Ahmad Saleem – Tafseer of Surah Yusuf – Part 10

Ahmad Saleem
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The speakers discuss the importance of learning from past lessons and avoiding mistakes in culture classes. They emphasize the need for parents to share their experiences and reasoning behind ideas. The speakers also advise parents to be mindful of their emotions and use words like "will" and "will" to describe emotions and actions. They stress the importance of not falling victim to evil practices and not being in a situation where one is "med strict" or "will."
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Bismillah neuro

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neuro

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while he was happy he also lived this demon kathira. My bad.

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Alright, so today was our last session in sha Allah for Surah Yusuf. And what I actually wanted to do was in the Surah In today was actually to go back and quickly recap some of the most important things that we have learned.

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I know that most of your parents here, right, so today I will talk to, you know, most of the lessons that I'm going to try to draw upon is going to be something somewhat related to all of us being parents. And also there'll be some lessons for for children over here and Chalabi.

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Right, so we start off

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the scholars when it comes to the benefits of pseudo use of the number of benefits that they have drawn, for example, I was just looking at one of one of the scholars of our recent time.

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He has, just so you know, how much how short the summary is going to be. He has roughly three and a half hours of just lectures where he's enumerating just lessons upon lessons close to 160 570 different lessons in our belief systems in dealing with our children and so many other things, right. There are other books that have been written 100 lessons for this and all of these lessons are very unique in nature. So the idea of this is not to elaborate and get huge numbers, but the idea is that we want to focus on something that we all learn and take away inshallah from here, right and I'm going to focus on primarily the lessons that we learn as parents and then few other

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things inshallah Bismillah. All right, let's begin. So Surah Yusuf begins and when it begins, Allah subhanaw taala begins off and he says, I live lamb raw till Calcutta till Gaya toolkit available when Allah subhanaw taala says this is the in this book Tilka these these are Ayat verses of Al Kitab will moving. So one thing that we all should walk away that no matter what part of Quran you and I read, what part of Quran we you and I read, it is absolutely clear if your heart is clear.

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So many times people are like, Oh, I read Quran, but you know, when people get misguided from the Quran, nobody gets misguided from the Quran. What happens is, we have certain issues within us that prevents us. There's there's the saying that, you know, the Arabs used to say that, you know, if you have a dust particle in your eye and you're not capable to see

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does not mean that the sun does not have any light.

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It's just that you have lost the ability to see that sunlight because of something that has gone into your eyes. Right? So because it's darkness because if you find people that have doubts while they read the Quran, that does not automatically necessitate or conclusion or there must be dealt in the Quran. Rather, there must be something else happening with us, which actually is preventing us from understanding Quran. Okay.

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Then Allah subhanaw taala. The first lesson that we see over here and this is this is something really important

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is that use of Ali salaam, he sees a dream, right? He sees a dream. And as soon as he sees a dream,

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who does he go to? Instagram?

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Tick tock

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his father, right. So there's a lot of lessons for us over here.

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And, and I start off with, you know, no one's perfect. I'm not perfect, no one's perfect. But

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we as parents need to make sure that no matter what happens, our relationship with our children is of such nature, that when anything that they cannot make sense of, we become the first resource that they think of to come and talk to

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right all of us including myself were far away from that.

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But over here you'll find use of it said um, sees something and the first person that comes to his mind that he's going to have a conversation with

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is his father. Right? And over here, please, you know, it's also the role of the father. Usually fathers in our DC culture is a symbol of like, you know, you know, very it's not very soft and loving and gentle and mashallah caring. That's not the the connotations that you come when you hear about a father in a desi culture, rather, it's more something harsh and rules and striction and and, and the end is like, you know, if nothing works, it's almost like you talk to them. Right? Like as if you are like the hammer that's going to fix everything, right? But if you look at the entire Quran, you find time and again that the Father has resources of gentleness and again,

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We were all taught wrong. I have made mistakes. People have made mistakes, but it's about us. When we read this we learn. You look at dogma and Ali said, He's saying yeah, Boonie you look at Ibrahim Ali salaam, he says, yeah, when you look at jacobellis, yeah, Vania right. Oh, my little son.

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Right. So this is a very important lesson for all of us as fathers over here.

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The next part that we learned over here in the story

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is you notice that

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it yeah, go buddy Salam, Yusuf Ali Salam was one of the young second youngest at that time. If you're a second youngest child, or if your youngest child comes to you, and you have three or four children,

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and he says something we actually take the older one, whatever he says more valuable because we're Bella hoga. And this is still a small baby and a child to omega.

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Many sad, you must not have seen me. You saw our dream. No, you must have not seen something. It's okay. Just say Bismillah whose will I will be fine. Right? Yeah, who did not do that with us have it set out

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when you survive? They said I'm Kim Jung in New York eight, I had the pleasure of CO CO CO but I saw, you know, 11 You know, I saw 11 I had the Ashura coke oven, or shumsa. Will Amara or at home Lee's hygiene, jacobellis and I was like, Oh, interesting. So he listened to it. Third point we learned over here is use of highly his Ram had he was pretty smart kid even at that age, he was able to decipher what is good dream that I like what I need to tell my dad and what I did not need to tell my dad. This was something abnormal and anomaly and this is something very out of this world. I must share it with my father. Okay, I must share it with my father. Next that we find over here in

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Chicago, but he says Carla Willa yella.

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So first command, this is the first time we see wholebody salaam telling anything to use the valleys and he says, As a mud Karna don't do this. Do not do this.

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And all of us, including myself, we may have justifications and reasonings when we tell our children, you can go out and play basketball.

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You can't be on video games right now.

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Right? We have reasonings for it.

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But because of whatever reason, sometimes we fail to convey those reasonings. Right? Sometimes it's due to time sometimes it's due to the nature of like, oh, we just gotta get things done. Sometimes it's just I don't have time for you.

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I do not have time to explain.

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Right? And honestly, including myself, we get to this point is that Gadea that's it. I said so there's no more.

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I don't have time for that. You do not find the MBR Allahi wa sallam throughout the Quran. If you read that, that's not the way they would talk. Over here. He says Golay Abuja. He says to his son, oh, my son Latok Cicero. Er, do not tell your dream Allah aquatica.

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Do not tell your dreams, do not tell your dream to your brothers.

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And right after that, before even the son asks your mother why?

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He answers the why which was in the heart of the child, before even the wire was uttered. Failure key do laka Qaeda

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do not do this because if you do so they will plot against you.

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So we learned from here this adapt that whenever there is a like, I'm not saying you will say why to every single thing right? There young young kids here, they also need to understand that, you know, sometimes your parents just can't tell you why.

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For two reasons. One, you may not understand the reason for why you haven't grown enough to be able to understand the reasoning for why to there are so many things that are happening in the life of a parent that they don't have sometimes the comfort of sitting down and explaining why am I telling you this? Right? But on the same hand, parents should try their best to be able to have a conversation, right? Like I had, I had my you know, one of my chefs was

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one of my teachers used to say, what can be conveyed through conversations should never be conveyed through instructions.

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So that's something we need to take away as a parent.

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If a particular act or a demand can be conveyed to my child

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elders through the process of conversation that should not be conveyed in an instruction.

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Then if you just follow this rule, very little

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is left for you to instruct, it's like almost nothing that you can instruct very little. Very few options are left for you in your life to form instructions. And if you look at the entire Quran and all the conversations between a father and a son, they are all questions and conversations and discussions and dialogues, hardly any instructions from parent to a son, or a parent from father to a son.

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The next thing we learn is, it is from the adverb off.

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A believer and others have a Muslim. It is from of our Muslim family advocates for Muslim family that we tell our children of our ancestors.

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We talk about, you know, they may not have seen your grandfather, they may not have seen something that they have done. But it is from the Sunnah you talk about you speak about what your grandfather did what your father did you speak about them.

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And speaking about our ancestors, if you don't have any ancestors that you can speak about like that, then at least speaking about ancestors that we have from the history of Islam, so that the children, they walk away and they have this, this this pride in themselves that they belong to something very important.

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Right? They belong to something very important. I'm sure most of you that come from the ancestry of India and Pakistan, right, your parents or your grandparents still, I'm sure some of them were alive at the time when the partition took place.

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Right. Many of you might not even know the stories that they have.

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Right. So first, we need to take those stories out. And then being able to share those stories with somebody. I mean, it was so fascinating the other day I met

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in in Mandeville Masjid I met someone, and you know, he was 91 years old.

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So I got a chance for the first time to actually chat with him. Because, you know, we were leaving, and he came up to me. So we chatted, we spoke. And I said, so you were alive at the time of the partition? And he's like, Yeah, I used to, I used to print banners for the partition. It's like, wow, I do. Like this guy who prays in our message we don't even know. He said, I used to print the banners for the end. He said back in the day, the way he used to print banners is we used to have two poles and we would put up a cotton fleece cloth. And we would have this guy who was a calligrapher, he would bring paintbrushes and we would cut them ourselves. And then we would paint

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those things are like big.

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He was right there. Right all the time. And that's something to talk about that. Even if you don't have means they took up whatever they could to raise a voice about something. Okay. So he says, Gallica like this. Yeah, just a beaker of Boca. The second thing we learn over here. Sometimes children don't know

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what good they have.

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So over here, Yusuf Ali Salam saw the dream, but he was not able to figure out what is the purpose of this dream. Sometimes your child may see something, or say something, or utter something, or, or display something. Like I'll give you an example of that. So for myself, like when I was in grade,

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third, fourth, if I go back and look at all the certificates that I got, when I got when I was like, there was one thing very consistent and persistent. In all my certificates and awards. There was one category that I always came first in what do you think it was?

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No, my kids are my kids are like mats. Because because they can figure out all I can do Maths. Maths is practice. Hmm, debating.

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So debating and public speaking was something that I excelled in without any like And subhanAllah.

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No blame to my parents, they were so occupied with other things that they didn't see this particular aspect. Like I now I go back and read my words. And I was like, Oh, I won first place in this debate first, and I will just not even prepare, I will just go up and talk. I remember that the last debate that I won, I actually went there. I had no clue what I was going to talk about. I just grabbed the mic and I spoke and they're like, oh my gosh, this is the best thing we've ever heard. I had no idea what I said. Right. But similarly your kids are going to display certain skill sets.

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So don't be held up on

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doctor and want to make him engineer he must go to university. There are a lot more

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He's to succeed in the world and just those two avenues now, seriously, there's a lot more if your child or if you're if your child has a particular skill set, invest in developing that skill set,

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invest in developing that skill set, right?

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Given that that skill sets is going to give him, you know, some career in the future that is not necessary. So if he's good as an artist, then helping them promoting them, not putting them down, oh, why are you doing this you're wasting life you're wasting, if they're good at it, putting them into those schools. So they can develop because that's a natural gift that Allah has given them. Similarly, over here, jacobellis ROM is reminding me that he got he got a book. Listen, you're going to be selected for something.

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Right? Well, you are Lemo come into this and Allah is going to teach you things. It's not even in the dream this whole thing but yeah, go Valley salaam was able to pick that up. And he says Likewise, Allah is going to select you. While he said Vika Allah is going to select you. While you I leave all come into Willa Hadees, Allah is going to teach you how to interpret things. The next lesson we learn here, and this idea is that there are certain types of knowledge that you can actually SAP you can work hard to acquire, like maths,

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right? Like science, whatever, memorizing Quran, you can work hard to get it. But there are a certain type of knowledge that is given.

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You can't, like it's just given, it's just bestowed on a person from Allah subhanaw taala. And our responsibility as parents that we learn over here is to be able to recognize through that process, what is the gift that Allah has given? First off me as a person, because you can't help your child if you haven't even figured your gift out. And many of us are stuck in our lives, whether they are happy or not, we go to work, we struggle, we were placed in some form of a shell. And now we are, we may not exist there. And we have a different world. But we're always either reminiscing of that old time, but we haven't taken the time to actually discover ourselves. What do we really want to do?

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Why did Allah actually sent you

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like, almost every Sahabi had this figured out,

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every time he had it figured out, like there was just a hobby, he's like, You know what, I am a tailor. And I'm the best at this. And I'm also a soup master.

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So this hadith says you're gonna out the Abu Maroc, like you and he used to make soup, it was the best soup of Medina, they used to say that when he would make soup, he was Persian. So whenever he, whenever he would make soup, the streets of Medina would be filled with the smell of his soup.

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So he figured out these are the two skills that I got, that's what I'm going to stick to. Right, figure out what you're good at. And then stick to that.

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One of the books that can help you

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one of the books that can help you is something called strength finder 2.0

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as a book called strength finder, 2.0

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it's a very good start for parents, because you can't help your child find out his passion.

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Unless

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he is adventurous, and he does not follow a specific shell, or he has a role model in life or she has a role model in life that they can look up to.

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So almost everything

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that I did in my career was absolutely does not make sense. Right? Like from computer to HR, from computer to English, teaching from English teaching to management, training, from management, training to HR from HR to, to community development, that is not and now this, there is no sequence. Right? But it's all about you trying to figure yourself out. And that's the best way that you can succeed. Because when you're figuring yourself out, when you're allowing the space for your child to figure themselves out. They become super successful because they find that which they really like. So they don't get up Monday morning thinking it's a dreadful Monday. They think of Monday morning

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rather their Mondays become the Sundays because they can't wait until the Monday comes for them to actually do that.

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The next thing that we learn in this next the next and the next idea

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sorry, in the last I just one point that I skipped I want to talk about that

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So, Jakob, it Sam gives him three advices in the last year so he says, You're gonna hear a lot of susurrus IACA Allah aquatic Alpha ki Dolakha Qaeda in a shaytaan Allah in Sunni how the one Babina. So Jacoba Ali Salam, he tells first thing he says, Yeah, boy, oh my son. So the first thing he displays is an element of mercy. So there there are lemma they say that in order for us as parents, if we want our children, if we want our children to listen to us, there are three key ingredients in our advice that must exist. Three key ingredients that must exist

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if we are sincere about advising them,

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number one, rahmatan it must have an element of mercy.

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Number two, because of your because of your knowledge, your experience, you may be able to tell them Mojave and you will be able to tell them things that okay, you know what, be careful about this, this could harm you, this could not be good for you. So you're warning them about things. And number three, you have to couple that warning with a glad tiding So three things that the way you talk to them the way you initiate that advice must be a fraud.

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You can add an element of a warning that you want to give them an advice experience that you want to share ended with a Bashara ended with a glad tiding so you find use of it Salah jacobellis, he starts off he says yeah Bucha Yeah, this is Rama. Oh, my little son. So right away the child is you know, listening. Well, my father is calling me with you know, not use of either all bazzano Listen to me, right. It's like yeah, Bucha Yeah, all my son. The next thing that you see, he tells them about the warnings. He said he gives them the warnings that this happens. He gives them two warnings. Number one, your smaller enemy is your brother. Number two in the shaytaan Duvall movie in

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your biggest enemy is shaytaan Be careful about them. Although your brothers might do something wrong to you be careful about shaytaan because he is the ultimate enemy.

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Okay, then the next thing he says Bashar Al right? Okay. Raluca is Debbie Cara boca. Likewise, Allah is going to select you don't worry about what your viewers Your brothers are going to do to you. Don't worry about what shaitan is going to do understand that your brothers and shaitan my plot your brothers are the minor enemies, your Shavon is the clear open enemy, but understand that you're also going to be selected. And that's the glad tidings he gives them right? Well, I mean, you're going to be Allah is going to teach you you're going to get him from Allah subhanaw taala and that in the end of the ayah, Allah subhana prophets or a Salah Prophet jacobellis Salaam, he says, What can I do he

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got a book where you are limo come into Hadees, Allah is going to teach you about my interpretations of the of the events, where you Timony amateur who Alec and the bounty will be completed on you ie you will become a prophet.

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Why the idea hope. And since you will become a prophet, that bounty comes on to the idea of the family of Jakub anytime your sons and your daughters, they succeed in world that is your success.

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Over here Jacoba and I sent him What is he saying?

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Allah is going to fulfill the bounty on you. But since it will be fulfilled on you, and you will become an OB that's actually the bounty on earlier.

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So when your child walks away with something that's actually on you and your entire family should be proud of that. Right.

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Usually, when they mentioned about this hadith, this this this is

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you know, I'm reminded of this this beautiful Hadees.

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But before I tell you the Hadith, I'll ask it in the form of a question.

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What is the highest?

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Honor that you as parents today, what is the highest honor that you can give to your parents today?

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What is that one action that you can do in your life right now? That would bring the highest honor to your parents. I'm talking to the adults here. What do you think you can? That is?

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What is that one action that you can do is just moving your tongue.

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Very simple. But if you do it

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your parents

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are honored in a way that no other action in your life. They're going to feel that honor

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Make a guess guys

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it is guessing time.

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Memorize Quran not in this world. Yeah inocula You will get it.

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And memorize is not just moving off the tongue. We have to move a lot of lot. Right? So do you remember the hadith of prophets of salaam where he says, what happens when we send salutations on prophets of Allah send them

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what happens when we say Allahumma Salli ala Muhammad, Allah has an angel that is appointed next to Rasulullah sallallahu sallam.

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And every time one person says Allahumma Salli, ala Muhammad, the angel says to prophets of Allah who said

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that a Hamid even Salim, even a bull sent Salam to you.

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And they're Allama they say why this is the highest honor is because every single parent wishes that their name is mentioned in front of an honorable person. So if you as a your parents child, if you're mentioned, you're like, Oh, you meet Justin Trudeau, or you meet some president or prime minister or some seed company, and they say you know what, we're so proud. And the honor is all to your father or your mother. But over here your name is mentioned in a gathering that is of the most honorable one. Rasul Allah.

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So that's why they say that sending salutations on prophets or or Salam, specially on Friday, and specially this

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is the highest degree of bill that you can do to work or they have passed away.

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And even when they're alive, by just constantly, you're sitting in disguise Allahumma Salli, ala Muhammad Ali, Ahmed, and your your parents name is being mentioned in ad in the company of rasool Allah Azza.

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wholebody Salam Sun mon group of 10 people there clearly something wrong in this equation.

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And they forgot the fact that use of Ali salaam as the Morpha sillones I mentioned that every single brother of use of Elisa Lam, all the 10 brothers, the had utmost jealousy to use Valley Center,

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but they forgot that part. Right? So be careful sometimes of how conversations begin and don't fall trap off. Sometimes, you know, and it happens in martial law teenagers are way smarter than us at this age. So they will they will trap you in a way that you're gonna be like, Oh, what happened and then you they get you right in exactly where they want you them to you like they put you in a place where they want you

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right and this happens all throughout actually not something new, this has been happening throughout next part is that user Valley CERAM goes out with them. And over there one of them actually decides and says wait a minute, killing use of Elisa Lam is not the best idea.

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And sometimes what happens is that you have somebody who has full intentions of committing evil, but something happens to his heart and it changes last minute and they select a lower degree of a sin over a higher degree for whatever the reason is, and sometimes it's the Mercy of Allah that has been mentioned and sometimes it is that they were actually not self contained in the first place. So he himself the older brother was not contended, we should kill you suffice so he was figuring out a way to actually how to rebuttal and bring that severity down. And the lesson for us over here is many times we might find that we are shackled and grappled into the society and everything is against us

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and in that battle that we have with our children

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we have to be smart and figure out that sometimes we may have to settle with

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two evils the lesser of the two evils will have to settle with

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because the third con because the third consequence is that you may it may break your family

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and it's very very important for parents to understand

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that there are two options you may have to settle with the lesser of the two evils

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because the third option is going to be extremely difficult

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and painful and agonizing.

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Right and lesser of the two evils in a situation where you do not have options is okay

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so over here obviously throwing use of Elisa I'm gonna well is not okay. He knew that

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But should we should the rest of the nine brothers kill him? Or should I convince them to put them in the wild which is better? Convince them to put them in the wild. Much better, a lot more chances of his survival as opposed to

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killing him.

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The next part is

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they come back, they've done this. They come back

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and they're crying in the middle of the night.

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Watch out about who Marsha Marsha end up going.

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There was a very famous body very famous judge by the name of Sheree Annelle called the so should I was a Tabori. He was a very smart judge.

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So a woman came to Sheree.

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And she cried and put on a show that was just spectacular. So everybody in the gathering of Sheree they the US Federal they were completely they were taken aback at the pain of this woman.

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And should I

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Rahim, Hola, he was like he was not moved at all.

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He was like completely cold.

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Like and he sat there listening to her thing as if nothing happened.

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So the people in the court they said yeah, sure mylocker

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What's wrong with you? Did you not see her cry?

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And he said I did. But I also read in the Quran

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that the brothers have used a virus and I'm came home crying

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and they had committed such a heinous crime but they call them crying. So crying is not

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the indication of

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absolve them from any sin or wrongdoing. Rather some people may use crying as a cover to conceal their sins. So as parents

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we have to be very careful if one of our child cries a lot

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not to concede to that crying all the time.

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And it takes a big heart to actually do that because we don't want anybody crying let alone our own children. But sometimes you have to get to the bottom of it and you have to show no emotions to that

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you have to show no emotions to get to the bottom of it and only you know better but if you are consistently finding that one of your child is constantly ex excessively crying

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and he is getting what he wants which is attention

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then you really need to question that entire process as parents

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Okay, so inshallah few more lessons and then we'll inshallah stop. So another lesson that we find in this particular story, which is that shaitan will always play with us so they came to the sons of Jaco valleys and they said, Listen, let's get rid of use of it salaam Jana loco, Module A be calm, your father will be solely left for you. Right?

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What a coulomb embody he

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a woman Xylocaine it's okay, you can commit a little bit of sin now. But after you have committed the sin, and you figured your things out, after you have risen the ladder of corporate world and you've reached that level, you can then repent, commit a little bit of the sins, it's okay. It's okay. It's a it's in the good cause of you climbing the ladder, right? And this happens, or it's okay you can cheat little bit it's in the good cause of you actually succeeding.

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When that happens, it's very important for us to actually understand over here that this is one of the ultimate plots of Shavonne

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that he will tell you listen, the sin that you're about to commit What the What shorter it's so small, do it right now and then look like Nobody judges your heart like mashallah, you're good Muslim, you come to the masjid you pray. Just do it. And then the person does it. And when you do it once, then you're like, Yeah, nothing happened, you know, was pretty cool. I committed the sin and I'm still alive and I still got the job. And let me let me give it another attempt. And she sounds like Look, man, look, nothing happened to you. As the Bellagio people had made sure that you're gonna get you're afraid and Allah is gonna get upset. Look, Allah, you've rather you're getting

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close to your promotion, Allah and your heart, masha Allah, you know, it just starts playing some game

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really so understand that this is one of the the key key attacks of shaitan Are you getting it

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oh let's do a high for you right

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all right

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brother Brother Fazal How long can I extend

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Are you ready? Wow okay mashallah

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brother Fazal is always ready

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now, one last thing and I'll end with this this is a very important point in this entire story of use of Ali Salam what was the first sin that was committed on Earth

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those who know Don't say

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everybody's going you know if you're making a guest then say

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not for money or it's seen as an offer money.

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What's the first offer money that happened?

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That's in Jana. I'm talking about in the earth.

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But tell okay, you know it so I'm not going to take it from me.

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Yeah, go ahead.

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Yeah, murder but no, there was a sin before murder.

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It was one sin that was committed before murder.

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That was in a in this world, there was a sin that was committed before murder.

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Hmm.

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has said Kay has said Jealousy

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has said or jealousy.

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That's why I even said a word to them when Rosie hola Phil or Lee? I'll hazard

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Well, I ll hacer de I'll cut to that if hazard reaches the highest degree, it leads you to kill the person.

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That's the highest degree of hazard, right?

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So has said is something that if so, once a person and what's the definition of hazard, the definition of hazard is that you see some someone, something, some person and they have something that you desire.

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There's absolutely nothing wrong in that like you don't, there's a phone that you have, there's a card that you have, whatever, you have something I desire that absolutely nothing wrong, in that as a Muslim. The problem happens when I want that at the expense that you lose that.

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So I want this from you. But I also want that this that you had, it gets taken away from you. So if you are wealthy, you become poor, if you're healthy, you become unhealthy.

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And this is a very, very severe disease in the hearts today.

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Almost all of the issues that take place, within families,

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within

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married couples, it all permeates down from whenever the conversation happened is always has had at the back of it at the root cause if you trace it,

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it started with hesed. As one of the scholars he said that hazard is just one route. And it has 100 Plus branches, that it can lead you to 100 Different sins that you don't know.

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So it is something that is very severe, you know, that, you know we have to be really careful about and he said was the first sin also because of the caliber and the arrogance and the honor the you know, there were four honors that Benny Adam were given what was what were the four honors? I mentioned them in my two weeks ago Hotbot

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in sign was given for honors what were they

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Allah's yeah

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he was created with Allah's hands whenever coffee him Rohit Allah blow you know, blessed us with the you know, he he gave the process of giving life to Adam and Sam was not given to another angel. Allah Himself took care of that process then

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and all the angels did frustration to Adam Ali Salaam. And what Allah Adam Asma Aquila, Allah taught Adam Ali Salim everything. So when he was given all of those four things

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IBLEES was like,

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I not take I'm not going to take that.

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I mean, I am better

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than him.

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I have been made from fire you've been made from dust. It doesn't matter if you've got all of these four things.

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I'm still better than

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so because of that arrogance. The next thing he did is Hasakah Adam Alehissalaam he became jealous of Adam and Eve. And he wanted that to be removed. And that is the reason in terramycin Hadees it says that every single time when you and I we do sit down,

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but shaitan cries every time a Muslim does such the shaytaan cries.

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And his cry is not cry of nada. He's not remorseful, oh Allah committed a sin please forgive me.

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His cry is off of this jealousy that I was commanded to give Siddha to Adam and I refused. And Bernie Adam have been commanded to do since the have to Allah and they do the speech that had I had listened to Allah, I would be in this position. He's still jealous of that.

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And that is why in the shadow of diplomacy, and I'm telling you he says well he actually had in this is the reason why in Salah every action is once but Sousa is twice

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because you want to get that shape and needs to feel that burden. Right that's why we are being commanded to do to search this

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one says that is for the Salah, and the other is for letting shaytaan know that we submit ourselves to Allah and we will not submit ourselves to you

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