The Islamic Personality – Episode 29

Abu Usamah At-Thahabi


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Prohibition of Carrying Tales

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The importance of compromise in Islam is widely understood, as it is widely understood that individuals can compromise their brotherhood to achieve their own goals. The segment discusses various topics such as women, men, and conservative talk, including the importance of avoiding backbiting during public discussions and warning of mis clar statements. The segment emphasizes the need for evidence and evidence-based learning to inform people about issues and avoid misunderstandings, and provides books that provide context and information.

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until that he has that response and he takes it back to the people started. And then this destroys families, relationships, friendships, and so forth and so on. Now, that is if the person is doing that with the golden the objective to make fitness and facade problems between people, but if a person is trying to make a slide, and he's trying to bring people together, and that case is permissible to even live, he says Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam, Lacell Cadabra levy useless who

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bein a nurse. He is not Elia, the one who tells a lie in order to make peace between people. So he goes to this person and he says, knowing that this brother has a problem with this brother over here, he goes and says, Hey, listen, I was with him. And we had lunch today. And he was speaking good about you. And he was saying he was sorry for what transpired between you and him. And he wants to apologize. He sent me to apologize to you. When that person hears that, he's gonna calm down and

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he's gonna say, Okay, I accept his apology. He goes to that other person. Listen, that guy told me that he saw you for what happened and he apologizes to you. And then he was allowed to lie in Ellis lamb to make it slide.

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We're on the other hand, the one who carries tails, he is carrying the tail to do what? To destroy the relationship between people. It is one of the worst characteristics that a person can have. It is something that is from the major sins and Ellison. It breaks society Yep, breaks marriages up communities up families up. It is a big problem. The person who does this has a sickness. And it's common. And their social media area, we have social media, you can be in two separate WhatsApp

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groups, and one group and one group that people appear as if they like you, you'll find them in the other group talking about you know, people from the same group, the other group that you're in, that's how it is. So the Muslim has to avoid being a person who hears what people says. And then he carries it to the other people. And you have to remember that hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he said, Al Majid is Bill Amana and Majelis Bill Amana when you sit and you

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have sittings with people, your friends, what is said in that sitting should remain amongst the people who said it. If someone were to say something in that city and about someone else, maybe what he said was haram, maybe it was Riba. Maybe while you're listening to it, you should stop him from saying it. You shouldn't take those words out and then say, You know what he said about you? In that meeting with Allah, He, I'm telling you the truth, Allah, he said it, he said that you're this and

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you're this and you're that the natural response of that individuals that he's going to get angry, and then he's going to allow something to come out of his mouth. And then that person takes that back to the one who started the problem off.

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So it's a terrible issue. And it's bad for a number of reasons was only going to we're only going to mention three of them. Just three, and there are many. One reason is because in lsmw, the brotherhood of Al Islam is crucial. It's important, you shouldn't be compromised. We shouldn't be of those people understand that we should use Islam to compromise the brotherhood of Al Islam by talking about people and warning about people we actually think we actually think, and his whole

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role is horo. As we mentioned, so many times, Xena shaytaan lo Han Soo Amali. The person thinks he is actually getting close to Allah by warning against people and talking about people. And it's just Peter will call is things that have not been established as if they're on a scale that is mobile, is how you don't like him. He doesn't like you. So people are talking about each other, making 10 Fear tip D that fear is not permissible. So if an individual were to carry tells between people he's

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compromising the brotherhood of Islam, which is sacred is from the shy of Al Islam. That lick will maintain your algorithm sha Allah phenom in globe and these days we don't have this issue is something we have a lot of Taha and in it. So as it relates to the issue Allah has mentioned in the MENA ECWA the believers are brothers, we are brothers, one to another, who in his right mind, who in his right mind is going to compromise his relationship with his biological brothers. His own family

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is going to do things

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They're going to cause them to hate each other and be enemies one to another. Who does that. Set that individual as a sickness in his head on his heart, something's wrong with him. And Allah sign the eye it may Muslims brothers, so I have a religious responsibility to safeguard the brotherhood and not to compromise it. And then being brothers, we saw with the companions of the Prophet sallallahu, it was sending them out of the Align home, the high level and degree of brotherhood that

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they exemplified and they illustrate it to the people Allah described in the Quran, Muhammad Rasool Allah, He will levena My wishes that well confetti, Ruhama, who Boehner who Muhammad is the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and those people who are with him Radi Allahu Allah and whom they are strong against the disbelievers and they are merciful amongst themselves. Where is the Rama? Where is the mercy? Where's the mercy? Where you will hear someone say something and then

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you take that to someone else and go back and forth in order to make fit and then for said, Where's the ramen that Allah describe the believers in the Quran? A villa tunnel meaning or is it an animal care feeding? The believers are those people who are gentle, merciful, easy towards the believers, and they have isn't strength my power against the non Muslims at the proper time at the proper place. So the first reason why carrion tells an amoeba is from the major sins is because it

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compromises the whole world of Islam. That brotherhood that the Prophet brought some Allah who it was set it up, and he put a lot of focus and emphasis upon it when he came with this Deen when he came with his Dawa. Second reason is the fact that the Nabil sallallahu alayhi wa sallam prohibited us from being this individual who Islam and Arabic is called the vulva chain. The person who has two phases, he has two phases. He said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said you do not Shadowrun NASA levy

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yet T ha Ola EB watching what it'd be watching.

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And another Hadith he said that it was a chain letter yet T ha will let you be watched. Well yet de la, la AB which he said that the worst person, the worst person is the one who comes to these people and he shows one face to them. And then he leaves them and he goes to another people and he shows another face to them. He's with the Muslims. And when he with the Muslims, he's praying and mashallah, he's using miswak and he's Spass and Ramadan, and he's doing all of those things, my

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Shala but when he's with his non Muslim friends and relatives and neighbors and the people we work with, he's cursing, he's swearing, he's drinking, he's not praying. He's acting like them. He's even ridiculing making fun of his lamb, vulva chain, the one who has to faces as many examples has many examples. When the BU sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sallam, he used to warn his community about being of the people who had two phases, you have to be a man and you have one phase. Unlike the Mona

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Lisa Kingdom hypocrite, he has two phases. He comes to the Muslim community, he is acting as if he as a man Billa

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when he leaves the Muslim community, he wishes evil for Al Islam and the Muslim community. Some people came to Abdullah bin Irma may Allah be pleased with them. After the death of the Prophet sallallahu it was sending them when we started to get bad rulers ruling over the Muslims. And some of these bad rulers, they were ruling over the companions. The Companions may Allah be pleased with them did not make Horos against them. And some of the companions who didn't give the br to some of

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them and they fought against some of those bad leaders that happened with a few of them a minority from amongst them, may Allah be pleased with them, after they saw the evil effective that the Companions as a general body and they're the majority. And the people of the Sunnah, said this is not the way of dealing with the ruler was a bad person. We have to give him his rights and try to change the condition of the community without fighting against the ruler because it's going to be a

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problem. We had some companions though, there were some issues, there were some issues where they didn't get with the program with the rule at that particular time. Run the Allahu Anhu but the main hedge of the majority of the companions and what was accepted later on after them is don't fight against and don't revolt against the ruler. Some of the people

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who came to Abdullah bin Irma? May Allah be pleased with them. They said, You know, when we entered upon the Sultan, the leader, we look at him and we say things to him that we don't really believe. And then when we leave him and we sit amongst ourselves, we start talking to each other about how we really feel about him. And the situation. Abdullah bin Allah, may Allah be pleased with him and his father said, during the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we used to consider that to

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be hypocrisy. That's the fact that you will stand in front of a person and talk as if everything is okay. And then when you leave that individual, you're talking bad behind his back, stabbing him behind his back, be a man and say in front of him what you believe. And this is what the prophet meant SallAllahu wasallam when he said that the best jihad, the best jihad is for you to say the truth in the face of an oppressive ruler. Why? Why? Because if you said the truth of what you

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believe about him in his situation, you run the risk of being persecuted, being put to death being put in jail.

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The best jihad is not the rulers somewhere, wherever he happens to be in the capital city, or wherever he is happened to be, and you're in the UK, and you're talking about third ruler, and you're in the privacy of your own home and you're talking about the ruler, anybody can do that. Anybody can do that. But the best jihad, authentic hadith of the jihad Kennametal Huck Finn watch. So thommen J is the best Jihad saying the truth in the face to the face of an oppressive ruler. So

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when Abdullah bin Omar may Allah be pleased with him heard that this was the behavior of the people, he told them. This is a sign of hypocrisy, to faces, so acquainted before we go on to the third and the last example inshallah of why this issue is bad. Don't be of the people who has two faces. Don't make me John and the two people, there's a person, you feel a particular way about him, but you don't show him you actually have that man believing that you and him are okay. But in reality when

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he when he's not around you, you're making veba about him, you're eating his flesh. There's a hadith that we have to mention before going to the third point in sha Allah azza wa jal, and that is, the man came to the house of the Prophet sallallahu. And he was setting them and he knocked on the door. And when the people came and say Allah so Allah is so and so's knocking on the door should we let him in Rasul? Allah says, Allah, Allah who it was sending them what a evil man he is. This man is an

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evil person. We know him for spreading evil and mischief and fitna, and then Medina, he's a bad person. And then in my house, he says, a bad person. They said, Should we let him in? He said, Let him in. When the man came in,

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then the beasts Allah, Allahu Allah, he was sending them started speaking good, tell him, how you been? How's your family? How's your health and so forth and so on, and treating them nice. And then the man left? When the Companions saw that, specially our mother I Isha, they were students, may Allah be pleased with them. They didn't let things happen, go past them, and they just will be quiet about it. She said, Yeah, Rasul Allah, when the man knocked on the door, you said what you said. And

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then when we allow two men, you treated them in a different way. He gave her the reason for that. He says, Allah, Allah who it was sending them, Verily the worst people, those people who, the community, the individuals, they are afraid of them and the evil that they may cause them. So there may be an individual, there may be an individual who you have to say some things in his face, because if you don't say things in his face, that you really don't believe he's going to do harm to

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you. He's going to do harm to you, he's going to harm you. And no shape form of fashion was the Prophet sallallahu it was selling them scared of that man. And no shape form of fashion was the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a person who had two phases Hi, shall Allah no way in the world nowhere in the world so never read that hadith and thing is this a case of vulva chain, Kala, Allah He, that's a case of the Prophet teaching people that there are people that you may come in contact

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with, you may not like them, but from your relatives. So you have to go to the dentist. So you have to go to the women, you have to go the to the new guy, you have to accept them when they come to your house, because not to go and not to accept them is going to create a bigger problem. So for the young brothers, we want to make mention of this because sometimes we approach things like is black and white, and there's no gray area. So he says

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As I have to deal with everybody the way I feel with them in the face, so I'm not going no, yeah, he is not like that. That's your uncle.

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That's your mother's brother, your father's brother. That's someone who has some position that would dictate and necessitate Your presence is there so by going there and not being a hypocrite by being sociable and taking it easy, the third reason that whiny why this issue is a really serious issue is because of what the Nibi mentioned about things like this. He says Allah Allah one day he went on it was salam ala of burrow come be of the Mandara jet as Siyam was solid was sadaqa Carlu Bella, Ya

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Rasulullah shanann I tell you people, what is more better of Dalits more superior and virtuous? We just pray it's about the money that's virtuous. We're going to pray some out there. Aisha is Shala virtuous. We're going to fast some people were fast. And today on Thursday fasting. He said, Do you want to know what is more virtuous than praying, fasting and given sadaqa visability law? They say yes, we would like to know. He said it's law that will bein that you make peace between people.

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That you make it your business, that if you're in a position to make peace between two people were being upset, you should go ahead and make that happen. It's from the best a Baghdad in Al Islam. And I think we all know people who have problems with other people. So if you're in a position where you could be the key that opens up the door of good, then that's what you do. He went on to mention and this is the point for inner if sad that bein he'll Holika

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Holika to let it die.

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What I can tell Hannukah allottee. The dean, he said if you want to know what's better than Salah song and sadaqa it is for you to make peace between people.

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He said because breaking up relationships between people. It is the Raisa, he said I don't say it's the razor that cuts your hair, shave your hair off. It is the razor that will shave your dean and cut your dean. Meaning your DS that you perform will be rendered null and void and you would destroy them. So if sad that could have been what facade that will Bane destroying people's relationship is a serious issue. And authentic hadith he mentioned sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in this regard, lay

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Samina men hubub Umrah Zoji ha. He is not from us, the man who spoils his wife as it relates to her husband, meaning the wife has a friend. The wife has a sadaqa a sister, her biological sister, her father, her mother, the wife has someone and they are advising her. And they are saying to her you shouldn't listen to him. You shouldn't be obedient, you should listen, you should leave the house. There instead of telling her fear Allah, that man is your daughter, Jana, we don't allow him to

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oppress you, but you have to do the right thing. So the person is advising her with the heart,

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hold back your anger, be patient, go for arbitration. That's the advice you should give her. But they are those people who say to the wife, when there are issues, the wife comes and start talking about a husband, for example, she's complaining, my husband did this. He did that he doesn't do this. He doesn't do that. That's what I have to deal with him does that. There's that system when she hears it. She says Ah, he's no good.

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You should steal his money. You should hide the money. You should do this, you should do that. You shouldn't obey Him. So the Prophet says Allah, Allah who it was sending them, anyone who makes that be but and he destroys a woman and the relationship between her and her husband. They're not from us. They're not from the people of Ellis lamb. Not that they're kuffaar. Not that they're kuffaar is a Hadith of unworried. For exaggeration showing that it is a serious issue. Why? Because Islam came

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to put things together and not to break things apart like these relationships. So the issue of a NEMA carry entails those are just three of the many reasons why is one of the worse one of the worst characteristics, and one of the major Cadet here, he mentioned sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Leia total Janita CTAT that's a Muslim. Another narration la yet Hello, janitor. No, ma'am. The person

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Karis tails will not go into Jannah some of the scholars said won't go into gender means what? They won't go into gender right away.

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Or it can mean the one who believes carrying tails is halali makes a stent lie love it. Point is it goes to show us a major sin. When Allah Muhammad Buhari brought the narration, the one who makes the Mima we're not going to Jana, he made the bad name Amina is from the major sense is from the Akbar and Qaeda air from the biggest of the major senses from the worst characteristics and quite a few people had it. Quite a few people have it taken people's column that you hear and sharing it with

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the people who they said that column about it. Terrible characteristic. The Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sallam he was walking with his companions in a graveyard and he looked at two graves and he said to the people, some Allahu Allah he was setting them in high they need let you have the band will add you as the band fee Kabir. These two occupants of this grave they are being punished and then not being punished for something that people think is big. People think it's small, but

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it's big.

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He said I'm gonna have as for the first one kind of like aesthetic, men and bone. The first one did not clean themselves from urine, a chroma Kamala.

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When he used to go to the toilet, he will go to the toilet standing up. So when the urine hits, the urinal is splashing all over the place. It splashes into the water and the water comes on his clothes. It hits the urinal, and it comes on his clothes, he misses and hits the floor and it gets on his clothes.

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So when he takes his clothes off, and he puts his clothes and the basket with the dirty clothes, he has urine.

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How can he make salad with new Jessa? How, how.

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So for our youngsters, cleanliness is from the Diem. Gotta take care of your hygiene. You got to keep your room clean. You got to take care of just exemplifying that high level of where LSM said about Nevada, especially with women, even more so with women.

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So that's the first one. He used to not pay attention to clean themselves. You have to make a stranger. You cannot go into the toilet and your university and your high school and your primary school or wherever you go to school. And you just get on the toilet and go to the toilet like non Muslims. You can't do that.

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You have to be careful how you sit. And if you stand how you stand, you have to take precautions and you have to use water and make it stingy, Stingy. If you don't have water, then you do a stigma with the tissue. The important thing, don't just go to the toilet and put your clothes on and that's it. He's being punished. And then the second one and the second one is the point. He said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in new Cana Yom she bein a nice banana Mima. As for the second one, he used to walk

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between the people and exists with the people and used to carry tells he used to make the Mima so this hadith goes to show that it is a major sin. It is a major, major, major sin.

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The third Hadith and there are a number of them. He asked a question something Allahu Allah, he was selling them a lot of Baroque comb. B kiari. Comb churna tell you who's the best from among Chu. They say yes, Yarrow, sola Bella, who? He said Alladhina era o Verkehr. Allah, those people from amongst you who when people see them, they remember Allah.

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They remember Allah because of the guy, the lady appears to be righteous. They're soft, spoken, well behaved, very respectful and respectable. They had that hey, of a person whose religious they looked at that way, Allah knows the best as to the people's reality never get tricked and fooled by people. But when we see people and they behave a certain way, they have what is known as a summed the way they come out in the way they appear the way they deal with people.

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So if you see them, they share. You think that the chef has taqwa and he has one. And you think what you see in public is the same picture that he has in private.

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He said they are the best ones from amongst you. And also the meaning of that is when you see them, they remind you of Allah, meaning they're giving you down with Allah. They

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Giving you Dawa. Don't do this don't do that. Hey, why don't you do that eight Don't get angry eight have several they reminding you of Allah. They are the best ones. The one when he gives the hook by you see him when you see him he's giving you doubt Allah. They're the best ones. And then he mentioned SallAllahu it was salah. SHANNON I tell you who are the worst ones from amongst you that people say yes yeah Rasul Allah, who are the last ones from amongst us? He says Allah Allahu alayhi

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wa sallam and Masha Obinna Mima, that people who exists and they carry tells amongst the people they go back and forth carrying tills so sign an indication is 20 that a NEMA is serious and then the man the one who doesn't Amina is the man. Yo mo P Yama, Allah won't look at the demand. Allah will speak to the man and Allah azza wa jal won't purified the Namine so there is a book by Imam and they're heavy Rahmatullahi to Allah Allah He is called Kitab el caballo. He brought a number of ayat of the

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Quran a number of a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa ala it was sending them telling us about the issue of an amoeba and how it is a big sin you go back you check that out inshallah I want to share with you some of the ayat of the Quran that speak about an amoeba

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that some of the minimum when they gave the Tafseer of the Quran they said this is talking about an amoeba have the scholar not mentioned that if you and I just read the Quran and this is and ours on our own, you won't get this is talking about Nima the Arab who sit in the audience if he reads that if he won't get that that's talking about that meme and then the man but just to share with you like the statement of Allah who thought and sort of attacked him that Allah Who method and little Edina

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Cafe ru M ra to know how to loop can attach data at danamon batinah Saly Heyne for HANA Tao Houma for LEM you Nia and Houma che

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min min Allah che Allah has given an example of similar tool, the similar tool for the disbelievers. Allah has given them an issue to look at and to consider the wife of Noah and the wife of Lord

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nor is a messenger lot is a messenger from the best of the people during the time. They had the best of the people. Both of them were married to to a religious women and they were under these two righteous slaves, but they may Fianna they were treacherous towards their husbands. And the fact that they were married to these two men, it didn't benefit them at all. Allah said, yo mo Pm is going to be said to them enter into the Hellfire with the people who are the darkening go to the

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hellfire. Some of the earlier marvelous lamb said this is talking about an amoeba because because they're women, they weren't going to their people telling them this the situation with Noah, there's a situation with lhote

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He has guests, he's going to do this, he said this, he said that he's pondering over this and pondering over that. So the wife will come to the husband with one face, go to the community with another with another face. So that's Nima. And it's from the worst type of Mimimi as well. Then the minima where the person is doing that to the a mate, we should have the back of our wives, wives are not perfect. And we as men, we're not perfect as well. And many times you'll find that the fitting

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in the drama of the man is more than the fitting in the drama of the woman. Although sometimes the fitting of the drama of the woman is more like in the case of this ayat to prophets Salawat Allah He was sent amlani Hema their women are given him drama. So what's the piano? Some people say Kiana which means to be treacherous. It can mean also a woman who steps out on her husband, and she has relationships with other men. That's piano like the sign of the munaf is three is that to Mina Kana.

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If you leave him with a trust, he will betray that trust you will betray you. So one of the meanings of piano is a woman steps out on her husband with another man. That's piano. This is something that is Mr. Hill can happen with the prophets and the messengers. It's not possible

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Allah protects them divinely from such an issue. So that's not the meaning of the eye. The meaning of the ayat is they made the Mima they will go to their husbands enemies and inform them of the secrets of the husband when he was pondering what he was about to do, what he was saying what he was thinking, and then come back to him as if everything was okay. So that's one of the ideas of nema. Another is a statement of Allahu Taala Wayne only Cooley whom as a to know Mazur. The scholar said

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that this word is meaning NEMA, this is whoa and to every wretched person who is doing now Mima Wade only clear whom as a to Know Messiah that is talking about Mima. The second is the third is another one of the smallest surveys of the Quran surah

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about Abu Lahab he mentioned Subhana wa Tada Umbra to homiletical hottub, the wife of Abu Lahab his wife will carry the fuel of the Hellfire the hardtop.

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The scholar said, this is a keen idea that the meaning here is she's carrying the hardtop the fuel which is the wood, but the word here is talking about Nima. She used to carry the Mima in the society and Mecca go to this one and say a they said this about chill, go back over there and said they said that about you and that was one of the fitness that she was well known for. And as a result of that she was mentioned in this Quran in this aisle of the Quran being described as the one

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who was carrying the Mima she's carrying tails and why is it called hardtop? Why is the NEMA called hardtop because it's going to be the thing that's going to burn her up. So Allah gave it that name SubhanaHu wata Allah. Another iris and sort of Tulum Allahu Taala mentioned whether to Terry Kula her laughing morphine, her Masen Masha in Bella name, and do not listen to and do not pay attention to the person who is always swearing what Allah he will lie he will lie he but he is morphine is

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ignoble is a person who's very lowly. He's a person you know, he's not practicing. He's an evil person, but he's always swearing. Don't listen to him, don't obey him, don't pay attention to him. He is a person who Allah azza wa jal described as a mais man, Miss Shah Binyamin. He's a person who's walking around carrying tails between people go into and going fro making fitna and making facade and cooling is 20 concerning this issue, that we don't want to be upon this lesson. Listen.

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If there is someone that you don't like,

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and you don't like him,

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then don't smile on his face and don't scanning grin in his face as if everything is cool between you and him. And then when you leave his audience and you leave him, you talk about him, you stab him in his back and you eat his flesh. That's the sound that you are a coward.

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You're a chump, you're a coward.

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Avoid the person altogether if you can do that. And if you have to mix with them, if you have to mix with them, then just don't say what is not in your heart. And when you leave his presence, don't talk about

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the great scholar of Islam Al Imam Al Ghazali Al Imam Al Ghazali. He has a book called here Lumad deen and Imam Al Ghazali was a person of the soul worth no doubt about it. He was a person who had an IP that that was not the IP that the self of this ummah, Radi Allahu I knew him. He my aim Rama to lie to him. But nonetheless, he's a great scholar and Al Islam from the Shatter, he meant that he had a lot of knowledge in a solo film. And the book that he wrote, he had a Luma Dean overall is a

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good book. It has some really good buckles in it some really good subjects that he dealt with, and it's a beneficial book. But there are other books that the Muslim will use the student of knowledge before he used that book.

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Nonetheless, one of the main beneficial things that he said in the book is when he talked about an amoeba, he gave some advice of his own mind. He said, If someone comes to you like this,

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spreading tales to you about what someone else said about you, your brother in law, your co worker, your ex wife, people in the masjid, your mutual friends,

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Is he or she comes to you and starts to carry tells about what those people said to you now when that person comes to you, and they're saying, Listen, let me tell you what someone's soul has said about you. And I'm, I'm telling the truth, what Allah He

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and the mammal reside, he said, six things you should do.

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First of all, you should prohibit the person and give him advice, and make the best of what he's doing a, it's not acceptable for you to do this. You're a student of knowledge, and you're doing that. This is what the facade do the evil people do that. Don't don't come tell me what these people said about me. There is no religious reason and benefit for you to say that, don't do that. So you should stop them. And don't do that. Don't tell me what they said about me. giving him advice. Those

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I act and those ahaadeeth. No, load the women. Allah mentioned about them, of Allah, his wife, Allah mentioned about that. The man won't go into the Jannah the man is in the Hellfire being punished, the worst of our Ummah, the people who make facade between the people, you give them that data that Naseeha. Second of all, don't believe what they say.

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Don't believe it. It may be true, but don't believe it. Don't believe it. By believing it. You open up the door for fitna drama. You make him successful in what he was trying to do and what she was trying to do. And that is destroy the relationship between you and that people listen. Some people as we told you, I believe last week about a sure

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greed May the people of the past shared each other's blood and made it stay lol of the Muharram.

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So the one who was stingy, but still he stingy. He doesn't want to get from his own money. He doesn't want to give. But the Shaheed He wants your money, he wants his money, and he wants your money as well. He doesn't like that you have money. He wants all of what Allah gave you in your house, your car, everything.

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The man is like that as well. The money the no, ma'am. He doesn't like someone he doesn't like them. He doesn't want you to like, as well, it's not enough that he doesn't like them. Just leave it you don't like the mess between you and and your Lord, that's not enough for him. He has to go the extra step, she asked to do more efforts, wants to make sure that you don't like that individual as well. So when that person comes to you, and they start to say that, don't believe them, don't believe

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them. Number three, don't go looking for and researching and trying to get to the bottom of it. If you can avoid that don't do it. If it's something that can't be avoided, something that is touching your honor, something then you allow to do that in a confined space. For the baby know, if someone who's evil comes to you with some news, then ascertain as to his validity, so that you don't unknowingly harm someone else, you don't harm them. So if you have to, then no problem, you want to

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get to the bottom of it to sort something out. People were saying things about your honor, and it can hurt you in this way that way, then you can get to the bottom of it. But if you can afford it, just let it go. Next thing that he mentioned Rahmatullahi Tada, Allah He is that you should have a good opinion about the one who they're mentioning that to you.

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He said this, he said that about you have personally been about the one who was your brother and Al Islam, have a good opinion and don't allow someone to come and change your opinion. I mean, he is that.

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I mean he is that.

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I mean, number five is when he mentioned that you should hate that individual if you persist upon what he's doing. Because it's something that Allah hates to have bought for that individual. You tell them don't do that. It's not a nice thing. If he persists, he comes to you goes back to them comes to you. This is something that will guarantee or warrant a person hating fifth or number six, the last one he said, Don't you go after you heard that from him? Don't you go and say, You know

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what someone so said about me? The you know what someone's so told me that so and so said about me Don't do that. Because if you do that now you'll be making the Mima. So he came to you and he said, hey, they said about you. So this and this and that.

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Leaving don't go and say hey, you know what someone's so sad about

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helped me I was so and so what those people told him about now you are making the Mima you will make an amendment. So just leave the issue altogether and conclude in 20. The issue of a NEMA could be a mineral Quebec air, it is a whole of a type of characteristic

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that is rejected in Ellis lamb in strong terms. Let us not be from amongst those people in any shape form of fashion. And Allah's Rahman MK Farah Shala. And his alpha is MK Luba, if you brothers have any questions shot like put your question forward, Fidel Yeah, he is smile.

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So the brothers asking if

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dealing with the issue of a NEMA is Nimmi Amma specially for is it only for something that's set in private between one or two people, a few people. So a few people are discussing something 234 people and then one of them, two of them, maybe three of them, they take that tail and carry it to the one who is said about one person or two people or three people? Is it a small number.

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That doesn't have to be a small number doesn't necessarily have to be a small number. If someone mentioned something in public, in a public assembly where everybody is listening to that issue, and he mentioned something about someone who was not there, he wasn't there. And the person was there and he heard it, or you didn't have to be there. He heard it from a recording he read it. He takes that information to the person who was set about with the goal and be objective of making fitna

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that's his knee and he knows he didn't hear it. We had this with people listen.

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People will say something about what transpired.

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And you say something for an example about the chef of our shared or about something. A person will take that Qalam to a shake and say someone so said this about you. He misconstrue what was said he'll lie. He'll add he'll subtract. He won't give the context. When the chef here is what was said. The chef may speak out against that individual is something that people do and have been doing.

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calling it the religion and calling the Sunnah. So we saw that a lot. And that's why the scholars said that the Mufti the Mufti is the seer of the musetti. The Mufti is the captive of the one who's asking the question, because the Mufti is going to answer based upon what the question is. So if someone comes and say, and share, so and so said that you're ignorant,

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so and so said that you don't know what you're talking about. The Sheikh responds and says, Who is he and he said something like that.

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So an amoeba is not just to 134 or five people. Now Mima is taking the Qalam of someone or some people and taking that cannamd To someone who didn't hear about it, and it's about them. And the goal and the objective is to spread mischief, to spread drama. But if someone heard some Cayambe about someone, and they were not there, and he wanted to take that calamity them to tell them, hey, listen, you need to sort this thing out, because this is what's being said, and I'm coming and let

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you know, just to sort it out.

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This nanny Mima because he doesn't want drama. He doesn't want fitna and then Mimi is the one who relays and carries the tale with the need of making fitna and will lie. That example that I gave you is a common example among some of our brothers and Hello, not only those brothers, but people when you want to get your own you want to get your enemy down someone you have a problem with. All you do is you take that cut out, you give it to someone, you don't give the context you don't give what was

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really said you add on you subtract and then the person who hears that you get a response out of him. That's Lemina someone else put their hand up toward the rear.

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The brothers asking about backbiting if you speak about someone

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and you don't know

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you're talking about someone in a gathering you

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Don't mention his name is that considered to be backbiting?

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People don't know who you're talking about.

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If the people don't know who you're talking about, it's not backbiting. The people don't know who you're talking about. It's not backbiting. It's not backbiting. But to that individual, he may know that you're talking about him, and in his heart that could be considered to be backbiting because the Prophet said backbiting was SallAllahu it was selling them Vic Rocha. demoniac Cara mentioned is something about your brother that he dislikes. He dislikes. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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mentioned something about people, but it wasn't that they disliked it, the three men who made mistakes and the Nabhi got in front of the people and said, What do you think about the situation of a person who did this, and another one did that. And another one did that he didn't mention some secret that they did was bad. To make them dislike what he was mentioning, though, that was said he's gonna pray all day that will say he's gonna fast all the time that will send he's not gonna get

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married to women, that trying to be religious.

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But if you came out and he mentioned something to people, and there's a person in the audience, and he knows for sure that he's talking about them, it could be it may not necessarily be backed by them. But you have to look at all the details. You have to look at all of the details. But if the people don't know who you're referring to have no idea. And you didn't want fitna from that then this is the way you can teach people to warn people about things that are going on and Allah's

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Ireland, Ireland, you brothers have any more questions for the?

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We'll answer that later on Shala

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between us between us

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He's intended to say

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and the brothers asking about what are some of the books that can take the place of a here Illuma Dean that Imam Ghazali wrote and some of what Al Imam Al Ghazali put in that book Rama to lay it is not acceptable things that are not consistent with

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the truth. And there are as I mentioned, books that are hola are better preferable than that one like we all go solid Hain serves the same purpose.

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And it's a better book because it's a book of ayat and a hadith. And some of the explanations of that. So we are the salah hymn also the book by the students of Ibnu. Tamia. moutain, you had a student by the name of Ibn Omar flair, he has a book called adab. A Sharia. The Sharia the advocates of the Sharia Well, Islam, similar to a here Aluma Deen, very similar to it. So a person gets that book. And it's more than enough where he wouldn't necessarily have to use it yet, or lumen Dean. But

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that's not to say as I mentioned earlier, that there's no good in that book. If you wanted to read about the thick of the Brotherhood of LS lab, then the book of Allen emammal Rosati is one of the best books for that issue. It's one of the best books that give you an understanding of what is the hook of Al Islam, the or kind of the Brotherhood of Al Islam, the short route of the Brotherhood of Al Islam, and all of those other issues that he mentioned in that book Rahmatullahi Allahi. Any more

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questions and 20 mark question for the year.

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Is it permissible to tell someone as someone else's saying things about them just to warn them? This is permissible. This is permissible. The less you say the better it is if you have a good relationship with that brother or that person you say listen, I'm telling you. You need to be careful about this situation. If your goal in the objective is not to make fitna you remember that but don't be of the people have overall again people fool themselves. The person say I'm not wanting

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to make fitna no you want to make fit and that's why you saying it. But if you have sincerity and you

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You heard something that wasn't correct. And you want to warn a person of that thing that this person is saying, then that's permissible. As a matter of fact, that's the hawk. But maybe what you want to do first is warn the person who said that to you. Hey, don't say that. Why you saying that? Maybe you and him need to talk. And then you won't have to say that to even open up the door. So first, you should try to talk to the individual. Why are you saying that? Fee Allah azza wa jal. So

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we know that around the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when they were traveling, and the moon Alfie Kohn, who they thought were Muslims, they thought these were their brothers in Islam. They said, that prophet was way up there. So Allah what He was telling him, these people said, we have never seen a group of people who eat more than Muhammad and his companions. And we have never seen a group of people who talk more in line more than Muhammad in his companions. And

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we have never seen a group of people who when it's time to meet the enemy to fight, they are so afraid and scared. And they have no courage. One of the companions was there and he heard them say that. He said, Hey, you people, I'm gonna have to clean saying something like that. He addressed it to them. You people are hypocrites, talking about the NIMBY, like that sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what's wrong with you? He said, Well, Allah, He I'm going to go tell the prophet. He wasn't going to

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tell the property to make fit. And then for that, he was going to tell them to be Salatu was Salam about the presence of the troublemakers in our ranks. These people Matthew King right here.

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So he went to toe

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and then when those people saw what happened, they went and they say, Yeah, Rasul Allah, we were just joking. We were just messing around. We were just, you know, trying to pass the time. We really didn't believe that, you know, just passing the time. He asked him the question a biller, he were it was also a con to him to study all the cut covered by the man he come through

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Cafaro come buddy, Manickam Do you people joke around with Allah, his iron His Messenger, don't offer any excuses disbelievers. So the point here they heard what happened and they went and they told him but they wasn't doing that in order to make fitna they were doing that to warn to warn a is a danger and Allah knows best so we're gonna stop here inshallah make preparations for salam from Asia in the event of Slotomania either was something Allah who was telling them about it then they

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