Channel: Ali Albarghouthi
We, as humans, are social beings who seek each other’s company and find comfort in it. But if we are not selective in whom we let be close to us, we can be hurt and betrayed. This talk emphasizes the importance of this selectivity, the dangers of bad companionship, and the criteria for selecting our close friends.
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Howdy, howdy Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Mashallah Moreno,
All praise and thanks belong to Allah, the Most High, the Merciful, we thank him, and we seek His help and aid and we ask that He forgive us. And we seek His refuge from the evil of ourselves and the sins that we commit. Indeed, whomsoever Allah guides, no one can lead us astray, and whomsoever Allah lead astray, no one can guide and ever witness that there is no one worthy of worship except Allah alone. And that met some of the law while he was in them is his slave and messenger. The best to speech is the book of Allah. And the best of guidance is the guidance of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And the words of religious matters are those that are innovative, and every
religious innovation is a big one. That ribbon ties misguidance and agreements guidance will be in hellfire.
A lot to Allah had put in us humans, the instinct to be with other people to seek companionship.
And that instinct that Allah has put in us,
brings us an advantage, a material advantage and a non material advantage,
of course, with some other disadvantages, but it is essential. If we as human beings want to survive,
want to develop, want to build civilizations, we have to seek the company of other people, we aggregate we come together, we are groups, we are nations, we are societies, that's the instinct, there are lots of panels that have put in us and that's why you don't find many of us, seeking to live solitary lives as individuals, not associated with anybody else around us that is not in our instinct. So there is great material advantage in it. But there is also an perhaps greater advantage, that is the non material advantage, because the quality of life that we live, even if we put live poor lives, but the quality of life that we live, how happy or how miserable we are,
depends to a great deal on the people who are around us.
And because this is a natural instinct and it's fundamental in our life and in our existence, you will find that Allah Subhana Allah speaks about it in the Quran.
Allah subhana wa Taala says For instance, yeah, you are living in
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of Allah subhana wa tada and be with the truthful.
It's as if it's to say, if you want to accomplish stuff of Allah subhana wa Tada, you will not be fully able to realize it if your company is not outside, if you are not in the vicinity of the truthful telco cannot be fully realized. In another area, Allah subhanho wa Taala also says, well thank you for that.
Rocky, established Allah and gives the cap and then bow
with those who are bowing. Now we can ask ourselves, why does Allah subhana wa tada say that at the end,
we can establish some out on our own we might say we can even give our charity on our own, why is it that he commands us to do this worship in a group?
And we then if we contemplate this idea, we will realize the mistake of some of us Muslims or even non Muslims, who might think that they can be religious, quite themselves as individuals, without a community around them, they can be spiritual on their own. No Allah subhanho wa Taala says here in this area, that for you to be able to establish this honor and give this a cap, you need the company of other people why is so because you could not fully realize the power any worship or any ritual on your own. It has to be in a group. You cannot protect yourself from temptation, unless you are in a group.
The messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gives you know this nice analogy.
says Allah COVID
adhere to the group who is this Gemma? The group of Muslims are on the truth on the way of the prophets of Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah given
the booming economy casia Indeed, the wolf will eat the sheep that is separated from the flock.
So we have this analogy, you have to think about this shape as a wolf, and the Muslims as a plot.
And the wolf eels monitoring and watching this flock is going to attack his hungry is going to attack one of them. Which one is he going to attack which is the weakest, which one is the most vulnerable? It's not the one that is in the middle of the flock that seek the company and the protection of a flood is the one that is standing by itself, standing alone, its weakest physically, and in our case, its weakest in
its most vulnerable.
And that is why Allah subhanho wa Taala says what cattle mount Rocky
and it needs discipline and it needs
the name of Allah subhana wa Taala to make that happen. And Allah says in Surah to get the idea that you may know very well was
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be patient, discipline yourself to be among those and with those who are praying to Allah azza wa jal in the morning and in the evening seeking his face.
Why does he say Be patient?
Because what's on the other side? What do I want to reduce Xena can hieratic dunia, what's on the other side is very attractive. Xena, hayati dooney. The beauty of this life it's called Xena because it's beautiful. It's called Xena because it's attractive, Allah made it attractive. And not all of its attraction is harmful. But it could be very harmful for those who only think about it and only desire it. So Allah says here we have two types of people and two types of societies or two types of groups. You have one for calling on their Lord disciplining themselves staying patient with it, praying to align the morning came to a light in the evening. And they were concerned their main
concern is to make Allah subhanaw taala happy. So he's saying to His Prophet sallallahu wasallam stay with them.
Even if they are poor, that's why you have to be patient, even if they don't have a lot. Even if they are serious stereotypes surrounding them. Stay with them. These are the people who are the people of Allah subhanaw taala if you look elsewhere and beyond them to this dunya your intention will start changing your heart will start thinking about other things that Allah subhanho wa Taala and what pleases Him, your mind will be distracted by the beauty by the attraction of this life and who exist on the other side
and do not obey
the one who we made heedless of our remembrance. And he follows his desire and his affairs all of his affairs are in ruin. That's the person on the other side. The opposite of the other group
who the first group, remember
Allah subhanho wa Taala morning and evening this person doesn't know a lot lies not in his life, whatever in her life, that's the alternative.
And then Who does he obey? If Allah is not in his life, the only thing that is available is his own desire, what I like and what I dislike, and that is the only thing that guides this person and because of that,
his affairs are in ruin affairs of the hereafter and appearance of dislike, or in ruin.
So, Allah Subhana Allah says, Do not be attracted by that do not obey Him, whether he commands you verbally to do something or you obey Him and examples, you look at that example and you admire it, you look at that example and say, I want to be such a person. So do not admire it. Because what will happen is that on the Day of Judgment,
the situation is going to be different.
The situation is going to get that club or that attraction is going to turn into animosity.
Allah subhanaw taala also describes that scene on the Day of Judgment
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says on the Day of Judgment, that person will be biting on his hand that is an extreme
reflection of regret and anger when you bite on your hand. It says, I wish that I've taken a path with the messenger.
Whoa to me, I wish that I did not take so and so as a close friend, the word here is used is honey.
And honey here is not just a friend, the honey Leah is the closest friend, the friend whose love has penetrated the heart. You love him immensely and he loves you immensely. He says, I wish I have not taken this person as a close friend.
And victory but the journey after the remembrance after the message of Allah has come to me. He turned me away from it. What can I say Tomlinson is a doula and the shade time will always let the child of Adam down. When the time when you need help, the shade and the followers of the sheep and we'll let the son of Adam down.
then we may take that close friend. What might he do? What might he tell us?
Allah says also in another I also given this another scene.
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so they inhabit the people are talking to each other? Do you remember so? And so? Do you remember this and that they're talking about their past life in this dunya and one of them says I used to have a Corinne a companion.
You tell me are you among those who believe
in Allah Medina, that when we die? Do you actually believe that we can after we turn into bones and dust there will be brought back to life and judged. In other sense, you might hear this today. Are you that naive? Are you that backward? Because now we seem to be more sophisticated not to believe in Allah subhanaw taala entirely that the more atheist you are, the more sophisticated and advanced you are. And if you believe in Allah, that's backward and simplistic. So that's the type of argument that is still happening today. Are you gonna believe this nonsense? That's what he was telling him.
Then the answer comes
down says What do you want to look for?
him so when he looked he saw him in the middle of Hellfire that that companion who used to bug him are you believing in this already believing in that nonsense and Allah the last day in Islam and Mohamed Salah la audio news and he says look, we found them in the middle of hellfire. At that point he realizes he says not a lie. He gets to the end he says by Allah you're about to ruin me. You're close to ruining me Well, I will no matter
if not for the favor of Allah subhanaw taala upon me that made me strong and steadfast on this religion. I would have been there with you in Hellfire if I had listened to you.
But this person
is by the name of Allah subhana wa tada lucky Bella had saved him because that club, that club is not built on.
The love of Allah subhana wa tada and his messengers of Allah, how do you send them that live in this dunya is not built on the obedience of Allah subhana wa Tada. It will turn into animosity
Because Allah says, we all made him but
he says close friends at that time will turn enemies to each other. Except those who have Taqwa.
And you can think about it, why is that? So? Why is that so? Because when they meet each other, they will find that you have asked me to do this and that on that day, you had asked me not to believe in this. When I wanted to go to the masjid when I wanted to wear this when I wanted to listen to the prophets a lot, he was telling you, what, you prevented me from it, you took me somewhere else to some other way took me to some other beliefs. And now this is your fault. That's what is gonna happen on the day of judgment as a law tells us when they exchange between the leaders and their followers. This is your fault. It's all because of you that I've listened to you that I'm going to
go to hell. And that person will turn to you and say, or to me and say it's only because of you that I'm also going to help because you listened to me, because you also supported me and what I'm asking you to do so that love that they would have in this dunya will turn into animosity
in the hereafter.
So carry on that day. He says I wish that the distance between East and West is between what a worse companion you were.
So this is how this love, if it is a love or this friendship if there is friendship that is not based on obeying Allah subhanho wa Taala. Vettel is concerned to be on the Day of Judgment.
And among also the companions, that we might have not only the physical companions that we can see humans, but we can also have the shavon also as a companion.
Allah says, woman Yeah, sure, man, you know.
It says the one who is blind to remembering Allah Subhana, WA Tada, we will send the devil to him, I shall talk to him, and he will be his companion.
And think about brothers and sisters for a moment.
If you do not have a law in your heart, if you do not have a law in your life, and if you're not have Allah subhanho wa Taala in your house, the space is empty. It's vacant, is for lease is for rent, somebody must come and occupy it. So Allah subhanho wa Taala is not there who's going to occupy that place? you're inviting the shaytan and that's why Allah says because it's a consequence to your own act and my own act, when we don't invite Allah in the chiffon is gonna come in. And what can you imagine if the shavon is your Corinne is your companion? Well, the one that Allah describes him as your I do as your enemy, you're your enemy, your finished enemy becomes your constant
companion. When you sleep and when you wake up you when you come into your house on when you leave it, what do you expect is going to happen? Allah says, we're in the home after that they sent that companion, they also do the home and disability we are supposed to do.
That's a disaster. This is the shaytan will block them from the path of Allah subhanho wa Taala. While they are thinking that they are on the right path,
that what they're doing is right and what they're doing is good. So even their compass is wrong. Even their compass no longer can guide them to the truth because they see that what they're doing is right.
And there is the influence and the whispers of the shape on the shape and that is a from Virgin and the shape and that is from the age of Milan Khurana has a new la Marina de monaka home, we've sent careens to them companions to them, and they made beautiful to them attractive to them their past sins, and the future says that they're going to commit and that is a disaster. If we have such companions and if we have such friends will take us so far away from Allah subhanho
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Then the consequence as I said will be a call I like to buy in yoga in a cupboard and machinery tiny Sorry, sorry, I wish at that moment where there is no time for regret, I wish that there is a huge distance a huge gap was there between me and you? And before brothers and sisters that huge gap or wishing for that huge gap before we wish for it on that day? We wishing for it would not tell us let us actually establish it in this life. What is established this huge gap as much gap as we can between us and between that companion and the messenger So allow us to send them gives us this beautiful analogy method when Jenny's decided he wanted what
So if you have any miscue analysis in here, the example of the good companion and the bad companion is like the example of the one who's carrying muscle. And the example of the one who's operating a furnace to melt metals now called kill. The good companion is like no one who's carrying muscle in the UK away man, I mean, who is
either he will give you some perfume or you will buy it from him, or at least you will find beautiful smell coming from him
and the bad companion in many
ways y mantenimiento he has either he will burn your clothes, or at least you will find an ugly awful smell coming from him.
So the good companions is the one who fear Allah subhana wa, tada are close to Allah, there are levels of benefits that come from them. Either you're gonna take something directly from them like a perfume, you will take it physically.
Or at least if you don't take anything from them, at least their sight, their words, their proximity will help you and benefit you. The bad companion on the other hand,
either he will burn your clothes physically harm you. Or if not, you're able to protect yourself from that harm in one way or another. At least their sights, their appearance, their words, will hurt you and harm you.
So that his brothers and sisters choose wisely. Who am I spending my time with? Where am I spending my time? Who is my friend? Who is the friend of my wife or my spouse, who are the Friends of my children, the people under your care? You are responsible for them as you are responsible for yourself
hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah.
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ally in the Quran says something also interesting about friends that could be relevant to us.
Allah says what you can do late afternoon accompany Lydia hyena illegally to study Alina Yahoo, even Luca de la. It says the prophets have a lot of you are using them. And you have to imagine him salatu salam in Mecca with all of these attempts to persuade him not to give this down why not to proceed with Islam and not to preach to people that are lies one under there is a day of judgment and that they do have to obey Allah subhana wa tada to be saved. He says, and they were about to tempt you away from what we have revealed to you so that you can fabricate something else against us other than what we have revealed. But Allah subhanho data supported him and made him strong so he
could resist all of these attempts from them. So less is that they're about to do that way than if they and if you did that,
they would have taken you as a dear friend.
If you are able and willing to compromise the message of Allah subhana wa tada that we had sent to you, you would be their defense.
And this is relevant to brothers and sisters, for people who are living as a minority. I mean, a minority by definition, is under pressure, under economic and political, especially under social pressure.
And if you add to that Muslims, under attacks, by under stereotypes, then of course, when you are processing all of these attacks, all of that stigma, you want to escape from that stigma into acceptance, from that stigma into love, into respect. So that offer of respecting that offer of love it comes associated with compromising the message of Islam, you have to ask Allah subhanho wa Taala. Who do you want to be your friends? And why do you want that acceptance from and what do you want that perspective from?
The prophets of life I was telling his prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, if not for us, they would have convinced you to do it. We have to be vigilant about ourselves, especially especially living under pressure, social pressure. By that do we want respect? And do we want acceptance in exchange for changing the message of Islam?
Or can we hold on to it as he did so a lot of you it was said that even if we face some discrimination, even if we face some hostility, but in the end, pleasing Allah subhana wa Tada.
More than pleasing people.
The messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam emphasized to me now,
I do not have a companion, except a moment a person who has email. And don't let anyone eat your food except the one who has taqwa.
This is not a call from the prophets of Allah audio, it was set up for us to be completely insular to live as an island. That's not it. But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam is saying be selective. Who is your side?
Who is your companion who is your friend? Who do you spend a lot of your time with? Who is influencing you who is talking to you about this and about that, that person is going to influence you, whether you know it or not, whether you want it or not, and marijuana Dini holiday,
the person will follow the habits, the religion, the path of his friend.
as some have said, if you want to tell you if you want me to tell you who you are, tell me who your friends are.
Because we might think that we are this and that, but in reality, look at your friends, they define you, otherwise, they would not be your friends, you will not be attracted to them, they will not be attracted to you. There's similarity between the two.
So ask yourself, who is this person that you're spending most of your time with? Or who is this person or persons that are your kids are spending most of their time with? Your families spending most of their time with? The Prophet says if they do not have a man, do not seek them?
As a constant companion, who is this person who's eating your food constantly in your house, always in your house? Who is this person? Does he or she have
we not talking about the occasional meal who is the person who's always around you as they come to dinner. And if not,
then think again.
Then think again. And we might be in a place
in a locality in a geography in a place of work. We might say to ourselves, we don't have friends, I cannot find Muslim friends.
I don't have good friends around me.
And if that is the case, first of all, pray to Allah subhana wa Taala that loud grant you such as support. Before complaining about it, pray to Allah subhanho wa Taala Moosa as we said before moosari Solomon, he wanted support he prayed to Allah Subhana Allah Allah gave him his brother how to
Allah subhanho wa Taala he said,
he will build more meaning are supported the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with his victory and with the believers, it will not be possible for the prophets of Allah and he was in them to spread this Islam without companion to Mohammed around him. So he supported and he needed support Allah supported him. So this support comes from Allah subhanho wa Taala. So if you don't have this friend, I know a lot of us might complain about that. I don't have this person around me that I can talk to confide in. You know, that can be a good influence, pray to Allah that Allah will give you such a person. And then if you are in a place, that you can move towards such a person or such a
community, go ahead and move if that is a possibility, go ahead and move and that would constitute a Hydra for the sake of Allah Subhana. Without even if you were moving few blocks, even few blocks, but if that is for Allah subhanho wa Taala that is eternal, reward you for. So make this hidden record Allah if it is going to be better for you and your for your family.
And then we can also seek extra means of finding that support whether it's online if there are good brothers that are available or sisters online, that you can communicate with that can find support with until Allah Subhana Allah gives you something that is immediately around you. But if you seek it from Allah and you're truthful, Allah subhanho wa Taala will give you an exit Allah subhana wa Taala will support you with what you need to so that you can reach him.
So remember this message from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa you send them and what Allah subhana wa tada has said, and remember brothers and sisters, that not only are you responsible for your own self
kulu camera in Baku, you're responsible for everybody who's under your authority. Sisters, you are responsible for everybody who's under your authority. Not only am I going to choose my friend, you have to choose and be careful about who are your kids friends, who are your children's friends, who do they associate with? What are they teaching them? Can you teach them or can you actually direct them so that they will be able to choose the best of friends and avoid the evil influence the bad influence that is around them. You have to strive towards that brothers and sisters.
So we ask Allah subhana wa tada to bless us with the good companions in this life.
And in the hereafter. Allah we ask that you bless us with good companions in this life and in the Hereafter. Allah we ask that you bless us and our families and all the Muslims with good companions in this life and in the Hereafter. You Allah, we seek your refuge from evil companionship. Allah we seek your refuge from evil companionship, your love, we seek your refuge from evil companionship, while we ask you that you make us of those who love you and those whom you love. While we ask you to make us of those who love you and those whom you love. Allah we ask you to make us of those who love you and those whom you love, and make us of those who love your messengers Allah Allah you are more
than any other human and follow Him solo law he was more than any other human although we asked you that you strengthen a man in our hearts he Allah renew a man in our hearts. He Allah renew Eman in our hearts. By Allah protect us from all evil. While we ask you for all the good and we seek your refuge from all evil. We are alone we asked you that you bless all the Muslims and that you forgive their sins. All we ask you that you protect all Muslims for every harm. You Allah protect all Muslims from every fitna. Your law protects Muslims from every fitna, you ally united the Muslims against their enemies, you ally unite the Muslims against their enemies. Allah united them upon your
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