Ramadan Motivations 12 – Always be Grateful
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we praise Him span on what the eila as he deserves to be praised and we send salon so now upon His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa early he was in them. We ask Allah azza wa jal to purify our attentions, and guide our deeds so that they are accepted and blessed who asked him subhana wa tada to continue to bless us and protect us to protect us from the evil that is on the outside and the evil that lurks within us the evil of ourselves the evil of our bad desires, the evil of our own sins, we ask Allah to protect us from that last panel with the either to make the month of Ramadan a junuh a protection from us for us protection for from our desires from our sins from the Shaitaan
and from Hellfire I mean, may Allah xojo or hamara haneen accept Ramadan for us and
make it a blessing to Ramadan where we draw nearer to him subhana wa tada and we learn some of the lessons of Ramadan we implement them. And we carry that further into
the Thai days and nights after Ramadan amin we send Salaam Salaam Salaam, upon the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and upon those who followed him and those who follow them till the Day of Judgment, we ask Allah to make us among those who follow him. I meet
hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen todays Hadith is about what
it's about being grateful.
Let's hear the heavy first and then it shall extract the maximum benefit that we can from it.
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is imported by Muslim he said some allottee was in them that Allah azzawajal is well pleased with someone, when they eat something, yeah, could UTLA eat something, it's a meal, just one.
And he might do it. And he praises him and thanks him for it.
And he drinks something and he praises him and thanks him for it says Alhamdulillah for him.
So here, Allah's river happiness, pleasure with someone is tied to how the person reacts to the netmeds of Allah zoji to something as simple as eating that meal, and feeling grateful enough, and thankful enough and appreciative that they say Alhamdulillah and it's not just simply Alhamdulillah with tongue, but it's 100 allow with your body Alhamdulillah with your heart you know that God comes from inside Alhamdulillah that after you finish you say and how did it know that Allah gave me this Alhamdulillah I was able to enjoy it that Allah blessed with this Alhamdulillah and in the Hadith, it does not say that that meal was a sumptuous meal, that that meal was a heavy meal. It just says
UCLA, whatever that may be, whether you are eating like they used to eat a lot of times at that time of the profits of a lot he was hitting them simply dates and water
like dates or their time was food. Like for us today for many of us today. In fact in the world maybe today I don't think anyone consumes dates as food anymore. But at that time in Medina and other places they twist considered food. So the messenger so the levada he was sitting on a show would say, would spend the span of a month or two months
and they would not light a fire in their home, indicating that there was nothing to cook. There is no hot meal, there's nothing to cook. So they asked What is it then that you ate? They said in the Mahal, so then they will eat just dates and water. So what dates what was a mean? So even if that meal was simply what just to consume dates, and then drink water after and that was it, even that would qualify and it actually would need gratitude.
How did Subhan Allah Subhana Allah I mean directs us to something that I think is absent from our minds, which is not to look for the Nemo of Allah azza wa jal wherever we find it, even in the small things, not to look at the other side where we said we could have more we could have better I deserve more, I deserve better look at the always the negative side of what is our whatever is happening to us, whatever we are consuming, and then decide that this is insufficient, this is incomplete. And so become ungrateful with everything that we have. This is too high, this is too cold This is too salty. This is to to have things, I'm not denying that there are things that we
like and things that we hate, things we like to eat and things we don't like to eat things we like in life and things that we do not like in our lives. We don't not denying any of these things like today, tomorrow and the day after, there'll be things that you encounter in your life that you simply dislike, they don't go according to your plan. And of course, this thing is not thing that you're going to appreciate so much, but there is a different lens, there's a different eye that you can look at your life with, and decide that yes, despite everything that is that I'm gonna that is happening. I'm still going to thank Allah zuiden why, for the following, a even these things could
So look at your meal, if thought today Allahu Allah, maybe your meal with talk today is a pleasurable meal.
And maybe your meal if thought today is something that is very simple, I want you to look at your meal for if thought today, the thing that's going to come in few hours or the thing if you're in another part of the world, today is still some time to come until you consume it, it doesn't matter. Look at it. Consider now if it is this pleasurable, sumptuous, you know, meal.
Are we going to remember at the end of it to say this has come from Allah.
Not always not not only thank the chair that thank the chef. Of course thank the one who had made it me Do I mean Allah azza wa jal bless those who are making our food, may Allah reward them for that. And if and I remind anyone who's making food insha Allah had the good intention in your heart that you also are doing this to please Allah. Yes, I'm feeding my kids I feeding my spouse, I'm feeding my parents. But I'm also doing this because this is pleasing to Allah so that Allah reward you for this deed as you are cooking and cutting and simmering and all of this Allah reward you for it. So remember this in sha Allah.
But it's not only thanking the human being who has done this, now if your meal is a great meal, are you going to look at it and say, if not, for Allah, I would not be able to consume this.
If not for Allah, I would not be able to digest it and enjoy it.
If not, for Allah, this would not be something that would be pleasing.
So I'd hamdulillah for this. It's not that my mind, my strength, my intelligence, my hard work that brought this it's only Allah zildjian the one who had gave me the muscles, the brains, the one who had made me the money, the owner gave me the ability to exit from my home to buy this thing in combat. So panela piece of meat that you eat, and you don't see how many people were involved in making this possible on your table. Not only the one who prepared it, who raised it, who maintained it, who slaughtered it, who as skinned it, who cut it, who processed it who transported it. So many people are involved in bringing this to your plate and you only see it in front of you you only see
it in the grocery store. You don't see the name of Allah as total that the chain of names of Allah that extend beyond from the animal and then beyond the animal who made it to fetta to me that disease free Subhanallah If not, you wouldn't be able to eat it.
So really you need to say and hamdulillah that this you know, great meal in front of me was not possible without Allah xuejun and even if it is simple, even if you were to consume like the messenger sallallahu audio or send them in front of you today The only thing I'm going to have is dates and water, not milk, not buttermilk, not anything less dates, and water to teach yourself to say Alhamdulillah for this Alhamdulillah with a happy heart. That is even the small things that happened. You say first of all, I could even have lost this. Even this would not have been possible without Allah xuejun I may not have had the ability to be able to find and afford this and be able
to enjoy it.
And hamdulillah that I can pick this up put it in my mouth tasted enjoy this digested it
My body benefits from it, and it's all from Allah zildjian. So without him, this could not have been facilitated, and hamdulillah with this system be able to find even in the little things that we have
the name of Allah,
that first this could not have been happened without Allah. Second, Allah scented,
Allah scented for you and me
to say a lot hamdulillah that you sent this, to look always at the other side of what we consider to be hardship
decreased provisions just to look at the other side and say, but Allah is providing and Allah is helping and Allah is guiding and this is from Allah, and you have to be happy with Allah has his origin, you have to thank him for this NEMA. Because when you thank him over what is little, the little gets blessed and becomes plenty, plenty in your own eyes. But also Fenty as Allah blesses it, we were asked the plenty, when it is rejected, looked down on becomes small,
not only small in your own eyes definitely does but small also in the bonica. So Allah as the audience of how Allah could give you a lot of food could be a lot on your plate, but within gratitude in your heart, because simply you're not happy with your life, not happy with Allah has given you not happy with the Ramadan not happy with this not happy with that you look at it, and you can taste it, you can smell it, you hate this blessing of Allah that He had given to you. So in fact, we had made this NEMA the opposite, something to be hated and despised. And it's all about attitude. And it's all about gratitude. So if the plenty you cannot think it turns into what a curse
turns into something to be despised, whereas Allah gives you a little bit, and you decide, I have to change my perspective in life, I can keep complaining about everything. I can't keep looking down upon everything that Allah gives to me, even if it's a little bit, Isn't it enough that Allah had given me something? Can I say Alhamdulillah for this, don't I want Allah xojo to be happy with me, I look at it also, in a different way. I do a little bit
in terms of Salah in terms of giving Zakah in terms of Vicar in terms of Oran, I just give a little bit to Allah. And I see a lot except from me, be happy with me, overlook my mistakes, and my shortcomings take this little bit that I've done. So I do the little of the littlest of things. And I want a lot to be happy with me. Yet if a light gives me something little I declare that I'm unhappy, and I deserve more. So I'm unhappy with Allah, but I'm asking them to be happy with me. How does that work?
How does that work? If I want a lot to be happy with the little things that I do, shouldn't I be happy with Allah when he gives me whatever he gives to me
when he decides hit, take this, here is a gift.
Your neighbors have had a line in the Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, if says, Do not look down on a gift that a neighbor gives to you, even if he gives you or she gives you the hope of an animal,
right, the foot of an animal hardly with any meat on it even that appreciate that. So a pre be appreciated with human beings. If you receive a gift, you look at what is this thing? What am I going to do with this? If you treat it like that, then do you really deserve to receive that gift. Whereas if you look at it, and you say at least they remembered me, at least they gave me something, this is their power, this is what they can afford. I appreciate that they tried, I appreciate the thought. If you do this, then they will like them because of it. And Allah will bless what you have. And you will feel better on the inside.
But it's only not not only about feeling better on the inside, it's also about what Allah will be happy with you. So when you're sitting to eat this very simple thing, and in your heart, you say 100 in that Allah made it possible.
Allah gave me the health to be able to enjoy it to be able to taste it. Allah made possible so that now I am not hungry and held good enough for this NEMA and you eat it and you rise from your table, happy with Allah. And you do this after you eat. You do this after you drink. You fill your heart with contentment. Allah looks at you and he's happy with you.
Just for consuming this food and just for saying both
saying and hamdulillah which is both what praising and thanking Allah and handling down on Bella
Al Hamdulillah for this Alhamdulillah with that, so let this hadith be a motivation insha Allah for us,
that let us say, Alhamdulillah for what Allah has given us, whether it is something that we've planned for, or not the thing that we have been asking for, or something different.
If Allah decides, this is what I'm giving to you, this is what I'm feeding you, let us say, Alhamdulillah and let us look at all the things that deserve to be thanked Alhamdulillah for my health,
Alhamdulillah for my parents, and hamdulillah for my spouse, Alhamdulillah for my children Alhamdulillah for my small or big house Alhamdulillah for my old or new car Alhamdulillah for my good or even bad neighbors and hamdulillah I've had the level a roof over my head, and handed in love for security and handed in love with this, count your numbers and say Alhamdulillah and bring the pleasure of Allah into your life and the life of your family and into your heart. May Allah azzawajal allow us to be those who eat and say 111 their hearts and drink and say it hamdulillah from their hearts and receive Allah's bounties and say and handle in their from their hearts. And
may Allah is evident when we do this put contentment into our hearts into our lives. And our allies origin make us happy with you. And we ask you that we make be happy with you as Allah as dogen says, Allah The Allahu
Allah is pleased with them and they are pleased with them. It is two sides of an equation are two sides of the same coins. You want a lot to be happy with you. You need to be happy with Allah s origin. And if you are happy with Allah, Allah will be happy with you. It cannot be that you are unhappy with him. And you're asking to be happy with you. allies of Judah has more reasons for us to be happy with him, then reasons for him to be happy with us. So if he wants you want him to be pleased with you, at least we take this step to say and I am pleased with Allah zoji bellami
insha Allah. So let's look at a couple of questions that we have here. What is the ruling on eating animals with claws and what type of claws is a talam? So if you have animals that have close to them, meaning ferocious animals, then you don't consume those animals. You're not going to eat a lion, you're gonna I'm not gonna eat a tiger or your leopard. You don't eat cats, you know, eat dogs, whereas you have animals that don't don't consume other animals typically, right?
They don't have.
So for instance,
goats, stuff like that, right? So those are the animals that you consume. kulu dinarobin, Mina, Mina Siva, so if an animal is a ferocious animals, it has
words escapes me right? Right now.
Nam insha Allah. So anyway, if the animal consumes other animals, typically that's not an animal and all that you would eat, right? Whereas if it's an animal
that is not typically that's the animal that you consume, right? So if you have spec,
now, who has retractable claws, what animal has retractable claws?
So shall I just I'm trying to think of a phrase in my head. inshallah, once it comes, I'll come back to your question.
It's just, it's just, it's escaped me. So how am I can jump. Let me just answer the next question. Maybe insha. Allah, we'll come back to your question, Shawn, should be should we be grateful for the illness that Allah azzawajal gives us? So what does that mean? And that's a good question. Insha Allah so if you become ill, whether it's an illness like a passing illness, like Cuba, you have a fever, you have a cold or you have the flu, or a more serious thing, but it could be treated, or there's another thing that cannot be treated or we don't have an idea of how to be treated. Do we become satisfied and happy and as you said, grateful for that or not. Now, on the one hand, if Allah
xojo grants, you have a space to change something
about your condition. Then Allah zoodle also allows you to do your best to change that condition of yours, so you're sick, and there's medicine that you can take to treat your illness does not mean that you shouldn't take your medicine to cure yourself. We say no medicate yourself. It is recommended.
Meditate, medicate yourself. It is recommended. So if I like gives you the space
To change your reality that is may not be
to your liking. But Allah gives you this space, meaning you are at this point pure poor. At this point, you don't have a job, does that mean that I should be happy with being out of work and not seek employment? We say no, if Allah gives you a space to seek employment, and you can find it, go ahead and seek it. Okay? But, okay, if Allah zildjian gives you that space and you keep trying, and it doesn't work,
why it's not working, while you're still sick? Should I be grateful for it? We say that is a good, that is a good position and stance to take with affliction, if you remember we had this series long series on etickets Islamic etiquettes we said that with affliction what is right what is an obligation on all of us is to be patient
is to be patient. That's if it happens, and I'm sick at this time and I'm trying to medicate myself and heal myself. And it's taken a while or it's not happening immediately. But while I'm sick, it's it's an obligation on me to be patient not to say things and do things that upset Allah xuejun Do I have to be grateful we say this is a recommended station. Yes, even gratitude that Allah azza wa jal had sent this illness, that I'm out of work that at this particular time, hold on, I'm trying to change this, but at this particular time, I'm poor, but it is for my own good that Allah gave this and there is benefit in it. So yes, be grateful even for that, that is a recommended station. So
even to say Alhamdulillah for this, right? Even to say Alhamdulillah, that Allah gave me this, it will fill your mind filled your heart and fill your body with gratitude, which is calmness, that Allah chose this. And he wants this for me at this time. So rather than being in agony, and then agitation over why this is happening, I can't stand this, this is so difficult. Rather than this, you actually absorb it by saying that Allah wants this, and Alhamdulillah for this, I'm going to try to change it. And as soon as Allah allows this, he will allow me to change it. But as soon as, but as long as I'm experiencing all of this Alhamdulillah for it, yes, gratitude greatly helps during
times of affliction, even with illness, even with loss. Right? And humbling. So this is a good question in sha Allah. And it's important to distinguish between what changing our reality and being contented with it. They are they are they there they go hand in hand. But it doesn't mean that I have, I'm contented with this reality that I'm not trying to change it, that we look at it that yes, Allah decreed this at this moment. But if Allah allows changing it, then Allah may also want and like that I would change it lower.
The first question, I feel that my batteries are hollow and doesn't have any weight in them. Second, is when any chef says that he will get this much reward against worship, how they calculated, said, the third question is is about taraweeh at home, especially if a person is living alone. Here inshallah so three questions from you, I feel that my battery is hollow, and doesn't have any weight in them. So first of all, in sha Allah, if you have a feeling that the bat is hollow and empty, I would say that it is a good feeling, excuse you feel now that there is something that is missing in them. And it's a good feeling when we look at ourselves in our event, and we find that there is
something lacking and we demand more from ourselves. It's really good. So first of all, thank Allah for the fact that you performing any better. Second of all, even if they're a better feels empty et CIE, at least it's fulfilling an obligation.
So one is inshallah to also appreciate this, even if I perform my salah and after my Salah, I was you know, my mind was elsewhere throughout the saga. At least I should say that my bad that this Salah, fulfill that obligation, never stop just because I feel very bad is empty. Man now
your heart is asking you can you do better? Because this is not satisfactory on its own.
And this is where we begin to what ask Allah.
So this is what I want from you. Ask Allah, Allah asked him in your Sunnah he or Allah, I feel my data is empty. I feel my heart is not into it. I feel I'm not getting a lot from it. Yet Allah give me more from my bed. Allow me to gain benefits from it better to be present in it for it to have meaning and
My life, for it to have an impact on my heart and soul and body. Keep making this up and be present while you're praying, struggle with yourself when you want to give sadaqa as a care struggle so that you would have an intention. I'm doing this for Allah and then do give it when you're starting to create are we house yourself before you want to pray? Why?
Why? So this answer most of your third question, why am I praying? Just simply because I'm repeating movements and words? Why am I praying? there is forgiveness and a lot in it. I'm lazy, but I'll do it for Allah. Allahu Akbar. This is a conversation you have with yourself before you do any deed Why is this privately in your heart? Why is this pause before you're about that and ask this question Okay.
And then perform the Sega
and you will feel more insha Allah and in it will you feel that your mind is wandering bring it back? Yeah, allow my mind in wandering assist me so bring it back. So this is what we can do in sha Allah to enhance our a better then the more that you do this and he also by the way, read more or learn more or listen to some lectures about the secrets of the Sadat my secrets of masala meaning what the objectives of the Sunnah, the benefits of the Sadat why were bow in one good prostrating, what are the benefits that are in it? What are the rewards that are in it, this will help you in sha Allah, remember, and appreciate the parts of the event that you're performing, then you will feel
insha Allah that they are helping and benefiting, but don't give up. It's a great thing that you have felt that there was something missing. But if you let that go and you surrender, that feeling, it becomes dangerous because he gave up on the a panda, no, this is us consider that a message from Allah that hey, so and so. Now you need more from it to try to do more from it. Right? So in sha Allah, I hope you can Sharla that helps says when there was some people say that you will get this much and that much from your Eva How did they get that? It depends on who's talking and what embedded they're talking about. So if it comes from the Quran, if it comes from the sooner
hamdulillah This is acceptable. If it has no basis don't you don't accept it.
So if we say in fasting Allah rewards you for for it without account without measurement. This is based on a headache
Illa song for in the Holy One Zb except for fasting. Except it's for me and I will reward it because he says in the Hadith, every action is multiplied 10 times to 700 times except for fasting. It is for me. That means fasting is multiplied more than 700 times.
So this means insha Allah these calculations if they come based on Quran and Sunnah, and this is listened to the speaker,
how they're calculating, and they're basically on Koran and soon Al Hamdulillah If not, then don't accept it. Right? And then just listen to the speaker they mentioned the evidence and hamdulillah and they don't mention the evidence maybe later on private message or you do your own research or as somebody else so and so said I will get these many good deeds when I do this. Where does this come from? Is it from the prophets a lot he was sending them or were and then maybe on Sharla we are praying Tara we Hello? Yeah, you probably thought we had them. That's fine insha Allah just like to create in Gemma if you're living alone, Allahu Akbar, why don't you start crying it alone to like as
toorak as torok as toorak as to the you know, you create this easy inshallah to like as salaam to like I said, then another tool UK has set out to like I said, and we did eight, then you do your winter and winter you do to like us salah and then one Raka and then seven. That's it.
So this is a thin shell, right? So I hope inshallah, that that is easy, right? And I know it's not
as easy when you're alone to Prater away. But remember, also when it's more difficult, Allah rewards you even more. So it's easier to create in Jamal and there are a lot of people around you right in the masjid. But when it's not available, and you have to pray it alone, and you decide to pray it alone, and it's harder, your reward is even high.
So appreciate that as well. And hamdulillah right.
reciting the dying person to make it easy his death is allowed.
The Hadith about it is weak. The Hadith about it is weak, right. So the Hadith or the best
thing to do when you're near a day
person on dying person rather is to remind them of La ilaha illAllah Muhammadan rasul Allah. So that will be the last thing that they say, as the sole exits, so that you can see, you know, as you're next to them that either Illallah Muhammadan rasul Allah so that they will repeat it, if they are experiencing some anxiety to remind them of the hammer and mercy of Allah xuejun you're heading you're coming closer to Allah, the Most Merciful, the most generous, the one who will receive you beaten and now as the origin you know, with,
So remind them of the run of Allah, so they be here helpful Allah, and also remind them also repent from all sin, know that you're coming close to Allah as the origin. So be that positive influence and that reminder next to them reciting the Quran just to make the sort of exit easier, that Hadith about it is weak. So this is I'm not going to say, absolutely don't do it. But also when you're doing it, don't think you're doing as soon. But if you're finding that the person that next to you is experiencing some pain and agony, and you simply want to recite some poron go ahead and do it. But don't think that it's as soon as so kinda like maybe it will help. Maybe it will help but don't
specify a particular surah as I said, because this is not it's not as soon right on lower.
Explain seeking knowledge and its obligations in Islam. This is of course writing, I like to write, let's say insha Allah, it's it's a it's a, it's a, it's mandated, it's prescribed that we seek knowledge that we learn our religion.
So part of learning Islam is an obligation on each one of us, we have to know the difference between halal and haram we have to know how to pray, how to fast how to give Zakat, how to perform obrah what are the obligations on is when you get married, are intimate with your spouse what is halal about this and what is haram? You have to learn this when you're raising your children what is hideout about this and what is haram? How to this is an obligation so there is a basic obligation in Islam that each one of us has to learn
the virtue of this it takes a while right we cannot explain that they will need inshallah a separate occasion and lecture on its own
a lot of magnetic rica or Chicago has neighbor the tick this helped me a lot
helped me a lot to finish the last okay we need to see it in the tissue All right. So this was helped me a lot a lot of my knee and I think recover should recover his name rather than just up on low heel for reminding us so this draft from the messenger Sullivan He will send them a lot of magnetic rica Allah helped me to remember you were the one shrieker to thank you and ego first name balletic to worship you well, so this is your I was recommended by the prophets Allah audio is setting them to while say this at the end of the Sunnah. So before you say your Salah, after you finish your dish I heard you say this job. Also you can say it after your cinema either in sha Allah
is fine. Allah Homer in the either the creek our Chicago office nearly burned I think he said to Mohan Do not let go of this
meaning keep always remembering and saying this. Don't let go of it. Allah Indiana victory go Where should he go? Or who's nearby that the key Allah assists me to remember you at the thank you and to worship you? Well, because of course without Allah xherdan you can thank you won't remember to thank him or to thank him well, you will be able to remember Allah zildjian and pray and you are in there that would be lacking without Allah assisting you. So remember this, as as it was said here, it helped a lot. So May Allah allow us to remember this throughout because it can help us a lot. And remember it is recommendation from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says on the last checkout
wizard do you make dua or do you make it in all the like, Ah
no, this is you're talking about the minute so the last leg of wit right so let's say for instance, you're praying your widow three
right three like ass. Okay, you will only do the minute at the last one all you praying or Witter as wonder Can you only do your note at the last record
and your note could be before the record or after the record and you will raise your hands and you will see alarm at any female and her date. What if any female athlete what they wondered if he meant or when they you will say this. You can add other drug to it if you wish. That's it. That's the art of Qunu and it's not a must by the way. It's not
A must, you can say it or you could leave it. You could say it and you could leave it your window is complete, right? Your financial
Can I teach my husband the knowledge I know of the dean, or he has to seek it professionally? No, you can teach it to them.
You can teach it to them, they don't have to write, you know, a Daniel anesthetic effect. If you guide someone to a good deed, it'd be as if you have done it. So when you teach it to your children,
it'd be as if you've done it, if you teach it to your husband, it'd be as if you've done it, right. So absolutely, positively teach it to your wife, teach it to your children, teach it to your parents, they don't have to seek it on their own, No, in fact, have a private solo sitting them said, belly of who I knew what to convey from me even in a fire, when you speak into the Sahaba meaning that they became all of them the messengers of the messenger sallallahu and he was sitting down. So you consider yourself also the messenger of the messenger of the messenger of the prophets of Allah you are setting them all for short. You are the messenger of the messengers of Allah How do
you it was in each one of you by the way,
if you hear a hadith from him like the hadith of today, you convey it You're the messenger of the messenger So hey, so consider the honor right? Consider the honor you're a chain you say I heard from so and so who heard from so and so who read in this book who had written from so and so that the prophets a lot of you're part of a chain that links you to Mohammed Salah lie to you and he was sending them so you know your link to Mohammed Salah your sin. So now teach, teach in sha Allah teach?
How about if he is stubborn? Well, what can I do with that right and he cannot be helped, what help is offered by scholars and you see the person is going to end up deviant to teach you try your best to make up if he's not going to take it from you than from somebody else. You forward him election. Forward him an article write for them a scholar that he may like, to sometimes it's true, it's sometimes it's hard for them to listen to us. Your parents don't want to listen to you teaching your teaching, you know, from their kids, teaching them something, they may not want it, but they can listen to another senior scholar. So I will give them that. So do that inshallah be be clever about
it and creative. They may not listen to me, but a book, they could read this book, but not listen to me. So be a little bit so if they're not receptive, when it comes from from you find another way insha Allah And don't forget to always keep making.
Keep making the art for them, that Allah soften their hearts and open their hearts so that they could accept it.
Just keep making it.
Can you start talking to your husband or wife for no query reason? Or not responding to him or her text messages? This is related to somebody? Okay, so we're going to assume always, it's related to someone, it's not about you.
Why are you stopping talking to them or not responding to their messages, and that there's no clear reason. So of course, right, this is not good manners. If you just want to give yourself a little bit of space, just a little bit of space, and they're not gonna take it as you're being rude or not fulfilling their rights.
Maybe it's okay, just you need a little bit of space. Okay, this recollect, to just feel better just to respond better. Sometimes, if you're
not feeling very well, you're angry, agitated, and you're gonna respond at this moment, you just give yourself a little bit of space before you text back a little bit of space before you respond. But just simply give them the silent treatment, and there is no reason you got to investigate why you're why you're doing this, why you feel yourself that you have to do this. What is it about you, right, so you're going through some things, maybe it is important for you to talk to someone about it, including them, I'm going through some difficult time at this moment, I just need a little bit of space, let them know that there is a reason because you simply give them the silent treatment
that you turn away from them. That creates gaps between you and them. And so they may start responding in the same way. What do you need something from them, they turn away from you? Well, this is how you react when I want you. So now this is the way I'm reacting when you want me. So let's try to investigate in sha Allah why this is happening? As a lot of searching for support and insight. Yeah, Allah helped me with this. Allow me to see why it's happening. improve my character. Let's ask Allah for this also in Ramadan, y'all improve my character and talk to them to see why they're why this is happening. By the way, guys, I mean, I apologize if this is going over. As long
as you hear I'm here but also the same time I want to see that I did not become a burden or too long.
For you, so I'm just really answering questions insha Allah so what that the lecture itself in about inshallah 15 minutes it's done but all the rest is just questions
can you reset so that in fact he has a new app
or another surah
solid In fact, he has a BA in it, he did a lot of stuff. So if you feel like it's not as soon as By the way, if you feel from time to time, right, that you just want to begin your day with salt and Fatiha because it already has to do and it has the praise of Allah in it and what have you. So from time to time you want to do this go ahead and Sharla if you feel from time to time you want to have a surah in it. You just especially if that sort of phrases Allah or that either the praise Allah because it's part of their manners have to praise Allah first. See, I want to do that through a surah right and then go into your diet later is fine in show but just keep in mind and Sharla This
is a choice that we're making. It's not we don't advance it as soon as we don't have asuna from our profits all of a sudden that you begin it with an Fatiha you begin it with a surah because we don't also want to make this what a difficult a bad for people when you want to make da recite this sort of first and then you decide this is at first and then because di is also easy you can just simply say he or Allah for all Brielle press v to use a lot he was sent them and then Nikita right so it could be something that is very easy right? Well yeah compatible if you're consistent.
According to a shake, so and so we're not allowed to perform at home. That makes me so confused Just now you said aloud. He said not to whom we follow thank you for your patience. No, no, no problem at all in sha Allah so it doesn't matter who said in sha Allah. So now to tarawih maybe you did not understand from the shape right.
You are absolutely allowed to pray to Allah we had home. So maybe you did not understand from the shape right. You're absolutely are up to pre tala. We had to him I don't know of a scholar who had said, You're not allowed to pray to her. We had home. No, he may have said it is better. To pray, tell. Are we in the masjid?
That I agree right away a second?
Yes, amen. Amen. I'm in her menstrual period she can recite for us. And we answered this and how they did lie yesterday. So you can go back to it? And shall if you want more detail yesterday, but we did answer this and how did I yesterday that if you're on your period, you can recite for on it handling that write that? So I'm glad that I saw this. But we did answer it yesterday. So yes, the scholars you know, no, no, there's some disagreements with the scholar, is it better to create than domestic or not? So some scholars say it's absolutely better to create in domestic rather than at home. Some scholars will say it depends on whether you've memorized the origin or not. Sometimes
it's better at home than domestic. But
or don't follow the online Torah we had home. So maybe you have said may have said that. So address this in sha Allah. So but the scholars are known. I'm not aware of a scholar who said don't pray to Allah we had home alone. I'm not aware of anybody. So maybe you did not understand him. Right? The brother he was saved. Maybe he said, Don't follow Ted, are we online? If you're alone at home? So maybe he has said that? That would be absolutely right. So you turn on something online, they're praying turn away, you're far away from them at home, and you're just following? That's not allowed.
So I think maybe we have maybe corrected your understanding in terms of what the sheriff have said. If you are aware of where he had said and go back to it. The episode is recorded online, it's probably his go back to it. Just listen to it. And just make sure what he had said, right.
Okay, so this one was, what is this connected to? He knows everything in his own thinking. But it's telling you I've changed man, if you want to stay or leave,
I am changed men, meaning I will not change or have a change man if you want or Lee meaning that you're telling me this is what I'm connecting to. We are giving them advice you say that I know everything. Right? That is I know I know everything I don't need anybody to tell me. And I'm this is what I am if you want it stay or if you don't want it to leave. So it means that he doesn't need teaching. He needs a lot of changes heart. This is what it means. Right? So this is what you ask Allah Allah changing.
Yeah, let's change them and you be patient with him. Now the extent of what he's doing or not doing that you need to insha Allah to discuss with someone.
Right? So maybe you know what he's doing is so bad or maybe it's not so bad. So you need to discuss this with someone, but he doesn't need teaching or not teaching from your side. What he needs is for Allah to change his heart. So this is your task right now. At night, in your Salah. Last part of the night, put it in your doggie Allah change my husband, change my wife, open your heart, make it soft. This is your this is your task now. May Allah make it easy? And may Allah did say me May Allah azza wa jal if we have someone in our lives, who is not responding to our reminders, and is not responding to Allah and His Messenger, so a lot of you I do send them we rely on him are human, we
asked you now collectively, y'all want to change their hearts and bring them closer to you soften their hearts, and bring them closer to your messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and renew amen in their hearts and renewed up one random point in their lives me. So this is a data for you and everybody who has anyone like that in their last meal like set me get a self help sister help. and nonprofit organizations online, we're only men are involved, just with texting and emailing. and phone calls without FaceTime is this harder? As long as not in that you're not alone with another man?
As long as you're not alone with another email, whether it is physically or online.
So if that's the case, insha Allah, you're not alone with them, then you're fine. If you find yourself eventually because of this volunteer work, let's say or you know, you're paid, it's paid work. You find yourself alone without another mean.
Physically, in an office space, right? So you're alone with them, or online. Okay? Now with customers, I don't mean with customers, right? But I need because a customer you call them and it's just a conversation where it's just a minute or two and you hang out. But I mean, you're working with someone. And for an extended exchange, you're alone with them online texting and texting back or on the phone talking to them and they were talking to you about if that was happening you need to distance yourself from that type of work because prolonged interaction with a person from the opposite sex could lead to developing feelings for them or them for you. And then that opens the
door of fitna, even though it is what simply online you don't know. And the shaitaan is always in the middle to tell you hey, he likes you or she likes you.
So insha Allah
Okay, so for
one question, I owe you this question sha Allah tomorrow, so I'll ask you inshallah, this question because as I said, that phrase has escaped me. So I'm sure a lot I will answer your question in sha Allah tomorrow. May Allah azza wa jal help us in sha Allah to follow his religion to love his book, to love the son of his messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you ask him subhana wa Taala to keep us close to him at all times, that we love what Allah loves, and then we hate what Allah hates. But Allah hates yellow asks you that we love you more than we love anything else or anyone else and we love your messenger sallallahu I knew you were at he was sending them more than we even our love our
love our own selves and our children and our parents was your brand I mean two plus four hold on for us. Bless our Salah plus our fasting plus our pour on fill our days and nights of Ramadan with a bad and things that are pleasing to you and distance us in Ramadan and after from things that are displeasing to you. We ask that you purify our intention and correct our deeds. forgive our sins grant us a sincere repentance from all sin. Elevate us in Jannah protect us from Hellfire, free us from your punishment and from Johanna ami subhanak alumna we're behind the shadow under either hailed as the funeral guide to what they have done in the helping IRA mean we'll see you tomorrow in
sha Allah as salaam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh