028 – Jummah Khutbah

Ahmad Saleem


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The segment discusses the confusion around manhood and the definition of manhood in various cultures. The speakers stress the need for people to stand up for help and not give up on promises. The segment also touches on the struggles of men in society and their emotional reactions during busy seasons. The importance of being a strong man is emphasized, and the need for everyone to connect their hearts to the message of the Quran is emphasized.

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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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Longhorn Coverdell long

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walk bottles or walkable

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Chateau Allah

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nama on

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Should one

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Mohammad rasool oh

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a shadow

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mother was shown on

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here I know Song Ah

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Hi Jana Sala

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Hey y'all

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hang on

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a long Walk

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before I begin the hotbar

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all the young people that are lined up on the wall this is not from the adverb of Jamara unless you have a back condition you should be sitting as close as possible to the healthy that's number one. Number two we're going to we're expecting a lot of people so if we can just move up now so that I don't have to make the announcement in the middle of the hotbar let's fill in the first stuff first now before I start the hotbar because I don't want to interrupt so if you're at the back and if you have a back condition feel free but a lot of the young guys that I see them playing basketball last night you shouldn't be leaning on the wall

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that's a basic adverb of Jamar insha Allah

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in Alhamdulillah Naramata who want to start you know who want to start a funeral when our auto bIllahi min surely unforeseen our Amin say RTR Medina, Maya De La Villa medulla, one minute little fella had yella wa shadow Allah ilaha illallah Hua Hola, Shetty, Kela wa Chateau Anna Mohammed and Abu Rasulullah Marburg we'll see Kumar FCB taco Allah, Prakash Amara and Allahu Taala he Kitab Hill Karim ba odo bIllahi min ash shaytani R rajim Bismillah Al Rahman Al Rahim yeah you hola Xena and otaku Lucha Kulu Colin sadita Use Leko mama hola como yo fella come to Nova calm, while manual de la hora Sula, who forgot the first 1000 Alima from my my bad. We carry on our conversations in the

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series correcting concepts, where we take our inspiration from various traditions of Quran and Sunnah of our NABI Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam where he was found multiple times correcting concepts within the sahaba. One of those examples is that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he saw Sahabas gathered and they were all talking about being a man.

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And then he turns to them and he says,

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Who would you think

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is the best wrestler amongst you? What's the definition of a wrestler?

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So those are habits he said the one you know who can overpower every single man.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, law? No.

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The best wrestler amongst you is who can wrestle with his anger.

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When it boils,

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knowing that you're on how

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you know that you have the truth. You've got the power, you've got the means you can let go of that anger.

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and yet be safe with Allah. But you choose to wrestle your anger over your brother

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today, with this massive confusion that our community is going through the Muslim community, as well as the Christian community, as well as the entire humanity right now, we're going through this massive confusion. And we're going through this month, the Pride Month. And the confusion is

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called the confusion is caused by the root cause of our lack of understanding of what is a man?

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And what does it mean to be men or masculine? Arugula, the concept of radula in Islam, and in general in the society.

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Arugula is not an old concept, I'm not going to translate it again, it refers to masculinity and manlihood. So for the entire part of the football, use the word radula. Just it's just easier. So the concept of Rasulullah or masculinity or manhood is not something new. It was found in every single generation. It is still found in some countries today.

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It's still found in some countries today.

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One of the ways that they will test if you've become a man, when I was out with one of my shoes, is they're like they give you us they give you a knife and they give you a goat and they said Bismillah

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show us if you're a man

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and they give that person a chance. took me four hours the first time

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I was done, but that is there like if you can't do that. What type of a man you are because you can provide for your family when the supermarkets are not working.

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As a man you need to know

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that if there is meat, how are you going to harvested meat?

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Right so different societies and cultures have different standards. But we're not concerned about other cultures. We're not concerned about other societies, right? In our Desi culture, if he becomes a graduate Bandarban Gaya the guy has become a man that's how they see culture is his graduate. Mashallah. He has a bachelor's degree. If you get some master martial law, Superman, right if he gets a PhD, Allahu Akbar, right PhD SubhanAllah. He's beyond a man. Right? But what are the concepts of radula?

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In Islam, and in specific in Quran? Allah Subhana Allah Allah uses the word Rajul Why stick to her? This word love the Rajul and its derivatives in the entire Quran 55 times. If you were to summarize all of those, they fall under two categories. Category number one specifically talks about

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a man opposite to a woman.

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Okay, for example, in the eyes of Dane by lumea coonara Jhulan for Raju Wamberal chan if you can find two men for Illa Mucuna Giuliani

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one on one raw tan so if there is a man and you're going to have to woman opposite to that, right, Regina? Luca, Mona Lisa opposite to the men, the men are, you know caretakers of the woman. So all of these is in contrast to the opposite gender.

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But the other 67 iahs are talking about the concept of men.

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What is a man

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and it starts off with the most powerful iron. What Allah subhanaw taala he says this football might be two to two sessions and we need this minimum meaning you know, so first quality is there believers. A true man in the eyes of Allah subhanaw taala is somebody who has corrected his concepts about Allah. And he is a min ie he doesn't have hypocrisy. He doesn't have dual faiths he is min min element meaning Regina alone there are men

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Sudoku, na huddle Allah Hi Lee. They fulfilled the promise they made to Allah.

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When we say La Ilaha illa Allah Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we make a promise to Allah. There Allah I will hold you as my ILA. I have gotten rid of every other Eli every other thing that will control me other than you and my servitude belongs to you. And I shall not allow anything else to deviate me from that path.

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And sada coma Had Allah they were truthful with that which they promised Allah is at the times of calamities and difficulties. I will not let my job deviate me from the rest

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possibilities of being a Muslim and a movement towards Allah, I will not allow any distractions I will not allow my family responsibilities to to come in the way between me and my job.

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Now I had Allah Hi Lee, from in woman, Kala Anna

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woman who may interview some they have passed on. Others are still waiting to be judged by Allah subhanaw taala Well, am I but then with Abdullah and you being a man or not a man, it's not going to make any difference to Allah subhanaw taala. So, this concept of radula I II, that they are truthful to their promises.

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They're willing to stand up for help.

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They're not afraid of the consequences of speaking up against the hook, they will speak to heck when it is not easy to speak to help, you will find very easy for people to deviate and to hide that which may cause conflict.

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Why? Because they have lack of arugula, they will have lack of manlihood you will find people talking and somebody tells them oh someone so and so and so on. So they were saying this thing about you at your workplace? Oh, yeah, by the way, you know, the other guy is gonna get promoted because they don't like you for this and this. Most men,

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they will recluse they will become secretive. They will plot behind the back very few are those who are going to go and confront and say I heard you said this, can you verify that

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very few are going to be those who are going to confront

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those type of men who when it becomes difficult

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to hold on to the truth. They still hold on. Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in an Hadith that I'm paraphrasing because of the length of the Hadith. He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said towards the end of time,

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holding on to the pain is going to be like you're holding on to embers in your hand.

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It's not going to be easy.

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In other long Hadith

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where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says

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Bitsa Labdoo Abdun the jab burrow. Tada. What a wretched person. Is that? What a wretched man that he forgot Allah subhanaw taala and what did he do? He forces and behaves hostile to other people, forgetting the Compeller forgetting that Allah is your rub be Salah Abdul Abdul Rahim Allah dal and how evil is a servant who fancies upon himself and the money that he has been given and he's so fascinated by himself. What a wretched I'll do What a wretched servant of Allah is that person

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be bid Scilab do I've done sir Ha ha ha nscl macabre Well, Bula will be law. That how wretched is that person? Who What did he do? Sir? Ha what a Ha he forgot and he got involved in the enjoyments of life.

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Then Allah says prophesy centum says onesie Yelena COVID and you forgot your grave.

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And you forgot the calamities of that grave? BSL Abdu? Abdon

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what of our onesie L mu Tada. Well, moonta Ha, how wretched is our person? That he became violent and tyrannical.

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forgetting his beginnings and his end.

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Be Scilab do I've done yet? Uh huh. yella? Dena Shewhart

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Bitsa lab Labdoo Abdon

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dunya. But Dean, how wretched is that person that he mixes his dunya and Dean and he sells his Deen for the sake of dunya wabi sabi Labdoo yalla Dena Shewhart and our wretched is that person that he chooses his deen and all he sees in his religion is nothing but doubts bitser Labdoo Abdon Palmer our voodoo who will be Bama how he is so in desire of being a leader. He wants to have some idea he wants to have a position in the society he wants to be the face.

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Bissell Abdu Abdon how how can you Lilu who How wretched is that person who seeks that leadership position and his desires mislead him? Bitsa Labdoo Abdon wrong one Robin use the loo and how wretched is that person what an evil person and servant is he the one whose aspirations humiliate him in front of her

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this hadith is narrated in Timothy. So a man is not

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a man unless you are willing to stand up for help,

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you're willing to stand up for help. And this is in the fitrah of every single one of us.

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What has happened in the recent times with our societies is the role models of being a man have been vanished and removed from the societies.

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For for men, it seems very trendy if they can cry.

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Men, many of the sisters and the brothers, they promote like, the other day, I was looking at this, this young kid and their father, the father was trying to teach this kid, probably 11 or 12, how to ride a bike, and the terror and the on this kid, because the father had his wings surrounded him not allowing him to fall, so he may get hurt.

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Oh, my God, Allah, who and he said, What if shoshan become harsh and hardened.

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When the men when the boys they don't get hurt early on, I'm not saying emotional hurt, I'm talking about physical hurt, they fell get up.

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That's part of life. Because if the operating system we install in our boys is not compatible to the world outside. That's where problems happen. Because as parents out of our care for these boys, sometimes we over protect them from the elements of life.

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Our daughters, and our sisters need to be protected from those elements. But for men, they have to be for young kids, they have to be exposed.

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They have to learn they have to be able to combat

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they need to know some form of self defense.

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And in that process, they will get hurt. And they need to know that that's because the reality of the world outside the operating system is if you make them soft and soft core, they're like oh yeah, now he's emotionally in tuned with himself.

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That's new buzzwords, a man who's emotionally in tuned. Do you know that 90% of the cases of domestic violence

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happens because that particular man

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had an emotional deregulation he had

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way too much emotion.

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And that was the cause of most of the domestic violence cases. Because the real man inside of him the beast inside of him was not allowed to be expressed. When he was a kid, when it was safe, that that element of being rougarou light was not allowed.

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It was frowned upon and the society has completely Do you hear dehumanized masculinity, toxic masculinity? These are the words that you're going to hear. What do you mean by toxic masculinity.

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Most of the things around you are built by men.

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Most of the bricklayers in the world are men. Most of the people who clean the sewers are men. No woman wants to do that. Now, that's 100. That's a tree that's filled with 100% men in there. So men have to have those things. And because we've feminized men, and I'll take a tangent over here, if you go and read history, you will realize that the demise of of societies, it begins when men become feminine.

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If you look at the Roman, towards the end, and if you look at the artifacts that are left behind what images of men are their masculine bodies, feminine postures, there's lying down like this, and they'll have pictures touching an apple not wearing any feminine, masculine bodies, but the postures that they're in, are not like they're in a battle and at war.

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And there's a psychologist who talks about it that history repeats itself. Every time a society there are men don't remain men and they become feminized. That's when societies fall.

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And that's what we're seeing today.

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This LGBTQ movement is a part movement to dehumanize the masculinity of men. And then, if you have one man who comes out and says the Huck,

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I'm not saying absolute Hulk. He says what he believes about his worldview. What happens? All of our youth, boys, they gravitate towards him

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in this case, and rotate, who became a Muslim, what is happening with our Muslim youth? Why are they gravitating towards him? Because it's in the nature of a boy

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Growing up, he has to answer three questions. Who am I?

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As a wolf, he's trying to figure this out. Who am I? What is my pack?

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Am I going to hang out with weak men? Am I going to hang out with strong men? And number three, who's my leader?

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Not a leader in belief and not a leader in sports, who's my leader in masculinity. And that is why even the Christians, Jews and everyone, all of these young men are gravitating towards that message of what do they like in him? Is it his message? No, it is his ability to stand his ground for help, whatever he believes how true there are issues with his narrative. We're not going into that we're talking about the principle here.

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And that is first part of being a man that you have to be able to hold your ground on what you believe is true. You have to if you came, keep changing your policies, you keep changing your narrative, nobody's going to have credibility about you.

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With that consistency, you're going to build that

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there was a boy

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and they will sorry, it was Cassandra the Allahu Anh. He was in the middle of the battle.

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And he recognized

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that they're going to kill earlier the Allahu and in the battle. He recognized that Karim Allah azza wa jal, he realized that he is going to be killed. So he came to idea of the hola Juan Kent has entered your loan or comes to ideal the hola Juan. And he says, Yeah, but Oh, my father. This is the end. We're about to be killed. Why don't you leave? And he was crying has it because he realizes that the battle is lost. They're about to take over and they're going to kill it. Or the hola Juan, so he was crying. What does I need the hola Juan say in that point? At that moment, I do the hola Juan says one thing.

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He looks at Hessen and he says

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Don Kahani in Algeria, stop crying like a woman.

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Right, some of the woman might feel offended, but that's our immune remote meaning saying that to his son. He's about to die.

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Hold it together. Be a man you're on the battlefield.

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Similarly, every single one of our boys are going to have battlefields of their owns when you're not around as a father.

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Have we trained them to be that strong for those battlefields?

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It's going to be in a household it is going to be at their jobs, it's going to be every place.

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And then he says to him, coil ma bodalla See what you have to see. But stop crying.

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All the reasons for him to cry.

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But when you're in the battle when the going is tough. You can have those emotions after having said that rasool Allah cried when there are moments to cry you cry. But today men are crying at moments they should not be crying. That's the problem. And the moments they should be crying when you should be standing in front of Allah and crying when you should be listening to the Quran and Quran crying when you should be listening to the hadith of prophets of Salaam and crying when you should be listening to all of these things.

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And feeling the off hola and crying. We don't cry for that.

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You cry we cry in front of Allah. We cry when a family member is lost.

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That's normal. But to cry because you're emotionally hurt as a man is not part of manlihood

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from any concepts that you read in the history, may Allah subhanaw taala grant us the ability to understand Ebola ohada was tougher. Hola Hola. Hola, como Elisa, I didn't mean faster farofa and now huella for him.

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If we can ask the brothers to please get together move up. There's a lot of brothers that are standing all in the 48 so if you can stand up everyone if I can ask you guys to stand up make a soft if there's any gaps filled or so that the brothers can have the space.

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Mala Anna via bada. In the end, I like to end with this. I just want to clarify, I'm not endorsing and rotate here. I'm talking about the phenomenon of why everyone has gravitated towards him. Muslims and Muslims alike. There's a lot

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I'd have problems with their narratives that narratives and that's a longer conversation and we will have that with our youth sessions inshallah. But the point being that we have to understand why all of a sudden, everybody's gravitating towards him, what not only him any of the speakers who are speaking and standing their ground, when they believe something is true. Generally, you will see a lot of their followers or men and they're gravitating towards that. In the end, we ask Allah subhanaw taala that he truly gives us the understanding of these concepts. It's a bigger concept. I think I probably need two more hot busts to do that because I didn't even get into the dimension to

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second or third dimension. So inshallah the next few quarters will will elaborate. If Allah gives us Sophia on that in sha Allah, Aquila Cody, ha That was tough for Hola Hola, como si El Masri mean Allahumma salli wa sallim ala Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salim tous even cathedra her there was only was only more I should have in Hulk, but Atari Hulk Nabina Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we ask that Allah subhanaw taala opens our hearts on this blessed day and gives us the understanding of Deen we ask that Allah subhanaw taala connects us to the message of the Quran. We ask that all of those who are here that ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada forgives their sins and they leave

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from this place as if they were born today. We ask that Allah subhanaw taala exalts every single one of us in this dunya and akhira and makes us from those who enter Jannah without his app, we ask that Allah subhanaw taala gives every single one of us what they want in this dunya if it gets them closer to Allah, and we ask that Allah subhanaw taala keeps those things away from us if it is going to take us away from Allah subhanaw taala we ask that Allah connects our hearts to the message of the Quran to the recitation of the Quran, and Quran becomes a source of guidance and a source of expiation and a source of Felicity and fruition for us in this dunya and akhira Akoto. Cody had our

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