Abu Usamah At-Thahabi – Hadith #14 The Ground Floor is more CONVENIENT

Abu Usamah At-Thahabi
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of respect for personal friendships and not giving up on one's initiative until a certain point. They also emphasize the need to be aware of the presence of others and not give up on one's own initiative. The speakers also touch on the importance of acknowledging and not giving up on one's own initiative until a certain point.
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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim hamdulillah

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I'm doing kefir on what take you by Mubarak and feet?

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Why should the one that you now have in law who wants to last should he get?

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Why shadow Namo hum Medina do what are pseudo?

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A mabamba

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We're going to resume his Shalane the weekly Sunday class about the 40 Hadith that consists of two words from the Muscat of a Naboo

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after having the class suspended for quite a long period of time before Ramadan, and after Ramadan

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so today we come to a tremendous Hadith of the NIMBYs some Allah what He was sending them, which is a reoccurring theme, whether it's in our hobas or whether it's in our lessons, and inshallah and I went down

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that theme is going to come to you in this hadith.

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Today's Hadith has been collected by Imam Muslim and Imam acmin, and other than them, Rama to lolly.

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And it was an issue that's well known in the history books of Al Islam the occasion,

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Prophet sallallahu it was sending them me Hijra from Mecca to Medina.

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And when he arrived in Medina, the InSAR of an Medina while waiting for him with great anticipation as well as those people who perform Hijra from Mecca, and they arrived in Medina before him they couldn't wait until he came some love while he was sitting there.

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So when he finally appeared on his camera,

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everyone wanted him to get off of his camera and to be a guest of theirs. And he told the people leave the camera because the camera has been commanded. It's going to stop. Willa chooses for it to stop.

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And a camel stopped in front of the house of a tremendous companion, who was known by his Kuya Ibu. Are you even sorry? May Allah be pleased with them. Many people don't know his name, like Abu Huraira like Abu Varada fatty some of the companions are known only by the Hakuna like Imam Abu Hanifa some people are known by their Kuhnian Abu ubelong Saudi is one of those people. His name is Khalid Binya XID, a bin Khalifa.

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ln, sorry,

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he was from the tribe of Medina called Benny in a jar.

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And he's from the hazard side of the unsavoury

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and he was kin to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, from way, way, way, way back. He's a distant relative. So it only made sense. It was only hikma that the relative of the NABI SallAllahu. And he was sitting them would be the one who will be responsible for his hospitality. And this is a special quality of herbal au been in Saudi

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and that is he's Yomi companion who accepted the prophet as his guest Subhanallah while he was setting them when he was in Medina, no one else did that. So that's special from Allah. Another thing about mo au been on Saudi is like Abdur Rahman and Al may Allah be pleased with him. Abu A, you participated in all of the wars in LA SNAM. Better, oh, hood, Benny misspell it, all of that.

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So just like Abdur Rahman living off, he's one of those companions who is a giant amongst giants. But he's the only level of the tin promise Jana? No. But nonetheless, tremendous companion. And unfortunately, people have the total of Sophia. They make a lot of what I've had as a relates to Abu au and on Saudi Radi Allahu Anhu. And he's free from all of that. And you'll know Qiyamah he will free himself from them and what they do the same way. He's Cebu, Mariam Salawat, the lady was sent

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me money is going to free himself from Christians who lie on him.

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So I will I do but and Saudi took the profit inside some law when he was setting them and he was responsible for taking care of them. So then it'd be chose to be on the ground floor on the first floor, as opposed to being on the second floor, which will give you an idea that some of the Arabs doing that time just to have

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Have two floors, the prophets of Allah who it was setting them his homes consisted of one floor but I you but I'm sorry. His house had two floors. His free slave A flat is the one who narrated this hadith. So it could be understood that maybe I will I do but on Saudi had a little bit of money what I can Umbra Lisa Derek he didn't have money. Him and his wife shared one blanket in that house in have money but out of Florida consisted of two floors. You got all sulla which floor you want to

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stay on? I want to stay on the first floor. So that cause Apple Ayoub and his wife whom are you the beyond the second floor.

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Some time when buying an apple I do believe in Saudi from his Eman. He didn't feel comfortable being on top of the newbies, Allah Allah while he was setting up. He wasn't comfortable that he will be walking, making noise. And the Prophet can hear the squeak salon while he was setting them up on the floor.

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He didn't like it. Some narration said that something spilled a beer between him and his wife and it started dripping down on the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa sallam which made them more upset, more uncomfortable. Allah knows best about that portion of the narration. That's not in Sahih Muslim. The point is his Eman and his respect, made him uncomfortable. His heart.

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So the next day he came in, he said God Rasul Allah. I don't want to sleep upstairs anymore. I want you to go upstairs. He said, My wife and I, we were sleeping on the corner so that we wouldn't be over you. So we put the bed against the wall, and we slept with our backs against the wall. We didn't want to disturb you at all.

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So please come downstairs. It's easier. He said Come upstairs. It's easiest better. The Prophet said to him sallallahu alayhi wa sallam today's Hadith. He said as Sue flew out of UK as so flew out of Falco as SoFlo was from the word that means to be loan

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that Saphan the SAF he mean the person who was loan he said the ground for is more comfortable for me. The bar the ground for has more Rama for me more riff I prefer to stay on the ground floor. I don't want to go up here

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there's a hadith that the Prophet mentioned some Allah who it was selling them and can a human being now he will Yeoman out here. Well, you couldn't buy for anyone who believes in Alana last day let them be kind to his guests. And that's all I you and I'm sorry, was trying to do. He was trying to respect the newbie on the newbie, make things comfortable for the newbies level Allah while he was setting him in his own house, he's gonna give him whatever he preferred and whatever he wanted, he

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perceived the upper floor will be better out of respect.

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So when he heard that answer from the newbies from Allah who it was setting them up, who are you wasn't having me said, well, law he, I am not going to sleep anywhere where I'm above your head, it's not going to happen. And he didn't say that out of respect. He said that emphatically stating that he's going to respect the NABI SallAllahu, it was said to me, he can't allow himself to be above him like that.

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Some people have cultures like in Nigeria,

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the house of people, the Fulani people, the lady marries her husband, and from the culture they teach the girl never set above your husband. Not that it's haram. But that's the respect that the girl gives her husband or the Father. So usually in that culture, especially the people holding on to that culture, you will find that the women's chair are lower than the minutes check. As Muslims we don't apologize about that. Unfortunately, the celebrity Imams, the passion compassionate Imams,

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they are trying to please and appease non Muslims because as Muslims, we separate between men and women.

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We look at the husband with a special view. We look at the father with a special view. We're looking at elders with a special view and their understanding separating between men and women. This is backwards, this is oppressive. This is putting women down. So the compassionate Imams of today they are passing fatwas in America and other than in America, saying

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the footwear is in every Masjid. Men and women should be in this

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same home, and there should be no barrier between them.

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Now, I'm not getting off into what is the fifth of that issue, but I'm making the point. And the point is, the Arabs, they had a way of respecting people, Abu a human and Saudi cannot imagine his feet being above the head of the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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If you put your foot up towards an Arab, especially with your shoes on, he will feel your discipline, your defend him, disrespecting him, and then Iraq when that Iraqi man threw their shoe at the former president, although it didn't hit, the former president of the United States was responsible, like the prime minister of this country for killing over a million Muslims. Although that shoe didn't hit him, still, what he did by throwing the shoe and the culture of the Arabs is

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the ultimate disrespect.

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So we have to be sensitive to people's culture. I remember studying Medina, we had a young teacher, he wasn't that much older than us. Probably in his early 30s. We were in our mid and early 20s. It was a new teacher teaching Arabic. And I remember one brother from America was sitting there, and he had his legs crossed, and the teacher kept making a big deal. And we the brothers from America, and Britain was like, why is he tripping out? Why is he making a big deal going overboard, because in

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their culture, in their culture, you don't put your feet up to people like that. So that's what I will show you but inside he was coming from and we had that a lot from what happened with the companions. They looked at putting your foot on someone's face is the ultimate in disrespect. Putting a foot on someone's neck on his back. The ultimate disrespect to put your foot on someone to the Arabs was a bad thing. So he wasn't having it. So when the Prophet said from Allah while he was

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salam, the bottom floor is more comfortable for me. As Sophia, out of luck, I want to stay in the bottom. He said no, but Allah He I'm not going to stay on a roof that's over your head.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave in I mean, when upstairs Salah who it was said,

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why did the Prophet want to stay downstairs, and this is important.

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He wanted to stay downstairs because it's easier to be on the bottom floor. It's easier. You don't have to keep going up and keep going down so many times during the course of the day. Those of us who have steps, we make dua to Allah that He protects us from the danger of those steps. Come down to step go up to step with your new baby, it's easy to fall to trip down or going up easy. You don't even have to have your baby.

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Also, he's gonna get visitors who are going to come so if he's upstairs, visitors have to come to the house and go upstairs, disturbing Abul a cube and inside he and his family. Plus, if his wife is upstairs, she doesn't have to have her hijab on. If the Prophet went upstairs, his wife will be downstairs. So now his wife will always have to be in hijab. May Allah will Tada be pleased with all of them. But when the Prophet saw that the motif, the man who was giving him hospitality, was

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adamant about respecting him in this way. The Prophet wasn't roughing tough, he said, Okay, I'll go upstairs. SallAllahu it was setting him although his desire was as SoFlo out of UK, staying on the bottom is better.

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So from this hadith, you have to remember this. If you have a choice of staying upstairs or downstairs, staying downstairs in the downstairs room is better. Rasulullah liked the downstairs room better. Is it haram to go upstairs? No. But it's like the things that we do and we only do it because Rasul Allah did it so we do it. He loved it. So we love it like aroma to rub the Align who making too often kissing the Kaaba? And he said to that rock, because the Blackstone said, I know

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you can't help me and you can't harm me.

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But I saw the Prophet kiss you and because of that I'm kissing you. I'm not kissing you. I'm gonna make dua to you to help me with anything. You can't help me and you can't hurt me. But I saw the Prophet kiss you so I'm going to kiss you. So if you are a student, and you're going to do do shared accommodation, you get to first dibs, the first choice. Go upstairs or downstairs.

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Go downstairs. It's the Sunnah, but what if the room upstairs is two three times bigger than the room downstairs. Should you take the room downstairs that's you know, very restricted, constricted and it also has in it some other issues.

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When you say Abu Salah said stay downstairs and leave the I never told you that. I never told you that when I told you was all things considered, the prophet sunnah was doing what was easier. And that's when Annie Cebu nomadic said about him something Allahu Allah, you will send them my whole Euro Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Dana ambrane Ella Tara a surah Houma.

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This hadith is applied in many ways. He was never given a choice between two things, except he always chose the easier of the two. He has a choice going upstairs or downstairs. He's gonna go downstairs, and that's the Rama of his sunnah and how he was his personality, making things easy on himself and making things easy upon his Alma Salallahu Alaihe he was setting them so they switched Apple or YouTube and I'm sorry that he said his wife was cooking food and they would send it to the

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NABI SallAllahu. It would send them

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Rasul Allah would never eat all of the food, he would always eat and leave some of the food

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and mass because I will tell you, his family, they also want to eat, they also want to eat. So whenever the food would come to Abuja, yo, he will look for where the fingerprints of the Nebby ones, and he will make sure he put his fingers there and ate from that food. Another issue.

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When we were studying, and then Medina, it was the practice of the Arabs there, that a student who lived in our building would invite five of us there.

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And we will bite our wines, we will go inside, and we will sit and we will eat. After the men ate, we got up and we went into the other room to have tea. And then that's when the women come and eat from the food that we will eat it.

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But what they do is they put more rice on it more chicken or whatever. But you can see their chicken pieces that were eating. The women who were from America, they were like, What is this?

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They're disrespecting us? What if they couldn't get their heads around it? And understand that they could not understand that was like a straight up diss? How are they going to feed us food that other people have eaten. And some of those sisters who will kind of know Muslims? They used to say this is treating women like second class citizens. But this is their culture. That was their culture. They just come and put more rice on the food and asset. So Apple a human I'm sorry, we eat from where the

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Prophet sallallahu it was sending them His fingers were and then one day, he presented him with some food. And a fool came back and it wasn't touched. He was nervous. It meant something to him. Did he do something wrong? Did he do something that made the newbie upset? It meant something to him? SallAllahu it was sent him he hurried up yeah rasool Allah You didn't eat from the fool that that I do something wrong. He said no. But in the film in the food, there was garlic foam. And I don't like

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the food. I don't like garlic. He said, rub the Allahu Anhu because you don't like garlic. I don't like garlic any more Anita. Not that garlic is haram. And the meaning of garlic here is uncooked garlic. As for the garlic that's cooked, the onions that are cooked, the craft that is cooked. You can eat that stuff and come to the masjid because it's not going to be in your breath like it would be if it was raw. And that was just the way food was doing their time. That's how food was give you

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a raw onion, raw garlic and that was it. So the prophets of Allah why did Senator refused to eat it? Because he said to Abu iubat And sorry, I am visited by those who you're not visited by

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there are those who visit me who don't visit you Abu Aiyo meaning the melodica the mullah acre. So that's the Hadith of the NABI. sallallahu alayhi wa salam. And those words are from his Muscat of a Naboo

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as SoFlo or Falco. That's the narration for the Imam Muslim for Abu Saud. Al Imam Ahmed the narration is as SoFlo arpha Li is three words, being on the bottom is better for me. And saying Muslim, being on a bottom is better. Those two words easy Hadith. If you don't memorize the Hadith in Arabic, just remember the benefit of this hadith and the story of the Hadith

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But bottom is better is easier, it's more appropriate

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from the benefits of this hadith and there are many benefits the top of the list. The hadith clearly shows the virtues of Abu are you at in Saudi from many angles. He's a number one of those tremendous companions from many angles. The fact that Allahu Taala caused his camel to stop and he's going to be the host of the NABI SallAllahu, it was setting them to see the bene Adam. There was never a guest better than that SallAllahu it was sent and that's from his virtues. He was Mustafa, Allah

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divinely chose him to be the only one who will be able to say that from those companions, Rugeley Allah and who, as you mean, as well as from his virtues is the way he dealt with the NIMBY in this hadith.

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And this is the way we should deal with people who have position and rank with us, like our mothers, our fathers, the elders, from our community, grandmother, grandfather, the earner mind when they come here, you get an opportunity to really be a rounded person who's really blessed with knowledge, and he's really teaching and so forth and so on. We should treat them like that. We should pick them up. And I've seen some people do it, where it didn't come across as being manufactured. But I know

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in our culture here because we don't see this we don't do this. We don't act like that level of respect with people. You have people who are yes men, which is yes, men, whatever the person says yes, yes, yes, yes. But behind his back we don't really feel him like that.

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But I do but on Saudi showed the level of respect that they used to have for the NABI SallAllahu, it was setting up and that the Muslim should have for his guests as well. He was begging him up. Are you okay? You want something? Are you cold, you have

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always been ready to give them Goodman and not not holding back. Anything from making that individual as comfortable as possible. Opening the door form, making things as easy as possible for the people of knowledge. And I'm not talking about this die. I'm not talking about this person who's given a cuppa. I'm talking about the real real amount of Ellis SNAM who deserve our love our honor, our reference our respect, and it's not corny, and it's not Gulu will say today, if someone was like

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that, you want this? Are you okay? What will say why does he go overboard? Why is your boy we're going to come back to that inshallah. Another way This shows the virtues of YouTube and Ansari is that there are a number of I get where Allah makes me die and he calls out to those who believe. And he's challenging the people to have a high level of edit with the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa salam and never never annoy him, meaning I act, the one who does it, even from amongst us, in society as

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respect, the one who doesn't do it. It's a sign who doesn't have respect, and he can scream as loud as you want. Then he's a Muslim, that he said if he but he's on the Sunnah, that he loves Allah and His Messenger

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meaning I act and descriptions, I will I your job, and I'm Saudi, they all apply to him. And the way he dealt with the Nubian this particular incident sallallahu alayhi wa Ana it was sent from them, as well. Allahu Taala mentioned Yeah, you had really been

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lied to Tolu Butan Biggie ilang new than Allah Khun, O you believe, do not enter into the homes of the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa sallam except if he gave you permission, don't come and just open up his door. Only if he gave you permission. And then Allah went on to say when you come if he invites you for full you come you come. But Allah said don't sit around just waiting wasting his time. You come too early, and you just sit around kicking the willie Bobo hanging out. He doesn't have time to

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waste like that. He doesn't have time to waste like that. Well, I'm Stephanie Cena. I love mentioned in the Quran, while I live Mr. Messina the Hadith. And Nevada commute the newbie for your stack human Billa hula you're stuck in the middle hop. Don't come and sit around and just waste his time. And you're just filled with them.

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Waiting for the fool to get done. Allah says that annoys the newbie. But he'll be shy to tell you he won't tell you. Hey, you're heavy on me man. Can you come

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Back. Lena is not going to tell you that. But Allah is not shy to tell you a truth. So something as small as that etiquette of not wasting his time like that. So I, the chef comes, I have a plethora of problems, catalog of issues, marital issues, my mother, my father, my job, all of that. And when I come to this ship right away, I get into all of the problems in my life.

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And that happens all the time.

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Just all the problems of my life. No, you have to be able to read the room. Chef came from a long distance, he looks tired. He's about to give a lecture. He just finished a lecture. He wants to get off the podium, the ghosts, everybody wants to stop them to tell them about the problems of his life.

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Now your issue is important it is. But ask Allah Allahu Taala to make a way for you, other than stopping him from this podium to the door where everybody's doing that.

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That's just not a cool thing to do. And it happens all the time. Sheikh gives a talk from Serato Fraser for two and a half hours after you finish them. You have to do two three more days. He wants to escape leave, people won't let him

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now if two people want to give him some times and give him love and give him a book or give no no problem, but there are people who are stopping him who wants to they want to know about all of the problems of their life. Yeah, you will live in an all nighter Kunal Colombina either will Musa for Bara hula hula mimma Carlo were canon Allah he will jihad. Oh you believe I you but I'm sorry. Don't be like those people from vinius Raw eel who annoyed Musa a bunch of questions giving him a hard

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time being hard headed, disagreeing with him saying bad things about him. Don't be like those people.

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And Allah freedoms from what they accused them of. And Musa was a very good religious person with Allah so there are a lot of is like that. Oh, you believe? Don't raise your voice above the voice of the Nibi Oh, you believe don't put yourselves before the Nebby that was a YouTube and I'm sorry. That was how he was. That's why he acted like that in his own house.

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And he knows that the Prophet mentors Allah Allah while he was telling them that a man's house is his castle, and the man is the Sultan in that castle. And no one should be allowed to leave the salon and another man's house unless he allowed it. I bought a you been in Saudi gave the NIMBYs some Allah who it was sending them the full range freedom of movement in his house to make him comfortable. sallallahu alayhi wa It was similar. The other thing we want to mention is 20. In that

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regard, is this issue about Ebola you and I'm sorry and respecting the Nibi. Prophet Muhammad told us sitting here Sallalahu it was setting them in the edge land in Lehi to Allah a crummy the shaver to Muslim well hymen, Quran Rouhani if he will, Al Jaffe I know what a crummy a so far and mock setup.

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From a person's respect to Allah, a person having Iman and belief and love and fear of Allah, reverence for Allah. One of the manifestations of that is when you see that person respecting an elderly person in Islam, if he respects the elderly, it's a sign that he has reverence for Allah fie of Allah. Number two, whenever you see someone who has memorized the Quran, and that person is working by the Quran, he doesn't go overboard or under bored with it, because he is a memorize of

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the Quran. A person deals with them like that with respect, like Zika Allah or any of the brothers in this community who have memorized that. The book of Allah. There's a brother from Libya, Abu Sama, from the jaziri Institute. I don't know if that's still there. My brother knows the Quran, along with that other brother from Somalia from Mr. de rana. I think they call them Abu Tajweed. Abdul Rahman, those brothers I don't see them around anymore. Anyone who knows a half of the Quran,

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he deserves our respect and we shouldn't deal with them anyway. Even if individuals not from our Maslak.

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He has the book of Allah. The third characteristic is from respected Allah had reverence and fee of Allah is respecting a leader who is just

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There's a ruler leader, he's just so we respect them. So all three of those superlatives and adjectives they will with the NABI SallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam, as it relates to Abu Aiyoo. He was older, he SallAllahu, it will certainly have the book of Allah, and he's a just leader. And that's why you was dealing with him like that. He's the envy of Al Islam, sallallahu alayhi wa Ana, it was Senator,

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in addition to that, a 20, from what can be mentioned, and should be mentioned.

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And this is important,

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is the flip side that will help you to understand how far to go or not to go and respect in the share. Now, we have to respect the people of our religion, but not to the degree to the degree where you suspend your intellect. And you can clearly see this is a chef who I know, is a problem.

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And I'm not going to cause my mind to go to sleep. And I'm going to lie to myself, when I clearly saw and I know what the chef did of the way of fitness and drama and Mushtaq and

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so some of us go overboard, because it's She doesn't deserve that. He doesn't deserve to be treated the way people would treat him as if everything he says is revelation from Allah. And all people have to do is say that Sheikh said this, and people get scared. No, I saw too many things. I know too many things. When we respect gamma, listen to this. We respect them the way Apple a human and Saudi did when one thing is there, and another thing is absent. When there is no aesthetic love, the

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sheikh has not taken advantage of us.

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Shake has not taken advantage of us. Shake comes from somewhere. And he's always asking me take me to a chiropractor, and I gotta pay for it. Take me to a dentist, I want to get three implants, I gotta pay for it. Take me here to a chef. Hey, Chef, what's the deal?

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I'm not here to pay for all of that. And that's all he does.

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I'm not trying to say any chef AMI, he did this did that. But you have to keep your eyes open. Don't let people take advantage of you, no matter who they happen to be. So we raised a shake up with a lot of respect. When we see we're not being taken advantage of. And number two, when from our side, we're not making esteana We're not putting ourselves down. We're not putting ourselves down.

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venerating the sheikh so much to the degree that we do things that are not acceptable religiously, like saving his bath water to drink it. What are you talking about? Who's going to do that?

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I'm not even going to know Sheikh I know. Am I going to eat from his food? And Imam and no we Rahim Allahu taala. who explained this hadith. He said the fact that the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to leave food is a sign that it is highly recommended that if a person has prestige and a position that he should leave stuff, so that the people can eat from that so that they could feel made to feel good. I'm not doing that.

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I'm not eating lapped anybody, and I'm not drinking that anybody other than my wife and my children. That's it.

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If you want to do that, you can do that. You can do that. But I'm not doing that.

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Don't let anybody take advantage of you, anybody. The Sheikh wants to marry into your family. You check out the shakes, history, whatever the case is. The chef wants to borrow money you don't have the money you don't have to give it to him. Never feel obliged like that. But at the same time, don't be one of those people. You have Sue oven about the sheer you have. So oven. So look what made it easy for Abu IU Berlin Saudi to be like that with the Nabhi and the rest of those campaigns.

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Well, maybe VZ is looking at how the prophets of Allah while he was sending them, look how he dealt with i Yo he could have easily told you I told you I want to stay on the bottom.

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But he didn't. That's what he wanted to do for himself as well as for Abu Are you but when he saw you wasn't having him and he wasn't comfortable. And his existence Rasul allah sallallahu Sallam agreed, and that goes to show it has to be a level of give and take in our interpersonal relationships. The dunya can't always run just on the way we want and our desires. The Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will pull and he will let it go. He will let it pull and he will let it

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go. He said okay, I'll go upstairs.

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So if the students, the community, if they see that the shake is treating us nicely like that, we'll be more apt to respect them. Where the chef has tough rough. When we ask them questions, he chop our heads off. And you say things like, you asking a dumb question like that.

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We afraid that's to shake a question.

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And well, like I was in the community at one time two years ago, with the man who had the people afraid of him, afraid of him.

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And they will respect them. But the respect had me fuck me. It was a respect of fear. No, we have no trouble. Low no to have faith, we have no nothing holding us back to respect shanks. Even more than what we normally would do. I'm not into kissing and I don't want nobody kissing me, except my wife and my kids. That's it. So when the chef comes, I don't kiss the chef.

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I don't kiss the chef. I see some brothers, mashallah they kiss the ship, am I gonna say?

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I'm not gonna say that. That's what he wants to do. That's what the sheikh has used to where he comes from, that you kiss him on his head. But I'm not doing that. But I will try to respect them to the best of my ability. My point is, do don't be hesitant, if you want to kiss him like that you kiss him. But always remember what I told you never, ever, ever sell your Iza in your shop, and your jeweler, your manlihood for anybody. It's not our religion. And none of the companions did that.

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None of them came and it was requested from them, sell your manhood. None of them. Leave your wife with the kadhi the rocky they share so he can read the Quran over your shit over your wife by himself. Let your wife sit with the shit so that she could tell him her side of the story and you're not there. What shikshan Ask those kinds of questions plus, make that kind of request. From the benefits of this tremendous Hadith of the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa ala it was sending them it

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clearly shows the Prophet sallallahu I mean, he was sending them dislike for raw onions and raw garlic and raw Kirov that's that long. I think they call them spring onions I think you know what I'm talking about the long one like that. He didn't like eating them raw although they are permissible there's a point that Imam and no we made that I want to make here when he talks about true love and it's important.

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And the man no we when Abu Are you been in Saudi said, since you don't like it, I don't like it as well. I'm not going to eat it as well. And remember no we said from the benefit of this incident this issue is the definition of true love. He said Rahmatullahi la he old Soph

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Alamo head balsamic and you have my hub, my booboo way and yet Keira, my carry her from the sign that a person really has true love for someone from the signs of that is that that person loves what that person who he claims to love. He loves what they love, and he dislikes what they dislike. That doesn't mean the favorite color for me, it's purple. So my wife has to like, purple doesn't mean that. But what it means is, if we truly love someone, then we should do those things that we know

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they're pleased with. And we should avoid those things that they don't like. So if a man's wife doesn't like him doing something, then if he really loves her, don't do that. If you really love your mother and your father, then don't do those things that make them upset with you. They are those people who like to wind people up we know they don't like this and people don't like that for an example. She's ticklish so doing like this to her and she hates it with a passion but the person

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keeps doing it no if you love the person don't do to them that which they dislike

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love peace of mind for them those things that they love for themselves. When Abu iubat A Saudi said well because you don't like it, I don't like it as well. So the one who really loves someone like in the case of the NABI SallAllahu. It was setting them as Allahu Taala mentioning come to him to hipbone Allah, to be your only your biblical Mala. If you truly love Allah, then follow me sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and Allah will follow you. Wrapping it up very quickly from this hadith

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and is as important as the input

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which is of having respect for the melodica

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and being cognizant of the presence

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because when abuse of Allah what He was selling one eat, he wouldn't eat because the melodica he said an authentic ID that the melodica are annoyed and bothered by the same things Benny Adam is bothered by so the melodica they don't like offensive smells. They don't like smells just like Benny Adam doesn't like. So those things that human beings don't like we're sitting and someone passes when a crumble Kamala and he passes when, right in the middle of the Mejlis he passes when right

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there. Everyone's gonna say who did that? What's going on? Why would you do that? Now if it just slipped out? No problem, but we're talking about the one who doesn't on purpose. That's bad a dip?

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So are we saying you can't pass gas and via Mullah? No, I'm not saying that. But you have to be aware of being around them and that it can then be in around you. There's a hadith it's not authentic. So you gotta know it's not authentic. is said that the Prophet said something Allahu Allah he was sending them a Yakumo er come with the artery. Er come what the RA be way of walking around naked for in the mind command now you try to come because they are those with you who never

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are away from you. That hadith is not authentic but it's true. shouldn't walk around your house naked.

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Some people take this week Hadith and they believe they can't take the clothes off when they going to have relationships and that's not true. But sulla took his clothes off Salah Why do you send them Yeah, pick up also, you go to sleep without your clothes on. But is that the best thing to do? It's not the best thing to do. We have to edit around bowls melodica. Even as it relates to some of the things people get up to where the eyes of the human beings are not on him, but the melodica are

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looking. So the person has to have some height and have some level of modesty and respect and shame in front of Allah Tamas. melodica because the Prophet taught us that sallallahu alayhi wa sallam making something that's halal, making it macro and himself for those melodica like in the beginning of Islam, it was permissible for person to drink at the salon, don't drink during the time during the day until after Isha. Now you can drink and then it was finally made haram.

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So that's something that's haram and dirty and evil that became haram later on. But because of his hope, because of the way it was because of the way that people were, they were allowed to do it at the end of the day, but they held back until

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the slots were gone. But suit allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam held back from eating those things that are halal, and from the piggy back out of respect for them in Africa.

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Last two things one or the last one is that one of the main messages from this hadith is gentleness.

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right because he said the lower one is out of out of means ref ref to be gentle Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu it was sent to my camera ref V che in a lezana gentleness was never put inside of something, except that it made it beautiful.

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It arrived Allahu Taala be Adly bathe in Farah,

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for the law whom Allah Babel ref. If Allah wants good for a person's house, the angle bait, if he wants good, Allah will guide them to the door of gentleness of how to deal with each other. Now looking at this audience, and you guys look at me, and we all gonna have misunderstandings with people, not homes, the husband, the wife, the wife and the husband, the father and the kids, the mother and the kids, the father and the stepkids, the mother and the step kids. And sometimes when

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those things happen, we raise our voices, and we're rough and we're tough, and we curse and we go off and lose our minds. Everybody here has witnessed that and Allah knows best.

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Father in the house, dealing with these kids, Generation Z is not easy.

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They are the generation that doesn't say thank you. They're the generation that says Me, myself and I, they're the generation that can't pull their own weight. They're the generation where you think that they had an about me.

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You don't have to abandon me is so you will get some of your brain cut out. And you have to keep telling your kid over and over

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Given the same thing, but same thing, why do I have to keep telling you the same thing? When When are we going to see that day when you on your own take the own initiative to do that simple, easy chore.

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So it's very easy for us to express ourselves to our mothers to our fathers husband, wives to one another, in an aggressive, nasty way. But a riff, a gentleness is put in something, it's going to make it easier. I met my wife, my, my wife is mad at me. I could just leave the restroom and come to the mat come to the I can leave my house, come to the masjid

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and go back and doable. But a riff just go to her and give a kiss on her head. It's gonna work.

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It's just give a kiss on her head. She didn't expect it. Because she was expecting you to be mad. And she's gonna stay mad at you waiting for her to say I'm sorry you waiting for? You just go back. So I'm sorry. Because I say thank you very much. And then when you go back after the class, she's going to be waiting for you with tea and stuff like that. And, and it's going to be easy. But that thing about?

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Who does she think she is?

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So you young brothers, I'm telling you, even if you are mad, you're angry and you're upset, and you're bowling. Really you are, trust me, trust me. You have to put your mack daddy game down. I have to tell you guys mack daddy who he is.

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I don't have to tell you who my daddy is right? You want to marry brothers. That's when you know how to do things to cool your wife out. And she has to know that as well. Just so always remember, I'm sorry and give a kiss. Buy a gift and make a happy. But don't hold on to that thing. And that's why the Prophet mentioned some of the law who it would send them the best woman is the one who her husband makes her upset. But at the end of the day, she comes next to him, puts her hand in his hand

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and says to him, I'm not gonna go to sleep. I can't go to sleep until you're happy with me. And he messed it up. He messed it up. He was the one who was the culprit. He was she's the victim. But she's having a son. I'm telling you. Don't be one of those people is my way or the highway. It's always my way to highway. You have to apologize to me. You did wrong. You didn't listen to me. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to you LM Sorry. Okay, I'll go upstairs. Although, as SoFlo

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arpha I'd rather be downstairs that's what I want.

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So take it easy with people that Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa salam Allah Ha, you hit brief. Phil Emery Kali, Allah loves it. That You Are we are gentle in all of the affairs at ref. That's one of the main if not the main message from this hadith. As soon as, as as soon as SoFlo or can be a sifu as well. As so flew. arpha being downstairs is more gentler. It's more comfortable is better for me. Given a choice up or down right or left, hot or cold. Whatever is the easiest. What

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do you want to have for breakfast today? Honey? What do you want to have for breakfast today? Whatever is easy for you.

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Whatever is easy for you.

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That's how the Prophet was sallallahu alayhi wa Taala it was set up okay when he was going to stop right here in sha Allah Who Tiana and we are not going to take any questions because I have to get out here and get to sandwich before these people close. Hi. That was sulla who was suddenly robotic and then the beginner what it was hobby of mine. I see a lot of new faces I haven't seen in a long time. My brother right here Good to see you my man

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Hello We

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either we are do his leg he was walking with three legs. He had an extra leg now he's on to his brother got three legs now. Should have some idea what's going on with you guys. Anyway, welcome back. We're going to stay on top of being consistent with these classes Shala until we get through the book How

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