la salatu salam, his messengers to the regions he would say to them, make things easy,

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don't make it hard to people. Always cooperate and do not dispute and have argument upon you.

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Now, but part of the balance is that you do not kill yourself. Allah says

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do not kill yourself, how would I kill myself? If I'm sick

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and if I fast I will deteriorate or maybe die. It is prohibited for me to fast.

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If I take a shower, because I have to pray and taking a shower would mean that my burns or my wounds would also be affected. It is prohibited for you to take a shower. So religion is a religion one does not

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Say No I'm strong I can manage. This is not the way of the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam.

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There is the balance in expenditure when you spend money, so you have to be balanced and for example, heard him now preparing dinner for you all after this lecture is no dinner, no dinner. Okay? This is part of the balance, because we have bigger project balance is that you don't spend all what you're having and then begging people and not withhold until people say he's miser, he doesn't give in charity, he doesn't feed the food No. The Prophet alayhi salatu salam told us to be in the middle path and this is why Allah says and let not your hand be tied like a miser to your neck nor stretch it force to its utmost reach like a spendthrift so that you become blames worthy

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and in severe poverty, you know, you have to be in the middle part. How much time

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limits?

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Okay, bye.

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There is amor maruf, Hana, Hana Moncure. You know what that is? Is enjoining good and forbidding evil. You have to do this, this is an obligation, but you also have to balance it. You don't go to someone who's drunk and a bottle of scotch in front of him His eyes are red. And he has a nine millimeter in his hand playing with the trigger and you say fear Allah Don't you know Hummer is haram and he just

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shoots You know, this is imbalanced? And at the same time, you don't see a lot of sins coming. And you don't even say the word of advice. Actually, this is haram in the office, mixing, smoking, not praying. Why don't you give naziha Mashallah your beard is longer than Fidel Castro. Why don't do give Nazi hand advice people said, I have to have the balance. There's no balance here there is only being coward or being lazy. You have to have the balance. Okay, when can I be extreme? Or when can I be soft? In enjoining virtue and good? Because the Prophet used to do this as a serum. So sometimes you have to also learn how to apply the sooner a man comes in the masjid. urinates and the Prophet

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and his companions are watching.

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What would you do? How would kill them?

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But the Prophet told him No, leave him.

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Why, if they were to start to him, he would

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make the whole place filthy but now he is contained in a very small place. Afterwards the Prophet calls the man and he tells him my nephew This is inappropriate in Masjid. It was not made for nudges. It was not made for filth. It was made for an prayer and Vicar Allah. The man prays with the Prophet alayhi salatu salam in prayer in congregation and he says everybody's hearing Oh Allah have mercy on me and Mohammed and don't have mercy on anyone else.

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Why? Because he loved the way of the Prophet ISIS and teaching him but everyone else they wanted to hit him so is he is terrified of them. So it is doesn't want Allah's mercy to be see the Prophet he was what for soft was kind because he's ignorant. But when I was around, the old immigrant, the old Companion of the Prophet Sam spoke to Bella and told him Bella, you, your mother is black.

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Boy, are you black, angry, his mother is black. His mother is truly truly black. She's from Kenya. Yeah. But the Buddha did not say it as a compliment or as a fact, you said it as discrediting him. When the Prophet knew about this time, he said, Bill as a mother, you're a man of arrogance and ignorant. He said, Oh prophet Allah after migrating 1312 years ago, with you and being among the first I am a man of God, of pre Islamic era said yes. Because of what you said. In another incident, a man and a Muslim y'all don't know the Hurry, of course, the man was eating with his left hand. The prophet SAW him as herself. He said, eat with your right there. I said I cannot. A lot of the people

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we know are like this ignorant and arrogant. They can but they don't want the property. May Allah make you unable to do that last part, you said and the man's hand was paralyzed. He could not lift it to his mouth. Why? Because this is different than an ignorant he is arrogant. He has

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defiance in his heart to Islam and to the Sunnah and rejecting and there are so many examples, but the time does not allow us to do this

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can go on? What about the dinner?

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No dinner. Okay, they said, prolonging it a little bit, okay. Now,

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also part of the balance is to go against what your soul desires. If it goes against the Sharia, how is that we have imbalance in our affection. If we love someone,

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we take them to the roof as if they are prophets of Allah. And the minute we hate them, we make them disbelievers. We don't believe in a Muslim. No, is either a saint, a messenger, or a Kaffir. And this is a problem. And this happens also with us in houses, with our wives with our spouses.

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A wife loves her husband, greatly. The minute he mentioned that my mother said house, he becomes shapen.

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Why did you bring her mentioning it? She's my mother's Yes, but you know what she did? 16 years ago. She didn't invite me to her sister when she came to Panama. And by the way, the same goes with men. And even worse, but women are weak, we can make jokes at them, they will not hit back men. It's a big problem. So that's why I'm a little bit selective, anyhow.

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We have a problem with our emotions. When we love a scholar, we make him a saint, whatever he says is correct. But he made a mistake and no, no, no, he doesn't make mistakes. And if we hate someone, even if he recites an ayah of the Quran, this is not from the Quran, we have this problem. overreacting is part of our imbalance if I'm driving and so did he drive good Mashallah Malaysian people are very nice, very, very easy going in Saudi Mashallah, when I get in my car, I put my helmet.

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And if I become a different person, you know, I became very aggressive. And when we drive if someone cuts over me, ah, he made the mistake. I would follow him and tell him

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just to cut over him. Seriously, this is how we feel and how we drive. Why so many times someone does something wrong to you. Islam tells you, you may do the same thing wrong back to him or pardon him. And it's best you pardon him. People overreact. So instead of balancing their reaction, we have men divorcing their wives. Why? her divorce my wife yesterday, she cannot reconcile. They come to me said Why did you divorce her? She prepared the food and the salt was too much.

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Okay, then what? Said I told her six times don't put so much thought salt and she doesn't listen, I divorced her. This is like having a mosquito.

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Without Zika having a mosquito on your hand and you bring a cannon. Boom. What is this? I'm killing a mosquito. But this is an overkill, this is too much of reaction. You have to know how to balance your emotions in order to be a real Muslim. And that is why this balance of emotion is what we must require, especially with road age, etc.

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A Shafi may Allah have mercy and the majority of you are show off right here. shafa is one of the greatest imams of all times. He's the share of Imam Ahmed.

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And he used to say Mmm, that all people are children, and students of Shafi. In fact, he's the first one to write in fundamentals of when he wrote his book or reseller. Anyhow. A Shafi once said, my views are correct.

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Within a possibility of mistake, and my opponent's views are wrong with the possibility of being correct. Who among us use this way of communicating? No, you're wrong, and I'm right.

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He gave some way for going back. This is the balance that we should have in our communication. So many sisters complain from their husbands.

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Truly and correctly, their husbands are oppressive. They don't communicate. And so many divorces take place because of lack of communication.

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If you always give the benefit of the doubt, I might be wrong. There might be don't jump to conclusions. This balance would make your life easy in Sharla when it comes to love and hate, this balance in affection, it is part of Islam. Some people say Islam is the religion of peace. Islam is the religion of love. Islam is the religion of tranquility. All of this is true, but it definitely should. Yes, we love everyone. We love pigs. We love dogs. We love Wait, where are you going? Okay. This is not not true. On the other hand, when you have nicest, you know, nicest

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what is nice is none Islamic State of Iraq and Syria. Never ever say ISIS because in the media, they say, Islamic State of Iraq and Syria bombed, killed, slaughtered Islamic state doesn't do this. This is the nun Islamic said they are not related to Islam. So when you come to nisis, they say everybody's Kaffir we hate everybody, except the mirror. We hate everyone. So this imbalance is wrong again. Muslims hate and love,

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have peace and wage war. This is the balance of the Prophet Allah So Sam who said that love in the sake of Allah and hate for the sake of Allah, and having friends for the sake of Allah and having enemies for the sake of Allah, or the tightest not of Islam.

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Or Eman? Oh, Sakura Eman, the tightest knots of rope, no man of a man is to love and hate is to have friends and to have enemies. So you cannot say oh no, no Muslims, they befriend everybody, even their enemies, even those who kill them and slaughter them. They're their friends. No. But at the same time, they don't take everybody to become their enemies. The Prophet as I'm used to deal with the Christians used to deal with the Jews used to accept the invitation of Jews when they invite him for lunch for dinner. Like in the woman, the woman who put poison in the ram she cooked for him. She invited him and he attended. So a law center. This shows you the true and correct balance. So if we

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would like to balance how would we

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know the right way? The answer is, as stated before, I'm not going to repeat the lecture again.

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The answer is to know Well, you're going to learn well, your Sunnah of the Prophet salam to read his Sierra. It's a big problem when you find Muslims not knowing the seal of the Prophet Allah selection. If I say Salah Mata Aqua

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What is this? Is this a battle or a man or an address or a massage parlor? I don't know. What is this Salah minocqua who knows Selim Naka, raise your hand

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workhead name Mashallah, two. Very good.

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Is this possible? Solomon Aqua, one of the Bravest

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Warriors who walked on feet and one of the fastest and one of the best athletes of all the companions of the browser, but we don't know.

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I once asked this survey in a school of 1500 students give me the names of the 10 heaven bound companions.

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The result was zero. On the contrary, I got names Subhan Allah, Allah pub.

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I know Omar

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This is new.

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If I asked you about the wives of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said

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asthma

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is not one of them. she divorced

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No, no, no, no, he never married that's massive. So Pamela, what did I get this name from? I once went to a hospital to visit a doctor so there is a straight Reception The lady was telling me What's the name of your patient I said joy area.

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She said you what

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in Arabic said joy Do you know Julia but to have the wife of the Prophet Sam de the aunt of Abdullah bin ambass and collinwood eat and etc. So I know that that was my morning sorry, God dammit that had

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mean Benny masala. This is different. Joy why was enjoying it or was it my morning? I have both daughters.

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By the way, so am I. So she said, Why?

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Meaning that we are near her arm? Why are you giving her this name? I said, this is the mother of the believers, the wife of the Prophet, should you wait.

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And she was an Arab, she was a Muslim wearing the hijab, so so sort of what they call the hijab. And she and she was astonished, she never heard that the Prophet had a wife by the name of joy area. This is a big problem. So you learn the Sierra of the Prophet as you know when Mata took place, the Battle of Malta, when 100 took place when the book took place, what is that? What is the more I see? Or what is the

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final card? What is money forever? When you know this, you have dignity, pride, you know how to balance things are no I cannot do this. The Prophet didn't do it. I say no. Oh, yes, I shouldn't do this. The Prophet did this. So you have the balance. But when you like nisis, you don't even know what the Prophet did or what the Prophet did not do at a salatu salam, they don't even speak Arabic. Kill for feasability la.

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That's it. Yeah, hello, jihad. Boom, Masha, Allah, Allah, this is not related to Islam. When you don't have knowledge, you have ignorance. And when you have ignorance, this what leads people to doing it. Part of being balanced is not to be haste, to always have patience, think, before you act. And this is the way of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam. Now when the Prophet wants to do something, isn't that the best thing to be done? The answer is, yes. If the Prophet wanted to do something, definitely it is hallel definitely is is the right thing to do. However, the Prophet used to think it is some of the consequences if I do this, what will happen afterwards, good or bad? If mad, I

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will stop, though it's a good action example. The Prophet said that is assigned to Arusha. May Allah be pleased with her? Yeah. Isha. Has it not been to the fact that your people are close, related in time to pre Islamic error? They have just accepted Islam few months ago, had it not been to that fact. I'm afraid of this. I would have demolished the Kaaba

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and built it again on the foundations of Ibrahim, you know, this Ark? What is it called? I'll help him. In colloquial language, they call it hedger is Marielle. This is part of the cabin. So if you go inside in tawaf, your thought is invalid.

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The Prophet wanted to demolish it, to build it again on the foundations of Ibrahim on the pillars of Rahim, and have two doors, one for the people to enter and one for the people to exit, if they want to see it. Okay, Prophet of Allah, why didn't you do it? He said, because if I do this, those new Muslims would reject Islam. And they would say, ha, he's not a messenger of Allah, He is humilating the house of Allah He is so and so and they would reject Islam. So the Prophet was thinking of what of the consequences? We have so many people like this. Once I was talking to a brother, he's telling me I have shredded papers of or on what to do with it. I said Burnet feola.

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He said, yes, you want me to humilate the Quran. So no, I burn it, to preserve it. This is the word of Allah. burning it is halaal with the intention of saving it and preserving it instead of being torn and scattered. No, this is haram. If you know the fatwa Why did you come to me?

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God someone else, Mashallah. You're knowledgeable. So people have weird way of thinking without knowledge. So you have to be patient. Finally, I think that there might be might be, I'm not promising anything.

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Finally, is balance, a choice that we have to make? No, this is our destiny. You don't have a choice of Hmm, let me be balanced or imbalanced? No. To be a Muslim, you must be balanced. Otherwise you have a big problem because you're not complying with the Quran and the Sunnah and Allah azza wa jal knows best. Well Allahu Alem one is veterinary Mila e SM, or Salalah, who was allama Baraka, AB de la Sol de Nabina Muhammad