Heart Therapy 32 – The Heart & The Tongue

Ali Albarghouthi

Channel: Ali Albarghouthi

Topics: Hadith

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Explanation of the 32nd hadith in the Heart Therapy Series:

The Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam said: (Ones iman wont be straight until their heart is straight, and their heart wont be straight until their tongue is straight. And a man whose neighbor doesnt feel secure from his harm shall not enter Heaven)

Reported by Ahmad (13048) and ibn Abi al-Dunya in al-Samt (9). Al-Albani declared it to be hasan (Sahih al-Targhib 2554).

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Sooner 100 in LA salatu salam ala rasulillah

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salam ala Muhammad ohana steinhorn istockphoto one all the villa Himanshu de unforseen our cftr Marina, mais de la philomel de la homayoun Khalifa de la, la, la la la sharika Mohammed Abdul Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sahbihi wa sallam. So Sharla Heidi 32 given in LA tonight, and Heidi 32

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we want to see the relationship between the heart and the tongue between a good listener and Elisa animal color.

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And how does inshallah, listen affects the heart, the tongue affects the heart, and how does the heart affect the time.

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And this also could be considered as meaningless and it is clear out the means of disappear. Because when you understand how something affects another, you'll be able to control the product. Right? So if it's, for instance, you want to be able to correct and reform your tongue. If I say that insha Allah, the heart affects the tongue influences the tongue is the major, you know, contributor and what the tongue says, you know that in order to control what the tongue says you control what the heart says, and vice versa, if we're saying that there is really a very strong and intimate connection between what you say, and what you have on the inside is one of the ways for you to be

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able to control what's on the inside. And it is clear to Nevsky Takahiro is to control what you're saying with your tongue. Right? to decide what you're going to say with your tongue. So what is this heading?

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inshallah, by By the way, just as a reminder, this is recorded both audio and it's also being streamed live on Facebook. So if you find it to be beneficial, and you want to share with other people in sha Allah, it's possible either you want to share the audio or you want to share it because once it's streamed live, the video stays there and you can view it whenever you want.

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So what is the Hadith insha Allah teaching us so the prophets of Allah Allah you will send them says in what Mohammed? Mohammed reported

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Joe who Bella ikkaku

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so what is he saying? So a lot of you send them here in a very short Howdy, but you have 123 statements in it. The first one let's start the movie man. I didn't have to instruct him of

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the man. Other person of a slave of our last panel data is not going to be straight

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until his heart is straight.

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So the man is not going to be straight is the theme. The theme or the circumstance theme or does that mean the streetcar so is not going to have a comma in his email or in her email until the heart has a stick on?

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What is Ducky makalu and the heart is not going to have is to calm it's not going to be straight.

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hatha is the femur listen until the time is straight.

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What I told Jenna origin and I am a new Java icon and a person whose neighbor does not feel comfortable or secure from his heart will not enter gentlemen.

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So a person a Muslim, but he has a neighbor or she has a neighbor and this neighbor does not feel that they are safe from their harm. The Prophet sallallahu wasallam says this person will not enter general. So we have three statements for the prophets of the law he was a nun.

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And let's try inshallah to understand the

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one of the really the main teachings right in Islam.

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And this is something that we've been stressing in this course. And this Hadeeth course is that in order for you to be able to change on the outside, you have to change first where

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inside All right. Now we know this right from the Quran in Allah Allah. You remember, Coleman had a euro, maybe and Fusarium. This is an idea that I think we've memorized if not in the Arabic at least in the English, a lot does not change. What is enough people or the people I've been flat until they change what is in themselves. That is if Allah had blessed them with an AMA and they deserved this number because of the good that they had inside and they change themselves.

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And they don't deserve this now anymore what happens with this NEMA

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goes away?

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Or if they were under affliction and hardship

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and a loss of Hannah, what's Allah right this is you know, gave them this as a just reward for their own selves, this is what the self deserves at that moment. And they change it, and they become better people. What happens to this affliction and hardship, it goes away. So this is a main principle in Islam. So Subhanallah This is true for any change the you wanna introduce into your life, any change

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in you want to have a better relationship with your wife,

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with your husband, with your children, with your parents, with your friends, at work, whatever it is, you want to feel better about yourself.

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Right? You're struggling with certain things from the past, present, or the future, and you want to feel better about yourself. Basically, you're looking at your life, and you're saying that you said to yourself, I don't like what I'm seeing. I'm unhappy with what I'm seeing. And I want to make it better. No change, really no effective change can take place no matter what you try on the outside. Unless you follow this or proceeded with a change on the inside. If the heart does not change, it's hard then for any change on the outside to be sustainable, any external change to be sustainable, because the heart is still the same heart.

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So you want to be a better person in general, a better Muslim bride, a better spouse, a better child, a better father, a better worker, whatever it is that you want to be you have always to begin on the inside and move from the inside to the outside. But of course we discussed and we can emphasize this the outside also has an influence on the inside. Like it's so both you know, two way street.

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Right? You're with me, it's a two way street. So the inside affects the outside and the outside affects the inside.

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So

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to be happy on the outside, you have to be happy on the inside.

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And what brings happiness to the heart?

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What really brings happiness to the heart?

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What is it?

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Allah subhanho wa Taala fear of Allah love of Allah worship of Allah, Allah subhana wa tada is the one that once Allah is in the hearts, that brings happiness to it. And what is the thing that brings misery and sadness to the heart?

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What's the opposite

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maaseiah sin by the shavon attachment to the dunya and subpanel this is something that we need to continuously remind ourselves and when you're Why is it this a foreigner or attention with the dunya? Why does it bring so much sadness and discomfort? Why Allah subhana wa to Allah once he's in the heart, he brings so much happiness. First, it's just the nature

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it's just the nature. You know how sometimes you know, there is nice tasting food and you eat it. You don't know it's nutritious or not. Right? But Allah subhanaw taala made it nutritious but it's just the taste fits your make a lot of nano telemedia in a way that when you taste this thing, you find it tasty.

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So just fix you whereas something else is harmful but bitter or salty. So Allah subhanaw taala made it lacked the ingredients to attract you. So first of all, is the way that Allah made us that's First of all, but we only can find comfort with Allah. And when we're distant from Allah, we find discomfort but also when you're with Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah shows your heart

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and it gives your heart comfort. Why? Because you will say to yourself, if Allah is with me, I don't have to fear anyone else.

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And I don't have to rely on someone else to protect me because Allah is the only one who can really can protect me. So Allah subhanaw taala gives you complete protection, complete assurance. And you can completely rely on him, meaning no worry afterwards,

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complete.

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Whereas when you move to the junior, the junior does really the opposite.

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Which is what fills you with fear and there is no protection and no guarantee. Even when you get something from the dounia you're afraid that you're going to lose it. The next thought that can come into my mind. When I get something that is beautiful I desire is I'm going to lose it. How can I guarantee that I'm never going to lose it and what will happen to me if I lose

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At How can I live better without it. Whereas with a loss of data, there's no possibility of loss, you can't lose a loss of data.

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You cannot lose a law. And whatever it is that you desire of this dunya, or the asset or you know, the luck and give it to you,

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so you don't worry about it.

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And even subpanel, even when you lose something, you know, that there is meaning behind that loss. Whereas with the dounia, there is no meaning whether a person becomes sick or he loses a dear person to him, or loses money or a position, whatever thing you know, that is dear to us. You understand that, as long as Allah Subhana Allah data is in the heart and is in our minds that this happened. Because Allah has a purpose behind it is teaching something wants something to happen. You know, there's wisdom

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that led to this, and wisdom that will follow it. So you're comforted because, you know, I trust Allah subhanho wa Taala. And there is purpose behind all of this. Whereas with the dunya? No, there is no wisdom, there is no purpose. There is no compensation. Once you lose, you lose. And if you lose, there's no reason why you lost. So it doesn't offer any assurance. But Allah subhanho wa Taala does. And finally, and it really does not stop. But this is finally in terms of what I'm going to speak here and talk about is that when you have a loss of power to Allah, how many masters then would you have in your heart?

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One Master, whereas when Allah Subhana, Allah to Allah is not the master of your heart, how many masters Will you have in your heart? Plenty? No, we mentioned this before. As Allah Subhana. Allah says, you know,

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when Allah gives an example, in the Koran, right, a person who is ceremonial Raja, right, a person who has one owner, and another person or another slave will finish with

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multiple owners. So a person, for instance, has one owner or one master, the master will tell you what to do, you will go and do it and come back, you'll be happy and the master will be happy with you.

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So,

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if you have short account with a shocky, soon,

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conflicting owners, each owner will have a different demand, you will not be able to fulfill all of their demands, and all of them will be unhappy with you.

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So this is the dounia. And this is all the other masters in scripto, except of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So the heart cannot find comfort, except with a loss of Hannah what to Allah, and only then it will find happiness, and the body, the rest of our life cannot find happiness, unless the heart is happy. So this is I'm saying, because if you want to pursue any path of happiness, and this is really important, if you want to pursue any path of happiness, that does not pass through the heart and does not paths through a man know that this happiness has a shelf life,

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it will end

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right and you will come back to the same state of unhappiness and confusion and discomfort that you're in because he did not follow the path that Allah subhanho wa Taala wants you to follow you follow the different path. And we gave examples before I want to be happy. Let me What? Buy something let me purchase something because when you purchase something, it brings some type of excitement into your life. Let me talk to someone right let me go out with them, let us you know,

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go out to this place or to that place. That thing for instance, though, it's a type of entertainment, whether halal or haram but whether it's a type of entertainment cannot produce lasting happiness, because it will end and you will come back to the same state that you're in to the same question to the same confusion etc, etc.

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So, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, well, you're stuck anymore, you're stuck in my elbow who the man of a person will not be straight. What does he mean here by a man meaning that a man that is external, the amount of the body, the behavior of the body

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is not going to be straight, not going to be according to what Allah subhana wa tada loves until the hottest Street.

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So you will not be able to pray on time, you will not be able to give fasting, remember our last panel data you will not be able to avoid

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and do the Heller you will not be able to be kind you will not be able to remember a lot you'll not be able to avoid lying and cheating. And all of this until What

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does that say? Right? This is a man all of this is email all the actions of the body and the actions of the tongue our email output email. So problem

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All cinemas saying that you will not be able to have an outward straight Eman until the heart is what? straight.

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So that tells us that the Prophet Sall, Allahu Allah, you will send them here is giving you an indicator,

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a test.

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And that song is going to be one of those tests, as we will see. But the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is giving you an indicator, when you find a flaw on the outside, what is this telling about the inside?

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is also flawed.

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That's the indicator because one can tell you, I don't have access to my heart.

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How do I know that there's something missing on the inside?

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actions, right? It's the actions. Because if you go to a physical like a doctor by an MD, how would he know for instance, that there's something wrong with your heart he will examine and if you find that there is something missing by the heartbeat, right? This scan does if something is missing, no, there's something wrong with the heart. Okay, how do we do this with the spiritual heart? What is this diagnosis? It's like you put yourself are actually your action on this bed, and you examine if you scan it, and if you find that there is a flaw there, it tells you that there is a flaw on the inside. If for instance, you find that you hate what Allah loves, and love what Allah hates.

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So okay, there's something missing in the inside. And a llama hammarby This is common in America. melodicism, common,

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loving what Allah hates, like what backbiting, right? or lying, or stealing or cheating, or gossiping, juicy gossip, right? Once we start doing it, I you know, if you want more, give me more you feel excited. Whereas really a heart that is you know, truly a servant of Allah subhanho wa Taala slave of Allah will hate us, or at least as soon as it hears it, and it finds that it has some sort of attraction to it. What does it do? runs away from it will be done the shutdown, I don't want to listen to it. Don't tell me all of these things. And the heart receives back its life again. Because the heart is basically you know, subhana wa goes between life and death, life and death or

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health and sickness, health and sickness all the time. So when the heart accepts, okay, I'll let me listen, this disease increases or listen to listen to this gossip. Let me listen to what he may have said. Let me tell you what he said. Let's Let's backbite about this person if it enjoys it, that means it's moving closer to its disease but when it projected attention that disease is anyone back to its health.

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So this is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is telling you you want to reform the outside your Eman, reformed the inside. And you also want to have a good predictor of what your Eman is like on the inside. See what is happening with you on the outside? And see, are you happy with the last panel with the other or not happy with him? Right? Are you happy with his decrease? Are you happy with that he had given you life today? Are you happy with his decisions? Are you had decisions meaning that decrees for instance, what happened for me today and also religious decrease? And then you will find insha Allah, where is your heart?

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When the Prophet sallallahu wasallam talks about the tongue.

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And let's focus on the tongue first and then we will explain the relationship between the tongue and

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the heart

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of the external parts of the body, we probably can say that the most dangerous part is the tongue

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of the external parts of the body. Internally The heart is the most important one, the most dangerous one

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of the external parts of the body the most dangerous one is the tongue

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and the prophets of Allah it was sent him says halia cuckoo NASA scenario to him Adam and I hear him in the house it was seen it to him in this famous Hadith

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of the Allah. He tells him, what is the thing that throws people into Hellfire?

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More so than the harvest of their tongues? What their tongues earn?

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And what throws people on hell fire on their faces, or on their noses. What is the thing that throws them there? It says what their tongues burn? how sad it is sad, right? It's the harvest. So what you collect with your tongue, right? Why is that the case? Subhana. Allah will think about it. One of the reasons is, all of the other limbs that we have are limited physically. So let's say for instance, the harm that my hand can do, it's limited to it.

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All right. This is taking given but it's limited. It's physically limited. Right? Right, physically limited to what I can touch.

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My eyes are limited to what I can see, barring technology today, limited limited to what I can see my ears limited to what I can hear.

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That might turn.

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Right? It's not unlimited.

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You can talk about anything in your city, or outside in your country or outside, in any place in the world, not only that history, he can go back to history. And if you're happy with something that Allah subhanho wa Taala, hated in history, right? or angry with something that Allah loves in history, you earn something because of it, right? When you speak about it.

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So your tongue is really not limited. It's global. Right? I can backbite someone in China and in India, and in Iceland, right? While I'm sitting here, I can do this to my eyes and my ears and with my hands.

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Now, of course, with the hands now if extend this, for instance, to whatever we write, and we publish online, that would be the same thing. So we can, you know, extend the tongue between quotation marks to mean also what we write, or we beam the mean by tongue speech, that will include the hands, but speech really, you can use the Pamela, no limit to what you can go across the globe backbite everybody. Now even back by one person, you can back by or condemn an entire village or a country and carry their entire sin because you've done that.

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And one of the headaches of the process, a lot of synonyms just occurred to me now, as I'm talking, it says, you know, there's what no one will have greater injustice or a greater sin than a person who criticized or hijacked or condemned an entire tribe because of someone in it.

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Any times, let's go back and then we'll, we'll come to the present at the times of

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the pre Islamic Arabs and then afterwards, even if I had a feud with someone who belonged to the tribe of demean the tribe of Polish, the tribe,

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and whatever it is, right, I will not only if I write poetry, I will not only condemn and I will condemn him and all of his tribe, all of them are spineless. All of them are miserly. All of them are disordered. So the prophets of Allah Islam says, who has greater sin that someone who attacked an entire tribe because of one person today will do the same thing again with the tongue, or you know, those people right from that country, that color from that ethnicity? All of them are like this, because you met one, two or three or 10 people. So that's exactly what the prophets will allow Adios. lm is saying you've generalizing criticism, with your tongue.

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You can do this with your you can do this with your hand. You can say Pamela so the tongue as as an organ it's quick to move and it's quick to sin. And the prophets have a lot to send themselves said in another Hadith

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the thing that puts most people in Hellfire is the tongue and the private parts. These two things

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these two things the thing that will put most people in Hellfire is the time and the private parts

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and in another Hadith, also from the prophets of Allah and he was sent out inshallah I have several of them I will just read a couple he says a lot he was Salah

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when he said to the Sahaba he

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called me to

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be allowed for Miss stuffing see Molise my rod and then be straight then he said that so hobby what is the thing that you feel the most for me Oh profit of a lot I think that you most worry about when it comes to me. So the profits on a lot he will send them pointed to some family sanity health is done with his son enough say the tongue of the prophets. A lot of your sentiment said this.

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This is the thing I fear most for you. Right?

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How do you come into Islam

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right by the Shahada and the tongue can also pronounce or say things that

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take personality Islamism. Right? So this is the thing that the prophets will allow on he was a nun.

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feud the most.

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And one of the Hadees the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and this should tell you or give you a standard to live by.

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He said in the collectors, Allah Salomon maseca condemned the coup de Vaca Valley. It says you will continue this is a heavy he will continue to be safe as long as

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You're quiet.

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But when you talk, it will be either written for you or against you.

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So as long as I'm quiet, right,

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I'm

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safe.

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Right? There's no enough for me, but there is no savior. So that's safety. I didn't venture into things that I don't know. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is saying okay, adhere to safety. Okay adhere to safety on solid energy in another Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he said, the one who is quiet or silent will be safe.

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Okay, sorry, that's excellent. When you're going to talk it would be for you or against you, written for you or written against you. So as a standard, you want to say to yourself, now I'm going to talk

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is this for me? Or against me?

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If it is for you, what should you do?

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If it is for you,

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what is it an example for instance, of a thing that will be written for you when you speak?

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merci ha, Vicar of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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reading the Quran, right?

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making somebody happy, right, bringing joy to somebody without lying right? Without you know, any sin. That all is for you. So before you try to say okay for me or against me, if it is for you, then you proceed. If it is against you, stop. So this is the standard. You know that this hadith is teaching. Notice, think about what you want to say before you want to say and then proceed. Otherwise, it's better not to say anything. As the province always sent him said masamoto Niger.

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And he said also in another Hadith

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Mancha.

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He says the one who withholds his anger Allah Subhana, Allah will hold punishing him.

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Okay, so the first part of the hudy the one who withholds his anger, meaning does not become angry.

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I not every time that he's angry, he actually shows this anger shares his anger, he holds it back. What is the last panatela say that he's going to do with him?

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He will hold back punishing him because the punishment of Allah is what was anger. So it's like, if you do this, the same will be done for you.

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If you don't become angry with people, unless the anger is justified, right, especially, especially not for the sake of yourself, but for the sake of

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Allah subhanho wa Taala. So that's why the prophets of Allah to send them one of the descriptions, that mechanism timeliness, say, Well, I can't even get through metal law

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into

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any of the profits, a lot of your syllabi would not avenge his own self.

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I even avenge his own, you know, if somebody mistreated him personally, I wouldn't care about that. He would not avenge himself, he would let it go if it's his own personal right. But when it's the right of Allah subhana wa Tada. That's different. That he will take.

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So he wasn't moving for his own sake. He was moving for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala and that's the best. Right? So here in this Hattie, he says you hold your anger back that then Allah subhana wa tada also hold his anger back when you meet him.

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Woman personally Santa who settled a lot of our data and the one

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who restraints is done Allah subhana wa tada will conceal his shame.

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What does that mean? restraint is done meaning he does not discuss any harm with any people, especially when it comes to other people and their secrets. Personally center I'm holding back my tongue when it comes to gossip I'm not gossiping. When it comes to backbiting I'm not doing when it comes to broadcasting people secret. I'm not doing it. When it comes to profanity. I'm not doing it when it comes to any type of haram I'm not doing it. So in few this has this has been of the sound restraints of the tongue. There are lots of hands what Allah will also what

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can see conceal is shame because this person has concealed the shame of other people

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following him saying,

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right, so as you're doing a loss of Hana with data will do for you.

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So if you can seal the shame of people and you don't broadcast it, a loss of power data will also not allow your own mistakes and shame to be broadcasted, and will conceal it, and this slide and in the next

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and the last time

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Part of the Hadith that says woman etc even law you're probably the law of the law and the one who apologizes to Allah subhana wa tada Allah will accept his apology, meaning the one who goes back to Allah right and asks Allah for forgiveness, this is the apology This is what is meant by apology goes back to Allah asks a lot for forgiveness, Allah subhanho data will accept his request. So this is what it means.

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And the last Hadith about the tongue again just to show the importance of what we say even though sometimes we would never pay attention to the prophets of Allah audios in them says indeed one of you lay they can now carry with him in Book One India will speak or say something that pleases Allah subhanho wa Taala may have been one who nabela he does not imagine or suspect or the thing that will reach the level it will reach an a loss of Hana data, because of it will write for him His pleasure till the day that he meets him

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and a loss and another person will say something

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that angles a loss of power data does not suspect or thing it will reach the level that it will reach. And because of Allah subhanho wa Taala will write for him his anger till the day that he meets a loss of habitat.

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See, when it says here my husband wants diploma but he doesn't think that it is that significant.

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Yet he said it.

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This is from Bab work with a sub una hyena obeying the law when you think it is easy, right but with Allah subhanho wa Taala it's great.

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For instance, you know, somebody ridicules something in Islam,

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something from the sound of the prophets of Allah, he was sending them right just makes fun. Or another person is making fun of it. And he or she laughs

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that laughter that smile, or that speech, in our mind, in our eyes, it just happened and it's gone. When we not even you know as the last panel with Allah for forgiveness for it. But with a loss of Hannah with Allah, it could be so great that a person could meet a last panel with the Allah could tell him I've been angry with you from that day till now. Because of what you said.

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Or the opposite, you could say something and you really don't pay attention to it, you know, saying Salaam to someone. Right? offering to help them giving them naziha command in good forbidding evil, right? And you just forget about it yet Allah subhana wa tada because you said it, there's a good intention behind it. And there's great benefit in it. And Allah loved it, that from that time to the return loss penalties. And because of that one sentence that you said, you know, one circumstance that you put into yourself and and risk this and that because of it. I've been happy with you from that day till today.

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So this tells you about the danger and the importance of the time. Something you can see in a minute or five minutes can earn some the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala or can also earn the Wrath of Allah all the time.

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Now, what is the connection between

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the heart and the tongue?

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Well, obviously, right? Obviously, the heart influences the tongue.

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Whatever the tongue is saying, whatever it's speaking, it's a reflection of what is right there inside the heart. There's something for him that I want to translate very quickly to you. He says, and if you want a sign, or evidence about what is in the heart, seek that evidence from the movements of the tongue. Because it will reveal what is in the heart whether the person wants it or not.

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Right. So you have no more I'm not misquoting him. He says that.

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The hearts are like pots. And these parts are boiling with what is in them. And the tongue is this one. Right? So look at the person when he's talking. Because his tongue is gonna spoon out what is inside his heart, whether it's sweet or bitter, right, salty or sour or whatever it is. And

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his tongue will reveal to you the tastes of his heart. As you taste with your tongue. What is in the pot with this one? Right.

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So roughly any and there's a little bit more, but this is roughly what he's saying. What is the analogy that he had given Rahim Allah, one is that a heart is like a pot and the tongue is like a spoon. You want to

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What is in the pot? The pot is cooking, right? You want to taste what's in it good or bad. You take the spoon, take a little bit of it and taste it that will tell you what is inside. So he

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says the same thing with the tongue. You want to know what's inside a person's heart. See what they're talking about. That's what's inside there.

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And the interesting thing he says whether they want it or not, whether they tried to hide it or not, eventually comes up. Because you can't hide it.

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I can pretend what how long? Five minutes, an hour, two hours, and then what?

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I can't, I can't pretend anymore. So whatever is inside comes out.

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So if it is sweet, it will be sweetness on the tongue. If it is bitter, it will be bitterness on the tongue. And before I think we've given an example of our own selves, right?

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One day you're happy. Right? You satisfied with everything. Everything is going well in your life. Or maybe it's a panela Well, one day you wake up and you just feel nice. My right. It happens when do you wake up? You have no idea. You just feel nice.

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What do you say?

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All the nice things that hamdulillah you remember Allah you want to read the Koran. Good morning. salaam aleikum. Good morning. What a beautiful day. Please go ahead. You open to someone that door What a nice person you are. Right? Why is that? The tongue is what scooping out what's in the heart and is saying to people here at this night. Here it is. I'm feeling wonderful today. I'm feeling wonderful today. Feeling wonderful today. Okay, another mystery. Another day when you wake up. One of you know why or not? you're miserable. Okay, it's the miserable day, cloudy day. I don't know why, but you just don't feel like it.

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How do you reflect all of this?

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grumpy, right? Don't talk to me today. Well, why is this not ready? This is bad, right? It's cool. Too much salt. It's too sweet. Whatever it is, right? This door is not working this computer. I want to throw it away. It's just complaining. Nobody wants to be around you right that day. Nobody wants to be actually you don't want to be around yourself.

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Like if you could possibly like this associate and go somewhere else and leave yourself somewhere else. You do it? Because you're fed up. So why is that again? It's the spoon scooping out what's in the heart and saying here it is. So if someone is talking about movies all the time, what is the law?

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Someone is talking about movies all the time. What do they love? movies, right? If someone is you know loves football, soccer, right? Yeah, if you don't like soccer, he's not gonna talk to you about it. But if he just noticed is that you may like it, what happens? Are boo boo boo, right? What do you think about this team and that jersey and this player that you see this game right? And no one tells you known instructs you then Oh, please talk about you know, when you leave home today, please make sure you discuss soccer with someone, nobody has to tell you this.

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But it's naturally just comes out. You know, or with the sisters, let's you know the sisters in fashion or the new bag or the you know, this new designer. When you see someone interested in it, you should immediately start talking about it. If you start talking about it, then I'll know I'm not telling you this so that we can start you know condemning and judging everybody else, I'm just telling you to notice that this really tells you what you like and what you dislike.

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So that's it. This

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reveals what's in the horror.

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And it cannot be hidden, and cannot be hidden for long. So if that's the case, whatever your tongue is staying and is doing is the influence of the heart.

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And if the tongue is not doing well, again, like we said in the beginning, what is not really not doing well, the heart is not doing well.

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And if the tongue is doing better than the heart is doing better. So you want to say to yourself, how can I fix?

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How can I fix my tongue?

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You see, you could fix it by fixing your heart. Of course, there are some things that you can do externally, right, stop saying these things. Right? Stop listening to this person and repeating what they're saying. But also fix your attractions on the inside what you're attracted to and what you're not attracted to. Because when you fix it, you will naturally move away from these things, and towards better things. Right? Because the attractions and the heart are still the same. It's hard for the time to rebel against the heart because the tongue really just listens to the heart and nothing more. Nothing more. I just listened. Actually, there's one more thing but it listens. It's

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like an obedient servant. So you can ask the servant to change of the master is not willing to change. So go to the master and change the master and then the

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can change.

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But as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also says, What is the theme of today's theme, and he says,

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His heart also will not be straight until the tongue is straight, it does also tell you that the outside does influence the inside.

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So it not doesn't only move or flow from inside to outside, but also from outside to inside

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the house is that the case

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they say Subhana Allah, that the tongue is that one, the one organ in the body that most resembles the heart in the sense that both of them are quick to move, and very volatile. And one of the quickest organs to move compared to your ears and eyes is the tongue.

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Okay? And it keeps moving more than your eyes, right, because you can close Close your eyes, and you can still see the top. So it keeps moving more than anything else. And he says because of this, there is a link between it and the heart. And it influences the heart more than any other limb or organ in the body.

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So when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is saying your heart cannot be straight until your tongue is straight, he's telling you, if you want also your tongue to be into your heart to be straight, watch what you're saying.

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And take the best things when you want to speak and then your heart will be straight.

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He said what is evidence for this? Other than this? How do you say okay, what is one of the best ways for you to

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fix your heart? Okay, or to remember our last panel data? Or to put pressure on your heart? What are the one of the best ways to put pressure on your heart?

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A better right one of what are one of the easiest and quickest I bet is that you can do

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Salah, the vicar of Allah subhanaw taala licola the easiest, right? Because he's just sitting right there, just the tongue moving. And add to that reading the Quran. So the heart may not be straight, at this moment could be very crooked.

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But the sound moves.

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And it moves with the remembrance of Allah subhanho wa Taala. What happens to the heart, it comes straight or straightens a bit more. So that's the influence that moves from the tongue to the heart. That's why you say remember our last panel.

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When you're anxious when you're unhappy when you're depressed, which is all what a disease in the heart, a flaw in the heart. Remember our last panel data because when you straighten your tongue, that tongue will straighten your heart.

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And when your heart is straight, of course, the tongue will straight so it goes into this circle.

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And think about it in another way. Let's suppose the hardest comfortable as a piece has.

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But somebody starts gossiping or backbiting someone and you start backbiting as well what happens to your email?

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sinks right? So the outside so like we said before, anything that you commit leaves a black mark on the inside and decreases our EMA. And the sins of the tongue are the grievous of sins. Right, as we mentioned, are the more serious of sins. So when a person writes follows a path of cricket crookedness with his tongue, it will immediately affect his heart. And the crookedness will be transferred from the outside to the inside. So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam is saying to anyone who wants to seek purification of their heart, and have a straight heart, watch you

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watch your tongue, and consider what you're saying with it. Because if it is crooked, it'll be hard for your heart to be crooked. For if it's crooked, it will be hard for your heart to be straightened.

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And if it is sound, then you have to follow.

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Yeah. So this is the connection between the heart and the tongue. This influences that and that influences this. So once you insha Allah to remember this as one of the means of this gear, right? If the heart is doing well, be careful that you don't say anything with your tongue that will diminish your Eman and carotid. And if your heart is not doing well know that one of the best ways and quickest ways to restore a man into your heart is through your time by remembering Allah and Quran.

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And the last statement from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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and a person will not enter Jannah if his neighbor does not feel secure from his heart.

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Now why do you think that the prophets of Allah How do you will send them linked this last statement to the tongue

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crookedness of or straightforwardness of the heart

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The tongue, right and their connection to each other. What is the relationship you think?

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Because you convert your neighbor, right? And it's very likely, right? It's very likely because your neighbor is right there beside you.

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So you're very likely to root your neighbor with your tongue, with your insult with your gossip or with revealing their, your their secrets. So the prophets of Allah Azza wa sallam he really wants to tell us or instructors that

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first of all, of course, the neighbor has this great right upon us, right? We'll talk about this this great right upon us. But that song is likely also to cause problems for you, especially when the people would the people around you who are closest to you. If you don't watch what you're saying,

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and especially when it comes to the neighbor, why is that? Because with a stranger, I can be nice.

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Because they're a stranger. I don't see them often. So let's say for instance, you know, you have somebody in the masjid you see them once a day.

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It's easy to be nice, right in the midst of Somalia, Somalia comes from smile and leave. It's easy. Shall I hope? It's easy, but it's easy, I think, then, but if this person is your neighbor, why?

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Well, again, as we said, How long can you pretend if this is not your nature, if your nature is that you're not a nice person? How long can you pretend he's right there all the time. You see him all the time, your true nature will reveal itself. So that's the first you cannot pretend all the time. The second thing is that it's likely to be conflict with your neighbors. Right?

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All the ministers have conflicts with their neighbors right? Now, hopefully not. But right. But it's likely to become because you are trespassing on their property, or they do the same to you. There's something in common, right? And there's likely to be conflict with your neighbor over it. And all of us rights upon a love. Right are built with greed on the inside, we want all everything and would you want to give up anything? So that's greed, that's human greed. So you put all of this together, and what you come up with is neighbors fighting with other neighbors. And then, of course, the conflict escalates, and you curse them, and you insult them, and you talk bad about them. So the

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is saying, No, no,

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this neighbor of yours, right. And by extension, anyone who's close to you, is the one who has the greatest strikes upon you more than a stranger, because they're close.

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Because they're close. Right? And because of their proximity, he needs to take care of them more than someone who's distant.

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So he sets a low or you send them to the extent that if he does not even feel secure, it's not that he's not secure, but he does not even feel secure from it, then there's something wrong with your email. Why is that? Because your email did not propel you to a state where you're practicing what Allah had revealed. And if you practice what Allah has revealed, your neighbor will look at you and He will say, this person will never treat me unjustly.

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I can leave the door unlocked.

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I know that he will never take anything he will never go inside and take anything that does not doesn't belong to him. I know that I can hurt him, but he will never insult me. I know that I can be bad to him, but he will not repay me with the same right behavior. So he feels completely secure with you. This is the Muslim. This is the woman who you really follows what a lot is Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had revealed meaning because you're my neighbor and the prophets of Allah. How are you Silla? You know, there's a couple of Hadees here.

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One of them is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that he realized his Salaam continued to continue to instruct me to take care of the neighbor until I thought that he's had we'll make him an air or make him inherit from me Danny's as if he is family.

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Jani, the neighbor almost became family.

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And for some of us, right, you'd actually see your neighbor more than you see some of your family members.

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So the prophets always misses so he's almost family. Right? And gibreel Elisa Lam continued to come asking the prophets A lot of you send them to tell him slums take care of your neighbors, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in another Hadith he said, You know he made it part of EMA. So because they are so close and the right is so great.

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The Cinder is committed against them is also graded.

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So what's the evidence for that?

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The sin sin committed against the neighbor, or anyone who's closest to you, is greater than the sin committed against someone who is distant and is a stranger.

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What is the evidence? When it came to the prophets of the law? Do you send them the asked him about what are the greatest things? Right?

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The third thing that he meant to mention,

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when it is near beheaded at Jericho, Comic Con, he says you commit adultery with the wife of your neighbor.

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Right? That you commit adultery with your neighbor's wife.

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So Xena, right? adultery is a major sin if at all. But when it's done, right, with

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persons, you know, wife, who is your neighbor, then you violated his right as a Muslim, right, and you've committed that sin and you violated his rights as an evil. So the sin is compounded and multiplied because of it.

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Right? So sin for instance, against and we can expand this Hadeeth you know, in two ways. First,

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a neighbor is anyone who's your neighbor, right? So sometimes, you know, you're in the grocery store, right, and you move in your car, and you're collecting grocery people in the same aisle, right people at that Checkout, right?

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Point, all of them are your neighbors in that period, their neighbors,

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neighbors, you're coming to the masjid, right for salata, Juma or waiting for a shell, whatever, right? The people who are sitting next to you are your neighbors,

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and your physical neighbors, your neighbor, when you're driving

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by person to your left and to your right to the front and to your back, our or also, what are the also neighbors. So the way that you treat them reflects their email.

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This is all, you know, these are all neighbors. Some of them stay longer than others, but all of them are neighbors. So rather than say, for instance, this person cut me off this person rod took this, you know, that was the last thing on the shelf, and he took it for me No way, I'm going to let him get to anything else or whatever, right? Instead of you know, moving with a mentality of revenge, and greed and whatever, you have to remember that the prophets of the law he was in them, he said, You're not gonna be happy man, until you're good to your neighbor. So expanded, anyone who is around you is your neighbor. And the longer you are they stay around you, the more of rights that

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they deserve,

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the more that you owe them.

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And expanded also in another way that when you think about it, so Pamela, and this is a contradiction that really most of us have, is that we're usually nicer to people on the outside than people that are closest to us. Right? So you could be in a very bad mood inside the hole. But once you step out what happens? Right?

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What happened? Are you happy, all of a sudden, right? Inside, you're screaming, right? And you're, you know, the worst mood, but when you come outside, we put on a mask. Right? I'm not saying you just go on insulting everybody, like you were doing and I'm not saying that, of course. I mean, there's there's common sense of why we do this, but why are we nicer to people on the outside versus people on the inside people who are closest to us. So, people who are closest to us deserve the most or most of our kindness and will be rewarded most when we dispense this kindness to them more so than people on the outset.

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So, when you have some kind of like a kind word or a smile or whatever, give it to everybody but especially in particular to the mother and the father and the wife and the husband and the children and the parents right and the friends and the neighbors and those who are closest to you because these are the people with the greatest right upon you.

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So, expand also that idea or concept of the neighbor that if we really have a man will be nicest and kindness to them inshallah and not worst when it comes to them. hydrocodone, hydrocodone de la, the best of you is the best to your family. Right. So the best of you needs to be with your family and inshallah that can be by extension can go and Sharla to others outside. So this is insha Allah the conclusion of the Hadith. So just to remember inshallah, that the nun on the outside cannot happen without a man on the inside. Happiness on the outside cannot happen without happiness on the inside. And if you want to reform your time, and sort of adhere to better speech, we have to change what's

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on the inside what our hearts like and dislike, and if also you want to improve our health

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and purify them. Watch out what you're saying. If it's profanity all the time vulgarity all the time, the heart will live that profanity and vulgarity. But if it's the remembrance of Allah Subhana with Allah the heart will live the decree of Allah subhana wa Tada. So, the heart is what you feed it and the tongue is the thing that instrument that is feeding it and the last thing insha Allah is remember that he man is tied to how you treat your neighbor. So, the greater your EMA the better your treatment of your neighbor and if the treatment of your neighbor is wrong, means that he man is weak. So we have to treat that. So this is inshallah the conclusion so just want to ask Are there

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any questions?

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You can ask afterwards inshallah if you have like one specific I think they just like the mafia. satanic alarm can dig a shadow and it like the answer stuff.