Struggling to Change Bad Habits

Kamil Ahmad

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another.

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My dear brothers and sisters.

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From the very first day in which we came into this world,

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we were pleased

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in a situation in a circumstance in an environment

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that was not of our own choosing.

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Me and you did not choose which family to be born into

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me and you did not choose which environment in which society to grow up in.

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And so as we grew up from childhood,

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based on the circumstance that we were in, based on the environment that we are placed in,

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we picked up habits.

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Each and every single one of us we picked up habits, that became a part of our life.

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We picked up good bad good habits, as well as bad habits

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that formed and shaped our lives later on.

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And so now regardless of how old you may be, whether you're still a teenager, whether you're in your 30s 40s whether you're in your 50s 60s 70s or 80s you have habits that you picked up when you were young,

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that have stayed with you, that have shaped your life

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that have become a part of your personality.

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And so just like we picked up good habits, we also picked up bad habits. And these bad habits have stayed with us.

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Whether they are to do with bad o'clock

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or whether they are to do

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with that which is between us and Allah subhanahu wa tada

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whether it be related to our tongues, lying, swearing, backbiting,

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Elisa and an Amina,

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whether it be related to our hearts,

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and what our hearts contain, of envy,

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of looking down on others of arrogance, of hatred for our brothers and sisters, looking down upon them,

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whether it be related to our eyes, and what we look out of her arm, or our ears, and what we have become accustomed to, of hearing and listening to

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whatever it be, they are bad habits

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that we have become accustomed to.

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And so my dear brothers and sisters, there are many out there

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who either

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are ignorant

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of the danger of these bad habits

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or

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they know very well

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The danger of them, but they have chosen to ignore them. They have chosen to ignore its danger.

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Instead

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giving in

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to their knifes

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and living the life

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as their life has become shaped.

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And so my dear brothers and sisters, Allah subhanahu wa attallah created us and placed us in this life as a test. He subhanho wa Taala put you in the circumstance that he put you in

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not of your own choosing

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not to do injustice to you,

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but rather to test you.

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Each and every single one of us is in this life as a test. Do I object to the decree of Allah subhanho wa Taala Why did Allah subhanahu wa taala put me in this test? Why has a lot tested me with this, but he has tested others with something else.

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Allah subhanahu wa replaced us each and every single one of us in a circumstance that was due to his wisdom

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that was due to his justice.

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And so now is not the time to be complaining. Now is not the time to be objecting to Allah has decreed, but rather accepting it and moving forward.

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And so Allah subhanho wa Taala wanted to test each and every single one of us to see who among his servants

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will be conscious of him sort of Hernan with Allah, every moment of their lives, while who on the other hand, will be heedless, will be negligent. He lists of the commandments of a law of the prohibitions of Allah, heedless of Allah watching us, heedless of the punishment of a law that comes in the era.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala wants to test us to see who among us will work hard will strive real struggle

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to change their bad habits to fight against the enough's

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and who on the other hand, will be lazy

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will give in to their knifes

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will try to strive for some time, but then give up.

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This My dear brothers and sisters is the test of this life.

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Not for one or two people,

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not for a segment of society, not for some people, but rather for each and every single one of us.

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And it is these two camps that Allah subhanho wa Taala told us when he Subhanahu wa tada said, for

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what

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dunya for in Elijah Hema he

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has for he who transgresses he sins and sins and doesn't care

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transgressing the bounds of a law.

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Well as Darren highlighted

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and prefers the life of this world, the dunia prefers to give in to the weakness of his knifes

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prefers the temporary life of the dounia

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for in Ninja Hema, he and

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his abode is nothing but the Hellfire on the other hand

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what a man and half Mr. camara be one ahead enough say I kneel

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for in janitor he

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has for he who fears standing before his Lord subhanho wa Taala

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and does what

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and prevents his knifes from following his desires. For him his abode

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is nothing but gentle.

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My dear brothers and sisters, this Jenna that we all seek that we all want that we all ask Allah subhanho wa Taala for

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it's not something that we will enter with a free ticket.

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But rather the ticket to enter Jenna

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is extremely expensive.

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In Syl, Otto La Jolla

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that the product of Allah that we are purchasing is excellent

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pensive, Ella in Seattle, la hogen. The project of a law that we are purchasing our lives with what is it? It is Jenna. My dear brothers and sisters, it was this reality

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that the best of generations 1400 years ago, they understood and they understood very well.

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They understood extremely well. And that is why we find the overnights

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their lives changed. They transform their lives,

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from living the worst of lives.

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We all read in this era and from the lives of the companions,

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what they used to be indulged in what they used to be involved in, in the days of Jamelia

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for worse than what many of us have become accustomed to in our lives. And yet, they gave it all up.

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They gave it all up Why?

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Because they understood the true nature of the test of this life. And they understood very well.

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That what is expected of us is to prefer the pleasure of Allah

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over our own pleasure.

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In Allahu Allah yiruma Vietcong hat, euro euro nabee, unfussy him, Allah subhanahu wa taala does not change the condition of a people until What?

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Until they change themselves. barakallahu li walakum filmmaker and Avi him. One of our many anyone here can be Matthew he mean it was declared Hakeem aku matches my own are still federal law. How do you welcome Elisa? eleusinian I mean could leedham been opia? For still a few who in nung who Allah for Allah

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Alhamdulillah Allah Sonny was shockula who Allah tofi one Tina, what a shadow Allah Isla de la la la sharika lahu who tell women he showed me what I should do and no Mohammed Abu Rasulullah

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was hobby he was one he was a learning. Woman Sara Alana g he worked at aura who

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was Gigi Ella Yomi de

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la hora de la

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Taku la serie one najwa Yeah, are you hilarious? Man otaku Taku Wha What do you have some Nakajima delivered? What Taku la her in en la hobby, Bina chama loon, my dear brothers and sisters.

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the very, very first step

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in changing our lives, in changing our bad habits. Regardless of what it may be.

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The very first step is to acknowledge these bad habits

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to acknowledge them to accept them, to look for them to ask, what are my shortcomings? What are my bad habits that I need to work on? Because the worst of people are those who live this life thinking that they are guided and upon right guidance.

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But the path that they're creating is the path that's leading them to the hellfire.

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Secondly, by recognizing the very nature of this, of this neffs that we all have

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enough Salah ammara tumby sui Ilana Rahim Allah be use of Allah His Salam he said that his knifes

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this knifes within us,

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it inclines towards evil

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except those upon whom I Lord has had mercy, and they are few among the majority.

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And so the very nature of of our neffs

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is that it is attracted towards evil. It naturally

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inclines towards evil. This is its nature and we need to recognize that Thirdly, we

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We need to recognize where these bad habits are leading us to many of us, we look at them our bad habits, and we see that they're small, they're not a big deal.

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But these baby steps are leading us to our own destruction. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said about one such example, er como el Khatib. Beware of lying

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for in El kariba de el fudo.

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For lying, it leads to immorality, to corruption to saying

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we're in our food or it l&r and that for jewel, that sin, it leads to the hellfire.

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You may think that one or two lies is okay, but no,

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you become accustomed to it, and then it becomes a part of your life, it becomes a habit, an evil habit that you become accustomed to. And that is what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was warning us from, that this is what leads to the hellfire. Fourthly, recognize the danger of deleting many of us, we think we're young, we have an entire lifetime ahead of us, we have a lot of time to transform ourselves, to change ourselves.

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But the reality is that this is only a delusion that has been placed in our minds, by our enemy by shaitan.

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How many of us can guarantee ourselves to live even another day, if you work hard today, if you put in the effort today, if you struggle against your enough's today, than tomorrow,

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in the afternoon,

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you will rest in peace.

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But if you give in and cave in, and be lazy today, and and decide to rest today,

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then in the era, you won't have any rests.

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Finally, my dear brothers and sisters, remind yourself that the beginning of this path, the beginning of transformation, the beginning of struggling against your bad habits,

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is difficult.

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It comes with hardship.

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It comes with many challenges. It comes with many hurdles.

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But you have to persist, you have to continue.

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You have to have your determination high.

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Because you will struggle in the beginning. But later on,

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you will rest later on your life when it changes. These bad habits will become a part of your past.

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And you will be able to live your life without them. Many of us we think that these bad habits have been with me for so long, especially those of us who are older in age.

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For those of us who are elder

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we've had these habits, our entire lives. And so we think that we can never give up. We can never give them up.

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But if you work hard now, even if

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even if you are in your 60s or 70s or 80s if you work hard now

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in a few years, that will become a part of your past and your life will be accustomed

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will become accustomed without without those habits. My dear brothers and sisters in this dunya we train hard. We work hard to achieve many goals.

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For those of us who want a certain career or a certain profession.

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We work hard we train hard. We take courses

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that keep us up the night. For those of us who want a nice body. We go to the gym we train day in day out

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for a goal that we have in mind.

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But why is it

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that when it comes to the commandments of a law to the prohibitions of a law why

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Is it that we don't strive? Why is it that we may try to strive? We may try to struggle but then we give up very easily.

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The answer is three things.

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The answer is three things.

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Our evil inclining knifes

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our external enemy shaitan.

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And

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this dunya that we live in

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and we are attracted by it. This dounia that is visible to us, as opposed to the Acura that is invisible from us. I swear by Allah, that if me and you were to see what Allah has prepared for the believers and the disbelievers in the Acura, if we are to see it with our eyes, for even a split second

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we would not sin we would not disobey a law for even a single day.

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But it is because this dunya is visible to us and the athlete is from the world of the unseen. It is because of that.

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That striving against our enough's

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and struggling to perfect ourselves.

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It is because of that, that it becomes difficult. And it is because of that. That the majority of us we give in and we give up. We ask Allah subhanahu wa tada to make us from among those whom he Subhana who were to Allah said, One lady in a jar to Faena. The unknown sabudana we're in Allahu Allah, Allah mercy mean indeed.

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Those who strive and struggle for our sake

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they strive and struggle against their enough's. Then we owe it is a lost promise. We will open up for them the wings in this dunya and in the Euro, we ask Allah subhanahu wa tada to make us from among them. We ask Allah subhanahu Adana to make us to see our shortcomings and to work against them. Alone, no feeling Massimino will mostly not work meaning me not

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