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We carry on our discussion

on the series that we started, which is correcting concepts.

And the concept that we're dealing with in the last two hotbars. And this is the last one in that series is the concept of masculinity, or radula, or manhood.

And if you have missed those two hotbars, you can go back and check them on the YouTube they're available for you to understand the entire concept. Today, we mentioned in our last football that we want to talk about attributes of roseola or the quality of being a gradual a man is that you stand for your deen

you stand up for the values that you hold truly and deeply to yourselves.

And Allah subhanaw taala throughout the Quran has given us numerous examples. What's really interesting is other than the examples of the MBR Allah He was salam,

ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada has given us examples of individuals and Allah has omitted the names of those individuals.

And what is left for us is the word or module.

The focus is that there were men who were they, we don't know.

What was their name? We don't know.

The quality that Allah describes is as following in solidity I've seen one of the snippets. Allah subhanaw taala talks about this. In verse number 13, Allah says, well, the people to whom masculine has horrible Korea give them an example of the people of the village. The residents of a town is a homeowner, more Salone that Allah sent to them messengers to either out of southern la hemos naygn. We sent them to messengers, one town, two messengers, that was not enough

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the community said, we're not going to listen to you

for Xena Be fearless, and we basically reinforced them with a third messenger in the same town.

For Callooh, in in a coma saloon, and they collectively come and told the community we have been sent as a messenger to you oh people, three of them.

They responded, Aloma and Tamila Machado Miss Luna, you're nothing but like humans like us. Allah subhanaw taala about this particular objection that you're nothing but a human 10 times in the Quran, you're going to find this objection by various different communities and various different

nations of the past. You're just like human like us. Why should we believe in you?

There are 10 different instance in the Quran tribes gone. Yeah, Lutz, Ali Salam, all of these. They're like, Oh, you're just like us? Why should we listen to you?

Oh, can't Allah send an Angel? So they're saying the same thing here. My aunt told me LaBelle, Sharon, Miss Luna, you just like us?

Well, man, man, woman che and Allah has not arrived man has not sent anything to you in unto Milotic vivo and all you're doing is you're just lying and fabricating stuff all Rabona Alamo inna la comme la Mora salon. We don't need to prove to you or people that we are true messengers. Our rub knows that we are the true messengers. Well, not Elena Illa. Holy morphine

and upon us is that we convey and deliver the message clearly.

Then they start talking, and they say that we see you as a bad omen, la Ilam tanta, who if you do not stop Leonard German come, we're going to stone you to death. While I am a Santa Caminada. Eileen, you're going to have a very painful punishment at our hands. The community is talking to the messengers, all who thought it will come now come into kirtan the messenger said, You're a bad omen lies with yourselves. Are you saying this because you are reminded of the truth?

You're saying all of these because I were telling you the Huck Belle and to Oman mystery phone. You are a nation that transgressors a nation that has transgressed limits? This is the point of the aisle, the entire story. Well, I

mean, calls Medina to Roger will.

Allah says a man he came running down from the furthest end of the city.

Well, yeah, I mean, XL Medina. There are two meanings of that. One is that he lived in the furthest

and of the city, and he came to downtown. So these messengers were send sent to the core of that city, the downtown, where all the policies even today are made and all if any good begins it begins there if any bad begins it begins there. It's downtown is that as determining the suburbs? So this person was from the suburbs and he came to downtown.

And the other meaning is, but yeah, I mean, I'm sorry, Medina city. He came from the furthest boundaries of the city, ie he was living in the suburbs, but obviously, where did he come to the downtown? Both meanings are correct. Well,

I mean, up on Saturday, Medina, Dr. Raju annoying me I saw. Allah did not mention to us his name, but mentioned to us two things about him. He was a Raju he was a man who stood up for Huck, who stood up for what is right. He didn't care about the consequences. He didn't care about, oh, what is the community going to say? What is going to be my social status within the community or public or society, he was not worried about that. And that's what men do when they stand up when it is difficult to stand up. They raise their voices when it is difficult to raise their voices. They speak up when it is difficult to no one else's speaking.

come in via typically Latino, and cathedra. How many of times that has happened that a small group of people if they stand up, they overpower a huge group of people be vanilla, it's with the permission of Allah. As long as our intentions are pure, for defending our deen and our values, we stand up, we raise our voices to the best of our abilities, against injustice against our brothers, wherever it is taking place against the injustice of humanity, but also against desecration of our values and our religious freedoms in these countries.

In a couple of days, or maybe in the next few few days before end of June, I did a podcast with Yaqeen institute that should come out. And this is specifically for parents,

that if you're sending your kids to public schools and universities, what do parents need to do? And it was almost an hour and 30 minute or an hour and 20 minute discussion with your mom, Tom. And it's necessary for parents to know that legislatively, what are your rights?

It is not okay for a principle of Cambridge School, to tell the Muslim kids, you can't have a room, it's not okay. We have a right for religious freedom.

It is not okay for having some of the girls in that school, their jobs being taken off or pulled by some white people over there, we have a religious freedom.

And just because that school principal does not want to honor that we cannot sit silently and say, Oh, we're going to take our kids out, or we're going to have a different alternative. If you choose to send your kids to public school, as parents, you have no choice but to engage, show up to those meetings. No Muslims show up to those meetings. There are monthly meetings and quarterly meetings with the Superintendent and the Board. We should be there. We shouldn't be voicing our concerns with the same Christians who are voicing concerns against LGBTQ we should be supporting them, because it's the same cause the same values that we don't stand for this. But it's sad to see that no

Muslims are there and our kids are going to these public schools. So standing up, not worrying about your job, not worrying about where your risk is going to come and focusing on that value that this is our religious freedom in this country. And we're going to take it

once we do do that, the other party also recognizes that these people are going to take their rights. So we can argue we can resist. Then Allah subhanaw taala says the second quality of this person well yeah, I mean XL Medina de la Julian. Yes.

He didn't come walking,

sense of urgency.

The state in which Allah has described this individual that there was a Gambia he didn't say Oh, Al Hamdulillah we have you know, three messengers in the community. Alhamdulillah Allah is going to take care of this don't need to worry about this.

Oh Al Hamdulillah we have one Imam here one Imam hero Imams will take care of the Imam of our children. sense of urgency.

There was no need for him. There are three messengers in that community. Not just Imams three messengers.

But he recognizes that the tide is shifting and I need to raise my voice with those messengers. Do the messengers need help? They just need to raise their hands that Allah will send.

So just relying on the community leaders or a few Imams within the

community is not enough

for our community to save our children and next generations and ourselves.

So that's why Allah denoted this one act of his, yes, he was running. He came running the rule Emma. They said running necessitates what he didn't plan. He said, Okay, you know what, let me go get changed. I'm going to dress up for this occasion, I'm going to take the best horse I can. I'm going to take you know, I'm going I want to present myself. He recognized the gravity of the situation, dropped everything and ran for the situation. Well, minoxidil Medina to Raju, Louisa. What did he say? Allah Tony.

He responds to his people. He says, Oh, my people.

Look at the Lord, and gentleness, all my people. What's wrong with you? God, I own all my people. It's really ironic to see, like in Toronto,

in the main street, where all of this LGBTQ movement happens, there is a person Christian, you can look him up on YouTube. Every Sunday, the guy grabs his microphone, he has a backpack speaker or some speaker, and he stands at the corner of that street, calling all of them against saying, there is no pride in this. God is going to send us punishments. Wake up, oh, people, this is not the way of Jesus. This is not the way of life. This is not the way of God. And he's openly having arguments and communication with them. And he's warning people.

And he's telling them punishment is about to come.

Wake up. And he's so like, if you watch that person's video, he's so concerned about his people.

That imagery, Allah is telling us he comes to these individuals. And he says to the people, the messengers are there. He says, ya go me all my people.

It'd be almost Halloween, follow the mursaleen follow the messengers. I mean, what's wrong with you follow this message. They are the messengers. They've been sent it to be one more setting, why don't you follow the messengers?

And then he gives an argument. I mean, are they asking? They're not asking for any money from you. They're not asking for any rewards. They don't get anything out of this conversation or interaction. You believe you believe you don't believe you don't believe. It's not like they're becoming millionaires on your belief. It's w rumalaya Salako majra. They're not asking for any agile.

Well, who don't and they are guided. What's why is it that we're not understanding the simple

and then he gives them an argument of EDA? 130 And he's like, How stupid can I be? He's like, why am I here? And what is it we're wrong with me? Why would I not follow? Why Molly Allah or Buddha lady? Why would I not worship the one football Ronnie the one who originated me from nothing?

What la he told Joan and we're going to return back to him. He sent us and we're going to return back to him

and then he asked them another question at who I mean do any idea he created you you choose other deities and worst things that you want to worship beside him other gods other than Him? In Europe near Rama and obey don't run. If the Most Merciful? Notice how he did not you say in your ninja bottle. If the one who is the overpowering alcohol, he didn't use the attributes of Allah that are that are more appropriate to punishment. He said if the Most Merciful One chooses to punish you. Ie you will not

lie to me. I Nisha to whom Sharia What are you in Cologne? That on that day if Allah decides to to harm you, nothing would benefit me. Or Nor could it save me if the most compassionate intends to harm me. He's not punishing. He's not telling them. The punishment is coming to you. He's like, What happens if the Most Merciful decides to punish? Nobody can protect me from his punishment? Neither can I be I can run away from the punishment. It's not you that he's going to be punished me. So he's trying to remind them that I am also in the same board if I choose to disobey Him.

In he is a Luffy abahlali Mubin I'm going to be a lost cause at that end.

I will be indeed in a clearly astray path

in the month to become Allahu Akbar. He says I have believed in your robe, not my robe.

Like these are subtleties that Allah is in

me I want to be I have become, I have believed in your love. Now my rock, your Robbie's your love, I believe in him

first and our own first not only the yeah is my love first and our own Listen to me.

And then Allah skips the scene. What happens? The Mufasa don't they tell us they kill him?

They grab and kill him as soon as he dies. Allah tells us to conduct the first conversation this person has, Allah is giving us the first conversation he has after he dies. Allah says clean, holiness Jen, it was said to him that enter Jannah because of this defense that he did, Allah comi Isla Moon The first thing he says after dying

yeah Allah I wish my nation knew what Allah has given me in the bounties in this world after dying.

Be Malifaux Ronnie or be he was a sinner.

So he's saying Allah has forgiven me.

I eat he did some good action he was a sinner he says, Oh finally you will be Allah has forgiven me. You get forgiveness from what good deeds? No, he was a sinner just like you and I

the mafara Lee Robbie, Allah has forgiven me. Wa Donnie me and Karami green Mina Mokuba. Rami mean, Allah has made me from those who are honored and honorable ones on the day in that era Subhanallah this example or the example of the Musa Ali salaam, that we get all of these examples? Tell us one thing that a true man, a true Raju, a true mark of masculinity

is not that when you see things going wrong, you turn your eyes and say Mujica. Luggie not mine, you know Holy Moly hulless I'm sure Allah 33 I'm gonna go on my path. madly in love with any I don't want to get involved in this. It's unnecessary going to entangle mean things. But as a man when we see oppression, when we see people not following the true message or resisting against it, we have to stand up. We have to raise our voices in manners that are appropriate all of look at all the adab he did not desecrate them he did not tell them You bunch of people how tyrants are you your horrible bunch of people, you have three messengers, how dare you not list none of this.

So our slew when we try to rectify also has to be of the highest loftiest character and manner reflective of our connection with Allah.

We cannot resort to evil means to rectify something,

then we become just like that.

The second part that we want to focus on today

is a topic that insha Allah in our family halacha we'll be talking in detail, but I want to allude to it because some of you may not come to that Holika as a community.

So we've had few incidences and few reports and stuff from the community members that have come up to us. And they've mentioned about, you know, kids that are going a little bit excessive in terms of a repetitive behavior of bullying, like if a fight happens once you can call it bullying, right? If one fight happens, call us it's a fight. But if one particular individual or one particular set of groups of individuals are continuously doing this with varying different types of people, then that is an element of bullying within our communities. And sadly, for the longest period of time, I have spoken to various people everybody knew about this issue, but nobody's talking about it. There there

had parents that have come and brought up the concerns, but they were not dealt properly or they felt that they were unheard and they have stopped talking about it. And this is an issue that I want to address from two primary angles. Number one is as individuals who are adults in the community

one of the parts of masculinity and arugula is that when you walk out of that door and you see some kids that are manhandling another child, don't walk away from it.

I was really hurt because I saw some of the video clips from the security camera footage. And it was really interesting to see that men all of us were just walking we go grab our shoes we see the kid is fighting the kid is you know, you know they're holding on and we just grabbed grab our shoes and completely have no concern, no cognitive awareness of what is happening around and so focused in leaving that we grab our slippers and leave. And that was really hurtful. That How could it happen that we have so many men and we just have one small lobby and so many incidents can take place there.

So that's a very important thing that as members come to the community, you have to be aware of this. You We are meant to protect those younger kids that are coming to learn here.

And when we see that we address the kid right away with respect. And if the same thing, same thing happens again, then we addressed with the parents. And if it's not rectified, then we go and talk to the management, you bring it up to me, you bring it up to any of the board members, and we can address it in a different manner. That's number one. Number two is we must understand why bullying happens in the first place.

Almost all of the times when we get so there was a stats, it mentioned that 75% of the time, when teachers in school were told that this is the kid who was willing, they could not believe it.

Because one of the attributes of a bully is he's a silent and a quiet person, he has a different personality. So he has a personality in front of adults, and you could not believe that he is ever going to believe. But then when he's alone with the kids, he turns into a different person.

And that's usually because that child has not gotten affirmation at home.

He's not getting the attention that he needs from his parents, and the nucleus of the family. Almost all the cases that they found

in Georgia, and the stats from Georgia, they found that 87% of these cases, there was domestic abuse in the house.

So the child sees the Father,

or the mother being abusive in the house. So they find that that's the normative way to approach things. This, this is separate from siblings who fight. I mean, I had fights with my brother all the time, right like, but that's different. We fought we reconciled and we went and grabbed ice cream afterwards. That's that's to men to male trying to assert dominance, and that is going to happen. But when it becomes repetitive and it becomes contagious, ie it's no longer within the family, it's now going to other individuals. The second thing is there are four different types of bullying that happens. And if you come to the lecture tonight, you will get to address that. Number one is verbal

bullying, that's the most common type, saying name words. And for those parents who have been on the court, you have heard them yourself. Like if you don't need to go anywhere, stand when the kids are playing here or outside and hear the words that kids are saying, not acceptable.

It's not acceptable that the words are using and words are calling each other Pacquiao or loser or a monkey, these words, these are words that are it should not have any space in this space. We should not allow that. Because when the verbal bullying is allowed, and verbal name calling is allowed, then it goes from there on further things.

The second thing that happens is physical bullying, because from verbal, now that person becomes bold. So oh, wait a minute, I've been saying these things. There's no consequences.

I'll give you an example. And this happened in front of the board member with me. And I'm bringing this out because we need to address this. I told one of the kids to walk away. There was an issue between two kids, I was addressing it in my room.

One of the kids he responded back to saying what I'm going to skip that word because there's a hook but but he said what the dash are you going to do to me

seems like a 13 year old talking to the Imam of the masjid, when they have this attitude, that means that they feel secure in this behavior.

And they promote this and they're going to talk do this. So as adults in the community, we have to be vigilant about that.

We have to observe, keep our eyes open these kids, this is a safe space. But if one or two or three or four or five individuals are making this unsafe, then the consequences have to be on those kids.

If proven by you know, corroborating evidence.

The next type of bullying is social bullying, which is the mission. So we create a group and we emit these kids from the rest so this is our core, you're not part of us. You can you can be a loser and this is making the other field othered you no longer with oh you support this friend. We are not friends with this. We are not going to be friends with you. We're going to admit that the fourth type of bullying is cyberbullying.

And this cyber bullying is a severe severe crime.

If it is proven, then it's a severe crime in Georgia.

punishable to like five years of prison. If they can trace that one kid was doing cyberbullying How does it begin? It begins by recording a person in a humiliating position or creating an art artificial environment where cameras and

owns are brought out. And then the video is recorded on this kid being humiliated and thrown onto the ground or something. And then that is shared amongst the people on snapchat all the youth here know what I'm talking about.

And when what happens we all laugh it off. Look at what happened to this kid.

Most of the suicide attempts that happen, they happen because of social bullying,

cyber bullying, and verbal. Very rarely physical bullying leads to suicide.

Because I said physical hurt and it can recover. But that psychological impact

of social, verbal and cyberbullying are everlasting.

One of the recent studies in the FYI Institute, the Family and Youth Institute, they do research on Muslim families is they they concluded that one bullying incident

leads to a child

to your child's grades being affected in their math, science, and English subjects immediately.

The effects of those bullying is not only lost in school, they become reclusive for the rest of their life because they don't feel welcomed.

And the list goes on.

So we have to be very, very careful. And why do these individuals do that? Because they have a lack of remorse. They know that I can do this and nobody's gonna do anything to me.

I'm untouchable.

They feel angry and frustrated at home and the situation, they are struggling socially. So bullying becomes a form of dominance for them. I can't fit in other circles, I'm going to start bullying now I can fit in and I become the leader of that so I feel an assertive dominance in that situation.

And lastly,

they were also victims of bullying in the first place.

No bully becomes a bully unless he was bullied first.

Almost all the time they were bullied first. Something happened to them.

And nobody believed in them. Nobody listened to them. So the only thought and only avenue left for them was to resort to bullying themselves. Because that's the only way they have seen to rectify situations. So in our communities, these type of things are going to be completely intolerable. And I call upon all the adults here it's all of your responsibilities

because it takes a village to raise a kid a boy luckily had our stuff that hola hola hola como recital Misumi infrastructural for in the whole affordable him if I can ask everybody to stand up their brothers that are standing all the way and make your first selfs first complete so that we can don't leave any gaps in the stuff. Fill it out as if you're praying.

to partner with Allah to send his choices, blessings on Nabina Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allahumma salli wa salam ala Nabina Muhammad Allah Allah He was he was setting him to see him in cathedra we asked Allah subhanaw taala to rectify those hearts that have been hurt with incidents of bullying. And we ask Allah subhana wa Tada that he grants them ease and, and comfort in their hearts and they're able to come out of the situation. We ask that Allah subhanaw taala also purifies the hearts and their Amahl deeds of those kids who are adults who have become valid and they have gotten involved in this and give us a trophy as a community to come out of the situation in sha Allah, we

ask that Allah subhanaw taala gives every single one of us that which we want, if it gets us closer to Allah and keeps those things away from us if it gets us away from Allah subhanaw taala we ask that Allah subhanho wa Taala grants every single one of us still feel on this blessed day to send salutations and Nabi Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and gives us the Tofik to worship Allah subhanho wa Taala in these best 10 days, we ask that Allah subhanaw taala gives every single one of us he die. Every single one of us still feel to recite the Quran on a daily basis. And Quran becomes a source of our guidance and a source of explanation of our sins. We ask that Allah subhanaw taala

accepts from us all of our either that and makes us from those who are accepted on that day and makes us from those who enter Jannah without any hisab accord only heard our stellar ferula Holly welcome Melissa in Muslim infrastructure over in the hula hula for Rahim or abdomen Sana