Channel: Alaa Elsayed
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So I don't have to introduce if Allah. Allah is not an international speaker. He's not a guest. He's part of the you my family for a very long time
embarrassed to say that he's a guest because it's part of the family. And I'm sure you know very well he's come to the
house so delighted to have him with us here with us is our tomorrow at my conference. And Allah will talk about a beautiful topic. It's called the Wonder Woman, like I'm sure
it will be talking about the woman in sha Allah and
enjoy the show.
Okay, Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah. salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah ghetto My dear sister Islam and we are blessed to bless the UAE for having the sports live, we have a lot to share these few words with you.
First, we're going to do the three tells explanation that means the tell them what you're going to tell them, tell them and tell them what you told them that's called the three tails. So basically, I'll be telling you what we're going to be talking about, then we'll talk about it then I will talk about what we talked about in a form of a question and answers hence we have the candy that you see the low calorie candy Mashallah. So we will be talking about today is the different hats you will have in different situations and positions, especially you being
married woman, mother, child, wife, career woman, and so on and so forth. Hence the topic Actually, I did not know there was a movie called Wonder Woman. Well, I had no idea. I swear, but only when the brother think May Allah bless him.
Send me back, that you know that that you know that emoji the face was Wonder Woman shake and uniform and everything, because I had no idea. So I found that later, that was actually a movie called Wonder Woman. That's not what I meant. I meant you as a Wonder Woman really. So let me explain that to you. inshallah.
Just in case you don't know who you are of the
allowance of Hannah Angela mentioned you in or and in so many ways. As a matter of fact, there's one whole chapter as you know, gold and women and there is no chapter surah in the Quran called original men.
Not only that, you are the best thing in life,
the miracle of life,
the pleasure of life, the treasure of life, the provision of life, the protection of life, the measuring stick of men, and so much more, the best money is spent upon you. Even the rights that you have is way more than we do, you are raised three times higher than we are, and so on and so forth. If you look into any other religion on the face of the earth, you will never find out how much a religion an honors woman than Islam and that's one of the reasons you will find out more women embrace Islam than men. The statistics show actually there's four women to every man. Now I'm not gonna touch that one because I'll just, you know, move on when I talk to the brothers a different
story. But right now I'd like to leave here in one piece you understand.
And since this is live stream My wife is watching somehow. I know I know she is.
So now let's go to the explanation of what I just posed upon you.
I'll explain first what the attributes are. Then I will talk about the different hats that you wear throughout your life. And when you are a wonder woman will wonder woman not the Bollywood or the Hollywood Wonder Woman.
So let me start from the beginning. how Allah Subhana Allah Viola told us men that you are the miracle of life and actually I'll give you the proof of everything I say. Which is not in the Hadith or the Quran. Don't listen to me. So allows of Hana gel of your SS woman. T and Haleakala come in and forsaken as wotja I actually use this when I perform nikka perform conducted wedding ceremony. I actually use these some of the terminology but explain but in the format that we're going to talk about today. You'll understand how comprehensive way that you really are.
When the law says women i t i l English, Stickley, the Arabic language means the more it just means a miracle.
So Allah says women amongst meaning that appropriately amongst his signs amongst this miracle, and holla Paula comes is talking to us men, to make sure that we never take women for granted. So he called you a miracle and he said this miracle was created for you. That means is telling men if you don't
Appreciate the miracle of given to you because it's a gift to the scholars say, now if you don't appreciate it that will be taken away from you.
So it says Haleakala comm we're from your law. This is min and fusi come from thyself. That means the scholars say if a man harms his wife, as if he's harming himself
Holla Holla, comin and fujichrome as well as your spouse's soul mates. Why? It's called lead lemonade later school new Ella. She is your source of peace and tranquility. That's why I say you are the peace and tranquility in our lives. So Allah says, Lita, schooner Ella, she's your source of peace and tranquility. And this is what your alibi nakoma what Rama and made between the two of you Mama, the Arabic terminology of Mahatma is actually different Than muhabba Maha by means love. But the love did not use the word muhabba here because using the word muda is much more than love. Active gentle, compassionate forbearing love
and he says the Rama Mercy is one for you one for the brothers. That's one opinion. The mother comes from you. That means the man is supposed to run to you not run away from you.
We'll talk about that a little bit later and Yolanda different hats okay. And Rama comes from the man
meaning that he has to be like Robin Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in dealing with you because he was Ramadan al al Ameen. Omar sanaka illa Ramadan, Al amin, we have not Santi except to be mercy for all of creation. So when I talk to the brothers, I will talk to them in a different category. But when I'm talking to you, now, I will ask about your duties. You understand this differently, but when I talk to the brothers telling us what to do, but I don't want to arm you up, because after this, I will get angry emails from the brothers. What? After you lecture dude, they're coming with a you got to do 1234 and I'm gonna I'd like to come back to Australia, you know? Yeah.
So when that's the case, one opinion is the mod from you Rama from the brother. The second opinion is the beginning of the relationship. You have to have my water as your newly wood and so on. That means your
foundation has to be strong that means you're actually implementing in investment in the beginning of the relationship when you love you. As you grow old together. You have to have Rama because you know you get on each other's nerves.
You have to have Rama as you grow old together. What What is that sound? You know that breathing in and out? What is that what is different when you grow together? So if you're if you're married, you understand and if you've been married for a long time, you'll understand that we go through ups and downs, which is fine, normal inshallah. So that's the first one. When Allah Subhana Allah Viola mentioned that you are the source of it, because he says Nyssa has to let go My wife is a beautiful tilth.
The source of provisions itself is like a beautiful tree. You are the one that gives a loves mouth Allah gives us through you, the beautiful children, the one that will actually make dua for us after we're long gone after a long healthy righteous life. This is the investment and by the way that it says that the best money is spent as the money is spent for your family. So if you noticed that really even including the intimate relationships is rewarded as a sidecar. So you'll see that when the brothers when I talk to him when you get married, there's too many good things when you get married. So I tell them you have a choice either get married or get or fast and I'm pretty sure that
brothers don't use fasting very often.
I can't do a two week I can't fast Okay, we'll get married dude.
Okay, so when we talk about the miracle that you are and best thing in life, let me give you the proof of that just to make sure that you understand that this is nothing out of context acquaintance or ninjalah. So the best thing in life is in another area. The eye is a lot better at you know dounia Hazara wolfville karate hustler. joaquina. So when Allah Subhana Allah, Allah talks about, Oh Allah grant is the best in life and the best in the Hereafter, the scholars will tell you that the best thing in life is a righteous wife.
So please understand also that it is a near man why because even in the Hadith when prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and innovations Katara Golan dounia mata wa hieromartyr dunya as though
life is a mere pleasure and the best pleasure in life is the righteous wife and kinsmen canoes are dunia among the treasures of life is a righteous wife. So please understand when we're talking about you and the hats that you're a wife, don't be little that I don't want you to think what don't think in the mentality of you know what I am an inferior and not at all. I already told you
That URI is three times higher than us.
So we are you inferior of t, if you go to Surah 33, and the numbers you'll find out in them was even a Muslim, I don't mean
that Allah subhanaw taala puts you equal in every act of worship. And if you even go to Elliot amaranth, so don't ever belittle yourself, you know why? Because you are the daughter of Khadija
You are the daughter of
You are the daughter of faulting,
your daughter of nusseibeh and so on and so forth, the best woman that ever created. So if you think of what you need, you should be walking prouds. Walking around know the purpose that you are here for, and the noble cause that you're after. So I'm not looking for superficial reasons that you're here, or what's your measuring stick is according to your with all due respect to your measurements. I talked about this before. And this is I don't want you to think my dear sister, that is your worth is what you look like.
or the higher with all due respect, again, the higher the certain things, the higher the raise, or whatever you wear is exactly what you do. I want you to think that you're independent, I don't want anybody else around the world to tell you what to do what not to do. Because you're only a slave to a loss of Hannah Angelica that means you are free to any other human beings, including those people who want you to be led to go on the straight path to that wrong side. They will tell you what to wear, what not to wear, what to do, what not to do, what is acceptable, what is not acceptable, what is making you successful, making successful, what is desirable, what is not desirable, and I want
you to get off that because that's exactly what allows your left wants to do Lika you're often the fella you then so you will be known as this noble woman. So you will not be harmed because I'm not that type of woman. I have a noble cause I have a reason I know why I was created. I know why I was going and that's one of the reasons I will be talking about this in details tomorrow inshallah.
So when you think about yourself of the amazing wildlife
Omen, how can turn the whole family around? How is it with very little things you do wonders?
that the threshold of pain, you understand that if men were to give birth, life would finish as we know.
Because we get a bit of cold and go Mommy, I want my mommy. Yeah.
Yeah, I know.
So you you see death to give life span a lot. You go hungry to feed you go thirsty to quench the thirst. you devote your whole life to make who we are. You build nations.
Not just buildings. It's amazing. We're lucky what you do. So I never want you to think ever. That you're just a woman. No, you are a miracle. Yes. So when you walk around, I don't want you to start either you don't. Don't mess with me. I need don't go to your husband good.
When you get to be like me, then we can talk but right now you're gonna have to make an appointment.
No, but I'll tell you in the different ads. Okay. So we talked about the best thing in life, the pleasure in life, the treasure of life, the miracle of life, the protection of life. Why
the biggest fitna and I can tell you that the biggest fitna of of men is whom?
According to the Quran, and Sunnah. Allah Subhana. Allah says zero and that's hogwash. So what I mean is
this not preserve Allah, Allah who told us that the lower meant of life is that word that the best the strongest is woman. So that's why when I tell you, my dear sister, you could be a leader of good or when you had the ability other side, you could be an arrow of shaitan or a slave of a rock, man as soldier. Yes. So that's what the mentality we're here to get it to get better. The only thing I really want before I go any further is to
ask for favor.
When I teach courses, and I do you know, I asked the participants really like the the Six Sigma right as the end user. So I've given you the first tell, let me now hear you out. Because I know the attention span is 20 minutes. So if I talk for whatever, I'll see steam coming out your hair and I started getting a puppy look.
Did he say some as I hear noises and the mouth is moving by I have no clue what they're talking about, man. Okay, so let me hear you out. Sisters. Let me hear you out. What were you expecting from
This lecture, and don't tell me just to get away from my husband.
Let him take care of these lovely lovely
Good for you get a boost of you find out who you are amazing. That's really the purpose of this. Anything else that you were expecting from this My dear sisters?
to, to meet me.
I'd like to meet that guy the way. I'm just a poor guy. Well, I have TV. I love this. honor and pleasure. Thank you for having me.
Good for you.
You know what? I wasn't going to talk about it. But I will talk about an ex. It's on YouTube. I talked about it. I think it was a conference in the UK, but Muslim women role in the West, something like that. You can hear the whole glitcher there, but I will address it in July. But thank you for letting me know and sharing that with you, john. Any other
reason that you're here, my dear sister?
I'm sorry. seek knowledge? Awesome. May Allah reward you for that intention of the
lies that we're all learning or loyalty is very good. Anything else? Okay. Yes, my users.
Right. Just in case you don't hear it on a live stream, the sister is saying to remind us of what we do on a daily basis for our lives for the children, for our spouses and so on. really have the You are a world in one person. So panela Yeah, indeed.
Yeah, well, I'll tell you the reward in the end, because as a human being, you need to do things for a reason, right? Everybody does something for a reason. So I want you to give you something in this life, not not just once again. And what's waiting for you? Laughter Yes, that's more likely. That's the carrot that we're after. So now my turn. I only asked for one thing. I haven't changed it yet. No matter where I go. I asked for one thing.
I asked for something starts with a c.
See? Sorry. So this eat coffee.
I actually don't drink coffee or tea. But thank you for asking.
I'm sorry. What was the question? Why is cereal much better with milk?
That is a question to be are.
Yeah, the question is what I heard what you're looking for. I heard you loud and clear mela. So I'll give us the ability to be able to address it. Now. I'm asking what do you think I look for I only asked for one thing. So only asked for when you come to these doors. You leave these doors?
Good. So I asked for change. I don't mean like change give me a Megan's paradigm.
I mean, when you hear something, my dear sister that I tell you that Allah subhanaw taala said that in the Quran and Prophet Mohammed Salah wa sallam said that in the Sunnah. I want you to say some and now we listen and obey. Yeah, that's the attitude of a true believing woman. According to in this sort of Baccarat. Carlos, Amina wattana, because a lot of the believers and that's why when you hear a command or request or forbidden something that is being prohibited, you will find Yeah, you are Latina. Emmanuella doesn't talk to you or Latina. slomo Oh, yeah, you're Latina. Yeah, Jonas Corrado talks to a commander of revision is all you who believe he doesn't talk to you all Muslims.
It doesn't say that. It doesn't say Oh, he means all mankind is talking to believers so if you believe you're going to say something that was not the other way around call and say convinced me and what's the logic not yet after which 40 after perform Hajj after getting married and so on so forth. That's the only thing I asked for it. So the reason really I want to invest is you know what, when you do something that this post of Allah shares with you because I get this other tattoo, I get the reward. And that's all I'm I'm hoping that maybe this person Allah Allah uses to guide one person because that he says, the idea loving if God Almighty uses you to guide one person is better
than harmonium the best of the treasures on this earth. Hamada Nam read camels because it was the best thing that they had at the time. Okay, so now we laid the foundation.
Let's go to work. Are you ready?
No, you didn't know you didn't. The gloves are off now. Oh, boy. I am in trouble already. I feel the heat.
Okay, let's put on different hats. Are you ready sisters, is put on different hats.
Okay, let's take it from the beginning. When you were young.
Let's take from that lifespan upwards.
As a hack that euro,
a daughter now, so I'm talking to the daughters now I'm some of us.
May Allah bless that we still have our parents, hopefully that you can take advantage of this. So the first hat will tell you as a daughter, why?
Because it attaches to other hats. They're linked.
But the most important one is actually the foundation because the rest of the hats will be piled on.
You see, as a child, as a daughter, your own children will narrate your story with your parents.
So when I talk about the different hat as a mother, you will find out they have a lot in common.
Yeah, because as the daughter when you put this hat on as a doctor, yes, you'll find out as you do will be done unto you.
It says the narration says the same thing. It says that be good to your parents. Your children will be good to you. I usually get a note to slow down
as soon as the note comes in, that means I'm speaking too loud or too fast. And I'm trying hard. No Okay, because I have a little tummy ache.
The hour complaining already I already told you men are just big babies.
Smiling my mark
it's a true story. I did actually I did this in the conference the brother freaked out
he thought I blew the speaker no no okay no problems with it does have repercussions a bit Charla you. Can you hear me? Okay, sisters. Okay. All right.
So the first hat as a daughter, I'm just going to take you through a little bit of a journey, I'm not going to go into details. I'm just going to give you a heads then we can open the floor for discussion after because I want to address some of the concerns that the sisters brought forth in Sharla. So the first hat as a daughter, you understand now
that you will not understand what the mother feels like. Until you have your own? Yes, no matter how much I can tell you that they go through this. And he goes through that and how much they love you and they don't want to, you know, mess your life around and do your enemies. You know what their generation gap may understand what the heck I'm talking about, you know what, they don't speak my language. I don't speak in the language of the sentences anymore. Not even words because now your children speak in the language of what letters? Yes, and they will tell you some letters that you have no idea what what they're talking about. And we be laughing all the way through it too. And
they have different emojis different texting methodology and and different accounts and, and and Okay, so you will know what I'm talking about when you have your own children. But since you're not there yet, some of you are not there yet. So let's take you there. Okay.
So a hat as a daughter, a hat as a daughter.
There was a story
about a daughter that looked after her mother ailing mother. And then the ration says that there was an invading army.
The invading army came and the mother the ailing mother was living with her daughter. So as soon as the daughter heard that the army is going to invade,
she carried her mother on her back.
And it was the desert heat, hot sun.
bare feet, she had no chance. She had to rush to get her mother to the safety zone away from the army that has come in to invade them. The daughter got tired to carry her mother on her back. She turned her mother around, carried her
on her stomach. She hasn't forgotten that her mother carried her in her stomach for nine months.
And she got tired again. She couldn't carry her mother. She placed her mother's feet up on her own feet so her mother's feet will not touch the hot desert sand till they get away to the safety zone of the army where her mother was safe. When Novation says Allah Allah Subhana Allah Allah forgive the sins of that daughter because what she did were a mother.
So as a daughter, my dear sister,
how much do you think your parents are giving you a hard time?
It's a rhetorical question. I don't want to open a can of worms here. Well, let me tell you.
Okay, let me give you one. cool one. I will summarize this whole thing. We'll put it to bed and job
We're in Jeddah, Dhaka, Allah and Tisha cabbie Malay silica be here in Fela toto Masahiko Macedonia mava which means, and if they strive, they do their best to make you commit schicke and activa, ascribing partners on to a lot of this belief that will take you out of Islam.
And they're doing their best. Can you please raise your hand if your parents are actually doing their best to get you to become a disbeliever?
I'm not talking to converts. I'm just talking to under normal circumstances. And by the way, Converse are not off the hook either. Yes. Yes, I'll tell you why.
So if your parents are not doing their best to get you out of the straight path, then listen to the other ads in the sharika Laval manavi M, Alice's the worst act of oppression you can do against yourself is to ascribe partners on to God Almighty. Okay, let me give you another idea to tell you why they're in common. So I'll use this word Why? Because alongi in LA ha la young Pharaoh a usual aka B he was doing a dedicati militia which means on judgment day in that okie indeed, certainty, Burley Allah will never forgive the act of Schick to ascribe partners on God unto God Almighty to say there is no god to sit somebody else's God, other deity other than God is God all that is called
shook. on judgment day, God Almighty will forgive all sins, all sins are forgiven, except one sin.
That is the only thing that God Almighty will not forgive on judgment day. And that's what I'm trying to tell you, God Almighty use the same common denominator of the same word. And he's telling you, even if your parents asked you to do that in a strong, strongest way possible. He says don't obey them in that but what did you say? Well out and even if they're doing that was Sahih Houma, dunia you know that means accompany it. Dunya, meaning as long as they're alive in this life. you accompany them you spend time with them. meroofer do righteous deeds, what is known to be good as long as they're alive? Did I see anymore? Or did I just rest my case on this one? Okay, so if your
parents don't even come close to that as a hat as a dear daughter,
please hold on to that hat because it will help you for the next one.
So, one division of the lab Norma de la norma
Amanda was scaring his mother on his back.
He says couldn't doula have a role model I was her mode of transportation. I carried her on my back when she performed Hajj.
I cleaned her I bathed there. I feed her I fed her I changed her I've done everything that she used to do for me. She was I paid my dues. I paid my debt to my mother. I believe Norma says la la de la when
you have not paid your dues yet not even with one labor pain she had to endure to give you birth is How come? He said he said to him because can tough alma kakula her daughter Mandela Kanhaiya want to fall markkula her daughter Mandela Hellmuth, thanks so so
is this used to do everything that you're doing for her right now? And she was hoping that you would live. But you're doing everything that you're doing to her right now. But you're hoping that you would die? They're not the same.
Let me give you the clincher. Now, for this hat. Just in case you're wondering, where's the carrot man?
Well, another innovation says that if your parents go to sleep, and they are angry because of you are cry because of you. If you go to sleep, and they go to sleep, and they're angry because of you are crying because of you, if you die that night, there's one or two gates of Hellfire waiting for you if you die that night.
And the opposite is true. If your parents go to sleep happy or smiling because of you, and if you die that night, there's one or two gates of heaven waiting for you.
So whatever you do as a daughter of the Don't ever let your parents go to sleep, angry with you.
That's the first hat. Are you ready for the second hat? Okay.
You grow in now?
Yes, yes, yes.
Yes, you have a husband now, dad.
I usually don't do politics, but you know what, since we're talking about husbands now
Okay, so you've been waiting for this guy
coming on the white horse
and slow motion
Yeah, I know I know the hairs flat. I remember when I used to have hair yeah a
long long time ago now and you know the six pack and coming in, you know thing
Yeah, you know what you guys don't watch movies I'm so proud, Masha Allah that is amazing.
now I'm just gonna tell you as a wife now to prepare you already for this hat. Cool. And I'll give you the haircut again in the end inshallah, as we agreed, nobody works for free.
So, you have a choice to get this Fabio guy. Yes.
Is all this I haven't been I've been watching this a long time. I don't know who's hot right now.
George Clooney, who
are Dugan wow are the goddess cool? I just gave him Turkey. Well, I didn't know he was
I love the guy. I mean, my love protected me.
Okay, that's cool. Whatever it is that you're thinking Mashallah, you know me I love grant you that in this life and hereafter inshallah.
Let me prepare you for this hat.
because let me tell you why. Because you're not going to get that guy.
You're gonna get a guy that looks like me with a beard. How are you doing?
Yeah, you're not gonna get that, you know, groom q guy, you know? You may be knocking on the door, you know? Yeah. So I'm gonna give you the four. Yes, the four you look for.
Okay, there are four things you look for in a man to get that hat on in the right size? Of course, it's Swiss bank account, private jet, private yacht and the Mercedes Benz. No, you're right.
There are two in the car and in doing this and
doing the quiet nobody said. Yeah, but is that just in the height of Mr. COVID? I mean,
oh, my father hire him because the best of those who have been hired is strong and trustworthy. And I'm going to tell you why jhala in as soon probably Mohammed Salah in Jericho, Mata Dona Judo, I actually this is part of a course.
But since we're compiling the hats, I'm just taking a bit of everything, hopefully presenting to you in a nutshell.
So the Hadith says while he was alive God, Father Russia
shisha, hookah or Gila
dragon Lebanese community and Masha Allah Nautica. Okay, there are four things we said to listen to in the Quran we call and we said Korean amines, strong, untrustworthy. I'm gonna explain why they're together. And the second one is Dean, and Hulk and I put hola condemned because there is another innovation that has
just arrived, which means religious background, and moral character. Okay, so these are the four things you're supposed to look for. In a husband before you put on that hat. You better make sure you do your homework. Yes, please.
These guys are getting cold feet. It's very difficult to get one of those boys. You know what, I'll just take anything that comes my way? Well, it's okay. You can you know, mira Mottola says he will be asking you will be sinful If you say no to the man that I just mentioned. Yes. If he has these things, and you say no to him, you will be sinful on judgment day if you don't get married, if you after this. Yes. I don't want to scare you off. But I'm just saying, yes, if this man has these four, then we're Enki who I am, I mean, come because the command comes from Allah.
Yes, marry the single amongst you. And then the command comes from azula. In j a commercial conditional, if a man comes to knock on your door
that has these two Thank you fat people right away, and a command verb saying marry them. In lambda Fallujah confit not all of a sudden fall out of the movie. If you don't do that it will be transgression upon the face of the earth. And I say sadaqa Rasulullah I say Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam May peace be upon him. has spoken the truth. Yes. Because we wait for wait for Mr. Mr. Right, Mr. Handsome, Mr. Genius. Mr. kinesiology Mr. CP whatever CEO Mr. Mr. Mr. Whatever, you gotta get that guy. You're not gonna get the guy. I mean, this is a joke that was said by a woman. Let me share it with you. It says there was a building, right? I'm not sure if you heard it or not.
It's online. This is the first first floor said you know what? There's a man that wants to get married. So a woman flocked you know want to make
Get married with no problems. And the second floor, Amanda's rich. Go to second floor. Amanda is rich and good looking man good. Yeah, why not? deserve it? I'm worth it. It sounds like commercial. I know that's, you know, I go to this man good looking rich has a job. What has a job glued? On top of that? Yes. And the other one is sensitive, sensitive. Because I know all the sensitive guys are just, there's just so happy.
Not a good combination.
And, and, and and tell the goes to floor 2000 whatever. Okay. And it's the penthouse. You go to the penthouse this is this is only a test this floor was made to prove that women will not be satisfied, they will always look for something there that is not there.
That's the woman saying this don't shoot.
Okay, so men, they went through the same thing.
Again, this is a you have to with all due respect.
I want to put it in a way that is, you know, understand.
This is where I start blushing a little bit. You know, you may see different shades of red, but you know, okay.
Yeah. All righty, then I am really starting to sweat. It's true.
Okay, so we'll just move on.
Okay, so you know what I was going to talk about so Why talk about it, you know, just
so they're building is a woman once likes certain things. And apparently, there's, they didn't go to anything above that. Above and Beyond that, that was basically minimum requirement for men and didn't know for anything else. You have no idea what I'm talking about. Good because I cannot articulate what I'm going to talk about because I feel very lonely.
Already then. So moving on, with the husband.
So I know to myself, don't talk about this stuff when you're alone with women.
I can Don't worry. I can do this. I can do this. I can get it back. Compose yourself. Now. Don't lose it. Dude. Hang in there. Okay, so we'll talk what did we talk about? What exactly do we talk about? I was the first Oh, yes, I got it. Boy. I got it.
That's the 40 look for very good. So why are these?
Listen If I start talking, if I start laughing? I'm gonna lose it. I mean, this the whole lecture, I'm gonna be just laughing Okay, so
I swear I don't do drugs. Okay, I just want to show
I want my mommy.
That's a great idea.
Great idea of the Mashallah.
To be continued.
That was a great lecture.
Okay, 212 the first two was Coleen amine and why are they together from the Quran? So you'll find out that the scholars will tell you that Korean means strong and trustworthy. For the simple reason is that if the strength doesn't come with that trustworthiness, the man will misuse and abuse his power over you. And that's why allows a guy that says coffee and I mean, strong and trustworthy. Yes. So if the man my sisters, and I don't want you to go look for a brother gold, I mean, that's an easy way out. Strong. Yeah, getting strong is is one of the things that scholars is not just you know, the one that benches 300 and squat, 700 nose strong in every aspect of life. intellectually,
financially, physically, mentally, every aspect of academically at least the compatibility clause has to be there. And then I mean, is trustworthy. What does that mean? That brother should be a mean when he sees you, my dear sister on the wrong path. For example, if he comes home at night,
and it's cold winter, I can see cold winter here in Sydney. The brother was telling me Sydney cold old gets down to zero Chicago. Whoo, zero.
Man, I live in Ghana 41 years. I've been to places where they got minus 58. Well, I don't think I'm gonna go there. They invited me to go once. I'm never going back in the winter.
Yeah, so you smile there. You didn't just fall off your lips freeze. And that's it. You have a permanent smile on your face.
Yeah. So the mean is trustworthy. If pretend that this is a cold winter and the door the windows open and you're freezing to death, will your husband not at least close the door of tea? That's an amine. Yes. Could you imagine sees you on the wrong path doing something wrong? You should close that and be protecting you. Because number one I tell the brothers is Yeah, you're Latina Monaco and fusuma Leonardo, da da, da da. Oh, you believe protect yourself and your family from the hellfire. And that's what I tell the brothers you have to be I mean, you put your hand in her parent her father's hand is I'll take care of her and that's the number the strongest oath he would ever take.
Now, I'm going to tell I'm not going to tell you that but that's when I tell the brothers he has to have the mean. You have to be mean.
Okay, so that's this reason they're two together the other two together, my dear sister is that Harlequin Dean hollandia is the reason that they're together because if you act of worship does not make you a better human being as a character. That means your act of worship your ibadah is actually nullified, not nullified. Though love not accepted but you didn't get the fruit of it. For example,
God Almighty and appliances
in the Select a tendon and fascia it will Moncure which means your Salah will ward off evil that means that the reason for you praying is you become a better human being. It keeps you in line.
You're fasting you learn taqwa. Again, this is one hour lecture but I'm just again give you a hitter's. So you're fasting you're all done. You learn what to be conscious of alone. When you're all alone. And using your arms It teaches you to become generous. Oh, that's luck, your your Ramadan, your Hajj, TG, patience, and all of not quarrel and so on. So every act of worship accordingly, it teaches you to become a good human being. And that's why prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, hydrocodone, hydrocodone completely.
The best of you, man, the pastor's wife. Why? Because you can. You can be like Abu Bakr sadaqa della Han in the masjid, but at home with the wife, you can be like a Buddha. You understand? So the one who knows you a lot as the one that is your measuring stick and that's why I told you, you are our measuring stick of how good we are.
And the reason Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam put his eggs in one basket, he actually said that the best of human. He didn't see us a woman, a woman who was a Sufi, no act of worship. He says the best of you men, the best is wise because he knows that you are the measuring stick for us that you know the character. And the reason for that is in the Hereafter is in
Aqaba komedia human kiama has Sunoco masaka is the most beloved to my heart and closest to me in the hereafter. He didn't say that I didn't say the one that fast and praise and does every act of worship that we're commanded to do as Muslims, but it says the best of you and character. Yes. So my dear sister before you put on that hat, please. I beg you do your homework. Okay.
Now once you get that hat on my dear sister,
I'm going to give you some good news.
Because I know some of you hate that.
Go shave. I don't want to be with him. Jani Alice, when I tell the sister Listen, he's gonna be really good looking and gender. Well, I don't want to be with him and gender. Law. How will
you want to hear the news? You will not be Have you won't have to be with him in general, if you don't want to be. Did you know that? Hey.
Good, Mashallah. Yes, I hear you a lot of good.
Okay. You see that narration says that if you don't want to be with your husband on Monday, but he wants you to be with Him. God Almighty will not reject a command or a request from him or are you that means Allah will make a copy of exact copy of you will give it to him, he will think that it's you, but it won't be you.
And you will be free to get that Oregon or George Clooney or
Proof lahoma shall win if he had won. Anything you wish for you will get and we have more to be able to see the magnificent festival last month. Yes. Thank you. There you go. Now, why am I talking to you about this one of the
because I want you to be a winner and I believe me, this is the most important of all. Okay, I'll tell you why. I'll tell you why.
Who wants to be a winner? We all do, right? We all do. Nobody wants to be a loser. Okay, so what's the definition of a winner in the foreign while the three types, but the one I'm after right now is fenzi hana. Now, what he lagenda us, those who were
protected from the Hellfire and granted permission to enter agenda as the ultimate triumph. Okay, so my job
is to give you two keys back
Yet a master key that will close the gates of Hellfire and open the gates of heaven. Are you ready for the gates? Okay, good.
Now before I asked you to listen to sports live a lot lately paved the path I already gave you an introduction earlier on. Okay, so yeah, you're letting me know it follows by a commander request right? Or you believe so Allah starts the AI with the same thing.
Now what I said, I said this in a different country in a different city, man, I got some heat, serious heat from the sisters, because they were very professional, you know, white collar very much into the career and I understand understanding moment. So actually had to stop the course and go back into faith articles of faith to be able to understand why I'm telling them that so God Almighty says, Yeah, you already know man. Oh, remember, he didn't see you and us Muslims, or Muslims or human beings? No, it's not going to believers. That's it. So is it up to your own law? just obey God Almighty the word of your own every means will be good. You know, I'm going to with that already. I
can see the change in your faces.
I actually one of the sisters in Australia when I did this course, you told me if you want obedience by a dog. Well, that's a true story.
Yeah. So God Almighty says, Allah obey God Almighty. Are you with me so far? Then we'll have to assume the word is repeated again. What here often by and meaning and, and to clarify how to write what's called elfenbein? Well, one letter. Well, I'll tell you soon, and the word of the euro is repeated and obey the messenger. But when it came to your only your guardians, what the government you say, were only m remain calm. If it's Trump tilam we'll just we'll be back with him shortly inshallah.
So, God Almighty says, obey God Almighty obey the messenger when it came to your guardians, he says, and the guardians are, repeat, obey God, obey God Almighty obey the messenger, and the guardians, which means the guardians, including your husband, or your father or whoever is responsible for you. You know what? It says? That means obey, obey and which means the obedience of the Guardians has to be no obedience of God Almighty and the messenger. Are you happy now?
Good, can I?
Okay, very good.
So, if your husband asked you for something that is an obedience of God Almighty and the messenger of the you will be determined obedience of Allah and His messenger. That's simple. Now if your husband tells you to do something Haram, unlawful or illegal, or against the plan and sooner you're going to be obedient to Him, so you're absolutely right, because that will go against the tradition. That Prophet Mohammed Salah mentioned to us the Hadith says that Atilla must look female says very good Mashallah. There's no obedience of the creation no matter who they are. And the disobedience of the Creator. Cool. Are we good so far? Fantastic. Now let me give you the I'm gonna scare you a
little bit so I'm going to throw a Bollywood curve at you a scary little bit then give you the good news in the end. That's it we agreed already carrots. Alright. So Prophet Mohammed Salah is lm he said
yeah, Masha, nessa
Omen, folks, why do I see most of you going to Hellfire before you freak out? It is true. There are more women than men and now fire but it's also true. There are more women than men in heaven.
Have you? Good? Thank you. I'm just looking for anything coming out of your purse. I'm just looking good. Alright. So but they were freaked out there. They said why they wanted to find out. Yes. He says you know what? Does a duck give charity?
Because it says you're the woman there are good. There are very colleague Paulina, minko, Neff, Allah, if you're if you're good to your husband, according to what I said.
Eight gates of heaven will open up to you ot on Judgement Day. Too much too much to ask. No, you're right. But let me give you the keys inshallah. So they asked him why your messenger of Allah, He says, the Anaconda to clearing the land with a foreigner last year because you harm your husband and abundance. Some of the sisters know Arabic so they're already laughing.
And you're, you're ungrateful to him for what he does. So they couldn't understand why would any wife will do that to husband? They couldn't get it. Just Can you please elaborate explain. He says your sin likoma Abba is good to you all the times. But he makes only one mistake. Khulna Mara aina minca Hi, Ron.
If he's good to you all the time. He's good too all the time. But he makes one mistake. You will say I have never seen any good from you your regular oehser
I should have never married you. Yep.
But that's not you know, because you sisters are the best. I am talking about the other evil
They're out there somewhere in Mars. Not even on the on this galaxy universum done. Cool. Yes, I am. I am taking some serious heat again. I can feel it. Now that's how you close the gates of Hellfire you got to go pee. Good. Now let me give you another key
keys for heaven. Are you ready? Okay.
As madmen, dia de de de la Hannah came to complain about us men to Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, and I really gave you the allusion to it. It says, you know, men, you know, the complaint breeds to the rigidity when you say Kapha you're sent to us and men at the same time. So why did they get all this? They performed you had the follow Genesis, the congregational prayer of humans, all of that stuff, the all these things that we're not commanded to do, but they're commanded to get all this reward, then we sit home and raise the children do all that stuff. How fair is that? I'm paraphrasing, of course. So Tasha was astonished. She's, this is a smart woman asking about to
redeem your very intellectual question. Now he gave her a title says wifey That in itself, you are the representative and your ambassador, woman. Go back tell you're the wife that you're the woman that you come from Hostnet about their goodness, LG.
Domingo Navarro. That's where this stems from you being a good wife, your husband is equivalent to everything he said. So I already told you four things in this life Prophet Mohammed Salah asked you to do
is a solid model Hamza? Osama cha, cha, cha, cha.
If you pray five, raise fast the month of Ramadan, protect your chastity and good your husband for things. Yes, he gets in heaven on Judgement Day will open up and fight over you. Like what? That's worth it. Now. Let me give you not 448 I'll give you six For one, the one that I just mentioned. If you want the rewards for Hajj, congregational prayer, following Genesis wounded for the sake of Allah, even Martin for the sake of Allah, all you have to do is one thing, only you know what the one thing is?
die and go to heaven.
I'd rather go to die and haven't go to heaven before I wake my husband. Yeah. I'll take it.
see anything else? Are you married? You are married. Okay, I want I just I'll stop here. And I'll just move on.
Okay, so all you want to do is I want you to think of this guy is my key. Because guess what? The key that will close the gates of Hellfire is the same key that will open the gates of heaven. Do you believe it?
So when you go home tonight, excuse me.
When you go home tonight,
I want you to look at your husband as a key. As you key. I mean, he may look like a key. I don't know what his face looks like I love him.
But I want you I want you to look at your husband now as a different in a different way. You might I may hate what he did. I mean, I don't like and certain things. But you know what? He's my key. He's my key to close the gates of Hellfire and open the gates of heaven for me. Yes. Allahu Akbar. So you go and give him a hug today and kiss him and say, Oh, you're my minister. So me with that now Sammy, or whatever it is. Okay. And you hopefully will understand what this means.
the third hat time is running in Sharla. So let's let's finish off with a career woman because there are others but for now, as a career woman when you juggle, I'm gonna put it all together. Cool. All right. So a career woman and then if I have enough time, we'll go mom. All right.
So you got your young you get married. Now you get a career maybe to help your husband and so on. And then you have a child. We'll finish with that job look cool. Now you have a career. Oh, I'm getting home I'm tired. You know what I don't I see this guy. You don't want to get off your whatever man. What do you think I am not your slave. I'm not your daughter go you want. You want to go give me a sandwich.
I'm working just like you and all of that stuff. Okay. One thing My dear sister, please if you are successful businesswoman, by the way, Islam. Islam allows that Remember that? I talked about 14 things. I'm online talk about 14 rights. You were granted 1400 years ago that a Muslim and Western woman would would die for there was just received some of them the last 100 years. Yes, yes. Now you were granted all of that Khadija was a businesswoman Prophet Mohammed Salah mocked her you never even deny that we can never deny that it's there.
So you understand that in other faiths, he will actually look into a woman Is she alive? What she did is she is she equal to an animal or she less does she have a soul?
Understand, I studied this
For five years of my life different religions Yes. So please understand that's why when women are really looking to what Islam honor how honors and women, that's why they embrace it. It's not exactly what the media says the exact opposite of that. Yeah. Okay.
So now you have this you're successful businesswoman. I beg you Don't compare.
Yes, because I want you to understand the mentality of a man now.
A man's number one is to provide Yes, he feels he feels that I'm protector and provider. I feel like a man because I'm looking after my family. I'm looking after my father children. Once you start competing with him, you won't have a man in the house. You will have a male figure. Yes. So please remember, I will give you this hopefully you will understand it.
We know we understand it's called the castle theory.
You are the queen of the house.
We submit we actually surrender. When we get married we just we give Okay, you are the queen of the house. Cool.
So in your castle My dear sisters in every Castle in the world in history mankind how many kings were there?
One I actually said this and once it goes like sister was like you What are you calling a lawyer what you want to call a friend? There's only one thing in every castle and Is that okay? So keep remembering that So the trick is my dear sister is to let him think that he's the king and we already know that just let us live this dream
let us at least fantasize that I'm the man who the man I'm the man
and by the way brothers speak to each other like that. Hey dude on the King of the Hill um the top of the mountain whatever I say goes up
right but at home
yeah, slightly different. But just let us dream of it can you at least give us that? Can you please Yanni?
Thank you It's very nice of you. Some of you are agreeing.
Now my dear sister
how to win your husband. Okay.
Now you know when I talk to a woman you know what you're tired you're having this especially now let me draw another hat in the in the ocean you know what do you after all this you're young get married all of a sudden you know what career woman that all of a sudden
comes around. Wow. I am juggling now I got four hats dude. I got this guy defeat I got this guy defeat I got
you Okay, let me cut to the chase. So who's married and has children who is married and has children massala
anybody has three children?
More than three
lohagarh for five
Why? Wow, Masha? Allah, you have more six you Palestinian somewhere where there was
my wife is was Indian. Actually Angie. One brother told me he is one of 14 Mashallah, here. Yeah, Lebanese to Mashallah. Okay. So the moral of the story is of the, okay, so I'm going to give you something before I give you this, the four DS, this time management, right? Do
delete, delegate, delete, delete.
So if you are a wife, now, the career woman and also a daughter plus even a mother, here's what I want you to do. Your four DS are your best friends. Okay, your time management is your best friend.
So I'm going to combine these two hats together because they're actually they're intertwined kind of a model. So the first one is, as soon as you say like, eight o'clock, I want the children to be in bed. That's it.
Now it's my time. Yes.
So you're with that little guji guji guji guji. The good little bundle of joy. Yes. All right. You put the children to bed. You have your first baby to deal with now.
Okay, because men are just big babies. I'm telling you. I'm talking as a man. Yes. All right. So if you have if you have let's say three children cool. I've mentioned this before. If you have three children and you're married, How many children do you have? Four. That is amazing. You're a quick learner. So I want you to do the same thing to did your child with your husband. goochy goochy goochy goochy.
Same thing. Okay, so now you come from work you tired right? And you're also expected to cook what the monster this guy here is driving me insane. This guy here was not the children yesterday.
I know it's very dangerous. Life is dangerous. He live on the edge.
Australia Sydney, what are you expecting? Any? an easy ride? No, no, no. All right.
Okay, I'll tell you what the danger is if you don't balance it. Yeah.
The Gucci Gucci parts? No, no, that's the good part of the Oh, he will be putting your hand up like a kid. Oh, yes, no, that's good. Believe me. 89% of men have to get married for that reason.
Statistics show 89% of men get married. For that reason. Let's hit number one on their list.
Okay, so here's what happens. Usually you get your you're tired, because you're looking at these children. Your career has taken a toll you've done, you've done your best to get your PhD and now you're putting it into a collection and this guy wants an hour dinner or this and after that he wants to also that's what the you know what? And then you're tired. You're right. So you're you're at home, you took a shower, right? And what you do is you put your head down.
Your hair is all down. Right? And you get that the typhoon look great. You wrap the hair, and you put it up look like Auntie Jemima or margin Simpson or something like that? I don't know. But yeah, yeah. And then you put that white cream on your face because you want to lose 10 years of your life and you put the lemon slices or tea bags. And all of a sudden, I know, I know. Then the husband comes into home go.
Oh, who are you? And what have you done with my wife? I'm just trying to tell you. There's a time and place for everything. That's it? Yes. Okay. So you have to juggle. So your time management is your best friend leaving you with
the big rock theory was her to the big rock theory. Mashallah. Okay. So let's pretend.
Do delegate delay, delete?
Yes, the D four o t. The D fours, they don't fall into my goals or missions or visions are my life? I have to learn to say no, that's the default. I have to delete it.
Okay, so a ones are number one priorities. The B twos are you know what they're important, but I can delegate it somebody else. The C threes. I can actually delegate it, but I put a dead end I have to delete. Yes. But I can not put a dead end on it. I mean, I used to teach this stuff in the business corporate because that's where I come from. So this is something that is extremely important. When I talk to a business woman, I talked about time management. Before these, the big rock theory is extremely important, my dear sister because you juggling now four hats. Yes, you have to be good at all. And by the way, you multitask much better than us. Because you use a different side of the
brain. You use the right side of the brain, we use the left side of the brain. And you have a valve, right? Remember, you have a valve that actually connects the right to the left, and your valve was much bigger than ours. And it's true. This is scientifically proven. That's why you can multitask. You can go from the right to the left, we have very difficult time to actually reach out. Okay, so here's basically what I'm asking you to do the big rock theory. Here we go.
This is an empty jug. Okay. I want you to put
big rocks in it filled with big rocks. And I know you know, the two of you know just hang in there. Is this thing for you right? What can you put
pebbles? pebbles. You okay, jam it with pebbles is a full? No, you're right again. What can you put send right now? stuff to the rim? was sent is a full? You're right again. can add water. Now put water is a full? Yes.
Okay, I don't know. What else can you put in there? I'm not sure Teach me Master Sunday, please. Coffee.
Okay, whatever you want to fill up with no problems. Now take it and pour everything out the whole.
Shed is gonna have to clean it. He's gonna give me the bill for Gleaners. Okay, put everything out.
Okay, it's empty now. Cool. I want you to put water in here first. Is it full? Yes, indeed it is. Can you put any pebbles or sand or rocks in there? You're right. That's why the big rock theory is called the big rock theories. Your a ones has to go in your time first. Yes. So if you waste your time on anything else, other than the other ones, you will pay the price later. And that's why I'm telling you if you are a miracle, because you have to be the master of all trades.
You can be the best of everything. Yes,
indeed you can. And that's basically what I'm going to give you the best of everything. Because when Prophet Mohammed Salim says, your mother, your mother, your mother, then your father and that's why I told you you are raised three times higher than us. So why do you want
To compete with us, just complete us.
Wow, what did I say?
Okay, that's it. That's all I have for you. In a nutshell for the four hats. I thank you my mom, thank you my doctor, thank you. Again, thank you for calling with Air Canada have a pleasant flight, but but
the floor is open inshallah.
Okay, so let me address first that, because that's extremely important.
So the, the Western media will try to tell you that you are insignificant, you're oppressed, and so on. I deal with this all the time. I used to be a spokesperson for another community. Number one and two questions are always terrorism and woman. Always terrorism and woman. Yes. So when I sit on a multifaith committee, I actually address these issues, and I tell them, these are like, different faiths when you sit together. So listen, guys, I'm gonna play a word game with you. Cool says Yep. Cool. So I'm going to tell you a word and please tell me what comes in. First thing in your mind.
is okay, a Muslim man is and they start smiling.
I already know what comes up next. It's called the Doctor public theory. Right? You heard the doctor public theory. Okay. Dr. Pavlov had a dog right? Every time you give the dog the food rang the bell. So the dog associated the food to the bell. So after a while, he just rang the bell, the dog salivated without giving them food because he associated this word association.
So when I tell them, okay, a Muslim woman is
the starts mining again. Because they listen. You don't have to be politically correct with me. I've been there for 41 years. I know the drill. So they say a Muslim man is a terrorist and a Muslim woman is oppressed.
I go you know what's pretty sad because you haven't come to our homes and don't know us. was as I said last night statistics show that 70% of people don't know you. But they hate you anyway. 7% of people don't know what Islam is or Muslims, but they just don't like it because of that media and and
so if you get to know us and come to a need for tuition samosa and all of that with us, you'll find out that a Muslim woman is a
Muslim man is oppressed. Let's put it this way.
You have to be also very careful here. Yeah. Number Daniel, please.
Okay. So when you get to know you have to find out that a Muslim woman is not what they think it's honored because of everything I said, and more.
So you understand that you were given the right to vote long time ago, 1400 years ago, you had a a pledge of allegiance. Recently, you understand that women had to fight for them to vote. They have to fight to get an equal pay. They have to fight to have their own you understand other people will other religions and other pre Islamic ignorant era. You were bought and sold. You are a commodity people wouldn't inherit you. Yes, you were up to the highest bidder. There were 10s that were you can have children and people are claiming you know what this guy like this guy? He's mine. Yeah, totally different My dear sister as you are judged by Courtney 3624 36
The higher the skirt The higher the pay as I was telling you
so right now as Trump says Nope. This woman here we cherish we value
we love we respect we don't look at her as a sex object no love Allah He will look at her like a pearl what's inside not the outside shell
is not what you were my distance of what's in your heart? What you as a character who you are as a human being not what those people that actually have to sell matches or even a car with a woman wearing a bikini What does that have to do with the German engineering? You understand? known as we know no women are high revered we protect them as a matter of fact, a whole army came to defend you honor one woman her our was lifted one dress man man lifted the aggressive one woman 100,000 game did you find the auto a woman?
You understand how valuable you are to us?
We don't buy and sell women. No.
So for us to understand what truly woman's Are you gonna have to go for one hour lecture on YouTube
and search this force of Allah. That Western woman the role of a Western woman, I think Muslim woman in the West, I believe that was called. But Raise your head up Hi, my dear sister because they have no chance no leg to stand upon and they know what to do. And that's why they try to defame you.
On the contrary, Okay, any other questions My dear sisters you want to address before we go on? Because remember, the floor is yours. Now. After this. I will ask you remember the three tells
Someone can tell him some time what you told him. So in the end, I will tell you what we talked about in the formula question. That means I'm gonna have to split this room into two groups. And that's why we have this candy E.
Alright, some other questions I saw hands raised somewhere so please go ahead.
My dear sister, so very good question. Okay, so let's go through the hierarchy. Okay. I shadowed your level and I asked Prophet Mohammed Salah about that question, says who is number one man's human life and who is the number one woman in a man's life? He says the number one woman in a man's life is his mother.
And the number one man woman's life is her husband. So if you're married, have tea and you have a you have your parents, your husband comes first. And there is no difference of opinion among the scholars when that let's get
the man is supposed to be the one that looks after his parents. The proof of that was in my blood, not in deca, I'll give it to him Oklahoma. Allah didn't say and Jackie says masculine tense is not feminine tense. When your parents are raised in the region at age, a senior age or senile age, and your presence is talking to men now not talking to a woman because the woman has her own husband, her own children to look after? Yes, so God Almighty puts the onus on a man to look after the parents. I'm not taking you off the hook.
But your priorities first is your according to the Hadith in Sahih Bukhari and Ayesha delana. The number one on your list is your husband. And of course, the parents will come after Willow Adam, God knows best. Any other questions regarding what we talked about today?
Okay, my turn.
No. Okay. There's more. Please go ahead.
Well, I have to you know what, when I talk to the brothers, they don't like me very much. Well, it's true will lie. And I say that and I'm very okay with that. Okay. I can take the heat. You know, I'm not here for a popularity contest. I'm not running for office, nor I'm here. You know what, I get thick skin. I'm cool with that. Well, I tell them listen, you can hate me here but I'd rather I'd rather you hate me here and love me there in the hereafter. I'm very okay with that. And when I talk, especially when I perform weddings I tell the brother I'm I'm tough on the brothers to shave
your soul myself, man. Why are you taking the sides? I'm not taking the sides. I'm telling one as soon as I tell the brothers to help in the house chores because Prophet Mohammed Salim helped in house chores. When I talk about drama, how is the drama? That's what I tell the brothers but I it's a different context of t. Now when I tell the brothers don't listen, you have to help them those chores. Why? Because it says Canada humanitarian Prophet Mohammed Salah Salam used to help announced yours, which means what whatever you see your wife doing helper and whatever she's doing. That's what that he says. Now, again, don't start a world war three, please wait till I leave Australia.
Then tell your husband what I said.
Because they're gonna hate me again.
Yeah, but tell him listen, My role model is probably Mohammed sauce, Allah. And Allah told us if you want if you claim that you love me, follow him. If you love Allah, and you want to claim to be with him, follow him. That's what I tell the brothers. Number two, I tell the brothers also
to make sure to take your wife off the hook. She makes a mistake, take her off the hook. She's no lift her up, don't pick her down. And I have the proof of it show the law. I know when she followed Prophet Mohammed Salah in the pier. She asked him a question after he asked her a question. Yes. And so on. And number three, I tell the brothers never to stop dating your wife, you can use that you can use that because there is a colon in it. Again, remember, all of that is quiet and there is nothing personal.
So you should tell your husband and I tell you why. Because Abdullah advised me used to beautify himself to his wife, you know, look nice, smell nice and so on. And a man saw him doing that. He says I will not listen to you anymore.
Unless you give me proof in the Quran that what you're doing is what we're supposed to do is okay, well, ahana Micheletti, Allah Hina maruf.
Whatever you ask them, you give them what is known to be good and righteous, which means what if your husband asked you to look good?
He has to look good for you too.
If your husband asks you smell nice, he has to smell nice to
you good luck with that.
And whatever you understand, so whatever your husband asked you he has to give you before he asked me to lead by example. And that's what the Quran says. By the way, it's not this person realize what Allah said.
And I usually asked him to give you a nickname Yanni, because until the I show, you can call you Mimi to Lulu.
Susu whatever you want to call it,
minimum requirement for and shovel. Okay? So these are the things that I use as I talk to the brothers and I, by the way, when I teach these courses, I talked to him for four hours, and I'm telling you the truth. But as usual, don't give me a hard time Well, unless the honesty, you take notes, he or she has no problems. But it's the other way around. And with all due respect, and I'm really grateful that you did not throw anything at me so far, which is really nice. I really appreciate it. Okay, it's the sisters who really have a difficult time to grasp the 111 aspect, the obedient aspect, but when I explain the obedience aspect, it's an obedience of Allah, His Messenger,
not to the husband of the Yes. And they're a little more relaxed there, if you will. Okay, cool. I can take that. Alright.
Other than that, my dear sister, it's a long I talked to the brothers for a long time. Actually, I talked to them more than I thought the sisters Believe it or not. Yes, my sister's
Here we go. Here we go already. Look this one up. Just kidding. Go ahead.
Great. Okay, good question. If you didn't hear it, just in case those online, feminism has taken over some certain mentalities of the sisters and what level? Do you actually thank you?
I don't have my reading. Although I do have reading glasses. Thank you. I actually don't thank you. I was gonna ask one of sisters to read this. Okay.
To what level do you put a cap on the feminism and to what extent would it be haram? So for this for civil law, I don't use any isms. There is no isms in Islam. So whatever contradicts the teaching of Islam, I say that is what I reject. Whatever concurs with the teaching of Islam is that is what I accept. It's really that simple, my dear sister. Yeah. So any Islam in Islam or it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what you put in before that Islam. Islam gives you the midst of the past, the best of both worlds, and the moderation to be happy in this life and hereafter, and Islam, by the way, we defend the rights of women. It's not make sure why do you think you're the one who says yes or no,
before you get married? We only ask for your hand in marriage.
Who says yes or no?
You do. As a matter of fact, when I perform weddings, I make sure the sister confirms with me three times.
If she doesn't I walk away. Well, I
so I have to make sure that you'd simply agree not being forced and I make sure people witness that. And this isn't a headache by the way. That is a problem Mohammed subsidies and you know what, I know that but I want women to know that we have the right to say no. Yes, that's what I'm trying to tell you. You have rights that we don't even have.
Okay, so don't ever think that feminism is protecting you because Allah protected you from things that feminism cannot even protect you from? As I said, 1400 years ago, not right now. Yeah, but don't go too extreme one way or the other. Yes. Don't label yourself. Don't fall under the trap that I'm a feminist. You are Muslim.
You are you have the best Allah give you the best of everything honored you and everything. As I said, give you 14 rights over 1400 years ago.
They're still fighting for equal rights.
In the states like the the, you know, the world's democracy, the leaders of democracy, they still don't get equal pay. So what what are you talking about? Islam honors you, you can own your own business of tea, you can do whatever you like, you can hire men. And Anna, who's good? Yes, Islam gave you that long time ago. So I wouldn't worry too much about any Islam as long as Islam is what we live and die by Allah and God knows best. Okay, so the two from the floor.
The question is, what is the wife to do? If the husband is overpowering and controlling all aspects of of life?
Okay. Sometimes you may not like what I say cool.
It's hard to believe. But it's true.
When the sister I used to do counseling, I don't do counseling anymore. I used to Calif is 25 years I've been doing this stuff while they're listening.
So when the sister comes to complain to me, my husband hates me and he Gamble's he's a womanizer, he drinks he does alcohol or he does the drugs, all of that stuff. You know, what is the first question I tell the sister?
Hey, sub sub patients. No. Nice try though. That's what most of the people tell her. Be patient. Hey,
Maybe you will get that too.
Good for you have the that's what I asked her based on what odd DC is to this man.
You understand why when I told you to wear the hat to look for the four things, because otherwise you put out fires for the rest of your life.
If you don't have this minimum four things of a husband, you will put out fires for the rest of your life and you will believe me you will pay the price. So when I tell the sisters
I know, I know. But there are other ways. And I know I have dealt with people who change for good and bad by the way. But I give you the four other things members the shadows, the harassment debacle. If you've been to my home sweet home and I know some of you have been
is the shadows of harassment Oculus, you forced your four steps before you say I do I give you that consult, consult with people ask about his background, his family where he worked, where he studied, what's his reputation, like everything consulted you have to make sure if everybody's telling you ahead, use number two, but he gives you some sound stop them his mind is dead. It's out of my life not interested. I don't care how good looking is. I don't care how whatever kind of car drives and what you know. Did you see this? How can I say no to that? Right? That's a big rock man. Sure.
But you can put in the big rock theory because it won't help you. Okay, so when I talk about this gelatinized Tara Okay, everybody's telling me good but I don't know him
I don't know the future that's what will change and I don't know what's hidden. I don't know this guy apparently is good but I don't know what's hidden closet sins right?
Only Allah knows so I praise the heart I ask Allah Allah this man is good for me for my life for my Deen for my hereafter making money
and if this man is bad for me for my junior my Dean my new life and hereafter my religion make a good movie for me and when do something better? That's the Sahara.
Then as I am determined to follow what comes after that
yes whether I like it or not. I love this guy. Oh my god. Did you see the six pack on this guy?
He's got the washboard man
even though he's Briana doesn't have any belly and
even though if it goes against your whims and desires, you still gonna follow the command of Allah because he's helping you out doesn't want to go through miseries. So that's called as determined is that our call is asms takala. If you put your trust in Allah, you will never go wrong. Yes. If you determined and you put your trust in Allah, this is the four steps I tell the sisters to do before they say I do.
So you have to do your homework however my sister to answer your question now we're putting out fires right? So I tell the sisters Okay, bring him to the masjid Why? Because he has to change two things in order for him to change environment he's in and the company keeps now he can find the righteous company in the righteous environment in the massage like the center Do you ma all right my husband is adamant I don't want to I don't come look to the ship. These people are terrible. It was a song that really desperate I heard it cool. You bring the message to him
meaning what invite righteous people do you hope
but you have to be smart when you select these people have to be intellectual. They have to understand the language he speaks how to bring him in slowly make him like them first and speak in the third person Tao has an art
once that happens he will slowly gradually be
basically affected by the environment and the company heaps hopefully you'll come back in less than two hours and never give up yet that's an event but that's not what I tell them right away below and God knows best.
All right. So the first question is What if the key meaning husband is non practicing Muslim
or born Muslim has a mother of as no mother or Rama
Okay, so the first question is that the second question is who should you obey first? your parents or your husband? I believe I addressed that but I'll touch up again. Three married for 20 years Mashallah. But still no change? Am I living in sin being married to him? Okay, let's take one at a time. First question is What if the husband meaning the key is non practicing Muslim has no more
Okay, I default back to my first answer, which is like I don't want to repeat okay. But also you can use the answer for the first question. Okay, okay. Because if he don't, if he knows for an answer now he knows that's the he knows this. This measuring stick if
He knows he wants to be with Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam
he also needs to be on this path that I mentioned. But the clincher My dear sister is that's when I tell the brothers this what they don't like me very much they get scared of it. It says you understand that God Almighty says that he will hold you accountable for how you treat this woman on Judgement Day. And the proof is what up Hola, hola, de Luna B we'll have him be conscious of Allah on Judgement day that he will hold you accountable when the wounds of this family will come together with somebody to date. Because the womb will come stand on the path, the Surat the bridge beneath that is the hellfire. If you are good to the womb, you will pass. If you will not go to the womb,
you shall not pass. They get scared. And they better be because if they're misuse or abuse the power over you, then they better know that God Almighty will treat them accordingly. Yeah, so I tell them but it's an Amana? Do you know what you're doing? And I've been doing this as it for a long time. We're like not one single mother ever told me? What do you know about getting married? Not one single brother in in the years, no matter where I go in the world. So you know what you do if you want to put your hand in her husband her father's hand?
He says you understand he's basically
saying that I have been looking after my daughter. I'm trusting you now to take over the Amana is transferring the guardianship to you.
But you understand that this is mentioned in the Quran and Prophet Mohammed Salim says this is the strongest oath you will ever take in your life. They get shocked. He says yes. Well hudna mangum mytho. Con Elisa, that's what the Quran says. Allah said, when you give your when you ask for her hand in marriage, and the sister agrees, alas, telling you that she has taken a stringent oath from you. And that oath you will be held accountable for on Judgement Day. And the oath is mentioned in the plan. According to Abdullah Mr. roadwatch, you don't have to deal with them in righteousness. But according to Jim, who would majority of the scholars, the author man takes his time second
amount of LTC humbly, I said,
Hold on to life in the best way possible. And if things don't work out, may Allah protect you from that you have to let her go have a sense, you know, what is the sun? The sun, even if she's bad to you, you still have to be good to her. That's the oath semantics. Now if the man does not deserve you don't give that hand in marriage. Because he doesn't know the oath or at least teach him the oath before he takes your hand in marriage. Okay.
Who should I obey? I mentioned already parents or husband I said according to plan and so now with no difference between the scholars is your husband comes first. As long as it's an obedience of Allah His Messenger remember this condition? not blindly. Number three married for 20 years and there's no change. Okay?
Am I living human said no. The scholars will tell you you can live with him insane if he's a non Muslim,
according to Annabella or he doesn't pray
Okay, if your husband doesn't pray, according to Hannah Bella is not a Muslim by calling him who is Muslim. If he says
he's a disobedient media Muslim. You can still live with him. Okay, but guide him and do the stuff with before but you can only live in sin if he denounces or announces Islam
because I'm not a Muslim. But you cannot use that mission stick unless you understand that Medina hombre de la la he said, Well la isla okay for a hot hot day of who he left me at hello Ville Islam. I will not say anyone is a Catholic unless he says the exact opposite of what he brought him into the fold of Islam. That's it. So if your husband still says La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasul Allah is a Muslim, maybe disobedient and so on, but he's still a Muslim, be patient and do what I said. I told you earlier inshallah. So if that's the case, please be careful. Now again, remember the Hannibal I say if he doesn't pray? He's not a Muslim. According to his or her, the apparent of the
Hadith, voila, and God knows best. Okay, so, my turn. Are you ready? Okay. So this is one group, and this is another group. So give yourself a name sisters. Give yourself a name. Give your group a name.
You can think of your name to
Wonder Woman. Wonder Woman versus simple woman Superwoman, or is this like the galaxy war or something? There was a movie
is it it's not the quantity of the it's the quality Oh?
So okay, you wonder woman. Okay, you wonder woman you Superwoman Mashallah the games begin.
Hello, Warzone again.
No hair bullying, please. No biting and biting. Alright, here we go. My first question to Wonder Woman is remember is only what we talked about. Cool.
Your first half my dear sister
as a daughter
Tell me the story of the woman that God Almighty saved from the Hellfire because of what she did to her mother raise your hand please. That hand was raised first. So close yet so far but I know I heard you a lie but her hand was raised first I have to be fair. I know you want the chocolate I know you want the chocolate lie.
Go ahead go ahead of the
Masha Allah good for you my dear sister. Good for you Mashallah. Mashallah, I know that she said I've interviewed her online I she told me what I said so I'm not gonna repeat it. Okay, here we go. Which one would you like go to
which one is this one here? Okay smilla
Marsh are so close so far.
All right, Superwoman. Are you ready? Okay.
Regarding on the same same hat
how what did Abdullayev nama rajala and Houma say to the man that I have paid the death of my mother and why. Okay, go ahead, Odie.
You're right. But what did you tell him and why?
Very good. Very good. Okay, you said Also, you want to help others you got it, but I can give you your liquid and just pass it around? Because you didn't give me the whole answer. You can you can sniff it and just share it.
Now you know which one which one you like. Okay, I have the red smuggler Do you want to say add to that? Oh
good for you. That's fantastic. That's basically the clincher he says he did everything What are you doing for her and she's hoping that you would live but you're doing everything that you're doing for her and you would hoping that she would die nice was a while they're not the same?
Oh yes indeed. Which any color just give me color? crunchy color. yellow
gold Thank you
Oh, teamwork Mashallah.
I can do those assistance I know we'll come but the brothers soccer
okay. Wonder Woman let's go to another hat. Cool.
The hat of you being married now?
Yes, give me the key. What was the key to close the gates of hell fire? How do you close Okay, go ahead.
In a nutshell Allah Akbar if the brothers were here they will I mean they will just do tech biryani masala and nothing is gonna blow pick a color with all of them yeah, god she's so content Mashallah
Okay, super, super woman on the same on the same of T What is your key to to open the gates of heaven?
This is anything I can be taught. Oh, I am. I am just hibernating. What color would you
the purple Turkish one is this is the one that you're talking about? The purple? Purple. I'm colorblind. This guy.
on this side? Oh, this guy? No. This guy. Just come in Help yourself. Please don't get me out of my misery please. I am gonna go through this. Oh, there you go. That's it.
I am literally looking for purple light.
Okay, thank you for taking me off the hook. I appreciate that.
All right. Third hat. Are you ready sisters? Third hat was a career mom. Give me the four DS what these stand for? Your hand was up first.
Good for you my dear sister. Which one?
The crunchy. This guy here?
This one This one Sorry, sir. You can It's okay. It's on sale. Two for one today. No problems. Okay, sisters, give me the big rock theory. Know that the hand the hand? This hand was up first.
Hey, yes, you can. Yes. No, it's okay. That's okay.
Good for you. Less than is priority prioritize Good for you. What color would you like?
Yeah, please come and get it. That's gonna get it. You see men we know four groups of colors. You know blue, green, brown and red. Right? Anything other than that we put an Eon and ish look like teal. We don't we go Bluey greenish. We don't know future salmon. Coral and what? Yeah.
Alright. Last hat. Are you ready?
All righty. Here we go. Your mom now.
There was something I asked you to do my dear sister. To do you to your husband?
yes, yes, I agree with your T. What is it exactly as you do the husband? goochy goochy goochy goochy.
You got for you. What color would you like?
The yellow one. Yeah, please, please come and help us. All right. My sister's a trick question.
If you married and have three children, how many children you have? Nice, dry. Thanks for playing. What color? Would you like? Anything? Okay, Bismillah.
All right, tiebreaker question. Are you ready to break because now you're tied? The trick is this question is for both teams. And anybody can answer the question. So, the fastest hand that is raised will get to answer the question, but the trick is, as soon as you raise your hand, I will stop. I will not repeat or complete the question. That means you have to answer according to what you heard. If you get it right, you will get three.
Now, not one, and your team will win. If you get it wrong. The other team will win by default and your team members will hate you for life.
No pressure. Are you ready?
Okay, this is going to be a tricky question. You have to tell me what they are that to be listening. Are you ready? Here we go. The tiebreaker question is
what were the four steps I asked you to do before you say I do.
I'm scared. I am seriously scared. This girl. I'm telling you if I don't give her that thing.
You're not leaving here right now.
That's a powerhouse.
Taxi. I just need to leave in one piece, please.
Okay, I'm listening. I'm still giving you a chance.
Sir, you're right. You're right.
This is the huddle.
Okay, I know where you're going with that one.
Because we're talking about chocolate here.
Why do I have the feeling that I am doomed either or? I'm gonna get it whether she gets it. Okay. Finally now for the final time. Yeah, something good.
Okay, to be fair, to be fair to be there. Okay. Everybody wins. All right.
Yes, yes. So I'm going to give one to you not to pass to the sisters here
of this team and pass it around. May Allah bless your sisters and I thank you so much for your time. And may Allah subhanaw taala bring you always closer to the dean. May Allah Subhana Allah, Allah reward you and make you multitasking for the hats that you're about to get. And I thank you again for your time and appreciate it may Allah Subhana Allah Allah make you among those among us among those who listen to speech and follow the best of it because the best of the husband most of the husbands know the best of the wives was the crew mom and best agree woman in Jalan best job, thank you again was Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
Okay, sorry about that. There is a very good question here. I apologize, almost forgot about that one. This is extremely important question. How do I know if my istikhara prayer is going in the right direction? Or not? And I am not just pursuing something bad for me. That is a very good question. Indeed. Again, I talked about this if you don't get it online, I said four useful points before you say I do before marriage. Again, it's on YouTube. So my dear sister, remember, most people tell you that you know what you have to do Sahara for seven days, and you can see something in a dream all of that is a fallacy. It's not true. There is no restrictions on time you can do is
to harder unless you get a green light, solid green light or solid red light. And a dream The reason that we tell the the the sisters or anybody for that matter, not to go with a dream because your subconscious mind stores information for three to four days. So whatever you're thinking of you're talking about, are you watching Are you seeing or anything like going through, it will come in a form of a dream. So I don't want you to go with dreams. We don't discount it, but we don't count on it either.
But what will happen if you do is to hotter after you lose too hot or things that are going to get better or worse, or things are going to get easier or more difficult. Okay? So for example, you are lovey w with this guy and after it's the hotter you're fighting. Yes. Or you were doing this to harder before the Sahara. You know what everybody agrees on this marriage after it's too hot. Everybody's fighting. You know what, no more? No, I don't like this whole. I want this ring. I want this dress. No, you're not. So things get ugly. They're the kind of things that get better or worse or more difficult or easier. That's the best way you'll know. Okay, and please don't open the Koran
and place your finger here. You know what, oh, it's a con.
It's an angel. Oh, we're gonna go through nothing of that. I get this all the time. So please make sure it's a tangible thing that you will see things that get better. And by the way, if things are going good than you do in the Sahara, nothing changes continue. Remember, let Allah make the decision on your behalf now, so nothing will change if the need is good then everything is going fantastic then keep going. You only stop if Allah subhanaw taala closes the door I hope that answers the question will love Adams aka mala
Salam aleikum sisters once again thank you for attending today's super Saturday sisterhood with the amazing chef Allah. First of all I need to ask for forgiveness because I said like a boo boo about you girls when you attacked me while I was trying to say my answer. But I have to be honest, I didn't know at all but guess what we