Beginning of Surah Talaaq

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Episode Notes

A thought provoking and knowledge gaining session by Mufti Menk explaining the tafsir of Surah Talaaq which includes instructions from Allah SWT to Prophet SAW in the matters of divorce in a great detail. In addition, the sunnah way of revocable talaaq and irrevocable talaaq is explained comprehensively.

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inshallah we'll be reading from verse number one of surah two polyp, which is page number 574 of the Sahih International translation.

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Or autobill. Amina shaiya Ponyo Jean Bismillah

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inevitable

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woman

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who say

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smilla hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah when Allah Allah He was happy.

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We praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we thank him for everything he has bestowed upon us. We send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household, all his companions without exception May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless them all and bless every single one of us, my brothers and sisters, these are the powerful beautiful important verses of surah Allah, Allah means the divorce of palapa. So many of us are oblivious or we don't even know the rules and regulations pertaining to Pollak or divorce. Many men are not aware of the fact that it is a serious matter. It is something you never ever allowed to even joke about. something you're not allowed to

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joke about. In Islam. There are certain things you don't joke about. You don't joke about Allah and you don't joke about the signs of Allah.

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subhanho wa Taala that which is sacred to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah it is prohibited to joke about those matters. Similarly, when it comes to issues of Nika and tala, they are extremely sacred, they are serious. Someone cannot just tell you, I divorce you and then a little while later they say No, I didn't. And then they say I'm marrying you and then they say, No, I didn't. I was just joking. It was just, I just was making people laugh. I just wanted to see how you would react. So Allah says that is haram you're not allowed to do that. If you're joking about these matters, they will be considered serious.

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Salah from June June was lovin legit June there are three things. If you are serious about them, they will be considered serious. And if you are joking about them, they will still be considered serious and nikka what Allah tala Taku according to one narration, Nika, Nika, meaning when you want to marry someone, you say that I offer myself in marriage to you and the person says, I accept it. And there are witnesses that nica has done, it is done. So Pamela, you can think and tell yourself I was joking. We were just seeing we were just preparing. We were just rehearsing rehearsal. It's done. Joking, it's done. So please, let's be careful with our utterances. You might be married

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without even knowing Allahu Akbar. Worse than that is to be divorced without knowing. The second thing is apalla. You cannot say I divorce you and then later say I was joking. Allah says, Well joking or not joking, it occurs because you're not allowed to joke about these matters. So the third thing is to free a slave at the time when slavery was there. And to be honest, you know, when it comes to prisoners of war in Islam, we are prohibited from keeping them in little dungeons in orange uniforms and so on. Like the modern world seems to believe in Islam, these are human beings, they should be fed with the same food that we feed ourselves with, and the same clothing. So what Islam

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does is it hands over to all the families it disperses and distributes to all the families that happen to be able and capable, certain people to look after, they may not call them prisoners of war, but in essence, they will be offered a life of dignity and respect, may be one or two issues they may not be able to achieve. But this these are called people whom the right hand possesses and at the same time, if you were to tell them you are free, you are free. You cannot later say I was only joking, because it's a serious matter. It is something very, very serious in regarding the life of a person. So the issue of marriage, the issue of divorce and the issue of slaves, or those who

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are being looked after as people whom the right hand may possess those if you were to say a statement to them connected to one of these three things, they would be considered serious, even if you claim to be joking. So that is point number one point number two, when a person is divorcing, let's speak about divorce, because that is the name of the surah here and that is the topic we will be discussing this morning. There are several wordings that can it be used my mother's and sisters, if there is a word that is used to divorce a woman, and there is no other meaning of that word, then without any intention.

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The divorce is done, if it is uttered. So if you say it with your mouth, if you use the word divorce, and there's no other meaning to it, if someone says I divorced you there's no way that there's another meaning to that. In that particular case, if it is an utterance with the tongue, the divorce is done. intention or no intention.

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Why? Because the wording is called Sorry, sorry, meaning it doesn't have any other meaning. But if someone says Get out, go home, I don't want to see your face again, never come back all these words they have, they can have more than one meaning. If someone says Get out, I don't want to see you again, go back to your parents house, I don't want you again. It can have a different meaning I don't want you again, most probably the context would explain to you whether or not it's divorced. But you've got to go back to the person who uttered it and ask him what was your intention? Why because there is a possibility of it, meaning something else, and Islam is fair. And just so if

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someone told you get out, and in their heart, they meant that they wanted to divorce you they need to own up to say that that is a divorce. But if someone said, Go home, I don't want to see you again. And then they tell you that what I meant is I don't want to see you for a long time. You have to actually take that meaning into consideration and believe what they are saying. So it's a very tricky situation. However, let's learn and even the menfolk not to joke about this, not to drive people to the cliff and then tell them don't jump now Allah subhanho wa Taala. Forgive us. So my mothers and sisters, I hope we've understood the two types of weddings, right one is called that

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which has no other meaning. And the other is, can I attend that which has more than one meaning, and the one which has more than one meaning you've got to go back to the intention of the individual, the one which doesn't have more than one meaning?

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There is no intention looked into it occurs joking, no joking, serious intention, no intention it's done.

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Then we have another issue that issue is whether the divorce was written or it was uttered. If it was uttered, then we will consider it. As we just said, now. So, if there is a word of divorce that is written on a piece of paper or sent by SMS or by email, and

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it is, it has no other meaning to it, you follow, it has no other meaning to it, the one that has another meaning we already said it goes back to intention written or not written, the one that has no other meaning if it is uttered, it is confirmed, if it is written down, then we need to see if it was uttered as well. So if someone says, I divorce you, and then you tell them write it down, and they've written it down, they've written it after they uttered it, that's done. If someone writes it down, and you say, please read what you've written, and they read it, it's done. But if someone has only written it, you need to ask them, what was the context? Why did you write it? How did you write

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it? What was it for and so on. For example, I am teaching you right now, this is a lesson. And I must have said, I divorce you so many times in this in order to speak to you in order to teach you in that particular instance, there's no divorce that's happened. I'm not even talking about divorcing my own wife, etc. I'm talking about how this whole thing works. So you need to have a strong mind. And you need to have the clear conscience to be able to know what you're doing. In this particular instance, people know those who are addressed or people who are being taught. So therefore no divorce occurs, the same applies. If you are writing things on a paper, what was it

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written for? How was it written? Why was it written, if a man writes the divorce, for example, and he thinks in his mind without having ever uttered it, he didn't say it with his mouth. He says, I will send this to my wife. But something makes him not send it and he tears it and throws it away. So in that particular case, the divorce is not done. Similarly, if he writes it and puts it under his pillow and says to himself, even if he signed it, and he says to himself, I will give it to her when I'm ready. And then she sees it. And she goes and makes a big deal out of it, the divorce is not done, because he didn't issue it, he only wrote it with the intention of issuing it. But they he

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did not yet issue it. The same applies if you type out an SMS, and you haven't sent it. And, for example, if a person has typed out an email and hasn't sent it, they have not issued it. But if someone gives you the paper and tells you this is valid, it's done. If someone tells you, this is the divorce, and I'm reading it out to you, it's done. If someone sends you an email and confirms by phone to say, Listen, I sent you an email and consider that finery it's done. So there has to be an intention. And there has to be, for example, if the man is denying the intention, and the intention is glaring you in the face, then there will be a panel or a judge, or the scholars would then decide

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what the intention actually was, if it was glaring you in the face, and he told you, I'm about to divorce you and then he wrote it on a piece of paper. And he says, I consider this final and he gives it to you and then he denies his intention because of whatever has happened and everything shows what his intention was. Then we will have to then say that you know what, this was definitely the intention because there are signs to prove it. May Allah Subhana Allah Allah forgive us from all this, what I would learn is don't miss don't play. Don't fool around. Some people say, Well, I was so angry. Well, to be honest with you. It's not like when you're happy, you're going to be issuing

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divorces. It's only when you're upset and angry that things like these happen. But when the person is upset and angry, they should watch their mouths. Don't ever pull the trigger because of anger. You might not know where you're shooting May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a deep understanding so that Allah subhanho wa Taala is teaching the meaning and the believers how to divorce the women by addressing Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Yeah, you know bu the first verse Oh Prophet, when you as Muslims, divorce women, divorce them for the commencement of their waiting period and keep count of their waiting period.

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So, if you take a look here at the footnote 1601 In fact, you will find Allah subhanho wa Taala has made it quite clear that even though this address was for Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the lesson is for absolutely everyone when determine if that is used, it refers to several things it that is actually an amount of time. So a couple of days, sometimes a month, sometimes a few months and so on sometimes up to a certain point. So it is just a waiting period, it is an amount of days. So the if you look at the translation, the Noble Quran translation you will find that it says oh prophet when you divorce women divorce them at their, at their prescribed periods and count

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accurately

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They are prescribed periods. So what we should understand here is, there is a certain time when it is ideal if you want to divorce to divorce. So you don't just come about we had a problem, we had an issue and now suddenly I get up the following morning or the same evening and I say I divorce you know, wait, wait, take it easy. You wait until the woman has had her menstrual cycle. That's the proper way of doing things.

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Once she has completed her menstrual cycle, without having been intimate with her after that menstrual cycle, you then issue her with one, bollock. That's how it works. Out of three, you only ever issue one. You don't ever be a wisecrack and issue more than one and you don't issue it during her menstruation. And you don't issue it after the menstruation if you've been intimate after the administration. All that is sinful, although, according to the bulk of the oma v Palak will occur even if you've done it wrongly. It's like shooting a person in the chest they will die. Yes, they will. That bullet will have had its impact but what you did was very very bad and wrong. It was

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absolutely unacceptable. So if a man divorces his wife during a menstrual cycle, it is wrong.

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But according to the majority of the overwhelming majority of the oma, the divorce is valid. But what you did was very bad. You don't just release a person like that. She's not an animal. You've got to wait you've got to understand you've got to realize you've got to discuss you've got to try then when you release you only issue one block ever. There is a miss understanding in the oma. Even the non Muslims think that when the Muslims want to divorce, they go to say talaq talaq talaq that is absolute nonsense. That is total rubbish. May Allah forgive us.

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You only divorce once. You never ever issue a second and the third immediately, never. It's only one at a time one. That's it. So the overwhelming majority of the oma says that if you issue a Palak, even in menstruation, it's the wrong way of doing things you are sinful for what you did, but that the lack is valid. So there are two separate issues. One is whether you're what you did was sinful or not. And the other is whether the dialogue is valid or not.

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I hope you understand the difference, then if a person has issued a Palak, not during menstruation, but after a menstrual cycle, that they were intimate, after that, which means a woman had a menstrual cycle, when they were intimate after the menstrual cycle and after that, he issues of the luck that is still as sinful as having issued it during the menstrual cycle, but it occurs which means the the validity of the talaq is not what we are discussing, we are discussing whether or not he is sinful for the way he did it for the way he did it. So he is sinful if he does it that way. If he doesn't want to bear sin for the way he's done it he has to wait for the menstrual cycle. Then

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after that, he has to not be intimate with her after the menstrual cycle and issue that block and it should be as one talaq one. That's it, issue one. Now, what will commence once that ballot is issued, something known as the death will commence it that like I said, is a prescribed time. So what is the prescribed time the prescribed time of divorce of a divorced woman? It differs from person to person. And we will come to that after a few verses. Let's continue. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says,

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and fear Allah your Lord.

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What de la hora butcombe fear Allah your Lord, in this regard, be conscious of Allah. Don't just release a woman as though she's an animal. And don't just do as you please when it comes to this topic, you took her With the name of Allah, you be careful how you treat her. And if you want to release her, there is a way of doing it, do not turn them out of their husbands houses during this period.

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Now that it has commenced, that is the meaning the waiting period, let's quickly speak about it. This waiting period depends on the woman if she is a woman who has a menstrual cycle, that is irregular menstrual cycle, you will count three menstrual cycles. So what would happen is after the divorce, the next menstrual cycle would be one, the following one would be the second and as the next one would be, which would be the third one, then her if that is over.

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Her waiting period is over. If the two of you reconciled within those three menstrual cycles, it could be

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considered as valid. So if you've reconciled, you can go back together. There was only one valid issue. Nobody had requested it. nothing had happened. It was not issued by a judge or a system, and so on. And it was one revocable bollock. If it is revocable, you can revoke it revoking meaning, I still have two more chances. So you really didn't get along, you tried your best. And then one padlock was issued. And then what happened is, you had a three month grace period. And within those three months, two and a half months later, sorry, I'm saying three months, but it's not months, it's menstrual cycles, those who have menstrual cycles every 14 days, guess what if the period only

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becomes very, very short for such a person. So sometimes you have a person who's in debt, and a few weeks later, they're out of the debt. And sometimes you have people who are in a debt, and they're in it for a few months. So it all depends on the menstrual cycle. So

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if within the period of the day they got back together, it is the husband's right to reconcile and to say, look, we'd like to get back together, and they get back together. And if they have another problem, for example, sometime later, then the same steps would apply, the only difference is, that would be considered a second Palak, a second divorce. So what would happen is the after the second divorce, you're only allowed to reconcile twice the third time, you're not allowed to reconcile, because now you're making a fool of each other. And now you need to actually get away from each other in a way that you can only appreciate the other if you were to be married to a third person

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properly, normally, under the normal circumstances, and under normal marriages, and live with that person. And if in the rare case where you did not get along with the second person, and you realize how good the first one was, because he only had 20 weaknesses, and this one's got 2000 weaknesses, then what would happen if you are divorced from the second person, it would only make common sense that you would now appreciate the first person because you've seen what hell really is. And you didn't know that what you had was actually heaven.

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There we are, I hope it makes sense. So people who say, Oh, this street Alex issue now you need to go into a halala. Have you heard the word stouffville la de la la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la has Chris those who take this as a joke, and go and get an overnight nigga and get divorced from that person. In order to get back to the first person as a joke. They are dressed up to the end. So that's how it's prohibited. I remember reading a business card in the UK. And at the bottom, the man says I do halala stokfella. What are you talking about? What are you talking about? I thought I was reading wrong. I had to ask him. He says, you know, when people need help, sometimes

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a man issues three talents. And then he says, Oh, I can't get back to this person. But I need them to marry someone else, and then get divorced. So why don't they just marry you and divorce you? And then come back to me? That's a joke. You actually kindling the flame of Jelena. That's what you're doing? That's Haram. It's prohibited. You are cursed forever, it's over. It's gone. Don't play games.

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So we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to forgive us. And at the same time, if and I hope you now understand what is the reasoning behind getting married to someone else, after a third Palak The reason is, you may you were divorced, once you got back together, divorced twice, you got back together, you tried so hard. And it happened the third time Allah says now, don't keep on making a fool of yourself, now you marry someone else. And you know what, if you are divorced from the second person, it would mean that they happen to be really, really bad, or the situation was really, really bad. And now that you want to get back to the first person, it means you appreciate them a little

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bit more. So now when you get back, you will know that you are actually in a very good relationship, there is a greater likelihood of it working after you've had an experience somewhere else.

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Someone works for you under conditions where they only come to work at nine and they leave at three. And they're complaining of long, long hours. And after some time they leave work or you fire them for example. It would be foolish if they came back a week later and said I want a job again. But if they went to work for someone else, and they made them slave from six to six, and then they come back and say you know what, it was better off working here, there is a greater likelihood that they will appreciate if you took them back.

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So this is similar to what we're talking about here. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us understanding so Allah says during the period of their aid, that the waiting period, you don't keep them out of the houses, you keep them in the homes, that you're not allowed to boot them out of their husband's houses. If it is a revocable divorce, then they should remain in the house sleeping separately. living separately in the sense that they they are allowed to talk they are allowed to speak to each other they still considered permitted to speak because they have the right to reconcile. But they're not allowed to touch each other. They're not allowed to say loving words to

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each other and

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They should know that they are on separation with the idea of termination. That's the whole idea. So they have a grace period of three menstrual cycles to really think about it. And this is why the Hadith that the Quran says you don't kick them out of the house, yes, if they want to go, or if the condition is so bad that this person becomes violent or physical, or the person is scared, or there's reason to leave and so on, then they may leave, but you don't boot them out. It's their decision, where they want to make that.

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And at the same time,

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during the period of the day,

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like I said, if this person happens to, if the husband wants the wife to leave, for example, he needs to make sure he arranges for her, the accommodation, the food, and the expenses of the of that particular period, equivalent to what he used to provide. And he must give it to her in kind of in cash. Because that's what she's owed. He has to look after her for that period where they are still considering reconciliation or something known as the period of the debt. So in this verse, Allah says, that do not turn them out of their husbands houses, one might ask, what is the reason the reason is, who knows, they might get along, and they might learn to love one another. Once again,

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they, you know, you see this person, and they they are allowed to dress up for the same men, even though they are indeed the period if it is a revocable ballad, and they are allowed to try and lure him back into taking her into taking her because she wants to get back, for example. So the rules and regulations are quite different. I think, if anyone goes through such issues, they need to learn what the rules and regulations are, so that they know how to carry themselves during this particular period. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says, nor should they themselves leave during that period, unless they are committing a clear immorality. What that means is if there's some specific reason why you

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should leave, then leave, otherwise you don't leave and you shouldn't be kicked out. Why? Because Allah says, those are the limits of Allah do not commit immorality, and whoever transgresses the limits of Allah certainly has wronged himself, you do not know perhaps Allah will bring about after that a different matter. What that means is you don't know during the period of the day, Allah can change the hearts, you can actually get back together, they can be reconciliation in a way that now the house is on fire. So Panama. And this is why the Hadith speaks about various ways of having declared this divorce that was vocable revoked, one of them is to kiss the other is to have a love

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talk. The other is to be romantic, and stop touching one another, all this would render that revocable divorce revoked, it's revoked, because why you want the person again, this is what happened. So

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this is the beauty of this period of thinking, and known as the that the period of reflection, the period of collecting yourself and so on. This Islam is the only religion that actually has this type of facility. SubhanAllah. Now,

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I just need to quickly make mention of the fact that

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when a woman is released from marriage, usually And normally, we only talked about how the man has the power of releasing the woman Yes. But it is oppressive not to tell the woman that she can get herself out of that marriage as a Muslim woman, the procedure is slightly different. If there is oppression on the part of the men against the woman, she is allowed. Obviously, firstly, you try and solve the problem, you try and resolve you try and make amends you try and make the marriage work and so on. After that, she's allowed to complain, complain to who, in a in an Islamic system to the courts.

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If not married to a panel of scholars, those who have officiated the nikka, you can go to them, and you can actually tell them, Listen, I have a major problem. He's beating me up. And if he's beating you up, there is physical abuse, and you're allowed actually to seek the nullification of that particular marriage. And you know what the scholars if they know their beans within 30 days to 60 days, they should be able to nullify that marriage, having warned the men and having made sure that whatever the complaints were, if your rights are not being fulfilled, then you are allowed to complain seeking nullification known as fast, fast meaning to nullify the marriage. So you are

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allowed to apply you're allowed to seek nullification. If you have valid grounds to do so. Then that panel or those scholars, or the court would actually,

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you know, give the man the chance to respond to this allegation and so on and look into it and see what it's all about, and at the same time, give him a warning and if matters have not been resolved, then they have the right to issue a nullification that nullification is equivalent to one. irrevocable bollock. What's the difference? Firstly,

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When he issued it, it was one revocable Allah, he could revoke it. This one is one, but it is irrevocable. Meaning he can't just say I'm taking you back. He can't say that. If he wants to take you back, both of you need to be in it together. And guess what, you need to have a new nikka between the two of you. You don't have to get married to someone else and go and do this and then get divorced from them and so on. All you need is a new Nika.

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unica, that means you will sit back together, there will be a proposal and an acceptance with witnesses and a mob. And really, that's what it is. So why the reason is, we were awarded one irrevocable talaq and this is why I normally encourage the panel of a llama and and those who have the right to issue this type of Fest, not to delay the woman so much before they issue it because it is only one irrevocable ballot. It's not more than that anyway, it's only one. So sometimes Islam gets a very, very, very bad name. And people completely say that Islam oppresses women. And women don't have the right to divorce in Islam, and they pick on Islam. Why? Because the scholars dilly

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dally, they spend two years three years and the woman is living crying and screaming every day and she's oppressed and she really wants out and she's been bent on it for the last one and a half years. And you know what they just keep on delaying, dilly dallying and continue to issue the one bollock irrevocable and you know what, if the guy is really up to his mark, you will convince her to have another new car that's all and then all you need to do is get back together have a new new car, but at least you've given the woman her honor her dignity her right at least she's exercised the right given to her by Allah. The problem is we are uneducated and the educated from amongst us do

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not want to educate the others because sometimes they are too frightened to skate to issue such notifications. I am one of those who promotes the speeding up of this type of nullification. Once you know that, yes, it is oppressive. There is serious oppression going on here. Don't dilly dally Don't waste time to you know the woman may be oppressed to the degree of mental torture and torment. She may become mentally disturbed if that's the case. And then Islam is to blame. It's not Islam. It is someone who's dilly dallying in wasting time.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. May Allah subhanho wa Taala strengthen us Yes, I'm not saying just you know, become complacent and become a person who so easy in issuing these little notifications. No, but what I am saying is study the matter if there is reason to believe that it is oppressive and really bad. Come on, issue it. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us out. I mean,

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so I was just educating you regarding another way of dissolving the marriage. A lot of the men I have come across many men who say that you know what, I'll never divorce you or fix you. If you can have a recording of that, just by that statement, we can issue a nullification because the Quran prohibits a man from saying that to his wife, I'm going to fix you I won't divorce you and I won't even live with you. Once you have that statement in the in the recording or they're witnesses to it, we can actually issue a nullification because Who is he to say that to a free person who's not even a slave marriages, it doesn't mean you become enslaved in in that sense of slavery Not at all.

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So it is haram and prohibited. I know of quite a few cases not not not here. But overseas. Here. They have been a few cases, but Alhamdulillah because it's a small community, we've managed to resolve a lot of them. I'm not saying all of them. But at the same time, we've heard of so many cases, overseas, people send emails, people ask questions, and so on, and you can understand and gauge what's going on across the globe. You have men who oppress the wives and say, Listen, I'm not going to live with you. And I'm not even going to divorce you. I'm going to show you I'm the men go and do what you want. You will never get a divorce because in Islam, you can never get a divorce

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without me. Although a man like me is waiting for those type of statements and fix him. Show him Who are you. You come back like a goat making songs.

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The problem is we are uneducated. The women don't know about Islam, you know why they kept you away? That's the thing. You're not allowed to attend any Islamic educational program because we want to keep you in the dark. That's what it is. No, this is why we always encourage the sisters to say Learn, learn and learn more and understand your deen guess what there is an awakening and awakening to the degree that many women are much more interested in the Islamic lectures that are available online etc. than the men because it's the first chance they ever getting in history to actually educate themselves in recent history, should I say

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they were blocked and stopped from every point of learning.

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So panela now that there is an awakening, you find them so waking up May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all an awakening in the true sense and remember this education is not in order to make us arrogant. It's in order for us to know our rights people mustn't trample over us

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You know, you get married, it doesn't mean that you need to live like an underdog for the rest of your life. No, you need to have the courage sometimes to come and say, Look, I have this problem. And remember, don't confide in people. Don't confide in the rush most of your problems, you keep them to yourself, the day you really need help, you will choose who you need to talk to, and what you need to say.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us all? So I've just mentioned some of the reasons of why

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a person should be kept within the home and like I said, kept within the home because you don't know Allah could instill something in the heart. Now, one might ask a question Subhana Allah that if the day is over, and we did not reconcile, in that particular case, from one revocable polop, automatically after the three menstrual cycles are over, it becomes one irrevocable malloc. So

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if it is issued by a judge or a court or a panel of scholars, then it is one irrevocable I hope you're following with me because these are terms you need to concentrate regarding.

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But if it is issued by the man, it can be revocable or irrevocable, depending on how he has issued it, mostly it is a revocable one, where if there is a ledger where he is allowed to take you back within the marriage through the three menstrual cycles, but if he hasn't taken you back within the three menstrual cycles, guess what? It becomes one irrevocable Palak. So that would now mean you can still get back to him because there's no three talents issued. There was only one, you can get back to him. And guess what? It requires both of you, you need a new Nika. If you had gotten back together during the period of the day, there was no need for a new Nika. But the minute they did

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that is over because now it becomes one at vocable palette, you still have another two chances you can get back together with the new Nika. If you get back together with a new Nika, you get all your three blocks back. It's like starting the game over again. You know, I've watched children play games, they play games, and they lose one life and they quickly restart the game, even though the game is not over, because they don't want to lose another life. You see that? Anyway, I don't know why I'm giving you that example. But

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if you take a look at this particular issue, if one irrevocable Talat is issued, or there is one irrevocable policy in place, due to the revoking period becoming over, you are allowed to get back together with a new nigga and the new nikka, you get a new mark, as well as you get three new meaning that the locks become three once again.

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I hope you've understood that and at the same time, Allah subhanho wa Taala tenses and when they have nearly fulfilled their term, either retain them according to acceptable terms or part with them according to acceptable terms.

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Why is the word acceptable terms used Allah says if the period is about to finish, make your decision, you want them you don't want them, you're either pathways or you either make amends. So if you part ways you do it, you need to do it according to acceptable terms. And if you decide the other way, then that two should be according to acceptable terms. So Allah says, Bring to witness to just men from among you, and establish the testimony for the acceptance of

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Allah, that is instructed to whoever should believe in Allah and the Last Day, and whoever fears Allah, He will make for him a way out.

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So let's look at the issue of witnesses.

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If a person divorces, the proper way of doing it is that you wait for the menstrual cycle and after the menstrual cycle, there must be a clean amount of days or there must be at least she must be clean after the menstrual cycle such cleanliness that you have not been intimate with her between the time you're going to issue that the divorce and the time that she had that menstrual cycle, when you bring along at least two witnesses. And when you issue that Allah, that is the proper way of doing things and you issue it as one Pollock. That is remarkable. That is now the ideal proper method that is taught by Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam to do it. What if someone doesn't have

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witnesses? For example, the vast majority, the overwhelming majority of the oma say that that alarm is still valid, because it's like shooting a bullet you shut it whether people were witnessing or not witnessing, that bullet has had its effect the way you did it, you are sinful for it. So you didn't have witnesses, you are sinful. You issued it in the menstrual cycle, you are sinful you issued it after the menstrual cycle, but you were intimate with her. You are sinful but that Allah is valid. I hope you're following me because one is validity and non validity and the other is whether you were sinful or not in the way and the method that you issued. And the ruling I've given

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you is that which is according to the overwhelming majority of the of the oma most of the scholars, the four schools of thought etc, etc. And the reason why I say overwhelming majority is you may hear other people

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They do belong to others who feel perhaps that may be that the law is not valid and so on. I'm going to mention to you what is mainstream and I'm going to carry on.

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So, Allah subhanho wa Taala has made this quite clear. then towards the end of that verse, Allah says, Whoever fears Allah, He will make for him a way out. Now the meaning of it will be completed if you read the next verse. So let's read the next verse, or part of it. Whoever fears Allah, He will make for him a way out and will provide for him from where he does not expect.

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And whoever relies upon Allah, then he is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set forth everything a decree

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a decreed extent. So this verse, these two verses, the end of verse two and the beginning of verse three are telling us that if you want to love miracles, you need to fear Allah, may Allah make it easy for us. You want the last miracle you need to fear Allah, those who fear Allah, those who are conscious of Allah, those who have Taqwa they are the ones whom Allah gives them a way out in such a way that they had not expected and imagined. Imagine, for example, not only in this issue is speaking about the luck, yes, but not only in Poland, even in Nicaragua, you want to marry someone and it's absolutely impossible according to every gauge that you have in your head. If you have taco

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Allah, you have the fear of Allah, there is a possibility if it is better for you allow it to happen. And if it is not better for you, it won't happen but Allah will make you feel somewhere down the line that you know what this was not good for me. That's all. That's all. later on. You may realize and this is why Allah says quite clearly, tequila. Allahu Maharajah, while I was in high school is if say, for example, you wanted to marry someone so desperately and you made so much too and you tried so hard. And you did this and did that. And Allah says, You know what I know it's not good for you. Either. Allah gives you what you want, which means the miracle was created according

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to your liking, or Allah replaces it with something even better. So that means it was a miracle, but maybe not according to what you wanted. Allah says we're giving you something even better. You're asking Allah Oh Allah, Oh Allah, I'm looking for a job at least $1,000 a month, Oh Allah, I'm looking for a job at least $1,000 a month. Or like, even if it is $500 a month, I'm happy. Guess what happens? Someone comes and offers you a job $5,000

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What happened? There is a miracle from Allah, your 1000 is somewhere far away. Your 500 is 10 times less. Allah says I gave you something 10 times more, that only comes with a lot of drama, a lot of closeness to Allah. And for a long period of time, not sometimes people are lucky, short period of time and they get it. Sometimes it's prolonged a year, two years, three years, and then Allah opens the door. Sometimes Subhanallah it's even longer than that I know of cases and instances where 10 years, 15 years, 16 years, then Allah opens the doors 20 years, then Allah opens the doors, what happens? It was just constant, constant, hoping Allah. The problem is shaitan comes to us after one

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year. And he makes us lose hope. And we close our doors and we sit.

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So it was always meant to be that you are going to close your doors. One might ask Where do I draw the line? Well, it's quite a simple answer. Or it may not be that simple, depending on what it is. But you draw a line where you know you want something but if something else crops up, for example, whether it is a job, no matter what it is, you can apply it in your own lives, you need to ask yourself, this that has cropped up, how good is it? What is the validity of it, you know, I need to gauge it with what Allah has taught me to gauge things by and then I need to make decisions. Somehow Allah Life is short and life is just a test. You will never ever get everything you want in your

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life never. Otherwise we'd be in Paradise, this would be considered paradise. So this is why Allah subhanho wa Taala says whoever fears Allah He will grant him sustain him. He will give him sustenance from where he never ever imagined Not at all.

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This is also showing us when you have a problem the way out is through the fearing of Allah through obedience through worship, not through sin. May Allah forgive us We are weak, we are insane. We are men, we tend to sin in order to try and achieve a person doesn't have wealth, they start thinking of how they can con people cheat and steal. May Allah forgive us but at the same time, if that person happened to be fearful of Allah, he probably would get wealth which has so much of Baraka and blessing in it even though it may not have been so much in terms of amount.

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And this is something beautiful my mothers and sisters do you know what I've just realized the time is up and we will only warming up inshallah Allah gives us the time, the the ability and capacity we will be going into further discussion regarding this issue of dialogue. It is extremely important, and I think we need to educate ourselves in this regard. We hope to meet again next week if Allah gives us that opportunity. Until then, was all Allahu wa salam wa barik ala nabina Muhammad Subhana Allah Subhana Colombo the handycam shadow Allah

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