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Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Alhamdulillah he robola alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Hill Karim while Lee he was happy he remained out of the Billahi min ash shaytani r rajim Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim woman yet tequila hi yah yah hoo Maharajah rubbish rally. Sorry, we're silly Omri. What? Hello okidata melissani Yes tahu Kohli, my beloved brothers and sisters, I welcome all of you to our another live webinar on a very important topic. And that is a part of a series of problem solving. Yes, be as an ala heeta Allah by the will and the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. inshallah, we are going to dive in to a very significant series, titled, problem solving series.

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This is the series that we thought that should be brought to you in sha Allah which will be in sha Allah isn't Allahu taala will be of great benefit to myself and to all of us insha Allah. Now, my beloved brothers and sisters, as always, we thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for helping us and guiding us to be able to be here for his sake. Indeed, we need to set our intentions are right at the foundation level itself. This is definitely for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And in his name, we begin this series with the dua

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and that is all Allah subhanho wa Taala we ask you, by every Majestic Name that you have, or Allah subhanho wa Taala we ask you with the names which we know in which we do not know, we ask Allah O Allah or Buddha Riza to ease our problems, whether it is of different natures, whether it is small or big, whether it is something which we are aware of, and something which we are not aware of. So we begin with this blog to Allah Subhana huhtala as a lot of binaries, he is the one who is the, you know, the the grantor of dewas Subhana Allah. So my beloved brothers and sisters, let me first give you the brief overview of this series insha Allah, as I mentioned, this series is going to be

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consists of four sessions. Today is the first session in sha Allah, and the following weeks we will continue with this series problem solving. Now the first session. In fact, the two sessions the first two sessions, we shouldn't focus and limit ourselves to talk about personal problems will not go away from the main subject that we have in front of us. That is personal problems. So we'll try to bring in certain elements which are related and relevant to an individual.

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So these two sessions will be focused on personal problems. Today in sha Allah and the following week, we shall be limiting ourselves to the personal problems and finding out the possible solutions and how we can actually address these problems with the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala the remaining two weeks or two sessions, we should focus on marital and family problems. So in that we shall include various other you know, matters related to family and marital issues insha Allah, so that we can, you know, dive in, in a gradual way and address the problems on an individual level, and then move on with the relations or with the marital and the family issues in sha Allah. So

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problems in life. First and foremost, we need to understand that we face problems every single day. And we need to ensure that none of us none of us is immune from problems.

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Don't you agree?

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Indeed, we face problems on a daily basis. And Subhana Allah. When we actually know this is something which we have to face and encounter on a daily basis. We need to prepare ourselves

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We need to have a structured process or methodology that is based on divine principles that would help us to actually address these problems that we face on a daily basis. And sometimes we face problems on different situations. So, our attempt B is an Allahu taala, with the permission of Allah subhanho wa Taala is to ensure that we draw a proper, complete structured framework that would help us to deal with various problems, obviously, in these, you know, relatively relatively short sessions. It's not possible to address each and every problem, but inshallah, what we are going to do is we are going to divide the you know, draw certain parameters, certain principles, certain

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golden rules, that will help us get equipped to deal with different problems in sha Allah. So, number one, what is problem solving, you see what is problem solving, so it is actually a process of finding possible solutions. So, again, let me repeat, it's a process of finding possible solution or solutions for that matter. Now, this is problem solving. And we all have to get equipped with this skill of problem solving. Because we need to realize and understand that problem solving skill is something which is learnable,

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which is learnable, meaning that you and I can actually learn the problem solving skill and deal with the problems. And I'm sure if we sincerely and seriously understand this process, by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala, we will be able to see significant change in our lives, when we deal with the problems the way we used to deal with it. And now, after knowing the process, and the golden rules and the structured way of dealing with problems, we will be able to insha Allah be in Manila to Allah find significant difference before and after. So I

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urge you to focus with me on this journey of problem solving series, where we will discuss

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personal problems in the first two sessions and mantle and family problems in the next two sessions. Now, my beloved brothers and sisters,

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what we need to also realize and understand is,

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what is life. Before even diving into problems, we need to understand what is life all about understanding life and the stages of life will help us understand and recognize that insha Allah, this journey is not so difficult the way we actually perceive it. Now, when we see life, it has different stages or phases of life, we have the first phase of life, which is actually an infancy stage. We know that that's the phase which is Subhan Allah might assume Allah subhanaw taala is not going to, you know, put us accountable in that age. When we move further. The second stage is the you know, toddler age again, that's a tender age, then when we move on from that age, to the young

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age, which is which we also include the teen age, from that age onwards, actually speaking, the accountability begins, the moment we

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get mature, our accountability factor will be will begin. So we need to be conscious enough to understand that we have to really see and be aware of this process of problem solving right from that age. So the phase from the teen age, and then we have the adult age, we have the middle age, and then we have the old age, these are the phases so until the teen age Subhanallah we have no accountability. So even if the problems we are not able to deal with the problems, which are you know, overwhelming and all that stuff, that is again

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Something which Allah subhanaw taala is going to take care of, and we are not going to be accountable for that the real age begins, as I said, from the time when a person gets mature until the old age, and this phase is perhaps, you know, 50 years, 60 years, you know, more or less, this is the stage where we actually encounter people, we actually face problems or solutions, we actually face or witness events or incidents. So, this is the whole journey of our life, during these stages, we have to be conscious and, you know, be aware of this process of problem solving, which would help us in great deal Subhanallah So, understand the lifespan, the stages that you and I have to be

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conscious enough, in order to address the problems we devise and divine solutions.

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Now, what are the types of problems that we actually have in our lives, you know, the types of problems that we actually face in our lives is number one, certain problems which are, you know, which will actually disappear as the time goes by. So as we say, you know, Subhan, Allah, by the will of Allah time is a healer, you know, by the will of Allah. So, you have to give time to that problem, and it will disappear as it as the time passes. The second type of problem is something which is which you, you and I cannot do anything about, you know, you and I can't do anything, we have to definitely live certain times with those problems with patients and prayers, Subhan Allah,

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the third problem, which is, again, a problem, which requires a lot of energy in order to bring up the solution. Now, having said that, there are levels of problems, we know that all problems are not the same.

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And depending on the level of problem, we need to actually put our investment of time, energy, resources, you know, focus, and the rest. So if the problem is, for example, simple, we just don't have to really, really work for it so much with a you know, little bit of solution, it will just appear it will resolve, but there are certain problems, which are difficult problems, again, depending on the level of the problem, we need to exert ourselves to deal with those problems. The third level of problem is

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company complex problem, you know, it really requires not just you but you might have to involve certain experts to resolve that issue. And there are certain problems which are chaotic problems. I mean, that problem you never, ever expected and it just came boom, and that's it, you are not prepared for it, you and I suddenly, you know, face the situation. So, again, being a believer, we need to be firm in trusting Allah subhanaw taala and be patient in those chaotic times you and I can't do anything about it. So as as we say, situations, incidents, you know, they are not in our hands, it's in the hands of Allah subhanho wa Taala. But what is in our hands, as Allah has given us

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the ability is to deal with those problems insha Allah, so, mind you, you need to understand the level of problems and the and the possible solutions according to those levels. Now, my beloved brothers and sisters, we need to also realize and understand that we have to focus on certain areas where the problems come into our life, what are those areas or you know, paths or ways

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by adopting those ways, the problem comes into our lives. So number one is the spiritual area, through the spiritual path. The problems come into our life, and we need to deal with those. So there are challenges or obstacles in achieving that way because obviously, as believers we have spiritual goal. Every goal has a debt that itself is a destination and it has a way. So in in in following that way. We have to

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Know that there will be certain obstacles, certain challenges, certain problems that will come for assurity. So, we need to be aware of those, you know, problems, number two is the physical or the health, you know, issues or the problems, we need to be aware of those as well, we need to be aware of social, you know, emotional relationship problems as well, because the more we are aware of that area, the better we can deal with it insha Allah, number four will have financial issues, financial problems, you know, financial instability actually distress people a lot. So, we need to really be able to make us, you know, aware of that area as well too, so, that we can deal with it and linked

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with that fifth area, which is the career or the academics, you know, area where we find again, certain problems and we have to deal with those inshallah. So, my beloved brothers and sisters, let us begin with the spirit,

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you know, area, and it all begins, as I said, we will focus on personal problem in this and the following session. So, personally, we need to be aware that there will be definite process that we need to adopt in order to solve problems that goes on within our self. So,

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spiritual well being is something which is of high, high importance in Islam for the believer, if he is spiritually fit, if he is, mentally, you know, in a state of well being Subhan, Allah, he can deal with problems in a very bold and sensible manner. So, spiritual and mental well being Subhan, Allah, it all begins from where it all begins from your mind. So you need to mentally Be prepared very well in order to deal with the problem. So somehow Allah, as I said, none of us is immune from problems, you know, Subhan Allah, the best of the creations of Allah subhanaw taala as the prophets and the messengers, they were involved and they had to face certain problems, and the most important

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and the most beloved to Allah subhanaw taala the prophets and a number and he said them, himself had to go through several difficulties, and he had to face certain problems and issues in his life. And that actually gave us a sense of guidance of how Allah in order to deal with it. So whenever we hear the Hadith of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, whenever we get to know the guidance and the steps and the advices, from the Prophet sallallahu sallam, we need to know that these solutions, these advisors are not just lip service, he actually gone under it, and that's the reason he has been declared by Allah subhanho wa Taala Lakota karnala configure rasulillah he was swattin Hasina. The

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best example for you and me to follow in our lives is the life of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So, he has actually absorbed himself with the problems in life, he has gone through it, he has practically witnessed and faced those problems and he has given us Subhanallah the best of the solutions. So we need to be aware of that, and Subhanallah mentally when we are faced mentally, when we are strong in terms of taking care of our spiritual well being at the priority level, then inshallah most of the things will resolve in its own way. So we need to make sure that as an individual, we don't have to be under certain you know, complex situation where we get into stress,

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anxiety, you know, you know, bipolar disorder, you know, depression for that matter. We don't have to get into all those things neither we have to, you know, possess certain qualities which actually come as a problem like for example, you know, envy, egoism, you know, selfishness, and having that suspicious attitude, you know, your thinking is always run on negative grounds. These are the things which actually come as a spoiler in our path SubhanAllah. So, we need to be aware of one very, very important thing as an individual. We need to prepare ourselves to face the problems now. First thing as I said, we need to be aware of the spiritual

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Well being have your state in a in a well designed and well makeup, you know,

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to to face any kind of problems inshallah

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falling to that we need to ensure that we do our heart therapy, our heart, where happiness stores and emotion stores we need to take care of it very, very well Subhan Allah, there are as the scholars say, there are three states that the heart can stay in the first is the diseased heart or the sick hard, the third, that the second is the, you know, dead heart Subhanallah and the third is the healthy heart. So, the Supreme is the healthy heart, and then we have the sick heart, and then the worst of it, the dead heart. So, most of us we strive to struggle between the the, the heart, the state of the heart, which is actually speaking, it is in a sick condition. So many times, we

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actually live spiritually in a coma condition, spiritually, we live in a coma condition many times because of the connection that we have, we are supposed to have with Allah subhanaw taala many times that is lacking. So we need to have that heart therapy, we need to make sure that our heart is sound, our heart is healthy, our heart is you know, strong insha Allah with the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala in similar fashion, we need to also understand that the organs that we have has an impact has an impact on our problem solving process. So, for example, the way we communicate the choice of words that we use, the way we actually speak with each other, it has a great impact on the

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whole process of problem solving. So Subhanallah the first we need to ensure and understand that we have to be aware of these things, so that we can actually deal with them at the first instance, and we need to make sure that we we go with certain principles. So, there are certain golden rules as as I call it, golden rules of problem solving. So, we will go through these golden rules of problem solving. So number one rule that you and I have to be aware of, is

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we have to have certain belief in Allah subhanaw taala that he is the problem solver. Many times we fail to realize that the problem that we have, it can be easily be solved if we actually go back to the one who is the problem solver. And that is Allah subhana wa tada and he knows when to solve the problem, how to solve the problem. So you and I cannot actually data mine and decide that you know what, after one hour I should be out of problem. No, we cannot. That's not in our control that's in Allah's control, we need to do our own efforts and then rely on Allah subhanaw taala. So we need to have certain belief on the problem solver. Number two, we need to have believe that the problem

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solving recipe, the problem solving book is the Quran and the authentic hadith, there is no better solution that you and I can get outside this Subhan Allah why because it came from Allah subhanho wa Taala again, so, he has given us this life and he has given us Islam as a way of life and he has given us the Quran as the book of life, he has given us prophets of Allah and he sent him as a practical example for life. So where are you and I are going to search for the possible and the best solutions outside this domain which a lot of Bonanza has given us right. So we need to ensure that we have this this this first you know mindset wherein Allah is our problem solver. Quran and you

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know authentic hadith are the best books of problem solving. Number three, we have a practical guide as a problem solver and that is Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam so when we have this inshallah things will be way better in sha Allah. Now, having said that, my beloved brothers and sisters, the criteria of problem in our minds, the nature of problems that we actually encounter and we face in our lives is to panela I was doing you know, a little bit of survey or re

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search on before you know presenting the seminar, or press or webinar, in fact, on what are the common problems that if one is asked, if he has to write down what are the problems that he actually face on a daily basis. And, to my surprise, many people, many people, if not all, have actually talked about the problem that they face of, you know, you know, with wife, with, with children, with husband, with relations with boss with colleagues, or, you know, with traffic with, you know, you know, finance.

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Many people that don't realize the actual problem that we act, you know, tend to ignore or tend to, or fail to realize or recognize, is, for example, if I were to ask myself, and if I ask you, or you ask yourself,

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what about at the beginning of our day, the problem of not praying, for example, the problem of not connecting with Allah subhanho wa Taala, with the vicar of Allah, the problem of, you know, not being linked with the, with the Quran on a daily basis, we we just don't recognize and understand that these are actually major problems. If we don't connect right at the beginning of the day, with the one who is the problem solver. How are we supposed to expect our lives bill will be settled with ease and peace? How am I supposed to actually expect solutions for the problems that I have, without even fixing my relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala my connection with him is weak? And am I

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How am I supposed to actually zoom in my wireless dream that Allah is going to help me that's not possible. So these problems we need to be really be aware of spirituality problems, you know, not not praying on time, not getting connected with with, you know, with with Salah, not making sure that we read the Quran every single day in the morning specially, you know, these are the things which if we fix it, right, then inshallah things will be a lot better. And we don't really have even regret of not, you know, having those, you know, problems in our mind Subhan Allah, so we need to be really, really aware of my beloved brothers and sisters on those issues as well. Now Golden Rule

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number two so as I said Golden Rule number one is we need to believe that Allah is the problem solver or an aha these are the books of problem solving and profits to the level and he says is the practical example of problem solving. The second golden rule is Allah subhanho wa Taala. With this is something which is a relieving factor for any and every problem My beloved brothers and sisters, listen to this.

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Allah Subhana huhtala Golden Rule number two, Allah subhanho wa Taala he first gave the ability to us and then gave the problem meaning whenever whenever there is a problem, realize and recognize that you and I have the ability capability to deal with that problem. This is our Iman, Allah subhanho wa Taala. He says in Surah, Al Baqarah, surah number two, and number 286 lie you can lift Allahu nafcillin illa was Allah, Allah subhanaw taala will not put a burden on you which you cannot wear Subhana Allah. So I need to realize you need to realize the problem that comes in my life.

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That problem to deal with that problem. I am capable many of times many times we get into stress into anxiety into depression, thinking, I can't handle this.

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I can't handle this island.

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I'm sorry for the interruption. Many times as I said, we tend to feel that

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I can't handle this. It's beyond my capacity. And as a result, I block my mind when I block my mind. I actually close all the doors where I can actually get to possible solutions Subhan Allah so we need to realize and understand my beloved brothers and sisters, is we have to make sure to have this believe that Allah Subhana huhtala first gave the ability and then the problem inshallah the golden rule

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Three is, let's, let's make sure let's make sure to also believe that whenever there is a problem in our lives, there is ease as well. It's other matter that we actually focus only on the problem, forgetting what is the point of ease in our lives Subhan Allah, a lot of resources for in nama nursery, Yusra, with hardships, there is ease. So who is saying this? Allah subhanho wa Taala You and I, whenever whenever mark these words, my beloved brothers and sisters, whenever there are many problems that we actually face in our lives, we also have many things which are of ease, which gives us which can give us peace, which can which is a great, you know, blessings from Allah subhanho wa

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Taala, great favors from Allah subhanaw taala. So, for example, you know, if I have a problem, you know, emotional problems, spiritual problem, or, for that matter, financial problem, I have to be thankful to Allah subhanaw taala at least, I'm able to think that how I can resolve this, at least unlinked, I'm actually breathing, at least I am able to, you know, talk to someone for, for finding out the best solution. So Subhan Allah, Allah subhanaw taala gave a golden rule with every hardship, there is is so sometimes we are many times for that matter, we tend to focus so much on problems, we actually do not have any eye on the favors that Allah subhanho wa Taala has done. So the golden rule

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is, we have to believe and live upon this belief that with hardships, there is certainly what is insha Allah. Now, a Golden Rule Number four, understand that not everything is in your in my hand, not everything is in your and my hand. Everything is in the hands of only the one Allah subhanho wa Taala. So there's nothing much you and I can do. Right? The to the best of our human capacity, we can deliver something which is the best to our capacities, then we have no other way but to rely on Allah subhanaw taala and to have that consciousness in our lives and Allah subhanaw taala says something so powerful and so practical and so powerful to how to love a lot of malaria. He says

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woman Yeah, tequila hyah Allah who Maharajah if you and I gain Allah consciousness, Allah will take us out from any problem, any difficulty, any issue, any challenge, any obstacle, you and I have to make sure that we have the taqwa of Allah subhanaw taala. And when we have Taqwa our trust, tawakkol will build on that when we have our coolin Allah subhanaw taala Allah help is certain had that no doubt about it allows help is certain insha Allah, right. So we need to have that that belief that not everything is in our hands. So you don't have to really over stress yourself that you can't do this and that you can't, I can't do everything, we can do certain things based on our capacity. So

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this will again come as a relieving factor inshallah. Golden Rule Number five, everything will not happen our way. Everything will not happen the way we want.

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But everything, definitely uncertainly happens the way Allah subhanaw taala wants, so we need to be really happy. And as as we know, you know, it's very important to also realize that if we see things happen in our way, we need to be happy Alhamdulillah but if we see it happens the way Allah wants it, we need to be happy twice. Why? Because Allah knows better than I do. Allah knows my situation better than I do. Allah has a better solution that I do. So I trust in Him. And because of that trusting factor, I'm happy twice and hamdulillah right. So not everything happens, you know, our way so we have to have that that fact, you know, in our lives inshallah, and this is a golden rule in

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Islam. You know, that's the reason Allah Subhana Allah says in Surah, Baqarah surah number two, and 216 and that, perhaps you might like a thing, but that's not good for you. And sometimes you might have

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You know, don't like a thing but that's good for you. So Allah knows and you do not know that's what Allah says. So we need to have that trust in Allah subhanaw taala and move on in our lives. Also my beloved brothers and sisters, another golden rule is we need to stop comparison with people Subhan Allah problems that we see in our lives, then we try to see with that glasses, others life. So for example, if somebody is going through financial distress, he sees the other person who is financially very stable, but you don't know that he is going through some other problem. So you trying to compare him and thinking that he's happier than you do, then that is actually going to

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increase another problem right, it will not only you know, bring a new problem, it will not resolve your current problem. So, we need to be aware that stop comparison with the people compare with yourself, you should be better than what you were yesterday and you should be much better tomorrow, what you are today. So this is how you know Golden Rule helps inshallah, in our lives, also my beloved brothers and sisters, learn to smile, learn to smile during difficult times Subhan Allah, this is something which is affecting, you know, not just our trust in him, but also it affects psychologically when you have when you are energetic, when you are strong, when you are, you know,

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upbeat, in dealing with problem with smile, Subhan Allah is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, you know, smile is one of the charities that you can actually pay. So, obviously with the charity, you get a reward. And this is something when you actually carry with an intention of the sooner Allah subhanaw taala. His help will come for a surety in sha Allah, also my beloved brothers and sisters, another golden rule is whenever you and I have a problem, avoid, I repeat, avoid sharing it with everyone, this will increase your problem, this will go on a higher level of your problem even if the problem is simple, and you keep discussing with with different people, your

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problem will become more bigger and SubhanAllah. They will be certain people who will blow your problem more bigger, and you will not be able to find the optimum and the best solution from those people. So avoid talking about your problems with every single one. Yes, we need to share our problem with those whom we feel our experts whom we feel that they are our well wishes, then obviously we have to share our problem with them in order to discuss and find the possible solutions that we'll discuss in the stead steps or the stages of problem solving. Insha Allah also my beloved brothers and sisters, we need to realize and understand that many times our problems will disappear

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when we start writing down the favors that Allah subhanaw taala has done and start recognizing Subhan Allah start recognizing that Allah or Buddha is, has given so much. Yes, there are problems we have to live with. And this is a part and parcel of life.

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But there are so many blessings we don't even realize. And this realization will happen when you actually write down write down the favors that you have write down that Allah has given you eyes with which you can simply write down that you have a tongue Subhanallah with which you can speak right down to the heart that you have is is a healthy umbrella, write down that you can actually move your hand write down that you can walk on your feet, write down that you have so many blessings, Allahu Akbar, and a lot of boiler he says he says we're in Urdu nirma tala E, la sua. If you and I were to enumerate, calculate and account for the blessings that Allah has given, we will

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never be able to count them Subhan Allah so my beloved brothers and sisters, appreciate thank Allah for the blessings that you have the problems that you have, it will slowly insha Allah be set down or it will it you will be able to deal with them in a better way when you have a positive mindset. Why? Because again, gold another golden rule is you have to erase negativity in your life while doing problem solving why negativity actually kills the ability to solve problems. When you are negative. Your ability will go down, it will drop down and you will not be in a position to deal with the problems Subhanallah

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So you need to make sure that you be positive. How does the positivity come into your life? When you think about goodness, think and write down and discuss with people about the great, you know, days that you have spent in your life? What were those best moments that you have spent in your life, share it with people listen to this, when you actually share those great days, great moments with people, you will feel accomplished, you will feel better. And when you see now there are certain problems insha Allah, I will deal with them in a way that is pleasing to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So my beloved brothers and sisters, following the golden rules of thanking Allah recognizing and

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appreciating the favors done by Allah, Allah subhanaw taala helps us a lot overcoming the problems in sha Allah. And

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another Golden Rule, my beloved brothers and sisters is know that every problem Subhan Allah brings you, you know,

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in a better way, makes you a better person shines your personality, it will make you a more powerful being Allahu Akbar, imagine if you have no problem, how are we going to learn how to fight back with those problems? How are we going to learn lessons from those failures? How are we going to, you know, come up or get up from from those sales scenarios. panela and the most important of all, the beauty whenever there is a problem comes, recognize and understand that every problem that you have, it actually takes you closer to Allah subhanaw taala Imagine if there are no problems at all, will we go back to Allah, many of us we don't, right, as long as this the the the life is going smooth,

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we just don't tend to you know, turn towards Allah subhanaw taala but the moment we get the problem, we actually turn to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So, Golden Rule is know that the problem behind the problem, there is a very powerful, you know, solution and that is that it takes you closer to Allah subhanaw taala. And remember, problem will disappear as the time goes, but Allah will stay with you Allah, how beautiful is that? Right problems will leave on the insha Allah right but Allah will stay with you. So that's the achievement in sha Allah. Also my beloved brothers and sisters, another Golden Rule of problem solving is be busy yourself, you know, make yourself as busy as possible in

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good things, engage yourself heavily with that which is righteous. When you engage in those righteous acts. Obviously, when you do right when you do that which is good, the bad will be removed by Allah subhanho wa Taala. So when you engage for Allah, Allah will engage for you to remove those, you know, problems or issues in your life, my beloved brothers and sisters, another golden rule is the self actualization self actualization is something which is so important and so immense, that many of us we fail to realize, you know, having the sense that I can manage it, I can deal with the problem. I have the ability granted by Allah subhanho wa Taala I have the ability to pay attention

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to those problems to the minute to minute, just level and I can deal with it insha Allah so when you have these sense of thoughts, Subhan Allah, it will help you the self help, as we say is the best help. So you stand up firm believing in Allah, trusting Allah having consciousness of Allah having the example of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam having the recipes from the Quran and the Sunnah, you will definitely be able to overcome any and every kind of problem insha Allah be in Allahu taala My beloved brothers and sisters, another way to deal with the problems in life is you be a person who can provide solution to the problems of others, when you help others. Remember, Allah will help you.

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When you are beneficial for people, Allah will send some beneficial people to you in your life, or he will send solutions to your life that will that you can't even imagine Allahu Akbar. So my beloved brothers and sisters, these are the golden rules that we have to keep in mind when we actually deal with the personal problems, right? And the more stronger that we are within ourselves, the better that we can actually deal with, with any and every kind of situation. Insha Allah, my beloved brothers and sisters

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We will end with with the

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the process of problem solving, you see what is the process the step by step process of problem solving this is very important for us to understand whether it is a problem, which is of, you know, small, big or whatever the type of the nature of the problem is, this process, the step by step process will help you come out of that problem by the will of Allah subhanaw taala. So, what is the first step, first step is to identify what the problem is, many of times that problem is so trivial that you can just address it, Bart, because you don't identify that as a problem, that is actually a bigger problem. Let me repeat, not identifying a problem as a problem is actually a bigger problem,

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Allahu Akbar. So, we need to be aware, identify that problem, when you identify the problem, the second is, you need to identify what are the causes of that problem, what causes this problem, so, because when you actually you know, address the cause,

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the problem insha Allah, it will be eradicated from the root level, otherwise, you will keep on, you know, providing solutions which are shallow, and which are not very strong and deep, it will keep coming back to your life. So, number one, identify what the problem is, identify what are the causes of that problem, so that, you know, what are those symptoms by which you can actually address them at the root level, for example,

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you're not in talking terms with anyone, do not prolong that, you know, when you have prolonged, when you have when you create a gap, that's when actually shutdown comes into play. And he will make sure that this relationship will be broken completely and forever, Allahu Akbar. So making sure that you know, the problem, and the you know, the cause of the problem, going to settle down, go and just fix your relationship with people Subhan, Allah, the moment you do that, without, you know, spending time without spending gap, it will be a healer in sha Allah. So number one, identify the problem number two, identify the causes of the problem. And number three, understand everyone's interest.

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Sometimes you have to, you know, take up the solution, which is good for all as well, right? You just can't enjoy your fruits and then others are being harmed by it, you can't do that. So you need to understand others interest as well. Number four, you need to list out the possible solutions, because it's not necessary that you have just one solution, right? You need to list down the possible solutions. And number five, you need to pick up the best solution. Right? As I said, sometimes the solution for for poverty would be going you know stealing, you know, this is a solution. But this is not a right solution. This is not a wise solution. So you don't you don't take

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those solution, you take a wise solution, right solution, and you implement that solution, you actually implement that solution. That solution should be in line with the faith based principles with the principles of the Quran and the teachings of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi salam, as I said, there is no solution, there was no solution and there will be no solution better than what is given in the Quran and the teachings of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam. So, you need to list down the possible solutions, and then pick up the best possible solution for that time and implemented, when you implemented you need to understand that that solution might might not work and

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it might give certain consequences which might you know, take you in a different position in a more difficult situation. So you need to be prepared and for the consequences and then address and adjust yourself and move on in life with a better solution. inshallah, these are the stages and these are the steps that you have to engage yourself in. When you do the problem solving inshallah, we ask Allah subhanaw taala to ease the problems that we all are going through, we ask Allah subhanaw taala to ease the the challenges that we are going through in our lives, whether it be of different nature, whether we have in different areas, we ask Allah subhanaw taala to ease the lives in

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totality, so that insha Allah, we just don't, you know, find solution to be better a person or to live in a nice way in this world, but also to live in the hereafter in a better way. Because that is again a biggest problem. And that solution, we have to you know, find it here in this world while we are alive. So when we are active enough conscious enough and having trust in Allah subhanaw taala

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Insha Allah, the end which is going to be forever that is the hereafter will be a better place for us insha Allah we evon illa Allah wa Hilda awana Anil hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen.

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Joseph Hello, Kevin Sheikh for that wonderful session and beautiful and practical tips on problem solving

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shaker we have some questions on this, but most of the questions that we have received are on the light family and marital problems and inshallah we have a series coming on it. So, we will defer those questions and we will take some food questions we have right now, which are general problems. So

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as you rightly said, like as we just want to make sure that the brothers and sisters who are watching us and we'll be watching later as well should take it as as a gradual recipe inshallah not diving into completely in overwhelming themselves. So, we take a step by step inshallah, let me remind you that inshallah, your questions will definitely be answered, answered and it will be addressed, but on the right time inshallah. inshallah Joseph allow her and shake so inshallah we'll take the questions which are more appropriate for the topic, which we dealt with today.

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The first question Sheikh is a,

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it's from a sister, in order to buy a house, or for a startup, I presume the startups she meets for our small business something from where will a Muslim get an interest free loan,

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how to love

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according to me, are not very well aware of this area of, you know, expertise where one can assess that, yes, this is alone, which is, you know, Islamic in perspective, following the guidelines of Islam, I'm not aware of certain, you know, organizations per se, who basically follow, you know, correct in authentic and genuine guidelines of Islam, from where you can actually take, you know, your loan for building the house, but in general, what I would advise you and guide you is, sister, we need to realize that this world is temporary in nature, ideally speaking, in Islam, even part of the hasna, which is the credit, which is without interest, that is also not actually encouraged in

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Islam. So, as a general guidance, we need to understand that sometimes we try to burden ourselves beyond what we actually need and require, and we get into a situation wherein we find later on difficult to come out from, so we need to move in our lives in a sensible way. You know, Subhan, Allah is one of the, you know, our righteous predecessors, he says, that if you know, how to live with the minimum, you will live a very happy life. But if you want to live in a bigger way, with bigger things with more and more, then no matter what comes in it, you know, you will never be happy. So Subhana Allah, try to live in that which is minimal, yes, if you are able to and I ask

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Allah subhanaw taala to provide you, you know, sustenance and resources, without even getting engaged in any type of loan as such loan per se, as we saw as we know, it's not Haram, everybody, you know, requires it at some of the other point, but to really work for getting it, beyond what we actually need and require, that is something which is not really encouraged, a person can live in a decent way on a rental house, as long as he is living Subhan Allah when our life will end, so maybe you know, the burden of that loan might might come on the shoulder of you know, somebody else after you pass away. So why to get into such situations where we can, on the alternative way can live in a

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peaceful in a nice way. You know, even with the rental house insha Allah Allah knows best and you might, you know, consult someone if you really want to advance your you know, your, you know, plants, you can consult someone who is specialized in Allah, Allah.

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Joseph, Aloha and shake mela make it easy for everyone. schicht Another question is also a question of on the thick for the interest, but I'll push for you. Working in bank building with interest is prohibited in it.

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Islam please suggest if it is okay saving money in the bank and not taking interest. So, this is a common problem what people have faced in India, right the scholars have with the opinion that you can keep because there are no other proper or you know, practical solutions to keep your money in the banks, you can keep in the banks as a scholar say, but the interest obviously, you cannot take it. So, the advice by the scholars for this amount that you actually get as interest, you can give it in any good cause, not expecting a reward from it, not expecting a reward from it you can give to any charitable, you know, cause in sha Allah, and that is the opinion of the majority of the

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scholars and Allah knows best.

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Just follow her and share.

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Shake another question from a sister. I'm trying to find jobs since long time I'm getting call from companies for interview interviews also going good. But I'm not getting job. What is the best job for getting the job because of not getting job? I'm in too much tension. And I'm going to depression I cannot concentrate in prayer, please. Right. Right. First of all, we ask Allah subhanaw taala to open the doors for you. And for everyone who is looking for halaal income in their lives. I mean, Yoruba, Allah mean, my dear sister, we need to realize and understand that a lot of belleza has named himself with so many attributes and names Subhan Allah, which is with reference to risk. Allah

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subhanho wa Taala he says, Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen Allah is the rub rub has a very wider meaning, not one English word can actually give the sense of what rub really means. It means the provider sustainer cherisher controller, the provider and the one who is the source of all risks of Han Allah. So Allah is the rub, he knows when to give who and how much keep his, you know, trust in your life, and suparna loving you have this trust. Of course, it's easier said than done. But then we need to realize that, you know, there is no other way, which is better for you and me while we are into that situation than trusting Allah subhanaw taala. And of course, as you are playing your

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part, you're trying to search you're trying to, you know, find, you know, opportunities, but still it's not getting that means Allah subhanho wa Taala has a better plan for you has a plan which you and I are not aware of at this moment, but when you keep processing Allah subhanho wa Taala you will find some of the other way granted by Allah subhanaw taala will be far more better what you could get, you know, for now, for example, so keep reliance on him insha Allah and read the certain two hours which are prescribed in the Quran. And as well as in the Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, has has taught us so many doors, a lot of barriers he taught us, you know,

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Subhana Allah da is something which is actually the acknowledgement of our weakness, the acknowledgement of our weakness, and the ultimate strength of Allah. Allahu Akbar, when we admit that we can't do much and beyond and what we are doing, that's when we connect and we rely on the one who is the grantor of everything, a lot of Bonanza, and Allah is a he says we learned a smart person for the room will be ha, Allah to Allah belongs the Most Beautiful Names. So call out to Allah by using these names so you can say your rub in your duar your rub, grandmothers, your rezac grandmothers, your Jabbar grant minister, Dr. corder, Allah is the Qatar is the powerful one grant

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minister Allah Who is the Musab bibble as Bob who is the grantor of everything Who is the one who provides sources which you and I cannot imagine. So ask Allah by using these names. number one number two, have Taqwa in your life a lot of diseases woman yet today La Jolla Allahu Maharaja wire a Zuko who mean hi to Leia the sin when you become Allah conscious, Allah will provide you He will give you a risk from that which you can't even imagine. So have Taqwa in Allah and Allah will provide you number two, number three, you can ask Allah subhanho wa Taala in the last part of the night, where Allah Buddha he comes down

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which suits to His Majesty in concert is there anyone who wants from me, I will grant you so you can, you know, pray the 100 100 is something which is very, very powerful Salah for fulfilling all our needs or our claims to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So, by doing these acts, my dear sister, you will be able to find relief number one relief in your heart stability in your Eman firmness in your belief in Allah subhanaw taala should not be compromised in any situation, you and I do not have to get into depression, anxiety that's not the piece of cake of a believer. That's not what we want. That's not we want to you know, land up ourselves when we have the Quran, the Sunnah and the belief

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in Allah subhanaw taala How can we imagine to get into such such things? And Allah when Allah is with you and me, how can we even imagine to get into depression Subhan Allah, if you have the greatest Deen and that is the pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala everything gets into trivial thing, you know, this risk this job, this career, this building this house, everything will fall on your feet and even if it is not, when you as long as you have Allah in your heart, you will find certainty sukoon satisfaction pleasure in your life inshallah and you will move on and again we ask Allah subhanaw taala to open the doors of risk for you insha Allah and for the rest as well.

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Amin Amina bloemen, Joseph will occur in Chico La Raza King, may Allah grant, Mr. shaker, one of the common problems what most of the people who are working, they find us in the current society, a lot of parties to happen when I'm talking about office parties and all the alcohol sometimes as a part of that party. So has a Muslim, what what guidance would you give with regards to these parties? Because sometimes it's very difficult for a person to say no. So these are the kinds of questions right environments that can actually expect the Wrath of Allah, environments and atmosphere where there is a danger there is a danger to your Eman to your belief and to your actions where you could

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expect anything could happen. And alcohol is something which is the shakedowns handiwork, Allah subhanaw taala says, fetch the Naboo the Allah come to your home is true from it, abstain from it, so that you may prosper. So Subhana Allah being with those people who get into an influence of alcohol also might give you a sense of danger and you have to avoid with the best of the manners in the respectful terms. SubhanAllah you know,

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I can quote, you know, one of my ins own incidents where we actually had, you know, I was working in an American company and the culture of there is that when you you know, you know, perform excellent, the party will begin by the, the CEO by the owner himself. So Alhamdulillah by the grace of Allah I had performed as an excellent performer and the CEO he actually gave the party in order to give the the, you know, sense of achievement to me, and to Allah, the moment when I got into that party, I saw the alcohol was serving on the table, and within two minutes, I excused myself in the nicest possible way. And I moved out later on the same CEO when he got to know that that this was the

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reason he again arranged the party without alcohol being served there. So a lot of Valensa is the one who is who gives you the the risk, who gives you respect who gives the protection SubhanAllah. You and I as believers, we need to be very sensitive with our Eman with our amahl with our actions, the end with our environment, we have to be really really worried about Subhan Allah in the current time where the way we are afraid of Coronavirus, this COVID-19 this virus we have to be aware that the virus have wrong you know, that which is impermissible, that is which is prohibited in Islam. That virus could cause you know, danger to my Eman. So we have to be well aware of those viruses as

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well. You know, Subhan Allah when we have that consciousness, Allah will take you out from any problem. So, yes, I understand. Sometimes it becomes difficult but it's not impossible at all. Nobody on the face of the earth can actually force you

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do that which is not in the norms at all insha Allah

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just follow her and shake, shake, there is one more issue which is very prevalent in the society with regards to being liberal and at the same time having freedom. So

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I'm talking in terms of modernism, where you know, the sisters do not consider wearing Hijab and these kinds of problems with the sisters are facing. So how do you deal with this problem, liberal and

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the more the moment we claim ourselves as Muslim, which means the one who submits his will to Allah subhanho wa Taala, the moment he submits his will to Allah subhanaw taala he is into agreement with what Allah has, you know, designed for him. So the design of Allah subhanho wa Taala is the prescription which is mentioned in the Quran and the description which is in the life of the Prophet salallahu alaihe. Salam, as long as we are within the framework of these, you know, principles provided by Islam, we can be as liberal as we can, but the moment we break this framework, which is, you know, designed by Allah subhanho wa Taala, then we are in danger, then we try to say that we are

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a Muslim, but we do something which is not reflecting our submission to Allah subhanaw taala then we are submitting to something else other than Allah, may Allah protect us all. So the, the notion of freedom, the notion of liberalism, it is actually enslaving to those customs and cultures that actually go and lead a person to the path of destruction. And we see numerous examples of such that were in a system adopts a mindset of liberalism, you know, freedom of doing anything and everything and ends up in a problem and then regrets when it's too late and then comes back and do nothing Subhan Allah, so we need to be really aware of when we say we are Muslim, we have submitted

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ourselves to Allah. And now, there is not a single say, that we can have in terms of living principles, other than what a lot of galerija has prescribed for us, and what the prophet sallallahu Sallam has described. For us our freedom, our liberalism is within the parameters of Islam inshallah.

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Joseph Allaah, current chief for that wonderful, comprehensive shake Ameriquest all the audience's that if they have any question on a general problems, they can please pose the questions in the chat and inshallah we will take them. If not, we have a last question from a sister. So till the time she can take this last question. Can you please if you have any questions, please put it in the chat. We have some time with share right now.

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So the last question what we have shared is has a believer How can we overcome problems and stress due to delaying something like something you expect in life which is eventually going to happen but it's not happening? It's getting delayed, delayed delayed? So and then how do we have server in these kinds of thing where you feel it's now a problem for you that you're not achieving something which is meant for you which getting right now as a believer, as a believer, as I said we need to you know practice, I call it two piece to piece. The first is the patience and two is the prayer Allah or Buddha he taught us this methodology of seeking support. This is the support system

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mechanism with which you can actually gain the energy to make yourself stable and firm in believing in believing in Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah says was trying ob Sabri was Salah, seek the help from Allah through patience and prayer. Patience keeps you always firm up to date active energetic, having that that real mindset wherein you know you move on with the commands of Allah you protect yourself from that which is displeasing to Allah subhanaw taala and you are ready to face any calamity that may come on your way. So when you have this patience, it will give you the strength to make yourself you know move in life inshallah, to his Salah, Salah is a recipe for anything that you

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want to achieve in life a lot of Bonanza, he sets up a system in in such a way and we are being reminded again and again higher lasala and then what I alfalah come to prayer come to success. So Salah in success is something which is tightly linked and reminded by the more than ever

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single day five times a day. So there is a logic there is a wisdom behind it. Salah acts like a success Subhan Allah whenever you and I are in problem, just go and pray to Raka seek the help of Allah. When was the last time you shed tears in sujood asking in claiming what you need. Allahu Akbar. When we really need it. We have to ask the way a slave asked from his master, we have to ask as a true sincere worshiper asked from his robe from his master Allah subhanho wa Taala when we do these acts inshallah it will give you stability in your belief in your Eman and you will be able to withstand with any and every kind of difficult situation insha Allah, may Allah subhanaw taala help

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all of us to bear this patience and to practice the, the prayer in all the times in sha Allah so that we may gain that spiritual energy that injection that we require again and again in sha Allah be in the light Allah. Joseph allow her and shake, shake, we do not have any questions coming in, do we have plenty of questions which are right now, but those questions are in relation to marital and family problems and inshallah for all of our viewers, we do have a session on marital and family problems, two sessions, this session will continue inshallah next week, on 13th of November on a general problem solving series, and then inshallah two more sessions. Subsequently on the next five

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days that will be on marital and family problems and that time you will definitely and surely take those problems. Take those questions of yours and relax the shape to guide us on those and get them answered. So, share features allow hire and fire guiding us and giving us practical tips in solving problems. Indeed, Allah gives us ability first to bear those problems and testers to those problems. SubhanAllah So the takeaway from today's lecture for all of us is law you can live Allahu Allah Azza Allah does not burden the soul more than what we can bear. So brothers and sisters, definitely we should we should bear with patients all those problems, what Allah gives us just as gondola shake,

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it was indeed an enlightening session. They all benefited from it. And may Allah preserve you for the benefit of Houma Armenia.

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For my audiences today, once again, you have been a wonderful audience. May Allah always keep the spirit of learning and seeking knowledge alive in all of us mela increases knowledge. I mean, we have surely let you know with regards to our next sessions, so we will be looking forward to to meet you in those sessions, which is Kamala hierin. A salaam aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh