Maryam The Chosen 28 – The Births of Jesus & John The Baptist

These are the absolute worst people to be a tyrant to.

Allah accounts the debut of both Yahia and Isa in the Quran, both of their earthly debuts. They're both named before they arrive. They both have a wide variety of qualities that are mentioned with their arrival. So let's look at them number one. Yeah, Allah subhanaw taala says, what Hannah and I mean Laguna was a cat and what kind of stocky Hannah means love. And so yeah, is loved by Allah. I mean, Luna was a captain and purified. So that's number two. What kind of takia and he has Taqwa. Well, Balram bydd. Allah subhanaw taala says, and he is dutiful, kind to his parents, and he is not Jabatan ossia he's not tyrannical and disobedient. Cool. So we've got four qualities for Yeah, yeah,

he's loved, he's purified. He has stuck WA and he's good to his parents. As for Isa, Allah subhanaw taala. Later on and sort of medium when he makes his debut. And he says the one who kind of announces, he's not kind of but he does. He's the one who announces his qualities. So he says, I'm the servant of Allah. That's number one. Taniel Kitab kita. He gave me the book, which Allah Nina via and he made me a Prophet, which island in Balkan anima Quint and he made me bless it wherever I am. While so I need to select you as a customer to hire and he made me he enjoined on me prayer, and charity as long as I'm alive. Well above that I'm BYD the tea and he made me dutiful to my mother.

So this is and I'm introducing himself to the world, his earthly debut with seven qualities. And what are those seven qualities really quickly again, so he's a servant of Allah, he's given the book, meaning that he's a messenger. Yeah, there is no book that's given to him. He follows the book. But besides that, he says, I've been given the book, and he made him a prophet. And he made him enjoined with Prayer and Charity and goodness to his mother. So we see with these qualities that none of them are explicitly shared the qualities of Yahia and the qualities of an ISA. Now of course, many of them are implicitly shared. So they both of course share Taqwa. They both share

being blocked by Allah subhanaw taala. They both share prophethood they both share Prayer and Charity and all these types of things. But as far as if we're looking at the words that the Quran is listing and highlighting in that moment, in those passages, what is the one thing that is shared by both of them, kindness to their parents? Yeah, Baran bydd. He is kind to his parents and si sera Barbara be validities he says, and kindness to my mother. And Allah subhana wa Tada says, and we did not make him or he says, and we did not make him jubbaland Arsia. He is not Jabbar tyrannical, disobedient. And so and as I said, I'm says and bottled on BYD the tea, and I am dutiful to my

mother and I am not Jabbar Shakira. I am not Jabbar wretched. What does Jabbar mean? Jabbar is one of the names of Allah right. What does juggler mean? Jumper means to compel. jebra means to compel. And so a tyrant is called Jabbar. Why? Because they compel people, they don't let people do what they want to do. Right and so

Allah subhanaw taala when he's a Jabbar, that means that he's the Compeller I didn't choose the way that I look, I didn't get to choose my parents. I didn't get to choose the year that I was born, I don't get to choose the year that I die. All of this is Allah subhana data compelling his servants, okay. Also, there's another beautiful meaning of the names of God however, which means the one who fixes that which is broken, ALLAH SubhanA died is a Jabbar, he fixes our brokenness, when you have a broken bone, what do they do, they force those bones back together. And that is a manifestation of Allah subhana data being a ninja, but even a cast, it's called the Jabara because it forces your

bones back together. And so it's fixing your brokenness. So I don't want you to think a Jabbar is just it's a scary name of Allah. It can be of course, it's indicating his power, but at the same time, it's a beautiful name of Allah because it indicates him fixing our brokenness. That being said, when it is a human who's called a bot, it's not a good thing. I had a friend who called me and he's like, I want to name my son's a bot. I was like, Don't do it. Listen to me. Don't do it. Because it means tyrant. And so the worst people to be Jabbar to are your parents, the worst people to be abattoir your parents. We see being negated from both Yeah, it is set up and being negated

from Isa de Sena. And when Zachary is being told that, yeah, he has no job, but and when he says, announcing in front of his mother, as she's holding him, that he is not Jabba. Allah Subhana Allah knows best, but this can be part of the assurance that these parents are getting. You know, I have a friend of mine. He has a son and he's got a daughter and I called him up and I was asking him like, you know, how's your son and stuff like that? He said to me, he's like, Listen,

he's like, my son is four years old.

And I am already certain that there is nobody in the world who's going to cause me more

grief than this boy.

He's like, He's four years old and I'm scared of him. He looks me dead in the eye when I tell him to do something, and he goes, No. He's like, I know that there's nobody who's gonna cause me more trouble than this son and inshallah to Allah, it says, not gonna cause him any trouble. May Allah subhanaw taala make it easy for him and for all of us. But I mean, that's Zachary, it, Sam's been making the art for this child, and he finally gets this child and he, he's receiving that assurance from Allah subhanaw taala, that this child is not going to be a difficult child for you. This child is not going to be a challenge for you, this child is not going to be someone who's going to cause

you to stay up at night and gonna cause you to pull out your hair and cause you to No, no, no, this child is going to be someone who is not Jabbar, they're not going to be tyrannical. They're not going to be Compeller for you, because the worst thing is what the worst thing is your parents give you their life source. They give you the best years of your life of their lives. And when they reach old age, and now they're in need of you and you're at full strength, that use that strength that they gave you. You use that body that they nourished, to compel them and to abuse them and to harm them and to be tyrannical towards them. So Allah subhanho wa Taala negates it from Yeah, yeah. And

Allah subhanaw taala negates that attitude from Sid Santa Maria Medina Salam is being a short that this child of hers that she has, is going to be a source of comfort for her source of tranquility for her a source of kindness to her. And I need to be honest, there's a scene in the Bible that we as Muslims don't accept. And even though it might seem subtle, and you'll find that people are, you know, very ready to kind of interpreted in different ways. Sid cinema Jesus is sitting at a wedding with his mother. It's reported a Mark, Matthew and Luke, and his mother comes to call him and he's talking to his disciples, and his mother and his brothers or his his, his siblings, his half

siblings. Allah knows best if Jesus had half siblings, but his mother comes and she's calling him.

And they say, the disciples say your mother is calling you and he says, who's my mother? Who is my mother?

Who are my brothers?

These are my mother, and these are my brother. whoever does the will of God. He is my brother and my sister and my mother. Like this is not appropriate, not just for a prophet of Allah subhanaw taala of course, but it's not appropriate for someone like medium it has set up to experience. Allah subhana wa Tada negates that in the Quran when he describes the scientists and I'm missing one bottle and BYD that he and I'm dutiful to my mother, I am kind to my mother. That's not the image that we get in the Quran of Isa or Yeah, yeah, he is described as not jubbaland Arsia Jabbar that is disobedient. And Isa is not described as Jabara and Shakira, someone who's a tyrant or someone who's

a Compeller, who is wretched. Kindness to parents, is the middle gate of gender. It's the middle gate that leads a person to paradise. It's so profound, it is so powerful and act that unlike even a hotdog Ilan li set by the one in whose hand is my soul.

If a person committed murder, and murder in Islam is the greatest sin other than committing schicke other than worshiping other than Allah, there's no sin that's greater omentum hotdog on the line, who said, If a person committed murder, and their mother was alive, and they were good, and kind and dutiful to her, I would hope that that person would not be touched by the fire. Meaning that it is a deed of such great stature in the sight of Allah subhanho data, that even a sin as great as murder on middle of the line hopes that that kindness of the mother would erase that sin would erase the effects of that sin. The question, however, that always gets asked, is when you say kindness and

dutifulness Yeah, it has set up, for example, as being described as what I mean. And he was not, yeah, to his cinemas being described as not Jabbar or ousia. He's not a Compeller nor was he disobedient. So the idea of obedience is also infused in this notion of Bill of kindness, okay, to your parents, there is an element of obedience. So what does that mean? Do I have to obey my parents all the time, like, I got to obey them with everything. The scholars actually, you know, categorized obedience in very beautiful ways. Okay, so I'm just gonna, I want you to draw a little chart here. I want you to, you know, lay this out in sha Allah, and, you know, come up with different ideas as

well in the comments. You can come up with different scenarios. We can try to answer them and figure them out, but it's important that you have this clear

hear in your mind. So they said the first category is when they tell you to do something,

not doing it will harm them.

And doing it will not harm you. Okay?

They tell you to do something, not doing it, if you don't do it, it will harm them. And if you do it, it won't harm you.

The answer to that is you have to do it. What's an example of that? An example of that is your dad says, can you go he says go to the store and get me my medicine.

Him not having his medicine harms him.

You going to the store? does it harm you. It's not like he told you to go to the store. Right? When you have a flight that you need to catch, you go into the store is not going to harm you. Because then it would harm you, then you have to figure something out. But it's not going to harm you. If that's the case.

You check those boxes, check that box, it will harm them. If it's not done. It won't harm you. If it's done, you have to do it. Okay. So that's scenario number one. I hope that's clear. The second

the ask you for something.

It won't harm them. If you don't do it. They don't need it. And at the same time, it won't harm you if you do it. So let's say for example,

you're doing well, you've got some money, and your dad says, I really would like to have a new iPhone, please get me an iPhone.

Or he says Go get me an iPhone, right? It costs like $1,000, for example, you are you can afford it, it's not going to hurt you, okay, or something more less significant than that. It's not going to benefit them or harm you. But, you know, if they asked you to do something, then you have to do it. Why? Because pleasing your parents is obligatory, pleasing your parents is obligatory, it's not going to harm you. It's not going to harm you and it's not going to harm that cool. And it's not something that they need. Okay. Then we have category number three, which is it is going to harm them. If you do it.

They ask you to do something, and it is going to harm them if you do it. What do you do that? So your dad is diabetic and he says go to the store, please and get me my favorite double chocolate cheesecake. Go do it right now. Listen to your father.

You're like dude, that I said that I met. I said, Dude, I met dad. That's what I met. Right? We're like that, like you're diabetic. I can't do that.

That's not haram. Right? Sugar is not haram. But guess what? If it's something that's harmful for them to do, then you can't do it.

If it's something that's haram, that's clear, like, you don't even need to think about that. Your dad says, Go get me cigarettes or something like that, that says, Go get me alcohol. Like, no, that's how long doesn't matter. You can command me all day, you can come at me till the cows come home, you can tell me that you're not pleased with me. You can tell me all that type of stuff. But that's, that's that's different. Okay, so, Haram is easy. That's an easy way to go. But I'm saying if it's harmful for them, right? Sugar, it's this, it's that then you don't do it, you can't do it.

Okay, so we're still talking about benefit and harm when it comes to the parents. What about if it harms you? So now we're in number four, if it harms you, if it harms you,

and it will benefit them, then you don't have to do it. So for example, your dad tells you, son,

I need you to lie on your tax return.

You're making too much money, you're gonna affect my taxes, my household income, my might you're gonna affect my tax return. I don't know. I need you to lie. You're like, no, hold on a second. I can't, I can't, I can't commit fraud.

I can't do that.

Or your father tells you to to, to do something that is going to be out of your own interest. A father comes in, he tells you

I want you to divorce your wife, I want you to marry my cousin's daughter. You're like, I can't do that though. I've got my I've got my own kids, I've got my I love this woman, like I can't do that. Right. So they are asking you to do things that will harm you, and it will benefit them here. You know, he gets to, I don't know,

be a part of the family group chat on his other side or whatever it is that he was gonna get done. Right? So then that gets thrown out. You don't have to do that also. And then the fifth, of course, is if it doesn't benefit him, and it will harm you then you don't do it could just be a random idea that they have something that they want to do. It's not really going to benefit them, but it's just a suggestion. It's just something that they're excited about. So these are the categories and there

are lots and lots and lots of scenarios, obviously that you can see. But as long as the categories are clear in your mind that Shala you'll have the understanding of what build why today and actually requires it's not a scenario where you just have to obey your parents unconditionally, no matter what they've done, but you have to be kind to them no matter what. So in all of these circumstances, there's no excuse for a person being mean or cruel or vindictive with regards to their parents. But kindness is still required. The obedience part however, that's conditional on all of these factors, and Allah subhanho data knows best see in the next video