Dealing with The Pressures Of Life

Assim Al-Hakeem


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The importance of learning from one's religion and controlling one's time is emphasized in the context of COVID-19 and stress. The speakers emphasize the need for time management and finding a way to get out of addiction. The speakers also discuss the benefits of technology and technology in saving time and improving productivity, as well as the spread of Islam among Muslims in the United States. The segment ends with a promotion for a book and a social media campaign.

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Hands hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah bad As Salam or Aleikum, Wa Rahmatullahi

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Wa Alaikum salaam wa Rahmatullah Baraka tidings podcast Alhamdulillah today we have a special guests with us, Chef asimilar Hakeem. I don't think he needs much of an introduction but just to keep me

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on TV and also ask that Masha Allah on YouTube and Hamdulillah He connects with the themes with q&a and also

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inside Saudi for many years so blessed to have you may Allah bless. How are you to

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Alhamdulillah getting old but doing well yeah, to be like, how did you learn you're not looking old Lama Baddeck mashallah you making 100 tell my wife that.

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So, today's topic is a very important topic, something that's been requested quite a lot. And it's about dealing with the pressures of life. So you see today in society, especially in the West, but I'm sure all over the world. There's many, many pressures to the Muslims Subhan Allah in terms of keeping firm to the deen and just generally family life, lots of things and 100 Allah. So we wanted to ask you, in general, what should be the outlook of Muslims when dealing with pressures and difficulties and things like that? That's the first question is shall Allah

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Subhanallah hernia Rahim and hamdulillahi rabbil aalameen. Well, suddenly, we're also living with Euro Hamilton will either mean so you did a wedding in our earlier in the day. You know, Mohamed Anwar the Big Bang and my bad as Salaam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh anzeigen Maliki lucky for hosting me for this. I thought I cast I

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had cast. I am. I was born in the last century. So I'm pretty old for these things. And hamdulillah I'm not from the new generation. So do it. Excuse me, okay. I conduct a lot of counseling sessions for the Muslims. And this is something I undertook.

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And hamdulillah

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and the funny thing is, whenever I asked people

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to list for me

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the Six Pillars of Eman

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99 point 99% They would say Oh, namaz fasting has

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the these are the five pillars of Islam. I'm talking about the six pillars of Eman. And when I do this, people look at me as if I just landed on Mars to the Subhanallah never heard of it. And this is due to our distance from our religion. And if you ask anyone on the streets, whether you're in Birmingham, London, Leicester, Manchester, wherever

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about Islam, they would give you a blank check that of course we know everything about Islam. We don't need you old geezer to come and teach us about Islam. We know everything about Islam, if you ask them about the basics.

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You've you land on deaf ears. If you ask them about purity, zero if you ask them about prayer, zero, zakat zero Marriage Divorce custody 000. And what do you know about Islam? Oh, we read the Quran, Masha, Allah Baraka Allah, the shortest surah in the Quran, the one we recite 100 times a day. Woman Shari Ross, EDA Wakaba. What does it mean?

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Not a scholar. Yeah, he's not have to be a scholar. How many sewers Do you memorize? Well, actually this surah and called who? Allah Subhana Allah. So we are

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lightyears away from our religion. But we are defiant. We don't confess any you'll never learn your religion if you keep on being arrogant. And define no is your hobby I'm not going to learn from him. Oh, no, he's from Saudi. I do not learn from him. He's from he's black. He's white. He's yellow. He's revert he's this. Okay, who are you going to learn from

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me. Okay, let's see what you have zero. So coming back to your question, this was just an introduction to break the ice. You guys are freezing today is 26 degrees in Saudi Arabia. And with eight o'clock in the evening, I that condition is on my fan is

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perspiring but hamdulillah and the guy says Salahuddin Are you cold? Kidding me? You guys live in a freezer? And so coming coming back to your question, actually, fact number one. Each and every Muslim should have this as at the back of his head and his sub conscience wherever he goes. There is not a single human being on Earth. Neither in the past nor in the future. Who's not tested?

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Oh, sure. Come on.

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Yes. You mean to tell me Elon Musk is tested? Bill Gates is tested? Yes. Ship they have trillions and billions of dollars. How are they tested? It they are the most miserable people on earth? They have. They have billions. How many divorce cases have they gone through Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates.

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Half of their wealth is gone. This is enough to give them a heart attack.

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Despite the depression drugs, Elon Musk is known to have a joint in his hand 24/7 The guys stoned the money all the time, but they're tested. So whether you're rich or poor, whether you're healthy or sick, whether you come from this country or that every single individual is being tested.

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The fun part is

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everyone is tested, according to how Allah azza wa jal Wilson,

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so you guys in UK au share, I have a lot of sessions, counseling sessions with UK residents and they come to me in the 510 minutes the first 510 minutes complaining of this and that is that okay, finished your event it said yes. Is it okay? Mashallah, you live in the UK, you're even happier,

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on average, than the people in the US who are living the American dream. You guys have benefits. You even get diaper benefits for your children. If they upgrade Come on, guys.

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If you're unemployed, Oh, I'm getting benefits for unemployment. And if you don't have a house, they give you house and the projects or whatever. I don't know if they still do that. But again, how many meals? Do you have? Three? No, chef, we have five because we have to reduce the amount of intake of calories. You know, we have to take care of our bodies and wait on what you guys are talking about. What about your transportation? Oh, the best busing services in the world? They come right on the spot. Railways, underground schooling, how much do you pay? Oh, screenshare. But you know, we have students loans for uni.

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Why NHS? We have this? We have that? Okay, what are you suffering from or share? Hala has

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tested me with something I can tolerate? What?

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I can go to the gym, all gyms are mixture. What can I do? I can't work out. Are you crazy? They come and say I have a problem with my spouse. What's his problem? He doesn't send me love messages. Does he provide for you? Yes. Does he put a roof on your head? Yes. food on the table? Yes. He ever physically or verbally abused you never share? What are you doing? So everyone is tested. But people think that their test is the worst. There are people in hospitals. If you have a test, go and check those who have your variant cancer, breast cancer, colon cancer, blood cancer. Go and check those who were in a car accident paralyzed neck down. Go and check with people who had

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contracted. I don't know if the word is right or not. My English is for

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herpes. They got herpes when they're young. And they had nothing to do never ever kissed a girl or a boy. It's just happened since they were seven years of age and they are now in their mid 30s having

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oral herpes.

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And the guy says sure what can I do? I this is your test from Allah. But imagine such tests when your government proposed to people and they reject you. Oh, no, no, no, no, I know you. I saw you in Soho. What wasn't that

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to, I don't know, anyhow, so everyone is tested, go to Yemen,

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go to Syria. People are dying like flies.

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And you think you're tested, go to the Rohingya

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killed, decapitated, playing with their children's heads as football just because the Muslims go to the yoga, ogre in China. A million in captivity. For what? Just saying Leila hell Allah forced you to drink alcohol during the month of Ramadan. Take your hijab shave your beat, don't pray, what are you going to do? And, oh, I'm tested. So every single individual is tested.

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And rarely those would pass. Allah says in short Sula to Lanka boot. Alif Lam mean, a hasip and NAS, a Utako, a Yahoo ama nawala. Live to know, do people think that they will be let alone to say, Oh, I believe I believe I'm a Muslim. without them being tested, may we have tested those before them.

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And we shall test them so that it would be a parent who is saying the truth and who is lying.

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So rule number one, every single one is being tested.

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Rule number two, the test you are undergoing was something that falls under the Six Pillars of email.

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Just to refresh your memory I know you guys know it by heart

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and our listeners as well.

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First of all, to believe in Allah,

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to believe in the Day of Judgment, to believe in the angels, to believe in the messenger's to believe in the scriptures, and to believe in the Divine Decree whether good or bad. Divine decree is one of the things that if you have it, you're the man, what is the chair? The Prophet said alayhi salatu salam, when Allah first created the pen,

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Allah told the pen, right? And the pen said, Allah, what should I write? Allah said, Write the decree,

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the predestiny that is going to happen from now till the Day of Judgment.

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So the pen started writing

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in the Preserved Tablet, that no one can see except Allah. The Prophet says Allah so some, this incident of writing took place 50,000 years before Allah created the whole universe. Whoa.

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In the beginning, there was ALLAH and there was nothing with him.

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Allah is the first without a beginning. And he's the last without an end SubhanaHu isosure But we don't know Allah. So everything is written down.

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Oh, this means that if I decided to raise my left hand,

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this was written 50,000 years ago.

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This is written, putting it down. This is written, no one knows what was written except Allah azza wa jal. This means that when we are under or under pressure,

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we have to always have this at the back of our minds that we are being tested. What are you going to do? Because the results will be

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your results on the Day of Judgment. The test did you pass or fail?

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So, my, my, my son died.

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I handed I don't have sons, by the way. They're all girls. So one of my sons died.

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I have one of two

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choices in life. Number one,

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either to bang my head in the wall to whine and weep and cry and complain why me? Why not? What I could have done this. I could have done that and keep on complaining and objecting.

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The result? I failed the test.

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I will be sinful.

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My child will not come back to life.

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Choice number two.

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I say in the law we're in a Rajon.

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Allah has taken what He has given and I'm content with what Allah has decreed upon me. Yes, I'm sad. I may weep, but I never complain. I never object. What will happen

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When number one unrewarded number two, Allah would substitute me with something better. Number three, my child will not come back to life still.

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So pressure is there for everyone. It's a test from Allah azza wa jal.

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Fact number three,

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why does Allah testers

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does he know everything? Can t change things? Can he make me rich? Can he make me healthy? Can he make me less than that? Yes. But who are you to question Allah?

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Allah owns everything in this universe, a well known fact.

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If he decided, if he will, that everybody in this universe go to hell. He tossed them in hell they burn

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in hell. Can anybody say? Objection? Your Honor, I'd like to go to the Hey,

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and escalate this with International Criminal Court. I'd like to complain to the Security Council, they

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sit down and relax, loosen up your belt, let your hair down, take off your shoes. You ladies also can do that. So what are you going to do? Nothing.

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So Allah owns everything. In fact, number one, Allah is fair and just Allah azza wa jal would never ever transgress or do anything that is unfair.

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Track number three, Allah is wise, Allah is Knowledgeable, so he does the very best for us. Now, when we come to look at all of this,

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when we compare our calamity, our pressure to others, we find that

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we have nothing to worry about.

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And this is a sign of a true believer.

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Allah says in surah

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Allah when they mean Billa Galba

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whoever believes in Allah, Allah would guide his heart, Imam Mujahid says in the Tafseer It is revealed concerning someone who is tested and his heart is content because he knows it's from Allah.

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That's it.

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And will lie

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will be Lehi. What Allah He

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these are the three types of swearing by Allah's name with the three letters preceding

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His name, bah, bah, wah, wah Wallahi. Belay to lie. So I'm sweating. And I'm emphasizing my oath that the happiest man on earth

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is someone whose content along with whatever happens to him in the midst of a car accident, okay, it's my new 2023 car. What are you doing? You smash the headlights? You did this? The guy comes out from the car handler. Nobody's hurt. handler. Okay, aren't you angry for what happened to your car? No, it could have been worse. I could have injured someone. I could have banged my head on the steering wheel and went into a coma. The car could have been totally wasted. handler

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nothing happened.

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content. So coming back to your question. I guys, I know you fell asleep while talking. I know. I can bore myself to death sometimes. That's why

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if you have pressure, always be content that it was pre ordained by Allah always acknowledged that it's a test. And whatever you do, is the result.

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And finally, always acknowledge that there are way way worse people who are being tested and

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Desikan lokalen. She would lay with us that's very insightful, very informative. And, again, we've just learned a lot Mashallah.

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You know,

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in regards to something that you said earlier about stress, I have a question myself, and that is, again, we didn't experience you before, but I'm a counselor as well myself by profession.

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And I've dealt with a lot of people in the past and currently as well, and a lot of people they complain about stress

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But there are those that complain about just a small list of things and they call it depression. And so what I would like in Charlotte Allah barnacle Alfie Kohn is for you to explain to the viewers the difference between stress and depression. Radical Alfie Kohn okay, I've never taken

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a course in psychology

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don't go and coordinated me I am Islamic, the Islamic Lee. Okay, so I'm a counselor in the sense that people come to me due to two three reasons one, my Islamic knowledge to my age. So I am able to help people by opening their eyes to see how shaytan is messing up with their heads. And secondly, to give them wise advice coming from an old man with an hamdulillah experience in life. So, when it comes to stress, stress is something in my point of view, again, don't quote me on is something that no one can escape. It's like anger.

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So when the Prophet I system was approached by a man and he said, Oh, Prophet of Allah give me advice. So the Prophet said, Don't become angry. Then I said, Give me more. Don't become angry, don't become angry, don't become angry.

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scholar said, If you don't become angry, you're a wimp.

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So someone comes and grabs your wife, excuse my French, and you say, Oh, I'm not gonna become angry. You're not a man.

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So then what does the Prophet mean? Ah, the prophet means there's some that each and every individual must have anger in him. But you must control the consequences of your anger. If you see sin in front of you, you have to be angry. If someone attacks you without becoming angry, you will never defend yourself. This is my right cheek, take my left cheek. Okay, we're out of cheeks. The Muslims have been hit, right, left and center we're out of cheeks. So no. So likewise stress.

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Everyone is entitled to be stressed. Even the Companions

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Abu Bakr was with the Prophet Elisa mela rupees in the cave,

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hiding from the idol worshipers who were pursuing them. And Abu Bakr was so stressed. He said, Oh prophet of Allah. If one of them looked underneath his feet, he would have seen us.

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That is stressed. I'm stressed man. And the Prophet said of a buck.

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What do you think of to their third is Allah azza wa jal

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now, it was destress colors. Abu Bakr had no stress anymore. Once he heard these words of comfort, Allah is with you enough. That's it, I'm not gonna care anymore. Depression is a different story. Depression is a feeling or a combination of feelings, of sadness, of loss of

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worries about the past, more likely than the present or the future, where stress is something about the present and the future. So in a sense, I just came up with this Don't quote me.

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improvising, whenever I'm lost, I just give throw big words and people are lost all mashallah words of wisdom. So this is a difference between a rum will hum

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hum is something that you carry because of something that's might be coming. So you're worried how am I gonna pay the rent next month? I don't have enough money. This is him. I love them is over something that had that was done in the past. Oh, I did this. I did that. How can I rectify it? I divorced my wife. What have I done? I've destroyed my my house. What are my children about to do? So it's, it's a combination. Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong. Who cares? You're not paying me for this. So So

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we come back to the issue of stress, everybody's stressed. But this is something that can go away easily. You know, when I was your age 3040 years ago, I had a lot of stress at work. But how we are used to take the stress out or share by night prayer by reciting the Quran

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was it

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At religious,

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I used to go to the gym, play an hour and a half of squash and beat the heck out of this ball.

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It screamed its head off.

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I went home, took a shower. I'm a fresh person, no stress, I'm not thinking of any of what's coming or what's going on what's happened. an easygoing guy. Next morning, I deal with my students at school, with the principal with the other colleagues, a mellow, I'm chilling. So this is one of the way of taking stress away. Of course, if you engage in reading the Quran, teaching and

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contemplating on things, you will feel much better now depression

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is due to a number of reasons. It can be a mental illness. And we make the mistake of saying

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you have depression. You're not a believer. Your Eman is weak? No, no, no, you're totally out of it. Because depression could come. The duration is related to email wasn't a profit as some depressed when people did not accept his call? Yes. But was he on Prozac? No, no, no, this is definitely not the type of depression we're talking about. This depression is a positive one. It's for the sake of Allah is rewarded for it. This is why Allah counseled him. Or let me rephrase that consoled him

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with verses of the Quran, don't put yourself at harm's way, don't kill yourself over them Don't feel sad, and depressed because of them. Kindness in the hands of Allah. So Allah is comforting him. And that's why it was a slight moment in time. Unlike people saying, Oh, I've been depressed for like seven years. I've tried everything. No, no, this is an illness. Maybe you need to consult a Muslim psychiatrist, not someone who would put your medication on uppers or downers and make you addicted to it. And now with the medical marijuana, whoa, feels good, man. I'm really depressed. Now you have to check it with a real practicing Muslim Doctor Who would get it see whether this is something

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clinical that can be solved with drugs, or it's just venting and redirecting your process of thinking that Allah knows best. Like a lot of people. Remember, Chef, just to go back earlier to the point that you mentioned that the handler was blessed to go Bangladesh to visit their own camps. And the point that you made is so powerful, these kids, they've seen the most tormenting things that we can't even imagine. When you go speak to them, they're still smiling, still happy, still reciting Quran, you ask them about the situation, they reply with Alhamdulillah because they have Tauheed Islam, and even the elders Subhanallah they were very grateful that we were there and giving

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whatever we could give. But then you go fly to the UK, and this kids that don't have iPads, and they're crying Subhanallah so it's a massive, massive contradiction between Subhanallah we're just going back to the point chef

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Hamdulillah we deal with a lot of youth, in our town in our cities. And I see a lot of them. They come you know, they have social media and they have tuition and schooling, they have lots of things going on their life. And you ask them are they happy? And a lot of them they say they're depressed. And although compared to everything else, you know, as we've mentioned already, in reality is nothing compared to other people are going through. What would you say to that youngster? That youth that feels like they're depressed fills up? You know, they can't handle they're always anxious. What would you say to that youth?

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Ah, okay. This is

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a lot of issues intermingled together. It's not one size that fits all. There is no magical pill.

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Why is he depressed? Because it started from his parents. There. His parents are always nagging and bickering and complaining. The father is 24/7 complaining of the

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heating bill, the Gospel. It's crazy. The electricity bill, the gas prices and inflation. The mother is always complaining of her in laws. Your mother said this, your sisters did that. And especially if they live in a joint family, and the food is this and that and they're fighting and complaining. This can

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cascades down to the children. What did you raise your children upon?

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Upon NAMAs? Upon fasting, we are a Muslim.

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Family share so mashallah, did you ever take a snapshot of how you deal with your children the moment you enter your home? I don't understand where

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you come frustrated from work for not getting the race for the harassment you're facing from non Muslim colleagues from this from that from so many factors. So much. So many things on your plate.

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However, the moment you enter the house, the boys are fighting. The girls are bickering they're running after one another shouting everywhere. What is the first thing you do?

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Angrily What are you doing? Why are you shouting and fighting? Oh, Daddy, she did this. He did that. They're trying to seek your judgment. What do you say? Do you print them as called printers?

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So what is the punishment in their head? Salah? Did you memorize your page of the Quran? You're always like this. You're always dumb. You never pay attention. Allah will not put you in Hell and Paradise Bowden. Allah azza wa jal will not make you an imam of the Muslims, you retard but is this to the boy instead of being encouraged instead of being brought up to feel proud of his religion is being put down suppressed when you expect him to be?

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So whenever he wants to have that this happened at school? Don't you have friends outside to play? Take the bicycle and go is five quid go and buy some obstacles or ice cream? So they don't want to communicate with the children

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but they have lots of them how many I have six all Mashallah. I have eight who will good. Why are you having so many kids? Do you love kids? Nah, but the benefits we get? They pay the bills. I can send money to my family back home, I can do that. Subhan Allah. So when you come and say to me, the kids are depressed. It's not that it is the environment they're living in. And it's not only UK come to Saudi.

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I live in Saudi I live an hour drive from Makkah. Do you think we're any better? No.

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Rarely you will find children in a good mood.

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My grandchildren are in international schools.

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Meaning that they study in English. I spoke to their parents. What are you guys doing? They can't even recite the page of the Quran correctly.

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They can't even order

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in Arabic. So I'd like two big mac and one fish filet. MashAllah with an accent. Wow. So sophisticated.

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What is this?

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And in all what they know, is freeze or Disney or whatever this is what what they see what they

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have in their lives. How would you like them to be guided? Look at them when they pray. Oh, I would love to

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finish. Mashallah. From zero to 100. Are you a Porsche 911 Turbo S, this is not a prayer that you have performed. And the kids end up and the parison It's okay. They trade?

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Yeah, they trade it seems, but there is no relation between prayer and what they had performed.

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So it's a whole package deal

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that we need to present as you've clearly mentioned, all our children, grandchildren, one of my grandchildren is like three years of age, and he's addicted to the iPad. And he does this Shala this magical thing this this this this? I don't know how they acted they know the password of the network and they know when to log from the Wi Fi into the 5g and what this mashallah baraka and then you expect them to not be depressed, excuse me.

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Allah says a levena airmen were taught in Aruba whom basically Allah, Allah will light up my globe. Those who believe and their hearts find tranquility and comfort in remembering Allah. Verily, in remember in Allah, The hearts are comforted. So, without this, you will have stress you will have depression. You will have anxiety

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Do you have panic attacks unless you find something to run away from that, and you have two alternatives, one, going back to the dean going back to the Sharia, to the Quran. And this is very difficult, unfortunately to some even boring. Two, which is the easy way out. movies, songs, soap, operas, TV,

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social media, tik, Tok, Snapchat, Instagram, and you'll find people addicted to it. But this addiction is temporarily.

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I have a friend who was addicted to watching movies in his teens. He says, I used to watch like, four or five movies a day.

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And after every movie of an hour and a half, I was so happy, you know, eating popcorn and having a good time, race, racing cars and shooting guns. And after the movie is finished,

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I feel depressed. I go to my mom and I say, Mom, I'm depressed. I'm bored. She's Subhanallah Do you see on my favorite forehead? On board? Every time you see me, you say the same words. He said, I could not fill the emptiness in my soul, except by seeing another movie, and a third movie. So nowadays, it's not movies. It's YouTube. It's tick tock. And it's addiction. And the more you go higher, you want something more serious. More deep.

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So in the beginning, it was Tom and Jerry.

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It was Bugs Bunny. Children laugh, fly a few years later, they want some some some something more serious. So they have

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The Japanese and this is levels. So now they want more blood, more violence, and then a little bit of nudity. Now they're intense. Okay, no, that is not a little bit appropriate. I'd like something even deeper. Can we have like double x Triple X, then they want to see the movies. And the movies they cast. they categorize it into PG rated R rated x. So now everybody goes to rated x. And then you don't want to worry why are they depressed? What do you expect?

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So I think it's a full package deal. I don't want you to me to be depressed by what I'm saying. But again, this is an eye opener, we have to realize our present. What's happening to our kids. How much time are we investing? Are we just preaching them? Okay, kids line up. I'm gonna give you a sermon for half an hour. Bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla. Allah says, the Prophet says, The Beautiful Names of Allah, al Qaeda issues, and the guys sitting.

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Did you benefit? Yes, daddy, us you can go.

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It doesn't happen this way. They hate it in the masjid. They hate it at class. They hear it in the does. It doesn't you have to communicate? Where is your quality time? Let them speak rather than you. Let them tell you about incidents that happened at school. And don't you dare the moment they tell you?

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are you a Kaffir? What is this? They will never tell you anything again. Try to accommodate them, incubate them, take what they have, and redirect them with love compassion. Is it easy? Of course not. It's one of the most difficult things in life. And it makes you your blood pressure go probably become diabetic, and lots of illnesses would occur. And this is why men die before women because they suffer more. Women are you know, chilling. Most likely they have no worries. Men are who ran to the house.

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Jobs taking care of the kids than getting married. They're trying to please the missus the in laws, the family. The girl sits home, or what she cares about in her husband and the children.

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Nothing much on her plate, but I don't want feminists to come. Oh

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yeah, I've been used to be called the male chauvinist pig. So Hamdulillah 100.

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I will say that handler just in agreement with you, by the way.

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I don't know how much time we got left chef, and we don't have to take up too much of your time. But I do have a question for you. And that's in regards to the actual topic of this whole podcast, dealing with the stresses of life. I wanted to ask you that, how important is time management for the Muslim in order to overcome stress, and depression, etc. And all these other things that we've talked about? One of the main reasons for stress is the lack of time management. Now, if I don't manage my time, what would I spend my time in?

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Nonsense. So my essence in life is time.

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You know, the calendar pages you take? I don't know. This is too primitive. We have it in Arabia, maybe UK, you just this electronic. You guys are so rich and so wealthy. And like, every time you take one page of the calendar, and it has Albus Lee says, Oh, son of Adam, this is yours. This is your life. Every page you take is one day gone from your life.

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So when you have

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lack of appreciation of your time and life, which will be the first thing you will be questioned about in your grave. And your life, your youth, your time if you fail in utilizing it.

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What will you fill your time with? You will kill time. Subhanallah What did time do to be killed?

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So you find people playing on their ps4? PlayStation for free, John? No, no, see, I'm sophisticated. I know these things. So you're playing on your ps4? How long? Six hours? Seven hours. I wouldn't be left.

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Are you serious? Today? I don't have nothing to share. I'm just chilling with the boys. We like to play fortnight we like to play this game and that game online and we do this and and your time is wasted. What about you? Oh, I waste my time just checking social media platforms. I write on Twitter. I write on Facebook. I write on Snapchat. I follow many Instagram celebrities. I'm not going to talk about Halal haram. You know what I'm talking about. And tick tock.

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Tick tock is like 1015 seconds. What did you gain?

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Someone says to me, share. Did you watch the soccer game? Do you guys call it football?

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I said no. I never watched any game. Oh, share. Why don't you like football? No, I don't like football.

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Well, I like sports. I'm a sportsman. By the way. I've been doing sports for the past 45 years with the grace of Allah and still doing it. I have trophies in squash. I have medals in table tennis. They might play. Yeah, I give you handicap.

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I mean, we we play table tennis all the time in our community center. So

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we definitely have to any day.

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Handicap whenever you want. I'm calling all the way just to let you know. Maybe

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this is psychological warfare.

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You want won't last for one minute in front. Okay. So I play sports. I hit the gym three to four times a week. I do weights and bodybuilding. You think I'm a bit chubby? That hamdulillah Oh, that's good for me that I don't want anybody to see. But when you tell me that I do you watch squash games. So no. So we save time. Do you watch table tennis? No. I love it. But if I want to practice it, I go and sweat and change two to three T shirts filled with sweat because of the exercise that is beneficial. But to sit on my back, whatever, and just watch

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1122 men run after a ball

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as they usually say on Twitter, buy each one a ball and send them home.

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Why this? This is not beneficial. The Prophet used to seek alayhi salatu salam refuge in Allah from knowledge that is not beneficial. You're wasting your life. So definitely, it's like a cup. It's like a mug. You have the right to fill it with log

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If you can fill it with orange juice or water,

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your heart is the same. You can utilize your time in the same fashion Wallahi the more you fill your time with beneficial things, with teaching people, beneficial things, with the learning with acquiring more knowledge, you feel that time runs, and there's nothing to kill, and you wish that you had another five hours in every 24 hours a day. But where you don't utilize your time, is it's the day seems to be so long. Some of them even killed themselves commit suicide, why? I'm too bored, man, I don't I don't have a purpose in life.

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So I don't know this relates to your question, or I use big words to divert you from that was very, very beneficial Malika Luffy come share his it's okay to I don't know what your time is looking like. But I think we have like one or two questions left. And then just to kind of draw in the journal problem.

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Shall I was gonna ask Jeff, is there any particular IRA or Hadith that you may find solace in, or you know, even for the listeners as well, if they are going through a stressful period or anything like that anything that they can turn to or yourself that you turn to personally?

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Well, luckily, I find one of the best and beautiful, most beautiful eyes in the Quran.

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When you recall, what had happened to Prophet, Jonas, Jonas, when he was swallowed by the whale, you just imagine what goes into his mind. The guy was in a ship, peace be upon him. And they said, We have to lose weight, because otherwise the ship will sink and or we'd all die. So they started throwing valuable things. And then still, it's a storm is dangerous. So they said, We have to throw someone overboard.

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And his name was always drone. So he

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accepted that, and he was swollen by the whale. And for three days and three nights, he was in the belly of the whale. Now he's a prophet. Of course, he knows Allah is going to take care of him, but as a company, with all due respect, you have to be frightened, you have to be stressed, you have to be 100%. Worried. What was his do?

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Either in the superhard in the con Domina via the mean, very short, easy to understand and memorize. And I think in the subcontinent, they call it Kalama Sharif or Kalama Eva, I don't know I'm maybe mistaken. There is no god worthy of being worshipped except you.

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Glory be to You. I confess I was among the wrongdoers.

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The Prophet said are a salatu, salam, this dua, this supplication no one ever says it in times of depression, or worries, except Allah who would relieve him from wherever he's feeling.

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Now, the funny thing is, the prophet called it dua.

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And in our minds, we think that dua is oh Allah give me Oh ALLAH forgive me, oh, Allah grant me, oh Allah cure my illness, oh Allah. I'm asking things.

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But this is not the case. Dua is divided into two types. One dua or Sana

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it's the dua of complimenting and praising Allah. Example, the Prophet said Alessa Salam, the best of dua, is La Ilaha illa Allah.

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There is no god worthy of being worshipped except Allah. I didn't ask for anything. Yes, you don't have to. You just compliment Allah. Praise Allah, glorify Allah, this is

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the second type of dua is dua Ole Miss Allah, when you ask for something.

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So, the most honorable one is the first one which Prophet Yunus said he did not say Oh ALLAH Free me. Oh Allah set me free. Oh Allah protect me. He just acknowledge the Oneness of Allah, glorified Allah and confessed of his wrongdoing.

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So Allah azza wa jal saved him. So believe me whenever you are in distress, wherever you are depressed, or feeling that life is difficult and everything is attacking you from all directions, always

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Have your confidence in Allah.

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Allah has trillions of creations other than us. We have only one ALLAH. So he never turns us back. He never turns us down. He always listens and responds to us. C'est la vie de lenta Subhana que in the content of Valentin, of course, there is no mic or power, other than Allah. How Allah, what a what a level Allah, and also the DUA

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that the Prophet said is a sermon taught as Matt littermates if I'm not mistaken, to say, Allahu Allah who are be, whether or should he could be he had or she could be he che, Allah, Allah is my Lord, and I don't associate others with him. hulless This puts a lot of tranquility and peace in your heart but there is no god except Him. So I have no fear, he will take care of Allah subhanaw Nautica Luffy churches I can lock in our lives is that gonna last healer.

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We just obviously we've come kind of towards the end of our podcast. We don't want to take up too much of your time. Like I keep saying just obviously with Firstly, we just want to say a big jazz icon. I feel like I've said it three times already. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant you and your family the highest place in paradise, a gentle, gentle for dose of Allah.

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And the last thing that we normally do habitually is our other to do this is to ask our guest speaker to give the viewers some glad tidings in terms of like Naziha just just finish on some glad tidings insha Allah to Allah, just like all laughing Well, there are so many glad tidings, despite what people think.

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Lots and lots and lots of Muslims are so pessimistic. So negative. Look what's happening in Saudi Arabia. Look what's happening in Morocco. Look what's happening in Egypt, look what's happening in Pakistan, look what's happening everywhere. The Muslims are divided the Muslims that this actually you're not seeing anything, come to Saudi Arabia, come and see the Muslims filling up the messages. The Muslims being united, the Muslims feeding the poor, during the month of Ramadan, in the streets, giving their eggs and water and food, come and see the Muslims in their hijab, in their beards in their treating one another with all courtesy and generosity. And this is everywhere I go to

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Indonesia, they don't speak a single word of Arabic. The moment they see you and they acknowledge you're a Muslim, they invite you to the very little they have. You have to share with them. The food go to Bangladesh. The amount of people coming asking me questions on Ask that from Bangladesh is mind blowing? Who am I? Nobody? Yet they come and tune in to that and ask questions, the amount of emails I'm getting. People are rising. The Muslims are rising. And the beautiful thing is not violent. It's with knowledge. It's with wisdom. And people are spreading the word in a very beautiful way look at the events and FIFA in Qatar.

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Beautiful things that happened. Dawa wise, many many things have been positively introduced to the non Muslims in the masjid and the Contura the way that the dress and the gifts and so many people are getting to know Islam in a positive way. Glad Tidings Allah azza wa jal is the one who sent us this beautiful religion. He's the one who pledged upon himself to preserve it. And he's the one who pledged that it would prevail, whether they like it or not. So whether you come on board or not,

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nobody cares. It's your head.

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That will count and you're the one who will lose. It's exactly like the Ark of Noah. Please be upon the arc of Noah.

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If you embark on it, you will be saved from the flood. If you don't, you will sink and drown and die like everyone else. So may Allah azza wa jal makes us among those who embark the Ark of sunnah and of the authentic Aveda of the Quran and abide by it

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with wisdom and knowledge, and to call the people with fair preaching until the day we meet him, and Allah azza wa jal knows Besame Zack en lo que la

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May Allah bless you for your time chef, and we shall see you again soon and we still got the table tennis game Sharla to play us on definitely

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don't have high hopes. It would all be in vain. We look at player and we can tell by the way he speaks and acts. It's hopeless. It's hopeless. The thing is shaking it remember you said that you can't see us perfectly.

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I don't have to I can send you

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this is this is one of the powers of the Jedi.

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Zachman Lochhead for having me. And may Allah azza wa jal make all your efforts sincere for his sake. I mean, and may Allah azza wa jal always rectify our intentions because people's praise or people's criticism doesn't count. I think all what counts is what what is with Allah azza wa jal was Zachman la que was Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatu. So now, Monica, and hamdulillah you've just watched a podcast by Mobis Shiro and called the glad tidings podcast. Our aim is to spread the dour as far as possible, and to connect the general Muslims with the people of knowledge in sha Allah Who to Allah. In order to do this, we need you guys to subscribe, like and share in sha Allah.

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