Change of Heart #09 – Hayaa (modesty, shyness, shame)
Channel: Ali Hammuda
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah who Allah Allah He also had behaved when Allah Lovely to see you dear brothers, may Allah subhanaw taala preserve your two sisters as well for being in attendance. And I offer a real, sincere apology inshallah for this delay, there were quite a few circumstances that really prevented the normal continuation of these classes in their normal time. But alhamdulillah, better late than never.
So of all of the
values of Eman
and the dimensions of it
that modernity seeks to deconstruct,
we can perhaps argue that none is under greater threat than the value of hire. How do we translate hire?
What would you say hire our good equivalent of hire is in English brothers.
Raise your hand if this is the first time you come across this term higher?
Raise your hand.
Yeah, so about a third. So from the two thirds
who kept their hands down? What is higher, I mean?
So shame. Yeah, any other words, modesty, shyness, and so on and so forth, higher.
I truly believe that there is no trait if of the 21st century that is under greater threat of extinction than this value of higher.
And a very quick Google search of the terms that you retrieve, when you type in the English of shyness.
You will see the negative words that come out of the search engine.
You will see that this word is very much associated with negative connotations like
no self esteem,
and personality disorders,
inability to keep relationships,
and other low confidence personality traits.
Yet our religion has a completely different take on the topic of how
our religion tells us that gender is inaccessible without it because it is a component of Iman and Paradise is only the home of the people of Eman.
Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us that higher laity in that will hire it only brings with it goodness. So how do we reconcile between what we understand here and our upbringing in the West that shyness is largely a negative characteristic that people want to veer away from. And on the other hand, our religion that speaks so highly of it, these are some of the things that we look to unpack this evening Shalabh data.
So, let us take a look. When we use the word higher, what are we referring to we are as we said, loosely referring to the concepts of shame,
modesty, classical English bashfulness conscientiousness. In other words, it's all of the characteristics that push a person away from lewd behavior and making the bad decisions in life,
pushing him or her away from indecency and guiding you towards the paths of decency, if you find yourself doing that it was your hire that pushed you to do that.
This is high up.
Do you also hear another Arabic word that resembles the word higher when you use it in Arabic? For those who are aware of the Arabic language?
Higher? What is high I mean, life
the word higher that we're translating a shame or shyness shares a common Arabic origin with the word Hyah. Which means life.
And that's why the the Arabs they also refer to rain as higher. How can I Bill Cassidy higher? Why because through rain life is given to the earth to the creatures. So it's almost as if the Arabs believe that your level of being alive
is directly proportionate to your levels of higher
the greater your experience of higher
shyness, shame, modesty, the greater your portion is of life. High levels of higher high levels of life, low levels of higher a deficient levels of life, a person who has no higher therefore is akin to a wild beast and animal a creature.
Life. And it makes sense when you think about it.
a creature that has died,
becomes numb from feeling pain. So the pangs of of pain are no longer experienced because the soul has left it. And similarly, a person who loses higher, it's like they've lost their life because their consciousness has been numbed.
So the hanging pain and guilt of sin is no longer experienced.
And therefore, it's like this person has died. It's phenomenal. Allah, Allah, Allah. So this is higher. From a linguistic perspective, it has common origins with the word higher life.
And this is one of the origins of this word, and it is not exclusive to that. So if you now say to me, brother, Haley, can you help us with a technical definition of the word higher? So we really want to put our finger on this word so we understand what we are speaking about. What does hire actually look like in practice, the scholars define it as the following they say, I'll hire
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an inner sense of retraction
and therefore abstaining from it. From the fear of blame.
Who can repeat that? Rafi? Can you repeat that?
They have. So where's your notepad and pen Shabaab who can repeat that one more time.
They say a higher is what
an inner sense of
retraction. It's an uncovered discomfort that you feel
something you detached it bothers you inside an inner sense of retraction like a tightness
and therefore leaving it
why from the fear of blame.
So notice how this definition has captured a few components.
It has captured the feeling
an inner sense of retraction, discomfort dislike towards something and then it has captured what you do as a consequence, therefore you leave it. So HIA is not just about a feeling. It's not just about shyness, or raw emotion. It's about translating it into art, and behavior.
So you could feel shy, but if you don't do anything about it, you're not a shy person in the religion, you're not a person of hair.
It's a feeling that then translates into an action. Why because of the fear of blame.
You don't want to be blamed by your load or you don't want to be blamed by the people depending on who the higher is from.
So this is higher from a linguistic perspective. And this is a definition of higher I have just shared with you.
And with that we have just understood the difference between a higher and Alhaji and
you're going to say to me, why are you sharing with us this distinction? We barely knew what higher meant, let alone this newer chrigel? Why are you comparing them? I will tell you in a moment.
Many times as we said earlier, higher is very much associated with negative characteristics. A quick search through Google Scholar or its likes, you will find that a lot of the science is saying it is associated with it's a neurosis. It's a mental health disorder. It's something that you need to be deconditioned out of and work your way up towards self esteem. And then you have our religion that praises higher and our religion would never praise a characteristic of weakness. We are an amount of strength and courage. How do we understand this? We say there is a distinction.
You have higher on one end, which as we said has nothing to do with weakness.
Right. It is simply a praiseworthy characteristic that causes you to rise above sin and
inappropriate behavior for the believer that's higher, it's positive, then you have this other characteristic, you have to be aware of this distinction called hudgell.
100. We can translate it as perhaps, timidity, to be timid.
And by definition, being timid is a lack of self confidence or a lack of courage, and that the Sharia has not praised.
And it's easy to conflate between the two
hudgell being timid, although some may translate it as a shyness is not what we are referring to. hudgell is what prevents you from making friends. hudgell is what prevents you from speaking truth to authority. hudgell is what prevents you from demanding What is your words your rights, that's not praiseworthy. This is a deficiency.
cudgel is what cold causes social phobias, social anxieties, break down in relationships, unable to sustain friendships. And our religion did not tell us to be timid, and our predecessors raised their children to be courageous, strong, decisive, and men and women have ethics and higher. And there is a distinction between both.
With this we have also understood where higher does not belong.
If if you've truly understood what higher means,
you also understand where it does not fit in, and where you may think that it is higher, but it is a guise.
And the first of those avenues were higher does not belong, is in the pursuit of knowledge.
our Islamic tradition is filled with references of the two enemies of learning what are they?
Higher and an arrogance.
Lie Anna Luna lmm was Dehiwala mistake with Buddha. He didn't do Java from the Caribbean. He said two categories of people will never learn the arrogant one and the shy one.
So this is a place where HYAH does not belong. You have a question? Ask it. And don't be shy.
Otherwise you will remain in your state. How will you learn? And our mother I Isha? May Allah be pleased with her. She praised the woman of the unsalted, the early residents of Medina. What did she say about them? She said no. And then he said, Oh, nice out. Well, I'm sorry. How wonderful and find where the women have the answer why?
Law let me Iconium now who will hire Aminata co Heafy. Dean because their sense of hire did not prevent them from learning the religion.
So this is one place where hire does not belong. When you are studying their religion of Islam ask and break down barriers. And the second place where hire does not belong is
when conforming blindly to social pressure.
Don't say I'm shy.
That's not called being shy.
When you go with the HUD
when you say I'm too shy to speak out against them,
or to demand what I need as a Muslim. That's misplaced shyness. That is Hugill, that is weakness, not the height which the religion has praised
and our messengers, they were social reformers. And they spoke against the status quo, although it upset a lot of people. And they had the greatest levels of higher.
So I'll give you examples. A brother or a sister who takes out a loan from a member of family. And they say, I'm not going to ask them to document it. Because that will imply that I am accusing them of being, you know, lacking in trust. I have shyness I'm shy. I can't ask them to do that. We say that's misappropriated hire, that's the wrong place for it. No.
A person who has a hand extended to him or her from the opposite gender, who is not a Mahara? When you say I'm shy, and you put your hand in his or hers, we say use any other word don't use higher higher up prevents you from doing that. doesn't push you towards it.
A brother who sees that the time for Salah has come in.
But he's going to have to pray in a public space where non Muslims will see him
and he says no, I can't do that. It's a bit weird. So I'm gonna go home and pray five prayers back to back or four brands back to back I was shy we say no, that's not shyness. That's weakness. That's the lack of religion. You call it what you want. That was not higher.
Hi, I would push you to pray because you are shy from Allah subhanho wa Donna, do you see a sister of ours who sees another Sisters of hers and every time she sees her her hijab is degenerating, and she says I'm too shy to advise her we say that's not shyness backstabbing that you see happening. This is a common one family and friends around dinner at home, people's honor is being trampled over. And you say I'm shy. I couldn't speak out against it. I couldn't walk out the room minimally. We say that's not shyness. That's lack of higher. Do you see? So these are two examples of where HYAH does not belong when you're pursuing knowledge. Another example is what
what did you just hear? What was the second example Yeah, Malik. When, when conforming to social pressure? Yeah, these are just examples. Now,
I want to take you on a journey. This is the main part of the talk that I wanted to share with you brothers and sisters.
I would like to take you on a journey to go through the status of higher in our tradition, under six headings.
Higher that is found in the Quran.
Higher in the lives of prophets and messengers
higher amongst nations before us higher in the pre Islamic Jaya Healy era, higher in the life of the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, higher in the lives of the companions, and higher in the religion of Islam. These are seven headings perhaps. So the first of them was what? Higher from the book of Allah subhanaw taala. It is phenomenal. How the Quran uses implicit language, suggestive language
to not offend the higher of the recitals.
And this is a lesson in how you and I should be presenting ourselves when speaking don't say I am somehow above hire. I'm a grown man. I have children. I have a wife. I don't need to speak with these several times. I'm confident we say no. If Allah Almighty speaks in this subtle way, who are we to not learn from this?
The higher that is found in the Quran.
There is an Arabic process that is called Kenya.
Kenya it's difficult really to match it up to another English trope, or figure.
Some translated as being metonymy and some translated as peripheral says anyway, what we need to know about quinoa is that it's the idea of concealing an expression
and using an alternative expression to achieve a particular goal.
Quinoa is the idea of concealing and use a normal expression for a word and using a different expression. Why to achieve an objective which could be to preserve the higher of the people you're speaking to
Kenya in the Quran. Look at the look at the mannerisms. It is phenomenal. When Allah Almighty speaks about sexual intercourse in the book of Allah Jalla Generico. Look at the subtle language that is used that does not create any type of distraction or imagery in the mind of the reciter. Allah says in chapter four of the Quran, Allah mudstone and Nyssa or you have touched woman
and the scholars of Tafseer they are almost agreed that what is meant by touch in this context is what sexual intercourse but the Quran said touch
to keep you focused, to not offend the higher of the reciter amazing or you have touched women. Allah Almighty also says in Surah talara chapter seven,
who under the Halacha akumina FC we're headed in La Jolla mean has LGBs guna Ilya LaMotta, Russia when he then concealed her when husband concealed his wife covered her had mullet, homeland huffy friend from RBC, She then became pregnant with a light load. So what was the expression used for sexual intimacy concealed very appropriate language Subhan Allah and a message to the Muslims how they should be conducting themselves when talking.
When Allah Almighty wanted to tell us that Jesus, son of Mary and his mother alayhi wa sallam are not worthy of being Gods, they shouldn't be worshipped because they use the bathroom they relieve themselves. How did the Quran express this in a far better way than I just put it? Allah said, Mel, merci habido Maria in LA rasuna, Ankara
Hello communicability heroes. So, what is Jesus the son of Mary?
And his mother? Or what is Jesus the son of Mary, other than a prophet? And before Him were many prophets were almost a diva and his mother was a trust worthy woman or a woman of truth. Then the Quran said Karna Yeah, Kulani plan they used to eat food.
That's it. They used to eat food.
We know they used to eat food, but what is the Quran trying to tell you?
What is the outcome of food, you know the outcome of food, someone who experiences this outcome can be taken as a god.
This is the other this is the higher
modesty that is employed by the Quranic language.
And Allah Almighty also spoke about the messengers before Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he said one person Kabbalah communal more Selena Illa in Himalaya, karuna, puram, are you I'm sure and I feel as well all of the messengers that we have sent before you. They used to eat food, and they used to walk in the marketplaces. What does it mean that they used to eat food it means that there is a process after it there are humans, right. So these are examples of higher that is found in the Quran. And that is a subtle message to you, my brother, to you, my sister to myself how we should be choosing our words so carefully. When speaking with friends with Family With Wife
with children online offline, choose your words carefully and be appropriate in your expressions and always opt for the option of higher that is the way of Allah Almighty.
The second example that shows the status of higher is we said, the status of higher taken from the lives of prophets and messages.
Our Prophet alayhi salaatu wa Salaam and his wife Hawa they ate from a tree that they were forbidden to eat from.
So when Allah Almighty wanted to express his displeasure, and what happened, their clothes were taken away from them. So they went to the nearest tree and they began to rip from its leaves to cover their naked parts. And that was a sign of the anger of Allah.
Allah subhanaw taala said what? For okay, I mean her Adam and his wife, they ate from the tree for better Tullahoma so to whom, and so they're naked pots became apparent to them.
What Lufia I actually found nearly humor me when working Jana, and they began to cover themselves with the leaves of Jana Allahu Akbar. What do you take from this?
We take from this, that the search for clothing
and the covering of private parts started with the very first man.
The search for clothing and the desire to be covered is not a recent development in the human evolutionary process, ie we used to be naked and slowly we made ours our way to clothes no from this area. You just understood that Adam, the very first human being on Earth, searched for clothing out of what HYAH
and the second thing returned from his area is that when Allah Almighty wants to display his displeasure upon a community, usually he will strip them from there close.
So contrary to what majority is teaching us today, nudity is not to be celebrated.
Nudity is not a sign of civility.
No, that's the opposite of it. Nudity is the opposite of that. And when Allah bestows His favor and grace upon a community, he inspires them to dress up, to cover themselves and to be ashamed of their private parts, a healthy shame, whereby they only use them for what is halal and healthy and wholesome and productive. And when Allah Almighty displays his displeasure upon a community, one of the things he may do is strip them from their clothes.
And that's a sign to look out for for the pleasure of Allah or his anger. And then you take a look around you and you just make dua for for safety and wellbeing for yourself and for your children.
In the same context of Adam and her worse
dilemma, Allah subhanaw taala said, Yeah, Danny Adam, oh children of Adam. This is now as being addressed our children of Adam, and Xena Alikum Libertas and you are so radical we have set down upon you clothes that cover your shame, wear Isha and other clothing for beautification.
In Wali, Basu, taqwa, the Lika here Allah said but the clothing the clothing of righteousness, that is the best. What is the clothing of righteousness? You will ask me? What is it my dear brothers? What is taken guests? Al Hassan bursary and others have said, the clothing of righteousness in this verse is referring to higher,
it is even better than the clothing that you wear.
So this is higher from the Quran. This is the status of higher in the lives of the prophets and speaking of higher in the lives of the prophets, who do you know of another prophet who was incredibly shy?
Who was he? Prophet of Allah? Musa alayhis salatu salam
It's amazing, isn't it? Despite his strength, its power. I mean, he killed someone by just nudging him. doesn't lack the ability manhood. This is an alpha male as much as it can be. Yet he was shot.
If I'm gonna Buhari, narrated on the authority of Abu Huraira, that the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
in the Musa Canora Jhulan ha ye and city Rhonda, your army God he is Taha and mean who? He said Musa alayhis salam, a Moses was a shy man who went to great lengths to cover himself. You could see nothing from his skin because of his hair. Did you get this? Musa was a shy man of higher city, Iran going to great lengths to cover himself you could see nothing from his skin because of his hair.
And therefore the children of Israel began to create rumors about his bodily condition. Now hold the biller imagine speaking like that about your prophet.
And they said that he's not bathing with us publicly in these nude baths. Because of a defect of some sort in his body. They said he has one of three issues. He either has Borras, which is leprosy a skin condition.
Either he has Audra, which translates medically as a scrotum hernia.
It's a type of love that grows in the groin area. Doctors are smiling Subhanallah or an enlargement in the in the scrotum. And they accused their prophet of having that
or they said after he has some sort of defect.
And Allah wanted to exonerate him from this claim. And so one day when the children of Israel were bathing, he took to one side as usual, and he took off his clothes, and he placed it on a nearby rock. And he began to bathe and when he finished his bathing, he reached out to his clothes, the rock stood up. This isn't Sahadi by the way, the rock stood up and it began to run with his clothes, whereas their ongoing
is taking them on a detour on the long track so that Benny Hill can see him. So he ran after the rock and he picked up his stick, and the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said he was screaming at the Rock saying, Phil will be harder, it will be harder. My clothes you rock, my clothes, you rock. And he ran chasing after it until the children of Israel saw him running without clothes. And they realized that he was a man in every sense of the word and he had no defect
until it came back to the starting place. He picked up his clothes and he began to hit the rock once and twice and thrice so hard. Our Prophet sallallahu sallam said that it created marks in the stone.
So Allah revealed a verse in our Quran to comment on this saying yeah, you have Latina who you who believe that Hakuna who can Latina Musa Don't be like those who harmed Musa Ferber? Rahula homie Mercado so Allah purified exonerated him from those claims.
So this is an example of higher in the lives of the prophets and messages.
As for higher in the nations before us. Allah tells us of a woman Belka is the queen of Saba Yemen, from a fire worshipping or our Sun worshipping community. And when Sulayman Prophet Solomon summoned her to his palace, she came with her people, and she entered and she saw what she thought was water, but it was in fact some sort of crystal or glass surface. So Allah said Kashia for the answer, she uncovered part of her shin
when dipping into water, not wanting to get wet, Allah said Kashia effect answer I'll tell you how she uncovered part of her
chin. What does that tell you about the fire worshipping community? non Muslims? They were fully covered head to toe?
And what about those two girls? The prime example of
those two girls from the city of Medina and as Allah tells us in the chapter of Alice's, who stood next to a water while not wanting to push and shove with the men who are watering their animals and they needed to do the same. So Prophet Musa sees these two women restraining their animals from advancing he said to them, Mahatma Kumar, what is your story? They said learners they had their use the RBI, we don't water our flock, till the water roll is empty. We don't push and shove with men. Well, I'm gonna show you from cabbie, and our father is an old man, as if to say if our father was here, he would be doing this on our behalf, but he's an old man, we have to assist him. So he
assisted them he took the animals no further conversation, no further socialization. He took the sheeps from them. He took the animals, he watered them, he pushed and shoved with the men. He came first he brought them back, no more conversation. I don't need your socials. I don't need to know where you live. I don't need to know if you're around here. And he made his way to a nearby tree. He sat in the shade and he made dua, then one of the two girls comes back her father had sent her to him.
Allah describes this walk of hers and he said to her that Huma attempts she allistic
one of the two girls came back to him walking upon shiners.
See how the Quran does not describe her name, her age, nationality, her weight, her length, nothing her job, professions qualifications, none of it matters. What matters was the fact that she possessed higher the most valuable trait in a human being and specifically women, the most valuable trait in a woman hire, one of the two girls came back to him walking upon shyness.
And there's two ways of reciting this as you know, you can say Fauja to their home anytime she Alistair here, one of the two girls came to him walking upon shyness.
So this is describing her walk, it was a walk of shyness, or you could recite it like this. I still hear you call it with shyness, she said.
So this is now describing the way she spoke. The first resuscitation describes the way she walked shyness. The second posing describes the way she spoke shyness and the Quran did not say she walked upon higher. What does the Quran say is the
additional three letters and if seen and
and the language they say as the TOEFL Maranatha du loup Allah yeah that infill manner. And addition in the construct of a word means that there is addition in the meaning. There was emphasis, there is hyperpolarization. There is a aggrandized aggrandizement.
It's not just how she was walking upon Allah said, it is intense. Leave that to your imagination, and a woman of this type of behavior and he certainly deserves to be the wife of a prophet, and certainly her or her sister became the wife of Prophet Musa.
Then look now how she delivered the message. Look at how she structures the message from her father.
Because very easy now for a man's imagination to go wild when a girl comes to you and says, Can you come home?
She didn't do that. She said in Abby, adorable Kelly IGC, aka Joanna Sokka italiana. She said, My father
wants to compensate you for the favor you did for us.
She begins the conversation with that. Don't get any thoughts. Don't let your imagination go wild. There's my father who sent me why? I'll tell you why. Don't let your imagination go wild. To compensate you for what you did for us. She places herself and her sister at the bottom of the sentence the last part of the sentence what type of hire is this
so this is an example of hire in the nation's before us. What did we promise we're going to speak about after this higher from
the that's the one from the pre Islamic je Healy period before Islam, or people who weren't Muslims during the life of the prophet Muhammad, Salah Salem, and the level of hire they possessed.
And you are aware that Abu Sufyan was a non Muslim for a large portion of his life at war with the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he went to wrong to be interviewed by Erec Ulus hirako, the Emperor of Rome
Christian and this Emperor wanted to know the ins and outs of this man who claims to be a prophet who's emerged from the land of the Arabs. So this is the perfect opportunity for Sophia to lie and to slander the Prophet so I said I'm in front of this Emperor
but what is abusive fiancee
he said follow Allah He lol hi I mean and yet February I can't even I can actually he said by Allah if it wasn't for my higher my shyness that people would label me as a liar. I would have lied against Muhammad someone lies
non Muslim pagan idol lash HYAH I won't lie too shy to do that. What would people say?
And even before Islam one of the poets His name is Antara evolution dad. This is a pre Islamic Dr. Healy poet. What does he say?
describing how he behaves when his neighbor his female neighbor appears. He said what I would do turfy in Baghdad Lee jurati uare Jara, tema, WA he says, I lower my gaze
when my female neighbor appears, till my neighbor is covered by her home,
I lower my gaze when my female neighbor appears till my neighbor is covered by her home.
What Islam taught him that higher, the fifth three inbuilt higher that Allah has given each and every one of us which society deconstructs.
And you have another poet and Nabila, one of the most famous Jackie Lee pre Islamic poets. He was one sat in a gathering with a man called Norman then the wife of a Norman she, she came, and as she was walking, just passing by the congregation, her niqab fell, her her face covering her Bulldog fell from her from her face, so she became very shy. So she used one hand to cover herself and the other hand to pick up the facial covering. And so he said in a couple of poetry describing this amazing scene of hire, he said SOHCAHTOA nasally, full havalim to read a squatter who had an hour to believe it for an hour to work the cut nobility. He said that her covering fell, but she did not
intend for it to fall. And so with one hand she picked it up and with the other hand, she veiled herself from us,
higher even with the non Muslims, pre Islam,
and then higher Allah, in the life of our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
who possessed the most intense forms of hair, first of all his higher from Allah.
You remember when he was traveling during the light journey and into the heavens, and he met his Lord, and Allah Almighty, obligated 50 prayers a day for the Muslims. As he was descending back to our planet, he met who Prophet, Prophet Musa alayhis salam, what did the Prophet Musa say to him? What did your Lord ask of you? He said, 50 prayers for my nation. He said, Go back to your Lord and ask for a reduction I have dealt with the children of Israel, your nation will not be able to keep up 50 brands. So he went back up to Allah, He went back up to Allah subhanho wa taala. He asked for a reduction they became 14, he came back to Musa What did your Lord ask of you? 40 prayers. He says
they can't. I've dealt with the children of Israel as for a reduction, and this back and forth continued until Salah was reduced to what? Two, five prayers a day. He said what happened? He said it's five now he said, Ask your Lord for a reduction. Your nation will not be able to keep up with five, he said is to hear you to Nairobi. I have too much higher towards my lord to go back up for another reduction.
I'm too shy of minute.
So alhamdulillah the Salah in number is five but the reward is what the reward is other 50 prayers and this is from the generosity of Allah Subhana Allah Donna, but are you part of that prediction where he said, your nation will not be able to keep up five prayers a day beware of being that prophecy.
So his shyness of his Lord was phenomenal and his shyness towards people alayhi salatu salam.
I will say that Audrey describes your Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam by saying can I said the higher Amina louder or if he did he, he was more shy than the Virgin woman who was by herself in the private confines of her home.
He was shyer than her for either Katie hashey. And therefore when he despised something out of now who feel what you hear, we could recognize it from his facial expressions, so shy man.
And when a woman came to him as I Isha, she said, asking herself how to
purify herself when she's menstruating. How do I do it? So he instructed her to bathe to do the hosel and then he said to her who the Pharaoh certain men musket men, Miskin FET of a honeybee, he take a cotton and apply some mask on it, and then purify yourself with it. She said, Kay, for a total, how do we how do I do that? How do I purify myself with it? So he became shy. So he took part of his clothing and he, he covered his face and he said, subhanAllah, the honeybee Subhanallah purify yourself with it Subhanallah purify yourself with that he became shy, this is a this is an intimate discussion. This is quite a private discussion. He became shy. So I'm other it says she
pulled her to one side here, lady. I'll speak to you women know how to discuss these things together. She said to her, that one day, I thought, Damn, that turn by a thorough them. Take the cotton and then follow the areas where you find the stains of blood, but he will shine. And this for me is one of the amazing yet quite contradictory, almost paradoxical attributes of the Prophet sallallaahu Selim whereby on one side you have a man who is full in his manhood, who is very riled, confident, courageous, buckling his armor, leading his men to war, calling out the war cry, inviting the warriors to come back to the battlefield who were who were fleeing and unafraid of death.
Giving his talk speaking to the 1000s, reconciling between tribes and communities, and then on the other hand, you've got these other traits of his that are stereotypically feminine and weak. Some people may describe it as falsely that he cried. He was shy, and he would lower his gaze.
How do you reconcile between this other than to say he was the greatest of all men, and in the finest of Allah's creation, Allah he's allowed to us. So this is his shyness before Allah and he shines towards people.
higher in the lives of the companions in the live look, each one of these headings is a long discussion, brothers and sisters, pardon me, it's difficult to pick from this, this this this lush garden, but I want to just give you samples to give you a holistic understanding and appreciation more importantly, of the topic of higher the Sahaba and higher
and you will want me in Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu when he was giving his sermon, when he was the Khalifa of the Muslims, he said in his lecture in his sermon, ya natural Muslimeen OH group of Muslims is the human Allah who
have the shyness of Allah that he deserves. Why? He said follow Allah He led the La ilaha illa who in nila, Ave Hina as the Hubble at feeling furball emoticon Nia and be therapist here on Mirabai
have shyness of Allah that he deserves because I swear by Allah who possesses my soul, I go out to the open space to relieve myself all by myself. And I find myself covering my face in shame from my Lord Subhanallah
this higher just for the responding to his natural call of nature phenomenon Abu Musa luxury when bathing would arch his back to not expose his private path out of shyness towards Allah ideal to the high levels of higher.
Our our mother I Isha. Below on that. She said, I used to enter my home after my husband, Prophet Muhammad, I send them died. And Abu Bakr and my father died and they were both buried in my room.
I used to enter my home, I had no problem taking off some of my clothes. This is my home. And I said to myself, after all, that's the grave of my dad and that's a grave my, my husband, she said till the day came when Homer died.
And he made a request to be buried next to his friends. So he was buried in the room of amnesia. She said, I swear by Allah. Since that day, he was buried in my room. Not once did I come into my home and take off my clothes, but I kept them tapped up. I kept them wrapped appropriately around me out of my hat for Omar
ha shame, modesty towards the debt.
What would she have said May Allah be pleased with if she saw some of the profile images today on the socials? Some of the images exchanged privately publicly. What would she say? This is her hire from those who are six feet under who died.
And another example of women and the Department of
HYAH you have Fatima, the daughter of the Prophet Muhammad Salah Salem who took this characteristic from her father in a wholesome way.
And she said in the assembly hall now you're snobby Nisa. I hate what is happening to women today. You told her Allah are thrilled for your sleeve for her.
She dies and then they cover her with a shroud she says that describes the shape of her body reveals the shape of her body. Look, she is having higher
with respect to the deceased, and how their bodies are being uncovered even though they've died. She said women can't be wrapped in this way.
So there was another lady who was written her her name is Mustafa Osama bin Tomasi is the widow of Abubaker.
And she said to her old daughter of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. Shall I show you something that I saw in the land of the Africans in the land of Abyssinia, Hadassah? She said, Yeah, she said, let me show you. So she asked for some palm fibers moist, and she bent them, like she almost arched them. And then she threw a shroud over them, then that would be placed over the disease, therefore you couldn't see the shape of the woman. She said, that is fine, and that is exemplary. And when I die, I want that done to me, and I want you on my husband alley to watch me.
And so six months after the death of the prophets of Allah, Allah Himself,
Fatima passed away, an ally, her husband and asthma into a maze, washed her and they did just that, that is their higher and their fear of being uncovered even after they have died. What about those of our sisters and brothers who are still alive?
So, lastly, what I wanted to share with you in the category of higher or the sixth and seventh heading or seven headings is the higher in the Sharia of Islam.
And I don't think that there has ever been a way of life that has emphasized the value and the centrality of this characteristic than our Sharia.
Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in liquidating who call Oahu open Islamic Ohio, every religion has a unique signature characteristic of it.
And the unique signature characteristic of Islam, he said is higher. That is ours.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I'll hire well Iman, Corina Jaime, for either rufiyaa how to whom
and hire have been connected to one another. He said so if one of them is lifted, so will the other
Eman and hya have been connected to one another intertwine. So if one of them is lifted, cell will be the other ajibola Illa in Allah
and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in Mima adelakun Nurse mean kala Amin Nobu, what in Allah either LM Testa he was nanosheet one of the things that people have learned from the earliest prophets is the following statement if you have no higher than do what you wish.
That's not a license. That's what a threat. If you have no shame, do as you wish.
So notice what the Hadith said. One of the things that people have learned from the earliest prophets, what does that tell you? That higher is as old as the hills. Higher is an instruction that was taught by all of the prophets and messengers and it was never abrogated or changed in any Shediac it's a constant feature. In other words, there are certain things that prophets taught throughout the ages that changed from nation to nation according to the context and the need. So there were some nations where you could build statues in other Shetty eyes like ours that is outlawed. It was hunted at one point then it became haram it was abrogated. In some Shetty eyes, it
was permissible to prostrate to people out of respect, like the Shetty out of Prophet Yusuf alayhi salam, in other study as it was outlawed. Prostration is only for Allah according to the context and society needs.
Certain things change. Then you have a second category, certain teachings that are constant all throughout the ages, like what give me example are
certain teachings that are constants all throughout the ages, they don't change, they can't be abrogated, like what?
To hate the Oneness of Allah. Every Prophet taught that that never never change, it will never change. Another example.
The Day of Judgment is real constant that was taught by all of the prophets now
Were abrogated. What else did all of the prophets teach? That the journal
manners? Exactly right? And the we said that the jab the Antichrist, that he will come towards the end of time all of the prophets taught that never abrogated, and one of those constants that featured in the Dawa of all of the prophets and was never abrogated, is that higher is a central value beloved to Allah subhana wa Tada
Those are three Hadith I've shared with you here comes a fourth the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
bid on was Abona sure about higher is of 70 plus branches. Excuse me, l e man who bid on was Abona sure about EMA and faith is of 70 plus branches. Allah ha the upper most part of Eman is the statement of law in in the law. And the lowest part of Eman is what email total other unnecessary removing harm from the pathway. And then he said while higher nominal email and higher is from email.
So you were told that Eman has many branches. You were told what the top was, what the bottom was, and that there's many in between?
And of all of the branches of email and in between he singled out the topic of hire. He said hire is one of the branches of Eman? Why did he singled out hire
from all of the other branches brothers?
Because it covers a lot of things. Excellent. What else? What is he doing when he singles out HIA from all of the branches of email and why
it shows the importance of hair
like saying I love humanity and I love Malik Malik is from humanity. But when you say Malik to show you how important Malik is to me from humanity. So when you say that Eman has many branches, one of them is here to show you its importance. Why is it so important
in relation to this hadith and the rest of the branches?
If you say that it was singled out and mentioned because of its importance, why is it so important in the context of this Heidi?
but any other branch keeps you close to Allah? Why this one?
Ah, because all of the other branches of EMA are what
they're connected to it as a hobby he said the under who can die Isla that issue? He said because higher is what calls the rest of the branches of faith.
All of these things are done because of what what's the catalyst? What's the machine that brings all of the other actions of Eman? Higher? Isn't it either higher from Allah or higher from the people? That's why we do things high is your generator.
Higher is your driver as endocardium he said if it wasn't for higher,
no guest would be on it.
No debt would be repaid.
No parent would be honored.
No family tie would be upheld. No charity would be given.
No help would be offered. No gays would be lowered? No, our private part would be covered. No trust would be honored. What is it that brings all of these matters, no obligation would be carried out no prohibition would be abstain from what is it that brings all of these matters one of two things. Either you're hired from Allah, or either you're hire from the people. And so a person who does not have either of these two is to consider himself on a level playing field with an animal because they do what they want when they want how they want.
So that's why it's so central to our religion, that you know, in number being you shy that people should
give you a bad reputation or speak ill of you you're shy to misrepresent your religion. You're shy. Now that's not a bad trait to have. We are shy of the people. Yes, we have higher but with the definition that we spoke about in the introduction
and then you have the category above it which is shyness from home
from the angels
who are always with
and that is why Allah said we're in NA la comme la haffi lien appointed over you are keepers angels, Ki Rahman ketamine honorable scribes, You Allah Munna, Mata falou. They know everything that you do.
They're with you all of the time. And you have to experience their presence and appreciate it. So you're shy of them. And you realize there's no such thing as being alone.
No such thing as solitude. You're always in the presence of an honorable angel who is watching, documenting.
And that is why, in the mullah Iike data, Minaya Amin huben, who added the angels are harmed by the same thing that human beings are harmed by what harms you.
bad smells, and washed socks, a smoky breath, unclean clothes, and arrogant person. Hey, joblessness, these things bother the believer that these things therefore bother the angels. Because the angels are bothered by the same thing that bothers man.
So you're shy of them. And that's why some of the predecessors when they came into their home and they were alone, they would say Marhaba Bimala ecotherapy welcome, oh angels of my Lord, reminding himself I'm not alone. Welcome, oh angels of my Lord. You will not see any sin of me this day. But you will see this and he will say subhanallah Alhamdulillah, Allahu Akbar, Allah Subhana. Allah Alhamdulillah Allah, He says to them, get writing, get writing, to be shy of the angels.
And then you have the greatest of all and that is to have higher from Allah, gentler gelato.
And that's why when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked the question of Sunni can you advise me? He said, also you got to stay I mean, Allah He came at us that he may not magically slide out. My advice to you is that you have shyness towards Allah the same way you have shyness from the righteous man in your community, shyness from your Lord, who hears all sees all either Mr. Cordelia Robbie, Mr. Hated acini or to feed them Birmingham. Okay, well, we'll ask Anita teeny, the
couplets of Apple habit and confini who said if my Lord says to me, were you not shy to disobey me? You hide your sins from people, but you have no problem presenting them to me?
Shine us from Allah Joe, whose watchful eye never sleeps.
Lastly, I'll leave you with this. We've gone way over time, I really apologize.
What is the pathway to higher
if you feel that there is some part of your past that you regret,
and you know that that's damaged your hair to some extent, so yeah, you're praying, you're fasting, our sister was wearing the hijab, I'm doing what I need to do practically, but I don't really care about sin. Like, I don't feel that shyness, that modesty that that, that I was possessed. What is beautiful is that our religion does not assume that your original state of higher will remain intact all throughout your life, our religion assumes that it will degenerate throughout your life and therefore, there are ways to rehabilitate it. There are ways to reconstruct your higher
so I will share with you a few generators of higher if you wish that can in sha Allah with practice on Earth, the higher that is within you be in the light Allah but has been covered by what you have seen what you have done, what you have inhaled whom you have touched, whom you've communicated with. It can be rebuilt. What are the here comes a few of them very quickly, the first restore your email.
Because you've heard that email and higher are intertwined, one of them grows so will the other what are the things that grow in and don't ask questions like that brothers, people ask these basic questions. They know the answers. How do I grow my you know how to grow your email? What are the things that you have done in your life that affected you negatively email,
right? I didn't lower my gaze, okay, lower your gaze that will grow your email.
I don't pray at night. So my email dropped Okay, pray at night your email will grow? Basic question basic answer, you know where to find your image, she's got to do it. She's got to get up and do it. And as your image grows in, like in a setting like this, for example, so when you're higher of Allah, your sense of shyness, that sensitivity towards higher will be repaired.
The second is, appreciate the enormous favors of Allah Almighty upon you. You know how you feel towards someone who's done so much good towards you, you can never behave in an inconsiderate way towards them. And when they say why you say, they've just done so much for me, I can't. I can't they've done so much for me. And then you remember that all of your favors can be traced back to Allah Almighty. Therefore you feel ashamed when you remember all of
The Cage has given you
and that is why Allah said Listen to these verses that I translate.
Allahu alayhi Hala customer what?
Allah is the One Who created the heavens in the earth. One Zilla minister in the UK Rajavi Minister Marathi responded and he caused rain to come down from the sky causing fruit to grow out from the land for you.
Was Sahara Allah common fool Kelly Tajiri effin Buhari be Emery he and he has subjected the ships sailing on the sea for you by His Command was Sahara la Coble and har and he has subjected for you the Rivers was Sahara Lake Como shamsur Welcome Radha eBay in and he has subjected for you the sun and the moon orbiting continuously was Sahara hola como de la Nihar and he has subjected for you the night and the day. What are their cool new cool emails ultimo and he has given you from everything that you have requested, we're in without dunya I met Allah He allowed to sue her. And if you were to try to count the favors of Allah who could never enumerate them in Santa lavado CAFA indeed, man
So number two is to really appreciate the favors of Allah upon you, that makes you shy of him to disobey him to use his famous to disobey him using his loan, your body, your private parts of your wealth, you can't, he's been far too kind. Number three, to acknowledge the enormity of your feelings. So to acknowledge the enormity of Allah's favors upon you, and then mix that with acknowledge the enormity of your feelings towards those favors.
When you feel that you're lacking, you feel that you hate you, you're not doing enough. That makes you shy. When someone gives you a loan after a loan after alone after a loan, and you keep saying I'm gonna pay you back, I'm going to pay you back then you get your Realization, you're never going to be able to pay him back. And then you see him in the street. How do you behave when you make eye contact? Can you make eye contact? Are you shy?
Because you acknowledge your feelings? And then you remember your feelings towards Allah subhanaw taala that breaks your back and you become shy.
And that's why whenever back reset to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam teach me a DUA to say in my salah. What did he teach him? Allah who are in need Welcome to next year old man cafetera My Lord, I have oppressed myself a huge oppression while I have no bearing and no one could erase sins, except you fulfill a McPherson minhang deck so give me a forgiveness that is from you. Well, honey, and have mercy Nikka built off all over him, you're the forgiving and merciful.
acknowledging your feelings, I've oppressed myself. I've done injustice to myself. So what was number one, repair, image number two, acknowledge favors number three, acknowledge failings. Number four, be aware of the watchful eye of Allah subhanho wa taala. As huntable Assam he said, If you had a spy, sat next to you documenting your every word, you would be on God with respect to what you say. So what then when you know that Allah Almighty is watching and hearing everything you do have to live in our minds. He said,
Your lack of shyness of the two angels who sit to your right and left when you are committing your sin is greater than the sin itself.
And your laughter despite you not doing despite you not knowing what Allah will do to you because of the sin is greater and worse than the sin itself. And your sadness, when you miss an opportunity to sin is greater than the sin itself. And the fear that came into your heart when the wind began blowing the curtains of your room during your sin. And the fear should have been for Allah that fear is greater than the sin itself. Love to be aware of the watchful eye of Allah and making that the ultimate factor.
Number five, to hover around the people of higher you know who they are, walk with them, talk with them, befriend them.
The greatest thing that affects us in our life is socialization that makes sense and breaks us.
So if you're constantly sat in front of your phone, presenting your eyes and ears and heart to the content of higher listeners, and that is the summary of Tik Tok and most of Instagram and its likes, and guess what will happen to you with time will become a mirror reflection of that. But then when you walk with people of higher and you cut the stream the sewage for a moment
and you start seeing people who are so careful how they speak careful how they trend shy how
They present themselves people of hire people of religion,
or you become like them.
That's number five, be with them. And number six, and I leave you with this, this is the end of the talk, is take practical steps to develop higher in your life. take practical steps, don't just talk about it, and study it and admire it.
I mean, we take 10s of practical steps a day, to deconstruct hire,
every time you go through that feed, that Instagram reel, you're flicking up and down on, tick tock, every time you do that, for the most part, you are taking practical steps to decondition deconstruct your higher you're not the same person 1015 Two hours, two hours later, you're not the same person. So we're taking practical steps to deconstruct our higher and then we think that higher is going to regrow itself in our life automatically. No, you need to also take steps for that for it to grow back. So don the hijab
with courage and defines sincerity and our could reliance upon Allah, that's a step towards
lower your gaze, my brother, force it to the ground, that's a practical step to hire. Then sift through your content, see through your conversations, the people you know, our relationships to be put an end to that's a practical step to really develop the sensitivity of hire that shouldn't be in our hands.
Pray at night, force yourself to the mercy of even when you're tired, and watch how these values of higher will begin to come back.
So what have we covered today? A quick recap 32nd recap we spoke about Taya. From a linguistic and technical perspective we defined it
I think I showed you that hire is different to being timid
hijacked. And then I showed you
two examples of where hire does not belong.
And then I shared with you seven headings, as per the examples of the status of hire from the Quran, etc. And then we conclude it or we spoke about the categories of hire of people of angels of Allah. And then we gave six examples of how a person can rekindle the flame of higher within their heart or soul the lower end of you know what happened in that