Ali Albarghouthi – This is Love – Allah loves gentleness #5

Ali Albarghouthi
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of following strict rules and following strict guidelines to become a better person, as it is essential to avoid sin and loss of peace of mind. They stress the need for thorough testing and obedence in finding one's way, as it is essential to avoid loss of peace of mind and the negative impact of punishment. They also emphasize the importance of practicing healthy engagement practices and avoiding cultural norms to avoid embarrassment.
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With hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah, who either early or sabe was seldom Lama alumina MA and pharaoh now and finally my LinkedIn was in a manner belied, I mean,

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So we first begin with an announcement in sha Allah so the masjid is going to have a conference next week.

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It's a Friday, Saturday Sunday conference, so we will not have this session in sha Allah next week, who will return the week after we last xojo So the good news is that you don't have to interrupt your habit of attending the Halacha or being in the masjid at this time because there will be something insha Allah

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throughout the weekend, so at this particular time, next week in sha Allah, there is going to be a lecture it's not going to be ours, but it's going to be a lecture in sha Allah and there's gonna be a lot more of them. So inshallah try to make the time to attend as many of them as possible. And this in sha Allah returns Not this week in sha Allah not next week, but the week after bitten Eliza.

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So the hadith of today's Hadith five editors were or sudo Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in Allah your hip Rifka Phil Emily equally

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in Allah your Hebrew Rifka Phil Emery Kula he said la Salatu was Salam. Allah loves gentleness. That's what the rift is. Allah loves gentleness, in all matters, in all matters. And in another narration.

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Here is Salatu was Salam said in Allah here * you hippo Rifka. While you're the other riff, the murderer you have to own fee when Allah Yachty Allah mercy wa Masiyiwa. So he said also on a salatu salam, indeed Allah is gentle, the so it adds this Indeed, Allah is gentle, and loves gentleness, and He grants through gentleness what he does not grant through harshness, or anything else, meaning any other means besides it.

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this hadith asserts one,

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that Allah azza wa jal

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loves gentleness, and that he himself is what

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gentle. So let that sink in Yanni, Allah Himself is raffia.

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And Allah loves it,

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when he sees it among His servants. Now, we've explained before that that is not the image that people have of religion and the religious. And it's not the image that they have of Islam in particular, right. And because this is so ingrained, we really have to keep hammering at it until we are convinced ourselves that this is untrue. And we have enough to be able to convince others that this is not true. So a hadith like this, if you memorize it, and it's easy to memorize, right?

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In Allah Hippogryph Halfhill Americolor. Allah loves gentleness and all matters is that difficult. You can remember it right. So if you remember that hadith, and you can code that hadith, you have one saying from the Prophet alayhi salatu salam that explains that religion and that Islam are not harsh. But let's try to understand where that image comes from.

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So, because you're residing in the West, or what is the image of religion in the West, and if you're not residing in the West, by the way, you're in a Muslim country, you by the way, is still influenced by that image because of the influence of Western media and thought and culture. It permeates the globe. Right? It spreads throughout the globe. So what is the image of religion in Western culture, you have that there is really a tension between those who favorite like it have a positive view of it. And a large who don't. And it varies from one country to the other, if you go to Europe is very different than North America, Canada is very different than the US. But it really

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varies. Those who like it, who want to structure their life by it, and those who ridicule it, they make fun of it, they think it's backward, well, where does this come from? Where does that tension come from? If you go back a little bit in history, you'll understand that the West had a very problematic relationship with Christianity and with the church.

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So that made them very sensitive about any authority.

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Any instruction, any guidance that claims the divine, the claims a sacred book that claims a clergy so you have within the West it takes place almost daily, and again, it varies

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from one country to the other, those who are fighting with each other, we're not even talking about Muslims fighting with each other, we can call it entra, Western debates and tension. Those who say morality should be based on the Bible, or malai, the morality should be based on religion or religion is a positive influence, and those who make fun of it and make fun of the religious, and they accuse them of being, you know, dumb and stupid and backward and what have you. So that tension is real, that disagreement is there, you can see it in politics, you can see it in culture, you can see it in the media. And the media largely is what pro religion or anti religion

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pro or anti anti, right. And so, intellectuals, the media, popular culture, the academy, on average, are anti religion. And they hold the keys to public opinion. So in popular culture, you can make fun of the religious but you can may not make fun of other people, you can put them down, but you cannot put others down. And you can accuse religion of being what, too dumb and too simplistic. And for the simple minded, we're as if you are really educated and smart, you can leave all that behind. So you really carry if you're living in the West, or you're influenced by that image in a non Muslim country, you really carry the burden of being religious, and at the same time proving that you are

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open minded, proving that you are gentle, you are proving that you are merciful. So you're fighting against all of this, and that is exclusively 100% Western baggage, but you need to carry it and you need to defend religion, because of it. In particular, also Islam is targeted as being what a harsh religion and that is because of the historical animosity between Christianity or Western Europe, and Europe in general, really, and Islam. So the way that they look as Muslims as bloodthirsty

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war mongers, those who advocate forceful conversions. So that's a popular image, and it's not also easy to dislodge. So when they look at Muslims, they'll say that Islam is strict and impractical. And you hear you hear the Sharia law, right? The Sharia law, this is Sharia law, that and where does this come from? It's just a popular image of Islam. And it fits within the popular image of religion, you cannot be an enlightened person in the 21st century, and you believe in all of these things. So you feel the pressure, and you feel that you are at a disadvantage. So Islam is supposed to be harsh, and strict and impractical because of all of that. Those are the other reason maybe

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Allahu Anam that religion in general, and Islam in particular, they receive

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the attacks. And that bad reputation of being strict is that if you're a person who is running or lusting after the dunya, and you hear religion telling, you know, and stop, and this is wrong, your reaction is to do it, is to oppose it. So if I just want to drink and if I want to how, you know, have * and if I want to earn money, whatever way I want to, and Islam comes and raises the barriers against all of that, what is your natural reaction, then? It's slow down with all of these barriers, like a lockdown with all of these barriers, and down with that religion that asks us to stop these things. So if I'm a person who's interested in own lust, and his own bodily

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gratification, will be against anything or anyone who puts restrictions on them. So that seems harsh. How can it how is it possible that I can eat whatever I want, get, I can sleep with whomever I want, I can go wherever I want know, I'm supposed to be autonomous, meaning I, I am the owner of my own body, we as human beings, we are the owners of our own society and destiny, we get to say and do whatever we want, not a an antiquated religion or an inherited something that tells us to behave otherwise. So they tell you that religion is harsh, and that God, God or Allah Azza zodat, his harsh and restrictive.

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And if someone is corrupt, especially in a financial manner, if I'm in the

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trends, or in a global corporation, and I want to open up all the markets for consumption, and I'm selling things or dealing in ways that displease Allah azza wa jal to them not, of course, but in our eyes, and I want to

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invite as many consumers into my web of deception, but Islam raises awareness and tells you you can't sell this and you can't hold transactions in that way, and you cannot deceive consumers. So if Islam is my opposite is my enemy. I'm going to create

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Sighs it so that I would have control makes sense to you. Right? Right. So you want to bring barriers if you are corrupt, and Islam seems to be the last thing that is standing,

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the last thing that had held on to its authenticity, so of course is going to receive the greatest criticism. So you should expect it not be shocked when somebody thinks all these things about Islam, and in particular when we talked about it being harsh and restrictive, and about Allah azza wa jal being harsh and restrictive, that that's the idea. But then the image of Islam that we should have if we read the Quran, the book of Allah azza wa jal, we read the Sunnah, and especially the Hadith, of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam that you know that you will read in this book you should get get an image of Allah azza wa jal being gentle,

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not a harsh God, but a gentle God because that's what the Hadith said right? In Allah Allah. Allah is gentle. So it does not say anywhere that Allah is harsh.

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or Allah azza wa jal wants to be hard on you or he desires harshness for you. It doesn't say that. And that Islam if you remember, in a hadith that we explained before, is something is easygoing

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is easy to follow. It's not difficult and it's not intended to be difficult. So if we focus here, on Allah azza wa jal first,

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okay, so I've explained before that the way to know Allah azza wa jal is through what if you remember,

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one of the easiest way, the quickest and most direct ways to know him subhanho wa Taala is to know his what? names, names and attributes, right? This is what he does. And these are his names that come out of what he does some kind of what to add of who he is. So Allah azza wa jal among His names today that we should learn that among his name, Subhan Allah to Allah is a Rafi as the hadith of

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Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam says, are raffia the gentle, that Allah is the gentleness and he's the source of all gentleness. We'll talk about this in sha Allah. So he's that also in the book, Allah azza wa jal says about himself, Allah who largely from very baddie, Allah is Allah evil severe. So one of the names of Allah azza wa jal is a Latif and Allah Latif adds to that name or raffia subtlety

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it's gentleness with subtlety.

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Okay, if you want to remember it in Surah 12 GAF the people of the cave when they sent they say, let one of you go with money to buy us food. Okay.

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And say while you're in the city, how should you behave? They say well, yeah, tell a tough

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one yet a lot of

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okay, that you be gentle and subtle.

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While you share and become a Haida so that no one knows about you, then you go and buy, but be nice and be kind and be gentle and don't be so visible because if they found I found out about us, then they will come and get us. So a lot of is to be gentle and subtle. So in the case of Allah azza wa jal, he is gentle, but that gentleness is subtle. You sometimes you don't feel it, sometimes you don't sense it. He protects you from evil that you are not aware of. He brings you good things and you don't notice that they are good things. Even sometimes, in the image of a test as we will talk about or something that in the beginning you dislike it says I don't want this thing and it's the

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best thing for you. It's a gift. But he said I don't want this I wanted the other thing but Allah brings it to you and in a subtle way, you begin getting used to and it's the best thing that is for you. So Allah who luckily for everybody, and that is a beautiful IRC when you're reading the Quran, is really not a bad thing for you when you read these is to stop and think Allahu Allah cleave when Allah is gentle and kind with his servants, said Hamdulillah that Allah is like that because he could have been otherwise. That who has the power to dictate how Allah is if he wanted to be with us, like he was with no Israel in the Israelites because of their stubbornness he could have.

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We could have been so stubborn that Allah azza wa jal would be hard on us. But Allah says, hola, hola three from ve verde. Allah is gentle, and kind and subtle with his servants. So I name it like a raffia and named like a Latif, a name like a Rahim all of them express in various different

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says that Allah azza wa jal is kind and merciful and gentle with everyone. Right? And you see the gentleness of Allah subhanho wa Taala all around you.

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And we should be awake, fully awake to see it and to appreciate it in order to thank Allah azza wa jal for it and to worship Allah through His names and attributes. So the more that you know Allah, the more names that you are aware of, the more that you could relate to him. So I could relate to him as the Forgiver of sins. I can relate to him as the giver of bounties, I can relate to him as the one who hears all and the one who sees all and this as the one who is very gentle. So especially when you're very fragile, you're about to break the image, and the knowledge of the gentleness of Allah subhanho wa Taala is really important. So Allah is gentler, like the gentlest person was more

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gentle than the gentler, most gentlest person you've ever encountered. So I'll repeat, he's more gentle than the gentlest person that you've ever met. So the kindest person, or the kindest person that you could imagine and the kindness thing that they could do to you, Allah, Allah zoldan, is gentler than that, and gentler than all of His creation. Indeed, He is the one who deposited the desire in them to be kind, and the desire in them to take care of each other. So who deposited in the car in the heart of the mother as part of her fitrah whether the mother is a human being or an animal, take care of your children, and deposited that much love in her heart towards her child?

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It's Allah subhanho wa taala, who is the one who instructed children, human children, to take care of their mothers and to take care of their fathers. And Allah does not take get anything back from this, who is the one who instructed his servants that when you have extra, give extra to those who don't have an Allah does not get any of that but Allah azza wa jal is gentle and kind, right? And he wants you to feel their pain and to assist them. So, who is the one when we suffer a drought and we go and ask Allah subhanho wa Taala for rain, he sends it will who will love you and zero Latham in badmouth Anatolian Shura Mata. As he said, subhanho wa taala. He is the One Who sends down the rain

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after they have given up and lost hope, and he spreads his mercy subhanahu wa taala. So he was the one who sends the rain and brings vegetation and feeds the animals and through that we survived, who is the one who keeps giving us life? You have to appreciate all these small and big bounties of Allah azza wa jal to understand how he is gentle in the smallest, and in the biggest of ways, who is the one who had told us? Why this Alakay by the enemy in the curry Wuji with our the day either either and, and if My servants ask you about Me, I am close and I answer the supplication of those who asked me when they asked me, Allah azza wa jal did not need to the close did not need to listen

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to us did not need to answer our dua. I want you to understand this, he did not need it. Like a human being who's going to offer help most of the time, he offers help, because he's receiving something back. Right? Most of the time, you offer help, because you're getting something bad, and you can keep offering help without getting anything in return. As a human, you don't have that capacity. Anybody who disagrees?

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You can't have Yet Allah azza wa jal, he says I'll answer your DUA and I'll be there whenever you knock on my door, and I will come to your aid. And he doesn't need you and you need him. And he says, If you sin out, forgive whatever sin you, you you have committed, it doesn't matter what it is as long as you repent from it.

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And I will save you from hellfire and I will give you Jana and I've sent you prophets and have sent you books and have sent you reminders. And if you sin I don't hasten I don't rush and punish you and I wait for you to repent. And it is said in the authentic hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu ala you Ali or Sanlam you know that you have two angels right one who writes the bad or good and one who writes the bad and when you do something bad the one on the right. He's the leader.

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And he says to the one on the left his M sick. Lala who is still fit. He says Hold on Don't write it. He may ask for forgiveness. So he doesn't write it he holds back to see in six hours. It says in the Hadith Do you repent or not?

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Do you ask for forgiveness or not? So if you don't, if you do, it does not get written down.

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But if you do, it's written as one.

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Because why does Allah Zota do this to all of us kisses inviting you towards forgiveness? So all of these things are the reef of Allah subhanho wa Taala and there is RIF, gentleness in his Sharia in the Quran.

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And in the Sunnah Muhammad Ali Salatu was Salam. Ne we know that Allah has zoton says about him. So Ali Salatu was Salam o Allah Azza Naka Illa. What Rama

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Ilana, we've only sent you as Rama mercy, coup to humans, to the jinn to all al Amin is all besides Allah azza wa jal, that's an island.

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So it means that this Prophet alayhi salatu salam who is Rama when he speaks his words are what

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Rama? His instructions are Rama. His revisions don't do this is what Rama as well. So how could you imagine that Alayhi Salatu was Salam, he would instruct and he would come out and he would forbid, and it'd be hard and harsh and restrictive. If he is Rama. So our belief needs to be consistent. Even when he tells you to do something that is unusual. You're not really ready for it yet. You don't have the habit of doing this. Doing it and adopting that habit is Rama for you.

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But it's just what holds us back is our own ignorance at times and habits. And hangups so the Sharia itself is Rama and we'll talk about that insha Allah shortly, but also hardship itself, which people will say when they go through it. I don't see evidence of Allah scare. I don't see evidence of Allah's gentleness and kindness when were being tested like this, but no even in them. There are signs of Allah's kindness and signs of Allah's Rama. So an easy one is, if you look at it in proportion, you could say it could have been a lot worse. So you're just think about it. He say, yeah, what I'm going through is bad. But could it have been worse? Say yes. So what stopped it from

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being worse? And no other No, no other than Allah as though did so you have to see how Allah has even held back. And he could have given more, given more tests made it harder. Some of the things that we get when we are tested. So the first here is that a test hardship affliction. So I mean, all of that when I'm saying a test, I mean, hardship and affliction, things that you struggle with. The first is that it brings you closer to Allah.

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So you tend usually right when you're going through difficulty to find and look for help.

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And if people can't tell,

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the only door that remains is what the Door of Allah xojo. So typically, people tend to be more pious, more devout, and closer to Allah when they're tested.

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He agree.

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That's true. Right? Like you think about it. It hadn't been such a long time that since I made two

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until I got in trouble, and I'm making every single day. The fact that that test brought you closer to Allah azza wa jal is an indisputable mercy from MC panel.

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Because if you were to think about the alternative here, IP view $100,000 Each day,

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so you were not going to raise your hands to ask Allah azza wa jal, but when you die, you go where? *

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and I'm going to test you every single day.

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So by the time that you die, you go to Jana. Where is mercy?

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The second or the first second?

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That is the test became an act of mercy.

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So if something brings you closer to Allah azza wa jal that's merciful, right? That's merciful. Right?

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And subhanAllah it just reminded me of a thing which is

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it has to do with a cow and Marcia get applied to them. He says a Marcia, he says a sin

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that takes away your pride and makes you repentant and regretful is better than a radiance of Allah that makes you proud.

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That is a delicate understanding. Right? And of course you might God understand that this is not a license to go and sins thinking that, well, I'm going to sin because it's gonna really improve my Eman. No one is saying this is not what the saying is. The saying is stating what he says sometimes you commit a thorough and obedience of Allah azza wa jal and you think highly of yourself because you've done it. Look how much or on a red. Look how devout my hijab is. Look how often I come to the masjid. Look how much vicar I've done. So you begin to look at yourself inwardly and admire it. And when you do this, you're not a humble servant of Allah azza wa jal, but you start working or

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worshipping to inflate the self. That's not for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, and they say, Well, who am I to bestow on the lemon? it invalidates one D one states because there's no floss in it. Contrast that to someone who committed a mistake. And every time he remembers that mistake, he cries and give sadaqa and ask Allah for forgiveness, which was better.

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The second one, the second one, right? So if as if a test brings you closer to Allah, that is Rama from him. subhanho wa taala.

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Another thing is that it allows you to reassess your life and see where it's going.

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Right. So, a an affliction, sometimes you could like him that it looks like a sickness of the body. You're eating whatever you want junk food, right? unhealthy food, until you begin to feel some pain, you go to the doctor, the doctor says, your diet is bad change.

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Right? Or you need to exercise or so. The disease right or the illness of the body is a reflection of what a bad lifestyle. So an affliction could be a call from Allah azza wa jal to reassess your life like here is the physical manifestation of your bad choices brought into this affliction so that you could look at them and say, My life is not in the right direction, reconsider what you're doing.

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changes direction, stop the bat do more good. So if it allows you to review your life, then a test or an affliction is a NEMA from Allah xojo is not intended to destroy is intended to awaken. It also allows us to know Allah subhanho wa Taala better.

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Alright? That is the longer you live and the longer that you go through these things, you'll understand Allah azza wa jal through His names and through his attributes, like how will you understand Allah's wisdom?

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Unless you are tested unless you see it around you? Unless Allah tells you believe in it, and you believe in it without seeing the outcome yet and then the outcome manifests itself and reveals Allah's wisdom. So I can tell you Allah is wise. And you may choose to believe that Allah is white, but is it like you feeling and experiencing the wisdom of Allah azza wa jal through what happens in your life?

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I can tell you that Allah answers a DUA.

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But then is it like you make an a DUA and receiving the answer?

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They're not the same.

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Right? I can tell you that Allah is powerful.

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But when you see the power of Allah azza wa jal, and that you have none.

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When you see the sun and you see the moon and you see the stars, you see death and you see life, day after day.

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And you try and you fail, and you ask ALLAH and you succeed, then you see the power of Allah, then you've absorbed that knowledge on the way

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in the depth, much more of Hartmann much more deeper, much deeper than it would have been on a theoretical level. If it's just simply was an instruction.

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Believing that Allah azza wa jal is near you and is very close to you again, I could lecture or anybody could lecture. But to read the Quran and feel the effect to free to Allah and you feel it inside your heart and you feel him that is near. That is something that you will learn on your own. When you practice Islam so the test brings you closer to Allah azza wa jal and understanding who he is.

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And also remember that if you're going to complain about what Allah took away from you, remember that what God away was already a gift from him. subhanho wa taala.

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So if he gave you money, and then you lost it, we asked you

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Who gave you that money to begin with? And it was a gift from him. If he gave you a house if he gave you a child and you lost that, he said, Well, who gave you that? So why is it that you fail to see the NEMO of Allah subhanho wa Taala when he gives it, but only see when he takes it away.

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And that adds that the same moment that you're complaining about what you lost,

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don't you also enjoy a myriad of Allah's blessings. At the same moment that you are crying over the thing that you lost and the thing that you have, you eat, you can still eat, you could still drink, you could still breathe, you could still pray, you're still healthy, whatever it is count the many numbers that Allah had given to you. And at the top of that nema. The top NEMA is knowing Allah subhanho wa Taala in the name of Islam. So this loss that you're talking about happens within a sea of Allah's Nana's. So you fail to see that and you focus on one. And even when you focus on that one, you fail to observe the other side of it, the side where Allah subhana wa Taala is blessing

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you. It also allows you when you are tested, okay? And this is all to establish what by the way that Allah is Allah.

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Allah is kind that Allah is gentle, even through the most difficult things in life, that when you go through these difficulties, it allows you to develop your Eman and choose to be virtuous. Know what these qualities are. So how can someone teach you about justice? Unless you see injustice and you opt for justice yourself?

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That I can tell you be just you told me fine. But if I put you in a situation where you encounter this injustice, and you decide never to be unjust, and you get the opportunity to be unjust and you opt for justice, then you are just then you've learned it? How could you learn about forgiveness? If somebody does not wrong you? How do you grow as a Mormon as a believer? If you want to think about it, Allah could have left us all in Jannah, right? But you would not learn these things? How would you learn about forgiveness unless somebody does something wrong to you, and you decide willingly to forgive them. So the qualities like patience, are not available unless we are tested. Kindness is

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not available, unless we are tested, unless we have the option to be otherwise, unless we have the whispers of the shaytaan. And when you choose all of these things, you become that Abdullah he the servant of Allah, Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala loves. So there is in the book talks about theoretical knowledge and practical one. A couple of other

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things insha Allah to keep in mind is that when you're tested, it motivates you to help others. And if you learn from it, what it feels like to go without food,

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money to lose someone, and you decide that I'm going to help others or if you see them, you feel you empathize and sympathize. And you want to help you become a better person because of it a better believer because of it, and that is through testing. And the last is that it saves us from this world.

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As long as you're healthy, and you have money, and everything is going your way. Would you ever want to die?

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Would you ever want to go to gender?

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Would you ever work for it?

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Would would you be terrified of going to hellfire, none of these things would matter to you? And you know why? Because you love the dunya so much.

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Right? And if you love the dunya so much all of the religious instructions would be of no use.

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So Allah azza wa jal, if he wants to wake you up, what he will do is he will take bits and pieces of the dunya away from you, so that you don't like it anymore.

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And you're waiting for the akhira I lost him. And life seems unbearable, without him, but Allah tells you you'll meet him in the next life. See, we'll wait for the next life. I couldn't get everything I wanted in this life. So you say I'll ask Allah for it in the next life. So Allah saves you from the dunya through these tests, and that in itself is an AMA otherwise all of us will be blind.

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So we have to see Allah is gentleness everywhere and no for brevity, inshallah I will just share with you the story.

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It says on page 55. And this is the only homemade he reports that he had his nephew and he was sick.

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And it's kind of inspiring to hear these stories because

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Again, when you hear that somebody went through something like that, it can inspire you to reproduce it a times of difficulty or when one expects at a time when they are about to pass. So he said that I had a nephew, and this nephew, he got sick. So his mother, meaning his sister sent for me and he came to her and he she was sitting beside them and she was crying. And this boy, he said, my uncle asked her what is making her cry? And she said, to Alamo Minka Kalamata Alamo, Minka, he says what she knows about you, meaning you're about to die. And also that he didn't like not live an ideal type of life. He was not really religious, not really devout.

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And he said, Isn't she really showing mercy towards me through this agitation through her tears and crying, she's showing mercy towards me. He said, Yes. And then she's really worried about you, cares for you, and very, very merciful when it comes to you. He said, Yes, he says, For in Allah, our humblebee minha.

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He says Allah as though it is more merciful with me than her.

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That is on his deathbed. And despite the type of life that he had lived, but he was young enough, that he says I recognize how much my mother loves me. But he had this Eman and Allah says that as much as she loves me, Allah is more merciful than she is with me. So that's the thought that he had about Allah subhana wa Hyla. And he here is following the instruction and the command of the prophets of Allah it was said learn that if you are going to die, think the best of Allah has.

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The best of Allah is that he will forgive.

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That he will look over your mistakes, that he will accept your repentance when you're about to die. Now you must learn how to come in now who are you seeing abundance of Arabic do not die except thinking the best of Allah azza wa jal while you're alive, you have to be afraid of him. Subhana wa Tada. Close closer to death. There's nothing else to do except repentance and thinking the best of them Subhan Allah to Allah. So you have to think the best of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. So he says,

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They buried him.

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And he said, When I looked in the land in his in his grave for either who am adorable so that I had one I'm burying him. I put him inside and they looked inside the grave, and is as wide as they could see, as big as far as they could see.

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Right, Maura I too. He talks to his friend who was with him burying him. He says, Do you see actually what I'm saying? That is the grave is as far as the eye could see. He says yes. He says, May he be blessed with that? I think it's because of that word that he said or that sentence that he said that he thought the best of Allah subhanho wa Taala and Allah gave him the best of it. Right? See, understand what that means the expansion in the grave, which is something that is super natural, right? That is he took from it that Allah azza wa jal will bless him. Right? So

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if you see Allah has gentleness you expect the best from him?

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If you will know that Allah is forgiving you expect the best from him when you repent? If you believe that Allah azza wa jal will answer your dua you will never say and listen thinking the best of him subhanaw taala at all time, you'll never say Allah did not listen to me, because he have a firm belief that his panel at the ILO listens. So these are the expectations that we should have of him subhanho wa taala, not evil expectations, not bad expectations, but thinking the best of him subhanho wa taala. And of course, thinking the best must always be balanced with doing whatever Allah Azzawajal commands, you can't think to yourself, I'll disobey everything and think the best.

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This will be all of his commands and yet think I'm going to genuine, but I'll do my best and think the best. Right and that makes sense. Insha Allah and if not, we can visit that issue some other time. Briefly to talk about insha Allah Islamic law,

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Allah azza wa jal in more than one place. So in one ayah Allah says, you read Allah Hobi como nuestra What are you ready to become universal Allah Who wants is for you? does not want difficulty? In another area? Allah azza wa jal says, you read Allahu Allah, you have FIFA unkown Well, Holy mackerel encircle the IFA Allah who wants to bring ease for you to feed right and make it easy for you and humans have been created week.

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So if the creator of humanity knows that we are weak,

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as it says in another area, learn from Allahu unkown walima in a few kumbaya today, Allah azza wa jal

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had made it light upon you. And he knows that or because he knows that there is weakness among you, or you are weak. So Allah azza wa jal understands human nature understands our weakness. So do you think Allah will give you beyond what you can carry?

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That has to be a firm belief in your heart, even with somebody tells you Allah is too difficult with us. Allah is harsh Allah, this and that, take it back to the basics that are, as in firm is your heart, as firm in your heart as a belief that the sun will rise tomorrow, that Allah azza wa jal is gentle, and he wants ease. And he does not want difficulty for His creation. So Allah did not Institute all of these laws, or all of these revisions simply to complicate his life, your life. What does he get from this? He wants to save you? So it's Sharia itself has ease in it. And part of that is the mechanism that Allah subhanho wa Taala has instituted in the Sharia, that is called the

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rue de Rojas.

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So the prophets Allah do Sydenham says in Allah your Hebrew and tutor Rojas who who can I echo on Twitter Marcia to say Allah azza wa jal loves that his exemptions be followed, as he hates for what he for what He prohibited to be committed. And he asked Allah Zote in the hate for you to sin, He loves for you to follow his exemptions. And I explained here, right? Why is it that Allah loves for you to follow his exemptions? Like what exemptions are we talking about? An easy one, right? When you're sick, and you can pray while standing you pray while sitting you can by lying down, if you can't use water you use to your mom, I said, if you can't even use that, you still pray. When you

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travel, you can combine the Salah and you shorten it. If something you're incapable of doing, you don't have the ability to do it falls, it's no longer an obligation. All of these are Rojas embedded within Islam. It doesn't have to come from outside. There are a lot of flexibility in it. But here's the question, why is it that Allah loves that you will take out all

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the exemptions, the allowances the ease,

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because if you constantly following the strictest, okay, option, you're going to be so burdened, that you're going to let go of all of it.

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So if you always followed the most difficult of paths, then it'll be so difficult that you're going to stop. It's too difficult to pray when you're traveling. So you don't want to travel anymore. You're not going to feel like praying and you're not going to feel like praying anymore. She will stop it you'll skip it. But Allah said no do this instead.

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So Allah azza wa jal understands our limits. So he if he gives you a rasa, take it.

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And if you take that route, so that is, right.

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As somebody could say, you're not when I'm traveling, I'm healthy. I don't want to shorten the soda. Right? And if you follow the filter your opinion that it's optional, you say you have an option. But if you consider that this is a rasa,

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an exemption and is coming from Allah as though did and you follow it with the intention that Allah loves it, Allah rewards you for that choice.

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So bring ease to yourself, and bring ease to others and follow these things. Because if then all make it easier to avoid sin, and disobeying Allah subhanho wa taala. Right.

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Now, embracing gentleness, insha Allah, so here are the prophets of the Lord. He was salam. And let's give you an example.

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So he said la Salatu was Salam in the Rift Valley, hakuna vishay and Eliza Anna who allones Amin Sheikh in Alicia Anna who gentleness adorns everything that it is added to and blemishes, everything that it's removed from. If you are dental and eye quality or the secret ingredient, that if you're gentle, and you add this gentleness to what you're doing it beautifies it

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makes it acceptable. Beautiful, easy to follow. And the opposite. What if you take it away from if you become harsh, it blemishes is distorts. It darkens anything that you add to it, that if you want to teach and you're harsh, it makes it worse. You become worse of a teacher, and your students don't learn from you if you're harsh. If you become a parent that is harsh by default, then your kids run away from you. But if you add gentleness, it makes you a better parent, a better teacher a better

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educator a better everything. Right. So an example here, the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. So it's supported in Bukhari, that some

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Jewish men came to the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. And they said assemble an equal. Right and it's a famous story assemble an equal. So if you say it quick enough, somebody come you may not know whether you've said Salem or Sam. Sam is deaf. Salam is the name of Allah azza wa jal so connotation when they said this to the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam caught it for him to her, I got what they said, right because if they're trying to disguise it, so they'll coming in making dua against the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. So this is I am saying you understood it. Takada for call to Aliko. Some were Lana said it may death and curses of Allah be upon your minute, she replied explicitly

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with do it against them. So the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. He said Melania in Allah you Hibari fluffy Americolor he says, stop doing it. Take it easy. Aisha Allah Who loves gentleness and all manners. He she said oh prophet to Allah, did you not hear what they have said? He said, I said and upon you.

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Meaning my response to them was what? And upon what alikoum mean? If you said okay, things, then back to you. And if you made bad dua, then back to this justice, I did not need to say any more than that. Right? And this here

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in another narration it as that they said this, she said replied explicitly, May Allah curse you and be angry with you. And he said to Aisha Aliki refer to be gentle with a Yak, he will infer well, for sure, don't be harsh, or don't be obscene, don't be insulting. She said, Did you not hear what they've said? He said, rather to other whom I replied, for use the Jabu li fi him, while I use the Java home fee. He says what I said to them will be accepted. And what they said to me will not say that because they need to hire against me. So I said,

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So when they're making dua against me, if they made it, that too, I will not be accepted, but my dua against them will be accepted. So here, did Aisha or the Allahu anha have the right to reply the way that she replied, You see, yeah, she had the right, because she gave them exactly what they gave. And that's justice. But the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam was saying, What if this is not useful? Don't use it.

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If this is not useful, don't use it. Because no think about the outcome and the objective of it. What does it lead to? So if you're being tough, if you're being harsh, and it does not lead to something that Allah Allah that is pleasing to Allah as sodium stop and use the other method? And that's how we was on a Salatu was Salam, right? That by default, he was what gentle. There are exceptions, because you cannot be really gentle all the time. Otherwise, there will be weakness, right. But by default, he LA's salatu salam was gentle, by default was kind. If something else was needed, he was up to it. But even with those who insulted him at ease, Salatu was Salam and may do

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it against them. If it's not useful. Don't use violence. And don't use harsh words. And don't use harsh harsh gestures. But always be gentle. So if you're someone who is teaching the truth, commanding good, forbidding evil teaching Quran teaching Hadith, whatever it is, giving advice in the masjid or to your family. Understand one thing about the truth that the truth as they say, I'll help with Okay.

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I'll help you with the claim. The truth is heavy, heavy to hear and heavy to follow.

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It's heavy to hear you are one.

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What you're saying is wrong. How you're praying is wrong. Life Choices, it's heavy, to hear that. So that, in itself is a challenge. Don't make it more of a challenge with bad character, with bad advice with being harsh. But choose the best words the best time the best means, because if you are gentle, then that person is much more likely to accept it from you, and if not now than later on.

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So Allah azza wa jal had this fitrah placed in us that we love those who are kind, and we run away from those who are not that's a FITARA and he tells us about his prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. When it couldn't have been really convenient for Dortmund. How big

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were You were you to be from mean harsh in treatment rally they'll call be harsh on the inside with your heart and harsh in how you behave, they would run away from you.

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Even the Prophet alayhi salatu salam who was shining with the light that is the truth of Allah azza wa jal calling

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not for himself but for Allah teaching, getting nothing in return except from Allah azza wa jal, but he says if you are harsh,

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would they take it from you?

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Because the truth is difficult to follow. So exceptionally Yes, you can be harsh. But in the beginning, as and as a constant, you try to be as gentle as you can, and especially with those who are closest to you. So to headaches, insha Allah that I will share with you and then we will stop and that hopefully will motivate you to be more gentle and we have always to link it to Allah as origin. He says La salatu salam may you heard on your roof God you from your cave. So this is on page 60. Whoever is deprived of gentleness is deprived of good and if you want to be a good person, with a good character, to have higher from Allah azza wa jal Be gentle.

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And if you can't, at this moment, strive and push and ask Allah for it, and keep trying. But try to be gentle because you want higher from Allah xojo Sometimes some of us if we are religious, not not a lot, but some of us who are religious think that to be devout is to be hard, and harsh, and strict and uncompromising. We could have we could develop that image sometimes especially when you see the world around you see tend to go kind of grow into the other extreme as they are pushing it to the other extreme, but understand that those who are moving into the other extreme, they don't see the truth that you see.

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Alright, they just see you and they have an image a distorted image of you. So if you are really hard and agitated and demanding, then they will just see a caricature that they have in their head already of the religious being unreasonable. And I'm not telling you to be kind and gentle simply to impress. Okay, because I don't want you to impress anybody. I want you to do it for Allah azza wa jal first and then for yourself, because you want this good from him. Subhan Allah to Allah. So the gentler you are, the better you are, and especially with your household with your family. So Allah as the prophets of the Lord he was hitting them said, it says on page 61, in the law either have 118

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Allah Allah him or Rifka if Allah loves a household, He bestows gentleness upon them. So if you have a house, I know this is your family, this is your husband, this is your wife, these are your children. And you want Allah azza wa jal to love you. You want to see a sign of Allah's love, you'll see yourselves gentle with each other. Right? Then if you say, Well, we are not then bring Allah's love into the house and bring gentleness into the house meaning you start being gentle, even if the other is not get it don't wait for the other person to be closer to Allah azza wa jal for you to be closer to Allah, but rather you take the initiative and you will see how things change. Okay, you're

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with me. But if you're fighting with someone, and you say, no, no, I'm not going to wait until they change for me to change, then we're going to be waiting forever. But if you decide that now I'll be gentle, and I'll be kinder, for dilla xojo Because I want Allah to bless this household and I want Allah to love us.

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Then Allah azza wa jal will bring this love and the other way around also, if you find that you're lacking gentleness, and you discovered that the reason may be behind it is that the love of Allah does not inhabit this house, because we don't pray and there are a lot of sins there, then you understand that this agitation is coming from a place of shaytan to remove the influence of the shaper. So if you remove the Haram out, the shaytaan does not have an in cannot come in. So less haram in the house, and more of the obedience of Allah azza wa jal and you will find yourself calmer.

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Okay? Allah as a doula bring calm to the household, you're not going to fight as much. And then you also push yourself to be less argumentative. Okay, to be less demanding, to be less focused on mistakes and it takes a while, but it can happen. And the Hadith here with the Prophet sallallahu Sallam which is again is a Hadith It's a well known Hadith, where he says the powerful is not the one they say should do. They said, Should you be surah? The powerful is not the one who overpowers people with his physical strength, but the one who controls himself when angry, right? So when you control yourself when you're angry, then you're powerful. Now when you win an argument, you

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winning an argument means that you know how to argue at that moment, but it doesn't necessarily mean that you're strong. Okay? So if you really want to be strong in the eyes of Allah has origin, right, which is what matters. You don't have to win every argument. And you don't have to point out every single mistake, but rather the gentler you are, the more pleasing you are to Allah subhanho wa taala. So if you want to maintain just the last point here if you want to maintain the right balance of gentleness in Islam, because as we said, you can't be gentle all the time. Right? You cannot be kind all the time. There has to be moments when you're serious moments when you are strict. How do I

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know the difference between them? Is a follow the example of Muhammad Ali salatu salam follow the guidelines of halal and haram. And if you don't know ask, okay, because this involves a lot of wisdom. And it's not always easy to tell, but the balance of Islam should tell you insha Allah when to be this and when to be that Allah

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Baraka Lo Fi calm and again in sha Allah repetition of the announcement. So we're not going to have this Halaqa next week because of the conference that I bought, I was going to have insha Allah next weekend. So next week, you may not this class, but you can have a conference in sha Allah and a lot of live lectures. Friday, Saturday, Sunday, but the week after we'll be back with Nila azote, if Allah allows us to. So the good thing is sha Allah is that you get to keep the habit of coming to the masjid. So it's not just such a struggle. Two weeks from now in sha Allah to come back we in the last let me know in sha Allah if you have questions.

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And I know we have to give you a couple of minutes in sha Allah cannot to gather your thoughts and see if you have anything

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yeah, surely.

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Yes, please. Yeah. This one is

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from her limited understanding. She doesn't really understand Allah's attributes.

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What is the difference between Allah being gentle, and Allah being merciful and forgiving? So the question is that she does not understand the difference between Allah subhanho wa Taala being having these different names. So

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Allah being merciful, and Allah being forgiving, and Allah Subhana Allah to Allah being gentle. So what is the difference between them? So, of course, you've noticed that when you understand them that there is a quite an overlap between them. Right. And there are sometimes there's shades of meaning just less so like, just like when we talked about a Latif and Rafi so that there are shades of meaning differences between them, but they're connected, and they help you have a better understanding of them. subhanho wa taala. So the difference, let's say, what I can recall at this moment in sha Allah, and as I'm speaking, I've tried to think of examples. So, Rama and Mahira. So

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Rama is more expensive, than nephila. So when Allah forgives, He forgives what? Sins so when sins happen, Allah forgives them. So you can say that that is connected to Allah's mercy, right? But Rama extends beyond that. So whether you sin or not, right, whether you disability Whether you believe or not, that I have of Allah as though did extends to all including animals. Right? So Allah azza wa jal is not going to be forgiving when it comes to animals because animals do not sin. Right? But Allah is merciful with all. So that's the difference. And I'll try to think of the slight difference between RIF and Rama insha Allah because I don't want to misspeak as as the questions in sha Allah

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rule. So let me come back to this in sha Allah. Hopefully, I'll have a clear distinction in sha Allah.

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Two more questions. Yeah.

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As parents, how can we be our children to be more pious?

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So as children, how do we train our children to be more pious? So

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let's say that the first thing is dua.

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Right? So you have the pious in the Quran making dua for their progeny and the progeny of their progeny. So that is essential because Allah azza wa jal is the one who controls the hearts. Allah is the one who guides you do not. So you keep making dua for them nonstop. So that's the first one. The second thing is to be a good example. And that's what people miss, I think. Right? So as when you have a child

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Do you start to reform or not even when you have a child when they are of age where you start thinking that they're slipping away and you start becoming more practicing, and demand that they are also become more practicing just like you, or you give them instructions, okay, you pray, you go to Quran, you do this, you do that, but you're not doing it yourself. So they can see what the contrast that I'm supposed to, but you're not. So you're not being a good example. So you need to be the best example for your children by doing all the things that you want them to do, seeing that you pray, and you read the Quran, and you make dua, and you are the one who is doing all of that before you

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ask them. So this is fundamental. And this is really important, because for some parents, I think they expect the children to do everything, but not them, they are exempt from it. And the children will notice that kind of you want to call it hypocrisy, or you know, a contradiction, at least let's be safe and call it contradiction. But it could be also a form of hypocrisy you do it, but I'm not going to do it. Also, how to train them to be more pious is to explain to them the reason of why they're doing the things that they're doing, especially in the world that we're living in today, and especially if they reside in the West, but even in a Muslim country. So pray, but why, and not in a

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way that questions in Subhana wa taala, because you have to have to have them understand that there are things that exist beyond their comprehension, for sure, um, can tell you that you're praying, because this posture and this posture and this posture, all of that is good for your body and is good for your form and is good for your mind. These are okay, things that handed in that are beyond me and can enhance your Eman. But there are many more benefits in the Salah beyond what a scientist or a doctor or can detect. And the most most most important benefit in the Salah is what

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a connection with him subhanho wa Taala the ability to ask him the ability to increase your Eman to converse with your Creator, to submit to him to learn something to cleanse your sins, to fix your day, on and on and on and on. So you teach them pray. But this is why I pray this is why you should pray. Ask for this and your sujood asked for this after your Tisha hood. Make sure that you think about these things in your Salah. So tie their piety to their personality to what they want from Allah as though to what they want in this life. Whenever you're a needy, teach them ask Allah xojo. And so you fast because this is what it's doing for you, you give him a cat because this is what

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it's doing for you. So if you do this, can I ask Allah as noted that it becomes easier. And it doesn't mean that it's going to be always easy, but easier to able to instill these things in them and talk to them. Maybe the last thing that I will say is talking to them. So not just commands do and do and do. And by the way, of course we have to say it should be a known thing right TV, social media, these things that will corrupt their minds and corrupt their hearts, you have to deprive them of that as much as possible. So all the bad influences so that they could actually listen to rather than listening to others or teaching them what to believe and how to live. So if you do these

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things, then we hope from Allah azza wa jal that Allah azza wa jal will guide them but take care of the bad influences, right? Because you can see it in kids, right? They can focus they like discipline they don't listen to you and you could see the seeds of that in kids as I don't know how how, how young they are, but you could see the seeds there. And that means that there's a lack of discipline really, and that all goes back to the parents. Yeah, well Lauren

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is there any blood

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for the journey to gentleman

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Now um, so is there a draw from the prophets of the law to was in them for us to attain gentleness right. So at this moment, I don't remember a particular dua

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that says Janja Allah grant me gentleness or make me a gentler person.

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But there's a general draft from the prophets of Allah to send them where he would ask for the best of character or the best of manners. Allah who had led acid in Nigeria, Sania Illa and I didn't even see a Latina yes because a year in the Anthea, Allah guide me to the best of character. No one can guide to them except you and protect me from the worst of character or manners, no one can protect from them except you. So that is inclusive of all character. So it's a good thing for a person to write it down and to memorize it and

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And to keep saying it. And if you find yourself in need of particular attributes and qualities, then you highlight them in your own dua. Ya Allah protect me from this and this and this and yet Allah grant me this and that. Okay, so that's the best answer I can give about it but I don't know of a particular about gentleness of love and

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one less person

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has to react to that. How about the those who burn the Quran? How to react to it? So,

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of course, you know that, you know, any first this is done to elicit and bring a reaction, right. Otherwise, you know, why would it be done like that it's to insult is to antagonize it's all of that. So how do you respond to it? I don't believe that the best response to it is showing anger and protesting and what have you, because that's an emotional kind of response, like a knee jerk reaction, boom. And then then what? And I know, some may think that, well, at least it will cause them to backup and reconsider and what have you, it may or may not. But I'm saying okay, beyond this kind of emotional knee jerk reaction, if this makes you angry?

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How are you going to respond to it? Long term, okay, in a way that is lasting,

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in a way that we would live in a world where this does not happen, in a way where you would say,

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I'm so angry that that has changed. Because that's the real response. So like, a country, like mad or my naming it that I'm not getting anything from it, like a country like Kuwait said, We're gonna print 200,000 mishaps in the Swedish language, and send it good. That's our response to it. Good, that's really positive, rather than just being angry, and then okay, what are we going to do it, you know, storm the embassies and burn them down and chase the ambassador, and all of this club, but what did we do after this? So for a country, it can do this, okay. Now, you may say, okay, type, how do I honor the Quran? Okay, in response to their insult of it. So maybe a person will say, You know

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what, I'll start reading it every day. I haven't, but I will start reading it every day. You know, what if, if that incident leads you to read the it leads us all to read the Quran every single day, then that was good.

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If it leads to it, if that is our response, so you say I'll honor the Quran by reading it every single day. So they cannot burn it out, or rather, I'll memorize it. So they can never burn it because it's inside, right? Or if you've memorize it, I'll read the Tafseer. Or if you've memorized it and read the Tafseer, then I'll teach it.

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Or I'll go on social media and share it share ideas of the Quran and insights from the Quran so that more people will know about it. That's how you respond to it. That's in my humble opinion. That's how you respond. If it changes you just like when they have these drawings of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam and then again, we protested and the protest and you forget know what is the last thing response? The last response is, if you read this Syrah, then that is wonderful. Or you say, you know, I'm going to take his soon as soon as seriously and follow his example. Even the recommended. That is wonderful, then that is how you honor Muhammad Ali Salatu was Salam.

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The best type of honor. The last thing that so this is what I recommend, in my humble opinion.

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Yeah, you can go ahead.

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Oh, very good. Good is a long question. Did you think of it yourself? Very good. So is asking is this How old are you? Five. So a five year old is asking Is God a woman or a man? Right? And the answer is that that duality or this that separation, male or female is only in Allah's creation, right only so in humanity, you say, males and females, Allah azza wa jal, he's above all of that. So he's not male. And he's not female. Good. Very good. Okay. So among the men anyone has cared for

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him salobre.

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agreed upon it's there in the Hadith agreed upon I would need to go back and check who included it who excluded it because scholars would have different enumerations of them said these are 99 These are the 99 but it's there in the Hadith of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam in Allah. Right. Well, I'll add

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there's always a hand over there.

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In the house,

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one of them is in music.

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Okay, so Zack, go ahead. So he's saying can you explain the Haram things in the house? So he's saying I know one of them is music. One of them is hanging pictures. What else is there?

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I don't have examples but if you guys have examples, you let me know right? But anything in them that displeases Allah subhanho wa Taala right so if you're hanging pictures right and this is hand drawn pictures

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then that is something that will prevent the angels of coming into the house only so one that we can add to it because connected to it is having a dog inside the house as a pet. So that will stop the angels of Allah as legit from entering the house. So that's a haram that would inhabit it. hanging pictures

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that would be one

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you said playing music that would be one

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guys Do you have any other examples Drawing a Blank

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oh so harmony is our canola here say okay, see I'm drawing a blank Sahara money right so this haram money inside the house, or anything that you earn that is haram or anything that you eat that is haram, or that you drink that is haram that will cause a lot of discord in the house. Okay, and the absence of Allah's obedience, which would be haram. So if you don't pray,

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so Allah's name is not being mentioned, can you skip your salah

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or you skip your Quran, then there's not going to be harmony and tranquility inside. So there is not going to be tension all the time. And everybody's angry with everybody. The parents are fighting with the kids, the kids are cursing the parents, there's no drama. So the hammer comes from obeying Allah azza wa jal and from his name and chasing away the shape by.

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See pictures in general. So a hand drawn pictures of a human being or an animal, right? That is not allowed photographic picture that you take a picture and you print it out. And I don't know if people still do this or not, you still take pictures and print them out and hang them on the walls. So when you do this, right, so there's a disagreement of opinion between the scholars about the permissibility of a photograph, whether it's allowed or not, specially when you hang it says it's digital, right? What do you store it? It's stored in digital format. So it's not a picture, really, it's just cold. But when you print it out, and you hang it, that's where the scholars disagree. And

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some say, well, it's not really a picture, but just a reflection. And others will say, No, it's actually still a picture. Right? From for me, and the safest opinion is remove them, remove them and don't hang them, right. Because what we have found is from people who are suffering from

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any of the bad influences of the shape on whether it's hazard or envy or hazardous envy, or magic or something like this, that these pictures complicate the condition, the presence of these fixture hanging around the house complicate these condition because when you read in the house, or upon that person for them so that they could be healed the presence of these pictures obstruct right, so removing them hastens their recovery. So based on that, I would say hola Adam the safest and there is really no need to decorate the walls of the house with pictures of living human beings or animals. Take the picture, keep it in your phone that is sufficient to allow

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so what do you do if you're the only Muslim in the house? And these things were things you're talking about?

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Okay, so what do you do if you're the only Muslim and you have these things? Right, the Haram around you. So what do you do with it? Right?

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You say Do you did it follow you? What did you mean?

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No, no, I mean, if you have no power over it, if you have no power over it, and if you're talking about these, these kinds of sins, are you not talking about alcohol and drugs and you're talking about that as well? Or that too? Okay, just like the smaller things read like a picture or music and stuff like that?

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Yeah, yeah, I get it, I get it. So I mean, God, Allah says, Allah azza wa jal have to have Allah as much as you can. So this is not under your control and you cannot remove it, that Allah does not hold you responsible for it. Right. So if this is you know, family members who have these things, I can go I cannot remove it. It's not within your purview, right to go and do that Allah does

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is not hold you responsible for it. there's gonna come a time with Nila zodat, where you're going to be responsible for your own house. And that is where you will exclude these things from it. But as long as somebody else's it's not your issue.

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Okay, shall anybody on the men's side. Okay, yeah, go ahead.

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This one gets a lot of nonsense. They seem to think that

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Hellfire for eternity is not proportionate to the crime.

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How do you what's a good logical answer? Okay, and shall. So

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the question is that you said you get this a lot from children, non Muslims, non Muslim kind of young people who say that the punishment in Hellfire for eternity is not proportional to the crime committed, right. So how can we respond to this? First of all, the best response will low LM and there are kind of multiple things that you could say but the best response is to say that

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Allah azza wa jal is the most merciful, right? So we believe this right? And Allah azza wa jal did not create or want humanity when he created them to head into hellfire. So it gave him every opportunity to be saved. So and the prophets of Allah said them, he said, When I Alico, Allah, Allah He Illa Halleck, the one who is unfortunate and is always parishes, he parishes because he deserves to perish, meaning that if good deeds are multiplied so many times and one evil deed is written as one, and that even can be erased. If you really end up in hellfire. It says if you force yourself into hellfire, so we say that we'll leave this to the wisdom of Allah azza wa jal that if a person

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is to spend such a long time in hellfire, Allah or God knows best, why he should, and he has the power over it, whether I or you object to it or not understand it or not, is irrelevant in this argument, because he's the one who eventually is going to decide he deserves it, and you're going to be standing as a witness, you're not going to be able to do anything about it. And you yourself will be judged, you go either here or you go either there. So rather than think about what other people might go, wherever they might go, and whether they deserve it or not, and how long they should stay, worry about your own salvation, and leave the rest which is really not under your control anymore at

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all. Leave it to Allah as origin. So that if you could, if that could be convincing, I would say that and stuff.

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If If not, right, you still you know, you plagued with somebody who is argumentative all the time, you say, well, the proportionality of the punishment does not always fit because the argument is what they have disobeyed Allah azza wa jal for 6070 years, you put them in Hellfire for 100 now for 100,000 years or a million years, look at the time difference. So only put them 60 or 70 years, right. And that would make sense. We say that the proportionality of the time is not related. Or the proportionality is not related to the time where the crime was committed, but the severity of the crime that's what we see. So you know, a person could plan on killing someone and the plan and the

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execution could take 20 minutes, they decide I'm going to kill them, they plan it and they kill him. But then when you put them in jail, you put them in jail for how many years

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and extended time you don't say it just took them 20 minutes so I'll only put them for 20 minutes you look at the crime itself. So if Allah azza wa jal decides that this crime is so severe that I will punish for such a long time Allah decides it right so if that's convincing him a lot of there's a third thing but I'll leave it to another time in sharpens

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leave inshallah for this is to say okay, I'm going

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something or someone

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not getting what you want

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to ask for.

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what do you do when that becomes

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like safe and haven't been enough for this one I want to

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constantly consortium

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but I want to

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build trust because

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you're not

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confident because you're asking for something that you're not getting. Okay. So is your question is that if I keep asking it, love, just want to see if I understand that if I keep asking for the things that I don't have. Does that mean I'm always dissatisfied?

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fight with wildlife, give to me.

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The Love, send them back to your life. So sometimes you're able to let go of things. And sometimes it's not possible, right? So it depends on the person. So sometimes you lose it, a person never gotten married, right? And you say, Okay, I want to get married. So you always keep asking Allah for it. And it doesn't signal dissatisfaction, but rather that I didn't get it here, and I'm fine without getting it here. But the way but the thing that makes it possible to tolerate it here is the fact that I'm going to get it over there. So I'm wouldn't look at it as that particular example as I that I gave as a sign of dissatisfaction, but that the you still need Allah azza wa jal to give you.

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And we always, we always need that. And you're waiting for the hereafter rather than limiting your requests and your vision to this life. So if you're, if your idea is to transfer your need from here to there, then you're satisfied with Allah zodion, who's going to give you if what, whatever it is, if, on the other hand, what happens is that that Hamdulillah, but Alhamdulillah, but Alhamdulillah, but then that is a dissatisfaction with Allah xojo Right. That is, I gave you this job. Yeah, but I want more. I give you this house. Yeah, but I want more, then you're never happy with what Allah had given to you. So that signals dissatisfaction, right. So with the dunya, particularly, you see how

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content the prophets allottee was in them was, so he ate a meal, he didn't look forward to something bigger, he had a house, he didn't go and seek something bigger. He had an animal, he did not go and seek something bigger. So when it comes to the dunya, kind of minimize your expectations, and minimize your outlook, and make it bigger when it comes to the afghan. So for us typically right in the dunya, we're very ambitious in the akhira, we're not Islamically should be the opposite in the dunya. I'm satisfied with whatever is here, but very ambitious in the era. So that's how it is. So you highlight a good point, which is that minimize, you know, what you desire in the dunya because

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if you keep desiring more and more, you will always be dissatisfied. That's your point, right? Yeah.

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I think we should insha Allah conclude again, remember, no class insha Allah next week, but the week after, but to attend the conference, but a lower FICO Subhanak along with behind the shadow day they let this stuff go to where they could have done it

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